Regardless of what car you have keep it clean inside and out

A handsome smile is a high status symbol. If I had to choose between a luxury watch or healthy looking teeth, I'd choose the latter.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

On a woman - I would certainly agree!

@poloman888

Ай бұрын

Why not both?

I struggle with the overt materialism of some of this as it seems to be about social-climbing and therefore ultimately self-interest. But should a chap be driven by such things? Rather than honing-in on the seemingly most successful, gregarious and richest people in the room, as a chap i prefer to be aware of the shy, the lost, those that don't seem to fit, and bring them in to my circle. They're often far more interesting people and being kind and open to them is the "chap" thing to do. More focus on people and less focus on following the money makes the world a kinder and more chappish place.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

I agree - in this video I chose of focus upon personal development and improvement, but your point is eminently more decent. A good chap should indeed use his powers of humanity to improve the lot of others. But occasionally, they can be used for personal betterment.

@TheWeardale1

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, I treat people the way they treat me, and now how they dress...very shallow mindset if you ask me... but still you learn something new everyday

@stateofflow2174

3 жыл бұрын

Spoken like a real Chap !

@pauljackson7490

3 жыл бұрын

Well said James.

@pauljackson7490

3 жыл бұрын

Well said.

Years ago I talked to a private investigator who said the first thing you look at when meeting somebody is their shoes!

@davesmythe2056

2 жыл бұрын

A PI, out of all ppl, should not be be making snap assumptions or judgements based on a shiny shoe. Just saying....

Very sound advice. Thankfully I am retired now, so I choose the most eccentric character to talk too rather than the richest. Other worthy attributes include: a grasp of basic punctuation, mental arithmetic and the ability to wear a hat with confidence. Thank you.

An old employer of my when teaching me the ins and outs of sales said always look at their shoes. My Father tought me to keep shoes shined always wear a belt always keep your shirt tucked in and always act like a gentleman. These things were passed on by example not verbally. Good advice Ash. Cheers Ron

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Shoes are the window of a chap's character - I've based many decisions on this sentence!

@davealincoln

Жыл бұрын

I disagree on the belt. Truly well dressed people will have trousers that fit thus will not wear a belt or they wear braces.

@RyanPatrickOwens

Жыл бұрын

Interesting. I rarely, if ever, wear a belt.

@eleveneleven572

Жыл бұрын

You can wear scruffy clothes but polished quality shoes will carry it off. BUT.... you can wear a Saville Row suit but if your shoes are cheap and scruffy you'll look terrible.

What I love about the VW Golf, even a brand new one doesn't look out of place, or attract too much attention (especially in a conservative colour, Dark Blue, Grey, White etc)) if parked in a rough area or a 10+ year old one parked in the drive way of a millionaires mansion. They tend to elevate class when needed, and tone it down when needed. I know that sounds insulting, but there is a massive compliment in there somewhere. It's just one of those cars that transcend class barriers.

@JP_TaVeryMuch

4 ай бұрын

You're not wrong. My racy aunt lived on the Channel Islands and therefore had a soft top motor. Being racy, she treated herself to a Golf CTI. She was over here on the mainland and came to pick me up from sixth form and do some shopping. Finding the car outside the main gates, I hopped in. The driver's side. Cue hated Maths master walking by. Wow, you've gone up in the world! Even old and dusty, it still evokes class.

I'm so pleased to have stumbled onto this fabulous channel. I'm English but had left my homeland many years ago, but have always maintained a strong dedicated pride in this amazing country of my birth and heritage. To truly be an ambassador for England, I feel it's important to be the very best Englishman that I can possibly be, and Ashes presentations and advice are literally a bible to the way I wish to live. Every thing Ash says I'm 100% in agreance with and always look forward to the next video. Fantastic work Ash I think of you as a distant mentor guiding my journey. Please keep this tradition alive and relevant, because England so desperately needs classic, quality people of you standard. Thank you most respectfully.

""...the strength of your character and the warmth of your heart." A well-said summation of the Chap's Guide. Thank you Ash!

@TheChapsGuide

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

Hello...Great advice and suggestions. Love the coat and scarf. Growing up with my grandma, she always made sure my shoes were shined and my clothes ironed. It’s become a habit for me and one that I’m passing on to my kids. Thank you for the video.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

I completely agree with you that dressing well can boost one’s confidence and lead to better communication and more positive interactions with others. It’s a win-win situation for everyone involved!

Great video Ash, always a pleasure to watch. Keep up the great work.

I have always picked a car that others don't notice. I had a VW and a Volvo when they were stylish but not favoured by yobs; now I have a Honda - again, a reliable practical vehicle but reasonably priced and one that doesn't shout.

Great video with sound advice. People who smile (with their whole face, not just the mouth in a grimace) are remembered, and often commented on. I especially liked your last point, the company you keep. Indeed, so it is.

This was superb, your delivery is getting better and better. Best Video yet

Thanks for the tips, Ash! This channel has taken me to places I surely would not have reached otherwise.

@TheChapsGuide

2 жыл бұрын

Delighted to have been of assistance

Fitness before fashion The better shape you’re in the better the clothes you wear are going to look

Excellent advice Ash. Though: I haven't had occasion to don a suit in over a year now (I work in a workshop) I drive a 30 year old ex-MoD Land Rover. I wear a functional watch. My phone screen is cracked. Shaking hands is currently a "no no" I have a head of facility who likes to get "lagered" up, I have resisted invitations to go on management nights out. That said: I'm in good shape. I carry myself well. I can shine shoes.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Sir - you exhibit all the traits of chapdom regardless of the circumstances you labour under. As much as anything, being a chap is a state of mind as much as any physical things. I salute you.

Great and valuable information 🙏🏻 Thank you 👌🏻

Spectacular look! Astounding first impression! Bravo!

Excellent advice as always, Ash. I agree with what you say here about the cut of one's suit, the quality of one's shoes and watch, and the make of car that one drives. More important, I believe, and these things are totally independent of one's income, are the way one listens and asks questions when talking with others, one's general demeanor and adherence to basic rules of etiquette, and perhaps crucially, the company one chooses to keep. Rightly or wrongly, people will judge you by your peers.

Very well delivered Ash, you are an excellent speaker. May I add to your 8 status symbols that make an instant positive impression on me. What we called in the Army “Good Turnout”. The collar and tie, indicate a pride in appearance and smart positive image above all and everything else you mention flows naturally. Along with that, Personal Grooming ; Hair - neat, tidy, freshly combed and neatly trimmed in natural colour and Beard - preferably freshly clean shaven regardless of time of day. Add a pleasant fragrance of a quality cologne. These are all topics I know you have covered previously and they are my personal instant image indicators.

@Greg23032

Жыл бұрын

Sorry but my granddaughter has hijacked my account

Just ran across your channel today. Subscribed immediately. Excellent points, very well thought out, concise. Bravo-

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks and welcome

Great advice once again!

Loving these tips, slowly working through your vlogs.

Another winner great stuff Ash.

No gainsaying many of the points here. But I think there are also limits to just how much of a book we can read from its cover. I remember something one of my teachers always used to say: "you don't judge a person by how they look but what they can do". I've generally found this to be true. It's no good somebody _looking_ like a so-called 'alpha male' if they are actually unreliable, dishonest, incompetent, etc. Occasionally people can be all facade... BTW this guy was quite remarkable as teachers go: as well as having a Maths degree he was an ex Royal Marine. In hindsight I rather suspect (although he never hinted as much) that he was ex-SAS too. They don't make 'em like it any more, I think.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, being a good chap is vastly more complex than the things you wear, etc. As I have said, I don't want to sound too shallow when making these vids, but you can only draw conclusions from what you can see and interpreting these subtle prompts can be the beginning of understanding more about the person/s in front of you. Its a starting point opposed to a judgement point. Some of the scruffiest folks I have met have also been some of the most classy.

Thank you for another great video, sir. In my opinion, I will also include the way somebody speaks: vocabulary, accent, tone... I always found this very interesting and revealing.

I have a 1971 vw bus ( transporter). I wear a Seiko SP151 ( Capt Willard watch) with an " uncle seiko 1970s divers watch strap. I'm not one for jewellery, or tatoos, I like simple but good quality clothes. When I go camping i use Snow Peak camping gear, and Pendleton blankets and the best gear I can offord. This speakes volumes for the kind of person I am and my personal values and style. How a man carries himself, how he dresses says a lot. Keep up the superb content Ash. 👍

A firm handshake is good advice. I recently shook hands with a fellow and it felt like a briefly took hold of a wet clump of spaghetti. An infant would have a firmer handshake than that fellow.

Danke Mr. Ash. Ihre Videos sind super. Thank you Mr. Ash. Your tutorials are great.

@TheChapsGuide

8 ай бұрын

Glad you like them!

Quality lasts. My John Lobbs, Barbour jacket, Harris tweeds, Cartier Tank, Mercedes are all over 20 years old and going strong. Considering their age (with lots of trouble free use) they weren’t really ‘expensive’.

Excellent insight

Just found your channel today.. Love your content I feel your consistency will eventually pay off and reach mainstream popularity soon Cheers

As you said fit is everything no matter how much your clothes cost. I think get good shoes and keep them in good condition, great video ash

It’s really great that you’re leading men 👏

I know that the subject here is status symbols. But the truth is that when I want to judge the quality of a man, I look at how he treats the woman in his life, his children, and his pets. If he is single, over the age of 30, with no children or pets, or paying child support (or not), this is not a good sign, no matter how his clothes fit or the watch he wears. But if everyone he is responsible for looks happy and relaxed around him, his children are well-behaved but not intimidated, well cared for, and doing well in school, this means everything. A bad man with a great watch or car is still a bad man.

Thank you! "Look sharp and stay stylish" Today's reminder was: your company in business context spills over on you.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

Hi, Nice video. I look at people and their clothes, cars and shoes, and how they've taken care of them. I don't judge people by how expensive or inexpensive the things they own are, but how well they're taken care of. I would have a good impression on a middle class man who rides a polished and we'll maintained motorcycle than a very wealthy person driving a dusty Bentley. 😊 Old and well preserved clothes speak volumes about the character of the person. A person who is using a 6 year old iPhone comes across as a man who is conscious of money and thrifty. That's a positive trait to me. 😊

You forgot to mention how well people shave and generally look after their skin, hands and nails! A perfectly dressed man, shiny shoes with a nice Rolex on their wrist will spoil that look with bitten dirty nails. Specks of tissue paper on their face after shaving badly is also a bad look, and BO of course. How you smell is also very important.

Great advice! - Since Northampton-made shoes have entered my home, I've also been looking at the shoes of the fellow man in the street (or on the tube). A common occurrence - quite surprisingly - is cheap and badly kept footwear paired with a good suit. A useful point to think about here is the cost per wear. Buying that £50 pair of shoes every year will work out more expensive than buying a good pair that can be re-soled. Ideally one has several pairs to rotate as shoes and boots should have a 24h rest on shoe trees between wears so they can dry out properly.

Excellent! If you cannot impress with your knowledge, your articulateness, or your vocabulary, then by all means try clothes instead. This will work well if you are dealing with vacuous, shallow people for whom style is more important than thought.

on these criteria, i am well and truly bugged lol

In my native language it is all summed up by 'Noblesse Oblige' ! Well done sir .

Ever Since I was a Youngster and seen "The Equalizer" TV Show. I Feel in Love with The Looks of The Jaguar XJ6 in British Racing Green. I think it is sporty whilst being a 4 door sedan with Practicality. However the drivetrain in the 80's XJ6 Range was Lack Luster. So it is Possible to Drop a Chevy 350 V-8 in the XJ6 .

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

What a classic - the XJ6 in BRG

I have a casio edifice with a black leather strap; I thought it would give me a classy look🤦‍♂️.

First Like and Comment

so advice 1 , be rich ,

I d add eloquence. It tells a lot about who you are and where you have come from.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Nothing speaks louder about a chap than his manners!

Great video, thank you. Is that a university scarf you’re wearing? Very smart!

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Not a uni scarf - Joules from a good few years ago.

Another indicator is a person's cleanliness and a neatly cut hair style.

Great video as always Ash, where did you buy that fantastic scarf from? Greetings from Switzerland, Jonas

@TheChapsGuide

Жыл бұрын

Sadly I don’t recall. It’s a long-standing member of my collection.

This is not 1 thumb up but 10. Thank you for this. I drive a small economical hybrid car as for me one who drives a German luxury car (BMW Audi Mercedes Porsche) or an expensive sports car(lamborghini Ferrari) is a sign of bragging and arrogance (although I love classics like the old Jaguar in dark green the MG race car the Bently the old Mercedes 200... Classics Elegance ) I would like to get to the suggestion I had with proper manners and etiquette to master in order to be always welcomed and accepted (politeness is covered here).

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

You have hit the nail on the head - ostentatious displays of wealth do not make a gentlemen!

There are two sides to this. How people interpret myself and how I interpret people. Firstly, I generally dress for myself, dressing in the things I like to wear. How a person dresses doesn't cause me to make valued judgements about them. When I've gone to meetings in the past what people wear soon becomes irrelevant and the important matters at hand come to the fore very quickly.

The horse in the back is listening closely.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

She's my biggest fan!

I've worked for some extremely wealthy people and seen some the old bangers they drive. I remember one fella had a front line villa on the golf course in Nueva Andalucia, Puerto Banus and another property that I knew of in Madrid. He drove around in old banged up Peugeot. One night he had has buddies come down from Madrid and it was like the mafia had strolled in. Bentley, Porches, top of the range Mercs. The lesson I learned was never judge a man by the car he drives.

@maskedavenger2578

Жыл бұрын

I can relate to that . Back a couple of decades I had a very wealthy client a multimillionaire . His favourite car to use & drive about at the time was a diesel Vauxhall Vector . When I asked him why ,when he had high end motors he could drive . He said it was ideal for his purpose & cheaper on the juice & more reliable than his Ferraris & other motors . The same chap dressed in shirts,slacks , ties & cardigans bought from M&S & British home stores ,& sourced budget shoes from high street shoe market stores . The only outward sign that he might have a few bob ,was a genuine Rolex watch & substantial wedding ring ,that his wife had given him . Convincing him to open his wallet & watch the moths fly out & spend much needed maintenance & upgrades on his properties & other interests here & abroad was hard work. It all goes to prove you can’t judge peoples status by what vehicle they are seen driving or what attire & footwear they are wearing. This multimillionaire wasn’t the only example ,I have also seen similar other examples of the breed at various times along the way .

Many people today in the West states are poor or middle class. But suites are important for special events.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Every gentleman should keep a suit in the wardrobe for a special occasion

A Handkerchief . It is always a Good Idea to carry a Handkerchief . Even when not seen by others. What I mean by this isa lady has a spill or gets bad news.. You have a Clean Lien Handkerchief to hand them. What does this portray or say about you? I think it shows that you are there for them and perception of filling there needs .etc.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

A good quality hank should always be close to hand.

Do you have tips on were i could get these burgundy gloves i'm not really finding these type of colors its usually brown or black i would really appreciate it!

@TheChapsGuide

Жыл бұрын

Southcombe gloves is my glover. Superb

I agree witv you, but where is that 80% statistic from?

I only ride the finest of buses

👍😊

Hello Ash, Certainly an interesting video, all good advice as always. Are you guilty of giving away trade secrets, perhaps, but with the best of intentions. Interesting at time of writing, six people didn't like it. One wonders why. Too material, too revealing, prehaps even too pretentious ? Well welcome to the world of adults. Not everyone got the memo, not everyone knows the password. Nothing wrong in shining a little light on things that need to be highlighted.

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Oh well, there are always the naysayers. It's all intended in good spirits.

One more point: Do not stand with your arms crossed in front of you. That posture is very defensive and sends the message that no one should come close to you. Arms down and relax!

I judge people on what they say and how they act, not by what shirt they are wearing, whether they have a strip of silk around their neck, or what car they drive. So ridiculously shallow.

I am curious what would you assume about someone who wears nicely designed micro brand watches?

@TheChapsGuide

Жыл бұрын

I have a few micro brand pieces and I wear them very often. They suggest that the wearer has style, but is not inclined to be a follower of fashion, he sets standards himself and wears a watch that appeals to him, regardless of the current trends.

I have never, ever understood why the shoes are so important? Don’t get me wrong. I get the value of good and polished shoes. But why is it more important then say, the condition of the jacket. Or the tie, pocket square, haircut/hat? Why is it that men are trained to look at another man’s shoes to tell “what kind of person your dealing with”? Is it a work ethic thing? Attention to detail thing? An honest thing?? Someone please enlighten me on this point. Thank you and God bless!

@TheChapsGuide

Жыл бұрын

A good question but with no obvious answer. Perhaps it is because the lack of apparent care or interest in one's shoes is so obvious that it signals something of the character of the wearer that we find the quality and care of footwear so revealing. It works for me!

1:15 "Cue the horse."

I'm drawing the conclusion that ebonics isn't necessarily the best method of introduction for initial social- or business contact.

@George-vf7ss

Жыл бұрын

Depends on what you're selling and to whom.😂

Great Video...Can I please ask where your scarf came from...It is identical to my old school scarf which was eaten by moths years ago...I've been trying to locate a replacement, thanks

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Manufactured by a company called Joules in the UK. Its several years old now.

I don't agree on Casio though. There are vintage digital models like A158, A700 which are respectable among the watch enthusiasts yet are very affordable. They look good too with different outfits.

@JakeSmith-jy1kx

6 ай бұрын

Nope. Those Casios look terrible. They are the opposite of elegant. Even if Teddy Baldassarre appreciates them for how innovative and iconic they were, they still don’t match with sartorial elegance. Cheap quartz watches can work, but they should be simple analog faces. If you want to bust out the Casio, it can have a place, but it is a super casual one and it will still struggle to be perceived as anything but ironic, so good luck. You’d have to lean nerdcore so hard you risk cosplaying. If you can pull it off, great. Like I said, good luck.

@zibel5007

6 ай бұрын

@@JakeSmith-jy1kx I probably wouldn't wear these vintage Casios with a suit, as I have a few mechanical watches for that, but they go really well with any casual look, for example with my vintage Fila sweater or a light denim jacket. I don't care what people think of my watches (I'm sure 99% of people just don't care about watches in general, it's a niche thing these days). These Casios remind me of the 90's and I love their simplicity combined with all the functions you need. One thing I should mention is that they won't fit a large wrist, but that's not my case.

@Cormac-jd2kx

5 ай бұрын

They look terrible. Those watches are mainly for kids

4:48 I thought that this would have been your first point. I've yet to meet a female of the species for whom smart shoes isn't the thing that they notice and comment on (when questioned) from the get go. There may be trouble ahead though. Now that Parade Gloss and other wax polish tins have been withdrawn from the shelves and worse, ceased to be manufactured, what's a chap to do. It's unthinkable and after Concorde's demise, the next most important signal of society's downward journey.

What would you say if you see Mr. Bean coming down of his Mini Mark III for the first time? what would it be your first impression??? (joking)

Love your channel. However, dress yourself as you want but best not to pass judgement on others, especially when concerning their attire. It's in the bible somewhere, so I know it's 100% correct.

Dear Sir, excuse me, but I do not totally agree with you. To make your shoes look neat and shiny or your clothes neat is a matter of careness, but the car or the watch are status symbols. Manner and behaviour make the gentleman, not the car he drives or the watch on his wrist (or in his waistcoat pocket). And what does it help you to be the best dressed guy in the room, when your boss is standing next to you? Sincerely yours

I don't dispute the content and I like the channel, but unfortunately, much of this highlights the unfair discrimination that people face based upon their appearance rather than their character. I've lived on both sides of this, having had a fit and healthy body with a consistent weight, then having a chronic illness and living with disability. Many of the items of clothing I wear, or accessories I now use, are based on utility and nice shoes or watches often have to stay at home, as it's likely that I will have a fall or other physical challenge to overcome and need something sturdier or that won't be marked. I do iron clothes and do take care but, even if you have all the right clothes, just being seen in a wheelchair or with another mobility device, is often enough for negative conclusions to be drawn and it can take many months or years, of people getting to know you, before this bias is over come. Snap judgments are so harmful. A gentleman gives others the benefit of the doubt and doesn't judge the book by it's cover. I've been in many professional situations where the most capable people in the room didn't tick any of the status symbol boxes and those who did, needn't have come.

Good video, although on your suit point no-one would ever talk to Boris Johnson!

@MisterBurtonshaw

3 жыл бұрын

And who could blame them... an over pampered sociopath lolz

generally i would agree, but look at Boris Johnson, he always looks scruffy and unkempt, even in a fairly expensive suit

@TheChapsGuide

3 жыл бұрын

You cannot make a silk purse out of a sow's ear - as I believe the old expression goes.

Supermarket clothing section. LOL. Might as well buy your suit from a liquor store.

Second

People should dress for occasion. Being overdressed as bad as being underdressed. IMO paying too much attention to your looks is signed of weak mind.

I hate rich people

👍 Second time I noticed you closing with an American military-styled salute rather than a British one. How come? Just curious. (I’m Sub’d, btw.) 🫡

@TheChapsGuide

Жыл бұрын

It is merely intended as a gentleman's acknowledgement opposed to a military salute. The salute with the blade of the hand is in fact the salute of the Royal Navy.

@kekoa1843

Жыл бұрын

@@TheChapsGuide I didn’t know that; had assumed it was the palm salute throughout UK’s military. / Ret US Army (‘79 - ‘00); in Germany: Spangdahlem AFB (‘79 - ‘81) & Augsburg (‘88 - ‘92); took leave and visited Southern England on way to ancestral home of Ireland. // Your vids are quite helpful & well done. (You’ve directly influenced my new habit of journaling. Thanks, chap….jolly good show!) 🫡