1/ Research a topic or a person obsessively. 2/ Delay making phone calls. 3/ Talk to themselves. 4/ Tell emotional truths. 5/ The INFJ stare. 6/ It takes time to learn new things. 7/ Runs into walls.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

It's 💯 accurate with me 😂😂😂

@AimeeAimee444

2 ай бұрын

Ok, now I believe I’m an INFJ. 😂

@DP-dr6gi

2 ай бұрын

Yes to every single one of these. INFJ for sure. 1. Peacocks, Scientology, skincare, color theory, psychology. 😊

@helenmorgan3191

2 ай бұрын

I don't run into walls, but I trip in an empty room.

@Chebab-Chebab

2 ай бұрын

6/ It takes time to learn new things. I've learned that INFJ learning is different. I'll use the alphabet as an example. People will learn the alphabet A-Z and then know it whilst INFJs are still on A. However, our learning style would have us learn EVERYTHING about the letter A. Where it came from. What the etymology of the letter is. Why it's sometimes a short/long vowel. Who created the first A and what it looked like on clay tablets. Etc. It takes a while.

Sometimes I won't look ppl in the eye because their soul is appalling and painful to engage

@jst.martin2180

2 ай бұрын

One of the many reasons I love my transition glasses. I can appear to be looking right at them, but the tint obscures my direct eye line.

@carrie2024

24 күн бұрын

Yes! I immediately feel their vibe and get distracted by direct eye contact. I love my glasses, so they can't see when I'm not making eye contact.

Phone calls are rude interruptions. Imagine going about your day and someone just barges through the front door and begins talking about whatever it is their intent was and you are expected to drop everything and accommodate this!? Phone calls are like that.

@shaydenhornsby2342

6 ай бұрын

Oh u made me laugh

@JackieKay11

5 ай бұрын

@nancyneyedly4587 ~ exactly that! I agree 😳

@ajt0319

5 ай бұрын

Mostly I let the caller leave a message or not. I might return their call.

@CaptainJeanLucPicard

5 ай бұрын

Exactly

@jovabarris8789

5 ай бұрын

Indeed. I rarely answer phone calls unless from my husband.

1. Research obsessively and then discard!-YES! I was just thinking of this today!

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

That is SO INFJ! 😂 Jay

@jasbadsirron6424

6 ай бұрын

Yep. Once we've answered that internal question to satisfaction, then revisiting the topic is unnecessary and a waste of time....unless more questions arise down the track. But generally, I find it hard to keep going with a topic if I don't need to use that info to make connections and or to help explain other topics etc.

@christielogan5247

4 ай бұрын

Definitely fallen down the rabbit hole. Faberge eggs- Russian Imperial History- Guided Age America- Causes of WWI. And from there?

"...hate getting phone calls." Ha! that's me alright. The phone rings and i'm "Who the f*ck is that now? What do they want?"

@JackieKay11

6 ай бұрын

Yes and then block the number if unknown 😅

@Johnny_RB

6 ай бұрын

@@JackieKay11 It's good to know I'm not the only one that blocks such. Thank you.

@JackieKay11

6 ай бұрын

It's always annoyed me, same as door to door selling. Infringing on my privacy. Cctv is handy these days and if not expecting a parcel or a planned visitor friend, just don't answer 😉

@phoebe2350

5 ай бұрын

we all weird like that. lol

@xbabygirltx

4 ай бұрын

I’m SO relieved to know it’s not just me who feels this way lol my family thinks it’s weird that I hate speaking on the phone lol

When I express myself, I look away. When I am listening and interested, I look people in the eye.

What about when you’re in front of a lot of people and it feels like you have forgotten how to walk normal.

I love Researching my personality, narcissistic personality, metaphysics, quantum physics, government things. An religion, I love learning new things. Definitely talk to myself 😂😂😂. All the above. We're so quirky I LOVE IT. ❤❤❤ Ive had plenty of bruises on me from bumping into stuff. So cool to FINALLY NOT FEEL ALONE. THX FOR UR VIDEOS 😁

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

You are very welcome! Quirky we most definitely are. Jay

@nikhilsharma2804

6 ай бұрын

Am the same😂

@stylishranchgirl

5 ай бұрын

Same

@jovabarris8789

5 ай бұрын

I always think out-loud and bump into things. I’m just always on-the-go. Too micro-focused to mind bumping into the bed post. You aren’t alone.

@theanonymoushelpline7248

5 ай бұрын

That’s exactly everything I like to research!!!

I absolutely *hated* when mother would put my sister and I on the phone to talk with some relatives or family friends. Is that just a me thing?

I used to think I was a freak until I found that I'm an INFJ. Now I feel better with myself and my lil odd ways.

I am an INFJ and I appreciate your insights, Jay. The people in my life have always thought of me as intelligent, but I've doubted that because of my learning style. I have always felt that I'm a slow learner, but I tend to excel in a topic after a long learning period of pattern recognition. Thank you for not letting me feel alone in thought.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

I know what you mean. I think that is price we pay for the connections we can make to all subjects, but again, it doesn’t mean you aren’t intelligent. Quite the opposite I believe. Jay

@Txtholic_MOA0405

6 ай бұрын

its the same for me and personally, I didn't mind it anyway, because its just helps me to understand the topic in-depth, and when I teach some classmate of mine about that topic, i end up explaining things which are not in it but somewhere related to it and they be like, 'Oh, this also there in the topic, our teacher didn't explained this.'

@annewells2306

4 ай бұрын

This.

@marlenelindsey7638

Ай бұрын

Yes! I honestly thought I was stupid and was in beauty school and discovered I wasn’t, so I studied the skin care program. Did that for a while, then back to school and learned phlebotomy. Turns out, not stupid at all.

I've obsessively researched criminals, and narcissists. I see them a mile a way now. It keeps me safe from being a victim. I also have phone-bia. 😂

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

6 ай бұрын

Yes. Same once I learned about the narcissistic behaviors,the patterns are in my face now. Can see from a mile away. I'm so grateful, now we can spend the next part of our lives with our eyes wide open, it's a beautiful thing.

@growingandlearning164

4 ай бұрын

@@STRONGfamVALUEZIt sure is a beautiful thing .

@annewells2306

4 ай бұрын

Same!

@nikkihorn3852

3 ай бұрын

Same here.

@MarieDahme

3 ай бұрын

​@jennie7 we're like the little "bee girl" in Blind Melon's video No Rain. We found our tribe !

I have always been a researcher. I obsess over a given topic. I used to think “this is my passion! I finally found it.” But inevitably I would reach a level of understanding and would move on. Friends and family get angry at me and say, “Just pick something and stick with it!” But I just add the information to my internal encyclopedia and move on.

@JackieKay11

6 ай бұрын

Same 👍😃

@braingamesballsortgame718

6 ай бұрын

Ditto same patterns and behaviour as an INFJ😅

@WakingAngels

4 ай бұрын

Google people that scan. Scanners. It’s a thing. I got obsessed about why I would get obsessed with some many different things 🤣🤣🤣

@DingChavez86

Ай бұрын

Ditto. It's comforting how accurate this is.

60 yr old INFJ here. It does get easier. Oh.. those bloody door frames!🤣 I even built my own house with extra wide doorways. Made no difference! When I talk to myself I describe it as 'me' chatting to my flesh robot. I know when my family members are having problems because they avoid talking to me. They know a chat with me is a reality check that they can't handle yet. On the phone you'll often hear me say "I can hear you smiling" /frowning etc.. I live a hardworking but peaceful self-supporting life on our tiny farm and it gives me all the subject matter I need to quench my thirst for knowledge. This year I'll be building a 'rope pump' for our well - happy researching!

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

6 ай бұрын

Right. Yea they can't handle it sometimes, a problem solver an a truth teller. God I love being us 😂😆

@star_dante

2 ай бұрын

What is it about corners, are we so big picture, we think we can walk through walls?

Phone calls to me, are like someone coming to my door and knocking (expecting me to open/pick up), without forewarning. Even my best friend or wife can call me out of the blue without warning, and I won't pick up and I'll wait for the voice message.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

I'm with you. I'm not a phone guy at ALL. lol Jay

As an INFJ I am mature at mind but kid in the heart. Yeah people find me weird and intimidating. They don't understand my emotional truths and they always misunderstood me. Sometimes people takes advantage and used me for their own benefits but not trusting my intuition cost me a lot.

@whatisthat1585

6 ай бұрын

@@Daan58 I am mature about what life is and what the meaning of life is. I live by my morals, beliefs, and values, yet I have this side of me when I am playing like a kid because I think it is who I am. And when I said what was right, people called me a hypocrite, and they said I just wanted to maintain my good image. I heard people gossiping about me. They think if you have a rude mouth, then you are an honest person, but if you choose to be kind and have a mouth full of encouraging words, then you are playing it safe. Then they think choosing your heart over right is being real and true, so if they heard my answer that I will choose what is right even what my heart desires, then they called me a hypocrite.

@sara.e.l.

6 ай бұрын

Oh yes! I've always been attracted to older friends with more life experience, but I'm a kid at heart. It's a funny paradox

100% right that we are information vampires.When we find something we are interested in we spend most time researching about it.

@INFJcircle

5 ай бұрын

Agree. Jay

When all these topics fit and you want to comment but then think about the perfect way to respond only to erase everything 5 or more times lol.

@sara.e.l.

6 ай бұрын

or you write an email to someone after thinking it through for a couple hours, only to keep checking back at the sent box to reread what you wrote 😅

@66el

5 ай бұрын

Sounds like me,then I just delete the comment.

@DevonExplorer

4 ай бұрын

Wow, yes to all the replies, lol.

@nikkihorn3852

3 ай бұрын

Nailed it.

When I was younger, if I felt people watching me, I not only became clumsy, I also had a tendency to freeze. That was a nuisance. Anyone else got frozen from too much scrutiny?

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

6 ай бұрын

Yes ALWAYS feel the eyes on me when I walk into AMYWHERE .An when talking to someone my face gets red an I stutter, often mix my words up. Or just saying off the wall stuff when nervous, I definitely don't like doing things for the first time in front of people it's nerve wracking. I had to go to court an had everything I wanted to say ( rehearsed out loud all the time at home )I was so confident then I went in the court seat an froze I couldnt think of anything I wanted to say an totally bombed. Then spent the next few months beating myself up over it. They're was like 30 people in the court room light shining in my eyes. They couldn't hear my regular voice in microphone so I had to speak up. A officer was behind me it was sooooooo intense ,an I froze. I'd say this is the only thing I could do without with being an INFJ..

@TeriHargraveartist

6 ай бұрын

@@STRONGfamVALUEZ that sounds like a nightmare 😕

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

I too have frozen before. Someone had to take over for me. I was in my 20’s, but remember it well (too well). Jay

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

5 ай бұрын

@@TeriHargraveartist unfortunately yes it was. But fortunately I'm working on my childhood trauma an I'm getting much better at coming into my true self . GODisGOOD

@huertocasero2597

5 ай бұрын

Yup!

I research conspiracy theories, houseplants, hair cutting (especially the shag cut), all kinds of animals, (particularly pets,) psychology, and narcissism.

Omg I never knew other people fell UP stairs like me! I’m not alone, thank you. ❤

@tristahaydon5647

Ай бұрын

I do it ALL the time!

@juliemissick4206

11 күн бұрын

Oh yes. Been there, done that.

I feel very lonely and unbearably anxious. I just want to love and feel needed by someone.

@Helen-nv8el

5 ай бұрын

I can relate.. it's a basic need, but must be the right person. Omeone who craves our depth and isn't scared by it.

@willowdreams1786

5 ай бұрын

Ur needed & loved. 💙❤️ Don’t feel so anxious.

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

5 ай бұрын

I felt the same way until I found the love of God an I know when it's my time it will be. Feeling the TRUE love of God is overwhelmingly amazing. I pray you find what ur looking for. Having faith, removes that burden , Also getting urself involved with something to help others can also be very helpful. Love Jessica

@timothyw815

3 ай бұрын

The love of God through Jesus Christ is truly the answer. Receive Him by grace through faith, amen

@VivBeyer1111

3 ай бұрын

@@willowdreams1786 That advice doesnt help, you cant just turn off anxiety like with a switch...one has to explore the root causes of ones anxiety, and journaling helps a lot with this. You`re awesome Daniel. I am sure of that, no matter what you've been told or have experienced in your life....Sending you hugs!

Agreed on all of these. Phone calls are part of my job and I absolutely put off my phones every single week if I can. My issue with phone calls is I can pick up on peoples emotions with tone of voice, and then I absorb that and it lingers with me throughout the day. For better or worse.

@faithworks217

2 ай бұрын

Yep. I can pick up on smarm even over the phone. In one of my jobs, this was the case with a man I talked to, and when I met him later, he lived up to what I figured out about him.

INTJs do much of the same! 😆 As for being “slow learners” due to needing to see pattern recognition first, that was why I took a couple math classes twice. For some reason, the school district placed me in the most advanced math classes, which I would fail the first time, but the second time I took it, I’d recognize lessons/concepts I’d learned before, which indicated to me that it was important enough to retain the info. Once I understand the relevance of something, it’s easy for me to store & retain knowledge for a long time. Don’t have much RAM, but I do have a pretty large hard drive in my brain. I also love how we as Ni-doms can connect seemingly disparate topics! 💕

@hhbeck-ziegler9333

6 ай бұрын

I remember i took the advanced class in highschool first term and i failed too or did not get a high grade and changed to the lower class next term as we could do then here in Scandinavia and remember the first test and the teacher told we have one who got all 100 % right at the test and he came to me lol. I was shocked.

@MoPoppins

6 ай бұрын

@@hhbeck-ziegler9333 I guess it’s“typical” of the INTJ experience, then. 😂 For the two math classes that I failed, I aced them the 2nd time around. There were also times where I would be the first one to finish the test, and instead of feeling confident & going on my way, I’d panic for a moment and check to see that I didn’t skip a bunch of problems on a page or something.

I love researching (my personality, nutrition, love languages, the Bible, personal growth, etc), don't like phone calls but I love talking to myself always!😂 I enjoy talking about emotions, working on self-improvement, and love staring (I didn't realize that until now haha😅). I used to feel bad about my learning style until I knew about my personality type. That was a huge release as well as this video. Thanks a lot! 🎉🎉

@colleengloe9121

6 ай бұрын

Yes for sure All me as an INFJ ❤

@shaydenhornsby2342

6 ай бұрын

Omg me too holy

@RaeAria

6 ай бұрын

Yes 100% 😄

@jadint1793

5 ай бұрын

Same!!

Talking to myself is like journalling- i dialogue between different parts of myself to resolve stressful emotive circumstances. It works really well bc i am externalising, rather than just thinking it thru❤

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Yes, I think journaling is a great strategy! Thanks for watching Jay

@star_dante

2 ай бұрын

Have you ever been accused of over thinking? Is this from people that don't want you to know more than they do!?

Obsessive research? Oh yes! Some fifteen years ago, while I was deep into watching documentaries about black holes, supernovas and quantum mechanics, I stumbled upon the book “137: Jung, Pauli, and the Pursuit of a Scientific Obsession” that more or less revolves around quantum physics pioneer Wolfgang Pauli seeking mental help from Carl Jung in 1932. Reading this fascinating book then led me to Jung-based MBTI theory and finding out about my personality type. A life-changing experience.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

MBTI is one of the most life changing things that can happen for INFJs. Truly an eye opener. Sounds like your path was very in depth. Thanks for watching! Jay

Regarding the eye contact thing, I've learned that looking people in the eye while listening, shows that you're really listening, but I really struggle to maintain eye contact when I'm talking.

I hate phone calls. They're like unnecessary anxiety initiators. I have trouble looking people in the eyes if it's a stranger. If they demand I do so I end up glaring into their face and they either get uneasy or more upset, lawl.

In my opinion, this is the only channel that truly hits the INFJ nail right on the head! You arent doing it as something else and are just interested in infj's, you really and truly are one yourself and that is definitely recognized by the other ones like me. Great video man, keep up the good work!

Algebra was a real disaster at school. :) Phone calls ought to be forbidden altogether. After 10 years in therapy and becoming a therapist myself I am able to answer every third phone call.

Another comment…. Yes, I always thought I was a bit slow with my learning and very thoughtful about everything I was taught. I think teachers thought I was dim when I was younger. I ended up with a Masters degree with a recommendation to pursue my PhD. I taught at university level for a few years. I could always spot an INFJ student and used to love supporting and developing them to their full potential.

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

6 ай бұрын

That's awesome 😎 WE need more teachers like urself. Xo

Absolutely no doubt now - I am INFJ for sure! Hi from the UK and keep up this excellent channel, I'm listening.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Welcome aboard! It's tough being an INFJ, but most of us wouldn't trade our type. Thanks for watching! Jay

@JackieKay11

6 ай бұрын

Another Brit here 👍

I often find myself sitting on the couch, listening to music, and constantly trying to interpret and put together patterns of people's behaviour. And i do this for an obscene amount of time. I get these flashes of deeper images in my mind, trying to predict how certain interactions will unfold, or attempting to use that intuition to foresee potential consequences of those present behaviours, from a futuristic viewpoint. And sometimes i will get so lost within my head that i lose track of time. The emotions i feel become so intense, that sometimes i wonder if i am getting too far out of touch. Its like a super-computer with terabytes and terabytes of storage, and the information is so wealthy, you need strong guardrails in place to prevent a system failure because its so overwhelming.

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

6 ай бұрын

I used to feel like I was in a Ni- Ti loop. an soon realized I just needed to let go an have faith , we see what we need to see when we need to see it. Trusting our intuition as it's happening, I believe we also tend to manifest fast you get what u ask for , we have to be careful for what we ask for. 😂 And as the old saying goes u look an shall find. That's another one that seems to manifest itself as well.. I really have to be mindful on what I spend my time thinking about. Thanks for sharing 🙏

@francescad.4448

4 ай бұрын

I do same…get angry when I’m being disturbed or situations when I’m loosing my time…

@star_dante

2 ай бұрын

@@STRONGfamVALUEZ excellent points on manifesting and trusting our intuition.

I have all of them. Regarding #2, I don’t particularly like text message conversations. Along with not being able to read facial expressions, you cannot hear the tone of voice, so you cannot get a real feel of this type of communication. It feels impersonal. Well, for me anyway.

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

6 ай бұрын

RIGHT!? An sarcasm can't be heard through a text so I tend to get more misunderstood. An If it's a personal relationship then phone calls are better. But If it's not with someone I have a relationship with id rather text.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Agree. Jay

Phone-bia!! Not terrible!!!🤣 INFJ gaze?... we're seeking!! We want that deep convo. I appreciate your videos... your humor is great! Thank you.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

lol. Thank you so much! Jay

“Information vampire” describes it perfectly. Topics I’ve delved into: -Bronze Age collapse -MBTI -Enneagram -Buddhist thought -House music -specific DJs (Fatboy Slim most recently) -Leadership skills -coaching skills -Holistic healing -nutrition -menopause and perimenopause -the monetary system -INFJ stuff 😂😂😂

We love looking at patterns, systems, discrepancies, hidden stuff, mystery, synchronicities, symbolism, yeah metaphors, deep feelings so uneasy to delve into by most. 😂yeah, talking to oneself, staring intently, not always intimate, just gauging the other person, getting lost in the inner workings behind d words, noticing body language, so uncomfortable and weird for others, sometimes zoning out completely in d middle of conversation then running away, if we don't share don't make up anything about it 😊 We don't mean to surprise everyone, maybe people just over talk, we don't mean to be cunning, people just underestimate us or think we are pushovers, we don't mean to lie, maybe we just haven't shared all to not hurt or cause unnecessary tension. If we feel safe, we sometimes over share, not to upstage but to help. Twist our words, you get the hulk, humiliate us, you get door slam. From 100 to 0, piercing silence, but really, we hate doing it but we have to. I research people and things like, thoroughly, obsessively, for months and years until I master the knowledge, topics are variable. I just love learning about humanity and life. Anything useful that I can share to benefit others, too.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Beautifully written and very, very true. That sums up the INFJ relationship pattern really. Thank you for that. Jay

@kacake

6 ай бұрын

Love how you deliver a clear message, you got great public speaking skills, content is really juicy ​@@INFJcircle

I had no idea that my public clumsiness (including curbs, lol) was part of my personality type! I've always thought I was a visual learner but what you say about pattern recognition makes a lot of sense. My mom told me that when I was little, and she was explaining things to me verbally, I would start crying and tell her I didn't understand what she was saying. I'm retired now but I also had that feeling when my boss was giving me verbal instructions. I eventually learned to repeat back to him what I had heard to make sure I was getting it. I love learning and researching...religion, aliens, politics, health, gardening, etc., etc. People who aren't are a great mystery to me. You have helped me so much, Jay! Thank you!

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

I never knew it either until I learned about MBTI. glad the videos are helping you, we have some of the same interests as well! Jay

Obsessive reseaches, phon-bia, and slow learning speed.....it scares but comforts me at the same time, that all these are simply common traits of INFJs (that Im not the only weird one😂)... recently, i have been trying not to completely define myself as INFJ and rather believing in everyone has full potential to become what they want to be...but i figured I have so much INFJs inside me after watching this 😂😂 I have researched a lot in self-development, personalities, diets, nutrition, weightlifts, religions, bible, how to study better, how to live better and fuller life, and etc... I'm very thankful of knowing INFJ's learning pattern. I always thought Im just simply a slow learner, but it was pattern recognition, which needs more data and time to grasp concepts and ideas.

@INFJcircle

5 ай бұрын

Yes, we’re tying so many things together. It almost Has to run at a slower pace. But when we do get it, we have a much fuller perspective than most people. Jay

I feel so comforted, relaxed and normal now 🤣Even after watching and reading so much about my traits. Thanks, I appreciate it a lot.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

You're so welcome! Glad it helped you! Jay

I don't even have a cell phone. My land-line does not have an answering machine either. Agreed, hate phone calls.

Infj: "Leave me alone" "Ok,bye" "Wait... Don't go"

Observing people and staring is a life-long habit for me. I want to know about them just by observing. I get caught often by the subject of my observation, and I'm sure it make others uncomfortable. I always try to have a smile at the ready to try to calm their concerns. LOL on hitting curbs, I do that all the time!

Yeah, Custer. I researched our family history when I first got married, in the '70s, and discovered that although Custer didn't have his own (white) children, he was a relative, and visited my ancestors in Ohio before the Civil War. Or during, or shortly after. This led me to a deep dive into the Lewis & Clark Expedition, Plains Indian history, a master's degree in conflict resolution, and eventually moving to Nebraska to the first place where Lewis & Clark met Native people and living on that reservation for ten years.

Talking to myself is more entertaining most times. 😅😅

Another excellent and accurate compilation Jay, as I found myself smiling, nodding and even laughing in agreement 😀 You asked….Fortunately with being retired, I’ve been down quite a few areas of research these last four years and won’t specifically list them here as don’t want to flag up 😉 As you rightly say, I do and did spend quite some time getting info from various sources on each subject before I was sufficiently in agreement. Suffice to say we’ve been lied to about most things in this life and whilst some people don’t want to hear/see it (probably because they can’t handle it and it would make them have to rethink everything), I’ve always preferred the truth and can handle it. Only a few actual friends have looked at what I’ve discovered and can see the lies too, but they’re in the minority. I’ve found more people online who already know and they’ve become my circle. Edit: Just requested to join your mailing list circle 😃

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, we should search out the truth ourselves. Agree. Glad you enjoyed the video! Jay

@RunningNotStopping

6 ай бұрын

I can tell what topics my may be thinking about and I support you.

@JackieKay11

6 ай бұрын

@@RunningNotStopping Thanks for saying that 😊 I think perhaps that many INFJ's have awakened and are aware because we question and join dots. I really hope that's the case 👍 Have a great day 😃

@dianne9365

6 ай бұрын

Another retired INFJ here!. I am exactly in the same position as you, it is hard to wake upto the fact that everything we believed in has been a lie. I am so isolated because the majority of my friends and family all have their heads in the sand, one of my sons is my only ally. I sometimes feel like I am going mad but it nice to read comments such as yours, it makes me feel less alone.

@JackieKay11

6 ай бұрын

@@dianne9365 Dianne, thanks SO much for commenting as I understand completely being in the same situation. I can't relate to friends and not been in touch with many for over three years. Although three have recently gently approached me via email, so perhaps there's hope that they've realised I was right with my warnings. Yes, it's been a very lonely time but I just keep a diary and push myself into achieving various things and still research daily as I love to learn. When I think about all those years of school indoctrination being made to stand outside the classroom for having the audacity to ask the teacher to explain better as she didn't make sense. We just keep on doing what we can to help others although I've started very recently to take more care of myself and about time too ☺️ Have a lovely day 🤗

This was very encouraging. I definitely do most of these things and I feel pretty weird most of the time lol I think as INFJs we are a tiny bit weird, but that's what sets us apart. We may have strange idiosyncrasies, but we also have unique gifts as well.

I love languages! I too delay making phone calls I too prefer texts for the same reason I too talk to myself I too tell straight up emotional truths. People don’t always like that about me but that is not my problem. I will go on the KZread chatlogs and find people in the chatlog who need to grow. I feel it is better them hearing it from me because I will say in a kind way The Death Stare is definitely me! The learning speed is true also. I have told new employers that it would take longer to learn but I would be one of the best employees they ever had You talk about running into walls. I am really thinking all the time so constantly making sure I am doing things safely

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for the reply! As for the last one - the walls - concentrating, like you are doing, is the secret to NOT running into things. I need to do that more (especially when doing dangerous things). Jay

@shelteredsparrow2736

6 ай бұрын

@@Daan58 sure! If you go on KZread videos there is a place where people leave comments. You can like or dislike the comment. You can also reply to the comment. Other people can also reply to your comments. The comments are emailed to you. If you need to you can block the person. I use it a lot. I have answered questions for people. I had someone say “if one person likes this bless you.” I have people that needed encouragement because they were so discouraged with life. I have typed in a heart for people who are grieving

@shelteredsparrow2736

6 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle I feel your INFJ pain on that one. I LOVE being an INFJ but I hear you!

@shelteredsparrow2736

6 ай бұрын

@@Daan58 what you are using here is the chatlog

The phone phobia is dead on. I hate phones. I have a landline that I always let go to voice mail. I have a cell phone that I keep in my car 24-7. I'd be surprised if I have turn it on more than once per year. The learning part is also dead on. I started taking piano lessons as an adult. I told my instructor, the learning curve is going to be slow and flat for a relatively long while, but then it's going to take off like a rocket. And so it has.

The phone calls, and the running into walls and door frames, AND the falling up the stairs! So dead on. 😂

My family members think im nuts. They ask me who I’m talking to. And I reply. Myself, it’s the only way I am guaranteed and intelligent conversation.

@christinet6336

2 ай бұрын

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As a kid I was bullied a lot. One time when bringing this topic to a teacher she told me that I have something in my eyes, in the way I look at someone that someone "have to bully me". Ever since then I often avoided eye contact

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

3 ай бұрын

That's weird on the teachers part. She obviously has something wrong with her. We tend to irritate people's demons. Keep looking at people,keep being urself the world needs us to be confident in ourselves, STAY STRONG. DONT DIM UR LIGHT FOR THE EVILNESS IN THIS WORLD. XO

@nataliemathis4523

2 ай бұрын

I’m sorry that you experienced this. I was just thinking about the stare, too, and thinking how some people find it threatening - like you can see their biggest insecurities. We can 😄 but we don’t care about their flaws like they think we do.

I don't see any other way to learn about something. If you don't dive in, are you learning anything? I'd comment on everything you listed but it all just hits too close to home. LOL Glad I'm not the only one that bumps into everything. Good thing I can find the humor in my clumsiness. Fun video to watch, Thank you!

I was telling a friend the other day to please text me first before wanting to talk on the phone. I explained I need a moment to redirect my brain. One of my favorite chapters in the book, "The Introvert Advantage" is on phone phobia. Helped me understand myself and phone habits.

One proud research nerd here! I discovered who my biological father was 3 years ago & began an intense & fascinating ancestry journey which revealed very famous historical figures. This led to my purchase of several books (from Thriftbooks; hardcover, of course, as we appreciate the finer feel of it.) Before that, it's been finance, real estate, antiques, decorating, nutrition, horses, goats, bees, cats, regenerative farming, massage therapy, world religions, running, yoga, etc. I am definitely "out-loud voicing" words of encouragement to myself often; sometimes in song. Phone calls? Nope; not Skyping either. (Cringe). When in Massage Therapy class, the instructor would explain the right technique but follow it up with telling us what not to do. This frustrated my mind & I asked her to stop telling us (me, really), what not to do. It was throwing me off. I did struggle at first as I had in learning foreign languages, but, at the end of courses, I came out successful. I seemed to have had to redesign/remold my creature self by absorbing; by digesting the subject of my desire fully. To experience it in body, mind and Spirit. Being able to express how I feel (positive emotions) around the general public has not resulted in positive responses. I have reined in my exuberance over the years & let it fly free in my private time. I probably still look into people's eyes with too much intensity when listening to them. I'll work on that. You're a wonderful presenter & I'm thrilled to have come upon your chats. Thank you.

I love researching about music, About classical instruments, Traditional music styles, singers, pitches, high notes,etc. And I love nerding around about these things. My past interests were about genetics, quantum physics and human mind. I found one thing weird about me that, if I listen or watch some music or movie, I just go to google and search up everything about that movie, the cast, the production etc. I just get obsessed with that for about a couple of days.

💯% accurate! Things obsessively looked up: 1)beekeeping 2) gardening 3) very historical periods 4) actors and actresses 5) curly hair care 6) creationism

@user-mx7ot2bz3b

Ай бұрын

Same

I love images of space, stars, 0 gravity. I need a lot of space literally, it is calming, fulfilling.

Talking to myself. I’m guaranteed an intelligent conversation..

@jonesy2892

2 ай бұрын

Hahaha best comment. I agree

every partner or friend i've ever had has been freaked out by this stare. ni just wants all the details.

I AM a person who will look up people online even if they're not a public figure. Better to know up front than wish you'd known later. Not finding anything is just as troubling as finding things. But I don't interact with so many people that it's a constant activity. When I get enough information that I'm satisfied, I quit. So am I weirder than the average INFJ even?

@faithworks217

2 ай бұрын

I do that, too, to find out what my friends are up to, or what mindset a troll is coming from on facebook, or if someone's interests or beliefs are compatible with mine. If they think that's weird, then they shouldn't put their information online. Also, if there is a post about someone who went missing, if they were found. It's always a relief if they did not come to any serious harm.

Hi Jay! I appreciate these videos so very much! Man, all you've stated in this video applies to my path in life. ( INFJ as well, if I haven't stated that before.) To an extreme. LoL. Medieval History in college. Philosophy, Art History, an aspiring musician.. Numerous times, I've been told, " You're too intense, Why are you justifying / explaining everything you do, all you experience?" I'm very empathic, caring, face my fears, hold fast to values, integrity and personal ethics...... And it scares the hell out of most people. I'm not perfect, and believe in seeking knowledge, skills to improve myself in service to others. ( Once DoD contractor/ Military, now certified master Reiki Practitioner, Holistic health therapist.) I strive to be a better person, do good in this mad, mad world and help others. I expect others to do the same. Seldom happens... Yet, I still try to have hope and believe that Humanity can change for the better... Though a challenge, we all truly can thrive as the true, beautiful, reflection of our Souls. Such is my hope for everyone.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

I relate to what you are saying so much. Our ethics and truth seeking really do scare people. Thank you for sharing this Trey, it’s like I wrote it, our paths are very similar. Jay

@TreyB.

6 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle thank you for responding... Wow, Jay. seriously... 😁

OMG a gal pal told me I was an INFJ last year and I wasn't sure she was correct. I bought a book and then started to listen to INFJ informational videos on KZread. I am most definately, an INFJ. I struggle with eye contact with a few exceptions of people who I am close to.

I have had call phobia for my entire life. Most productive in writing. But others dont always take it right.

Wow, I did not believe I am an INFJ (after being typed, both by testing, and by psychologist/therapist). Until, I listened to you. I have issues with every single point you made, especially talking out loud to myself. I really appreciate how simple you made all these points. Absolutely true about "rabbit hole research" - I have studied: medieval heraldry, horses, dog training, gardening, Viking era culture, are just a few. Amazing vid! Thanks.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Well, if we relate, we relate, I’m glad the video helped you and thanks for commenting! Jay

Your videos are mesmerizing bcos I recognize myself in you and that’s so liberating. It feels good to know there are others like me. I’m not alone. I believe the INFJ stare happens when we’re consciously and subconsciously reading someone. I also think it happens when we’re super interested in what someone’s saying. I think we become only partway present bcos we’re actually picturing it in our head.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Great thoughts. I think you are right. Our intuition is a pretty deep process. Thanks for sharing! Jay

I so have all of these- currently researching aquarium shrimp. True. I hate phone calls. So much of this is true of me. Im one of those people in Walmart talking to myself.

@STRONGfamVALUEZ

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂 my daughters ALWAYS like huh Mom? An I say I'm just talking to myself again. 😂😂😂 She's 19 she said u always do that yep. My dad used to tell me it's ok as long as I don't answer myself but I do , 😂 I do answer myself to. Quirky an I love it 💕

I’m a 66-year-old INFJ. And a teacher. I have found that looking at the persons mouth between the nose and the upper lip and vague focus on the face that way it looks like you’re looking into the eyes, but you’re not because when you’re look at the eyes, you know that it is happening it generates a recognition jolt from human to human. But the folks of your attention/other people, they don’t know it and can’t tell you’re not looking at them in the eyes.

Very true. I find all of these things in my day to day life. I talk to myself a lot. I find it to be very helpful and productive.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

I agree, it sorts the jumbled mess that sometimes arises from overthinking. Thanks for sharing! Jay

@Taurusboy07

6 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle Exactly. I wish I could turn it off at times. It even robs me of sleep and relaxation. This personality is very interesting and intense. I see the beauty of it as it is such a gift to the earth but due to the mass of shallow and mediocre people, it leaves us feeling as if we don’t belong, especially for me and a few other INFJ’s I encountered.

I can take endless time in composing or responding to a text or email. I often will text to respond to a voice message. As for the eye contact. I find myself not looking directly unless I can be sure they are not looking at me. I now see that I am actually just processing. Your examples of INFJ behavior really are excellent

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

That’s a good point too, some INFJs may be looking off to process. Thanks for the comment! Jay

I don’t avoid phone calls but I usually only have to talk to people I actually like conversing with. I research all types of things, like personality types, gardening, underwater metal detecting, baking, animal behaviors, wood turning, and how to videos in general. I talk to myself all the time.

I laughed throughout this cool video because EVERY POINT was spot on in my case. As an INFJ I question EVERYTHING, including, whether or not I'm really an INFJ 😅. It's confirmed everytime. I love being a little "strange" now that I've found my place in the world.

I am on board with you 100% about researching topics, phone calls, and talking to yourself out loud, I thought everyone did that? I know what you mean about getting your words right for texting, I make my answers real short. Listening to this is like having my jail cell door opened up for a bit.!! I can peek outside for a bit:)

I have thousands of topics I have obssessively researched... from Art, Architecture, to Historical figures... Self-improvement and Psychology, being an all-time favorite....

Almost made me feel as though you're tagging along in my daily life. Can't add a single bit to what you've described, like looking into a mirror. Thanks.

Yup, they all apply. What I didn't notice that could be common is the running into walls and door frames. For years now, I only do that by mistake when I'm at home because I want to be fully aware of my surroundings whenever I leave the house. It's because I've tripped on stairs in front of people a few times before. Anyway, sometimes I'm distracted thinking about the best way to solve a problem and I bump into a wall in the hallway or the door frame of my room. The thing is, since I know my house so well because I grew up in it as a little kid, I can even walk around freely in complete darkness without touching the walls and without bumping into anything, so I thought it was odd for me to run into something sometimes. Thanks for pointing that out.

I'm an INFJ and this is spot on!

Talking to yourself helps you more completely process what ever it is you are thinking about. Verbalizing your thoughts and hearing them enter your ears sends the thought to more places in the brain than are accessible by just internal thinking. Regarding making seemingly remote connections - yeah, I can really relate to that. We were in Hawaii with another couple and one day noticed a rising moon over the ocean. It was in it's 1st quarter so it looked like a half circle and rose at mid-day. What struck me was that the terminator line on the moon (dividing line between night & day) was parallel to the horizon. Living at 37' north latitude most of my life, I was accustomed to seeing the moon's terminator at a considerable slant. I wondered how this was possible, and concluded the obvious - I had changed my position on the curved surface of the earth! (When I mentioned this to the others, they looked at me like I had three heads.) That's the same thing Eratosthenes demonstrated with the shadows on the summer solstice, but with different data points. I can relate to almost all of these things.... Retired teacher.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

This is exactly what I’m talking about. Few can make that connection. Many great thinkers were INFJ, including Plato. Great comment, thank you! Jay

Huh. I've never attributed my "clumsiness" or lack of spatial awareness to being an INFJ before. Interesting. Thanks!

I used to run into walls and doors and fall/slip from/on stairs a lot in childhood... But now I have successfully got a hang of it... almost. I am always extra careful on stairs...

I’ve blamed my falling up stairs on steps that have an overhang. Especially embarrassing when you’re holding into the hand rail. Russian history, the Gilded Age, making my own cleaning supplies (not that I clean often), painting my nails (needed every color to try any technique I could find), and currently studying the lead up to WWI. Thank you for explaining these short lived obsessions in a way that didn’t make me feel like I lack focus or control.

@Ellelawliet89

2 ай бұрын

I’m currently at home recovering from a broken bone in my foot. I was going downstairs holding the railing and on auto mode deep thinking. Thinking the next step was the ground, I stepped onto air and fell 2-3 steps down w my left foot cushioning most of the blow 😅.

Your first one, Freddie Mercury. I was obsessed for like four weeks over the summer. Now, I like him the same as any other musician I like.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

haha! Yeah, it's like you have to find out everything there is to know about them. Then back to normal. Thanks for sharing! Jay

@fjdslkfjdsklfjdsklfj

6 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle yes, exactly! Thank you for the video!

This is spot on. When I was a kid I used to get so stressed out about when the phone rang, now my phone is just always on silent. I've red books on serial killers, forensics, chakras, meditation, search and rescue, bushcraft, animal behaviour, quantum physics etc lol. Also went to school for natural science, massage and firefighting. I learn in patterns, I never understood how people don't. I am definitely a slow learner. I will make all the mistakes at the beginning until I see the pattern and my brain does a thing and it clicks, then I go past my peers. I also run into door frames lol This is nice, thanks!

I agree with all that you have stated here. I especially hate the phone. This was very problematic for me when I worked in sales. I had to talk myself into taking a block of time to return calls. I much prefer one on one conversations in person. My partner is an INTP and avoids eye contact, this used to really bother me until we both learned about personality types. Now I know not to peer into his soul every time we have a conversation.

What I have in common: stare and stairs! I sometimes stare at something or someone, maybe it's just because I'm looking at some interesting detail, I'm completely absorbed in catching everything about the most silly of things, like a pretty color on a shirt. I get that can be upsetting, like I'm judging or something like that, but really I'm not judging anything. Reguarding stairs: I probably can beat the world record in going downstairs slowly when the stairs appear to be slippery.

The part of " Marvel's -End Game" where Dr Strange goes through all of the possibilities of how things play out, it totally what i do in many situations. I always like to prepared for whatever happens

I got told not to look ppl in the eyes so much, was told it was creepy

Right now I am obsessing over mother Theresa after listening to a podcast called “the turning”.. it’s fascinating and non INFJ’s in my life have a hard time understanding that I FEEL things about this so deeply inside that I can’t just shake it off! Good to know it’s “normal”.. 😊

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Yep it’s normal. Just went through Napoleon, and now on David Hackworth. LOL. I’m on a military kick again right now. Jay

Omg. Facial expressions is such a huge, huge deal. It's like a security blanket because I feel the energy through the facial expressions and it allows me to match up with what I feel with what I hear. ~ 😅 I do the eye contact with my children and their response is funny sometimes. ~ I've done major research in hashimoto thyroiditis and herbs and other health factors. Plus, healthy relationships vs. behavioral problems.

I have always talked to myself! I’m so thrilled to discover I’m not alone!!! Yay!

Your points describe me well, except maybe running into doors. My specialty is missing exits because I'm deep in thought! I've had trouble with the "INFJ stare" too, and I now also make it a point to look away periodically when talking to someone. It seems to help. These days it's mostly video calls for work though, and I imagine some interesting papers could be written about the communications dynamics that happen there. Some people don't seem to grasp that others can see them in these meetings, the way they are obviously multitasking, or they way they react to what someone else is saying. Their faces and gestures as well as their words can be quite instructive. I like to say off video so I'm not observed doing the INFJ stare, scrutinizing them and trying to read their feelings.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing. Yeah, the door thing is more like being off about two inches and hitting my shoulder on the frame as I walk through. Thanks for your thoughts, I think INFJs have many similar experiences but not all are exactly the same. Jay

I’ve been known to just disappear from family gatherings. I can only take just so much people time before I’m exhausted. I’ve become an expert at leaving places without anyone realizing I’ve left.

Related to clumsiness when feeling the spotlight: I drive well - unless an officer pulls behind me. Then, I can’t maintain a speed, I can’t maintain a lane, and each goof ratchets up the stress and frequency of infractions.

When you’re standing by your car recapping what you need to do out loud and second guessing some things out loud and asking questions out loud (to yourself)...and there's almost always a person next to you wondering if they should call someone...*story of my life* 😂 and yes, phone-bia is the word of the day.

I too am obsessive with research about, well...everything!

Thank you! I've always felt like an alien here. Especially in high school, where people would be on the same page having a loud conversation and laughing, I was over on the side thinking, "What? Why is that so funny or interesting?" I like deep conversations. Nothing surface level.

Another excellent video Jay! Really well done and so spot-on!

I went down the rabbit hole of precious metals and coin collecting. Starting to buy some goldbacks and junk silver dimes.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

I get it! Haha. Jay

All of the above. I read the Bible out-loud. It helps with understanding any topic. I “ startle “, easily, as well. ☺️

@faithworks217

2 ай бұрын

Reading the Bible out loud is excellent. I do it every day. I watched videos by Paul Hegstrom, having heard his testimony at first on Sid Roth's program It's Supernatural. Paul tells about how it creates new neurons in the brain. He was able to recover from stroke by doing this, as well as get over childhood trauma. He has clinics where he teaches his methods, helping people recover from brain damage, PTSD, and even pedophiles have been cured of their obsessions. Paul says that when our brain hears us repeat what the Bible says in our own voice, it believes us more than it believes it when it hears other people read or recite the Scriptures.