7 WEIRD Contradictions of INFP Personality
INFP paradoxes?
See, we’re fiercely independent, but we also deeply value relationships with others. We want to be understood, but have problems communicating our real concerns. We love our solitude-but maybe not always.
Goodness, I think our contradictions never end! But it’s also why INFPs are unique and interesting individuals. It’s the reason why people can’t easily pin us down-but that’s what makes us mystifying, right? Right.
So, if you’re an INFP (or have one in your life), here are some of INFP contradictions for you to ponder.
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As an INFP, whenever people say that I'm not making sense, I 100% agree to it.
@azizulfikri8392
Жыл бұрын
The tangent that we go on in an explanation could be legendary yet alienlike
@soisyo4074
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. Sometimes people told me that I'm weird
@prixxiepie3426
Жыл бұрын
@@soisyo4074 same I would sometimes lose my mind and blabber random stuff without realizing what I'm saying to them
@sora5373
Жыл бұрын
@@prixxiepie3426sameee
@octo5042
Жыл бұрын
yeah, If I'm still waking up and I say some retrospective comment and theres silence.. I know I that I just made no sense.
It's a weird duo for us to be perfectionists and procrastinators..it's like I will do it perfectly but tomorrow 🥴
@cherhop1
Жыл бұрын
😂 this 😂
@DragonriderEpona
Жыл бұрын
And probably end up never finishing it because procrastination took too long 🙈
@tktekkers1991
Жыл бұрын
And perfection will never be achieved
@RonDiani
Жыл бұрын
So true 😂that’s so me
@RonDiani
Жыл бұрын
@@tktekkers1991 sadly not 😢
That fear of revealing ourselves too much thing hits home hard.
@bjornf8518
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I fear revealing too much, but I have a tendency to divulge too much anyway.
@AL-0114
Жыл бұрын
Fear of revealing but yet, want to be understands....i hate myself wth
@sora5373
Жыл бұрын
@@AL-0114same same.
@renatayuuki5705
Жыл бұрын
Like the police say: "you have the right to remain silent, anything you say can and will be used against you in court...."
@bewater6684
Жыл бұрын
I have tried all my life to reach others, to show myself. Its often that people criticises my answers. For being too long, for not getting to point, for not answering the question etc. But i always do, i just try to in a more meaningful way. I took ppls input and always kept my response short and straight. But today i was asked about feelings. And my answer was seen as too difficult For my depth to be dismissed just like that. am not trying again
As an INFP I'm actually scared of how accurate this is...
@farihanishat9795
Жыл бұрын
same
@0blbe1
Жыл бұрын
same! im like you know a little too much..
@cubanelly
Жыл бұрын
Me too
@SunTheDeamon
Жыл бұрын
Same 😭
@MsDogleaf
Жыл бұрын
for sure it weird
The thing about romance is sooo true.. Like as an INFP I imagine all the romance in my head but in real life I don’t even wanna look at anyone in a romantic way..
@candices6281
Жыл бұрын
I don't even believe it's real if they do it in real life
@VitarinCess2C
5 ай бұрын
Me too
@A_Black_Sheep94
4 ай бұрын
I wouldnt say anyone tbh but most people im not interested in yea
Us INFP's aren't comfortable going against people's beliefs. If we think someone is wrong but not harming anyone then we won't say anything. But if we see somebody hurting people physically or mentally, we will be the first to step in. Even though we are introverted. Our gift is that we can walk into a room without talking to anyone and yet recognise who you are
@candices6281
Жыл бұрын
That's a great description. I used to intervene, almost too much..in adolescence. Standing up for kids getting bullied or what not. But I went about it wrong and taught the bully nothing but their own tactics. Now I'm 40 and I have a lot of differing opinions, but I won't intervene unless it's actually potentially life threatening (work in healthcare)
Just last week I had to make an apology for confusing an individual and explain to them that confusing people was one of my gifts in life.
@MsDogleaf
Жыл бұрын
yes very much yes
@thatothamae1394
3 ай бұрын
confucius vibes
@The_elation_here
3 ай бұрын
It could be confusing others Along with confusing ourselves 💌
"INFP's are a tangle of weird contradictions..." Me, an INFP: Well, we're off to a very accurate start
this is great! I appreciated the point about INFPs not always being straight with other people. most ppl talking about INFPs in MBTI will say that we are all extremely honest and happy to go against the flow if we don't agree with something, to the point of standing out and voicing our own opinions, but personally, unless the issue affects me on a deeply emotional or moral level, I will tend to leave my opinions unvoiced a lot of the time to avoid conflict. it's a matter of getting to that point of trust and understanding with someone for me to open up in this way, so while I personally wouldn't lie, I would often do what this video says and keep my thoughts, opinions and beliefs a secret if it doesn't agree with someone else.
@tktekkers1991
Жыл бұрын
Us INFP's aren't comfortable going against people's beliefs. If we think someone is wrong but not harming anyone then we won't say anything. But if we see somebody hurting people physically or mentally, we will be the first to step in. Even though we are introverted. Our gift is that we can walk into a room without talking to anyone and yet recognise who you are
@MsDogleaf
Жыл бұрын
Yes this is why I dislike school opinion discussion or having meaningless talks with family
@dailycupofizzy
Жыл бұрын
THISSS. In my mind, I know what I like and dislike and I know my own beliefs, but sometimes it’s hard to voice that in fear of conflict, rejection, and the chance of being criticized. Whether I trust you or not definitely has a say in how much I share with you. I don’t feel the need to step up unless I feel compelled to. ALSO I don’t always say something if I feel that someone doesn’t care to respect or hear my opinion.
@Crazy_Chriz
7 ай бұрын
It’s crazy how accurate this is to me where I sometimes think everyone else acts like this lmao
@judipierry549
13 күн бұрын
I agree. But now that I am older, think retiree, I am less concerned about what others think of me and tend to speak up more. I do get odd looks but I tend to not care as much anymore.
I just shared this video on my Facebook feed, I am now partly terrified that too many of my acquaintances are going to understand me better now.
@appleraika
Жыл бұрын
Hahahahahah i feel you
@joannechua8266
Жыл бұрын
hahaha I feel you too! wanted to be understood but fear of being too exposed
@RosiesAndDaisies
Жыл бұрын
This s exactly what tears me apart with frustration.. i so desperately want others to understand a part of me but oftentimes they come with attention.. when that happens, i got flustered and withdrew back into the safe confines of my imagination (and into my home)
@MsDogleaf
Жыл бұрын
Oh nooooo that might be weird
@candices6281
Жыл бұрын
I considered it, and didn't for that very reason ❤😂
Finally something actually accurate! I swear most videos portray INFPs like they are highly empathetic and emotional with their head in the clouds and nothing else, this video actually takes in more aspects of INFPs.
@MsDogleaf
Жыл бұрын
Right! It so weird I know this is one of the best videos i have found
@jabingox772
Жыл бұрын
Right on!
@marshellethington1805
9 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@mathewerven9
6 ай бұрын
I couldn't agree more!
@A_Black_Sheep94
4 ай бұрын
The videos are often made by Non-INFP types so theyre just reading off a page.
INFPs are both all and nothing, never in between!! 😂 we're the embodiment of paradoxes 😵💫🤕
Omg! This made me feel so comforted cause I thought I was a train wreck now I see i'm only an INFP
@Izabela-ek5nh
Ай бұрын
As an INFP I can say I am a train wreck 😅
I am often accused of not being romantic enough... but I am In my imagination! This is a video that can help others tolerate us better!
@bjornf8518
Жыл бұрын
Amusingly (or not) enough, I, being an INFP, is the romantic out of me and my wife.
This is really true. As an INFP i can tell that when i reveal myself to much i tend to get into my own bubble and not speak to that person for a long time. When someone is like “I fell in love!” Im like: “Ok… What am i supposed to do with this information?” I just dont care.
@MsDogleaf
Жыл бұрын
I know right !!!! its one of my best friends i just tell them. But in as group i just say nothing
@Datsyoashley
8 ай бұрын
The falling in love bit is so relatable omg, unfortunately I rejected that person in a not so nice way but not mean either i just friend-zoned them
We really be dissociating and perfectly grounded at the same time for real.
Friend: "You're a very complicated person" : "That's my problem actually"
@judipierry549
13 күн бұрын
This trait even carries over to my medical history! All my doctors call me a mystery wrapped in an enigma, there is always something wild, weird and unexpected going on with my health, just like the rest of my life. 🙄
As an INFP, I do like my efforts to be recognized because it makes me feel like all my efforts paid off. But I don't like people overdoing their recognition of my abilities. Too much attention makes me uneasy. I am usually a reserved person. I seem aloof and indifferent to others. But with my homies, I become a different person, just like an extrovert. I also strive for the best though I procrastinate a lot. Despite contradictions, I believe that this type of personality is one of a kind. I love being an INFP, and I won't wish to change it for any other personality trait in the world. To my fellow INFPs, you are wonderful.
@candices6281
Жыл бұрын
I get outright bitter about it. But, true, I don't need a medal or employee of the month, just don't treat me like an idiot.
@fluffycorn_njst
Жыл бұрын
As a fellow INFP how do you internally accept how we procrastinate a lot? Even tho we strive to be the best we can be? As someone who’s confidence has been brought down so many times I feel like it’s a horrible habit whenever I procrastinate even tho I really *really* like to do my best in every work and task I do! Especially when I’m interested in them. And yet… I still have some annoying bouts of procrastinating…… 😔
@littleboss8160
10 ай бұрын
@@fluffycorn_njstjustifying procrastination is not something i believe you can do forever, eventually the bubble we hide in will schrink to nothingness. Sometimes you just have to ignore that inner (fill in urself) and get things done now. Something that doesn’t grow or evolves becomes depressed. I would be totally fine being locked up at home alone for months doing nothing, but my mind becomes darker tho. And even tho im comfortable with this, i know it’s no good in the long run. Your comfort zone only gets smaller and it gets harder to get out of that bubble which you eventually have to do anyway. I think it’s important, especially for infp’s, to seek discomfort from time to time. Also, self pitty might be the thing we justify a lot with. Don’t like to admit this but i think it might be true.
@ddp8972
10 күн бұрын
@@littleboss8160thanku your comment hit the nail on the head for me - I so needed that piece of wisdom 😃👍
I didn't want to be called out, but I clicked on the video anyway cuz I knew I'd be called out. Can we add that to the list of contradictions? Lol
I hate the feeling of over sharing but I love being open and honest. If something embarrassing happens to me I'm like, right im going to deny the existence of that event. Then I go straight to my sister and tell her all, let her laugh at me then ask myself why I did that, rinse repeat😂
@musicmaniac7337
Жыл бұрын
I have never in my life felt so understood
@paolo_damiani
6 ай бұрын
lol I can really relate!
It's true I like to be authentic to myself I just hate the word -fake My heart is stabbed when someone calls me fake
@whitneyrose9293
Жыл бұрын
Not everyone is worth the gift of revealing your true, authentic self to 🎁 Don't allow people's opinions of you, including labeling you as fake, to become your own limiting beliefs Find someone who understands you 💕 It makes all the difference in the world 🌍 It's rare that an individual is consistent and congruent in all of their interpersonal interactions Different people bring out different pieces or sides of you, for better or worse Find someone you can be whole with, who you feel connected to and is comfortable to be around ⚓
@blwlmnswg
Жыл бұрын
@@whitneyrose9293 ♡´・ᴗ・`♡
@MsDogleaf
Жыл бұрын
That must have sucked
I don’t want to share my comment because I will delete it later.
@impastabowl2328
Жыл бұрын
?
@StilliRise314
9 ай бұрын
That’s me for literally everything…
I feel like we INFPs are nothing but just all the contradictions in the world put together
My mother actually called me “an enigma” - one of the best compliments of my life!
@DHARK1873
Жыл бұрын
😢 May the Lord Jesus bring you a “second mother” who sees your WORTH. ♥️
as an INFP, I'm the type of girlfriend that'll go on a beach date with you, and say, "love, we're here for 3 hours, let's spend the first two together then I'll be needing my soulitude so i can sit by the sea shore, listen to gentle rustling of sea, feel waves gently hit my feet as my soul cleanses and my heart harmonises with the aquatic beings, while i watch the sky turn dark.. in peace."
Ironically, I struggled toward the end of Covid. The isolation really got to me and I'm very much introverted. Having said that, I love going to the office now but rarely talk to people. Just seeing the world go by without getting involved is enough for me, 🤣😂
@parinigam8498
3 ай бұрын
So true bruh. I just go by the day talking to the two friends I have while my having 1 minute talks with my other colleagues. I get along with everyone in my workplace but I just have two friends that I'm close with and hang out with😂
I tell people when they get confused and suddenly can't figure out how to talk and are too self aware, that I am contagious. I walk away and 5 minutes later the person I was with is back to normal. Isn't that something amazing?? Im so socially awkward that I make others feel and act like INFP's when I am in their area, and they are better 5 minutes after I walk away. True story
I’m just happy to know I’m not crazy! That this is just my personality. I mean I can work on these things, but knowing that this is how I’m wired makes it feel so much lighter.
INFP screams nuerodivergence. ❤
Ever since I was a teenager, I knew I was a walking contradiction. After checking out some videos about INFPs being contradictions, well, I feel less confused and uncertain about myself knowing that it’s probably part of my personality 😆
I feel a bit better about being an expert liar now. I hate lying but I’m really good at it and most the times it is a lot easier than being honest
this is very eerily accurate, an INFP speaking...
You are dead on about praise turning into obligation. I hate that
i absolutely LOVE being weird. and i also take pride in confusing other people
I got lost going to work after a vacation. I worked there for 5 years, and in the same state I was born and raised. I also forgot my phone. All the other points resonate as well. Thank you for posting this.
I totally feel attacked, 100% Thanks for this wonderful video 🤣❤
I once worked at a café, where all my coworkers had formed a few "tribes". They each hated each other, gossiped, backstabbed and were just generally nasty. I was never accepted into any of the tribes, nor did I want to be. I just got my work done and ignored their vitriol.
@rustyshackleford7984
Жыл бұрын
Did it ever annoy you that they gossiped so much?
@Hydra360ci
Жыл бұрын
Most likely not.... it's easy to cut people out of our circle when we're indifferent from them... though if we aren't indifferent... then it becomes a pain that never goes away. (hense...why we don't let people in unless we're really convinced... and often... we're wrong in our trust, anyways)
I agree mostly, but I don't lie to others, as you suggest, I can't lie as it goes against my sense of integrity! If I lie I would feel too awful about myself, so I just can't do it. I hate people who lie alot too, I use to find this more upsetting when I was younger but now I'm 68, I understand it more but I still don't like it, and don't trust people who lie. To me it's a sign of weakness. I perfer people who are genuine and rarely lie.
@kebah11
Жыл бұрын
I can’t lie either, unless it’s over something really insignificant. Instead for me I just keep my thoughts and opinions to myself, instead of lying to redirect them, I just don’t share anything at all.
@Hydra360ci
Жыл бұрын
Pretty sure that's not what she meant... she means that we hide are identy, by acting the opposite of what we really are. Basically... masters of fawning. We compromise by telling others what they need to hear, and not what we feel, which in, itself, is the lie.
@sebastianmichael5819
Ай бұрын
I'm also generally straight forward with my opinions but over the years I realized how mean I can sound sometimes withouth a filter, point is I'm not even saying it maliciously, it can be something as dumb as saying "your cookies are a bit dry", I say it thinking it will help them improve, but others would just say they are good, to be polite. Anyway it does get me in "trouble" (sort of ankward situations/experiences), so I try to tone it down or just keep for myself
So weird that a personality test has got me 100% lol
The revealing thing is true. I found that out yesterday. Me and my husband know each other for almost 14 years and will be married for 13 years in April. Yesterday I told him for the first time that I used to watch The X Files as a teenager! I was so ashamed of myself for watching that weird show, I was too ashamed to say anything! I mean we know almost everything about each other, but for some reason I kept it a secret that I used to watch The X Files as a teenager until yesterday. Now a favorite TV show is kinda a big deal for us INFP'S. It inspires us or keeps us in our dream world. So it was part of my personality that I kept hidden, till yesterday. And now everyone knows! 🤦🏻♀️ Why do I always over share? 🤦🏻♀️
@Hydra360ci
Жыл бұрын
??? I think that's just u. I used to watch that show... and SG1. And now... there is practactly nothing on TV that I like. Everything is reality tv...now.
2:40 I feel like this described my life, I really want freedom but I also want someone who would force me to work because I think the only way I will be able to work is if someone enforces it on me, otherwise I wont listen and not pay attention at all
@sebastianmichael5819
Ай бұрын
Can relate, being overly constrained sucks but sometimes I wish someone would just tell me what to do, make the choices for me so I stop procrastinating. If it was up to me I would probably spend most of my time alone minding my business, problem is I feel the need of going out with someone once in a while, but after that I just stop human interactions again, that's why my relationships hardly last long 😢
The way I relate to everything mentioned in this video is kinda terrifying
The personal space is so true. I have neighbours who like to pop up anytime they want and put their heads on my front door, it annoys me so much.
I feel like my brain is constantly in a state of 'omg you don't even know me, how could you hurt my feelings like that' but then when people ask me about my feelings it's also like 'I don't want to talk about it' >_
@paolo_damiani
6 ай бұрын
same!
@Izabela-ek5nh
Ай бұрын
Painfully accurate. This is me.
Exactly! It makes me so cringe to do all that romantic and caring shit fr like asking your partner -have you eaten your food , where are you , I want a kiss I mean idk it makes me cringe 😬
Now, I don't have to be indecisive whether I am INFJ or INFP. 😂😂😂😂 I'm an INFP. 😂😂😂
This is all me. So weird.
5 minutes of explanation of my entire personality
Been told so many times I'm confusing. This i relate to way too much
I mean... this is way too accurate..
That first segment about friendship is literally that meme with the girl dressed in black and the girl with rainbow hair. Opening up to people is tough and it takes a lot of time to analyse people from afar to see if they’re worth opening up to. But once you’re friends for a little while, you can talk, quip or do the absolute stupidest thing for hours. The concept of a friend group feels weird to me (especially friend groups… plural). I have three close friends of whom I know what to expect. We’re all introverted, but we can be unchained once we’re together. The third segment… Oh boy have I been procrastinating my writing more than I want to admit. That and other activities that are important to me, like lucid dreaming.
It’s scary that I relate to every single thing on the list... 😅😂
1:42 and this is where my photographic memory shines. i always know where i have been and where i haven't been. im never wrong and always right. 5:03 - 5:31 stop describing me with this much details already.. you're scaring me. i've got nothing to hide, and there is nothing you should know. The fact is, i desire or almost long to positivity due to the fact that im drawn to negativity which has a greater impact on me and my life. what im trying to say is, if i suddenly expose certain parts of my life, it means that i will be putting negativity on the table. what follows is me being drawn to the negativity and which quickly changes my mood and i will stay like that for a long time period. so. for you un-knowers out there, that's your answer.
This fits me… I have been wavering and after listening to several of these personality tendencies… this is explaining myself in a way that maybe I hadn’t thought of. Sometimes I forget that other people don’t necessarily process life the same way as I do.
I like being alone but with someone…. Just don’t get in my bubble when I’m in that mood ❤
So damn relatable ... I never knew myself so better than before , thank you ... Your videos always make me happy ☺️ and the voice is also soothing
wow... 2:55. this is true. the funny thing is you used my favorite emoji. 😑 this list is the most accurate so far. symphatetic but unconcerned wants recognition but not too much attention authentic but secretive
As an INFP who’s not always known I was one I’ve always said I was a walking talking contradiction
ISTG THIS IS THE MOST RELATABLE INFP VIDEO. EVERYTHING ON POINT AAAH
Omg the private part lol 190%me 😂💯
This channel is sooo underrated! Can’t wait to see it blow !!
Dang, this video read our mind fellas INFPs :))
I've come from another INFP personality video and it said mostly other things but I can say again that THIS IS ME. And congratulations, you literally started the video with answering my question. ;)
I... feel called out.
Loved the video! Thank you for putting it out there ❤❤ But, let’s normalize keeping it a secret that we’re secretive! 😂 like come on now
I'm soooo glad no one I know also knows about MBTI, Because I would be toast.
I hide everything and completely isolate myself, it's just an internal storm made up of thoughts feelings, and actions of the divine geometric shapes of cause and effect the true beauty of chaos 🙃
Each and every single line hit me like your other videos. It’s scary at this point 😭
Thank you for the video!
There’s so much of me in this video, it’s scary. I’ve been found out :)
sooo interesting thank you!!!💖 and your voice is really nice
❤Every viewpoint is so spot on!
I'm horrible with directions and I always get lost and I used to be a truck driver
this is my favorite channel. I relate to everything!!! I love you
It's been a while sinse I felt so well seen. In a good way. So thank you
Your videos help me to better understand myself...and it means so much! Thank you:)
I'm INTP... But I can relate to all that! Except for empathy... No, I'm not mistyped. I've done my research. INTPs are not robots, we have just as much emotions as anyone else, we just have trouble understanding them.
Thank you for all the effort put into this wonderful beautiful creative fantastic video :) u rock! As an INFP I affirm the accuracy of the points made!
So far, all your infp vids I've watched are so spot on
Resonates on every level. Tq☺️
Can relate so much this video helped me see myself more clearly and don't think I am weird 🙃
Amazing 💥
Very good video, accurate.
This hit me home way to much especially the first one
good stuff!
This is 100% accurate. 😅😅😅😅😅
This is the most accurate representation to infps
this is true, as an infp i'm very secretive that i didn't even answer my book(activity) i don't care if i got low grade. And actually i have to answer it now cuz i have no choice i have to reveal my self a lil bit.
can relate a lot especially the 7th point
This is scarily accurate...
Who here loves to imagine scenerios and talk to themselves in the mirror for hours
@impartialeggplant4438
4 ай бұрын
I usually do it in my head or out loud while I'm pacing. I recount some weird thing that happened that day and imagine I'm telling another person I know irl. Or maybe the entire plot to a show I love, whilst getting distracted a ton along the way.
@Izabela-ek5nh
Ай бұрын
@@impartialeggplant4438 I do the same! I speak and share but I'd never be able to do it so smoothly to this person in real life.
@impartialeggplant4438
Ай бұрын
@@Izabela-ek5nh which is a really hard thing to realize, because it hurts feeling like you can't express things that you need to get out. Knowing that the moment you try, you get nervous and fumble and every genuine sentiment feels lost.
Very very very true!
😂😅i totally relate to the list. Love the channel!
#7 is crazy accurate. I don't think I've seen it touched on in other videos I've seen.
you nailed it
4:49 it hit me so hard, I have a lot of friends including an enfj, and I want to tell him everything that happened in my life since I was born to show him how I came to be the person I am today, but at the same time I don't because I don't want my friend to think there's nothing more to know about me, or open myself to him while we may be not friends anymore in the future
Topic suggestion What kind of things will we learn easily and what takes time to learn I mean we are good with understanding complex theories but when it comes to hands on learning we take our time right.
Thanks!
@mathiascorner
Жыл бұрын
Appreciate this! Thanks 😊
Okay where are you hiding the cameras... kay but seriously i love that you are an infp thats making this video :3
..this.. it's so accurate.