I have 4 close friends from college. We’ve been friends for 45 years and I can’t imagine life without them. We get together at least once a year for “girls weekend.” One lives closer than the others and I see her often. I have local friends I met through a women’s club, and other friends I’ve met through volunteering. Don’t be afraid to reach out to people, or to leave them if they’re not your thing. The best thing about being older is you can do what you want.

My husbands work transferred us to a new city 23 years ago. My oldest left for college immediately. And youngest got involved in a new high school. I was not working and after months of no friends and no social life, I decided to go door to door to meet my new neighbors and ask the ladies if they would be interested in getting together once a month to play Bunco. I had no problem finding 12 women who said yes! We currently have 10 women who meet monthly at someone house, go out to lunch once a month and take a trip together once a year. All because I got up the courage to say hello. I’m so glad I did. 😊

I'm 66 and have always been shy. Over the last couple of years I have pushed myself into classes. The main thing that used to floor me was going into a group and saying good morning and sometimes you don't get a response and that's when I feel silly. Now I don't let that freak me out and I don't get in a state if I'm ignored. I just keep going and say good morning to everyone, it doesn't matter they didn't respond, I won't let it upset me. 😊

@doloresaquines1529

23 күн бұрын

Leigh. What kind of bad-mannered people are these types Who are unable to replay to a greeting?!

I’m 68 and also a bookstore type of person and am into anything to do with computers and automation. I also like long walks deep into forests with my German Shepherd. I have learned to enjoy being alone as there aren’t many people my age who have my interests. I often find humor in thinking I’m more of a geeky nerd with canine tendencies.

@jennywren8937

24 күн бұрын

Lovely, German Shepherds have been my loyal companions throughout my life, along with numerous other breeds which have found their way into my care. Peace in the countryside, enjoying nature and freedom with your best friend who accepts you just as you are. ❤

I am becoming shy due to lack of interaction. My friends are far away and now my friend nearish me died. Less interaction creates a vaccumn

@EC-yd9yv

8 күн бұрын

Hi.. as Margaret said, may be helpful to start chat online. Even here on KZread , then live interaction when comfortable, Library, book group etc.. cheers. 🌺🙏✨

Margaret, I love your look today! The color and scarf look fabulous, you’re glowing.

I've been a quiet/shy/introverted person since I was little. I have no close friendships. I had two children in my early 40's, one with special needs, so I don't really connect to young mothers and women my age are becoming empty nesters with new freedom. I don't fit in. I think I'm friendly enough, it's just having any time for myself is the issue. It's a strange place to be in, but my children are keeping me young and active 🥰.

@AuraDawn_Health

24 күн бұрын

Just to say, I know this channel is 60+ and I'll be 52 next week...hope I'm not encroaching lol...but I really enjoy your content.

I never realized how much of my socializing was attached to work peers, chatting with other horse owners, Bible study (dissolved due to marriages and moves/retirements) and caring for parents. I am an introvert and like quiet, but I know I really need to step out into volunteering,.....

If you join a new exercise, church, or hobby group maybe ask the leader before class if they would ask the group if anyone's interested in staying after or going to coffee for a chat with other members.

I tried this in the past. I lost 100 lbs by riding a bike 50 miles a day. A coworker suggested I join the local bike club and she told me to look in the newspaper for their next meeting. They were preparing for a bike ride up to a lake in the low mountains and back. I arrived at the backyard where the meeting was taking place. I hesitated and then took a seat and was there the whole meeting. I took their flyers and asked a couple questions about how I could help. Otherwise no one paid any attention to me. I showed up at the starting line...again no attempt from anyone to ask who I was or anything. I drove the route in case someone need to stop and needed a way to get their bike home. I ended up at the finish line, hung around a while and left all without being spoken to. I made attempts thru out the event. This is an example of how things tend to go for me so I have learned to relish my aloneness.

@deehelen4923

21 күн бұрын

Hi Cindi, I'm wondering if the cow person that told you about the ride was there. Even if the others were somewhat ignorant in not welcoming you I'd have though he/she would have acknowledged you. I'm sorry you were treated like that. That would have made me feel very I'll at ease. I'm a shy person too, but can strike up a conversation with a stranger but don't much like groups

I'm an odd combination of confident professionally & artistically, but personally, privately am a bit shy. I've grown a skill my Mom had which I always admired. She could talk to anybody, make friends w/ any stranger. A handy ice breaker can be a compliment. Someone wearing a striking tie or a color looking particularly good on them. Or pick something in the Room or environment you're in. Maybe comment on the Decor, or comments on the Food, instant conversation.

I learned that have the mindset that people will like you.

Hi Margaret, I'm shy but have very low self esteem from childhood. Those 2 together are a difficult combination. Off subject, I had to say you look beautiful, love your top and scarf.😊

@sixtyandme

17 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

I’m 66 and have lots of friends, for whom I’m so grateful! They are from all different arenas, childhood, college, work, etc etc. I’ve shed all toxic people, and have just the good ones left.😊

@vickisabo771

21 күн бұрын

I’m trying to shed a long term relationship and just when I think I was successful, she reaches out again. How to make this permanent?

Hello, Margaret, I’m also an introvert who enjoys people. There are probably a lot more of us than we realize! I found reaching out to new people intimidating, until I started expecting less from them. Being curious and exploring possible common ground is so much more effective than expecting the same closeness I may have had with other people! Closer friendships are more likely to happen when we allow each other the space to be comfortable. I love your medieval doors, and I miss Switzerland! Take good care. - Sheila

Thank you for another wonderful video. I am like you, I can adjust to any situation and be comfortable but mostly I enjoy my quiet alone time. I think mostly because it has been hard to meet any new friends. Moved to new town, not knowing anyone, to be near family. People are friendly but have their own circle. It is hard, but learning to adjust to this lifestyle. You are a wonderful inspiration ❤️

@sixtyandme

17 күн бұрын

You are so welcome!

I was always so shy growing up even though high school. When I started working in retail I just kinda got out it. I still don’t like to get up and talk in front of a crowd. Thanks Margaret for a great topic. ❤

Hi Margaret, I don't really consider myself shy, but I am very reserved . I have a couple of very close friends and have opportunities to connect with others where I live. Really don't feel a lack in that regard. Everyone's situation is different, but for most I don't think it is an insurmountable problem. 😊🌟

I am so challenged with this. Like yourself, in a social environment, I'm fine (usually). I easily talk to strangers randomly. They don't necessarily respond 🤔. & The beat goes on 🙄

@sixtyandme

20 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

Pink looks so good on you! I love your look today. And thank you for covering this topic which I am currently struggling with.

Never been "shy"in my life! Even as a child. But very very choosy as regards acquaintances. I also do not believe in the introvert and extrovert stuff. We are all a mixture of both IMO. People tend to approach me rather than the other way round. I do not have social media "friends', dont do Fakebook, and for me real life is "it". Be careful. If someone starts out with TMI then run a mile. You are not there to be a psych for the neefy of this world. Likewise, do not be a people pleaser. Healthy friendships have good boundaries. There are great, vibrant, positive, psychologically healthy people out there. There are also the opposite. Learn to read people.

Very informative, interesting and thought provoking...l like the one to one...openess and transparency is really good.. Thank you Margaret for sharing this topic... your wonderful lady ❤️

@sixtyandme

17 күн бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Thank you Margaret, this is so good to hear this morning! ❤😊

Hi Margaret. You always look great in pink. It must be your color. I live a very quiet life and love it. When I was young I was an extravert but now I am more 'retiring'. I don't have any friends from my childhood but I do have a friend of 30 years. We don't see each other a lot due to distance but when we get together it is always a lot of fun.

I'm basically a shy person too. Thanks for the tips Margaret.

@sixtyandme

22 күн бұрын

You are so welcome!

4 or 5 times a year I sell things at the fleemarket. And I always have so nice conversations with people there. The last time I went there , there was a woman, I really would like to know more. She was so my kind and we had a lot of things in common. But when the market closed, we both packed our things and said goodbay. So sad. I didn' t dare to say something. And she was there with a friend and I didn' t want to irritate. Mh, sad. Maybe I will see her again next time?

@karenr.sternberg1920

24 күн бұрын

Next time pls go for it, then at least you'll have tried, rather than always wonder. I think you're overthinking not wanting to irritate. Something simple like 'maybe we can get together again in the near future' or 'after the next Flea Market'.

I am a shy person and always been that way but i always had a lot of friends til the last few years. So now i dont and i tried social media, as you said in this video. A couple of months ago i was on Reddit one night, just chatting with people there. A woman wrote to me “ i like what you are writing and i want to be your friend”. Just like little kids do. I was so happy. She needed a friend just like i do. So we exchanged emails and for 2 weeks we wrote each other several times a day and told about our lives. We were just about to reach the stage of talking on the phone. So her last email to me, she wrote she is a huge Trump supporter. So she doesn’t believe a woman has a right to choose and she doesn’t care that Trump called for the January 6 insurrection because he did not believe in the results of the last presidential election so 7 people got killed in the insurrection. Well, i cannot be friends with someone like that. That turned out to be 2 wasted weeks. It is hard to know people you meet online and it doesn’t always turn out well. I am not ruling it out. I am just saying that this is what happened very recently to me.

@karenr.sternberg1920

24 күн бұрын

BummerAdrienne, I hear you about the waste of time & your input. But then again you TRIED; a small step maybe but it's progress. Better luck next time.

Good Friday morning🎉🎉🎉you look lovely in your scarf. Thing's are different now and people seem to be so 🤥 fake. I have two really good friend's, that I cherish❤ so I'm good. Be Blessed.

Looking forward to it. 🩵🩵🩵