Get your merch here: godlydating101.myshopify.com/?key=5087d197f30d685ad057a37733d39d45f428b77b700ebaa5007af2648335dacf I know there’s so many techniques and we only mentioned a few. So what are some that you have used or have seen?

@noraconnelly2584

2 жыл бұрын

I have learned that the only person that I can control is myself. When there is a disagreement or an argument, be the person to keep your emotions under control. It's not easy because to control our tongue means that we are fighting against our flesh. To speak words in angry emotion will pierce the heart of your partner & cause a wound that will leave a permanent scar. Lastly, saying I'm sorry & apologizing for the words you spoke or the actions you made against your relationship will never erase the scar that is left. Control your tongue & emotions, be patient & understand where your partner is coming from and TOGETHER, as a unit, talk things out work together as a unit. I have learned this & have taught my boys the very same thing, especially when I hear them in the idle of a disagreement. I will stop both of them and calmly walk them through the process in hopes they learn from it. God bless you both🙏❤🤗

@alexnoussi1146

2 жыл бұрын

@@noraconnelly2584 So profound, Thanks Connelly.

1. First Build yourself - have something to offer ,become your biggest supporter 2. Make yourself Available- have a welcoming energy - put yourself out there 3.Become his biggest support , pray for him 4. Build your own spiritual life, have a relationship with God first 5. Have a Humble spirit , submissive ,meekness 6.give him some space, be able to have your own life within your relationship 7. Be willing to challenge him to be better, be willing to call out his wrongs, Bonus: don’t put your business out there, be drama free , workout your problems not post them … be able to communicate your disagreement and work through them.

This was soo helpful! I didn't realize challenging and correcting a guy in a healthy way was a thing. I think that is apart of being a good friend to at beginning.

This is great. Im dating someone after 7 years of abstaining. It's an adjustment but I feel so grateful to have a man after God's own heart as my beau

@danilaroche1156

2 жыл бұрын

I hope he pops the question. May you both do His will .

@glowuplife

2 жыл бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 he didn't. He actually turned out to be a real douche. Im done with church. 🤷🏿‍♀️✌🏾🙏🏾

@whisk3825

2 жыл бұрын

Date for 7 years okay.Why he didn't marry you.7 years okayyy

@whisk3825

2 жыл бұрын

That's ridiculous sorry

@glowuplife

2 жыл бұрын

@@whisk3825?? You read wrong. I wasn't dating him for 7 years, I had been seven years abstaining when we started dating

Don't apologise for long videos!😆 I was so excited when I saw how long it was. This was very helpful, thanks guys💜

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you sis!

Having your own spiritual life is #1!!! With that you'll have the wisdom from the Holy Spirit and all other things will come AMEN

This is Nothing but the Holy Spirit ✨ To God be all glory!

@lucidarose613

2 жыл бұрын

I find it not to be biblical with the double standards smh.

This was so helpful, you even said a few points I haven't heard before, but they're so important!

Thank you guys for uploading, I’m going to apply these to my everyday life now, thank y’all so much. God bless ❤️

Hard truths! Helpful counsel. Thanks guys😊 Multiplied grace.

Great advice! Thank you!

Thank you both for this, also for giving good, down to earth examples. Love your channel.

Thank you so much fam. You guys are the best. Love you, God bless you ♥️

Haha your hoodie has a great message 😃🥰 That's the way. Very valuable content as well, keep it up guys ✌

You Both have so much visible respect for each other, it is beautiful to watch. Thank you

EVERY WORD you're speaking is 100% on point!! I've experienced & learned from all 7 points you make. I've also done my best to share this wisdom with my 2 son's & their girlfriends. Maybe it will be better received coming from you 2. THANK YOU BOTH so very much!!! ❤🤗🙏 God bless you both🤗

Don’t be sorry y’all! We LOVE the long episodes. Y’all are really helping us out here!

Great points as usual👍🏽📝 there's definitely a big difference between a man just liking you and him truly cherishing and Valuing you

Young ladies who are looking for love pay attention who you are listening to, This couple is amazing biblical based conversations and thoughts, praying for Derrick jaxn, but he is not gonna speak to you on this level Bible based truths!!!!

What an awesome young couple you are! I am 57 year old auntie divorced for 18 years still learning and growing. I was totally blessed by you all with this video. Keep up the great work and may God continue to bless you both❤

Thank you for this video. I agree with all points made. I desire a Godly relationship one day when God blesses me . This brings attention to the work we all should be doing to be able to have the tools and grace to have that relationship that honors God. So thank you for pointing out the importance of the individual work that God wants to do in us. God wants two whole people to become one. We must challenge our mentality and thoughts and submit it to the truth of the word. So thank you!

I think I messed up the last situation with the person I am interested in 😅 thank God for two males in my life who showed me what I did with my behaviour. Now I am hoping for a second chance if it is in Gods Will🙏🏻🙇🏻‍♀️

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Prayers up!

@audreynjanjo21

2 жыл бұрын

if its God's will or not , trust Him :)

@joycevanlaar4787

2 жыл бұрын

@@audreynjanjo21 I will, thank you 😊 At redifined tv they said women should learn how to be friends first. And a couple who are my friends, said the same thing. So I am trying to be friendly/friends, without expectations ☺

@danilaroche1156

2 жыл бұрын

Certainly God will give you another chance. That's what He does.Many chances!

Nice tips. Thanks for sharing.

Great stuff!! Great points! Thank you both!! May God keep using you for His kingdom!

Thank you so much for this. I look forward to your videos each time. Much love from Iowa :)

You guys are so adorable 🥰 It’s warmed my heart knowing that they’re godly couples out there …

What a beautiful couple as a older woman, I found this very refreshing and amazing just found this channel.

Very educative, stay blessed

Thank y’all for sharing!! Blessings!

So very good! Thank you!

Helpful conversation 👏

SUPER HELPFUL!! Thank you 🙏

Absolutely key points! Love this!

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Appreciate you homie 🤍

Thanks guys, sooo good!!

You have a beautiful wife and you both are blessing us with Godly counsel. Thank you!

This is great thank you!

Great content.

Thank you, so helpful!

Yes, I can overlook a lack of love, BUT RESPECT IS PARAMOUNT!

@someonespecial581

2 жыл бұрын

You need love too bro. Don't play yourself

@alexnoussi1146

2 жыл бұрын

@@someonespecial581 Sure!

This was so Nice !

Point 2🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️! It really feels like a lot ! Moreso when you hear many stories of how people met up their better half when they least expect it, it just happened as God sent the one through. But yeh great 7 points and thank you .

Good people!! Love it.

Thank y’all for the advice I appreciate it 🙂

That's a lot of wisdom... all true

I want that meek and quiet spirit!

We love your wife but we love you too. I love hearing what you both have to say. God bless

True.. I want be negative... that one. Blessings... 😇

If he’s at target..go there😂

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂🤷🏾‍♂️

So good!

Please do a video on boundaries when dating

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

For sure!!

Ur awesome Safa❤️

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️🥺

Love from Nairobi Ke

I looovvvee this and I love seeing Mrs . Safa 😊. I just love her spirit. Could you guys possibly do a video on just humbleness? I absolutely agree we need to understand the difference between being a push over and being humble. You guys have blessed me so much with all of your videos . I feel like I know you guys even though y’all have no idea I exist in this world lol

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

We distant cousins, just accept it Lolol. For sure

@seekinghimdaily92

2 жыл бұрын

I’m just going to jump in really quick and tell you, when it comes to the subject of “humbleness”… whether it’s related to romantic endeavors or not, humility is not something that can be faked and if you strongly desire to operate in authentic humility…. brace yourself for the journey you may go through that breaks you all the way DOWN to build beautiful character. 💐

Very informative

Thank you for this, because many men on KZread say they don’t care about a women’s eduction.But I always remind myself I’m a Christian and a lot these men’s dating advice will not apply to me. It is hard to let those videos not affect you. I’m in school to be a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner so I can practice therapy. And I’m praying to find a man who will support my career choice.

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! May God give you the grace to finish 💙

@gino9379

2 жыл бұрын

Its true tho. Really and truly womens education dont really do anything for us but i do agree that a lazy and entitled woman is unnattractive. That doesnt mean u shouldnt go into fields you are interested in. Get ur money and education but mske sure your character far outweighs that because thats what men really find attractive

@CeCe-os3ul

2 жыл бұрын

@@gino9379 I didn’t get an education for it to do anything for a man. Quite frankly it’s no ones business but mine. I did it for myself. Not everything needs to do something for men.

@CeCe-os3ul

2 жыл бұрын

@@GodlyDating101 thank you so much.

@gino9379

2 жыл бұрын

@@CeCe-os3ul if thats true then it shouldnt concern you that men say that on youtube. Pray u excel with being a nurse tho

Thank you so much

Can you make a video about online dating? What do you think of such sites?

Can I triple like this?! SO good!

Beautiful smiles!😁😁😁

Does this only apply when dating or just talking phase? Like the part about challenging him? When you say in the man you’re interested in…is that in dating only? Great episode! Loved it!!

New subbie!!!!

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for joining the fam!

Everyone needs Respect

I feel its late for me to do it God's way....I now know whats the right way. I learned too late, im 55 and had one failed relationship after another...I hope God gives me another chance at this new life in christ!

Great video and very informative. The tips were very helpful and gave me insight as to where I've turned men off. Where can I purchase your pretty wife's shirt?

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Testifyforever.com

The way I laughed when you said “he’s not going to break into your home” 😂😂😂

Yes. Christians shouldn't be mad at #5 as men are called to be the head of the house so we are to submit to them. I watched a miles munroe sermon being single part 2 and he explained this to perfectly. That in front of a good man is a good woman. So when the devil pushes on her she falls on her husband. Her husband in turn falls on the Spirit who falls on Jesus who falls on God.

@antonia5997

2 жыл бұрын

Ephesians 5:21 starts with submitting one to another. Both Husband and wife are to submit to each other

Hello, I know this is out of subject but can you do a podcast on christian churches who do harvest festivals

I like when both of you intervene.

2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV 14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? Wow I loved the part that you brought out about men who like clingy women and put every bit of them into them. that is such a dangerous situation because there's no room for a self and or God. Also men who want women to remove themselves from everyone else usually end up murdering that woman! The two of you touched on so many good points.

What does spiritual leadership look like during dating? Could you make a video about that?

@vaneenusa1776

2 жыл бұрын

This would make for a great video! Yes, pls do.

Yes, yes... Absolutely 🤗 Amen, it is so in Jesus name! 📖⚔️✝️😇💯

The guy is not going to break into your house! 😂😂😂 Also, Sister, I love your hair!

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

You’re so kind 🤍

@lisaworkoutfaithhopelove2257

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 I was weak when he said that. But at the sametime I feel sometimes that may be the only way for me

For real, tongue control is very necessary especially when women shoot words at you and don't care what you will feel regardless of it's true or not. That's a breaker.

@brittanyr1456

2 жыл бұрын

A person can only control themselves though so yes it’s nice to worry about if the woman has tongue control but be mindful if you control your tongue.

@alexnoussi1146

2 жыл бұрын

@@brittanyr1456 Sure Britt. Statistics showed that people who are easily hurt by words deeply mind theirs as well and when in doubt about hurting others, they deeply brainstorm and apologizes if need arises.

Haha... I could not have said it... Best. 😇

I need to be loved man. Respect should be inherent.

I like your hoodie💪🏾.Where did you get your hoodie from?

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Tovares - hungryforhim.org Safa - Testifyforever.com

I had to come find this video!! Somebody please help me this guy likes me and I like him back and I don’t know how to act

Old school , high quality men aren’t worried about women wanting what he has. He’s a real man. Weak men who are looking for a breadwinner woman are so plentiful today. Coercive men who listen to KS are not whole men. Quality women won’t level down to less. Women who do the most while he lays back and does whatevet he wants with whomever are women in desperation. Men who are insecure are afraid to approach. Women chasing and shooting their shot are highly usable to men, but not high value women.

One question? Where you get that white wedding band from ?

1." Build yourself " skill wise and financially 2. "Make yourself available." 3."Be his biggest supporter." 4."Build your own spiritual life" 5."You must have a humble spirit." 6."Give him some space." 7."Be willing to challenge him"

What if you have problems showing you’re available to be noticed because you’re shy?

Where did you get your holy humble hungry hoodie?

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

hungryforhim.org

On a personal relationship level with God, people should avoid dissing their ex's on social media anyway. It's a form of gossiping, and even if you've been legitimately hurt/betrayed by the other party, God will not favour idle lips. It's making God's word on gossiping, returning to him void. This is something God spoke to me, when my ex was dissing me and our 24 year marriage on his FB page. He was the one who chose to leave through adultery, but he was dissing me. It didn't come often, but there were several temptations to start defending myself on my page. Start telling my side of the story, so to speak. But the Spirit said, don't even go there daughter. That is beneath Christ, whom you are seated in. Listening to the Spirit, drew me closer to God and sped up my healing process. It matters more what God says about you, than others do. I really needed to lean into him on that. So if the temptation ever comes to start dissing your ex on social media, put your flesh in it's place by praying for the spirit to counsel you in God's truth.

Lol…the thumbnail tho

This was amazing! The only thing from this video I didn't wholly agree with is when Tovares, you mentioned that women can overlook the lack of respect, and that men can overlook the lack of love. I do believe that the Word directs it specifically is because it may be the things we value the most (women - love and men - respect) so it's significant, but it doesn't mean that we can overlook the lack of the other in a relationship just because we need the other more :)

@MH-cv5ye

2 жыл бұрын

Without affection and love, I'm out.

How can I challenge my man in the things of God?

Do you think a women can hint that she interest and have interest first or does the man always have to find the girl?

Great channel. Do you offer Zoom classes?

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Are you referring to community and group chats? Check out our Patreon.com/GodlyDating101 If you’re referring to counseling, yes we offer that as well! Link is in our bio to set an appointment.

@gem4365

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for letting me know. I will be contacting soon. Godbless

Guys as soon as I get a stable income I'll be a patreon member.

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

The fact that you support us is good enough. Thanks for your kindness fam.

@alexnoussi1146

2 жыл бұрын

@@GodlyDating101 Always Tovares.

I’m still waiting for the smile..

Many humble women are coerced by men into abusive situations. Submission is not the same thing as abuse Many of the best women are single because of low self esteem men who expect to be in charge need her to be a doormat.

@Val-vc7sk

Жыл бұрын

Yes some men have used submission so negatively that a woman who has been in this situation does not want to hear those words, but guard your heart and watch his actions! Does he submit to God’s word. How can you submit to him if he never opens the Bible to read what God ask of him as a husband.

Yeah ok I’m disabled. You just proved why I get discriminated against

Where is the wife from? I hear a beautiful accent

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Haha, born in Jamaica ❤️🇯🇲

I must admit that Kevin Samuels guy taught me humility! Lol... but it got confirmed by godly advices like y’all so thank you so much for all you do. GLORY TO GOD for your work.

@Val-vc7sk

Жыл бұрын

Kevin had some good points but he was very secular in his views. Thinking that a woman isn’t worthy of a relationship after her 30’s is not helping women who are waiting on a Godly man. Men that are looking for only young women who wear a size 4 in dress, yet they don’t workout or eat healthy are hypocrites! We come in all shapes and sizes and if that’s what Kevin likes great, but not all men go for slim girls, some men like them curvy, thick, etc… Love for women is something Kevin did not have but he wanted respect.

What does it look like to be supportive to the guy you are interested in other than words of affirmation? This is a serious question.

@GodlyDating101

Жыл бұрын

It all depends on his love language. You can do all the right things, but if it isn’t how he receives love, you can feel like you’re not getting through to him.

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I’m definitely a victim of the resting B face.

What if the girl is underage.. I don’t want to force myself into a relationship with a girl that’s 4 years younger than me.. but if I feel as if god approves I don’t want that to be the reason I can’t pursue..

@user-ln6pu7kq9j

2 жыл бұрын

Well it depends what you mean by “underage” 😕. I’m assuming you just mean the age gap between you is more than you expected. Tbh though, 4 years difference is nothing at all. If she’s legally/biologically underage then that would be messed up on your part. I would be careful with how you phrase certain things.

@seekinghimdaily92

2 жыл бұрын

Stay within legal boundaries. A 4 year age difference in general is NOT a strange age gap… that’s pretty much in the same age group. With that said, please don’t pursue underage women and don’t go into the relationship with the desire to control and manipulate… that is self-serving and cruel behavior.

"Natural angry resting face" I feel attacked🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

Lolol

How do you make yourself available

@GodlyDating101

2 жыл бұрын

There are plenty of ways. I’ll make sure I get Safa to make videos on this sis

@janegracemwamba5151

2 жыл бұрын

@@GodlyDating101 thank you But when you are talking about "interested in" you mean a guy you like right,and not yet dating..I think there at ways we make ourselves available but dudes can't just see it..unless they aren't interested in you 😐

@jackiekurtz6494

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking that too. Cause I am a private person and there were a few times I had my profile public BUT was not being followed by Christian people, only worldly people or some that were just desperate for friends and/or creepy old dudes. I quickly went back to private.