Pay very close attention to the way someone talks about others, because that’s the way they are talking about you

@23STEVO23

2 жыл бұрын

yeah that's spot on

@donquihote6023

2 жыл бұрын

So true!

@Rockstar-kw7bz

2 жыл бұрын

Facts 💯

@kellymiller9641

2 жыл бұрын

not true! some times you need to vent and you trust certain people,but you don't trust certain people in able to vent! I have a few very good and true friends!

@TheTreasureSeeker01

2 жыл бұрын

@@kellymiller9641 then vent to family, not coworkers. Or at least take it to HR. This is not what I meant.

Dealing with fake people can be exhausting and such a waste of time.

@theinsightfulvisionary0197

2 жыл бұрын

It really is!!! That's why when I detect fakeness with someone, I cut them off!!! They don't deserve any of my time!!!

@PlayshotKalo

2 жыл бұрын

Yes they are. Some of them want constant attention and expect a lot from you, when they haven’t actually benefited you in any way but are trying too hard to convince you about how great they are with all their grand promises that will never happen. I don’t trust people who depend on flattery to win me over for this very reason

@marcoamato4757

2 жыл бұрын

They are psichic vampire(they drain YOUr vital energy)

@cinnamon5124

Жыл бұрын

Just a bunch of Black holes. Swim away my friend and let them have their little masquerade till death. I have better things to do

@valenciawalker6498

Жыл бұрын

It is

Letting them in on your good news will show you just how they feel about you by how they respond...if they have to force being happy for you, they are not your friend!!!

@rubyred3860

2 ай бұрын

I agree! Changing the subject or just being completely silent as well is another sign.

I don't need signs to know. If somebody is fake, i simply know.✌️

@stilokaydiaz

6 күн бұрын

Amen!

The sad part is betrayal never comes from your enemies

@Her_shey_bar

Жыл бұрын

NEVER!!! I still be at wits ends thinking how I was betrayaled

@Ikr2025

Жыл бұрын

@@Her_shey_bar Sorry to hear that. It is incredibly painful both emotionally and physically.

@angelapursley2811

Жыл бұрын

BAM and DAMN sooooo correct

@lisalinnae9844

Жыл бұрын

So true... but in the end a betrayal. Is a portal to get away.....

@MileeOpenClosetLLC

Жыл бұрын

@@lisalinnae9844 makes sense

I stopped caring for fake people, i became more distant to protect my sanity.

@OceanicPearlz1

Жыл бұрын

Same here im trying to

@sandreyagriffin3355

Жыл бұрын

Facts ❤

@defpikaleon2063

11 ай бұрын

Same

@rubyred3860

2 ай бұрын

Same 💯 it’s the safest and brings serious peace of mind ❤

Forgetting details could just mean someone is generally forgetful or perhaps they have something stressful on their mind. Plans that never come through, I generally agree but again sometimes people have stress in their lives, so that holds them back too. The thing to remember is people have stress in their lives and sometimes health problems. So you should pay attention to signs but be careful not to misinterpret them.

@GhostSal

Жыл бұрын

@Jesus Christ Agreed. Something he didn’t mention but really stands out to me as a red flag is someone that comes up to you and acts like your best friend but the moment someone else comes around they will drop you mid sentence to go talk to them.

@CviliC

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! I smoke weed and have a lot of stress in my life and sometimes health issues. This is the main reason I cancel, can't concentrate and forget things. Its not because I'm fake or dislike someone.

@denisesanders8417

Жыл бұрын

Also people with ADHD struggle to focus with eye contact or remembering..they can get distracted easily

@dande_lion

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for mentioning this. Especially, people with ADHS can struggle with that and might have to cancel appointments cause they didn't get things done on time. I think, nowadays, a lot of this might get interpreted as toxic behaviour, when people are just struggeling with life.

@AnimeEG1

Жыл бұрын

I'm seeing the ADHD comments I have it as well. I've struggled with the same things you guys have mentioned, but one of the main complaints that people have when we miss things or don't focus is, "if it were xyz you wouldn't forget, or you wouldn't miss." And while it still can happen. There is some truth to that. There is a neurological reason why that happens with us, but this is a general message. If it's an oddly specific reason like that, odds are its already gonna be known so there wouldn't be speculation on fake behavior anyway unless they truly don't understand you to which you should probably cut ties anyway. My point is that despite that fact, if a person really thinks about you all the time and wants to talk to you, even if they're not able to they will find a way the second they can, unconsciously, instinctually. And if they are just shut down generally, fine; but if that behavior is not consistent across all people they consider close, like for example they seem to forget your plans and conversations, but make plans with people at the drop of a dime easily, or telling you about other conversations they have with other people, then they just might be being fake with you, or not care about you as much as you think, or even they think they do. ADHD and weed isn't an excuse in that situation. Weed is a choice (for most unless medical which again, you would already be aware of an have no cause for speculation) and ADHD affects and debilitates us at varying levels per person greatly, but it doesn't mean we aren't capable of doing things consciously and purposely either. P.S. I know the comments made as you grow up, they're hurtful. It's also out of your control, but you gotta accept it and move past the trauma related to the undiagnosed ADHD days and ignorant comments. You know why you do things. Work to make it better, take back control, and don't make excuses with specific examples for people disrespecting your time. Don't got time to focus on that, literally lol we got ADHD, hyperfocus on your dreams and success, we got this.💯💯😁

I think it's important to differentiate between "fake" and "not aligned." People who are being fake are aware of their intentions whereas people who are not aligned with you, simply don't identify your value or feel as though your value is beneficial to them but still recognize the need to treat you with empathy. Huge difference between a fake person and a nice person. Nice doesn't always mean being pleasant, but really just doing the right thing. A nice person isn't always aware of their intentions either.

You can also tell when someone is talking behind your back, when mutual friends/acquaintences treat you differently....I have resorted to categorizing users as "takes". So many have made the mistake of taking my kindness for weakness...after 55 years of trying to "treat others as I want to be treated" and being compassionate and generous...it has finally dawned on me that there are very few who have the same outlook,and my circle became very very small almost overnight....how sad

@Serenissima3

2 жыл бұрын

Your experiences in life mirror mine unfortunately. And it is not just a few bad apples either. Over half the population are fakes and takers and betrayers.

@brianrooke2338

2 жыл бұрын

I wonder if there was a missing part to that saying. Maybe it should have gone something like this: "Treat people who you've thoroughly vetted to be worthy of you're time and attention how you want to be treated and discard the rest". Sounds harsh but think of the consequences of doing it the other way: you remain surrounded by fake people who leech away your energy, time, patience, resources, etc., etc., etc....

@nikicarrie4071

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. We just can’t .?it’s a loose battle. Nobody is this way. I think 💭 that was said by somebody who wanted to get over on people and needed victims

@patriciavandevelde5469

2 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@elykmuldron3287

2 жыл бұрын

You're not alone, the human spirit is in a state of decay from all forms of media and fluoridated water/GMOs, etc. It really baffles me how people lie to themselves and don't see themselves become old and colder inside...more irritable & indifferent towards on another, etc.

1. They forget everything you say in every single way (they should be listening) 2. They make fake plans with you 3. They don't make a real effort at all (busy people get things done) 4. They're selfish (they always want something from you) 5. They gossip (vibes speak louder than words) 6. They lie all the time 7. Betrayal

@carolinelaronda4523

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊. Was hoping to find a list .

@mariankeller5852

2 жыл бұрын

Gee..this is everyone I've ever known in my life 🤔😁🙄

@georgevavoulis4758

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like 90% of the people I encountered in my life 🙄

@im1who84u

2 жыл бұрын

Whenever I think I want to watch a video like this one. I always look for a comment like yours. Thanks.

@abryepenez124

2 жыл бұрын

Fake people always want validation

A person is also fake with you when they arent there for you , during your suffering ,insisting they only want to hear good things ,and never allowing you to express your feelings . Everything you said here is so true.God bless uou always.🌹💖💖🎉🌷

@OceanicPearlz1

Жыл бұрын

Well sometimes I was acting fake… to my bestfriend by not being there for her while I was going through something too and I really shouldn’t have distance myself and I am still beating myself up for not living the pain with her… and not being there- I hope God knows That I am really hoping that this is not the end of our friendship

@lanag9318

Жыл бұрын

@@OceanicPearlz1 Thank you for your kind thoughts .She loses out in the long run .Wishing you a Happy New Year.God bless you always.🌹💖💖🎉

Please don't forget that your friend could also be depressed when they struggle to get back to you and/or keep trying to make plans but tend to cancel them. Depression is extremely common, way more than you might think and many people are too scared or ashamed to tell their friends and/or family. So please take that into consideration and at least maybe try talking to them before dropping them completely.

@mylink.orb17

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Was hoping I wasn't the only one to realize in real life it isn't so black and white

@leomduffy794

Жыл бұрын

But if it happens over and over it's completely disrespectful.

@Jewelkraft.

Жыл бұрын

Great point. . 💕.

@NicoNobody

Жыл бұрын

@@leomduffy794 Illnesses don't care about disrespect; that doesn't mean the friend doesn't. That's why I said to talk to people before dropping them and not just told everyone to be a doormat because "maybe depression" :)

@livlo2334

Жыл бұрын

Ty i was just gonna write this

I feel so bad that I’ve been around fake people my whole life!

@LaWendellyn777

3 жыл бұрын

I know your pain.....my entire family is fake !!

@pontiacuploads1953

3 жыл бұрын

My whole life i am dealing with fake people.but these tips will help me . I can detect a liar and fake person. Thank you sir appreciate so much

@Realtalknewyorkwithjanique

3 жыл бұрын

@@LaWendellyn777 that’s sad 😢

@Realtalknewyorkwithjanique

3 жыл бұрын

@@pontiacuploads1953 so true!

@sharilyon5983

3 жыл бұрын

Janique, so have I but it's because I believed more in the goodness of bad people. I had to stop doing that!

A quote from a lady named Jess....”if you need a person to agree with you and see the world like you in order to value them, then you don’t love people, you love yourself.” Something to think about!

@pissonthe0fighteverybody276

2 жыл бұрын

I like that so true

@catherinepunyanitya1231

Жыл бұрын

Thankyou. It is true,

@tobymahaney7219

Жыл бұрын

Nicely said, I agree

@theresaguilfoyle5795

Жыл бұрын

A lot of narcissists around

@organicphoto

Жыл бұрын

This is only true if everyone shared the same values but the fact is there are many people who either do direct harm and/or look the other way when people they support do harm- those people don’t fit into your truism and should be fought/devalued.

OMG the statement “vibes are louder than words” I needed this information in my life

Yes, the Lord had this message sent to me in confirming individuals I am dealing with are false.

@alexshamercedes7039

7 ай бұрын

Amen sis

@alexshamercedes7039

7 ай бұрын

When the lord speaks- believe him

@alexshamercedes7039

7 ай бұрын

These people will even try to manipulate what God has shown to you ( watch your back) from experience

For starters, when someone isn’t being themselves, you can never fully trust them. That means you can’t trust them with your information or problems, and you probably can’t share your good news with them either

@mariano7699

3 жыл бұрын

Your opinion is an national genetic here in Ireland, so it won't perplexe ...🇮🇪

@Anonymous66890

2 жыл бұрын

Yes you definitely can’t share your good news with them they will get jealous of you!!

@onnik-k7584

2 жыл бұрын

Any information you give can be twisted to something bad, "a weapon or tool" against you. No matter how positive or good it might be.

@jellie3969

2 жыл бұрын

its so hard for INFPs to live in a society like this 😩🤚

@katielove9932

2 жыл бұрын

That's right! It narrows down to "Trust".

This video really hit home for me. I had people like this in my life and recently cut them off. I no longer give my time to people who don't appreciate me.

@kennethhall9202

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@dennisrobinson8008

2 жыл бұрын

Self respect and reciprocation

@mothermcready4417

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@GG-mx9fj

2 жыл бұрын

Know your worth. I’m glad you’ve had the realisation, there will be some loneliness but at least you’re in good company ;)

@triciaanaya3488

2 жыл бұрын

I had a best friend "so called" for close to twenty years I put up with so much crap from her we were like sisters but it finally got to the point I had to cut contact with her it hurt but it had to happen it really hurts when you care for someone your that close to you truly don't know at all and had to cut ties with I'm sorry for you because I completely understand the feeling

And even your instincts can pick up bad vibrations...you will just know when you are around fake people🤞

What I learned so far throughout my life is that no matter how good you are, no one will ever have the same heart as you, and if you happen to come across someone with the same heart as you that is rare and you should keep them close, most people want to waste your time or betray you and your trust for them

@ak5235

Жыл бұрын

But most people feel that way. What about those that don't and truly want friends

I hate it when someone keeps offering to make plans to hang with you and disappoints you by not following through. Just don’t offer.SMH

@soniadaywalker7596

Жыл бұрын

I have a colleague like this. But when she needs something from me she will be all good and kind.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

That has happened to me many times. I gave up saying YEAH, SURE! NOW I SAY, "I CAN'T MAKE IT."

@Serenityblu23

Жыл бұрын

For a few years I would invite a friend to hang out with our mutual friends. She would say she was free and she was going then call the hour we should be there to say she couldn't come. It was this year we me made plans and I was the one who canceled and she was mad and angry about me it. She still mad about it.

@Yarblocosifilitico

Жыл бұрын

I've gotten "call me if you're feeling bad" (while depressed) and then I do and next thing I know is the next day when the person needs a favor... Then same again the next week. Now I just smile like 'sure, I'll call you...'

@daniellee1722

Жыл бұрын

@@jannlewandowski5540 I wish I can say that to certain ppl and if they ask why just say “because I don’t like you”

Yes I know that's why I stick to myself you're lucky if you have one true friend

@OldTimerGarden

Жыл бұрын

You know it Sister.

@garyabbott3861

Жыл бұрын

It would seem that the desire to have a real friend is more universal than the desire to be a real friend. Since the only difference is the amount of energy required in either case, I am left to think that having a friend is easier than being a friend.

@winniem8378

Жыл бұрын

That's the thing they are none you ur own friend. When you are broke you are broke when there's no one to talk to you talk to ur self which are the best conversations to have. By the way

@reinaspies7501

Жыл бұрын

I second that, my mother always used to tell me, "My girl if you have more than 5 friends you have too many"... the reason for this is because so few people are real and honestly want to be your friend 100%. Being someones friend takes alot of understanding and love and effection and emotion, so it works visa versa... I have wasted so much time trying to be the right friend for the wrong people and it almost broke me once, the rejection time and time again was just too much. Now, I dont hurry into a friendship unless the other person is sincere.

@pahatsathit6635

Жыл бұрын

Sad but true. Unfortunately, most people are fake. I prefer the company of my dogs and cats to people.

Honestly I think #1 about remembering details is the only one you truly need. If someone is really engaging with you and takes an interest in what you're saying, they'll remember things you said and bring them up in future conversation without prompting.

Good job!! Don't listen to what people say, watch what they do.

Something that I have noticed about people that are betraying me, is that when other people are present, and witnessing the interaction, the betrayer is careful to reply patiently in full, well thought out answers, and appears interested, affirmative and welcoming. When onlookers are not present, or in direct messages, its like they are having a bad day, or something ( one word replying and distracted ).

@Kari_Michele

2 жыл бұрын

Yup, so true, spot on 🎯💯

@pierrettelaf9728

2 жыл бұрын

You talking about your husband

@triciaanaya3488

2 жыл бұрын

Been there I know what you mean..

@triciaanaya3488

Жыл бұрын

I've been taken in and taken advantage of but I've gotten to the point where I haven't fallen for that from anyone again but I know one thing I've never done nor will I ever use betrayal as a vice against anyone it doesn't interest me I walk away from that

@xavierxclusives1842

Жыл бұрын

Woah u took it to another level that's is ssoooooo truw

I have a family member like this. She's always trying to act nice to me, but in reality she's just being fake with me. All of these signs are actual guys.

@georgiachatzitheodoridou3806

3 жыл бұрын

There is a family member from my husband's side who 's very bad behaviour towards me without any reason. This person turns the head to the other side when seeing me and tries to make me feel worthless. It talks to my children and reacts as if I am not present It hates me without any obvious reasons. I know that 's a problematic person, jealous of me. The bad thing is that I have to face that person and this is going on for years and years. I don't see why this happens.

@wouldntyouliketoknow1894

2 жыл бұрын

:(

Truth! I am so done with fake friends, fake family, fake people. Keep your circle small and true

A lot of people are only around when they want something from you. But if you ever need something, these people are nowhere to be found.

I like when I read the comments, that they’re always about other people. So where are these fake people at? 😂 No one is perfect, and I think we should all do a self examination too!

@OceanicPearlz1

Жыл бұрын

Yes self examination indeed… right here. I regret not being there for my best friend and now she doesn’t think I was a friend…

Very true words. I'm a senior and now that I look back on my life, I can now see that there were very few true friends. Most people in my past were only nice because of what they could get from me. This saddens me to the core.

@barikiwa22

Жыл бұрын

Never regret any of your experiences, it has built you stronger. Regardless how painful it was, be glad you passed it safely.🙏

@shendaraalshedir1933

Жыл бұрын

I am nearing 62 & yes, we unfortunately understood a very painful lesson many in life were lucky to skip over.😕🌈☮️🇨🇦

@kajunheart871

Жыл бұрын

I totally understand. I went to a workshop about 5 years ago and did an evaluation on how each person effected my life. I always thought of myself as having so many friends that even in old age we’d sit around together in a nursing home together. After I did the evaluation, I found I only had 2 friends that met the requirements of being a equal friend. I was crushed to figure out so many people were my friends because of what I could give them and I never noticed they never gave back. I wrote them all letters basically writing them off, ending the friendship with reason. It was and still is painful to think about. I don’t regret any of it, each of these people brought small pieces to my story in my life. They became toxic and had to go. I’m down to 2 friends now, I can depend on them 100% to be there for me, it goes both ways. I sure wish they’d have taught this lesson in first grade 😊

@ladonnaramirez1533

Жыл бұрын

​@@kajunheart871 this sounds wonderful! so sorry but so glad you got rid of them.

@kajunheart871

Жыл бұрын

@@ladonnaramirez1533 Thank you!

So true about people running their mouths but not owning up to anything!! 😢

Thank you for this video. I have a family member or two who exhibit these words and behaviors - I have been hurt with betrayal and lack of care or concern except to gossip and lie. I get it now and do not interact for long once I begin to see these signs in people. This is valuable information so that you are not drained dry or take it too personally as they aren't really interested in developing a true reciprocal relationship.

I'd add another one. People who have the nerve and audacity to tell you something negative someone else said behind your back or a complete slanderous lie about you but won't tell you who said it. People like that boil my blood with ire. People like that are worse than the ones slandering and talking about you behind your back because they're protecting the filth.

@StardustDNA

Жыл бұрын

It may not be others saying it behind your back though? Could be the person actually telling you such (they may be the actual back talker)

Just three signs in and I have a couple people in mind that I have cut ties with and almost completely cut ties with. No time for the drama and pain these people give. Thanks for making this video.

Yes! I really like your straightforward and completely honest truths about this. I've been on both sides and I can truly relate to almost each number on your list. I am someone who truly did change my mind as you put it...or I call it a change of heart. Being honest and real with people has been the most rewarding experience and has deepened my relationships in all ways as well as with anyone I come in contact however brief.

YES !! Great video Daniel 👍👌

Even if they are busy they will still have time for you!💯

Yes, thanks for bringing this level of clarity to me through this video♥️

Thank you so much for making this, I needed this today. 6 years I have spent being played by someone who I believed but the last 4 months I started to catch on to their bullshit, and I began to question EVERYTHING and lied too, fake bull crap, just whatever they thought I wanted to hear just to get what they want from me....

I'm actually guilty of a lot of your points...but it's because I'm an extreme introvert and have emmense social anxiety. It actually takes a lot of effort to break down my wall. I am the most loyal and caring person to the people I encounter though. I never wish ill will on anyone, friend or stranger, and I never gossip.

@makmusikchi

2 жыл бұрын

I’m the same. I’m introverted with crazy social anxiety and not the best at picking up on some social cues. I’ve also been stabbed in the back and fucked over many times so I am very hesitant and careful who I let in my life. But once they in they get all my loyalty and devotion

@supriimacy_7056

2 жыл бұрын

@@makmusikchi must be a 🦂

@flowerpower9541

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@nancyfunk615

2 жыл бұрын

I agree…this video slaps misguiding labels on a lot of things that can be attributed to mental health

@stephaniec.4905

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for bringing this up. We often don't like to acknowledge that we may well be making the same mistakes we so often criticize in others. But as long as we keep receiving validation of our views, we won't get challenged to wonder if maybe we play a part in perpetrating toxicity in relationships.

This is exactly why I would rather hang out with my dogs then 99% of my so called friends. I have distanced myself from most of them. Toxicity takes a permanent vacation! Btw my best friend of 35 years betrayed me. After 35 years how could she? WTF She’s gone from my group of friends. I will not tolerate me being treated like that.

@Yoda-em5mt

Жыл бұрын

Yep people are mostly bad dogs are way better in fact all animals are real , sound s racist but most white people are fake and yep i,m white .

@TheJeanette53

Жыл бұрын

How sad. It sounds like you’ve never had a true friend.

@Yoda-em5mt

Жыл бұрын

@@TheJeanette53 no its not sad i have one real friend i,m happy being alone 😁

@licksnkicks1166

Жыл бұрын

@@TheJeanette53 yes I have had many “friends’ I finally had a dear friend if 35 years stab me in the back until I was dead. I would rather be by myself then surround myself with ppl. I despise most ppl. Especially ppl that say I have never had a true friend. I am 56 and have learned a few lessons a long the way. Maybe you base your self worth on the fact that you have a few close friends. I don’t care. I love me and I am number 1. I look out for me.

@themaincat85

Жыл бұрын

I can relate.

Great Video, Solid Advise and great delivery.

You are completely right about this subject. In fact you are so on point that I now know that I never have had a real person in my life, especially family. Thank you for the insight

3:57 That’s so true. *“it takes 2.5 seconds to text HI. There’s 24 hours in a day, if I’m not worth 2.5 seconds of your life then you have no spot in mine”*

@supasmits

2 жыл бұрын

After that to, they'll say hi how are you and then its a lot of typing to explain your day ( or worse , nothing) bye .... Maybe ppl dont lije small talk and dont text if they have nothing to say & it may stop that other person whos busy actually doing something at the time

@petricamarcelle4730

Жыл бұрын

So true

I love being a giver. My love language was never words of affirmation but instead acts of service. I love making those I love feel good about themselves and add some happiness to their day through the acts I do for them. Never had any problem making friends and having romantic options, everyone wants a giver right? Except very few are actually givers themselves and are just there to take advantage. Had to train myself to tell these people apart and not just see the good in everyone just because. Thanks for the video, it put into words the concepts I couldn’t express myself.

@angelapursley2811

Жыл бұрын

You sound JUST like me...

@Ikr2025

Жыл бұрын

I used to as well. The problem is I have noticed that often not only do they not appreciate my generosity (in terms of giving things, being a good listener, being available, being supportive etc) - over time they actually seem to start resenting & disrespecting me for it. They certainly don’t like it if I try to express an opinion and then they often start a devaluation and discard phase.

Yes sir , Daniel , thanks brother 👏🏾

needed that, thanks!

I have been betrayed enough by people. I use to as a child believed people around me as being good or trustworthy. I learned by the time I was 16 that you can't trust many people and it was better to not trust anyone until they somehow prove they can be trusted. I don't ask for help except by those very close to me. Then I pay them for their time and normally treat them to a meal. I don't count on any help from anyone. I am not bitter but 2 divorces from selfish men who want to roam is enough. I always do my best ,because I have a strong conscience , in a relationship and I don't pry into other peoples lives unless they show they need to open up and release stress. But , when it comes to people in general I don't get involved. I work and then go home. I shop alone and go to church alone! I find I like my own company and solitude! I am always friendly and respectful to everyone I meet! I smile often and like people for the most part. But I don't want to get close to anyone again! Too stressful!

@hymnhallelujahtuhaven6975

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this, I’ve never been married but am a child of an ugly divorce. You’ve opened my eyes to the ways i sometimes mistrust myself. I definitely enjoy my solitude as well but would you say past experience can sort of hold you in a hermit mode? I’m sure it’s different for everyone, and to each his/her own. But eyes feeling wide opened to the fact that maybe i was the one being selfish not because they were selfish but because i didnt trust myself enough and so, i went ahead and began being selfish with myself.

@eleanorbaumgart5502

2 жыл бұрын

@@hymnhallelujahtuhaven6975 hello, yes the Hermit mode could be a problem. I make plans to go places for time to time around my regular habits and routine. I like to change up my life a bit. Go places I have not been to yet. Buy a different fruit or veggie and see if I like it. As far as trusting myself I do. I know myself enough and have had comments from others letting me know what they see in me. Ha ha if it is a man that is not getting what he wants I know he will say something not so nice to change my ways. I don't worry about them. I have enough people around me who think I am very sweet and helpful. Try not to be weak for people who will not value you. Be careful. Have a nice evening.

@edwardperez7665

2 жыл бұрын

Outstanding Ms. E. I'm 100% the same way as you. It's the best way to be. It does hurts because you like people to reciprocate, and no one with a sound mind wants to be alone, but I rather be alone than be with a narcissist.

@luistorres6956

2 жыл бұрын

@@edwardperez7665 and the whole society is being trained in the ways of narcissism thanks to social media and the dumbing down of ppl from state govt "education" and church.

@ricardosommelier1130

2 жыл бұрын

WRITE LESS

This has helped me figure out who the snakes are or were in my life. Thanks for your insight!

@truelion7637

3 жыл бұрын

Agree snake / evil

Yes, good information! Thank you!

Oh let me tell you about my ex colleagues: they always ask "how are you?" But they don't really care. And what is even worse is when they text you just to ask something from you but they start the conversation with "how are you" they really think I don't know they are fake? Are they so stupid and naive?

This guy is exactly right. There are people I thought were friends and thinking back on them and I realize they always GOT something from me. I’m in a place where I could use some help, just a conversation, just some help doing errands and I have no one. People were always at my house have apparently died or been abducted

@belyndahirschel4174

Жыл бұрын

I had to reach out and tell you I heard you I am in the same boat I could talk your legs of. My own kids . And the man I love lol. All are takers and then be cone I visible they LIVE BEHIND MY FENCE. I've lived here 40 yrs and I can't move . Until I can afford .a place to live.;(. I feel like I died and no one told me

@UNDERDOG18UNDERDOG18

Ай бұрын

Same here. It was painful to realize about a few after knowing them for decades. Users

Exactly what I've been trying to express to you, Daniel, for over a year. This is why I drop so many! One of the big ones is everyone wants my help, yet they can't help me. I see it as a delay tactic to pull me away from whatever I'm doing.

@Grace-qs1mv

Жыл бұрын

Same here💁🏻‍♀️I’m “always” the caretaker and the giver, but I learned the hard way… Not everyone is my friend and just to Love them from a distance …sadly, but true

@richierottweiler923

Жыл бұрын

Theodore Roberts yes my dan, people always want my help, but are oddly absent whenever i need a lift

Yes. Thank you. Excellent video.

I needed this today 💕 ... Thank you very much

I love the person you are. How can anyone find fault with this advice? Only fake people.

@motivationalwords283

3 жыл бұрын

Hello? #trendingnowtv

@jellie3969

2 жыл бұрын

me i can spot all of these real quick 🤦‍♀️ these are the basics also

I’ve met so many people like that in my life, often when I was younger I just accepted a fake friend. Especially in school it was hard when they’d turn on you.

Excellent Daniel. Thank you

Amazing, wow, thank you! Im sharing this with everyone I care about now!!

There's a woman I'm friendly with and we talk at the school gate. Literally everytime I speak to her she says about hanging out with our kids, but then would never actually contact me to hang out. She did it again last week, so i even said 'well Wednesday next week is good for me what day suits you' and she awkwardly said 'oh yeah I'll check and text you later'. A week later and still no text. I really don't understand some people lol. I think there's going to be a polite cold shoulder from me when I see her again.

@comment5398

2 жыл бұрын

That's just small talk hun. She doesn't mean it literally, just something to chatter about. Don't take it personal.

@NoMoreTears64

2 жыл бұрын

I had a guy "friend" who said we would go do certain things, but he never found the time to do any of it. He would tell me he would "text later after putting his kid to bed" and would never do it. I learned after awhile that his word was not good and that was an awful feeling because I thought we had a real friendship based on trust. It was a sham.

@user-zr6pl6nb6z

2 жыл бұрын

Turn the tables on her. The next time she suggests hanging out, agree to it and then ghost her.

@UNDERDOG18UNDERDOG18

Ай бұрын

@@comment5398 but why bring up hanging out at all? Just make your small talk without false invitations.

@UNDERDOG18UNDERDOG18

Ай бұрын

@@NoMoreTears64 some folks are extremely flaky. Bullet dodged

A few of these signs are the reasons I no longer answer “hey stranger” texts…..

Yes ☑️ This couldn't have come at a more perfect time Thank you🤗

Thanks for confirming what I thought about someone. Great video 👏🏾

Honestly though, you’re such an incredible and motivating person, it feels like you just want to help people and it’s amazing, thank you for being you.

I briefly went out with a guy who "couldn't remember my name" and he was always" 2 hrs late" to meet up! He said he didn't want children knowing that I had three! When he found out I wouldn't sleep with him needless to say that ended everything quickly! FAKE!!

@user-zr6pl6nb6z

2 жыл бұрын

I don't quite understand guys like that. I want to get to know a woman before going to bed with her.

@Boosted_aj

Жыл бұрын

@@user-zr6pl6nb6z 💀💀

@user-zr6pl6nb6z

Жыл бұрын

@@Boosted_aj Is that supposed to have some kind of significance?

@Beautybizz28

Жыл бұрын

Why would you date a man who didn't want children and you have three?

I needed to hear this 👍thank you

This video is amazing I’ll be sharing and you are funny as hell😭😂 Keep up the good work💯

I have to reevaluate myself. 😳 I do forget important details about others. This was great advice, Daniel Thank you 🙏🏻

This came right on time I just felt a huge shift of energy under the roof I live over the last 30 minutes to a hour ago smh

Body language is the biggest if not the most easiest indicator on whether or not you should have a conversation with someone. It literally shows you if they're being genuine with you whether or not you should tell them to go kick rocks

Everything you said in this video... is so true... Thank You

A half hearted handshake and/or hug tells me everything I need to know going forward.

The first symptoms you mentioned could just be a person who suffers from ADHD or autism spectrum. Then you mentioned a persons facial expressions, again it could just be an innocent person who is on the autism/ Asperger’s spectrum. I really hate when people misjudge and vilify us for something we don’t do on purpose.

@joythehomemaker904

2 жыл бұрын

Anxiety and depression as well

@booperfect8894

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Fitveganqueen

Жыл бұрын

I know!! That’s what I’m saying. There’s a huge gray area for people who suffer from mental illness or certain disabilities. We may do those things because of our illness and that in no way makes us fake. And trust, we don’t want to be that way… where our illness has taken over so much of our life we can’t even make it to plans with friends 💔

@MrBmxer41

Жыл бұрын

See my kind of people 😌

@garyabbott3861

Жыл бұрын

I cannot tell you how often in my longish life someone has said to me, "Do you always look like that when you concentrate?" Particularly if it had just occurred to me that the obvious way to open a can of soup was with a hammer and a screwdriver.

Well said mr. Daniel Ally . Thank you for these insights.

Yes!! My circle is me turning around. Though I'm friendly and supportive and a loyal friend. However, people I engage with become envious and competitive.

Sadly I can detect everything you just numbered within 30 seconds spending with the person that is why I don't have many friends because most of the people that I am surrounded with are otterly and completely fake :-(

They say there thinking about you and miss you but dont make the effort to call and text you. They dont really care about ya.

@michaelsukut5506

Жыл бұрын

Or they only call/text when they need something

Yes, and so informative. Thanks!

Thank you for the helpful information on this video 🙏

This is my second video, the other one was haters. Its incredible that you have described everyone I know. I really only have one friend I friended by mistake on Facebook to text and she always answers. The others have all the signs you shared. I'm blown away ! Thanks Daniel. I'll be watching all of your videos from now on.

👏🏽 That was concise & informative…simply excellent, Daniel! I’m a mental health therapist, and I will be sharing this video with my colleagues & clients.

Thank you for letting me know this much appreciated

Thank you , i look forward to more of your work Keep well Namaste🙏

Found through a KZread comment and Thank God I found you

Thank you for this, Daniel! I like your videos and am trying to get stronger. I have been manipulated my entire life. Its hard to make friends since its hard to trust anyone. Im so broken💔 at least I know I have a friend in Jesus❤❤❤

Yes. You are good. Thank you for sharing valuable knowledge.

Thank you for this very informative video Daniel !

I POINTED THESE THINGS OUT TO A FRIEND OF MINE AND THEY LITERALLY ACTED LIKE I HAD ISSUES

@Storytime2023x

Жыл бұрын

Good point. I think if you confronted these people, they would act like they have no clue what you’re talking about.

Yes, fully comprehended, and so much emotional laziness in the world these days.

Daniel, you are a bright young man, wise beyond your years. thank you for your help.

Unless they are depressed, not expressive or confused types, this is so true...you are just substitute for them...it's frustrating when they manipulate you and put all the blame on you..absolutely toxic. Thanks for the reminder 👍

@irmaadams8029

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for educating me on this topic I am a giver and sometimes I am so tired when I need friend and family support they are not there I am alone thank God for Jesus,

@notsotechie7412

Жыл бұрын

@@irmaadams8029 Exactly ! Same here... honestly sometimes it's nobody's fault. We need to learn and find ways to deal with it on our own until we find the right people. Just go to a park or open space, exercise , even running helps..find new people to chat.. Whatever works It's heartbreaking if you keep thinking nobody is there for you.

This is so true! Learning about this working in organisations and with people is very important and helps you prevent any harm and injury to yourself or your emotions! ❤️

EXCELLENT Daniel 👍

Great advice! Love This! Yes!

Absolutely 💯 yes Stay away from those evil peoples they gone destroy your life not only your life your children’s to I am a 60 years old woman I’m suffering until now what devils Evils Jezebels done in my life and my sons life Thank God I have my Lord Jesus Christ with me And my God words . Younger generation take all the advice From these young man psalms 1 God Totally set me free from the devils I don’t mingle with those people anymore.

Agreed 🙌🏽 recently experienced this. People are strange as hell

@angelaroberts2882

2 жыл бұрын

Yup💯

@delfinaquintero1789

2 жыл бұрын

It is true and that’s the part that should tell us something people aren’t perfect as we know but we can’t figure people out it like you said too strange that we can’t level up in building a friendship something is not right . We might just be going in circles thinking we have a friend but we don’t .

@stefaniaschannel

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! 🙌

@james12erby43

2 жыл бұрын

Tell me about it

@ericephemetherson3964

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. But I would say that women tend to be more deceptive than men.

Thank you for this video. I had a bad experience at work today. I’ve written the points down

Yes, I always encountered those kinds of people on facebook. Thanks for sharing those signs

Would you cut someone off if they’re not there for you during hardships/struggles? I cut off an old friend who I had a long term friendship with but realised everytime I was going through a tough time and hardships in life he was never ever there and everytime I confronted him about it he always had an excuse for why he couldn’t be there as a real friend as he should have been. Last summer I had a health scare and he didn’t even come to see me at the hospital, I really had enough and said I’m sick and tired of giving this person the benefit of the doubt. So I decided to cut him out of my life and we had a 9 year friendship since 2011. Would you also cut someone off who was never there for you everytime you needed them as a real friend?

@danielallyway

3 жыл бұрын

If they’re not there for you, then they aren’t your real friend.

@dailystriver2727

3 жыл бұрын

@@danielallyway Appreciate your input! I knew I did the right thing all along by listening to my gut.

@matildamaher2650

3 жыл бұрын

I did exactly the same, even on Facebook I cut off few friends.

@latonyanewt1607

3 жыл бұрын

I always felt like a real friend is gonna stick by your side through the good and bad times. When a person shows you who they are believe them .

@SS-jw9mm

3 жыл бұрын

Yes why waste time with them unless you can be fake with them too. But not all of us are able to be fake.

Spot on my dude spot on