6 Secret Phrases That Instantly Persuade People

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Persuasion. When someone is persuaded, it's amazing how positive things turn out. Some psychology on how to persuade someone, empathy, and your personal development off of it will be talked about.
You probably like to think of yourself as a rational human being like when you have a decision to make, you take all the information you make a pros and cons list and you add that up to make the best decision possible. But you're a human being and the truth of human beings is we are far more irrational than we'd like to admit. Oftentimes, our decisions come down to the smallest irrational things and oftentimes, that can be just a few words which is why in this video,
I want to give you 6 phrases that you can use to turn the tide in your favor when you're trying to persuade someone to do something that you might like. Now, this is not going to be a substitute for really developing a true persuasive strategy, it's not a substitute for empathy but start adding these phrases into your vocabulary and I think you will be shocked with how quickly and how effective they are. So, the first one is when you're coming up against a gatekeeper and the phrase is simply going to be - "Have you ever made an exception?" Now, I used to use this all the time when I would try to get into bars and clubs after it was technically at capacity and it worked pretty well.
0:44 First persuasion phrase is to let them think it won't be a big deal
1:38 A person will more likely be persuaded if you bring empathy to the table
2:58 Make them see you in a positive light and work on your psychology prowess
4:19 Call them by their name
5:14 Another persuasion tactic is the use of the Yes Ladder
6:45 Use the power of "because"
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  • @nanoqht285
    @nanoqht2854 жыл бұрын

    Me: **Goes to prison.** Me: Ey, Can i leave? Guard: No. Me: Have you ever made an exception?

  • @caspersdottir

    @caspersdottir

    4 жыл бұрын

    William H. Thorsen 😹😹😹😹

  • @princessporkchop4586

    @princessporkchop4586

    4 жыл бұрын

    Beany 57 😂🤭

  • @SquatsAndThoughts

    @SquatsAndThoughts

    4 жыл бұрын

    Should have used the guard's name.

  • @ns_22

    @ns_22

    4 жыл бұрын

    Should have started with 3 easy questions that the guard says "yes" to.

  • @selahkeys

    @selahkeys

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@SquatsAndThoughts rightttt 😂

  • @SierraCalah
    @SierraCalah6 жыл бұрын

    When you’re trying to get into heaven: “Have you ever made an exception?”

  • @razakhamani1091

    @razakhamani1091

    4 жыл бұрын

    I like that 😂😂😂

  • @raider968

    @raider968

    4 жыл бұрын

    Person: Hi God, how's it going? God: do I know you? Person: Can you open the gates BECAUSE I would love to see my grandparents. God: well no, i don't know you, but... Person: have you ever made an exception? Just this one time. God: well ok. Just this time. Thanks Charisma on Command.

  • @jin2135

    @jin2135

    4 жыл бұрын

    raider968 im sorry to ruin your joke, but they said god can read peoples mind

  • @nakedsingularity3165

    @nakedsingularity3165

    4 жыл бұрын

    Slaie Lokk - Since gods were all created by mankind (all 12,000+ of them recorded by history) and are figments of our imagination, ‘they’ can make gods able to do whatever ‘they’ want. Depends on the day and the mood, I’m guessing.

  • @yomilalgro

    @yomilalgro

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lmao😀 good one

  • @wadimzeller8518
    @wadimzeller85184 жыл бұрын

    * crossing international border without a passport.* " Have you ever made any exceptions? "

  • @legzef712

    @legzef712

    4 жыл бұрын

    "You, you were trying to cross the border right? Walked right into that imperial ambush, didn't you"

  • @lmSheep

    @lmSheep

    4 жыл бұрын

    LMAO

  • @furjaden8553

    @furjaden8553

    4 жыл бұрын

    Oh you think I would let a law breaker into ARTSTOTZKA GLORY GREATEST *D E T A I N E D*

  • @lmSheep

    @lmSheep

    4 жыл бұрын

    Furjaden I’m going to need to see some PAPERS, PLEASE

  • @wav3solghxst424

    @wav3solghxst424

    4 жыл бұрын

    *Storms Area 51* Guards: We will shoot! People: Have you ever made any exceptions?

  • @GlennMarshallRocks
    @GlennMarshallRocks5 жыл бұрын

    Someone below tried to list these, but made a number of subtle and significant errors that alter the focus and perspective in each one that would cause them not to work, or be understood correctly. Here's a more accurate summary which matches what's actually said and explained in the video above for you - 1. Ask "Have you ever made an exception?" If you get a "no", follow up with - "Would it be possible to just make one exception, this time?" 2. When encountering resistance, take a break and state - "If I were in your position, I gotta be honest, I'd feel the same exact way..." (list reasons why and validate the other persons feelings, aligning with them), once they feel understood, add - "All of that said..." (then present reasons you believe they should do what you desire them to do). 3. When asked if you have anything you'd like to ask at the end of a job interview, say - "Obviously, I'd love to get this job, but when you're thinking down the line, after hiring me or someone else, how will you know, a year from now, whether or not you made the right choice? What will that person had to have done to have been an excellent hire?" As they start reciting to you what a fantastic employee looks like, they are looking at you, imagining having hired you, and you having been this person - so, when they go back into their mind later to consider who they're going to hire, they already have an image of you as the person they hired firmly planted within their mind. 4. Add the use of a person's name to any of these to make the more powerful. It gives them a sense that they know you from somewhere, when it's done with a tone of voice that that comes from assuming they're your friend. 5. Use the "Yes" ladder (a sales tactic - which can be used to lead up to asking for a date) - Ask related general, "curiosity" questions with high likelihood of "yes" response, leading up to the final, real question you want to ask. 6. Add the word "because" (the reason you come up with doesn't matter) - People assume when they hear the word "because" that whatever they hear after it must be justifying what came before it. With a little practice, these are all easy to use in a comfortable and natural manner, and are very effective in influencing others and obtaining the results that you desire.

  • @nimrau.3781

    @nimrau.3781

    4 жыл бұрын

    you are going to heaven! you are a great great man i tell you!!!

  • @cristiandina8810

    @cristiandina8810

    4 жыл бұрын

    Good man 👍🏻

  • @jacobfauth8477

    @jacobfauth8477

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, I'm now in your Dept indefinitely

  • @angelashiflet6153

    @angelashiflet6153

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me: *uses all of them at once* Them: yEs mAsTeR

  • @nylasarmiento2898

    @nylasarmiento2898

    3 жыл бұрын

    Better written. Thanks Glenn

  • @Interphased
    @Interphased6 жыл бұрын

    *Speech increased to 63*

  • @hachemshahrour8740

    @hachemshahrour8740

    6 жыл бұрын

    Interphased damn that reference

  • @Brsrk9

    @Brsrk9

    6 жыл бұрын

    now do that under every video and add 1 always

  • @a.maskil9073

    @a.maskil9073

    6 жыл бұрын

    Interphased I...I don't get it.

  • @hachemshahrour8740

    @hachemshahrour8740

    6 жыл бұрын

    Nothing Really Matters it’s a Skyrim reference

  • @a.maskil9073

    @a.maskil9073

    6 жыл бұрын

    Hachem Shahrour I've played Skyrim 5 times over and still don't get it.

  • @mydh122
    @mydh1226 жыл бұрын

    1. Have you ever made an exception? Would it be possible to make an exception this one time? 2. If I were in your position, I would feel the same exact way, but... (don't know all facts) 3. After hiring me or someone else, how will you know, after a year, that you made the right choice? What will that person have done to make it an excellent hire? (they then see you as being the excellent hire) 4. mention the person's name (implies that you know him) 5. Use "Yes" ladder. Ask questions that get "yes" before asking big question. 6. Use "because." Give people a good reason to do what you want.

  • @samuelcheong7569

    @samuelcheong7569

    6 жыл бұрын

    mydh122 thanks man, I was scrolling down for the tl;dr

  • @TheEvilfallen

    @TheEvilfallen

    6 жыл бұрын

    not all heroes wear capes

  • @HxH2011DRA

    @HxH2011DRA

    6 жыл бұрын

    A true man

  • @icebluemyst

    @icebluemyst

    6 жыл бұрын

    The real MVP right here boys

  • @creaticoredesign3102

    @creaticoredesign3102

    5 жыл бұрын

    mydh122 (

  • @JUK3MASTER
    @JUK3MASTER4 жыл бұрын

    "would you kindly" is the best phrase for persuasion

  • @yassirhidar5318

    @yassirhidar5318

    4 жыл бұрын

    "Because" works better with friends, "kindly" more likely to work with people not deeply close

  • @TylireousGaming

    @TylireousGaming

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bioshock

  • @wakkjobbwizard

    @wakkjobbwizard

    4 жыл бұрын

    Works every time! Amazing reference.

  • @saltyslappage8752

    @saltyslappage8752

    3 жыл бұрын

    would you kindly set me on fire

  • @kendall8954

    @kendall8954

    3 жыл бұрын

    Dell customer service used this. It gets old after the upteenth time.

  • @ligit2758
    @ligit27585 жыл бұрын

    The thing I like about your videos is how direct you are. There is no intro, just jumping right into it. No jumpcuts or title card, just flowing one topic into another. No silly animations or off-road jokes that I find derail videos like this, just talking and getting the point across. All that plus the fact that the content of the video itself is actually helping me in my social life, I just subscribed there now.

  • @instanttherapy

    @instanttherapy

    2 жыл бұрын

    It's Sunday September 26th 2021 and, being a psychologist, a medical hypnotist and a corporate speaker, I enjoy watching videos like this off and on. But more importantly, your comment is spot-on. A psychologist since 68, I'm now 68 oddly enough, and I am about to make my very first video. Maping out what to say first and last has been very exhausting. But after reading your comment (2 years later) I have an absolutely clear view of what I need to do. Thank you very much for your intelligent insight.

  • @ligit2758

    @ligit2758

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@instanttherapy These kind of videos have to the potential to change peoples lives for the better. The problem is getting the right point across effectively. Glad to help :)

  • @juleswinnfield1437

    @juleswinnfield1437

    Жыл бұрын

    @@instanttherapy Your name is Jonathan Banks? Mike! Excellent name :)

  • @emilyknowlton8602

    @emilyknowlton8602

    Жыл бұрын

    Great comment. I agree! ❤

  • @jamesgrey13
    @jamesgrey136 жыл бұрын

    When someone uses the "yes" ladder on me, I like to slam them through the "no" brick wall!

  • @donnahoke742

    @donnahoke742

    6 жыл бұрын

    Feel similarly when somebody keeps using my name.

  • @glennvannijevelt1133

    @glennvannijevelt1133

    5 жыл бұрын

    Then they have used it incorrectly. A True “yes” ladder actually is very fair and non-committing that it gives more power to the target than the predator.

  • @glennvannijevelt1133

    @glennvannijevelt1133

    5 жыл бұрын

    Don’t worry. They won’t. 🤦🏻‍♂️

  • @yungblade7

    @yungblade7

    5 жыл бұрын

    Lmaooo i feel u

  • @madd2303

    @madd2303

    5 жыл бұрын

    Tony James Gilpin 🤣🤣🤣 LMAO!!!

  • @brodieleighhx6747
    @brodieleighhx67474 жыл бұрын

    This did not work, my friends still doesnt want kfc

  • @filiptalimdzioski7281

    @filiptalimdzioski7281

    4 жыл бұрын

    Try taco bell or burger king

  • @Dennis_Ryan_Lynch

    @Dennis_Ryan_Lynch

    4 жыл бұрын

    F

  • @daysyferreira610

    @daysyferreira610

    4 жыл бұрын

    Their weird lol jk 😂

  • @xlexii_x370

    @xlexii_x370

    4 жыл бұрын

    Im trying to convince my friend to watch obx😂

  • @oliverholland6512

    @oliverholland6512

    3 жыл бұрын

    Good

  • @morpheus-sonofsleep7670
    @morpheus-sonofsleep76703 жыл бұрын

    I’ll have to argue with you on that “yes ladder.” From training with an FBI hostage negotiator who got his information from a neuroscientist, it’s better to reframe your questions to get a “no” answer. Explaining in the simplest way possible. They WANT to say no. We’re wired that way. Doing this enables them to get the “No’s” out of the way and makes them feel more comfortable. For example: Instead of “Is now a good time to talk.” Say, “Is now a bad time to talk. Or instead of “Do you like dancing?” Say, “Do you have anything against dancing?”

  • @demonderpz7937

    @demonderpz7937

    Жыл бұрын

    This makes sense but I don’t trust the fbi :^)

  • @greenschemegummi6295

    @greenschemegummi6295

    Жыл бұрын

    would "they" be referring to people in general or the targets of the hostage negotiators?

  • @richardwong6148

    @richardwong6148

    Жыл бұрын

    That's a great concept to addon. Reading through the line, it hits me more as a yesn't rather than a complete no or a yes. By making the person say no but also having themselves explain their "no" in a way that is almost a yes just to not offend the person who asks the question, it creates a "yes"/rapport concept with the person and impulses people to not say no again for the rest of the questions out of respect

  • @freeflowme

    @freeflowme

    9 ай бұрын

    I too immediately thought of Chris Voss disagreeing with the “yes” strategy! Aim for “no!”

  • @2HEARMEOUT

    @2HEARMEOUT

    8 ай бұрын

    @@freeflowme aim for no?

  • @yehudiel4588
    @yehudiel45885 жыл бұрын

    Did you just use "because" to get me to click notification bell? :)

  • @jackl7994

    @jackl7994

    3 жыл бұрын

    I think he did.

  • @24Adrian24
    @24Adrian246 жыл бұрын

    I tried the "have you ever made an exception" tactic yesterday for the first time. Can't believe how easily it worked after the person had been very steadfast about the rules. I know this won't work everytime, but I can at least say I had success with it at least one time.

  • @aedelya
    @aedelya6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much for this, now i'm dating John, the bouncer of the salsa club because i saw myself saying "yes" to the big question, 1 year from now.

  • @MaleficWeegee

    @MaleficWeegee

    6 жыл бұрын

    aedelya i see what you did there.

  • @wispytrenches488

    @wispytrenches488

    6 жыл бұрын

    aedelya this is the best comment I’ve ever seen

  • @gamblingoptions

    @gamblingoptions

    5 жыл бұрын

    well it has been a year now

  • @im.jintan

    @im.jintan

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Clorox Bleach She incorporated all 6 phrases from the video's message into her comment.

  • @LuisSoto-fw3if

    @LuisSoto-fw3if

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@im.jintan She didnt make an exception though.

  • @kaceykace7421
    @kaceykace74215 жыл бұрын

    I work as a gate keeper. 1 and 1a have never worked on me. I even went as far as saying "your jedi mind trick won't work here." Also, if some stranger ever uses my name, i know it's because they read my name tag. This will guarentee they will not get what they want. I recommend, sir, boss, buddy or introducing youself first and letting them tell you their name. In that last situation both of you are on an even playing field by knowing each others names. It's give and take and developes a bond.

  • @chinline1289

    @chinline1289

    4 жыл бұрын

    Oh no, you caught our source

  • @Jahnely

    @Jahnely

    3 жыл бұрын

    It doesn't work on you because you're here watching KZread videos on it

  • @kaceykace7421

    @kaceykace7421

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Jahnely nah, been in my line of work a long time. Long before these vids. It never has worked on me.

  • @user-vo7rz5kg8b

    @user-vo7rz5kg8b

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@kaceykace7421 wHaT iF y0u mAdE aN eXcEPtiOn thiS oNE tImE BECAUSE i really neEd tHiS

  • @IamGrimalkin

    @IamGrimalkin

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ok, fair enough, but these are not the droids you are looking for...

  • @SodioC
    @SodioC5 жыл бұрын

    I used to get my parents to do anything by saying, “Do it for your son!” And it worked like a charm but i said it so much that it stopped working and never worked again

  • @Th3bAc0nBiTs27
    @Th3bAc0nBiTs276 жыл бұрын

    YES, AS A HUMAN BEING WHO HAS TROUBLE WITH SOCIAL INTERACTION I WILL DEFINITELY USE THIS IN HUMAN SOCIAL ENVIRONMENTS.

  • @Gid-J

    @Gid-J

    5 жыл бұрын

    I read this as if you were a very loud robot.

  • @LuisSoto-fw3if

    @LuisSoto-fw3if

    5 жыл бұрын

    First advice. Stop screaming.

  • @k.k.7797

    @k.k.7797

    5 жыл бұрын

    HUMAN BACON_BITZ, DO YOU LIKE USING THESE SOCIAL INTERACTIONS. IS IT SOMETHING YOU’RE INTERESTED IN? WOULD YOU INTERACT WITH ME SOMETIME? HOW ABOUT NEXT SATURDAY AT 7PM?

  • @TheMCzorro

    @TheMCzorro

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@Gid-J - HEY. DO YOU LIKE *insert band name here*? - Yeah, I've listened to all their albums at least once. - I TOO LIKE THEM VERY MUCH. DID YOU KNOW THEY ARE PERFORMING IN OUR CITY NEXT WEEK? - Yeah! I really want to go, but the tickets are a bit overpriced and I can't afford them. - HOW ABOUT I BUY TWO TICKETS AND WE CAN ERROR ERROR EЯЯ0R DATA_NOT_FOUND ABORT_CONVERSATION_PROTOCOL.DLL SORRY I TOLD YOU I HAVE TROUBLE WITH HUMAN INTERACTION

  • @TonyBai
    @TonyBai6 жыл бұрын

    1. Have you ever made an exception? (0:48) 2. If I were in your position, I'd feel the same way (2:08) 3. After hiring me or someone else, how will you know you made the right choice? (3:23) 4. Use their name in your request (4:27) 5. The Yes Ladder (5:19) 6. Because! (6:45)

  • @cenedictbumberbatch95

    @cenedictbumberbatch95

    6 жыл бұрын

    Tony Bai thanks!

  • @patrickbamuh6584

    @patrickbamuh6584

    5 жыл бұрын

    Tony Bai thanks

  • @paolofumich2184

    @paolofumich2184

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thanks!

  • @Idiotism

    @Idiotism

    4 жыл бұрын

    U turned a 8 minute video into a 10 second video lol

  • @user-or4tb3lm2w

    @user-or4tb3lm2w

    4 жыл бұрын

    Nandri 🙏

  • @joanneconrad3987
    @joanneconrad39874 жыл бұрын

    THIS GUY is really sharp! he's done his homework and presents in a non-condescending fashion. Kudos!

  • @yomilalgro

    @yomilalgro

    4 жыл бұрын

    Agreed, I really like him and I I'm quite critical

  • @bimelbundle9899

    @bimelbundle9899

    4 жыл бұрын

    I agree

  • @King716
    @King7165 жыл бұрын

    When someone uses my name when talking straight to me more than once in a conversation, I get suspicious and annoyed. Just comes off as fake to me.

  • @cecee7095

    @cecee7095

    5 жыл бұрын

    Brett E I know I’m a dancer (stripper) and if I use too many of these lines I know people will think I’m fake. I would like if he had some more subtle ways of reasoning with people to be convincing because at the end of the day a manipulative person can seek out another manipulative person.

  • @starrix4712

    @starrix4712

    4 жыл бұрын

    I mean I don’t know if anyone’s American on this thread but it could be that it is geared more towards social patterns in American culture. This would be creepy in my country, unless you shortened their name or something.

  • @King716

    @King716

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@starrix4712 I am american and its super weird for someone to keep saying my name in conversation. I think that using someone's name is only to get their attention and using it multiple times in regular conversation seems ultra odd.

  • @moyshekapoyre

    @moyshekapoyre

    4 жыл бұрын

    I used to be a pharmacy tech. People that wanted narcotics sometimes would come up to me and see my name tag and say, "Hey Joel, how's it going?" I knew immediately they were about to hand me a fake script for percocet. lol

  • @buckdesystem4562

    @buckdesystem4562

    4 жыл бұрын

    It's definitely a red flag for me. Another one is the "feel, felt, found" method. I just start laughing when someone tries that.

  • @mwepmwep5042
    @mwepmwep50424 жыл бұрын

    One time during a family lunch, while all of us just sat down on the dining table, my grandfather stood up and gestured all of us to stand up to pray. All of us stood up in synchrony without hesitation. Somehow that moment felt so powerful, I want to be as respectable as my grandfather, he is amazing *-*)9

  • @AliasPhex

    @AliasPhex

    6 ай бұрын

    He sounds like a lovely man. ❤️

  • @TheDrB0B
    @TheDrB0B6 жыл бұрын

    The first one is also useful in conversational gatekeeping. “I don’t have fun at big parties I shouldn’t go”, “Have you ever had fun at one? Why not give it a shot?” Works wonders. Also the third one is universal, asking girls what their dream date is like, or a friend what’s their idea of a fun outing. When they tell you and know that you’re in a tiny sense looking for information they’ll tailor it for you, and imagine you as they think of it. Generally the most successful ways to persuade is to find ways to equate yourself to them, letting them feel like they can think like you, and show them how the idea you want to share is good from your own understanding.

  • @gamehosegarden
    @gamehosegarden4 жыл бұрын

    If someone ever used read my nametag and asked me a friendly question using my name, my first thought was always, "How dare you use my slave name, I hate you."

  • @bethanyjohn1763

    @bethanyjohn1763

    2 жыл бұрын

    @adiosnon LMAOOOOOO

  • @portfolio641
    @portfolio6413 жыл бұрын

    I feel like a major component to persuasion is who people view you as. Based on interactions in the past, how your disposition, how your used to being treated.

  • @wisdom-for-life
    @wisdom-for-life6 жыл бұрын

    Awesome video! People are more emotional and open to persuasion than they think! 1 - "Have you ever made an exception?" "Would it be possible to make an exception this one time?" 2 - If I were in your position, I'd feel the same way 3 - For job interview: "After hiring me or someone else, how will you know you made the right choice?" 4 - Use the person's name in the request 5 - The YES ladder - get people saying yes before hitting them with the big ask. 6 - Use the word "because" in your request.

  • @Entropy3ko

    @Entropy3ko

    5 жыл бұрын

    1- No I can't 2- No you don't you sycophant 3- Shouldn't you know already? Are you an incompetent fool? 4- Please keep it formal 5- Can you stop beating around the bush and come to the f-ing point? 6- Request denied.

  • @anna-xi8dn
    @anna-xi8dn6 жыл бұрын

    Wow, this video is great, Charlie! Now I know, this might seem fairly odd to say, but I have the biggest crush on you. You probably don't date strangers, but have you ever made an exeption? If I were in your position, I would think that I'm some crazy fangirl, but listen, look how exciting this journey would be! So many things to discover about oneanother, it's amazing. I'm sure you have thought many many times about what your ideal girlfriend would be like, so tell me about it! I'd love to know. Have you ever heard of cha-cha dancing? I'm sure you have, everyone have seen Dancing with the stars at some point! And do you like dancing? Do you think that trying cha-cha would be a fun thing to do? Maybe you would like to try it sometime? The last time I danced something chacha-like was in elementary school, but I would love to try it again. So Charlie, would you go on dance classes with me, because I think we would have great time together! Are you free next Saturday?

  • @davidfont2596

    @davidfont2596

    6 жыл бұрын

    LoL!

  • @medizinvonmorgen1217

    @medizinvonmorgen1217

    6 жыл бұрын

    Love this

  • @CaptainKillByFire

    @CaptainKillByFire

    6 жыл бұрын

    If I were a girl, I'd probably feel the same way. I know you may think you want Charlie, but when it comes to what you want, have you ever made an exception? Would you consider making an exception just this once? And after dating one of us, would you be able to tell me how you knew you made the right choice, Anna? Because I can be quite an amazing guy! After reading this, do you think this is just a joke, based on the content of the video? It may not be hilarious, but did you at least show that beautiful smile? No? Oh, okay, I failed... *slinks away*

  • @anna-xi8dn

    @anna-xi8dn

    6 жыл бұрын

    I definitely smiled!

  • @SlackwareNVM

    @SlackwareNVM

    6 жыл бұрын

    ooh, that was really charming

  • @sissetta7659
    @sissetta76594 жыл бұрын

    OMG THIS IS THE BEST SO MY MOM TOOK MY PHONE AND USED THE “Have you ever made an exception” THEN SHE GAVE IT BACK

  • @SoVidushi

    @SoVidushi

    3 жыл бұрын

    You're kidding.

  • @idiotface286

    @idiotface286

    3 жыл бұрын

    False you couldn’t watch the video without you’re phone

  • @lanamotaz8903
    @lanamotaz89034 жыл бұрын

    4:27 *me trying to persuade my parents to get me a cat* *says their name* the end

  • @DensiBensi

    @DensiBensi

    4 жыл бұрын

    *The End*

  • @ChurchilOnyango

    @ChurchilOnyango

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lmao

  • @whokilledprestonn3316

    @whokilledprestonn3316

    3 жыл бұрын

    Call them dad momma just act more nice and not mad

  • @tommarvoloriddleakavoldy9263

    @tommarvoloriddleakavoldy9263

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m trying to convince my aunt and uncle (who I live with) to buy me doc martens 😭✋

  • @kimonathompson4999

    @kimonathompson4999

    2 жыл бұрын

    i have a kitty, or my sister, the owner of dis acc, her name is mitzy, here's a tip, never stop, my mom is letting me get a fish but I want a ferret, trst me, consistent annoyance will persuay them. and cats are pretty smart! tel them dat

  • @thedollofthemonthseries
    @thedollofthemonthseries6 жыл бұрын

    "Draw near to God and He will draw near to you." -TheBible🌺

  • @hannah60000

    @hannah60000

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes, his simile is captivating and slightly infectious. However, unlike a joker his smile is doesn't have that sinister edge.

  • @colepavao619

    @colepavao619

    5 жыл бұрын

    Is that Thanos bear

  • @TheBookloverforever

    @TheBookloverforever

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@hannah60000 imagine it with red lips.. then you'll see X)

  • @NPWIII

    @NPWIII

    5 жыл бұрын

    It's kind of like the Cheshire Cat

  • @suelacey134

    @suelacey134

    4 жыл бұрын

    I like his smile

  • @maxjones503
    @maxjones5036 жыл бұрын

    Your recent popularity partially annoys me. I'll be in a job interview saying something along the lines of: 'so, in a year's time how will you know you made the right choice? And they would perhaps respond: 'You saw that of Charisma Command huh?' 'Damn!'

  • @Darth_Bateman

    @Darth_Bateman

    6 жыл бұрын

    Chances of that happening are actually incredulously slim. A girl I went on A date with once thought Pewdiepie was "that naz guy"i by the credit of the WSJ alone. Pewdiepie is the most subbed guy on KZread right now and people still don't know jack squat about him. Charisma on Command has 1.2 million subs. Pewdiepie has 57 million. So far, just under 12,000 people have seen this video and Charlie's videos have an estimated average of 500,000 views (approx, I haven't done the numbers just yet.) The probability that somebody has seen this video is actually pretty low tbh.

  • @TwentySeventhLetter

    @TwentySeventhLetter

    6 жыл бұрын

    GeneralZ I think it'd be worthwhile to come up with a way to say the same thing without using the same words, so that you could plausibly deny having seen this video (though, truth be told, they'd probably respect your honesty; I can't imagine that trying to better your charisma would be seen as a negative, either).

  • @KDbelieves

    @KDbelieves

    6 жыл бұрын

    It's highly unlikely it will happen. Even if it does happen, I don't think it will be a bad thing for job interviewer to find out because they will feel like they have something in common with you making you stand out even more. Also admitting that you did got it from Crisma on Command is just gonna add bonus points for being honest. Who in their right mind will see negativity in someone that is trying to better themselves by watching Crisma on Command?

  • @chickenman779

    @chickenman779

    6 жыл бұрын

    Or, you could answer "yep" and own the fact that you want to improve yourself by watching these videos.

  • @swaguilar_

    @swaguilar_

    6 жыл бұрын

    Or what we should all do is name the state/city/country/county for GeneralZ and others won't feel like 1.2 Million people live in one local area (physically.) I live in Arkansas, US. Keep it going. :)

  • @yardmasterswealtheducation8424
    @yardmasterswealtheducation84244 жыл бұрын

    Interesting Note: The Yes factor has worked so well for so long that people are expecting it. Throw them a curve like I do on calls for my yardwork service. During Pre-qualifying right at the start: "Do you want to be locked into a lengthy contract?" "No." "Good. We hate them too! Which is why we don't use them. Do you like paying money up front before seeing the results?" "No," they say, but with a small smile shining through their voice... "Me either, which is why we carry all the financial risk. You don't pay until you're dazzled." Asking questions clearly geared to elicit a No calls to their mind all the years of sales people trying this Yes tactic. Oh, the Yes tactic will be more powerful again, when the No tactic gets overused! LOL It is all cyclical, eh? Great video! P.S. Of course, the Yes ladder used in more social settings should never stop working, since nobody is on the look out for it. Especially if you space the Yes responses out a little. The social setting, and the time being far more flexible, following a conversation lets the keen observer see many opportunities to get a person to say Yes to you.

  • @ryuli1
    @ryuli13 жыл бұрын

    I love how you have a personal experience with every point you make. It puts me at ease and makes me feel confident in your advice.

  • @lucasthompson1650
    @lucasthompson16504 жыл бұрын

    7:10 "Me and my buddies were …" Forty or so years later and, still, that grammar pattern triggers a memory of my grade 2 teacher, Miss Hanna, her voice loudly interrupting and correcting the speaker, "My buddies and I!"

  • @rachelligresser17
    @rachelligresser174 жыл бұрын

    I saw your recommendation for the interview question a while ago and have used it since a few times... works wonderfully!! Not only do they imagine you in the job position as they are explaining what an excellent worker is, they are literally telling you what the essence of the job is. Thank you so much!

  • @mahiitistic7399

    @mahiitistic7399

    4 жыл бұрын

    But did that Increase your chances of being hired? Did u get hired at any of the jobs?

  • @PrimalVideo
    @PrimalVideo5 жыл бұрын

    Such a great video!

  • @RJRDG

    @RJRDG

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hi

  • @silenthill4

    @silenthill4

    3 жыл бұрын

    No

  • @KombuchaLiz

    @KombuchaLiz

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Justin 🌞

  • @theslurpingturtle6292
    @theslurpingturtle62925 жыл бұрын

    That question to ask the interview was mind blowing. Making them see you in the positive light can truly change the outcome if you get hired or not. Loved it. Will use it and come up with other ideas similar to this.

  • @jacquesblayo4474
    @jacquesblayo44746 жыл бұрын

    You used the "because" technique at the end..... smart ;)

  • @cadiprajkarki

    @cadiprajkarki

    5 жыл бұрын

    I thought, I was the only one who noticed 😊😊😊

  • @heywoodjablowme5834

    @heywoodjablowme5834

    5 жыл бұрын

    Because is a great justified according to Jordan Belfort

  • @raydog97
    @raydog976 жыл бұрын

    Charlie, great video. I really appreciate that you go for a single long take on these. It's tough to get it 100%, but giving a live presentation shows that you actually do have the skills you're selling.

  • @kshitij2645
    @kshitij26453 жыл бұрын

    Me : goes to job interview. Interviewer : why should we hire you? Me : Have your ever made an exception?

  • @mattier.9095

    @mattier.9095

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤪😜😂🤣😊😁😂

  • @SaleswithJayandRon
    @SaleswithJayandRon2 жыл бұрын

    "Have you ever made an exception" Thats gold! Puts person in a world of thought and hesitancy

  • @BZVlogs
    @BZVlogs6 жыл бұрын

    Love how you used 'Because' at the end when asking to turn on notifications XD

  • @christianprestes8175

    @christianprestes8175

    6 жыл бұрын

    And it worked with me. I almost never hit that bell, but I felt compelled to do it, now.

  • @sarahsakka6482
    @sarahsakka64825 жыл бұрын

    I just convinced someone to having a party this is amazing

  • @vonpaldanius

    @vonpaldanius

    5 жыл бұрын

    😃😃😃😃😃

  • @thehumanspider7

    @thehumanspider7

    2 жыл бұрын

    @¡ fvcking hopeless ! jui jitsu

  • @larimarhenriquez778
    @larimarhenriquez7785 жыл бұрын

    Im just here cause Im trying to get my coworkers to cover for me 😂

  • @m0nsterchief

    @m0nsterchief

    4 жыл бұрын

    Did it work?

  • @pedroescobar9862

    @pedroescobar9862

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yeah did it work? :o

  • @GregChacon

    @GregChacon

    3 жыл бұрын

    Did it work? Lol 😂

  • @ilikethatboulder.thatisani5496
    @ilikethatboulder.thatisani54962 жыл бұрын

    Legit my most favorite video of yours that I have ever seen. Thanks a lot man, you're changing lives!

  • @klulouis
    @klulouis6 жыл бұрын

    I’m a trained therapist & your examples are surface level tactics that are quite effective. Great video! 👍🏽

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    6 жыл бұрын

    ~ Thanks +k-love!

  • @glennl745

    @glennl745

    6 жыл бұрын

    I'm a trained therapist and i approve you...

  • @apacur

    @apacur

    5 жыл бұрын

    It's more than surface... I'm a therapist too.

  • @OS-cp8rp
    @OS-cp8rp6 жыл бұрын

    Great Video! I suggest that you make a small recap or summary at the end of each video as it makes it much more easier to leave the video with a lesson

  • @TheRealHerbaSchmurba

    @TheRealHerbaSchmurba

    6 жыл бұрын

    Omar Sabeaayon agreed

  • @Brsrk9

    @Brsrk9

    6 жыл бұрын

    yeah thats a freakin good idea

  • @abbysaxon8439

    @abbysaxon8439

    6 жыл бұрын

    I think he usually does a quick recap at the end. Not always but most of the time.

  • @TwentySeventhLetter

    @TwentySeventhLetter

    6 жыл бұрын

    Omar Sabeaayon Yeah, something akin to the Crash Course series by the vlogbrothers would be helpful

  • @truthseeker803

    @truthseeker803

    6 жыл бұрын

    agree 100%

  • @kirshberndt8412
    @kirshberndt8412Ай бұрын

    The interview question on how will you know that you made the right decision is terrific!

  • @kenjepson1908
    @kenjepson19084 жыл бұрын

    At the end of a job interview which I felt hadn't gone too well, the interviewers asked the usual "are there any questions you would like to ask us?", I asked some general questions about the company and then said "based on the interview are there any reasons why you feel you wouldn't offer me this position?". After a little bit of shock on their part one of the interviewers said I was a little too critical of my current employer, I got some feed back and I was able to explain why I was so critical, I was offered the job... which I didn't take!

  • @Namaryop

    @Namaryop

    4 жыл бұрын

    You put negative thoughs in their mind by doing so, you were lucky it worked out for the best. In this video he just implant the idea of him as an employee so they can vizualise it and it will influence them, if you put negative toughts you will influence them in a bad way. I'm glad you nailed it.

  • @agentpuggy4160
    @agentpuggy41605 жыл бұрын

    He was using charisma to get us to enjoy this video all you tubers do it all the things I noticed: Smiling , keeps his hands where we can see them , uses body language, stares deeply into the screen, sounds confident. He himself is using charisma

  • @fejj122na8
    @fejj122na86 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant topic! Way to continually come up with topics I had no idea I needed.

  • @danialteaches
    @danialteaches4 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant video! "If I were in your position, I would feel the exact same way". That is a very powerful line that makes an individual feel heard and understood.

  • @ConfidenceBeats

    @ConfidenceBeats

    2 жыл бұрын

    but it's not about you, it's about them and you made it all about you. there are other ways to be more empathic

  • @randycape555
    @randycape5554 жыл бұрын

    I've only seen a handful of your videos and I will tell you this info is so valuable ... THANK YOU!

  • @stan.corston
    @stan.corston4 жыл бұрын

    Finally. Quality self-improvement content on KZread.

  • @a.maskil9073
    @a.maskil90736 жыл бұрын

    Hey! I have a suggestion. You guys are obviously very knowledgeable when it comes to psychology and modern interaction and you tend to mention books you read here and there that you learned from. Could you make a video listing 5-10 of the most important books you feel you've ever read to boost your understanding of... well, people? I realize this might be a big ask, but I'd love to see it happen - would be really helpful.

  • @AlphaMc111

    @AlphaMc111

    6 жыл бұрын

    This is exactly what I need!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    6 жыл бұрын

    ~ We've actually compiled a list of the best ones in our blog. Feel free to check it out. :-) www.charismaoncommand.com/best-personal-development-books/

  • @a.maskil9073

    @a.maskil9073

    6 жыл бұрын

    Charisma on Command This is great. Thanks!

  • @sian2337
    @sian23375 жыл бұрын

    I use No.2 in debates on facebook and KZread comment sections all the time, it really helps. And No.3, the job interview one, is genius! I’m nervous enough before and during interviews... but the bit at the end, where they ask if you have any questions, is terrifying, because I get even more flustered and I can never think of anything worthwhile. I’m definitely gonna give that a go. Thanks!

  • @adityainampudi4588
    @adityainampudi45883 жыл бұрын

    Impressive content dude! These are one of the brilliant ways to persuade people. I'm super delightful to mange adapting these phrases in my conversations..

  • @DeJake
    @DeJake6 жыл бұрын

    BEEN WAITING FOR THISS

  • @SergioRugerio
    @SergioRugerio6 жыл бұрын

    It's outstanding the way you convey the messages. Honest admiration, thanks for sharing valuable ideas.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    6 жыл бұрын

    ~ Happy to share :-)

  • @SteveRay911
    @SteveRay9115 жыл бұрын

    love the "I gotta be honest" interlude with him convincing his brother, aka, a lie is about to follow

  • @HackerNoon
    @HackerNoon2 жыл бұрын

    Such an excellent video. Thanks for making this kind of video.

  • @TreasureForeverOfficial
    @TreasureForeverOfficial5 жыл бұрын

    I totally used this third question at an interview the other day!!! Lol got hired but didn’t take the job due to scheduling. It was interesting to hear the answer.

  • @GregChacon

    @GregChacon

    3 жыл бұрын

    That’s cool!

  • @Chinyccd
    @Chinyccd4 жыл бұрын

    You should do a video on Lincoln, based off the 2012 film. There are a few scenes in there where Lincoln’s charisma, story telling ability, and overall method of persuasion really show out. Not to mention he had unarguably one the most difficult ideologies that he needed to persuade other of buying into.

  • @GabbyRae82
    @GabbyRae824 жыл бұрын

    I saw your hiring question on another video you posted, used it. Def helped me get the job. I came across your video again looking for tips on presentations for that job. Just remember you. When I used that question on the panel interview, the room lit up. Thanks for the best advice.

  • @BestieAva
    @BestieAva10 ай бұрын

    Love this guy’s smile, it’s so contagious.

  • @azeller09
    @azeller096 жыл бұрын

    stop teaching human glitches and exploits. jk, i need a patch

  • @ablumke17

    @ablumke17

    6 жыл бұрын

    I feel like this guy should write a book, called "Human Glitches & Exploits"

  • @reinaldomartinez13

    @reinaldomartinez13

    6 жыл бұрын

    azeller09 too weak, pls buff

  • @ALEET
    @ALEET4 жыл бұрын

    Wow this man just used all his tactics at the end

  • @ivylaine4840
    @ivylaine48402 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely agree to learn someone's name is to gain their trust! Great advice

  • @Orreborrekorre
    @Orreborrekorre5 жыл бұрын

    This channel led me to a couple of "ooohhh..." moments. I thank you for this.

  • @ShootNeutrality
    @ShootNeutrality4 жыл бұрын

    " After hiring me or someone else, how will you know you made the right choice? " - OMG I regret not knowing this one for a recent job interview!

  • @veronicalupu3235
    @veronicalupu32355 жыл бұрын

    wow! learnt so much in the past weeks from you! Exactly what I needed☺️

  • @vonpaldanius

    @vonpaldanius

    5 жыл бұрын

    I love this channel so useful 😊💕

  • @TheBawrs
    @TheBawrs5 жыл бұрын

    As always,, learned something new. Thanks again!

  • @jimothyworldbuilding3664
    @jimothyworldbuilding36644 жыл бұрын

    This channel made me more confident, has allowed me to befriend pretty much everyone everywhere, helped me learn to think from the perspectives of others and thus change my ideologies to the ones I think best and got my girlfriend out of the friendzone before she showed me the channel. Thanks.

  • @VladimirLordkipanidze
    @VladimirLordkipanidze6 жыл бұрын

    Making my day once again, Charlie!)

  • @ramhithesh4700
    @ramhithesh47006 жыл бұрын

    Please make a video on how to alone but not feel lonely.

  • @chronikhiles

    @chronikhiles

    6 жыл бұрын

    Ram python They're actually very different things. Lonely is when you feel on your own and nobody can understand and relate to you, you can feel lonely even among a crowd.

  • @sehalos

    @sehalos

    6 жыл бұрын

    Ram python Simple, the internet

  • @enthymeme4856

    @enthymeme4856

    6 жыл бұрын

    Nikhil Krishnan I guess I'm lonely then

  • @carlitos220

    @carlitos220

    6 жыл бұрын

    What works for me is understanding that we can't always be accompanied by others. The most successful people can do things on their own. The other day I was at a University library and was motivated when I saw some really good looking girls studying comoletely alone on a late Saturday night. Also if you want to interact with others you can do hobbies or sports but never become needy with others or you'll push them away. Also realize there are probably more people with the same situation as yourself. Hope that helps

  • @skaterfugater

    @skaterfugater

    6 жыл бұрын

    he just recently did. its a video about self love.

  • @Rawfires
    @Rawfires5 жыл бұрын

    That interview question is ---- perfect!

  • @lighttheworldonfire3364
    @lighttheworldonfire33644 жыл бұрын

    So funny. I just used the "because" on my son this morning to get him to do homework and it worked. Then I saw this video. I can't stop watching your videos. They are fantastic and collaborate with all I know about reading and understanding people. Thanks for making these.

  • @okra7648
    @okra76486 жыл бұрын

    I recommend everyone here read the book ''how to win friends and influence people'' it pretty much covers all of this and more, it literally changed my life.

  • @okra7648

    @okra7648

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks man! another one to add on the pile haha

  • @marlonarancibia3247
    @marlonarancibia32475 жыл бұрын

    Everyone: *Malicious purpose* Me: *Convincing friend to join club*

  • @goblinbarrel25yearsago55

    @goblinbarrel25yearsago55

    4 жыл бұрын

    Club penguin

  • @anhelinaburmaka7906
    @anhelinaburmaka79064 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your videos, they help so much to develop. You are an amazing human being!

  • @mattmakowski
    @mattmakowski4 жыл бұрын

    Hey Charlie..... I love your stuff. Watching two of your videos made me want to go back to your product.... which I think is also called Charisma on Command. Great stuff. Keep it coming.

  • @2jimis
    @2jimis6 жыл бұрын

    Man , you are really amazing! I wish i could subscribe twice! 😉 Great video... again!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    6 жыл бұрын

    ~ Appreciate it :-)

  • @joashnaicker_AI
    @joashnaicker_AI6 жыл бұрын

    oh my goodness this man is the man!

  • @johnnymichalak6974
    @johnnymichalak69744 жыл бұрын

    Man, where did you learn to use your body language and facial expressions so well to communicate?!?!? It's something I've noticed in all of your videos and is really engaging.

  • @JaronLukasXYZ
    @JaronLukasXYZ4 жыл бұрын

    Interesting and useful phrases! I use #2 a lot and it’s really effective - putting yourself in the position of the other person and agreeing with them so you can persuade them. Also, the “Yes ladder” is fun and it really works well!

  • @CaylieandTim
    @CaylieandTim6 жыл бұрын

    THIS IS THE BEST

  • @wisdom-for-life

    @wisdom-for-life

    6 жыл бұрын

    His videos keep getting better!

  • @ryuk7237
    @ryuk72374 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂 I used these tricks at my work place and have been getting along and im feeling like Wolf of Wall street

  • @SoVidushi

    @SoVidushi

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lmao fr?

  • @He-ManHater
    @He-ManHater5 жыл бұрын

    I'm glad I gave your channel a chance bro, great work!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    5 жыл бұрын

    ~ Glad you did! Appreciate it. :-)

  • @pyancey0
    @pyancey02 жыл бұрын

    Very powerful advice, thank you for sharing!

  • @sonofamitch696
    @sonofamitch6964 жыл бұрын

    Here's another good one! If you ask someone out somewhere and follow up with a funny/interesting anecdote related to where you would be taking them, they will be more interested in going. This works with more than just dates.

  • @subscriberswithoutanyvid-nv4fn
    @subscriberswithoutanyvid-nv4fn3 жыл бұрын

    *I was using these phrases all these years without understanding the sorcery behind it* 😃

  • @melvinshelton8448
    @melvinshelton84484 жыл бұрын

    Sounds surprisingly good. After all, "Its only a for a sales talk." I will steal as much of this as I can use.

  • @davidbrowne3102
    @davidbrowne31024 жыл бұрын

    This is some really awesome stuff, thank you!

  • @Lyeon
    @Lyeon6 жыл бұрын

    "Would you kindly" didn't make the list?? That phrase literally controls people.

  • @Darth_Bateman

    @Darth_Bateman

    6 жыл бұрын

    AYYYY LMAO.

  • @SlackwareNVM

    @SlackwareNVM

    6 жыл бұрын

    "Would you kindly" - a powerful phrase, familiar phrase...

  • @okra7648

    @okra7648

    6 жыл бұрын

    I've actually used a similar phrase ''would you be a lamb and..'' from the big bang theory lol its surprisingly effective.

  • @Jazinovic

    @Jazinovic

    6 жыл бұрын

    Whenever I get a work email with 'kindly' in the request it makes me want to neck

  • @Lyeon

    @Lyeon

    6 жыл бұрын

    Jazinovic Uhm what does 'neck' mean? Where I come from, to neck means something explicit lol. Also, my comment was a Bioshock reference not to be taken too seriously.

  • @anonymousyoutube5801
    @anonymousyoutube58016 жыл бұрын

    Make a video on how to put into practice and make second nature things we learn here. I think the knowledge is great, but how do we Actually integrate them in our lives.

  • @The2010jonas

    @The2010jonas

    6 жыл бұрын

    this^

  • @silasalberti3524

    @silasalberti3524

    6 жыл бұрын

    Yessss please

  • @wealiveandliving
    @wealiveandliving3 жыл бұрын

    Okay l, I actually feel like this video was life changing and can help so much! I'm so stoked to implement these tips! Thank you soooooooo much!!!!

  • @kellycrerar9705
    @kellycrerar9705 Жыл бұрын

    Been in sales for 25 years. This was very helpful. Thank you.

  • @cassie1969
    @cassie19696 жыл бұрын

    Love your channel.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    6 жыл бұрын

    ~ Glad you're loving the channel Cassandra!

  • @clff1342
    @clff13423 жыл бұрын

    “Have you ever made an exception” I’m gonna use that one on my teacher

  • @monanoorch8699

    @monanoorch8699

    Жыл бұрын

    ??

  • @nathanebbing
    @nathanebbing4 жыл бұрын

    Some of these I knew, some of them I just learned! Thanks for your channel man! This is great information, and I'm glad I'm subscribed! Charisma Level : (+++)

  • @tejaswiyalavarthi9231
    @tejaswiyalavarthi92314 жыл бұрын

    You have a great smile! Thanks for the video 👌🏼

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