5 Ways You Can Avoid Small Talk
Small talk limits us from deep, meaningful relationships. Not just with others, but with ourselves as well.
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1. Ask real questions. 2. Find one way to add value. 3. Consider how the world sees you. 4. Reflect on what people speak about. 5. Commit to a strong start.
You can feel when someone ain't being real with you, energy never lies.
@crowking76
2 жыл бұрын
..and it may be opportunity to talk about it..
@julies402
2 жыл бұрын
I am going through the same situation right now
@nava3548
2 жыл бұрын
@@julies402 try nofap, meditation, visualisation while meditating as they are already your friends. Also remember u don't have to impress anyone just express yourself
@julies402
2 жыл бұрын
@@nava3548 thank you so much 🥰
@nava3548
2 жыл бұрын
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I’m an introvert so this social distancing thing is actually easy for me .
@T12kai
2 жыл бұрын
Mee too bro I felt every inch of introvert
@thehustlers6982
2 жыл бұрын
Hmm i also feel the same 😀
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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@alwaysamaybe3642
2 жыл бұрын
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"Ask better questions" -- yess! Totally agree... When we ask deeper questions, we get deeper answers back. 👏👏👏
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."* The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
@estelleandrieux9165
2 жыл бұрын
Have an amazing day Ahmet
@mysterious9731
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Same 2 u😊
@krrishsingh3293
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, definitely bro! After all, it's your own life you have to live not others.
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I'm at a point in my life where if someone asks me something about myself I want to ask them “Do you really want to know?”. Also I'm done with asking “Did you have a good day?” because usually I get one word answers so instead I say “Tell me something good/positive that happened to you today.” The faces people make when they hear this instead of the same overused question and seeing their wheels turning are priceless. 🙂
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
It just feels like you're talking about me. Cause I do this, literally almost all the Time. Great video by the way, Good Story telling
I much prefer having deeper conversations. Love it when Jay drops some knowledge on us
Phenomenal person reading this, surround yourself with people who are better and wealthier! Keeps you humble, teachable, and hungry. You become those with whom you surround yourself with! Birds of a feather flock together! You got this! 🌟 I believe in you! Love - Nat ❤️
That one word answer is so me. I normally leave conversations hanging, especially when people ask me personal questions. I'd usually lie and make it obvious that I'm lying. We'd go like this in circle until you stop asking me questions.
1 Cut one words answers : answer deeply 2 Add insight : share your insights 3 Ask Better questions : understand the situation than ask the right question 4 Include Other peoples : more people led to different idea with different perspective 5 Ask yourself : have more deep conversation with yourself I used comment section as a notes haha I'm posting it here too so it will work as a quick summary of everything he taught to us in this video Thanks Jay for all these tips Have a good day : )
I’m a super introvert and this seems so complicated to me. It’s extremely hard for me to connect with people. The weird thing is I’m a rockstar in sales lol
@AsocialMelon
20 күн бұрын
Thats different, I was in a broadly similar role. I used to call it 'The Patter', a pre determined set of speeches and routes through a conversation, but for a singular goal. It would seem like natural speech, but was always based on the outcomes I wanted and never ever personal.
You’re right @JayShetty I agree, this generation is messed up because people are acting like robots, always on their phones rather than focusing on establishing genuine human connections & it’s very disappointing to see what this world has come to… but luckily not everyone you’ll run into is like that. There’s always someone out there who thinks like you.
@1club357
2 жыл бұрын
Agree 🙂
@nukedrum5219
2 жыл бұрын
I agree! Deeper connections with humans dwell in greater bonds💯
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Everything you do, see and feel is a reflection of not who you are, but how you are You got this bestie keep striving
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Some think it is the big things that cause men to stumble. Often it is the minor ones that shake us the most. This shows the futility of self-confidence.
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The thing is: most of people including myself ask questions because needs to …is not all the time that people are interested in your life …if I start to tell exactly what I’m feeling most of them will be annoyed not because they are bad just because everyone is so tired and concentrate in their lives …
@aakashgupta5917
2 жыл бұрын
May be you didn't meet those people who intrested in knowing more about you and how you feel this days
Thanks our sincere guide for these concepts,
Oh my God Jay Sir! Such AN INTERESTING VIDEO. I LOVED EVERY MINUTE OF IT 😍
Amazing!!! this is extremely informative. Thanks @Jay Shetty
Thank you for posting the video.
We want bit longer video on this topic. This is very informative which we can use in our day to day life.
To counter this, what does annoy me is when you are giving all the signals that you do not want to talk. i.e. giving the one word answers, not making eye contact etc etc, people carry on trying! Some days we are just too busy to stop and talk, we need to learn that quiet and solitary time is also a good thing.
Love your videos Jay 😊! Thanks
A great video will teach the others to have a better communication and learn from the others! Thanks!
Thank you Jay for your video.
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2 жыл бұрын
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Finally i can ditch the small talk with my newspaper vendor and discuss with him the nature of reality!
@TheWhisperTexan
2 жыл бұрын
I used to talk to the parking lot attendant near my work and we actually became good friends.
Pls make a longer vedio about this topic. It was advantageous 🌟
Great tips.. Love your explanation!
You are so inspiring person
Thank you Jay :)
I love this video. It’s awesome ❤️🙋♀️
Surely gonna try these tips.
wow so this will help me socialise more at school thank u
1:56 would have been extra comical to have Radhi jealously peering through one of those windows.
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2 жыл бұрын
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Amazing Jay...
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Best question I was asked, was do you know you’re true strength. Worst question was, what makes you think you are a businessman? You’re just a worker!
I read this your book think like a monk
Small conversations follow the same pattern. An endless back-and-forth relay of absolute pointlessness. No question demands an honest answer. A question is asked as an exercise in formal behaviour. Questions that are greetings. Questions that are placeholders. Questions that fill awkward gaps. Questions to suggest an interest that does not exist. Questions that pretend to listen. Never, ever a question that seeks to know.
@voz5585
2 жыл бұрын
nailed it 👍
please make more videos like this
"Small talk needs to get big at some phase." Maeve Higgins
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2 жыл бұрын
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Thanks from India 🇮🇳
Ask better questions.. Thats really very important, inorder to avoid boring answers and distance..thanks
His Examples of Better Questions If you met your younger self today, what would make them happy and what would make them sad? What situations make you feel awkward and why? What did you recently buy that you now regret? What's the best advice you've ever received and what's the worst? If you could create one law that everyone had to follow, what would it be? Add more people in the conversation
Big Fan of u Bro 🙏🙏🙏
such a good video:)
Nice info. I forgot how to connect with people after 2 3 years just stay at home
So much relatable
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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Want to avoid small talk? Move to Finland. It is a highly developed nation with one of the highest standards of living on Earth and a place where nobody will bother you with small talk, nor will they accept it from you. I personally do not like small talk.
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2 жыл бұрын
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Hi jay
A conversation is worth it only if there is reciprocation. Even if I apply these tips and I'm a good conversationalist, yet there would be some push back if the listener lacks the energy.. Social skills aren't that easy..😅
@voz5585
2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree it is reciprocal. My energy might come off too strong in wanting to connect that the other person might think I’m being nosy. Ppl also fear judgement and won’t disclose the truth especially to a stranger. Also, I find that majority of Americans tend to value their sense of privacy and personal life. Some just would rather listen vs lead the convo.
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2 жыл бұрын
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Key to cut small talk: *Vulnerability*
Really it is so niz
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2 жыл бұрын
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I meet you sir I'm Indian
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Hey I want to learn small talk so that I can save my energy .
The law I would create is required self love ❤️ we all deserve it yet are criminals 🤣
You can avoid small talk by stating loudly: "That's great, George, but I have to go home now to help my grandmother apply anti-fungal cream rectally."
How to avoid short talks: 1)Avoid one word answers immediately 2)Add insight 3)
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Hallo sir
1. Don't talk at all
At first How to start if there are no any common things ???
Unfortunately, if you say in small talk that you are stressed, tired or upset, people are withdrawing
The more you learn the less you know
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2 жыл бұрын
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Hello sir, Can you make a video on how to not be complacent with just small work I do or when I achieve small things. This does not allow us to learn better, So please a video on it
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2 жыл бұрын
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Ask open ended questions?
What do you do or say, when you try to have a conversation with your adult child and they say, you ask too many questions, why do you want to know?
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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Small talk has its own significance, its necessity. You have just made your self a hawker selling anything that will bring ratings. I like you, but stay to the facts
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2 жыл бұрын
Acha ranout ji ki category ke ho aap kabhi padhe h bill apne tino uska pura udas tha msp ko samapt karke privation ko badwa dena
We heard you are the king of plagiarism 😂 is it true?