5 Ways to Get Closure when there is no Closure with a Narcissist

5 Ways to Get Closure when there is no Closure with a Narcissist
Were you discarded by a narcissist, or did you decide to finally end that relationship? Perhaps the relationship came to an end, and you are left reeling trying to pull yourself together, and having difficulty getting closure. In this video, I will be sharing 5 ways that you can get closure without needing it from the narcissist so that you can find healing and freedom once and for all, and move forward without looking back into God's purposes and destiny for your life.
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Hi! I’m Shaneen Megji. It seems my whole life has prepared me to do the work I am so passionate about today. Let’s just say I had to swim in narcissistic waters for many years, in workplace scenarios, in my previous faith as a Muslim, in friendships, and even in the church. God truly doesn’t waste anything. Each and every experience and all the studies I have done help me in my passion to set people free from the bondage and oppression of narcissistic relationships, to help survivors of such pain regain their authentic selves and their hope in God’s good plans for them, and to re-educate the church around toxic leadership.
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  • @triplekids3
    @triplekids32 жыл бұрын

    After my spiritual awakening 7 years ago, my family didn’t like me, so I left all my toxic family of 33 years, I left August 28/2020 but once I knew the truth I can’t go back to the lie,God is for me he’s not against me,

  • @1010QUEEN7

    @1010QUEEN7

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sometimes family except you to live a lie and they don't know what it is like to live with a narc and all the lies and abuse you have taken over the years

  • @melissalatorre30

    @melissalatorre30

    2 жыл бұрын

    Congratulations!! I also left all my toxic family at the age of 40. I woke up to the truth of their toxicity and narcissism in 2020 and when I tried to set boundaries with my mother she did not like it and so I went no contact with her (the head narc of the family) after my last email / communication to her on Nov.16/20 where I kindly said to her in not so many words that I knew she would never change. I too will never go back to the fantasy false image life of lies she wants me to keep on living and pretending that her false image is the truth when it is not. Thanks for sharing your story, it helps me to feel better to hear others have gone through similar experience as mine. I became born again Christian a month after I cut ties with my toxic mother and the family. And today I was baptized, finally...living in Canada made it hard to find a church to be baptized in where the church were not false hypocrites pastors and preachers who were creating the same division in the churches with the gov't overreach and narcissistic abuse that I experienced in my family home growing up. So it took me a while after being saved by Christ to find a church that was actually following God's commandments and not making friends with the world and trying to please man and the gov't for their financial gains/purposes. Praise the Lord! The Lord is so merciful and awesome that He delivered me from that toxic family!!

  • @triplekids3

    @triplekids3

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@melissalatorre30 I Praise the lord for your freedom in Jesus!!! He is the only way the truth, and life❤️🙏🏻

  • @christinacirillo54

    @christinacirillo54

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amen!!!! With God all things are possible!! 🙏🙏

  • @lauravela1281

    @lauravela1281

    2 жыл бұрын

    Awww 💔... I can Rrelate to that to That ... but walking in the truth is the greatest thing ever happened to us... so is ok..God bless you.🙏

  • @lzcrazyzl6443
    @lzcrazyzl64433 жыл бұрын

    Trust God with the next season of your life. A new season ahead. Our God is an awesome God!!!

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    3 жыл бұрын

    Amen! 🙏🏽

  • @Allswwell
    @Allswwell2 жыл бұрын

    Writing a letter of forgiveness of the narcissist and forgiveness of myself, including compassion for the dynamics of his family that caused him to develop narcissism. - I did not send the letter, because it was of far greater depth than the narcissist could ever understand. I burned the letter instead. That was an exercise I did that helped me a lot in gaining closure. “God makes all things beautiful in its time.” In the letter I also thanked the narcissist for all the growth and awakening our relationship led me to through learning about narcissism and opening the pathway to allow me to have better relationships. Thank you so much for your wonderful healing videos, Shaneen!

  • @kyiatonise

    @kyiatonise

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’ve been tempted to email him directly but will do this instead! Thank you!

  • @georgeadams4650
    @georgeadams46502 жыл бұрын

    Divorcing a Narcissistic person with children involved is a subject I’d like to hear about Thank you for all your insight from the Bible, psychology and life in general Good bless you Shaneen praying God gives you tremendous favor as you help others

  • @nessiegeorge8054

    @nessiegeorge8054

    2 жыл бұрын

    I would like to learn that too

  • @cynthiaplumlee

    @cynthiaplumlee

    Жыл бұрын

    Divorcing a narcissist that is an attorney that you have children with is horror.

  • @deborahbailey8246

    @deborahbailey8246

    11 ай бұрын

    I too would like to hear this in a video ….. 🙏

  • @MrFoulosophe

    @MrFoulosophe

    3 ай бұрын

    Me too

  • @nataliasolakian7928
    @nataliasolakian79282 жыл бұрын

    I swear these people are minions from hell. I married a narcissist and we are not together anymore. We have a child together but it was THE most horrifying experience of my life. Please pray for me. They don't want to give you closure because they want to control you. If they tell you the truth you are FREE. But God can STILL give you freedom through prayer and following these steps.

  • @petefranchella9125
    @petefranchella91253 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this balanced, christian perspective on the subject. You are helping me

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    3 жыл бұрын

    Praise God. I’m so glad the video was helpful. 🙏🏽

  • @briangraves454

    @briangraves454

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amazing knowledge, I'm a very spiritual being and what I call a follower of yeshua. There are so many people in the Christian churches in America today that are narcissist and misleading people. I come from a very strong Christian family that was Holly traumatically abusive. I thought about the things that you just said and now I'm hurting from you and I will take action on these things. In fact I got the idea in the Old testament I believe it was Deuteronomy and I'm going to paraphrase it where Yahweh basically said don't take their money it has bad Spirit on it. And I'm in the process of getting rid of everything that reminds me of my narcissistic family, clothes, guns that my dad and I hunted with together and I mean everything. I do not want to carry any of that spirit with me in the next stage of my life and I am changing my name and I am moving. Thanks again

  • @barishankhonglah4690

    @barishankhonglah4690

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@briangraves454 sounds fair enough. May the Lord guide us all on our journey of life. On our own we know nothing.

  • @l.5832
    @l.58322 жыл бұрын

    My cat (who I have as an emotional support animal) actually inadvertently helped me with closure by breaking a few objects. He broke a bowl that my narc mother had given me and I had on display and he also broke a plate I got on a very rare holiday with my narc ex-husband. I never realized it at the time but I had both those objects out on display and what I really needed to do was get rid of them. I was heartbroken when they broke because neither of those people ever gave me much of anything, elevating the importance of the few crumbs I got. But they were TOO important to me and I needed to move on. The cat has helped me in many ways......(and the breakage was completely out of character for that cat. He has never broken anything NOT given to me by a narc!)

  • @samarygarcia
    @samarygarcia2 жыл бұрын

    Is amazing how God is using you to validate my healing journey. I’ve had to use each of these options in a very unique way to help me get closure. Thank you for these because it has validated a lot of actions and decisions that seemed a little off at the time and i understand now they were a reasonable and necessary part of my healing journey.

  • @vicktoralexandrovic8570

    @vicktoralexandrovic8570

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here, I did all except move and wondered if I were doing the right thing but I feel better for having done so. It is good to be validated

  • @lizdiaz69
    @lizdiaz692 жыл бұрын

    Hi again! Thank you. Out of the 5 I am doing 3. In a video you have about cutting ungodly ties- I did that yesterday (Monday 2/28/22). 1. I prayed along with you and cut the 3 cord string but I burned it as welI. 2. I have thrown away all and anything that has to do with him. 3. I have thrown some of my clothes out, but, as soon as I am able to buy knew ones I will definitely throw away the remaining clothes I wore while I was with him. Although, I cannot move since I recently signed a 1 year lease. I opted to travel so that I won’t be in my apartment nor allow him to show up trying to love bomb me. Therefore, I will be joining a group where I will be housesitting/pet sitting for people when they travel-therefore giving me an opportunity to be away. Lastly but not least. Due to this toxic and abusive relationship, I am strengthening my life in Jesus, drawing closer to him & grateful that he has led me to find you & this channel. Ever since, I am doing so much better than I have before, cuz I was really struggling to get over this relationship. Now I am excited of whats ahead for/of me (Jeremiah 29:11). God is good! Thank you, Shaneen! God bless you and this channel. Next step-finding good and godly friends. 😃

  • @SingleDadCoach
    @SingleDadCoach2 жыл бұрын

    I survived a narcissist only because of god!! Thank you god✝️✝️✝️

  • @daniellesedrak6162
    @daniellesedrak61623 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Shaneen. So well put together. Being your real life friend and knowing how genuine you are makes these videos more powerful for me. I look forward to all your new videos. Blessings Friend

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you beautiful friend! ❤️🤗

  • @fofs3084
    @fofs30847 ай бұрын

    I love the christian perspective you share with us, its so different but a treasure for us christians❤ thank you so so much... Im struggling so much the past few days and i have a 3 month old baby, its almost a year since ive seen my ex and ive felt better before but these past few days, im so heartbroken that he was so easily able to move on get married, have a baby and just leave my baby and i all alone. 8 years long of being with him and today the baby and i are all alone. 😢 Hes never seen the baby because he left the day we found out... And hes never even been interested in even asking what her name is😢 shes so cute and sweet. I find it hard that he met soneone recently and knows how to be a husband and a dad to them... Im not even envious(which i was a few weeks ago) im just really heartbroken that the days are so hard. You have such a sweet way of getting this info through to us and it really helps alot❤ God bless you😘

  • @S_alvationN
    @S_alvationN2 жыл бұрын

    I'm a muslim and I love your God call content. We need God in our lives! Thank you! Much Appreciated!💗

  • @b.tabati911
    @b.tabati9112 жыл бұрын

    It’s also important to cut the attachments of the narcissists family members as they somehow keep their claws in you and this avoids you from moving on. You may find that they manipulate your emotions and keep you stuck...

  • @lizthomas1871
    @lizthomas18712 жыл бұрын

    Wow!! Thanks for explaining what is happening physically. Sheding old skin for new skin. Narcissist survival behavior "go along to get along" leaving because we are experiencing emotional and spiritual transformations. Keep trudging this beautiful journey of God's course in miracles. ♥️🙏💪👍💐🦋🐸

  • @adetheheat8657
    @adetheheat86572 жыл бұрын

    Changing your name will remind the narc of how much power they had over you and give them pleasure

  • @staceytaylor8226
    @staceytaylor82262 жыл бұрын

    I needed to hear this today 2022 it’s confirmation thank you

  • @jaredknight1627
    @jaredknight16273 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your beautiful uplifting videos. I am very thankful that you use the Bible and God for reference! Thats exactly who I've been relying on through all of this non sense! My life is turning around slowly but surely. I have a huge court date tomorrow with the x narc. All prayers would be very helpful.

  • @Charmainecharmainecharmaine
    @Charmainecharmainecharmaine Жыл бұрын

    I called my father after 3 years of no contact. I cried and said sorry, told him I loved him. He said he loved me too but never has he ever said sorry to me except once after smacking me after my mom/his wife died. He asked me if I was keeping my toilet clean and I laughed and said ya? And he said that’s more than me. I think looks as me as competition.. it’s really sad I just want an unconditional love between us. I feel better after calling though now I can keep my focus on God and know I’ve repented for my reactive abuse I had towards him

  • @lindaarencibia1488
    @lindaarencibia14882 жыл бұрын

    You content is very helpful and full of wisdom. I always learn something from your videos. In this video, I found one point that was problematic for me, and that was the suggestion to change one's name. It seems like such an action would be giving too much power to the narcissist. Hopefully, the person who has suffered abuse from a narcissist had a solid pre-narcissist attachment identity -- especially if they had a relationship with God through his son,Y'shua. To give up one's name (seems to ME) to imply that THAT person was stolen or destroyed in the abusive relationship. Of course, name changing might be important and well-advised if the person is leaving a marriage where they took the name of a narcissistic spouse. I don't know. I am just speculating here. I find that cleaning and organizing my living space helps me to redirect and refocus after a trauma. Confusion and chaos characterized a relationship that I was in. Since I know that God is not a "god" of confusion, taking stock of those dynamics was the crimson flag that I needed to confirm that the relationship was out of God's order and plans for me . Order has been established in my physical space and that has helped me order my thoughts, take them captive, to discard items and thoughts that exalt themselves above tge knowledge of God and to walk into God's order for me and my life. It feels like a "as it is in heaven, so on earth " kind of thing. 😊 I am just throwing that out as a suggestion that might help someone else, and I guess it pairs well with your advice to remove items associated with the narcissist. Again, I appreciate what you are doing on your channel and look forward to more empowering content. Finally, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your proclamation, " Toxicity is not your destiny." Bless you!

  • @esthero1994

    @esthero1994

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this. Great advice. Best wishes 💞

  • @libraempress2069
    @libraempress20692 жыл бұрын

    My narcissist ex never gives closure, he would just disappear after petty conflict, then when I pop up to him he acts like nothing ever happened

  • @candie5150
    @candie51503 жыл бұрын

    Awesome content. Very applicable to my situation thanks again for all you are doing for us!

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Candie 😊💕

  • @freeyourselfoftoxicity
    @freeyourselfoftoxicity2 жыл бұрын

    Amen. No better way to give practical and spiritual advice than with the Word of God. Thank you and may God continue to use your channel, it's truly an amazing ministry. Take care.

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! God bless you too! 😊🙏🏽

  • @kirkyhopwood2815
    @kirkyhopwood28153 жыл бұрын

    My sister oppose the deveil an they will flee.when we understand their game we can flip the scrip.when know they are lieing we keep quite an pretend we belive them .then we will slowy see them fall on their own sword.

  • @sweetpea3153
    @sweetpea3153 Жыл бұрын

    I recently found your videos which have been confirmation for what I had do to save myself from a narcissistic person in my life. I've learned so much. I thought I knew what I was doing, in part because I have two psychology degrees, but love for this family member blinded me. Thank you and God bless.

  • @nataliasolakian7928
    @nataliasolakian79282 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your help Shaneen

  • @goldenjaguar7690
    @goldenjaguar76902 жыл бұрын

    An amazing SYNCHRONICITY ! I am very grateful !

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek25682 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for great tips on how to get closure on the narcisist.

  • @valeriezaitzieff1462
    @valeriezaitzieff14622 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your very helpful videos! God bless and continue to use you to bless many others! 💕🙏

  • @jamescollins4260
    @jamescollins42602 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Shaneen. Another very helpful video. 😊

  • @kingsway731
    @kingsway7312 жыл бұрын

    This was a really good video. Thank you ❤️many of your videos have been helpful

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad. God bless you! 🙏🏽😊

  • @trumpeterswan4177
    @trumpeterswan41772 жыл бұрын

    New clothes...yes! I did this because I noticed that I kept thinking of my old life when I saw the clothing I wore then. Great idea for moving beyond ruminating about the past.

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek25682 жыл бұрын

    Great tips. Thank you.

  • @victorlubao5077
    @victorlubao50772 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much, now i fully understand what is happening on my relation with my wife. All the thing you explain are happening to us. I still hope someday she will change ,with God nothing is imposible.

  • @desireericheymesser1951
    @desireericheymesser19512 жыл бұрын

    These are wonderful tips. TY.

  • @patriciashea4947
    @patriciashea49472 жыл бұрын

    Stay away forever. Do not see or speak with that person. Much peace and joy. Love God.

  • @womanofprayer7061
    @womanofprayer70612 жыл бұрын

    Interesting because all these things I've been doing/ starting to do.

  • @shad5637
    @shad56372 жыл бұрын

    Wow thank you

  • @lordzson2700
    @lordzson27002 жыл бұрын

    Hi Shaneen great stuff, im still shocked of what im going through, by what you have been teaching, this looks like an organized system living in people. Very shocking.

  • @eaglesview888
    @eaglesview888 Жыл бұрын

    This video was very helpful. Thanks yet again @shaneenmegji . It's been 2 years now since my high school sweetheart just up and left. A 43-year friendship including 35 years married. All your videos speak into the situation. I am finding closure slowly after watching certain videos up to 3 times. It eventually becomes a case of blind faith and just abandoning oneself to Yeshua's leading. It is difficult to suddenly have no communication at all. Beyond soul-wrenching, but it is what it is. The breaking of soul ties with the two different personalities finally dropped into place today. God knows the plan going forward. God bless you and your loved ones. All the best for 2023 and beyond #grateful 👌👌

  • @sharonthomas6459
    @sharonthomas64592 жыл бұрын

    God just spoke to me through you!

  • @user-pn6yn9pc9y
    @user-pn6yn9pc9y10 ай бұрын

    Thank You God Bless

  • @michiganmymichigan
    @michiganmymichigan2 жыл бұрын

    All good advise. Mine is a bit adaptive comparatively. Learned to do without running water. No showering at the Flying Monkey's.

  • @rctempleton9711
    @rctempleton97113 жыл бұрын

    shaneen i was reading 2nd peter, false teachers they look like narcissists to me

  • @annaburns2865
    @annaburns28652 жыл бұрын

    After going through so much agony I am finally getting some healing. What has been giving me closure wasn’t even mentioned in this video so I would like to share what I have tried! However I like you ideas too, because I am not out of the woods yet. But anyways, so far I am trying a multitude of things that are slowly starting to help. Between praying/asking people to pray and remembering Bible verses I have tired to take a very Biblical approach to this. I also listen to Christian music. I often talk to my husband about our issues and other issues that I am having with my family or origin. My husband gets along with them better and sometimes I feel like he and them are all or mostly all narcissistic. But sometimes they will do something really loving. My husband even does my laundry for me even at times when he is really busy. Anyways Christian contemporary music has really helped a lot too. I grew up listening to DC talk and still listen to Toby Mac, Newsboys, Danny Gokey etc. quite a bit. Lately I’ve been enjoying Hilary Scott’s “Thy will be done”

  • @kyiatonise

    @kyiatonise

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hilary Scott-Thy Will Be Done is my jam!

  • @katerinasofie6879
    @katerinasofie68792 жыл бұрын

    Yes, I had to get rid of the clothes I wore when I was with him, because all I could see was the memories when I saw it!

  • @andreacarroll3851
    @andreacarroll385111 ай бұрын

    I was severely love bombed by a narcissist. Love bombing needs more awareness, it can be a lot more damaging than people think.

  • @changcelest6207
    @changcelest62072 жыл бұрын

    When did lots of efforts to improve relationships with narcs, also caused the process of learning more about narcs, self and the truth inflicted. When looked back, knowing It’s a never go back journey. Thanks Jesus’s Words beside all along.

  • @sisdenise5310
    @sisdenise53102 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your video, really helps, couple of thing’s, I do is not text him back, or call! But I have walked away so many times, and he is a black widow for sure! I keep on praying to God to remove him from me! Is there anything else you can help me with? God Bless You for all you do for me 🙋‍♀️💜🕊

  • @patriciacollins8519
    @patriciacollins85193 жыл бұрын

    Shaneen, thanks so much for what you are doing. A Christian psychologist... Daring! Good for you. I do have a question, tho. Why are psychologists so intent on personality disorders? What about Maslow's hierarchy of needs? I think a lot of people are suffering because their needs are not being met. Personally, I think it's not a matter of meeting a need, then moving on to the next, but rather a matter of addressing those needs simultaneously. What do you think? Anyway, that's my two cents so I'll sign off for now.

  • @shiloh3834
    @shiloh38342 жыл бұрын

    What if the reminder of the narcissist in my life is our SON 😞 but thank you, Shaneen! Your videos has truly helped me take heart and courage that cutting ties and moving forward is possible through Christ!

  • @leecooper1459
    @leecooper14592 жыл бұрын

    wow

  • @dylansylvan6398
    @dylansylvan6398 Жыл бұрын

    I love your channel, especially because it is from biblical wisdom. If I am leaving a narcissist and feel guilty about things I said to them; Do I apologize for the things I said in anger, even if the narc is likely not going to admit anything they said or did was wrong? I ask because in AA and other 12 step programs, they teach to "clean your own side of the street" and make amends to people without regard to what that person did to you. An example would be a narc gaslights you and invalidates you and tries to convince you that you are mentally ill and that you have no agency, and should have them or a psychiatrist make decisions for you, in other words, they sort infantalize you and attack you at a core level of human independence, i.e. classic gaslighting. Should one make amends to the narc upon leaving and/ or go no contact or leave the door open for contact, even though you want no contact?

  • @gayemurphy3271
    @gayemurphy32712 жыл бұрын

    What happens to my soul's self when my ex narcissists dies ? How to remain respectful myself & show my sons how to cope. Ie that's if he leaves this world B4 me?? Thank you again ♥🙏

  • @miroslav1379
    @miroslav1379 Жыл бұрын

    What ever happen to praying for the person. We are all children of God.

  • @lasalleartteacher4116
    @lasalleartteacher41162 жыл бұрын

    I would really like a good source of information that can help me understand how to balance my walk as a Christian Empath and my narcissist daughter in law?

  • @glendahallerbaird8421
    @glendahallerbaird84212 жыл бұрын

    Narc left me , I did not realize he was narc. He told me he would put another woman in my bed when I go to work. I felt like you were arrogant enough to say that to my face. He would say things like you will do as you told. He would talk about me to his brothers and daughter really bad. I ask God to do something and He did. He sent him away. During this time he brought a new construction home under my nose without me knowing. Then he went on a dating site and he came up on one of my friends page. It shocked him when I found out. He filed for uncontested divorce and signed papers there was no marital property when he brought a brand new construction 4 bedroom home in another state while we are still married. Then he calls me and ask will I sign my rights over to the house. I am getting a lawyer. Can you respond on this behavior?

  • @gal416

    @gal416

    2 жыл бұрын

    You have legal right to 50% of all assets acquired during marriage, don't sign anything without legal advice.

  • @lauriej.5706
    @lauriej.57063 жыл бұрын

    My mother was a major bully. She believed she owned me. She belonged to a very powerful cult-like organization (the old Soviet dominated Communist Party) and it gave her a lot of power. I fought for my independence for years, even make tries at moving thousands of miles from her (her group watched me and sabotaged my life). Nothing really worked. Eventually, well into my middle years,, I caved in to her control over my life 100% and gave up the fight for my independence. I really had little choice because she threatened the lives of my 2 closest friends; she'd killed other people and I felt it was my freedom vs. the people I loved. Now my mother has been gone for 15 years but she still haunts me like an evil ghost. How could I ever find "closure" now?

  • @sbdsinc8366

    @sbdsinc8366

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow. That’s a story. It reminds me of the antiquated Asian practice of foot binding. Even though the binds are eventually removed, the foot stays in its altered and unnatural shape forever. You somehow need to massage your independence back out, maybe even break some of the old structure. This is my struggle as well, not easy!

  • @lauriej.5706

    @lauriej.5706

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@sbdsinc8366 Thank you for caring. And for your insightful response. I think you are right and it's quite a struggle. I wish you the best in your own struggle to reclaim your soul.

  • @tribalequestrian4954
    @tribalequestrian49542 жыл бұрын

    I thought my spouse was a covert narcissist. He is actually an aspbergers. Please, look it up before you throw in the towel. It made us have empathy for him and realize he didn't mean to come across that way. He really does love us.

  • @julesv4948

    @julesv4948

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes agreed- i have both in my life and aspergers very different to narcs!

  • @barishankhonglah4690
    @barishankhonglah46902 жыл бұрын

    I know nothing yet but just the hurt. Feel destroyed. O Lord Help Me.

  • @troyannbladsacker1811

    @troyannbladsacker1811

    2 жыл бұрын

    It's been a year and I still feel that way. Married 42 years. Cling to Jesus. Sometimes I read my Bible and don't know what I'm reading but my spirit does. My best prayer is help me God.

  • @barishankhonglah4690

    @barishankhonglah4690

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@troyannbladsacker1811 mine too. It's Messy lt is something I don't understand. But I only know He holds my tomorrows. What's coming next I have no idea at all.

  • @junegeary6584
    @junegeary65843 жыл бұрын

    Co-Parenting. For the rest of my life. With him since I was a teenager. I’m turning 50. So- I have decided to accept the daily contact. We still go to events together.

  • @esthero1994

    @esthero1994

    2 жыл бұрын

    Any kind of advice? Would be highly appeeciated. Im in the same position. Youngest is 2.

  • @yolandacurry5379

    @yolandacurry5379

    2 жыл бұрын

    Just stop that shit! I used to think we could still co-parent but it was just delaying my healing process and it became another way for him to continue to control me and trama bond me and our children besides that, it's much to painful to watch him move on with his new supply anyway, which he is really repeating a narcissistic pattern of the same thing he did with me 23 years ago and nobody warned me about what I was in for so I don't feel compelled to warn her but I believe it's best to keep moving on with my own life and continue my healing process my kids are 18(yes twins! 😁)and they can make their own decisions as to when or if they wanna see their father and most of the time they don't so that's something he will have to live with. God bless you all and good luck!

  • @adanaryjacques7776

    @adanaryjacques7776

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@yolandacurry5379 I totally agree with you which is why I struggled to come to my decision to leave. No children together, mine are grown, but we built an amazing business together during the pandemic. It breaks my heart to leave behind my customers and what I helped create and love so much. It's 2 years young and very lucrative but the abuse is unbelievable. The more money the company makes, the more notoriety, the more narc supply for him. We haven't even cashed out yet, it scares me to think what actual money in his hands will do. He forgets where we came from, how we got here all the sacrifices. He future fakes to keep me on the hook but I've awakened and I thank God for the people he sent to help me reveal who i was dealing with and why i am the way i am, what attracted us to one another,. I just didn't see the red flags. The business kept us preoccupied but It's all unveiled now. I was exhausted until i heard the last big lie, followed by excuses, no accountability, no empathy, ridiculous and embarrassing love bombing... it's surreal how my eyes literally felt wide open! Enough is enough, my mind heart and soul pivoted. I'm now on a genuine road to recovery and healing. Transformation activated...I'm leaving money on the table because we won't be able to work together but I get myself back, and that's priceless! Thankful for this video and so many others which always come right on time! I'm secretly preparing to move out this week if anyone could, please join me in praying for the strength I'll need to face what's coming next, it's not over yet. Be well everyone, in God's love ❤️

  • @jilross4892
    @jilross48923 жыл бұрын

    I wont miss the Narcissist but I will worry having nobody for financial support anymore

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    3 жыл бұрын

    Jill, if you love Jesus and have invited Him to be in the driver's seat of your life, He will look after you. He will take care of your needs. King David said, "I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread." (Psalm 37:25) So be encouraged that God has your back 💕.

  • @lzcrazyzl6443

    @lzcrazyzl6443

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ShaneenMegji thankyou for reiterating what I know and believe. No doubt that our LORD has us.

  • @audrajeanrussell8066

    @audrajeanrussell8066

    3 жыл бұрын

    I was in the same boat (lost my entire family and social circle when I went no contact with my narc mother). Trust me when I say this....GOD'S GOT YOU. It hasn't been a smooth, easy road, but I praise the Lord for the way He has upheld me (especially financially!) over these last 4 years now. (And, to be clear, I was STEEPED in learned helplessness and did not know how to do almost anything on my own when I left - BUT GOD is faithful).

  • @jilross4892

    @jilross4892

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@audrajeanrussell8066 thats great, thanks for sharing

  • @jilross4892

    @jilross4892

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ShaneenMegji thank you

  • @rosariovaz7353
    @rosariovaz73533 жыл бұрын

    Thank you.Bless you.!

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    3 жыл бұрын

    Bless you too! 🙏🏽

  • @agatamakulska4442
    @agatamakulska4442 Жыл бұрын

    It is very interesting but 3 out 5 things are on my mind, I just can’t do them yet. I would love to change my surname, I want to change my name and I don’t want to live in the house we are living right now. I can change my look just don’t have the green light for house change and name since I am still married. I have on my heart to move away but we share kids, but I am sure God will find a solution for all this things.

  • @MaryellenS.13
    @MaryellenS.132 жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻🕊💙

  • @congratsgoodsamaritanofjes5042
    @congratsgoodsamaritanofjes50422 жыл бұрын

    Hi shahneen your advice should work in the mighty name of yashuva. I feel on mysuccess how to intimate you. God bless. I am 75 age victim of 45 yrs mariage.

  • @ShaneenMegji

    @ShaneenMegji

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing! God bless you too. 🙏🏽😊

  • @maxethan3828

    @maxethan3828

    2 жыл бұрын

    ±2349155456106♣️⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.,......

  • @dodibenabba1378
    @dodibenabba13782 жыл бұрын

    Funny you should say about changing my name, it was the first thing the Lord said to me. 🗡️🔥🙏✝️

  • @troyannbladsacker1811

    @troyannbladsacker1811

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm going back to my maiden name after 42 years of marriage. He abandoned me last year. Can't say much as we're still involved with legal issues. It's been a nightmare. I'm isolated far from home, my health has taken a beating and I'm almost 69 having to start all over again with no closure. The cruelty is unbelievable. I never dreamed I'd be in this position. I'm going home as soon as I can. If not for Jesus I don't know where I would be. God bless all of you.

  • @dodibenabba1378

    @dodibenabba1378

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@troyannbladsacker1811 You'll get there. May Our Heavenly Father put you around genuine people and lead you into all of His ways. 🙏✝️🙌🕎🗡️🔥

  • @dodibenabba1378

    @dodibenabba1378

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@troyannbladsacker1811 Matthew 6 v 25-34. Worry and doubt will give the demonic entry it's like a portal for them. Rest in your true identity as a daughter of the Most High God of Israel. I pray that the operation and move go well. Try and find an evangelical church that is full gospel, that are actually carrying out what Jesus asked us to. You need to be around born again brothers and sisters. Blessings. 🙏✝️🙌🕎🗡️🔥❤️

  • @troyannbladsacker1811

    @troyannbladsacker1811

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@dodibenabba1378 Thank you for caring. I am leaving soon to go home. I will look then. My friend is a true Christian and I am in touch by phone with other Christians. In fact two of my dearest friends are Christian counselors who have been a blessing. I do listen to good teaching on the internet. I'm very careful who I listen to. I haven't been able to find a good church here. It is a small town but I do have good support at least by phone. This year has been a struggle. I hope to be home in a big city surrounded by all of my Christian friends by July. This will be over soon and then I believe the healing will begin, emotional and physical. I have known Jesus for 45 years. I am clinging to Him. It's just right now with moving and possible surgery it is overwhelming. If I felt good, I could do more in getting this house packed up and ready to go by mid July. As soon as my legal affairs are over I can say more about my situation. I've had to delete some comments for now.

  • @dodibenabba1378

    @dodibenabba1378

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@troyannbladsacker1811 😊🙏✝️

  • @productsacademychannel5183
    @productsacademychannel51833 жыл бұрын

    How to divorce a narcissist from another country

  • @lizabella4885
    @lizabella48852 жыл бұрын

    I think a rock is best,..cause these type of people only weigh you down in all aspects.