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@AndreaCoulterWHC

4 жыл бұрын

I always struggle to stay listening, as a health care practitioner I tend to always listen while finding ways to help and want to jump in and help, but have learned over the years to be patient and wait for their cues thanks for sharing all these tips!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

the power of the pause goes a long way. Thanks Andrea.

@clarencecapacite935

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for giving much information i have many ways of lacking when it come to conversation i will listen to you r videos so that i can improve my listening skills it taught me where i lack.

I became a better listener when I got out of my head and stayed in the moment and also was not stressing that I should always have something to follow up with or participate in every conversation.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Love that Christina “get out of your own head” an easy trap for all of us to get caught in

I get excited and blabber. So I’ll try opening my conversations with “what’s on your mind today?” And “ how did it go?”

"What's on your mind?"...that's gold. Thanks Riaz.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Brian, thanks. Isn’t it wild that the simple things get overlooked?

5 points to note; 1. Not paying attention: It is easy to get distracted by other things (sometimes under the guise of multitasking) as you’re having a conversation. However, it takes your attention away from what the other person is saying. The more stimuli around to distract a person such as cell phones or a nearby television-the less likely they are to actively listen to the person speaking. 2. Interjecting with a personal anecdote: It may seem helpful to sympathize or relate to the speaker by offering your own experience. However, this habit can make the speaker feel like you’re not fully respecting their story and simply want to turn the attention to yourself. 3. Judging the speaker: Some people tune out or get defensive if someone shares an opinion they disagree with. The listener may shut down and refuse to relate, which prevents a potentially meaningful conversation. 4. Not asking questions: Not asking follow-up questions about the speaker’s story can indicate poor listening skills. Asking questions shows engagement and curiosity and makes the other person feel heard. 5. Talking over the speaker: Good listeners rarely cut someone else off to comment with their own opinion. It can send a message that your thoughts are more important than theirs. A silence or momentary pause is not always a reason to insert your own story, rebuttal, or belief. 6. Waiting to talk: Formulating a response while the speaker is talking results in distracted listening. If you appear more interested in telling your own story than listening, it can degrade your personal and professional relationships. The other person may not feel heard, making them less inclined to have conversations with you in the future.

Listening with the eyes, makes such a big difference. I always notice people'e presence through whether they are making eye contact with me or not!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

This is a big one and a new challenge as we get used to communicating through screens. It gets lost so quickly.

@DishWithDina

4 жыл бұрын

So true! Engage with eye contact, body posture, not just the ears : )

"Asking questions that you can't Google" Love that!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Katy!

I really like the question, "what question did a I fail to ask here to understand your reality?" It reminds me that I may not always be tuned into them and focused on their perspective.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Liz. This one takes courage and honesty yet provides a powerful reward in the form of authentic connection.

@LizBrousseau

4 жыл бұрын

wow...yes

I continue to improve as a listener using the following two principles: 1. I keep reminding myself how I have personally felt when the other person was quite obviously not giving me their full attention, and I've been narrating what I felt was important to me. 2. I remind myself of the high impact conversations and coaching sessions I've had with those I work with, where I've been able to highlight THEIR successes simply by "listening" to what they were saying; successes they were not even cognizant of conveying in their narrative...and the resulting shine in their eyes and lift in their shoulders when I've been able to do so. There is little that is as gratifying as knowing you have had such an impact on another human being!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Much respect Al-Riyaz for this thoughtful approach and comment. Sounds like the effective coaching that helps people remove their blinders by finding out where to look. Keep changing lives my friend!

This is so important! I feel like modern technology has so many of us more and more distracted by the day. I agree with doing some of your own research and truly caring & understanding the other person in order to carry out meaningful conversation. Loved the video and also love your presence as well! So clear and professional :)

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Marisa.

Rarely find a youtube video with only thumb-ups! (:. You made it and you deserve mine, Keep it up!

Amazing tips on listening, loads of practical examples. Thanks for sharing.

Great tips. Thank you for sharing

What an elegant intro

To focus on understanding. Asking questions

I love the wisdom you bring to this Riaz. Most of us struggle with this and I'm not always a great listener. I especially like your point that an active listener asks the questions that helps someone discover the meaning behind their experience. Brilliant!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Nisreen! Thanks for this. It's something we can all work on everyday. Meanwhile my smartphone is screaming "look at me!"

I absolutely love this!!! Yes!!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thank u

Love this! Asking questions has been key for me -- digging deeper to really understand what they're actually saying.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Geoffrey

THANK YOU

I love your channel!

This is awesome!! thanks for this!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Most welcome

So key - just listen. Such succinct and important words!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Leah!

I love Stephen Covey's habit of seeking first to understand, then to be understood. This helps me to be a better listener

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

That’s a classic! Thanks Carol

Such an important theme that can completely transform relationships. Thank you, Riaz!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

You are speaking the truth. Thanks Victoria

Very helpful! Thank you!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Amirah!

Incredible insight! Thank you for your kindness, in sharing this priceless information sir!

@RiazMeghji

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad it helps!

Great video and advice! Thanks for sharing!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Rock on. Thanks Scott!

Fantastic video on listening! Loved hearing your perspective on this as a journalist. I have a background in psychotherapy, so I was trained to be a listener. And, with that being said, there were things you mentioned here that I hadn't thought about before. So, that was cool. With the last point of taking notes, I know that stat is true, however, I'm a horrible listener when it comes to taking notes. I usually retain more if I have my eyes focused on the person the whole time and take notes shortly after. Different strokes for different folks!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks V. Your point is a good one. Taking notes is good when working on the skills to focus and retain. Now, I take all notes as soon as the convo is over - the writing and reflection after allows me to be fully present in the moment then reflect on the meaning of what was just said by writing it down after.

This is definitely something I need help with. Thanks for the tips!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Muwaaaaaah!

So cool

Being listened to feels amazing!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

The truth. Thanks Myke

Thank you so much dude. This is an incredible video. I'll do my best to apply these. Btw, something that does help A LOT when it comes to listening, is meditation.

WOW....I may be bing watching....

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Liz!

This so should be taught when kids are young! Listening is so important. Wow did not realize the percentages. Lead with their priorities is genius!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

If they're listening and doodling, how could they go wrong Elizabeth??? Thanks for checking it out.

So much great content in this video. You are right! The tips are simple, but challenging to apply diligently.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Sharon. All five are tricky, but the payoff is worth it!

@respectedandconnected

4 жыл бұрын

@@RiazMeghji Yes. Definitely worth it!

This is very very useful!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

🙏🏽 Jenny!

Asking powerful questions is so important so that now you are listening to something that the other person actually wants to talk about. These are such good tips. Thank you!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Thank u :)

Great tips!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Lisa :) give your pup a scratch for me

This video & content was bang on & so insightful to help support us to all become better listeners. My favorite tip was, "how over preparing will give you confidence, but stepping into their uncertainty by listening & improvising will give you CONNECTION." That was amazing. Second biggest take away for all of us to practice is to not try to fix, give advice or interrupt. Something I will always have to consciously work on. What changed my listening & my life to be honest was being present & to actively listen vs thinking of my next question or response- which you also covered. I am sharing this video with my corporate teams. This video is going to help us create deeper & more authentic connections! So well done! Thank you!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

You’re the best Puneet! This feedback is very helpful.

Excellent. I love the question what's on your mind? Great. Also I appreciate you challenging us to ask better questions rather than giving advice.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

these are great tips here! i also do the same as far as learning to how become a better listener. thanks for sharing brother.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Rajiv!

Awesome video!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Leila!

I love tip # 3: Listen with your eyes. I never heard it put like that before but makes much sense. Non verbal cues are very important and essential to pay attention to. Loved your content thank you!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Elara!

Great video, i most admit i struggle with this sometimes

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

I think we all do :) Thanks Vivian

Every time I hear someone talk about listening, I think "I've got to do that." Then I forget it about it until the next time I hear someone recommend it. I loved the video and your recommendations though. Thanks.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

That's real right there. It's so easy to let our focus jump to the next idea. Thanks Daryl!

So good! Waiting for people to stop talking to volley a response robs them of feeling valued. So does watching someone fidget while I'm talking. Jeez.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

lol. That's real talk right there.

Thinking about how I want to be listened to has helped me walk my talk and engage more with others! Great video :)

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Ciara! You've got a heart of gold.

@DishWithDina

4 жыл бұрын

Love this!

Great video and I’m only half way through.

@RiazMeghji

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Glenn! Welcome to the channel.

Laval...

Hi Riaz, new to your channel and great topic. Listening...something we don't do enough. I had to learn and now I LOVE listening and NOT talking. I subscribed too and thanks for your support too!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Rachel! You’re the best. Thank u

I really enjoyed your videos

@RiazMeghji

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dewii

I really appreciate all the information you've shared on distractions and what they do to our ability to listen fully.

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Sarovara

Being an introvert i’ve always genuinely been a good listener yet i still benefited a lot from this video. There is always room for improvement right? :)

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

For you and me :) thanks Nour

i am taking notes :)

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

You rock Liz!

What has helped me to be a better listener is to become an active listener. Good listening is a choice!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you make good life choices ;)

"What's on your mind?" I like that Riaz. "Listen with your eyes" So many nuggets. cheers bud

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Scott :)

00:05 5 strategies to become a better listener 01:13 Combat distractions to become a better listener. 02:12 Phone distractions and internal distractions affect listening efficiency 03:11 Listen with your eyes to connect deeply 04:15 Ask questions that help someone discover the meaning behind their own experiences. 05:13 Improve listening skills by asking questions and evoking empathy. 06:04 Active listening increases information retention. 07:02 Practice active listening to make every conversation count. Kennedy Kris Ubani

Ohh my !!...it's bit off topic...but I thought by thumbnail ohh it's ankur warikoo....then I went like is he?😂😂

Thank you for this video! I'm always working on my listening skills as an insurance broker. I am naturally a good listener (an introvert growing up) which has served me well in my sales career believe it or not! Can you post videos regarding communicating over the phone? We are all stuck inside and a lot of business is done via phone right now. Would love to hear your tips!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Esther, thanks for this. Great suggestion. Will put this idea on the list for future content

@estherkim4183

4 жыл бұрын

@@RiazMeghji Thanks so much!

Listening skills are important in conversations. People want to know they are being heard 😊

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Dhana :)

I have a question what if you're incapable of taking notes like your dyslexic is there any work around

Narcissist here. Just trying my best to change in anyway I can.

Hey Riaz. I end up using lot of fillers in my videos. How do i eliminate them

@RiazMeghji

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks JD. Check out this video for some solutions - kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZYeLr8SikpSqdM4.html

My wife thanks you... haha 😂 jk, this is really useful!

@RiazMeghji

4 жыл бұрын

Lol. Good luck Jon!

Q: What question was not asked that could help me better understand your reality 🎯

Aka 5 Ways To Become A Better Doormat

If he is an expert, why, did it take 6 minutes for me to realize I was not listening?

You have a funny eye brow.

how. to be a better listener. listening to a 7 minute video ...