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@Useruser-rd9vx

2 жыл бұрын

First

@ovenonline9205

2 жыл бұрын

thats great :)

@takasugimyman7542

2 жыл бұрын

Nice

@thecutequeenalphawolf2875

2 жыл бұрын

Your my favorite KZreadr 😉

@blikforlife660

2 жыл бұрын

Ofc

Most parents don't think about their kids emotions. Feeds and clothe that's all they think kids need.

@adishreee08

2 жыл бұрын

Thats true.

@MiracleSwift

2 жыл бұрын

I have good parents that listen to me and all but they dont really spend time with me at home only outside which makes me rlly bored

@ITSPOTATO_ALEX

2 жыл бұрын

That is true

@himikotoga9063

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah....

@Dev.Yadav.

2 жыл бұрын

all of you guys do not worry, this will not happen with our coming generation... Cause we will be parents at that time and we know very well what our child is suffering from specially at teenage! ;)

I was shocked to see how comfortable my friends are with their parents until I realized mine were just too toxic to make me feel comfortable

@ScarletWFire

2 жыл бұрын

Right? I'm just like: "wait, your parents are your friends?" Hell, even seeing how close they were to their siblings threw me off. I grew up in a family of 8 and somehow it's been the single most lonely experience I have yet to encounter. It's destroying me as a person

@trex7370

2 жыл бұрын

@@ScarletWFire I can understand, sometimes it's not a lot of people you need. you jut need a person who is actually there

@elysian9578

2 жыл бұрын

Omg this is literally me. I started to realize how bad my parents were after seeing my frnds parents

@itzyagurlgidget2738

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I'm going through anxiety now but I say the hell away from my 'dad'. I don't really see him as my dad anymore and that left me so confused but now I get it. I'm honestly uncomfortable and terrified of him 24/7. Like I hear his voice, his footsteps, him coming home from work, saying "I love you" to me, or calling me by my nickname I feel super terrified and disgusted

@MedlarGW

2 жыл бұрын

I visited a friends' house as a kid, when his dad came home I immediately panicked and hid. I couldn't understand how he felt comfortable around his dad. Even as I got older, I refused to believe it when I saw other families being happy and comfortable, I couldn't trust that it was real and thought it was a facade when out in public. Didn't click until a few years ago.

My emotions got shut down with “I’ll give you something to cry about!” and “stop it, you’re gonna make yourself sick!” Mom was a closet alcoholic and covert narc. Dad was stern, scary, short fused and probably on the spectrum and had no idea what to do with emotional issues. Thanks for the validation and comfort that I get from your vids. You are doing important and life changing work.

@diamonddice7xanimationsowo164

9 ай бұрын

Omg those are the exact things my mom used to/still say to me

@TinaLouise73

7 ай бұрын

I colliquilly use to call the non bios(adoptive parents!) Psycho and the poison dwarf! Takn the p helps with reducing psychotic rage n depression that us victims often get left with! Using humor to pmsl at em is theraputic trust! 👍

@ch4rlie.the.p3rson

7 ай бұрын

my parents still say the first one

@morganayling

7 ай бұрын

my mom would/always says "I'll give you something to cry about"

@wrighty553

6 ай бұрын

Ditto, often coupled with, “I’ll knock you into the middle of next week.”

My childhood was horrific and has left me damaged. Trusting people is very difficult.

@user-ng8nw2px6q

4 ай бұрын

I'm in the same place.

@mikesmith6594

3 ай бұрын

Mine was also yes not being able to trust anyone sucks.

@rupandas893

3 ай бұрын

Same😢

@mosestomfelix

3 ай бұрын

You're not running this race alone, same for me aswell

@IbarraAlejandro

2 ай бұрын

Same dear there is a lot of damage 😢😢😥

Just a heads-up for others: Parents aren't always the cause. For me, it was my school environment that caused my trauma. My family was actually very supportive! But trauma is trauma; the cause may be different but we're just as valid!

@richerDiLefto

2 жыл бұрын

That’s absolutely true. Kids spend 8-9 hours a day at school, and abuse they get there can damage them just as badly.

@danavixen6274

2 жыл бұрын

@@S.E.A.Productions Please persevere. I hated middle school too. Prayer, therapy and music got me through. 🙏🏾

@danavixen6274

2 жыл бұрын

My middle school environment was the WORST! Your school environment can be trauma inducing. If it weren't for my faith or music, I would've been self destructive. It took going to a private school for less than two months for me to progress and enroll in high school.

@tinataylor4203

2 жыл бұрын

School was hell for me. I got picked on from the time I started school till I quit. Then had to go home an get sexually abused an beaten. I’m defeated.

@-Teague-

2 жыл бұрын

It's wild seeing how many other people have the faith/music combination to credit for helping them a lot. Nice to know I'm not at all alone 😊

0:48 /1/ childish reactions 1:39 /2/ insecure attachment 2:23 /3/ conflict avoidance 3:05 /4/ low-self worth 3:46 /5/ risky behaviour

@mikhailmatveev369

2 жыл бұрын

You mb mean 1:39 in /2/?

@NAM-dc1dc

2 жыл бұрын

5/5

@mariliatsaliagou9856

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikhailmatveev369 oops ,yeah thank you!

@SillySamWho

2 жыл бұрын

Oh, I Knew That. That’s When I Realized I Should’ve Let My Father Drown Me. Damn, I’m Disappointed He Didn’t Do It Properly. This Is Hell.

@haricharan5827

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks

It makes me so sad that my parents brush off the illness of PTSD. I have been diagnosed with PTSD recently and I always feel heartbroken knowing that the experiences I had growing up weren't normal. I am still living with my parents (I'm in high school) and I always try to avoid conflict as much as possible for my little sister, as I can tell she is obviously experiencing the traumatic aftereffects of her childhood that are still ongoing. I always tear up when I see her flinch every time my Dad just walks past or near her.

@airmanon7213

2 ай бұрын

I hope things get better for you and your sister soon!

@Paracosm333

9 күн бұрын

Im sorry i hope it gets bettrr

@catherinenjoroge284

6 күн бұрын

Sending you safe hugs if you’re open to them. ☺️❤️ Sounds a lot like PTSD day by the description you gave. Do you have medical insurance? If you can’t afford it there’s a high probability you qualify for free insurance through your state. Therapy and psychiatric care are free with state insurance. Starting professional mental healthcare completely transformed my relationship with my dad who used to behave ragingly angry and scary. Being from a brutally violent country with only excessively corrupt government leadership and a literal 100% social norm of treating and discussing women as property like a plot of land, and presuming children are always consistently immoral, immature, inferior, and untrustworthy mixed with unresolved past trauma were at the root of emotionally lashing out when simply overwhelmed. Not justifying but I do want to understand how and why he acted like that. The influences. Setting clear boundaries and being more vulnerable with him in conversation. Discussion of why I personally can’t engage with anyone with being rude, disrespectful, and insensitive towards me for any reason at all. Talking about the impact of specific things said/done on me emotionally and my life, talking about the things said/done that massively privileged me and improved my life. We’re so close now. 🥺He also started to show me respect since I began being fully truthful with him about my feelings and goals and personal beliefs even if they oppose his own instead of letting him walk all over me like I was still the scared little girl. Learning how to set and maintain reasonable interpersonal boundaries that I was never taught as a minor, clarifying on what values I want to stride towards with my daily actions, and verbally processing current struggles then immediately listing at least a few of the best possible solutions to each struggle (google = bff) specifically while working with mental health professionals has given me my voice and agency back. This must be what Ariel felt after finally being heard when her voice came back to her.

wow, hearing age regression being addressed so casually an directly is so nice. age regression is not in any way related to nsfw things (contrary to popular assumption), it's a trauma response and coping mechanism and is often involuntary. and indeed, sometimes it is NOT fun. thank you for mentioning it

@ilikegeorgiabutiveonlybeen6705

3 ай бұрын

nsfw???? what??????????? is this real

@rottedbug

3 ай бұрын

@@ilikegeorgiabutiveonlybeen6705 unfortunately lots of people assume age regression is equivalent or somehow remotely similar to k*nks or s3xu4l roleplay. it's gross :,)

@ilikegeorgiabutiveonlybeen6705

3 ай бұрын

@@rottedbug thank you

@airmanon7213

2 ай бұрын

​@tiredcritter Did people make the assumption because of the kinks where one person calls their partner(s) something like "mommy" or "daddy" and/or someone calling a loved one "baby"? I would think that if it was a kink thing, then the ones in the relationship discussed it and consented to it. But I never would have considered age regression like what the video described as a kink.

@rottedbug

2 ай бұрын

​​@@airmanon7213 age regression is not a kink, but people assume it is, i guess because both communities often use childlike objects and may act childish. the similarities end there. they are completely different concepts with completely different purposes.

Number 2, 3 and 4 are literally me. My mom constantly criticized me, berated me and talked down to me if I voiced my opinion that wasn't in line with her. My mom discreted my feelings as overreacting and childish. I understand she was a single mom who was going through a difficult time herself. But under no circumstances you take that anger out on anyone. Especially not a child.

@ADcrackerjack

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you.

@Rouge-Angel8

2 жыл бұрын

♥️

@lauragadille3384

2 жыл бұрын

That was my grandpa

@KittyKatt_Luna80s

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry 😞

@ScarletWFire

2 жыл бұрын

I can sympathize. For me it was my dad, but my mom didn't stop him so she's just as much to blame. Constant arguments in the house between them, me being a mediator as a child, and my emotions being brushed off as daddy issues.

My childhood was horrible. I was sexually assaulted by my 16 year old neighbor when I was 6. I watched my dad beat my mom all the time. I also have anxiety, depression and borderline personality disorder. I have an 8 year old son that I have to be careful around because anger is a huge side effect but he has a great life, he’s very comfortable and tells me things he won’t tell anyone else. He’s very loved and I’m happy he’s here. I need to not let my mental illnesses affect him

@hrichasrivastava7589

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing well now. It must've been difficult for you.Your neighbour deserves to be in jail, how can someone think about that, for a child. You've gone through a lot. You should get a therapy and do meditation.I really hope, everything gets better for you. And have faith in God, he'll help you for sure. I wish for your happiness :)

@artsyemerald_49

2 жыл бұрын

@@hrichasrivastava7589 I’m so sorry about that. I was sexually harassed by my ex bf at 16 years old and because of that, I have anxiety and depression. I’m sorry for what you went through. Just know you’re not alone and I hope you’re doing well along with your son ❤❤

@sammie4695

2 жыл бұрын

The best revenge is having a happy life, someone said. I am so sorry to read you went through such terrible experiences. You can be successful and change that pattern of what others did to you by getting counseling, going to church & learning how very much God loves you & being all you deserve. It will also make a great impression on your son. God bless you & hope all the best for you.

@iheartshaneandjeffree

2 жыл бұрын

@@sammie4695 thank you 🖤

@hrichasrivastava7589

2 жыл бұрын

@@artsyemerald_49 I'm Sorry, but you've tagged the wrong person 😅

From 0 to 9 I grew up in a wonderful, loving environment. Just as I turned nine, my mom died in a stupid automobile accident, caused by a bus driver that went through a red light. Suddenly, my life flipped around in absolute terms; my farther went bezerk, married a woman that was the exact opposite of my mom, and my life became a nightmare. What kept me from falling appart was the massive amount of love I received from my mother, a love that helped me survive this nightmare, and a sense I had, which I don't know where it came from, that I should live my life to make her proud of her only child, and this, miraculously, gave me strength to go on, and to survive. Now, looking back, I believe she would be very proud of her kid, but at the same time, I realize what a horrible experience I went through. This, by the way, took place 50 years ago.

@airmanon7213

2 ай бұрын

I don't know if you believe in ghosts or angels or any of the sort. But if you did, maybe your mother stayed as a ghost or angel to help give you the strength to persevere despite losing her. I am sorry for your loss, though. It's horrible to lose a loving parent at so young an age! 🤗

My siblings and I joke about our "spicy memories" all the time, but we all know that we're messed up in one way or another even if we had an okay childhood. We (my young adult siblings, myself and our mom) have been away from a volitile situation for close to three years now, and even now in my 30s I'm still struggling with managing how I react to things emotionally. Being the eldest child meant I was much more exposed to that for a longer period, and it's difficult to even find joy on some days.

@Papatoes

5 ай бұрын

You are reminding me of my own family. Js recently, we all js sat together and also joked about our 'spicy memories'. I'm the youngest, so i was the least exposed to it, but i'm prolly also messed up somehow. Being war survivors prolly didn't help, and altho i never took the effects it could have had on me seriously since i was too young to remember anything when we left, i have recently been considering how even babies can get traumatised, which would include me- But even with that, it's hard to accept the possibility that i may be traumatised when i see myself as having an okay childhood; i mean like come on, what was so bad about my childhood?

I've been going to therapy for about 7 months now and have been diagnosed with compounded complex trauma. It's incredible to me how much of my childhood i thought was normal until I got older and noticed my friends weren't scared of their parents. They didn't get screamed at or hit anytime they challenged, questioned anything, or voiced their own thoughts on something. Going to a friend's house where they have a safe environment is a real eye opener.

@rosemaryallen2128

2 жыл бұрын

Your comment resonated with me. When I was about 10, I had the (rare) chance to discover that normal fathers laugh and joke and interact with their children. Such shocks are useful, though - the more you analyse what is unconventional, the sooner you stop blaming yourself for the abnormalities. Very best wishes.

@thephoenixhasflown

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I find myself out and about every single day originally I just thought that's how I was but apparently learning more information as I went along and more definitions and things it's been rough and it's been way more rough than I thought it was. I was aware of several parts of my situation for a long time but I thought there must be a damn good reason for it live and learn sigh. now comes the finding out what I need to know getting out and rebuilding stage. And yes casually observing what's going on around you while you're out can even open the eyes of a blind man. I've got to ask myself a lot of questions now not the least of which is will I ever find the answers I need? From a young age I was always into retro and older stuff radio shows TV shows electronics games and music. I wonder if that's part of it and I wonder how harmful it is to continue because I've kind of shaped my life that way at this point.

@rosemaryallen2128

2 жыл бұрын

@@thephoenixhasflown Therapy is helpful at finding answers, but l have found that making the best of the present is even better. All your retro interests sound splendid - but if they remind you of uncomfortable times, there is a world of other stuff you could explore. KZread alone is full of marvels!

@thephoenixhasflown

2 жыл бұрын

@@rosemaryallen2128 no they don't really remind me of uncomfortable times in fact they were some of the best times I had with my friends outside this main mess. I left a comment up top that basically sums up where I am now and I'm pretty sure it's true.

@allykatharvey

Жыл бұрын

That happened with me too.

I am very old now, 75. After being a very busy adult, working and raising children, I had time to think about my childhood and its possible effects on me, because I still have numerous behaviors as listed in this video. I was the youngest child;I was like a ghost child. Fed and clothed, never complimented, never told I was loved. My siblings all had something special they offered my parents. My sister became a nun, and my brothers simply had to be males. I was very attached to my parents, but I realize the touching and affection was from me to them, not the other way around. Very difficult to stand up for myself, and always afraid I am going to make someone mad at me. I believe this all has led me to over eat. It's my way of doing something nice for myself, as horrible as it seems to say that. That is my risky behavior, which I am having a hard time stopping.

@angeliquemarquis

Жыл бұрын

WHO WOULD YOU RATHER BE? WHAT IS YOUR POSITIVE PICTURE OF YOURSELF ( F¥€K EVERYONE ELSE’S OPINION!)

@tindomul8977

Жыл бұрын

I feel for you! I tend to overeat too... Take care ❤

@AnaIsabell

Жыл бұрын

I hope you won't be offended, because I am not trying to offer some sort of quick fix or some prayer that will miraculously heal all, but maybe you could try ho'oponopono. It helped me immensely and maybe it could help you too if you would like to try. Sending you love❤

@summerwintermelon

Жыл бұрын

I over eat too. It's really hard for me to stand up for myself as well. I remember one time, our teacher told me in front of the class that I eat whenever I'm happy or sad. The class was silent and didn't laugh. I didn't dare look at my classmates because if I see them snickering, I knew I wouldn't forget their faces. I felt really humiliated but I just sat there and said nothing. I couldn't tell anything to my parents because they'd just brush it off.

@Ohthemarvelousmusic

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear that awful thing happened to you! I think we were meant for better than we have been shown. I hope you will have better days. I wish we could change the terrible, awfulness of it all. I wish it was only good. I will pray for you. Some people are just awful. Glad it is not everyone. Life can be so hard. I hope you have happy times. We need that. We have to eat as humans. No shame in that. That person wronged you. I hope we can all move forward somehow. God, please, please(!!!!!) help us!! In Jesus name, Amen. Please restore us fully to who you made us to be Lord Jesus, our Messiah! By the blood of your son God, plealse heal us as you have healed others before us! Please get us through our trials and hardships, all of these crazy times and extremely unkind people... Amen. Please be our friend. Please also bring us true friends. In your name Jesus, I pray, Amen.

Whenever I would get upset about anything, I was told that I was too sensitive. I learned to clam up and not say anything. Repressing your emotions will hurt you for your entire life. I know. I’ve done it for most of mine. I’m typically a people pleaser though. I just want to be needed and loved. It stinks because occasionally I blow like a volcano.

I trust people too easily to try to fill up how abandoned and empty I feel

I met my childhood friend a few months ago, I went over and stayed there for a while too. Eventually, I kept seeing how respectful and happy they were with their parents even though they were already a teen. The more time i spent with them, the more i got jealous of their relationship with their parents. I didn't want to cause any issues, so i would eventually just leave. I've always wondered what it would feel like to not go though continuous trauma your entire childhood since then. I'm still jealous -.-

@IrishTexan09

8 ай бұрын

Oh sad you don’t recognize jealousy as a problem.

@user-nu8xi4sl1e

8 ай бұрын

@@IrishTexan09 it is a problem, I hate feeling that way because my friend is a great person. I wish it wasn’t like that.

@kal-azar2006

8 ай бұрын

@@user-nu8xi4sl1e that's sad man

@SaltyShaman

7 ай бұрын

@@user-nu8xi4sl1e sit down and write a short story of how YOUR version of your childhood would have been like if you'd had those parents. Then in your mind, make THOSE people your parents and forget the other ones ;) A really good cry on it will help too. We know how it is and you got this.

@dontask9000

7 ай бұрын

This is making me realize how bad my situation was for me. The fact that I’d get jealous over parents that deeply cared for their kids and showed it. Properly paying attention to their emotions and handling it with the utmost care. People forget that it’s also neglect when your emotional needs aren’t met. I knew something was not ok when I realized how stressed out and scared I would become of my mom and dad sometimes.

*I also had a traumatic childhood, I still suffer PTSD whenever someone raises their voice at me or starts critizing me, thankfully I'm now taking therapy and I'm slowly healing from this but it's been difficult* EDIT: thanks y'all for your wishes, even though we're random strangers online, I appreciate these comments. I hope y'all are also doing well and healing if you had a traumatic childhood

@mattstando

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry to hear that; I hope things have been well with you lately.

@sunsettime970

2 жыл бұрын

What happens to u when they yell at u do u flinch or something.

@RosslynStreet

2 жыл бұрын

@@sunsettime970 I start crying tbh, kinda like going back to my childhood years

@hrichasrivastava7589

2 жыл бұрын

It must be difficult for you. I hope you'll be fine and I wish for your happiness.

@margotfrost-stuart9841

2 жыл бұрын

Half the battle is realizing it. 👍🏼

2:23 it wasn't really my parents, but my brother, no matter what my opinion was it was "wrong" and I'd get told to shut up, and that has affected me in a way that if someone goes a little bit too quiet during a conversation I can go quiet and just listen for the rest of the day, even if they insist it's fine

I'm a child, and i heard arguements from my parents. They even talk about us siblings. I can't get enough with the agruments. I just have thoughts, bad ones. If i would make a prank, i would have a bad thought and not do it. Something triggered me to not do it cause of a VERY bad thought. Flashbacks even come up to me. I would always think i am a bad child and will grow up as a bad person. They said i won't, but they argue alot. I just can't take it. I just can't take my parents. It seems like.. It seems like they hate me.

I grew up in the era of “children should be seen but not heard” when I look back I realise that was wrong & did not do this with my children, they have grown up with a healthy self esteem & im so proud of them. It still hurts sometimes what I experienced, but I understand & have come to terms with it, my parents took me to a child psychiatrist when I was 6 because I was so anxious, but it was just brushed off really. I still wonder why sometimes but I’ve just pushed past it as I’m in my 50s now, I can’t let that define my life

@Psych2go

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about this.. you are very strong and will get through this!

@Emily-cw7tj

Жыл бұрын

That era always bothered me any time I heard about it! It should never have been an era to begin with in my opinion

@scegenius8751

Жыл бұрын

It’s the parents hour children should be seen but not heard! I remember that. But it wasn’t an hour…it was the time from after dinner until bedtime. I remember taking Maalox and Valium in middle school I had an ulcer from anxiety…does that tell you something?

@user-sr8hc5fk1w

11 ай бұрын

five nights at freddys

@Emily-cw7tj

11 ай бұрын

@@user-sr8hc5fk1w what?

I've always believed that I didn't have a traumatic childhood because my parents were so good to me, and still are. Relating to a few signs, and realizing myself about my certain behaviours towards things made me come to terms that despite my parents being good to me all my life, they're not perfect. Even now at 17, I hug stuffed animals for support and comfort. My mom has made me fear sharing my opinions or simply talking back about what she's said because it'd get me in trouble. She's done this quite often to where I'm hesitant to share my opinions/speak up about certain things. Around my teenage years, I've asked her if I could share my opinions or make comments in a groupchat I'm in, and she's told me not to if it'll get a negative reaction out of people (even if it's nothing bad). She's made me fear and avoid a lot of simple things because I could get hurt if I did it. When my parents fight, I've intervened a few times and got yelled at, which is why I hate fighting and try to stop it whenever possible. I flinch at yelling and angry behaviour/body language because of my dad (not that it was because of me or anything.)

@VI_VA.

2 жыл бұрын

Believe me, I understand what you mean ^^U my parents are good people, theh even aknowledge some of their mistakes regarding my childhood and my siblings'; and now are trying to be better. But still. The damage is done. I struggle with some things that you mentioned (fear of speaking up, avoiding fights)and with some things the video mentioned. Every time there is some kind of fight or discussion (the type that is not agressive but the tone can be ibterpreted as such) near me my first instinct is to hide and avoid it completely. Im always nervous when a friend or relative is quiet in my presence, or doesnt chat to me for a while, because I think they are upset with me. And it took me years to realize it's because whenever my mom was angry at me, she would give me the cold shoulder, instead of telling straight what I did wrong. I hope you are in a better place mentally and emotionally now, and have a better relationship with your parents! :)

@snipeknite9614

2 жыл бұрын

I feel u that pretty closely describes my childhood

@artsyemerald_49

2 жыл бұрын

@@snipeknite9614 mine as well. I’m glad a lot of us can relate to this kind of situation :]

@elissa3188

2 жыл бұрын

Just a note: at 17, you are stil a teenager, and you've got many more years of brain development to go. Continue to try and be open and talk with your parents. Find a counselor or teacher at school you can talk to, but don't intervene when parents fights- because you most likely are missing information and can make issues worse. You parents need to work out their own issues with each other. Adults fight- no matter how well adjusted they are - and it will be up to them to determine how they will go about dealing with their stuff. Best of luck

@princesschelsea1558

2 жыл бұрын

Im glad you mentioned this because I’ve been having the same struggle, but recently, events opened my eyes to see that my mom wasn’t as… supportive or kind that I always assumed she was. I’m 28 now, so it took a long while to see this. I don’t think everything she did was intentional, but sometimes we don’t realize the red flags because that’s our normal.

Conflict avoidance was one for me. My father was a very loving man, but he had a harsh temper. In one church we grew up in, the elders were so strict, that my father was more prone to losing his cool to keep us in line and avoid controversy, which gave me a sense of moral stability, that was threatened when my father loosened up after we left. Then my father would clamp down even more so when I complained about the lack of strictness, or felt they were restraining me too much in certain areas. Low self worth: my father kept sending me conflicting messages. One moment, my father encouraged me to loosen up and we'd have fun, only to clamp down on me suddenly, because I violated another unwritten social rule due to my autism. Punishments included grounding (no computer or video games), so I began isolating myself, to avoid losing the computer and video game activity, and avoid getting in trouble again, since I got in trouble more often and was assigned more chores for being social. Also, other workplaces would cause me similar trouble, and I blamed it on my autism, or some moral deficiency, when in reality my supervisors were naive. Risky behavior: after my father died, I got drunk 3 weekends in a row. It only stopped because my mother had car troubles and I couldn't help her due to drunkenness, which upset her. A few years later, my sister upset me so much, that I experimented with weed 3 months straight. It was fun, but it did not solve my underlying problems. I ended up quitting weed and dealing with more of my problems head on, which has been helpful, albeit with some struggles.

Well, the truth is that not all childhood traumas happened and were experienced at home. Sometimes they're at school or somewhere else. For example, my childhood trauma and PTSD started from an incident in school when I was extremely young. I developed Social Anxiety Disorder, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and maybe even Generalized Anxiety Disorder. This type of childhood trauma is just as bad and as scarring as any trauma. I am still like this and it's almost been 10 years. I am still young, and scared of being judged, so I do nothing to get any help. I sulk and sink into my anxiety and depressive thoughts. Recovery is around the corner though. I'm hopeful. But when things go dark, I can't help but panic. I want out. I have experienced a valid traumatic event, and trauma is different for everyone anyways. Phobias and natural fears have also generated in my brain. Sure. My trauma isn't based upon guilt or things of that nature, but instead it's built upon shame, humiliation, judgement, and embarrassment. It hurts. And if you went through something like this, you're valid and your trauma is real trauma. You know yourself better than anyone and you know how you feel, even if it has no explanation. This is the end, sorry if I wasted your time with this. But all I have to say as a conclusion is that childhood trauma is not always the parents' fault and doesn't always take place in a home.

@ashton1952

4 ай бұрын

Some of my earliest childhood memories are of teachers screaming in my face. Can't remember anything as to what it was about either. Another one hit me in front of everyone for "back-chatting" when I tried to explain that a dirty tissue on the floor hadn't been my doing but that I'd take care of it anyway. I had a phobia of germs as achild and not being able to leave the class to wash my hands afterwards was a nightmare for me. As I bent to pick it up she wacked me with a ruler.

@CiderPang27

4 ай бұрын

I'm sure my depression and the way I feel are from school. Constant abuse day in day out for years for being thin.

In most respects I had a privileged upbringing. Nice environment, good schools etc. but at the age of four, after a minor misdemeanour, I remember saying to my mother, “you don’t love me do you?” She replied that I made it difficult. In my 70s, that still hurts. I don’t remember being praised for anything, only criticised. I was bullied at school, but got no support. I was always a disappointment. My appearance, “let’s face it, you’re not the pretty, feminine type”. My lack of academic achievements…..When I qualified as a nurse, it wasn’t at a high enough level……and so on. I know it’s nothing compared to what others have endured, but it has impacted on my entire life. As a parent myself I’m by no means perfect, but happily, my children are well balanced, caring people, with beautiful children of their own. There is so much more I could say, but I feel guilty for being critical. Parenthood doesn’t always come easily to some people. One hurtful word can be carried with you for life. Despite this, or maybe because of it, I have been told it is the reason I am empathetic, hate injustice, and have empathy for the oppressed.

@RaptorFromWeegee

Жыл бұрын

So true how a mothers remarks to her child leave indelable marks for decades. Pretty hard unthink these remarks. My Mom had BDP and though she sometimes told me how much she loved me, she'd also get drunk and go on these emotional jags, saying exactly what she really thought. One time during a crying jag she mentioned she wished she'd never had me. Later she just denied it. It sucks. Sounds like you've done very well with your children and grandchildren.

@StewieGriffin505

9 ай бұрын

Get over it. That was a long time ago. IT DOESN"T MATTER ANY MORE!

@andreer-k6136

8 ай бұрын

It Does matter, because it lives in us for the rest of our lives. Well done you for not passing it on to your children, just love them and their children - and yourSelf! Hahaha am I talking to mySelf??!! 😊

@TamWam_

8 ай бұрын

I don't understand my trauma. I was very privileged, in fact I was given so much that I became spoiled. But I was able to tell my parents I loved them. Well, until... 7yo. A huge accident happened, which resulted in the death of my pet bird, whom I was closest to... (it was my fault, not my parents). I don't know if that event changed me, but I started to become irritable, angry, even violent.. especially towards my family. Flash forward 7 yrs (yes, I still am very young).. and well, not much has changed. I'm still irritable, I'm no longer violent though I have bad thoughts, my parents were not necessarily bad but.. I treat them horribly. Why?... I dont know

@RacingPepe

7 ай бұрын

@@StewieGriffin505 You missed the ENTIRE point in all that this person wrote.

SAD LIFE Since I Was Born... But In Childhood It Was Slowly Getting Worse But Suddenly Everything Got Worst LOST EVERYTHING...

Just read through all the comments and found several I could have written...........quite helpful to read others were listening to the same B.S. I was. will be 80 in April and remember it all too vividly. It never goes away. If you have children be kind and loving. These things don't cost money and can mean so much to a child.

I had a traumatic childhood mainly due to bullies at school. I was a very odd child compared to other kids, I was quiet, constantly cried, and when I felt overwhelmed I had meltdowns in classrooms, I felt misunderstood. I had very supportive parents but having to deal with bullies at school scarred me, I was constantly harassed by other kids and was basically the punching bag of bullies because I think I was an easy target for them to make fun of. It wasn't until a few years ago when my nephew was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD that I came to realize that many of the behaviors that I displayed during my childhood (and still display to this day, however I mask a lot of these) are probably due to the fact that I'm on the autism spectrum myself but I'm undiagnosed. I'm 28 years old now, and I'm not sure if it's worth it to pursue a diagnosis at this point of my life. I feel like it would validate and explain a lot of things in my life and would take this huge pressure off my chest.

@supertuber120

Жыл бұрын

It's definitely worth it to pursue a diagnosis. Doesn't matter whether you're 8, 28 or 78. A diagnosis would help you understand yourself better and maybe give you answers to questions you've had for years. I'd say you owe it to yourself to look into it if you haven't already.

@hru6701

Жыл бұрын

⁠@@supertuber120 I agree try to pursue a diagnosis

@charlescarter3595

11 ай бұрын

If you are not going to seek help for it, then stop whining about it. At this point it is your choice to live like this, embrace it and move on. As far as childhood bullying, it made you the person you are today, hopefully a person who cares about others, who steps up when confronted with injustice, who will go out of their way to comfort a child in need.

@ErdemtugsC

10 ай бұрын

You encouraged me, you're not the only one who lived exactly like this.

My dad was a physical/mental abuser to me and a mental abuser to my sisters. It took getting professional therapy to actually forgive him and move on. Even after therapy it took years afterwards to quit bad habits in my behavior before I am where I am today. I just wish both of my sisters would reach out and get the mental help they need.

@-Teague-

2 жыл бұрын

@@vkat2703 you should seek outside help!

@songwriterlife7777

2 жыл бұрын

Do you still talk to him?

@momkidnapper9697

2 жыл бұрын

Why everyone here is whining about how bad their dad is? My dad was even worse He was ripping my skin by his white thick belt almost every day I still love him He taught me how to be a man

@-Teague-

2 жыл бұрын

@@momkidnapper9697 I don't believe a word of this Mr. "Mom Kidnapper" loll do you have an alpha male podcast on Spotify?

@justaweeb870

2 жыл бұрын

@@vkat2703 I know you think it’s normal and trust me I was you I really thought it was normal no matter what people told me but it’s NOT what your going through is just plain terrible it’s not normal but that shouldn’t make you feel bad because even thought you went through what you did you can come back STRONGER please get help any way you can. And remember only YOU know what YOUR going through so don’t let ANYONE tell you different

I’m a child still. On the older side but I’m just gonna list some things I’ve been through •Sexually harassment (5 times and once I even thought it was abuse) •Grooming •Family problems •health problems •sexism •sh •low mental health I probably will have trauma from some of these things. I hope it doesn’t get worse but ty for making these videos I love ur channel

I always felt like something wasn’t right but I grew up very sheltered so I didn’t really know what was “normal”. When I would go to friends houses, and then asked my parents why they were calmer and kinder, I was told they were soft and stupid and that my family was more of the average. I had no idea my family was toxic until I went to college and spoke to friends about it. I was surprised to see them look so worried and tell me that the way I grew up is far from normal. Getting beat and screamed at for forgetting a chore or voicing an opinion on something, loosing belongings for struggling in school, being allowed zero privacy and being in complete terror when making a mistake, fearful of the punishment I received, are all not normal. And that’s been a big pill to swallow. Especially because I still have to live with them. I’m in therapy and attempting to work through it. Thank you all for putting out this video tho, if I saw this years ago I might have known and learned that the suffering I experienced wasn’t normal and not something I should have ever gone through

It's... great to be aware, now.

@painedidiotnoises3072

2 жыл бұрын

; do you relate? do you need to vent? are you ok-? ; im sorry if im invasive, its just my instincts acting up after a year of having a traumatized bestie that i have to check up on

@disgusting359

2 жыл бұрын

dxcJJKjjjxnxdnid8q7sudhdjdjd deja vu intensifies

@Psych2go

2 жыл бұрын

Which level are you at now?

@Hyurno

2 жыл бұрын

@@painedidiotnoises3072 It's okay! I'm feeling a lot better, now understanding where all is coming from has been plenty of help (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)

@Hyurno

2 жыл бұрын

@@Psych2go I've been at all 5 in the past few months, but being aware is already a huge step into healing and learning to cope with it! Thank you for the great video (◍•ᴗ•◍)

My lady had had a traumatic childhood. I used to take care of her and did all the mentioned ideas. Still she left..may be she had healed or didn't required my comfort or caress. May she be safe and sound wherever she be.. Sending her tons of love.

@helengibbs3153

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly people have to be willing to change themselves and we can't heal them. I would give a great deal to take away the impact of trauma from my partner. The most I can do is make a safe "now" and help him use strategies he's learned when things are tough. I hope you can find peace

@nick27march

2 жыл бұрын

@@helengibbs3153 You're correct.People should harden their nerve and bone to make themselves stand on their legs. We can only support them as a creeper or a climber.Rest all in their hands. Glad that you're helping your man. Do take care of his emotional needs. May Almighty keep both of you safe and sound.

@paperchain1239

2 жыл бұрын

I can identify with your lady. You are a very brave and honest man. Much respect to you. I hope you have found love and comfort in your life

@nick27march

2 жыл бұрын

Thank You for your concern. God Bless.

@emerdigiorgio3594

2 жыл бұрын

@ nush nick: What about you? You seem to be a caring person,but don't you think you,too,need some care?😍

Hearing stories online about people with terrible parents makes me realize how lucky I am with my parents, but I also understand that my parents aren't perfect either. Nobody's perfect, after all. That said, I think part of my own issues stem from me as opposed to how my parents were towards me. I'm not sure why there are times where I don't want their help even though they're willing to help me and my siblings out despite the fact that accepting their help will probably make it easier for me to deal with whatever problem I have at the time. 😢 Watching these videos is making me realize that maybe I do need to seek some professional mental health help, but I don't know if I can afford it, what with living in California... and I'm also worried that I might just go "Oh, I'm fine" if I do seek professional help and not actually get the help I would need because of my own responses making it difficult to find the underlying issue and thus get to a solution... 😢 Mental health really is complicated, huh?

i have low selfworth, instead of my parents try to "explain" the thing i did wrong, they threaten me with things like: "ill destroy your crafts" or "ill record you crying and show it to your classmate buddies at school" which has left a giant dent in my mental health making me think i am worthless or not trusting my parents for anything, one thing i do know for a fact from my mother that "later" means never. another thing is that whenever there is kids next door playing, my parents say "go play with them, why are you so shy? they are just kids" and i do consider that but i am too afraid of what others think of me from my mom saying "you look homeless" to me all the time.

I always thought it was normal for parents to hit their children. When I started high school my friends told me otherwise. Over the years I have come to realize that the way my parents disciplined me and my siblings was physically and emotionally abusive. One time my mum punched me in the face right before school. I was 14. I'll never forget it. I have pretty much all of the issues listed in this video 😥

@CanadianMonarchist

11 ай бұрын

My parents slapped my bum when I was growing up, but they never punched my face. I’m sorry to hear that’s how you were treated.

@catherinebirch2399

9 ай бұрын

Your mother should have been arrested for that.

@lindaoneil5085

7 ай бұрын

@@CanadianMonarchist That's how my dad was; he would grab my arm, twist it around, and slap my bum so hard & often it hurt; I remember he slapped my kid sister on her bum non-stop during dinner because she didn't want to eat her sweet potatoes (I lost count after the 5th slap). My mom never intervened. My dad kept slapping me on my bum as hard and frequently as possible until I was 16 years old, even for things I didn't do. He never slapped me again after that. I don't know why; maybe he noticed that I wasn't a little kid anymore, that I was turning into a young woman; maybe my mom said something to him, who knows?

@CanadianMonarchist

7 ай бұрын

@@lindaoneil5085 I’m sorry to hear he treated you that way. I hope your life has been better since.

@lucysphotosfromar

6 ай бұрын

I was always hit, too. Married a man who hit me, learned it at my parents knee. So unhealthy.

I have childhood trauma and I tend to accidentally age regression without realizing it. I didn't know that I did it and thought I was just immature for acting like a child when im an adult.

@melon9755

2 жыл бұрын

Can relate. I was wondering why I act like a little kid when I’m also an adult. I was just like, why am I doing this? Other adults don’t act like this? It’s like my mind wants to relive the childhood that failed when I was actually a child Won’t stop me from cuddling my hundreds of stuffies

@candytiger644

2 жыл бұрын

I can also relate as I have wondered about myself why I act like a little kid. My husband and I both had traumatic childhood and we'll discuss sometimes why we still both act like little kids

@jasonhernandez619

2 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't have thought of the cuddle doll as a sign of this. I mean, who doesn't need to cuddle? And there isn't always a willing human to cuddle with.

@gonerofsavers3813

2 жыл бұрын

I tend to pace a LOT. And come on cuddles are op no one is stoping me from cuddling my stuffy!

@candytiger644

2 жыл бұрын

@Mango 🥭 I get bad tantrums too, since being old enough to speak and throw things.. I still have days where I'll be off on a tantrum for hours then I crash from all the exhaustion.

Thank you for this video. I have recently been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder social anxiety disorder and separation anxiety disorder along with mild adhd. They told me it was most likely from trauma. These videos have helped me in my mental health journey and have changed my life for the better. Sincerely, thank you so so much.

I told my dad I was suicidal and he told me “no your not” and moved on that’s what made me realize he wasn’t the best person. It’s like always knew something was wrong but that’s what made me realize it

I’m currently in therapy and this is one of the things I’m working on coping with. It’s honestly sad that parents like this tend to not actually be fully aware that they are the problem because in most cases they are materialistically and physically providing for their child(ren), but won’t accept/acknowledge that they are mentally and emotionally destroying their child(ren) and setting the future relationships their kid(s) have with others up for failure😕.

@Psych2go

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about this.. you are very strong and will get through this!

I used to have panic attacks every single and my parents just... Ignored it usually. My sister would say "Why do you ruin everything for us? Just get over it"

Thank you for making these videos, Psych2Go. Watching them has helped me realize that my father traumatized me; your videos helped me recognize that I was in a bad situation, and that I deserve better. Thank you for helping me break free of my father.

This hits home! thank you so much for the insights I understand myself much better now because I don't necessarily remember specific traumatic events but it just goes to show that even the little things matter in the long run.

My childhood wasn't the best. My mother couldn't take care of me, my father was in prison, so i was adopted when i was just 3 months old. I can't hate my parents for it, cause why run around with hate in your heart. I can stand up to myself, which i do a lot, even if i don't always do so

Healing involves discomfort but so does refusing to heal. And over time refusing to heal is more painful.... It's not your fault that it happened. You're worthy of everything good. You're worth protecting. You're beautiful and loved. You're not alone, I'm with you What happened to you, isn't your fault.. It's okay to feel what you're feeling rn. Ik you'll heal soon, and to heal you need to smile 🦋 Have you smiled today?, A true genuine smile that comes after seeing a baby, a puppy? I wish I could give you a warm hug, you're so precious to me. sometimes it hurts too much..... But let's choose to heal together. Ik we'll make it out together, sweetheart Just hold on to me 🤍 You'll experience something beautiful today 🦋

@happysmiley158

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you that is so sweet😊❤

@blue-uv4mh

2 жыл бұрын

Don’t mind me screenshotting these beautiful words 🥲

@Neha-ed8bc

2 жыл бұрын

That's the most beautiful comment I read today, it made me smile. Thank you so much❤

@gonerofsavers3813

2 жыл бұрын

Really nice comment... however I...don't want to be told false compliments... I appreciate the thought but I'm good in my hole.

@starrynight2206

2 жыл бұрын

@@gonerofsavers3813 they aren't false compliments, they're truths you need to believe inorder to heal

this channel helped me a lot honestly Keep going! temporary safe space for me. You guys are helping more people than just a few.

My parents divorced before i was born and my mom had me the first 8 years of my life and was in 2 very abusive relationships during that time before finally going to my dad. Got better but the trauma followed me into my teens which created even more to this day, i will do my best to kick some of these habits, but im thankful that there are others out there who can relate (not that they had trauma) but that im not alone ❤ thank you for this video and everyone else who shared their struggles, i will continue to fight for healing in honor of that

I know that I was raised in an extremely unhealthy environment. Fortunately when I turned 18 I sought mental health care. Put it all behind me. Raised 4 boys to be strong, heathy well adjusted young men. Thanks mom, could not have done it without you. You made one BIG mistake, you brought me to church.

@Psych2go

2 жыл бұрын

Happy to see that you are thriving despite the short-comings you had! Keep on inspiring others in your shoes!

@paulcolin9071

2 жыл бұрын

Amazing. Definitely to be commended 🙂

@extra-lives

2 жыл бұрын

Does seeking for a mental health professional would really help ? I feel so helpless and realise and my pain is not gonna end

@KTF.4.EVER1961

2 жыл бұрын

@@extra-lives It did for me. You have to find an LCSW that's right for you. Having a KZread channel such as this one would have been extremely helpful when I was growing up! I'm 61. Back then I had to read physic books and take courses in physiology. This channel is awesome in helping me, I never knew the words for all the dysfunctional ppl. It also helped that I went to church. Today I do not and will never believe in organized religion because my mother and her family were devout Roman Catholic, at least one day a week. But it gave me a head start that I wouldn't have today. I do believe in a higher power, my faith has grown tenfold since I left the church.

@MsArri81

2 жыл бұрын

Though I thought I had a pretty decent childhood, I was raised by my mom in the Jehovah Witnesses religion (cult) and it was an extremely unhealthy environment to grow up in. My dad never intervened in the way I was raised either, because my mom was adamant that was how I would be brought up with strong Christian morals. Fortunately I left as an adult and found much more happiness in life outside that toxic environment. I have one child and she is being raised without organized religion, and she is very much happier and more well adjusted than I was as a kid.

Im so happy you talked about ageregression! Honestly ageregression is something that a lot of people dont know about

@Psych2go

2 жыл бұрын

For sure! Do you want to share your own personal experience about it?

@starykun1625

2 жыл бұрын

@@Psych2go Sorry this is so late but id love to! Is there somehwere I can do this or should I do it here?

You're voice is very calming, thank you for your knowledge.

2:01 as someone with servere childhood trauma it was actually caused by old friends and current friends. I am an ADHD person who has been struggling for a while. I cry a lot, and get bullied. It severely damaged my own health and I never spoke of how I actually felt. I feel like this video helped me understand that sharing feelings is a good thing.

@ashton1952

4 ай бұрын

Because they seem to think that because we didn't hear them/ didn't process what they said, that we're ignoring them on purpose, or trying to provoke them.

I had a traumatic childhood since I can remember, with the earliest incident that I recall being raped at 8yrs old, following this losing my dad to a fatal stroke when I was 9. Then things kinda spiraled downward from there. Many other situations after that some I can't remember (or don't want to so maybe my mind suppressed the memories), but just one thing after the other.

@socialdistancing6855

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry that it all happened to you I'm sure you will find many memories throughout your life that you can cherish 💕💚💕💚💕 🍀💕🍀

@derekbacharach

2 жыл бұрын

Give yourself time to heal with the help of a trauma-informed therapist

@iheartshaneandjeffree

2 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry love. I hope you have been able to heal. My heart breaks for you. Like a Phoenix you rose from the ashes and if no one has told you, I’m proud of you for keeping on going.

@candytiger644

2 жыл бұрын

Thank You all for the sweet and kind comments.. I admit, typing this post was kinda hard, but also lightened up my heart a little to get it off my chest. I appreciate it.. 🙂 Everybody have a good weekend and safe Memorial Day!

@mishtisingh6019

2 жыл бұрын

@@candytiger644 please stay healthy now and i want to ask if those monsters get punishment or not cause if not then I am second form of satan then they deserve to pay and have to pay at all cost

I know I had a traumatic childhood. My father died when I was 7 and my mother was somewhat emotionally abusive. My "brother" and I were both adopted at a young age (no blood relation) and were never close. There was no outward show of love or affection and there was an abundance of condemnation, whether it was over grades in school or performance in sports, or just about anything in between. Yes, there was a lot of "risky behavior" in my younger years. I basically amazed myself for living through the majority of them. But I came to realize exactly how I coped with it all. I considered the source, realized how to control those things I could control and overlook those things I had no control over, and came to the realization that I was not the problem, it was those around me. My biggest regret is, since I was raised in a somewhat loveless environment and affection was never shown, that has caused me to be somewhat lacking in expressing love and affection...especially towards my wife and son. Thankfully, they got to see first hand at the kind of "family" I was raised in and understand why I am the way I am. BTW, I am 72 and have been married for 42+ yrs. I have a son in his 40's and both he and my wife know how I feel towards them.

@Psych2go

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about this.. you are very strong and will get through this!

Point 3rd really hit close to home, avoiding confrontation and being too cautious with someone around you because you were always scolded as a baby so eventually you become timid and anxious!!!

Had great friends and amazing parents but my parents would always argue all the time and growing up as a glasschild was tough, I think having unlimited unrestricted internet access caused my a lot of trauma it made me get SO many intrusive thoughts about others and myself and I think it developed somewhere around 3rd grade. I have so many horrible notes about what I wanted to do to people including myself which made me realize that my childhood was indeed not normal and that I actually have some issues 💔

*FRIENDLY REMINDER* | The value of life can be seen in the fact that it ends. Everyone should do all he or she can to make it meaningful and rewarding.

I don’t remember a whole lot of my childhood honestly, but I know neglect was a big issue but it wasn’t necessarily my mom’s fault. She was a single mom and had to work, I understand that. I was left with my grandpa a lot, but he didn’t really do anything with me. I was also very sheltered…my mom and stepdad had BAD anxiety but refused to get therapy because “therapy is for crazy people” so they controlled me and basically never let me out of their sight unless it was for school (this continued through high school and even as a young adult). Also the drinking…binge drinking was a thing but they said it was fine because it was only beer. But yknow…20 beers in the span of an hour or so isn’t fine. And doing it every night isn’t fine. My favorite thing was telling my DARE teacher in the middle of class about my stepdad’s drinking problem and absolutely nothing being done about it. I remember there was a silence and she was like “he’s not that much fun to be around when he does that, is he?” I shook my head and she went on with the lesson. Nothing else happened.

@t.h.8475

2 жыл бұрын

I'm pretty sure not being able to remember some of or all of your childhood is a sign of abuse or a bad childhood.

@clarebaxter777

11 ай бұрын

@@serenitysmith352 Wait a minute, what did your father do to you? This was hard to read and I hope that you take some English composition classes while in college. However, I assume that your father beat you? What did he use? All of the bruises were on your back so did he use his fist? My last name is Smith but I am married so I use it as my middle name, it is a great name. My grandfather Smith was from Scotland. GOD bless you and I hope that you get help if you are suffering from cPTSD which is common with abused children and usually hits you in your late 30s and early 40s. It is a shame what some parents will do to their precious children, they have serious anger problems, are alcoholics, have PTSD themselves, or are just mean, cruel, and sadistic. And in your case, you were rejected by your mother and then your father, that is a lot of pain that you have to cope with. GOD can help, you are loved by him because he is your real father, he created you and he just needs you to communicate with him. He will listen and he will help you to understand why you are a victim of such cruel parents and he will give you peace. You won't forget but you can forgive and you are doing the right thing by telling your story. Not many people are comfortable hearing such unpleasant things, and they will abandon you too but you can go on channels like this one and tell caring people about your past and the more you talk about it the faster you will heal. GOD Bless🙏🙏

You just described my life. I can’t bear confrontation. I will put up with almost anything rather than rock the boat. I have always felt it would be selfish and shameful to say what I want or need. We were brought up to never ask for anything, our mother was a very kind person, but she did as our father said. No one ever dared to speak up to him. He was a hard working but self pitying narcissist and she was his protector. She pitied him because of his miserable upbringing. I always have felt that other people’s lives and accomplishments and needs were more important than mine. I wonder how far back in family this distress began?

I've realized that there's something wrong with my mental health for quite a while now. And I knew that, if there's something wrong in the head, look into childhood. So I've been searching. I've been looking into my memories searching for causes of my behaviors, feelings, insecurities and so on. And I watched a lot of videos on the topic to help me with that. But none of those connected with me as strong as this one. This one describes me. That is me. I wanted to try getting professional help, but didn't really know, how to describe how I feel. So maybe that'll help. Thank you!

@CanadianMonarchist

11 ай бұрын

I had a wonderful childhood, and I still had mental health problems. I’m glad you’re getting help, but please don’t start blaming all your problems on other people. I used to do that, but I learned it isn’t helpful.

Nothing takes more courage than putting yourself back together again.

@seal9454

2 жыл бұрын

What if you were never in one piece to begin with?

@EmEmTv7585

2 жыл бұрын

@@seal9454 then I hope someday you’ll finally be in once piece, even if it takes forever to do so

@-Teague-

2 жыл бұрын

@@seal9454 then you can learn how to be 😊

I didn't realize how neglectful and abusive my parents were until I managed to make friends and met their, more healthy parents. My mother used to refer to me as "her RRSP". I certainly experienced a lot of these growing up, and still do. Fortunately I've traded abusing pain medication in for frequent weed use - and in that, it's been a very conscious journey as well finding strains and effects that work best for handling my specific symptoms. Going low contact with my parents and keeping my life secret from them except for small tidbits I explicitly choose to share has kept me feeling safe and actually able to make my own decisions. I didn't realize just how much I would fall back into my absued shell when I kept even moderate contact with my parents. They had to fully show me they didn't respect me and I had to accept and grieve that loss of this "parents I wish I had" image to finally be able to start really healing and becoming genuinely me. If you're ever wondering, no. You don't owe your parents anything. Go be your own person. That's why you're here.

The Catra cartoon made me very happy. Thankyou ❤

as a 72 year old i do recognise some of these traits and decided many years back that the "book of life " my parents gave me was wrong and i had to do my own thing make my own decisions, And do a double take is this me or my parents, and it worked, but at times you can slip back into the old ways. I am an older Dad so now do my upmost not to repeat those same mistakes my parents made. Thank you for a thought provoking video. Getting older we do review our lifes journey and mistakes we made along the way.

100% yes I did have extremely traumatic early years of my life and this is destroying my life. I can’t be in a relationship I can’t trust absolutely anyone and I’m also having real hard time communicating with new people. This is all because my parents were super narcissistic woman and apathetic half man who was never there for me. Thanks for your videos ! You guys are helping me to ever so slowly get rid of all the trauma they’ve caused me!

@theangrydweller1002

Жыл бұрын

The thing about trauma is that it will never leave you. You must learn to carry that wight.

I am part of a DID system, which that disorder comes from repetitive childhood trauma I don't remember most of my life, it's all repressed memories, but everything in how I act, think and feel, most of it is trauma responses Kinda recently, I've been allowed to remember more, I have really bad gut feelings about my old babysitter, and I don't remember any details, but my mind tells me a lot more happened growing up It's so difficult, I'm like a living trauma response, I'm not even the original host, I'm a split form of her It's so stressful, being forced into acting like an adult, having trauma that I don't know, realizing every little thing I do is some how a trauma response, and having a severe trauma disorder I just dont know anymore..

@elladrutarosky2377

Жыл бұрын

I've been looking through this comment section for the past 45 minuets and I've finally found a comment saying that their trauma came from something other than school or parents or a quick traumatic event, and I feel a whole lot better now that I know I'm not alone. I can relate to a lot of what u say, actually. I suffer from maladaptive daydreaming, which like DID, also comes from repetitive child hood trauma. I used to have this "friend", we'll call "H", who I hung out with quite a lot between the ages of 3-7ish. She was around 3 years older than me. She would belittle, threaten, completely ignore me when we're with her other friends, try to get me to do things I didn't want to (nothing s3xua|, at least from what I remember), and isolate me from my other friends by saying things like "I'm your only friend, right?" and "don't let anyone else know about this". She *hardcore* gaslighted me in many ways, even got me literally into thinking that I was seeing things that weren't there and not seeing things that supposedly were. All that gaslighting caused me to doubt myself in everyday life, I'm 16 now and am still effected by this. I did try to tell my mom once when it got to be too much (i believe i was 6ish) but it was extremely difficult since I wasn't able to explain exactly what H was doing to me. So my mom (bless her) couldn't really do much. I would have told her sm more and a lot sooner if H didn't say things like "don't tell anyone", "I never said that", "you are such a crybaby/ you're so sensitive", -- basically any other phrase u can think of that a narcissist would say to their victim in order to believe they're helpless/ not worthy of help. She also threatened and said things that made me genuinely scared of her to the point where the thought of her being mad at me scared me more than getting in trouble with my mom. I did finally manage to tell my mom the full truth years after I stopped hanging out with H and after I found out what manipulation was. Though I can remember around 10-15 specific instances of the abus3, I *know* there was *so* much more than that because I remember feeling uneasy, sometimes even terrified, almost every time, if not *every* *time* , we hung out. And that thing u said about "everything in how I act, think and feel..."... Over the past few years I've been noticing so many things about myself, and realizing that sm of my defective personality could have been caused by H. And, I mean, I *have* to have maladaptive daydreaming (it's very hard to get an official diagnosis for it since it has only been defined fairly recently and still very little people know about it), and H is the only thing I can really think of that could have caused it. If u read this whole thing, honestly thank u. Ik this was a very long rant but ur comment really made me feel less alone, so thank u. ❤

@Psych2go

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about this.. you are very strong and will get through this!

My childhood was absolutely idyllic. My family adored me and I had a big family then full of loving and caring and holidays and fun. It was perfect… but then I grew up. Most of my big and loving family are passed away, the ones that remain have changed and not for the better. I used to dream big but I saw each dream fade to nothing. I feel very sad in my heart for people who have had a bad childhood, or were neglected or abused. I wish them happiness and peace, in their adulthood. For those like me who had a perfect childhood and watched it slowly fade away, it’s also heartbreaking. Life is hard.

@waynetennant8090

7 ай бұрын

My early childhood was good with many benefits such as a peaceful calm environment with gospel or classical music and my parents loved to sing so that became a family tradition. During highschool my parents rented out two rooms - both my sister and I each had a roommate, which taught us great social skills. Since speech was not my forte I read books more than talked but my friends all hung in school ( after doing our homework ). After college and a few years work, a great tragedy occured : my parent's sudden passing in a DWI! They were teetotalers and wonderful teachers who had just retired a few years earlier. Our life ( mine & my sister's ) were turned upside down for many months , about two years. Gradually things started to improve. It is best to take it one day at a time now with God's grace.

Thank you for making this it made me relize my childhood was not normal and that I needed professional help

i wish people understood more about age regression it would be awesome to see psych2go do a video specifically on age regression

@bleachedout805

Жыл бұрын

You mean the defense pedophiles use to justify their perverse inclinations?

@DabiToyaTodoroki1

Жыл бұрын

@@bleachedout805 you are completely uneducated your thinking of age play which is absolutely not age regression two entirely different things

@oliver._.

Жыл бұрын

yesss. I am an age regressor myself and I would love to see that.

@crypticshadows

Жыл бұрын

yes, i have bpd and pstd and I have age regression that’s uncontrollable so i’d love to learn about it more

@oliver._.

Жыл бұрын

@@crypticshadows exactlyyy

I am in my 60's and I suffered as a child with dysfunctional parents. I learned a great tip from Marissa Peer to love the child that was neglected. i learned to visualise that child and hold it in my arms and give it the love and care the child needed. She helped me a lot to give unconditional love to that child, being the adult that I am now. And yes it works.Thank you for all of your kind advice to all who may suffer in this way.

Thanks for this insightful video. It has helped me understand myself better. God bless you 🙏

Summed up brilliantly in 5 minutes. It had taken about 50 years to realize the effects of a childhood you describe. Particularly 2 to 5 Thank you.

Thank you for exposing certain habits I tend to do unconsciously, especially risk taking to avoid the negative feelings ❤️.

@starflyer3219

2 жыл бұрын

Stay safe ❤

@derekbacharach

2 жыл бұрын

Now that you're aware, if you notice you continue to have these habits, Please consider seeking a trauma-informed therapist

@Psych2go

2 жыл бұрын

That's good that you were able to learn about something about yourself. What's your next course of action?

I definitely had a traumatic childhood AND I REALIZED IT early on. I talked about it a lot during my therapy days between 2016 and 2019. I keep my distance from my mother's family because I know what to expect. I only speak to my grandmother and my uncle. My needs were never met and often ignored by my mother. Had I moved in with my dad at 16 or 17 I probably would've received better services in regards to my disability. The next step is leaving his house and getting as far away from crappy Baltimore as I possibly can. I knew a while ago I have no future in this town let alone with most of my mom's family. These people are a part of my past. Some of my relatives really tore down my confidence and I finally got it back a few years ago. I'm not gonna let anyone take my confidence away from me...EVER!

@Psych2go

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about this.. you are very strong and will get through this!

@jessicasmith5728

Жыл бұрын

@@Psych2go Thanks Psych2Go! The people I was around really knew how to crush someone's spirit to the point where it felt like they had no dignity left. That's exactly what I went through with my mom and some of her relatives including my maternal ½ sister.

2:39 me-

This video honestly hit differently for me at the moment. I'm kind of going through a realization that I may have been traumatized. This video has made me realise that I have many of the symptoms of trauma, even if I still do love my parents. They have improved a lot but I'm still afraid of them because of hoe they yelled at me or 'emotionally cornered' me. Whatever I'd say when they asked if I was upset would get me yelled at, and ithas possibly left scars. It's a weird feeling for me because, again, they have been improving and I do still love them. They have done a lot of good for me and I cannot thank them enough. However, I still feel like some of the ways they used to react caused trauma for me. I'm sorry if this feels like I'm trauma dumping, but I just figured I'd point this out for myself. If anyone has any advice for me, I'd be open as I don't really know what to do at the moment. I'm slowly making my way up though😅 Thank you, Psych2Go, for being so helpful for people like me! People who may not realise that they've had trauma. People who are in denial.

@SaltyShaman

7 ай бұрын

OMG, I just realized. I was yelled at ALL THE TIME by my mother. I thought that was normal? O.o

@HelloFellowFriends

7 ай бұрын

@@SaltyShaman All the time? No, that's not normal at all- Happens a lot, sadly, and I'm sorry you had to go through that :( It's a complicated topic so I'm not gonna give advice or say anything certain without knowing the context, but I do know now that a parent constantly yelling at their kids isn't normal-

@SaltyShaman

7 ай бұрын

@@HelloFellowFriendsyeah, it was more in your face from an early age. Anyway, it helps me understand my reactions and gives me peace in knowing why. Strangely.

@HelloFellowFriends

6 ай бұрын

@@JesusJavaJuli Oh my gosh, I’m so so sorry that happened to you, that sounds awful! No, that was never your fault in any possible way! You were the victim and she had issues, especially dragging you out of the bed by your hair like that! That is 100% abuse, that should have never happened! I seriously hope you’re doing better, and that you feel safe and secure away from that living space

@SaltyShaman

6 ай бұрын

I would guess that you are/were a sweet, loving, intelligent and attractive young lady. This really sets off mothers with narc issues..a chapter right out of Snow White.@@JesusJavaJuli

At 3:06 I’m so happy that you included Catra in the drawing, she is one of those characters that fit so well with the trauma and mental health problems that are shown in the video. (Just wanted to say that this video was great! I learned more about myself and other things, so thank you.)

@KudukUngol

2 жыл бұрын

It was such a pleasant surprise to see Catra. I could hear her asking Shadow Weaver "Why did you treat me the way you did? Why was I never good enough for you?"

@tomiokagooey5994

2 жыл бұрын

@Kuduk Ungol Exactlyyy!

@Psych2go

Жыл бұрын

yay!

Whenever people spoke how amazing their parents are I can never relate. I grew up with relatives and my mother was emotionally unavailable and she never cared. I grew up to be very independent and a single mom of 2 and my relationship with my children is very important to me more than anything in the world

@shakurwonders5216

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, I can relate. Sorry to hear about that. Great thing you're breaking the Generational Curses. Sending love to u and your family

@Andrejr316

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you peace and love to you 💚💚💚

Number 4 hit. 😢 I’m so afraid of not being good enough its hard to even try sometimes. To do anything new or something I’ve done a hundred times, still just feels like I’m a failure at it. I can’t even pick up a pencil to draw anymore. I’ve put so much pressure on myself that I’m just scared to try.

Very well said! Many people do not realize that childhood trauma extends itself well into adulthood even though the adult rarely recognizes they even have a mental disorder / problem. Once the person reaches their late 20s or early 30s, if the mental disorder is not addressed by a professional mental health practitioner the disorder has a very strong possibility of becoming ingrained into the person's personality permanently (thus becoming classed and identified as personality disorder). This psychological information should be a standard part of all general studies university programs....(IMHO)!

i didn’t even realise i had trauma until i turned 18 because in my head it was normal family stuff and now that i am aware if it i don’t know how to process it because i didn’t really have much negative feelings attached to it and just feel numb

@ScarletWFire

2 жыл бұрын

Same. It feels like I was robbed of my most important years. I'm not exactly sure what to do to fix it, or what "fixed" feels like

@helengibbs3153

2 жыл бұрын

Therapy if you can afford it. Sometimes going to a well run group such as an Alanon group can help as you learn from others who have been on similar paths

@-Teague-

2 жыл бұрын

@@ScarletWFire it's less about how to "fix" it and more about how you can learn from it and grow through it.

@-Teague-

Жыл бұрын

@Omar Zazzle this is so unrelated and random lol what on earth

@Psych2go

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about this.. you are very strong and will get through this!

Confrontation I still struggle with to this day(I'm 26). My dad is an intimidating person and I felt like at times my voice or opinion didn't matter. (I feel he is also bipolar, but not diagnosed. My dads side of the family has a history of bipolar. I have it too but it's only mild and treated with medicine). I even struggle with them just being emotionally unattached to me at random points, hence why I find comfort to this day with stuffed animals, anime and video games. It was my happy place and still is when I need a temporary escape from life. Both my parents have a crap past of physical/emotional abuse, abandonment and just horrible parents period. They both have unaddressed trauma and that trauma has affected me and my siblings. I feel they aren't bad people per say, nor am I condoning their behavior, but I just wish they could have gotten help before having kids so that we didn't experience such things...

I always feel dumb and dramatic when i think things like these happened to me. I was raised in a household where we were told that people with depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, etc, were just being dramatic. My parents mainly just made me feel like nothing i did was ever good enough. They also didnt respect my thoughts or personal space. If i complained about feeling sad, i was told that life wasnt fair and to suck it up. My parents also were very loving. I feel like i did have a good childhood but with subtle toxic parenting that we all just ignored. This is why i feel like i should just keep my feelings to myself. I feel like my feelings arent valid.

@canselyldrm9687

Жыл бұрын

Oh I feel you 😢

Abandonment issues and feeling worthless is something I struggle with every day. As an adopted child who had to watch their parents go through a divorced, I grew up so desperate for love and attention. I yearned for close friendships and relationships because I needed to feel wanted and seen. I became a sort of people pleaser and allowed toxic people into my circle. It really messed me up and destroyed my self image. Watching this struck something deep inside me. No idea what it is but I realize that the trauma I felt growing up was real. I am in a better place and I can finally say I am not alone anymore. This story serves as a kind reminder: You are not alone and even on your own, you are stronger than you realize.

For the childish reactions or age regressions, i do that like when things are overwhelming or i get in a place where things get too much. I act like a toddler and sound like it. I called my friend for the first time and it was too overwhelming so i sounded like a little kid and they were weirded out..

1:40 I didn’t expect a hollow knight reference on a Psychology channel! Great video!

I’m very glad you talk about regression here, as a voluntary and involuntary regressor it’s nice to see an educational resource discussing it since there is a lot of stigma around it, thank you:)

Great video. I'll use it as a reference!

My form of trauma was mostly adults bullying me at a much younger age. At the time they probably thought that it was "amusing" or "just light teasing" and actually i used to look at it that way too until of course later in life, i started to realize that it was a major issue for me because even to this day i really struggle with daily tasks in life. Holding onto those traumatic experiences isn't the most healthy thing to do and yet i can't help but do exactly that. I still to this day think of it. In my mind those bad memories are as clear as day. It's like i can't even forget about it. I have other trauma as well which to this day i still haven't come to terms with. It's not as easy as to just "get over it". Those things aren't really that easy to move on from. I wish it was, honestly. Because at the end of the day all i want is to live my life without having those negative things in my life. I hate that to this day i still hold onto those negative memories. It's not like they're doing me any good.

Most boxes ticked. Still anxious socially at 75 as told constantly from the age of five that I was just like the hated mother in law and no-one would ever like me. This was part of a daily rant which included threats to be put in a children’s home and being constantly told I was unwanted. I don’t think i had even misbehaved to start this tirade off because I was frightened of her, she was just taking her frustrations out on me. She died at 96 and I did not feel any sense of loss.

@lucysphotosfromar

6 ай бұрын

Wow, I was told the same thing. A couple of times I did a minor kid think, once wiggle a park bench and annoyed my mother. She told me to stop. Being about eight I forgot and made it wiggle again, parents explode and we had to leave and get in the car. They kept talking about putting me 'in a home' because I couldn't be good. Wow! I never felt secure and like I had a real home. It's like they killed my inner feeling for them over the years. I am 79 and still feel all the pain.

@MonsterAttax

4 ай бұрын

I am so sorry

Kami You did really good on the editing it was really cute!😊😃😄

“You’re so spoiled and ungrateful -“ “Dad, you’re the one spoiling me and when I say thank you you turn away and ignore me.”

My parents were always supportive of my achievements and light on criticism yet here I am relating to the negative effects of not having that. Like bro what

@kiri2713

2 жыл бұрын

same for me i wish I knew why bc it was always just "being shy" and now i blame it on burnout, anxiety or depression (or possibly AD(H)D) and I'm also pretty sensitive, shy, anxious AND a perfectionistic people pleaser so my teacher's words have always had a huge influence on me and ever since the burnout cycle started a few years ago and has gotten worse I've heard that i was stupid, lazy and childish because i struggle to get work done or to get it done on time and little things people critize about me turn into huge internalized insecurities and flaws in my mind until i can't stop thinking about them and then i end up hating myself and having about zero confidence (those are some phases I've had the past few years there's always some times where i feel so much better but i always relapse) well congrats if anybody even read that half of this was probably off topic🤩🤩 but yay i am hoping it was not and that someone found this as interesting and helpful as i find all the comments on this video I wish you have a good day or better days and weeks and years coming up for you if you're not feeling well rn that's alright and i am sure that you're all very loveable people (and if you don't think so first check your environment for toxic relationships) if you still feel unloved or worthless maybe my appreciation for you reading this at all makes you feel like there's a teeny tiny purpose for you to live and i know at least I would love you regardless of your current mental health or your bad habits everyone here please seek help from a mental health professional tho😘 not saying that i am😔 do it when you feel ready guys i love you byebye that's what I call oversharing with strangers🥳🎉

@schrodings9465

2 жыл бұрын

@@kiri2713 hi. Thank you for sharing (i sound like a group therapist lol). And thank you for your kindness you warmed my heart

im starting to think that im not as ok as i thought i was.

Being around my biological mother and siblings was extremely stressful early on because they were so open about it when upset over something. The abusive narcissistic parent who raised me hadn't allowed anyone to ever express negative feelings except her, we all had to be submissive to her demands or suffer, but it's the exact opposite with my bio-mum, her husband, and the siblings of mine they raised together. The safety and comfort to express when something was wrong was something I didn't really get till adulthood, and it made me so overly self reliant that I would stay injured or reinjury myself a lot because even wounds were something I was expected to tend myself from an early age. It completely changed my perspective on 'loud' households, because as long as everyone is being heard and allowed to express themselves that can be healthier than those where no one is ever heard raising their volume, or it's just one person who gets to.

Thank you so much for this video it's so appreciated and helpful... your amazing 👏 hug 🤗 xxxx

Yeah, I'm definitely traumatized. Can you make a video on healthy coping strategies or a video on how to heal from being emotionally neglected as a child?

@Kormac80

2 жыл бұрын

If you are committed to the work I’d suggest plant meds from Peru. The jungle med is more well known, but the cactus also works. Combine that with good therapy and it’s powerful

I’m an adult now. I was raised with so much abuse. Point one..having a stuffed animal to cuddle into was what I did. I sure had insecurity so much. Low self esteem was there. Had anorexia until I was 17 or 19. I did some risky behaviours because of the amount and frequency of it. Was from both siblings and parent. Pissed me right off. Life was a rocky journey until I reached 39. By the time I turned 40 I got rid of almost every single nasty and fake as people. Bar a few Facebook friends. At this stage I’m ready to get rid of the last two I’m praying for it to happen. Life at my age is looking happy and promising. Travel is on the cards. Moving house is a consideration that’s for sure. I’m done with arzeholes. Life is so beautiful when you don’t have people dragging you down. Eat, love, sleep, crap, pee, fart, laugh, shower and drink to be merry. Please appreciate all your true blessings you do have. I do it. I’m more stronger than I believe I was. Triumph over pleasing mongrels any day 😎🎉💜

i watched most of your videos ! their awsome ! im apperantly autistic with ADD and had a 1/2 traumatic childhood, good to know, thanks psych2go !

It wasn't until the first time I stayed over at a friends house that I realized parents aren't normally telling their kids they're stupid idiots who can't do anything right, they didn't beat them with whatever object was near them and ACTUALLY went to their sporting events... there was no sharing of feelings in our house or feeling of loving home it was only "I wish I'd never had you!". Of course all that changed when her angel my sister was too "busy" to do her in home hopsice due to pancreatic cancer so me being the only single and childless sibling got stuck with it... for the last 3 years nearly everyday I wish I had told her how much I hated her and wish just once growing up she would have acted like all my friends mothers... but once again I put someone else's feelings above mine so as to not start a conflict. To this day I'm pissed at myself that I didn't say anything to her, because of it all my relationships have failed due to fear of being hurt and unable to trust anyone. So now I just keep to myself, yet again doing in home hospice for another family member and rarely go out but for arrends and occassional meet up with the guys... my room is safer and the rest of the world isn't missing me...