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@jncyj

Ай бұрын

i was thinking about going to bakery where she works asking how her day was going then giving my food order any ideas on what to say next? She has tattoo on her arm and long hair do i comment on that?

@shanes854

Ай бұрын

It's not 30% off, it's 13%. At the main page it looks right, but when you go to checkout the "original" price changes. If they would've been honest about the 13% upfront they would've had my business, but they had to lie.

A girl in school cried because she was made to sit next to me. Yup, I am attractive. :D

@GregXHunterz

Ай бұрын

hey man, those tears of joy are unforgettable ;)

@pharkle35

Ай бұрын

😁😁😁😁. Once I was hiking thru Shenandoah mountains, a black bear approached me and told me, "Dude, I am a bear and even then I am more attractive than you! First I was perplexed that a bear could communicate with me, secondly I said, Misery loves company, I guess I can't count on you now, right homie!" He ran away laughing. Yup! Even wild life knows how attractive I am. 😉😉😉😉

@thefox47545

Ай бұрын

I was on a museum tour and we were told to sit on some benches to watch a video. I sat down and there was an open spot next to me and an attractive girl looked at that spot and decided to sit on the dirty nasty floor than next to me. Yup, I'm SOOOOO attractive.

@Malcolm52

Ай бұрын

Shit man, those are memories I don't need, middle/high school girls are cruel

@screwedupmystic2597

Ай бұрын

I'm 6 10 and a girl cried when she had to sit next to me cause she don't like short people 😕

Summary for busy people: 1. Receiving regular compliments; 2. Halo effect (people value your opinion over others's); 3. People mirror your body language; 4. People want to know your opinion and ask you questions; 5. You have hobbies, passions, activities, and therefore you are more interesting than others.

@GregXHunterz

Ай бұрын

Esp for 1-4, pay attention to the frequency you'd get this. I've gotten 1-4, but it's not too many to count and kinda rare for me.

@moeezS

Ай бұрын

Thanks!

@johnnykend5728

Ай бұрын

Hah! Then I'm definitely ugly, cuz all of these signs are the opposite for me, except that I have my own hobbies, that I trully enjoy.

@SaschaJanetschek

Ай бұрын

@@johnnykend5728 life is not only about being attractive. you got this

@johnnykend5728

Ай бұрын

@SaschaJanetschek I know, cuz I already enjoy my life and without ppl around me, especially without girls around me, cuz I don't need them. I'm happier on my own.

Well, the bathroom mirror doesn’t break when I walk past it. So I suppose that’s a good sign

@doom9603

Ай бұрын

😆

@usausa3234

Ай бұрын

Haha

@henryanthony976

Ай бұрын

😂

@Dabgram34

Ай бұрын

Lmaooo

@Jiivm

Ай бұрын

Nice 😂

1. Compliments: None 2. People Value your Opinion: No 3. People Mirror your Body Language: Mo 4. People ask you many question: No 5. Hobbies: atleast i have this. Looks like I failed these signs overall..lol

@herrwahnsinn4229

Ай бұрын

Once you go way over people they can't ask you questions, everything you say is Greek or Mandarin to them. ( thousands and thousands of hours of study)

@slick_Ric

Ай бұрын

body language not just "no" but "mo", man is beyond hope

@wolfnoggin2165

Ай бұрын

Hobbies is your fault

@MarighnamaniMr

Ай бұрын

Don't be hard on yourself man, I also only have hobbies that's all :P

@kylekenan2321

Ай бұрын

Same and I've given up what others think.

Confident people don’t just receive compliments, but they give them. Go out of your way to genuinely compliment others, and you’ll immediately be more attractive to people and boost your own confidence.

@JUAN75001

Ай бұрын

I help guys by giving them tips on how to ask to women out 😂

@watchdog6619

Ай бұрын

Uuh, maybe don't do that, if you're not a 8+/10 cause that's just seen as creepy, I'm a 5-7, did that, to a 5 in society standards, but a 7-8 in mine, complimented her awesome braids, cause i overheard her talking about herself feeling ugly, wanted to lighten her mood, got get some guys send after me, tho i could talk my self out of the situation, by explaining just that prior ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯ If you had eye contact at several occasions, without her rolling her eyes, you can consider making a compliment, but even then it's still minesweeper on hard.

@golfbuddy1969

Ай бұрын

@@watchdog6619 complimenting people for their kindness and thoughtfulness or creativity or hard work or honesty or going the extra miles or doing something they didn’t have to do, etc…is never creepy. You compliment and then leave- don’t linger or stare, or even wait for a response. Walk off and then the next time they see you, they’ll remember.

@watchdog6619

Ай бұрын

@@golfbuddy1969 Ooh yeah, your right, that i totally agree with, complimenting acts or decisions is the best way to go. 👍😄

@golfbuddy1969

Ай бұрын

@@watchdog6619 i have challenged my employees and coworkers to find a way to say thank you twice instead of once. It changes the whole temperature of a conversation.

I've always felt that I was pretty low on the attractive scale. After watching this, I know that I'm lower than originally assumed.

@thorsrensen3162

Ай бұрын

Me too. I feels like women dont even notice I am in a room. I wonder how fast the can determine an just complete ignore my existance.

I'm 0 for 5 💪

@qasimsultan4747

Ай бұрын

My man 👊

@kerryhaliburton4650

Ай бұрын

Me too☹️

@AgentoftheMartianConspiracy

Ай бұрын

I hear you.

@nowie4007

Ай бұрын

Same😂😂😂

@Carmelo-dame.time-Anthony

Ай бұрын

Time to step up your game or continue to get stepped on

Welp got told in 5 ways I’m not that attractive 💀

@eyeinsee

Ай бұрын

Im sure you have a wonderful personality though

@adamant5906

Ай бұрын

​@@eyeinseeI've heard a lot of women say they wish a guy would fill them up with their huge wonderful personality.

@sebikelifeusvetparatrooper

Ай бұрын

⚰️

@vijayiyer8518

Ай бұрын

I regularly fill up women with my wonderful personality, ha ha :) they can't seem to get enough of my personality :) ​@@adamant5906

@tatemcilwain1775

Ай бұрын

DAAAAAAMN

The vast majority of men can count the total number of compliments they have received on one hand (or no hands). It's so uncommon that if you were to ask a man if he's ever been complimented, he can tell you every single detail (date, time, exact quote, who it was, etc.) about that one compliment he got because it was such a rare and memorable occurrence.

@RS-xo7rd

Ай бұрын

Absolutely right!

@SomeGuyWhoPlaysGames333

Ай бұрын

I receive compliments regularly from men (usually about the stickers on the back window of my car, lol) But compliments from women are exceedingly rare. And if I do receive them, there’s usually one or multiple reasons why it definitely isn’t implying anything other than them just being nice. (I.e. a married woman and a lesbian told me I had a nice haircut, lol)

@vladalx8820

Ай бұрын

For real, i remember a girl in 8th grade complimenting my abs and one about my jawline in 11 grade😂

@Ulfrich_Stormcock

Ай бұрын

The most recent compliments from a woman ( a really good looking and fit mid 40s latina woman) were for my athletic jogger pants and my shoes and socks. I get compliments for my eyes, and have been called attractive by dating app matches (women my age, im 26) but still single :/

@Harlow_Khmer

Ай бұрын

My husband gets hit on and complimented on a daily basis 😂

I'll add in my two cents, I guess. I think most people fall in that middle category, the one where a great personality makes you good-looking. A not-so-great personality makes you not so good-looking. Always learn, always work on yourself, and most people will find you attractive.

I like to think that I'm so attractive that all the women around me think I'm out of their league.

@iandougall7169

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@watchdog6619

Ай бұрын

That even might be the case, many attractive women don't feel attractive, they mostly start to realize and accept it due to compliments of their surrounding and guys hitting on them.

@enemy1134

Ай бұрын

there's some truth to this though. Some women who find a man attractive default to being rude with the man because they don't want to give the impression they're attracted to him. Or they feel entitled to his attention and if he's not approaching her or just kind of doing his own thing they think he's stuck up. It's kind of like a way to protect their ego by rejecting themselves before the guy does

@crasherkid7954

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

Courtney should do a "5 signs your are LESS attractive than you think" video

@RandomAssdude..

Ай бұрын

She basically did with this one💀

@gumnaamaadmi007

Ай бұрын

Oh, she just did.

@sebikelifeusvetparatrooper

Ай бұрын

⚰️

@225Kristoph

Ай бұрын

That's exactly what I just found out!

@VideoArchiveGuy

Ай бұрын

Most of us already know through decades of reinforcement. 🤷‍♂

I found out other men find me attractive with that mirror effect thing...every time I punch a guy in the face, they try to do the same thing right back. Thanks for helping me understand!

@Drewzdev

Ай бұрын

This has Army written all over it. Every drunk saturday night at the barracks. I'm glad you found love. Your callsign: little spoon.

Here’s my personal list as a guy who’s been looxsmaxing for the past year 1. Girls will get nervous when talking to you 2. You can get away with things more at work 3. Girls don’t find you repulsive when you’re forward (confident) with them and are engaged in your conversations (there is nuance) 4. Girls will give you double takes i.e. at the gym, mall, store, etc. 5. Girls will put themselves in your vicinity 6. Girls will stare at you from mirrors at the gym 7. Men and women will enjoy talking to you and go up to you if you frequent at a place 8. Older women are a lot more forward with their interests in you i.e. compliments, breaking touch barrier 9. Straight and Gay men find you attractive or give you compliments 10. Girls adjust themselves in your presence (hair, clothes, body, etc.) Just things I’ve noticed that never happened to me before hitting the gym consistently, fitting better into new/stylish clothes, new hair style, fragrance rotation, etc., walking confidently with better posture, etc.

@jimmygott

Ай бұрын

Going from 130kg to 76kg I have noticed almost all of these as well, also did a lot of this too changed my looks, hair style, changing fragrances, worked on posture, started going to gym etc. The one at the gym cracks me up it happens way too much with the mirrors even though I've only just started going to the gym. Had one girl do a quadruple take on me the other day she almost ran into a pole was pretty funny. Another girl I went to a coffee shop I frequent she asked if I wanted her spot in the line, I said that's fine I'll wait and just went to the back, she then after we'd both ordered came up and stood right next to me facing me and just started singing the song that was on the radio. It's weird man going from 0 attention when I was a fat dude to a lot after putting so much work into myself.

@APiccolo

Ай бұрын

Out of curiosity, did you happen to start making friends with women?

@dg271

Ай бұрын

now it's 10 more signs that i'm ugly

@Lev782

Ай бұрын

@@APiccoloI’ve always had female friends before from college, work, social circles, etc. but I’ve went “monk mode”, deleted my social media accounts and have been more isolated since breaking up with my girlfriend last year. Wanted a fresh start. I don’t recommend doing this long term because if you’re not great at being social or with your conversations with others, your looks and money may improve but your social skills will suffer. But making friends has been slow but stable due to me only wanting to spend my time with like minded men. I personally don’t like being “friends” with women as I am only interested in dating. Women at work and gym that I talk to frequently can count as “friends” if that’s what you’re talking about but we don’t communicate or “hang out” outside of that. Most of my time goes to working overtime, gym, and the occasional “night out”. Focusing on yourself, money, and body, for any man regardless of relationship status or relationship goals should be top priority imo. You need a strong foundation and your choices for what woman you want to be part of your life broadens and you learn not to “settle” out of scarcity. Your partner should add to your life as you do to theirs, not take away. If you want high quality women, be someone high quality yourself. Some people have to work for it unlike others who are born with great jawlines, height, genetics, etc. It’s life, those are the rules you have to play by and accept. Life becomes simple, peaceful, and gives you a reason to fight to improve on something everyday once you understand this.

@Lev782

Ай бұрын

@@dg271there’s 10 reason to motivate you to improve, choosing signals aren’t everything but they’re a good indicator that you’re on the right track. There’s things you can improve now but there will be things you have to work on long term as well. Do it now, but Do it for you, you only have one life

Well I get guys complimenting me all the time, the boys got me 🤣

@APiccolo

Ай бұрын

Fr. I was hit on by this gay dude who's really attractive, so at least that?

@underthebridge2445

Ай бұрын

Yk they mean it when they say it

@BWater-yq3jx

Ай бұрын

You'll miss that when you get out.

@ak_buckets7962

4 күн бұрын

@@APiccolo It's something at least 😂

I've received a compliment on my outfit every day so far that I've tried to dress well. From men and women! It's boosted my confidence and your season essentials videos have helped me a lot!

today i have learned that most of the time people think i'm pretty attractive once they get to know me but my social anxiety often get's in the way of them being able to see my attractive qualities.

Thank you for sharing some info about this situation. As someone with a tremendously negative self view, it helps a lot!

I’ve seen men who are not physically attractive at all, get dates with women who could be models. All because they are excellent at communication.

@doom9603

Ай бұрын

Problem is just, most women are bad at coms, good luck mate 😆

@467076

Ай бұрын

Were they tall 😆if they’re are, case closed that’s the reason why.

@okokokokokok69-km4zi

Ай бұрын

My grandmother is 90 years old, and have good health despite smoking for 70 years. There are exceptions everywhere..

@yodaleiheehu3280

Ай бұрын

No, they just have money and are using escorts.

@sumairshirazi

Ай бұрын

That is true communication and confidence.

I would also add that if you're more attractive than you think, you will rarely receive compliments. People will think you already know you're attractive, and won't give you compliments because they don't want to boost your ego any more.

@socrattt

Ай бұрын

Do you mean if you think you are more attractive than you are?

@Alan-rw3ez

Ай бұрын

@@socratttIf someone is attractive, they don’t just receive compliments all the time because people know that you already are.

@socrattt

Ай бұрын

@@Alan-rw3ez Yes, the compliments are often implicit. For example, someone might say, "I like your shirt," but their tone says, "I think you are handsome."

@xonlytyrek3601

Ай бұрын

this is most definitely my experience, I othen receive stares everywhere I go and conversations being made, even like compliments on my shoes, tattoos etc, but never straight up being called attractive, but ONLINE it’s another ball game, I’m flooded with compliments on my looks lol, so I know people IRL just don’t wanna feed egos more, then those online.

@jesamavi

Ай бұрын

Jesus then People always think I get compliments al the time

Thanks for this, Courtney!

This definitely is going to have me be looking out more

Thank you Courtney and it is hard to keep up with all these dating topics 😊

Always dropping gems👏

Lol, good to confirm I've never been attractive as I have never received a compliment in my adult life.

@Ulfrich_Stormcock

Ай бұрын

I am 26 and get compliments every once and a while as a guy. My eyes, my hair. I had my athletic jogger pants (I run a lot) complimented by a really good looking and fit mid 40s latina woman I work with and she paid for 2 coffees for me twice and didn’t need to pay her back. She also complimented my shoes too. Idk if she really likes me that way tho. I can get really good matches on dating apps from time to time. But I am still single. I get complimented for my eyes and my hair (blonde hair and blue eyes) by women my age from time to time

@RICKYY1100

22 күн бұрын

@@Ulfrich_Stormcock Dude, if the latina lady was buying you coffee and complimenting your shoes, she was practically begging you to bang her LOL. However, you said you work with her so that would be a no for me. Stormcock?? Uh what...nevermind LOL.

LOVE your content and energy keep it up !

Your last point is very correct, Courtney Ryan .... Nice , helpful video, Courtney Ryan !!!

I think your channel and the things you taught me about me being a woman and realizing the beauty of finding someone truly special to yourself. Not for sex or things like that but for love, saved me from the last guy I dated. I was in a very bad relationship that was toxic and abusive in all kinds of ways. Got to the point were I was at the ER a few times a week because of him. I had low to zero self respect. I hated myself so much that the abuse he did to me felt deserving. Im 23 years old and all of this happened about 3 years ago, since then it’s been hard to date and I was really struggling after I left and he went to jail. I did things I’m not proud of , I got into drugs, drinking a lot, and fell into prostitution. I was in a dark place and I was really really struggling. I came across your channel about 2 years ago during the same time of the drug, drinking, prostitution etc-and fell almost in love with your confidence and the confidence you have knowing your self worth. It sort of shifted me into a different perspective towards myself. Your videos helped me improve the view I had of not only myself but your own self worth and the love you have for yourself as well. I stoped drinking, stoped doing drugs, I didn’t go to parties with the people I did before got a job, got my education back on track. And in the same time span I met my future husband who I’m engaged to. And we actually met at a bus-stop (how romantic hahaha ) We always took the same bus at the same time cause I worked at the supermarket and he worked at the the restaurant directly across the street. He asked me out and now 2 years later we’re engaged. I was very open with him form the starts the things I went through and how my life was I didn’t want to hide anything, learned that from your channel actually that it’s important to be honest. I mean it hasn’t been easy, but we made it work. We talked a lot trying to be honest with each other and really growing with each other not against each other. We worked together to be together. So I wanted to just thank you, even if you don’t read it I wanted to write and tell how much this channel and how you helped me turn my life around 😊

This is very helpful for those men who are super attractive, but completely oblivious about it. So... um... Cloud Strife, I guess?

Hey hey! Another weekend, another banger 🤩

Thanks for this content. I've really taken benefits from you courtney ❤👍

1. Confidence 2. Good sense of humor 3.Kindness 4. Good attitude toward other people 5. Be a smartass

Important things: 0:31 First Thing: Receiving Regular Compliments; 2:43 Second Thing: People Value Your Opinion Over Others; 4:07 Third Thing: People Mirror Your Body Language; 4:55 Fourth Thing: People Ask You Many Questions; 6:10 Fifth Thing: You Have Hobbies, Passion, Interests, and 7:48 to summarize all the told here. I agree with all what you have told here Courtney. Additional things could be these: Sixth Thing: People Like Your Charisma, Or Perhaps Taking The Initiative (but this can be partly used for second thing that you have told); Seventh Thing: Taking Care Of Yourself (mentally and physically). Thank you very much for your wisdom Courtney. It means a lot ❤💙🤍.

@Harikejn

Ай бұрын

@iamme25yago Well, I didn't put dividing sign.

Love your advice and comments listen a lot to you ,thanks Courtney 😮God Bless you ❤

Very big positive thing - shirt does not open too wide or deep.

The last one, I have TONS of hobbies. Does it make me more interesting? Yes, does it help me pick up chicks? No, not really. Then again, I do those hobbies for me because I like doing them, I don't do them to impress girls. So I really don't care if girls don't flock to me despite all my hobbies.

@sotecluxan4221

Ай бұрын

Phps ur hobbies are so time consuming.....

@thefox47545

Ай бұрын

@sotecluxan4221 Idk because I can't seem to formally meet any ladies to begin with at these hobbies. Small talk has been the most I've been able to get, and no, I don't believe I'm very ugly nor do I have bad social skills. Even when I do other hobbies, the results are the same. HOWEVER, one reason is likely that the huge majority of these ladies are taken. The ones who are alone and presumed single tend to ignore me, maybe because they are just there to do the hobbies, nothing else.

I would also argue that attractiveness in its subjectivity, can be influenced by how you care for and hold yourself, which can be impacted by your confidence.

Thanks. I learned from your video that I am not attractive at all. Back to video games then.

@larrykippings

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

I ask people questions because I am a curious person. But even more so, people LOVE talking about themselves, so I give them the openings to do so. At the end of the one-sided conversation, I often hear a person say, "that was a great talk we've had!" They have little to no awareness that the conversation was all about them.

I like the fifth one the most! It's true, especially for guys.

In certain ways, attractiveness can be subtle, and other times it will seem more obvious than others...however...while it might seem like confidence is always the clear cut answer- sometimes that's not always the case...but I don't believe that is anything to be ashamed of; and I think that being able to handle constructive criticism (which I still struggle with sometimes) is the fundamental building block for effective communication and being able to forgive and feel wanted and accepted; even in the most impulsive of times. The natural curiosity we as people have certainly can't be ignored either - along with dopamine playing a role in even the most basic concept of thought. However, it does take experience to know who really values you and who doesn't - and tbh, it should get talked about more often in the general public. But that's just me anyway.

Yes Courtney women ask me lots of questions such as what do I do for a living, how much do I have in the bank, how big is my house, what sort of car do I drive, how much money does my family have and how will it be split amongst my siblings when the old folks go. My oh my I feel incredibly ATTRACTIVE. My confidence is sky high!!! I'm a STAR!!!

Whenever I receive compliments on my appearance or scent or whatever I say to myself " yeah , but looks at the effort, research etc . That I put into it, under the guidance of Courtney Ryan, ha ha, I'm not wearing Bleu de Chanel in spring by accident

BEING ATTRACTIVE IS FINE,BUT NO MONEY, NO HONEY

@Spritz86

Ай бұрын

absolutely untrue. or you will attract the wrong kind of women.

@eyeinsee

Ай бұрын

Nah man if you’re attractive and good in bed women will tolerate you being broke.

@maxespinosa5052

Ай бұрын

@@Spritz86 YOU ARE CORRECT, BUT WHAT I SAID IS ALSO TRUE

@VVS30187

Ай бұрын

@@maxespinosa5052very true, man. Money conquers all lol

@Spritz86

Ай бұрын

@@maxespinosa5052 no need to yell on me. No moral, no oral. 😘

Love watching your videos Courtney, and you inspired me to get back on that horse and start dating again, even though the dating scene for Men my age is hard, I'm 51 years old

I guess based on this, I'm even less attractive than I thought. Because I have NONE of that.

@Spritz86

Ай бұрын

no stress, it will come with age. the first time i got regular compliments was from my female colleagues when i started working in an office.

Is party time we all want to party with courtney! I bring pina coladas!!

Let's go guys! Apart from the last point, which is kinda useless, I fail all other four! Yay for me!

I want to say thank you for your content. It inspired me to dress better and take care of myself. Following your fashion advice the other day (cleanly shaved, brand new white dress shirt, sleeves rolled up, fitting jeans and a simple gold chain pendant) I rolled into a Cars and Coffee event. The man at the entrance told me "you are dressed way too nice for this event." I was caught so off guard that all I could do was say I was sorry. In reality I wore it was because I was also picking up my new suit that was just tailored. I think my grandma will call me handsome. 😂

@oldscratch3535

Ай бұрын

Where was that event?

I experience all of these things regularly on a daily basis. The irony is that attractive young women who probably like you are the last people to give you compliments, express interest in your opinions or hobbies when you initially meet them. Many women who are attracted to you will try to act like they don't like you and you aren't all that. But their eyes, body language and actions tell a different story. If anything, you have to be involved with a woman before she starts singing your praises.

@RICKYY1100

22 күн бұрын

As a 70 yo man who has had hot women come on to me since I was 12, I wholeheardedly agree with your comment. However, at a young age I saw through their silly little games, learned how to make it work to my advantage and always smashed LOL. I wasn't interested in compliments or praises, I was only interested you-know-what!

I’m hella attractive and confident but don’t get compliments nor approached until I approach the women because they just assume I was out of their league.

Morning Young Lady 🌹! Thanks for your tips.

Your always giving great information good woman

I have followed you for a long time and your channel has grown over the years but I appreciate the wisdom you give.

@CourtneyRyan

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much! 🥰

I've always been a low-profile guy. Growing up all I cared about about was playing video games in my spare time (which I do know regret). Being shy, quiet and not a sports guy, I was unconfident and thus was not keen on going to parties until I was 17 or so. I am 26, now, and despite having changed (take care of my appearance, and practice sports) I do still have reserves concerning me that prevent me, for example, to get to woman I am into and talk to her without messing it up. For example, my tone of voice (which is not deep) and the fact that I do not look as old as I am.

The thing about attractive men that most people don't talk about and is something we are constantly on the receiving end off is people's negative assumptions about us specially women. I can't count the amount of times I've gotten the cold shoulder from people just because of my looks. Men throw hissy fits and cheap shots while women are always assuming and thinking negatively about attractive guys. For me, approaching women feels unnatural because I'm not used to it and when I do it I gets awkward from the get go. And you can't even show genuine interest because you come off as needy so is like a lose-lose situation we are in. You can be attractive and still have a hard time.

@jericoba

Ай бұрын

Well, not to be too harsh but, being attractive or over the medium, is a heck of a lot better than not. Yes, attractive guys can also have problems and difficulties with approaching, that mostly comes from themselves. But, again, I rather be generally attractive than ugly. And, I'm guessing that is a _problem_ many, many guys would like to have. Good luck to you.

@enemy1134

Ай бұрын

This has been my experience as well. Many women default to assuming you're a player and can be incredibly rude to you even as a total stranger. Men, especially with a bit of alcohol in them try to start fights all the time. I've been randomly attacked multiple times in bar scenes. I'm not trying to brag or anything but I've been approached by modeling agencies out in public just to give perspective. It sounds dumb but doing the hold-the-door-open for someone test you can really sense it. Just a common courtesy and I can get scoffs, eye rolls, or flat out ignored doing so. It's so odd how people assume you have life on easy mode if you just look good so they go out of their way to make yours difficult.

@jericoba

Ай бұрын

@@enemy1134 That can be rough, I’m sure. People should never treat other differently by simply looking at them. Prejudice is awful for anyone. Saying that, I’m guessing your looks are not all a complete bane of existence? Best of luck!

@zayn2533

Ай бұрын

​@@enemy1134 i also experienced the same thing. But what I also often see is guys looking to me in a public setting espacially if they are out with their girlfriend. I also feel like its because they feel a certain competetion lookswise when it comes down to the dating game.

I watched Queer Eye for the Straight Guy in highschool and they told me to put suntan lotion on every day. I'm now 35 and when I look around at my peers, I'm very glad I did so.

@oldscratch3535

Ай бұрын

Sunblock or tanning lotion? There is a difference.

I’ve been told that I am handsome and attractive but I don’t realize it. Your videos have helped me focus on knowing my self worth, and improve confidence and self esteem. 3 months post break up and I’ve lost 48 pounds💪🏼👊🏼

@CourtneyRyan

Ай бұрын

That is incredible! I hope you are so proud of yourself. Rooting for you!! ❤️❤️

For me speaking slowly and being direct when speaking to a woman is very powerful.

I have medium-long curly hair, and I work at a cafe where I receive compliments about my curls almost daily. While I appreciate the kind words, I’ve started to feel like my hair is the only notable thing about me.

Scored a 1/5 thanks to a few hobbies and passions. If there are any guys on here that actually receive compliments or who are ever asked for their opinions (or at least do not receive instant backlash when they express them), shout-out below. I'd be curious to know your circumstances that facilitate that.

@gnarlsdarkley

Ай бұрын

The only questions I get asked are about back pain... but I think that's because I'm good with physiotherapy

@linewalkr6500

Ай бұрын

@@gnarlsdarkley I mean, that counts. You have a competence and people seek it's value. Well done mate.

@gnarlsdarkley

Ай бұрын

@@linewalkr6500 I'm sure "just competence" doesn't count. The kind of opinions and questions asked be like "what do you think of... [scent, clothing, hairstyle etc]. But I appreciate your positive feedback

@Ulfrich_Stormcock

Ай бұрын

I am 26 and get compliments every once and a while as a guy. My eyes, my hair. I had my athletic jogger pants (I run a lot) complimented by a really good looking and fit mid 40s latina woman I work with and she paid for 2 coffees for me twice and didn’t need to pay her back. She also complimented my shoes too. Idk if she really likes me that way tho. I can get really good matches on dating apps from time to time. But I am still single. I get complimented for my eyes and my hair (blonde hair and blue eyes) by women my age from time to time. Idk what mirroring really looks like. Im still single :(

Hello Courtney! Love your content Can you do more content targeting women. Would love to see a makeup tutorial, similar tips you give men to women. Thank you!!

Growing up kind ugly, I swear I felt so duped when I grew into my looks a wee bit and some people showed interest in a non friend way 😂 Definitely got the ‘you’re so funny’ and ‘you’ve got a great personality!’ Before.

Confidence and security are the most attractive traits I've found people appreciate in me recently. I've always had confidence issues due to upbringing and childhood trauma but when exposed to a new environment in college and social gatherings, people thought I was confident and attractive. People can see the stiffness and awkwardness in you. Maybe if you're struggling like I did, try not to affirm your struggles and hide them. Slowly but surely you'll get to a very liberating confidence. Think positive thoughts only, and nip the negative ones immediately. Be critical about yourself, but do no beat yourself up. Bring yourself up. We all got this trying to be better :)) P.S. this means no more/ much less of self deprecating humor :))

Hi Courtney, you are so beautiful thank you for the amazing and helpful videos

Thanks for what you do.

Dude, if a man has received more than 5 compliments in his entire life, he's good looking.

You're so pretty Courtney ❤

Thank you Courtney just not to convince myself I’m attractive since I don’t have those points.

The only thing that people are interested in the many interests and hobbies I have. I am attempting to tell short stories of my adventure to keep them interested. Of course they are interested in my stories but not joining or doing them with me.

Damn, the comments here are not fun to read. Sounds like guys are not receiving any compliments at all, for the most part. Courtney, I SO know where you were coming from with your intention in this video and I see your point 100%! It’s a great video even if it isn’t resonating with everyone the way you intended. I would love to see a video that respectfully touches on how it’s not realistic for someone to expect a love connection with someone you have nothing in coming with and is maybe prioritizing different things in life. The idea of “be the mate you wish to attract.” I often read, “If you’re not an 8 or higher you won’t get a date. If you aren’t making 6 figures, you won’t ever get married. If you don’t have a 6 pack and are 6 feet tall you will be single and treated horribly by women.” However, I can’t help but now that’s not logical. I’m in my hometown in southwest Michigan right now visit family and when I visit Walmart I see plenty of people who don’t get dressed up, don’t drive nice cars, don’t really look like they have dental insurance or a clean pair of shoes. Yet, many are coupled up. I see lots of men and women buying their groceries with their kids. They, objectively, aren’t 10s and they certainly aren’t rolling in money from what I can tell. What’s so wrong with pairing with people you’re most like? I think that’s how mating works successfully most commonly. I don’t know how you could get this point across but it’s worth a shot!

Hey, Courtney and everyone.

@CourtneyRyan

Ай бұрын

Hi Yosef! 🥰

compliments: rarely, if ever. opinions: yea, only because I'm smart mirror: not that I've noticed asking questions: yea, but only when they want my help hobbies: not many and mostly introverted stuff so i guess I'm not more attractive than i thought i was

I mean, I got the last one, but that’s about it 😂

I keep my standards pretty low, so I'm never disappointed! 😀

I do get compliments. I spend time looking at clothes like jackets and shoes... And people notice. One thing that makes a big difference is eye contact. I have to practice it because I naturally don't do it. Im not afraid to, it just doesn't occur to me. One day when I was practicing, I walked into a store, and a very attractive woman was leaving. We made eye contact and we both held it. As we walked closer, neither one of us would break. It had an odd, almost surreal feeling for me. Time slows. People very rarely hold eye contact. After like 6 long seconds, we close and she finally broke it. As we passed, her mouth opened a bit. When I turned the corner I saw she was just watching me at the door. Now talking is something I don't do. I drive semi trucks for work, so I never talk. If I was supposed to say something... Ha! Buuuut, I got the first 6 seconds figured out, at least.. 🤓 and I didn't trip over anything!

@RICKYY1100

22 күн бұрын

Cool story!

Here in Boca raton, most women are looking for a tall rich guy that throws money around.... it doesn't help me that I am a short 5' 6".

@linewalkr6500

Ай бұрын

That's not Boca mate, that's everywhere.

Everything you mentioned rarely has ever happened or applied to me. Guess that is telling me something also. Trying to say it’s their loss isn’t working much anymore.

Hey Courtney! Have you thought of hosting social get- togethers for singles? A small group would meet at a place like Cozumel or the Li Wah restaurant--I live in the Greater Cleveland area and thought to suggest those places. It might make for new material for your channel.

I recently had someone come into my gym 3 hours earlier than he normally would to meet me. He always sees my name on the sign in sheet at around 5am every day. So he came in at 5am one day just to meet me.

This lowered my confidence :(

@brendanmorris2484

Ай бұрын

100% agreed

hello courtney ryan and how your own day and night going and have you thought about starting your own podcast for youtube and spotify with your husband and the girls you have in your own videos in the future

Only the last one fits :D

Hobbies: I'm male. Lifting weights, taking trips to Vancouver BC Canada (I was born and raised in Seattle, where I still live). Shooting baskets. Occasional car trips to enjoy the scenery. I also love watching and reading true crime stories. It makes me respect and appreciate the police, detectives, doctors, and coroners even more. I'm surprised at how many women also enjoy True Crime stories, and it does not freak them out, if they know that a guy likes true crime stories.

Thank you.

I don't think Courtney Ryan is talking about Men here. 😀😀😀

Wonderful video Courtney thank you for it. Unfortunately I am not attractive at all and I've had none of those things happen or said to me. Just really ugly that's all. Still love your videos watch them all the time have a great day.

Well my formula for my success has been 'If you can't be handsome at least be handy' ! LOL.

While I appreciate your optimistic outlook on these kinds of things I feel inclined to point out that men, generally speaking, rarely receive compliments of almost any kind. I can honestly count on one hand the number of times I have received a genuine compliment for my looks in my entire life(three of which I can still remember despite the most recent one being more than a decade ago) and I think I'm somewhere around average looking. I've chatted with my friends about this and have heard essentially identical stories from basically all of them. It doesn't bother me but it sounds so strangely naive that anybody who truly does get any kind of regular compliments might not actually know how attractive they are... I think your perspective likely just shows the difference between the male and female experience. It's so incredibly different that it likely seems impossible to understand in some ways. Just my two cents.

great, as a 5'1 27 year old male, none of those 5 things ever happened to me... kms

@sm5574

Ай бұрын

Not even #5?

@gnarlsdarkley

Ай бұрын

6'3 here, 37yo None except #5 is true for me as well. But heck ... my hobbies are reading and watching series. *sadface

@peterwilliam4044

Ай бұрын

@@sm5574 Nope, I dont have money for hobbies and women avoid me when I go outside and I try to talk to them.

@peterwilliam4044

Ай бұрын

@@gnarlsdarkley That would be my hobbies too but I think in the video was meant about some hobbies that makes you interesting like snowboarding, skiing, being an entrepreneur, do some instruments, basejumping, "travelling", etc. As an introvert i do none of these. I like to watch my movies and I dont understand why this isnt enough for women.

@gnarlsdarkley

Ай бұрын

@@peterwilliam4044 As for the why it isn't "enough" because it's boring. I know it is. But pretending to be someone who you are not isn't going to work out either

Communication and confidence is what makes u the most attractive.

@dcarvalho6144

Ай бұрын

Communication alone usually gets you in the friendzone, as you are "easy to talk to". Confindence is hit or miss, as for it to work, there needs to be atleast some degree of attraction between the two. Confidence can make a difference when she is on the fence, but it won't matter if she's just uninterested from the beginning.

@HelloOki

Ай бұрын

Or face

@watchdog6619

Ай бұрын

I'm pretty confident, but my communication sucks big time and that's the worst combo😑

I always get compliments from people whenever I wear my suit and tie.

Yep 5/5

I just don't know how to escape my own feelings. I always think I don't deserve to be happy and think I am unworthy of social connection/companionship.

1. The only compliment I remember receiving was that I have a nose like a Greek god (or statue? one of the two, but it's basically the same thing). It was from an older classmate who was in a relationship with another classmate (evening school, people of all ages there, even one 50+ guy). 2. People sometimes do value my opinion more, but only at work. I am practically always the most logical person in the room, but apparently I suck at conveying my point in a way that compels others... most of the time, anyway. And my opinions are often strong and thus polarizing. 3. Haven't noticed others copying me, but I don't really look at other people unless they're on stage, and even then only if they're performing something; if they're only talking, then I just listen without looking right at them. 4. Rarely does anyone ask me questions, I presume it's because I tend to talk a lot in such cases. I just want to convey my point as precisely as possible to avoid any confusion or misunderstandings, but alas... 5. My hobby is learning, but I do that via the internet, which isn't interesting to other people. Has to be said that people only really find interesting the kinds of hobbies where you do something with your hands, and I don't really have any such hobbies. I have some interests, like cycling or hiking, but I rarely practice them. My passions are nature, art, music, truth. As for activities - none that matter. I know this is a major issue, but I just don't feel like doing much most of the time. I exercise at home just enough to keep fit, but that's about it. I have thought about doing all kinds of stuff, but never have the motivation to actually start anything.

When people have asked my opinion on things, it's usually in a group setting where i've been keeping quiet and they're just trying to include me in the discussion. I'm a brilliant musician, but women dismiss me before they can find that out.

I have no idea if I’m simply too intimidating to get compliments or my demeanor makes me less attractive.

Build confidence through intrinsic worth and self-discipline! Amen!

I'm only recently discovering that I might be more attractive than I think. But, my problem is that I seem to be oblivious to when women are interested in me. I've had a couple of women describe the first time we met and their recollection of it is completely different from mine, or I don't remember meeting them at that point at all. For instance, a woman told me this week that we met about 6 months ago and that she sat next to me at a bar that was hosting live music. She said that she felt an "electric connection" to me, but I only vaguely remember her being there. You know how some people call others "Captain Obvious"? Well, I think I need a shirt for myself that says "Captain Oblivious."