You can never win with toxic families. You share your feelings, dreams, what you like and always get criticized, mocked, diminished. And when you distance yourself from them you get criticized too for not sharing your life. My adoptive mom is a narc but very few people understand what it means to have your supposed most loving person as number 1 hater. I'm the black sheep of the family and I can't wait to never see them again. Hope one day, the truth will be more accepted.

@FER-is7ft

2 жыл бұрын

Literally just happened to me. I've been working hard on a personal project & despite history of criticism, naysaying I finally decided to share with one of the members I felt a bit closer to. When I say that my simple share got contorted into to alllll sorts of ugliness & negative undertones of all my wrongdoing & imposition. Shit's crazy & sad.

@traveller8867

2 жыл бұрын

@@FER-is7ft Terrible that this happened to you. 🙏

@apexmusic5721

2 жыл бұрын

I’m adopted too and I understand everything u saying I’ve come to learn ACCEPTANCE IS KEY it is not our job to understand and I have to distance myself from them it’s the sad truth

@jaychosen1151

2 жыл бұрын

NEVER

@mena5112

2 жыл бұрын

When you distance yourself you get criticized for not sharing your life I can relate to this

The reason why we are secretive is because they gossip too darn much 😂 😂 😂

I became the black sheep when I realized I'm real and they're phony

@shanelleellis2540

2 жыл бұрын

So true💯

@shanaqueenbee

2 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏽

@bubbagray8433

2 жыл бұрын

Facts!!!!

@BringBackCyParkVendingMachines

2 жыл бұрын

you're the black stallion and they're just ponies

@KidKingdomHearts

2 жыл бұрын

@@BringBackCyParkVendingMachines Talking like we family, but they don’t really know me. (Keep the bars going lmao)

“Maybe you’re a peacock amongst pigeons” is my new favorite quote😌🤍

@rollzolo

3 жыл бұрын

We rock the flock

@h.e.l.p.917

3 жыл бұрын

I know right! Mines to....myumi I dont mean any disrespect just dig the saying peace n blessings....

@whendreammetjourney3922

3 жыл бұрын

Never heard that before but I'mma always remember that

@sedona43

3 жыл бұрын

Haha mine too

@yoursubconscious

2 жыл бұрын

i love it!!

Also, most of the black sheeps of the family are the youngest sibling (gen z) due to the generational changes -They break the generational curses. So if you’re reading this, please know that being the black sheep is a gift. It’s not a bad thing at all. You’re unique ❤️

@TheBlackSheepDiaries

3 жыл бұрын

I won't disagree, you have good intentions. We need more of that. I am the oldest of 3, and treated completely different, abused in many ways, I was the guinee pig if you will. I'm no contact now over 10 yrs, a single dad, and I did break the curse. 30 yr old son and I have a great relationship, shocking to me actually. Stay strong friend.

@sigmasiren777

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a millennial black sheep & a middle child.

@waltermessines5181

3 жыл бұрын

Number 6 out of 8... 65 years old (almost).

@sigmasiren777

3 жыл бұрын

@@waltermessines5181 I'm the 9th out of 10 siblings.

@AC-ew2xr

3 жыл бұрын

I think it's the opposite. I'm the oldest - the oldest ones are usually the slaves groomed to take care of the younger siblings, etc but obviously it can be anyone. Basically, the threat of the parent is the one chosen and gender plays into it as well..they pick the kid whose the same gender as the parent who abused them if they were abused to take it out on.

Reason you're the Black Sheep: you are not accepted by unhealthy people (in the family)

@sigmasiren777

2 жыл бұрын

Pretty much!

"blending in and going with the herd is not the solution to your happiness"

I’ve always been the quiet introverted one in a family full of loud extroverts so I’ve never really quite fit in and they’ve never truly accepted me for me. I always hear them saying negative things about me even though sometimes they’re joking but it still hurts me. I’m hoping this time next year I will be in my own space and can heal and grow properly without fear of being judged.

Glad I searched the right thing this time. I’m happy to see melanin. My experience as a black sheep has been hurtful. I’ve been gaslit, bullied, left out and made to feel less than and alone most my life. Mainly by an Aunt and who I thought was my best friend. I’m getting my life now bc I’ve let them and others go.

@thematrix3663

3 жыл бұрын

Research empath and narcissist. It may answer questions.

@fire_queenxoxo

3 жыл бұрын

I relate. For me it’s my mother. She hated to see me rise to my full potential. I started to love myself, take proper care of myself and set boundaries. She hated it. She didn’t even want me around her so I left. I know it’s her wounds though. I don’t wish to ever speak to her again bc of how she treated me but I know the reason why she acted that way towards me was because she doesn’t care for herself. We are complete opposites and I was a constant trigger to her. it’s sad. I’ve heard from so many other girls how their mom was jealous of them or in competition. I feel like that’s the last thing you should expect from a mom.

@Sigma_Sage13

2 жыл бұрын

You go girl. You got this.

@tiaellis2462

2 жыл бұрын

Same. My aunt broke my heart. But now I see it. And I am healing because I understand now.

@foxyred1015

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing! I’ve been having the same experience!

We think outside the box. They went to school and I dropped out. I'm retired at 50.

@HighSpeedNoDrag

3 жыл бұрын

We Are Born and I worked for the Gov. most of my life and a little rough tumble, misunderstandings and a false 911 call against me. No Sky too High, No Bar Too Far.

@xrc7445

2 жыл бұрын

Yeap, we do think outside the box. Both parents and all children hold uni degrees (either STEM or medicine)and I am an engineer. However, no-one in my family has worked in a non-related to their field job whereas I have also worked as a dance instructor (and it was a huge success). They later told m they didn't think I could do it 🙄

I knew I was the black sheep of the family or groups when nobody showed up for my graduation the other day people always criticize me

@BaddieB444

3 жыл бұрын

Awww I’m so sorry love 🥺 congratulations on graduating ❤️🥳🎓

@KushhRoll

2 жыл бұрын

Fuck em ❤️

@Hannah-201

2 жыл бұрын

That's really sad. So sorry. It's a reflection of them, not you. Maybe they are jealous and don't like seeing you succeed. It hurt though. Stay strong and surround yourself with people who are positive and want to succeed in life.

@hollyharvey1986

2 жыл бұрын

@@KushhRoll right! They got that education so they should celebrate themselves… if people don’t wanna be supportive, I say f em too

@rebellion7463

3 ай бұрын

you dont need them ppl around you bro

This is a blessing! My "relatives" exclude me and congratulate everyone in the "family" except for me.

Why be scared to leave a village where your always one eggshell away from being burned at the stake? I also read, Black Sheep can become power healers. The ability to self heal is priceless.

@b_b_b5146

2 жыл бұрын

I feel exactly this way. In a f.... a$$ little village walking on eggshells and limited in my self-expression as a person and a human being. I'm feeling like I'm in a huge cage with no way out.

Being the “black sheep”, has left a big scar. Although, I have learned to defend and depend on myself, to respect and trust myself, to love and honour my differences, to have a healthy respect for myself, not conceit. I look at it as an upgrade from a black sheep to a lone wolf. I care, and yet I don’t care what toxic friends or family members have to say about me. I’m going to keep my glass half full, not half empty. P.S. Thank you for sharing this video 🕊

I’m definitely the black sheep lol. This resonated! I will never change who I am to make others comfortable. My path is different from my family. I am on the path to my heart’s desires and true happiness/emotional fulfillment (inside and out) the people who are threatened by it (family, friends, etc) are not my people. Realized that quick

@lukavuletic9954

2 жыл бұрын

Ill adopt you ❤☺️💗if you need someone to talk to message me

That’s an awful feeling!!! My family’s expectation of me to be a “ good girl and be quiet” I am in my 40’s and still they treat me like I am little girl who is out of control.

So on point! I’m the scapegoat in my family and the first lesbian to come out! I cut my family off last year due to the fakeness and toxicity. Great video!

@lukavuletic9954

2 жыл бұрын

This is black sheep only💁‍♂️

@jowaness

2 жыл бұрын

I am definitely a black sheep....I haven't come out to my family. They're very religious. I am forty and I am still struggling with my sexuality

I am the black sheep in my family.

@TheBlackSheepDiaries

3 жыл бұрын

Stay strong, we got this.

@BigHeartNoBS

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Fine with me.

It’s so good to hear that I’m not alone and that being mistreated and picked on for being the different one in the family is so relatable to many. I felt isolated, non-deserving and alone for so long.

Number 4&5 is exactly what I’ve been experiencing since 16 years old, I’m now 29. I’ve just chose to isolate myself and surround myself with friends and like minded positive individuals until I get the respect I deserve as a human being at least.

Breaking generational curses..........yes.

@HighSpeedNoDrag

3 жыл бұрын

You Nailed it and which may be impossible to Correct, so much more to say

Holy shit. This hit so fucking hard. This... this is the truth.

I always feel like my sisters and mom always look at me. Like my problems aren't that important like theirs And it's true about the gossip

I'm a Introvert and also Non-Conformist and I love it. I rather be a free thinker than to be a Damn sheep my whole Life. Fear is the main ingredient of why these toxic people a.k.a. narcissist have power over those. Who they perceived as weak and inferior. It's like the Zombie Apocalypse is depressing as Hell. Most people who are closed minded are not willing to listen, observe and get a understanding. It's best to cut them off in silence. Because when people show you who they are and how they roll? Believe them and move on. Maya Angelou once said in a quote. I love being the Black Sheep In The Family. Because I'm rebellious and a Rebel. Nice channel and great informative information.

@Dani-el9nf

3 жыл бұрын

I love Maya. Fellow Aries, gonna dig deeper into her! I write poetry, too!

@HighSpeedNoDrag

3 жыл бұрын

Uh, do you have a Flip Phone and a few I-Phones in some confined area but Thanks Mom!

@latricewillins-butler5403

3 жыл бұрын

@@Dani-el9nf Hello fellow Aries ♈. I write books.

@Dani-el9nf

3 жыл бұрын

@@latricewillins-butler5403 awesome!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥

@latricewillins-butler5403

3 жыл бұрын

@@Dani-el9nf Thanks😇 Awesome for your poetry, as well.

Even though I'm silent and quite I still get shit

My family has rejected me, because I "won't tow the line".

@AC-ew2xr

3 жыл бұрын

in the sme boat...when you don't want to abused, youre cast out...your involvement with them is based on being kicked around. it's truly the worst experience.

100% - I became a recluse very early in life. That Moon in Scorpio makes letting go so hard, and it took 60 years, but a light came on when I learned the phrase: "narcissistic abuse."

@yashny

3 жыл бұрын

I have moon in scorpio too.. always been the odd one in my family

Thank you! you helped me! thank you! I come from a narcissts type of family! my upbringing was hard! but i have my own place and now im able to heal properly! i am realizing a whole lot! thank you again my sister peace and love

I’m the black sheep and I’m so happy I’ve realized it. I’m going no contact for at least months to get used to not having them in my life

I can relate on about all that you talk about. I am a Spiritualist and a Empath. I believe in Reincarnation and our Soul's plans on the physical plane on earth. I am a old Soul with many past lives. My wife and mine Spiritual Healer and Psychic medium did a Past life Regression which my last past life I was a Ascended Master which I reincarnated in my present life to rescue and help my wife. Which her past life she was an Angel too. In my present life, growing up my family picked me as the Black Sheep on our Family. Everything that you said you tell the truth. Thank you!

The black sheep becomes the goat

One of the saddest things that happened to me was trying to seek some kind of refuge in my brother about being the black sheep of the family and he goes “maybe you feel as though you’re the black sheep because of your own perceptions” I can’t blame him though, I know his brain has just been soaking up the opinions of my parents

You are incredibly gorgeous Umi

That's me. Got different religious views. I just wanna expand my mind and Experience life through different perspectives. That's not how they roll, so Ima do me. I love myself tho. I'm comfortable alone.

This is very sad because it's mainly cristians and Catholics and other religious people who are like this that don't like other people being different.

social media media definitely let me know who was real and who was phony; whether friends or family

I'm 4/5 you've mentioned. At 36 I finally walked away. I'm 51 and quite successful. I've never looked and won't even go home for funerals. My peace is my health and wealth. Priceless!

I agree with every example. I am definitely the Black Sheep. I am not close to anyone really in my family. My mother and brothers are Muslim. I am Atheist. My Sister is a Jehovah's Witness. My father was Catholic. I am the only Pothead amongst my siblings. I've never even had a drink with my siblings and I am 44 years old. I've never went to my sister's or youngest brother's residence ever. This is how distant I am with my immediate family so you can only imagine how close I am with more distant relatives. I love my independence and I love peace. I hate chaos and bullshit. If I could find a thick and smart woman with my type of style I would be set. I am college educated, professional in numerous fields, in great shape, got some pretty waves all over my head and I am 6'3". No criminal record whatsoever and I only have 2 kids to "1" woman. Not bad for a Black Sheep!

So beautiful thank you 3:29 #4 hit the nail on the head #5 for sure my “mother” always told me what to think

That explains the distance thing; I moved to another city my next goal is to move to another state.

You really made me feel better, a lot of what you said hit home, not all, but quite a lot. Thank you for sharing this video hit liked and subbed!

Thank you! This really blessed me !

Man. This is the truth!!

@just-simplymarvelous

3 жыл бұрын

Can i get a helloooooooo, yeaaaah!

Wow you are so right I know I'm the black sheep because I never fit in I have done everything to be apart of my family but no matter what I say or how I feel they never listen to me. I have to love them a distance be cause they never want to see me happy on any level of my life.😞

@Hannah-201

2 жыл бұрын

Same

Thanks for sharing

I'm the goat. Sheep follows the pack.goats stand at the top of the mountain overstanding the view.

I feel completely understood

I noticed at age 4 on how badly I was treated. I had no political or spiritual concepts, so I disagree with that. #4. I do feel strongly I was tossed in the wrong DNA Gene Pool.

There's a popular joke among Yogis in India: "If you think you have progressed quite a bit on your spiritual path, go spend a weekend with your family.". Yes, you do need a sense of belonging to something similar to family, people who go easy on you, but getting along with your blood relatives is still a high calling. Family Constellations can bring generational karma into the awareness, ideally done with a few family members. The black sheep often picks up unfinished business in a family or indeed brings much needed renewal, but if that makes you the outcast then you and your family still have some work to do.Nikola Tesla was a genius but not a happy camper. Sir Isaac Newton was a genius but not a nice and gentle-man. The list goes on. Balance of Uranian energy is much needed, and as far as I can see now, the outer planets are best addressed after you have managed the inner planets to a good level, which includes getting along with you family. Without Saturnal limitations Uranus becomes a destructive force. Neptune and Pluto same same, ask people in Hollywood or Hiroshima how the outer planets can wreck havoc on billions of people when set loose without seeing the bigger picture.

I’ve always known I’m the black sheep of my family and recently it’s really been hurting me. This video helped so so much, thank you so much for your wise words and helping me not feel so alone. Again, just thank you ☀️

I am truly the black sheep of the family. My grandmother was Jewish and Im the only one who followed that path. The rest of my family was liberal and hated me for eating kosher. But, I lost my G-d very much.

"Maybe you like talking to trees." Totally me. Great talk!

You make me feel so safe thank you ❤️

@HighSpeedNoDrag

3 жыл бұрын

You make me feel safe. Just kidding and Trust No One, Ben Franklin, Versailles France, circa 1783.

Woah. This is spot on

Thanks alot that was informative, you become a black sheep when you are a woman's only child mix with your father's children born with his wife and she don't like the child of that woman, that isn't easy when you don't have support from anyone,we need the help of our Creator to get through our dark days with people,bless up my brothers and sisters.

And evolve evolve

I have listened to many videos. I am 31 and I have heard it all. This is the first video in a long time where I have heard advice that is new to me and practical. Thank you for your wisdom

Loved, " maybe you are a peacock amongst pigeons"... Spot on! Loved, "Black sand hourglass". Loved, Illuminated Christ image" Loved "Spiritual manuscript" Loved, "spectrolite". Loved, the way you explicated everything. Family, and those whom some of you may consider to be close friends, can behave in the negative. And experiencing these things from jump street, can leave a huge imprint on our mental programming. This impacts many people who suffer in a huge way. Because they have trouble defining themselves. Thoughts begin to take root that their opinion doesn't matter, so they clam up in conversations. This kind of thinking produces the vibrations. And those vibrations architect the experiences they don't want. So after a while, because of being damaged...they forfeit the time and opportunities to be happy. Because, quite frankly... They still have a hard on for sadness, depression and self-enmity. It's all they know. And the unknown is terrifying. Because of the faith in God that's missing. Too many, what ifs. Love starts on the inside. Once the fire us burning on the inside, then little itsy bitsy miracles will show up and show out. On the outside. You will no longer need outside confirmations. You you will stop cursing your lives ladies and gentlemen. God bless you all.

@umi_speaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you , we receive it.

@lukavuletic9954

2 жыл бұрын

Gold children are our real friends at this time trust me💗💗💗💗

I remember my mom when she was angry would tell me "Why wont you fit in the mold?!" or "Learn to fit in the mold?!" Or just "FIT IN THE MOLD!" As a kid i did not understand why she was so angry and what was "the mold" exactly. As a parent i would NEVER ask that out of my kid

@lukavuletic9954

2 жыл бұрын

Oml accept GOD pls☺️

@derekmaullo2865

2 жыл бұрын

She failed to be a good mother. You're better off without her. No offense

💯💯💯

I always tell my family that I do not belong in this time, and that I wasn't meant to be born in their family.

I like BEING ABLE TO BE BLACK SHEEP I RECEIVED AND BELIEVE THE UNKNOWN.

Damn you're pretty... I at times wanna just run away from my family... I'm so different and I really don't get talked to.

Me it's been peaceful. I have lighten burdens off of me. Set healthy boundaries. Minding my business. Trying to lead by example.

Thank you for posting and sharing your content. I am healing and creating healthy boundaries, and I needed to see this. I needed to be reminded that I am not doing this out of malice, but for inner peace and that's okay and healthy. 💝

Thank you for this. This is affirming.

I love you girl for making this beautiful video 🙏🏼🤝🫂💓

Yep WE ARE BREAKING GENERATIONAL CURSES to Turn POSITIVE that’s why the term black sheep 🐑 plays a major Roll for CHANGE.

Love your vids . 🥰

The story of my life as the black sheep of the family: I grew up in a family where I was always shown that I'm a nobody, I'd be told of how much I'm loved but actions would prove otherwise, always being compared to my brother, everytime I make a mistake it'd be a celebration to my family as if they're always watching waiting for me to f*ck up, and whenever I do I'd never hear the end of it. I tried to address the issue but guess what? I almost found myself disowned by my own parents☹️, let me not forget to mention that my dad is cool and my sister too because they're open minded, they see and accept the truth without taking offence in what's true, back to the topic, during my varsity years I had a child with my then girlfriend"out of wedlock " and guess what? I was told how reckless I was, and you know what I felt it but I just told myself that "it's gonna be alright", my perfect brother had impregnated his late girlfriend countless times also out of wedlock and unfortunately all pregnancies never made it to birth it was miscarriage after miscarriage but every pregnancy was celebrated as he's the favourite. so after seeing the truth I vowed to myself that "I'm gonna leave this country and never come back" i remember telling my mom that "I'm gonna leave one day and you won't see me for almost a decade" and she replied "please leave" indeed i left the continent after graduation, you know what the funny thing is? even when I got to the airport I was all alone, seeing people with their families waving them goodbye and there i was, all by myself, that's when the reality hit, that I was all alone, I've always been and I'll always be alone, yeah fast forward, I arrived in a foreign land, started working hard, faced my challenges with no one to talk to, but in the midst of all that I never stopped sending money home to my "family" trying to buy love and favor, but you know what? that's when I noticed that love cannot be bought, if it's not there it's not and it won't, I remember in 2020 when Covid19 emerged, I was living with my girlfriend and her family would call her everyday to ask if she's okay, and there was me receiving a single call in a week and sometimes no calls at all, and one day my mom said to me"my child please come home, even if you don't have money just come home because we're worried about you " I didn't believe that because I've seen how I'm treated when I'm lacking, I had a lot of thoughts in my brain that "I'm gonna go home and continue staying under my parents' roof with no freedom, no privacy or the ability to make my own life choices, no I'd rather be here, face all the difficulties for a short period of time and go back to my country when I'm stable enough to make my own decisions without being criticized" let me just cut it here because the list goes on, I won't finish now if I fully unpack, but all thanks to my psychologist for coming through. I grew up being told how ugly and bad I am, but now I'm thankful to all the experiences I had because it made me who I am today. to all Black sheep of the family I'd like to say to you "you're not just a human being, you're carrying something special and it's gonna be heavy for shallow people, do not strive to be liked and do not chase approval from others, approve everything in your life by yourself, people will limit you. meditate, pray, take walks, have your own space, communicate with yourself, always check up on the legend inside you" I Love you but mostly God does.

@moa_ke7236

2 жыл бұрын

You've really spoken to me. I'd like to leave my country as well but it's been really hard. I'm job hunting at the moment.

@melissamatongo9181

2 жыл бұрын

Story of my life right now

Story of my lifeeee

Thank you!

Facts, I’m the black sheep, always have been.💯

Dude this is me .. I’m crying so hard relating to this .. 😩😩😩😩 I feel like I’m meant to do so much more .. I can’t speak about this to my family because they wouldn’t get it .. 🤭

What an amazing video! You did a great job and you gave facts that I've lived my entire life.

Wow, thank you Umi for that video. It s always a pleasure to listen to you...:)

Definitely resonated with this, very on point.

Going to listen to this again and reflect. On the first pass I felt like I was a mix of the 5 different types you presented. I sense that there is probably one archetype that fits better than the others. Thanks again for your helpful insights.

you really managed to put this knowing inside of me into words and let me see everything from a clearer perspective, thank you, lots of love

This helped me out.

That's the very best explanation for me. Makes so much sence to me.thank you

Great video! Thank you for sharing this. It's okay to be different. We all have unique gifts. You have a new subscriber! Keep up the amazing work!!!

Love this ...thankyou

I'd like to add that sometimes when you are cast as the black sheep of the family, you can easily get defensive and can lash out or be hurtful. This seems to just confirm to them what they already think they know, and so it is self-sabotage when you're just trying to claim your space or establish boundaries. I don't have a perfect advice for how to break out of that cycle. But what I think works best for me is to cultivate detachment when you're around them. Not detachment as in not caring for them, but as in you don't let them get under your skin. This is if you have a relationship with family that allows for civility as long as you don't provoke them. So if there's some part of your life that provokes them, just don't share it with them. Not because you're being disingenuous or not authentic, but because you prioritize their harmony and their happiness over your need to assert yourself. It's hard to play that role, but it seems to be what works best for me. By letting go of past hurt and wrongs and by not letting myself get provoked, I can remain neutral and enjoy a more peaceful interaction with my family without being drawn into their life, or them into mine.

@wheretonow6172

3 жыл бұрын

i did just that. in years past, i would lash out and it ruined relationships. now i know what you stated is true. they are them. i am me. and i don't expect them to see things my way, i don't expect them to validate me and my way, and when they actively discourage me and put me down, i think of other things and then i leave.

Thank you Umi!

Oh, my family knows whom I am and would never do it over again, Rock Steady, Roll Easy.,

Spot on. Story of my lifffffffffffffe. Thank you for this Umi.

Truth!!! Much Love,Thank You.💯💯💯💖💖💖

I always been the black sheep of my family and I am the Oldest child and it is always bad and there's one time just in the last year or two that I wanted to do something bad but because of my friends I play video games with somewhat regularly I found a reason to keep pushing even though my family hates it when I play video games

Great content, thankyou

Omg this is all so true, thank u

Thank you for this

They ridicule me for everything even when God shows out they still doubt.

I need to be more brave with love as a black sheep and also give to whomever in the family wants to return the love

This made my life.

🤔 True Assessment for SURE…

This is so true💛

So many truths in this video I definitely relate to everything you said in this video

Thanks

thank you!