What has your experience been while interacting with arrogant people?

@robin15092

Жыл бұрын

Most of the time I try to calm down their aggresive presence a bit with the right words, but once in a while this doesn't help enough and I can feel myself getting drained. I have learned that it's sometimes necessary to just accept that I can't change their arrogant behaviour :)

@MegaCyberleader

Жыл бұрын

Lol, most of the time, I just dont care. Arrogant doesnt bother me anywhere near as much as a naraccistic

@MegaCyberleader

Жыл бұрын

thanks so much

@sigmainfjbulgaria4478

Жыл бұрын

First of all give respect to gain respect. Never be a mirror to a negative emotions or expressions because as long as you react that way the more and more you will also become the person that you are confronting with. I think that we can never have problems with this if we are healthy intuned with our Ni. The second part is what to do and how to react if someone gets too far in his arrogance against us. Count up the chronologycal order of the events in an undesputed way without overstating. There will be an ego break on the other side, but always justify your anger and frustration so to leave no points for the other person to hold on to if he choose to continue to stand against you. Maybe this person will be your best friend after some time and he/she is just needing a little more time to recover after the egobreak or maybe this person will never be your friend, but he/she will quietly respect you.

@daniellee8565

Жыл бұрын

It usually builds up over time, until they have overstepped the thin red line. Once they have crossed it, they are usually defeated very quickly.

I think some people just don't like it when you instantly call their bullshit 🤷

It's not about hurting them. It's about showing them the consequences of their own action by being a mirror. We can be an effective mirror because we know them deeper than they think we know. That's how people gets a taste of their own medicine.

@marysue1883

Жыл бұрын

Yes! I am very much a mirror too. I thought it was because I'm an empath Empath and INFJ. Hmm

@JustisChamberlain

Жыл бұрын

I wrote a poem when I was a teenager all about how I felt like more of mirror than anything. It was about no matter how broken I felt, I would always show the best reflection when someone else would look for it, but when I looked for it, all I was occupied with were my shattered pieces. It’s nice to finally know there are other people with these same kinds of feelings.

@purpleloveeeee01

Жыл бұрын

@@JustisChamberlain That would have been such a beautiful poem. Yes be an unbiased mirror. Let people see what they are through us.

@BinhFilms

Жыл бұрын

Taste of your own medicine. But we don’t want to hurt them, we want them to see themselves. It suck but if all else doesn’t work, we resort to certain learning/understanding techniques

@firstnamerequiredlastnameo3473

Жыл бұрын

I agree. More like showing them a better way to live, so at least they were shown a new choice. Maybe, no one had the courage to help the arrogant person see life differently. It's worth a try. If the arrogant person will not respond positively, then just let them be. Maybe you're not the appropriate person to help him/her at that time.

We're like black belts who are like, 'hey man I don't want any trouble, just back off, and no one's gonna get hurt'. It's not in the INFJ's nature to say, 'hey look I've got a black belt and I can destroy you, so just don't go there.' We always sense the restrained power when we encounter a black belt, so we assume everyone else can too. We aren't out to menace anyone, we just think others can tell we're smart, strategic, and knowledgeable and we know exactly where to apply pressure to bring you down with not a lot of effort. Frankly, I'm always surprised when I'm forced to do this, that they didn't see it coming. But it's exactly the same with the door slam. It's like, you thought being a dick, all those times, wasn't gonna eventually lead to consequences, really?

@mariagordanier3404

Жыл бұрын

Haha! I do have several belts in a martial art and when some people find out, they are surprised. I guess they think we throw our weight around. Far from it!!! Only when absolutely necessary. Honestly our posture should tell them what they need to know.

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

Especially hot guys man they just think they can get away with being a dick all the time it's like yeah you're hot but that doesn't mean you got to be a dick

@Tified967

Жыл бұрын

Hmmm your writing is very indicative of Fi-Ni convergence as is Wenzes channel; you may well be a behavioural INFJ but not in the Jungian cognitive sense of the word. People need to delineate the distinction between behaviour (aka the empath, HSP etc) and the cognitive (Ni-Ti convergent) variants. I'm not undermining Fi-Ni convergence at all; indeed it's not one of my strongest suits. However for anyone who 'relates' to the content of this video is clearly not an Ni-Ti convergent; the attached Fi logic of an abstract orientation is very evident.

@Groovytunes96

Жыл бұрын

Wow spot on! 👍

@sherimurray2875

11 ай бұрын

This is EXACTLY THE PERFECT DEFINITION. SO TRUE. I am not going to mess with you, but keep poking me in the corner. It'll be over quick and it will be precise. Never waste what you can accomplish with one strategic move.

Yes, and then i had to deal with the smear campagne and job loss. Still worth it.

@DivinitySaid

Жыл бұрын

always worth it.

@MsDDutch

Жыл бұрын

@@DivinitySaid Certainly. But it comes at a cost. That's why i like Wenzes. She gives an alternative. Not just being stuck being as an infj.

I've done this a few times. It never feels good, so it's usually a last resort. People are usually stunned and start avoiding me after, but at least they leave me alone. Being polite and more reserved, I think I can be misconceived as an easy target. All I can say is it is easy for me to see what will hurt because it's true.

@cynthiajohnson9412

Жыл бұрын

It never feels good. it's pretty darn miserable, which is how you know you aren't acting through ego or self-interest. If we were, we wouldn't feel so ripped apart after we do it. We're like black belts who are like, hey man I don't want any trouble, just back off, and no one's gonna get hurt.

@DivinitySaid

Жыл бұрын

Yeah =\ I feel this. They take our silence for weakness because they have been fooled into thinking that confidence is LOUD AND NOTICABLE. The phrase "the bigger they are, they harder they fall" is never more accurate than when talking about an ego. I have had to do public ego-smashing and in the comments I am always called names for being "drama" and "loving to tear people down" - when in reality I held my tongue while this person abused me repeatedly. But because I am so succinct in their ego's execution people hate me for it. It's simultaneously sad and infuriating lol

@HaleyMary

Жыл бұрын

I've even shocked my aunt and my dad's girlfriend when I get angry at my dad's girlfriend for being a Putin sympathizer. They were shocked when I told them that I wasn't sorry for what I called her. I won't sit around and listen to family members talk badly about people who had to flee their country. Those people are my cousin's mom and and my poetry friend's parents. It astounds me and angers me that my dad's girlfriend believes she is in the right and says to me that I just haven't lived enough or experienced enough life to understand.

@cynthiajohnson9412

Жыл бұрын

@@HaleyMary You don't really know much about the Ukraine War other that what's broadcast on the MSM, do you. I hate to tell you this, but you aren't on the side of the angels on this one. And if you didn't want an INFJ to tell you that you shouldn't have gone there. Even world famous Code Pink head - Medea Benjamin was recently on with Kim Iverson sympathizing with Putin. She had to qualify her criticisms, which she did offer of him, by saying right out of the gate, he could have tried to do more to avoid this conflict but.......he was provoked. And when anti-war activists who have dedicated their whole lives to non-violence admit that Putin had little choice, you got to listen. I'm paraphrasing of course. You owe your dad's girlfriend an apology because you have been woefully mislead. I'm an INFJ and I have to follow the truth, so if you didn't want to hear it, you shouldn't have brought it up.

@91GT347

Жыл бұрын

@@HaleyMary Depends on what you mean by Putin sympathizer. The sad part is, just as you said. The people who have nothing to do with this. I will say, I have serious doubts on what they say it’s about and who started it. Mainly because it is an absolute fact, that if it was just about control of those areas, it would have been over before we even knew about it. Putin could literally take over that whole country in just a few hours. He has three million fully equipped troops. They have 250k and have to get equipment from us. Believing it’s not his doing, is not being a sympathizer. Especially when your aware of what our gov has done in the past against its own people and blamed others. Only for their own benefit. Labeled as “domestic terrorism.” They’re behind most mass deaths on US soil. Look up Operation Northwoods. Then ask yourself what actually happened in Dallas, and why ? Just food for thought. We did also just find out who blew up the pipeline they blamed on him. We did.

"Because, of course, if you are authentically yourself, there is no way to compare yourself to somebody else." Love this!

I remember thinking why I am not interested in these games when I was still quite young. Now I know better how i am built up.

Dear fellow INFJ's. Please be careful of developing a super ego (grandiose narcissism) hearing and connecting with your keen abilities. INFJ's are particularly at risk of being codependent. Balance, healthy confidence, self awareness and humility throughout your journey!!

@LiyahLova

Жыл бұрын

I can’t stand these shallow/collective comments like this. It’s like pissing in the wind and calling it rain. Give advice to people you know only.

@ruebensfilms

Жыл бұрын

@@LiyahLova oh yeah lol? Guide me unsuperficial one into the rhythm of depth and authenticity. It was just a thought precious. And one I shared. Some may connect with it, and some will find it irrelevant to their own journey. Peace out.

@lunachilde2000

Жыл бұрын

Great advice. With great power comes great responsibility. Ignore those that cant handle the truth. 😉

@LiyahLova

Жыл бұрын

@@lunachilde2000 Hm it’s not about what you consider “truth,” it’s about giving unsolicited advice to people you don’t know and don’t really care about. It’s shallow.

@LiyahLova

Жыл бұрын

@@ruebensfilms You may think you’re helping, but it doesn’t seem like you know what grandiose narcissism is, and you don’t genuinely care about the “fellow INFJ’s” you’re talking at. Someone capable of humility and self awareness cannot be a narcissist, and INFJ Ti function promotes self criticism. Plus, INFJ’s might have been damaged by a narcissist so you’re just ignorantly poking the wound on TOP of encouraging more self criticism and rejection of their own experience.

You won’t get away with much when it comes to Infj. They keep calm and know where to hit where it hurts. They are genius at emotional intelligence. They always stand up for themselves and the under dogs. Arrogant people get the humbling they always needed when they encounter an Infj . Especially when they try to go toe to toe with them mentally. It’s probably their greatest strength they have. Best and worst leaders have been Infj

"The INFJ hits once and they're done." We're the verbal version of Mickey O'Neill from the movie Snatch. If you haven't seen the movie, he's a bareknuckle boxer that can knock any opponent out with a single punch.

@DiZZoLabs

Жыл бұрын

You like dags?

@AspasiaB

Жыл бұрын

@@DiZZoLabs Oh. DOGS. Yes, I like "dags". 🤣 Love that movie so much!

I work with surgeons and I humble them everyday. Without many words.

@grababundoberni

Жыл бұрын

I am a physician in outpatient clinic and I thank you. Guess you avoided some mistakes with a timely Ni comment, so if we would notice you did that...

@SykeeNot

Жыл бұрын

Ummm by doing...?😭☠️

@chocovanille5809

Жыл бұрын

@@SykeeNot character.

@matilda4406

Жыл бұрын

@@grababundoberni notice did what ?

@grababundoberni

Жыл бұрын

@@matilda4406 If we physicians noticed she used a Ni derived comment to prevent a future problem by telling a possible outcome, as in a warning. And if we would thank and not be proud when noticing the origin of the comment.

I say “If you are good I’ll be better. If you are bad, I’ll be worse”

Many arrogant ppl and especially narcissists are pretty much being predictable, with their kind of behaviour, so after a while, when you've done all your observations, predictions and clues, one does withdraw out of the situation, this superficial, childish mindgame behaviour.

How you understand yourself and others who land on this particular list, I'll never stop being impressed. You've made so much clear to me after so many years. I really did think I was the only person who saw the world through my eyes. I'll never be able to thank you enough mam' and for making these public videos! Thank you!!!!

@kimmydiunicorn

Жыл бұрын

I’m consistently amazed! She’s truly the best! ❤❤❤

@Jearl_Black

Жыл бұрын

@@kimmydiunicorn the first time I listened to her, it was very special to me. Actually I am currently parked at the exact same spot now! All my years on this Earth and I truly realized that I am not the only one, I am not the freak I felt like. Well, ok I am kind of the freak but anyway it was a moment I will never forget how it made me feel.

@kimmydiunicorn

Жыл бұрын

@@Jearl_Black saaaame! 🥹 I felt so seen and understood. She breaks it all down so perfectly every time. I’ll never stop watching this channel! It feels good to finally be seen!

@Jearl_Black

Жыл бұрын

@@kimmydiunicorn yes mam'! Exactly. You took the words straight from my head (-:

@raboldrt

Жыл бұрын

Word 🤙🏻🏄🖖🏻💗

One reason an INFJ can humble someone is because we ourselves are humble. There are no medals for winning, but peace cannot be won sometimes without a fight. Peace and love to you all.

I have to PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE AS CLEARLY AND AS PAINLESS AS POSSIBLE ❤

Those arrogant bullies get threatened when you show up, not playing any games, just getting things done, and they get jealous and determined to knock you down to feel better. They can’t stop going after you to try to win and boost their ego, and it’s really annoying. You’re not playing but they can’t let it go, so eventually you have to flip them. I love that feeling. Inside it’s like Ali roaring over Liston. I didn’t used to, I used to feel bad for the person I hurt - and I don’t like the stress, but I like it when the jerks leave me alone.

Understanding the games people play is pretty frustrating at times, at 60 I still have a hard time with this.

I HATE humbling people. It hurts to hurt people and I don't see how other people don't feel that hurt when they do it. But there's someone in my life who needed the humbling and might still need the humbling and at this point I'm more than up for the challenge should we ever speak again assuming he hasn't learned yet. I know why he plays the games he plays and I won't play them but I will set things straight and protect my peace.

@purpleloveeeee01

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I do😊

I've always felt that I strip people down to their core, when I do their behavior changes drastically, either they will avoid me going forward or they seem to give more respect and appreciate where they stand with me.

Being able to see deeply into people does have it's advantages. You understand not only their behavior, but also how their subconscious and insecurities are motivating them. I've put many narcissists in their place by using their insecurities as leverage. And of course I don't reveal my hand until I'm ready to leave them, but when I strike, their ego is so utterly destroyed they block me and pretend I never existed. All it takes is being a mirror and knowing where and when to apply pressure. It's not a fun process but sometimes it needs to happen so they don't continue deceiving others.

@mysteriouscliche

Жыл бұрын

Yup! Everything you said. 📌

I had a medicine woman tell me once that I was cursed with wearing the Badge of the Betrayer, it’s so clear to me now that it’s no curse it’s the empathic INFJ letting someone know when their actions (game playing) are hurting us and or other people. I have had to reveal these types of truth to others several times in my 57 years. I recognize that’s this isn’t true betrayal, however the target person finds it as nothing less

Confront it right away, before you can get attached to that person. If they stay, they will grow. If they leave, it doesn't hurt as much.

I think an infj essentially is always "checking" character. But mostly in an indirect way. And when the infj feels it's their duty to do it very obviously and deliberately they are gonna make it count. In some way I feel infj are the stern father you only can appreciate when you mature. Infj takes this on as a duty for the greater good. Because they are the ones who understand the importance and they FEEL like they can endure the sacrifices they risk to do it.

If you're going to be arrogant when you're with me, you will always be alone with me when we are together.

yes, not our problem, let them be. I realize we have to speak up much earlier, however as a child it just is not possible, we don't know who we are until we are in our twenties and beyond.

I door slam. I door slammed an enfj friend bc of how arrogant she acted. I could see her insecurities and she was very dishonest. Not a friend for me. She would steal husbands and boyfriends. She was all about material possessions and called herself a gold digger.

Couldn't have come at a more perfect time. I'm actually going through this right now at work, it's always at work, and delivered the blow Friday. Yes to everything you said, I just didn't know how/why I was doing it. The most surprising thing was the pain I felt doing it. I kept asking myself why I felt so scared, it was so irrational, and then you answered it for me and I cried. Thank you so much for validating my experience and helping to connect my dots for me. Just had Déjà vu writing this. Going to check out your bootcamp info! Blessings x

True, many people don't realize what they are doing until we show them. The Infj does not want to do anything that will take alot of energy so we don't do it very often. We should do our best to help others see what they cannot.

Oh!....and we ask for true authenticity and transparency or we leave the inauthentic ones behind.... & that's it. And our mere absence of presence when we door slam and decide to make people non existent it humbles people. Specially for the addicted "attention seekers" because we have learned to save our dear time & energy in other things & people worth our investments and attention. And that's it! No big scientific equations.....with us. What you see is what people get. Only for the strong and not faint of heart qualifies in our closer circles. We make some folks non existent to make sure we maintain our minds in check!. 😉

I still vividly remember the days I was forced to stand my ground. It would always end up with people embarrassing themselves in front of many witnesses. However, while in my early school days they had me to resort to physical strength many times (words don't work if you're dealing with schoolyard bullies) my absolute meanest I've been that one day with my choleric supervisor who I rendered speechless within my opening sentence when he tried to put me in place in a 1-to-1 (plus mediator) interview situation. He's avoiding me at all costs now, denying my every opportunity to grow when he can. To his dismay, I'm on good terms with nearly everyone in the company including the CEO.

In a past relationship, I started to realize how Narcissistic and cold my ex is. My cut off game was carefully planned and final. I turned off my feelings like flipping a switch because the mask fell off, and I realized the person I loved simply didn't exist. I have no regrets but it made a Narcissist do a double take, and even ponder his abusive, and distructive ways. Something most cannot cause a Narcissist to do. I think INFJ's are gifted this way. But there is no way of coming back from that. That Narcissist is a past person for good.

Yep people often misconceive us. We really don't want confrontation we just want to get along really strong INFJ will set boundaries and well tell people how it is if they have to and they will know real fast if they have to know. We don't really want the lime light but we do want recognition for accomplishments where warranted which much of the time gets stolen or brushed over. Part of this is because we don't feel its necessary to broadcast every little thing we do and we feel like people should just see and know. Social butterflies on the other hand have to be very vocal about what they do and that they should be recognized.

True teachings indeed. Our maintenance person is the living example of a false face. "I not only clean toilets but I can evict people too."

My YT Channel was born out of this strength. There's SO MUCH to this. You know what I find frustrating? Some people think we are too exact in our execution of arrogant people that they comfort the egomaniac as if they haven't been abusing people repeatedly.

@GrayDiamond

11 ай бұрын

Hello, divinity; you are intelligent, unique, and beautiful. I heard that it is a treat talking to you 🎉

True statements. 💯 I can't stand arrogant people or those who try to make it seem like THEIR problem is really YOURS. If someone lies to themselves just to feel better about who they are, I don't trust them.

Feb 4th? my birthday! Woo-hoo! I always feel guilty hurting anyone unless they've hurt me. I can lose my temper but it takes a lot to get that far. Arrogance I hate. We are all different and people have different paths in life. Sometimes though, arrogance points to inner weakness.

I really bothers me when someone insults another person’s looks, age, etc. That’s when I’ll call out their b.s. I can’t stand that kind of ingnorance! Who cares about those things? Only a shallow person! I don’t care about the repercussions. Somebody has to speak up! 😅

I only use this power if absolutely necessary like you said. It definitely works 💪

an INFJ here, just helped a friend who work on freelance basis for a big company remotely, by telling her a little trick to pinch the pain point of a big company, they responded swiftly and were super helpful in trying to pay her delayed money, she was in awe, to me it's just knowing which button to push, if I want to

@cynthiae6230

11 ай бұрын

That's fascinating. I'll never use the information because I'm really old, but I'm curious if you care to share any more. It's inspiring when the under dog wins!

I think this is a hobby for INFJs...

@JodyNewman_

Жыл бұрын

Yeah…it is as it should be 😂

@HSBsoulsurfer

3 ай бұрын

We are the Deliverers of Karma 😊

Everyone has already said what I needed to say, namely this, to all arrogant people of the world tread carefully amongst us.

What has my experience been while interacting with arrogant people? Well, for example, and this has just happened recently. An individual that I have worked with for the past four years decided to show his arrogance and narcissism towards me while being incorrect in his mentality. While he was spouting off, I walked away and went right back to my work that I am paid to perform. He continued to run his mouth about it all and show out instead of just focusing on his tasks. He actually was worried and embarrassed, and he has to deal with that. He also, is not a supervisor or anyone else in a leadership role. I hope he learned that being arrogant and out of line towards myself and others especially while on the job is not an optimum thing to do. It's not rewarding and will cause you embarrassment if not checked. I firmly believe that us INFJ's are the picture of professionalism. It's in our DNA.

I'll heal a woman and then she'll use her new-found confidence to tear me down. It's because I'm a safety net. I have needs too. Just because im good at intimacy doesnt mean i dont need reinforcement. There's hours of content to go through and make(but I'm difficult in me), but it simmers down to with their new beginning, they aren't built like me so that weakness (or dissimilar ideologue) rears its fuggly face and then I'm used as the threshing floor. I subbed to you today. I'll try hard not to flirt, You're exemplifically solid.

@Textemple

3 ай бұрын

Comment is goated.

Right! I know how and when to strike and hurt them the most but I choose to avoid them and hold back as long as I can because I don't want to hurt them too UNLESS they keep on pushing me to my limit after avoiding them. They should be thankful if I slam door to them they are safe. They are in danger if I strike them back.

Awww just wait for it. I've made it to the IDGAF about what people think about me or what wisdom I choose to share! I've lost almost everyone I've ever loved or truly cared about much of it to a narcissist. The 1 attached to my son who lives next door. So I can't shake her. It's a constant chess match. I can't understand why someone would lie about EVERYTHING! It just doesn't compute.

I especially love humbling arrogant men.. it’s actually quite fun

@Textemple

3 ай бұрын

And I love humbling arrogant women, and I'm subsequently turned on 😂

This might be the best assessment of an INFJ that I have heard. Why we do what we do and why we hold back, when letting loose on someone could rip them to absolute shreads. True, not my problem.

I know what you mean. An example would is one time I saw written on a small construction site in a potta potty toilet, something going on and on and on about how gay people are so f***ed up and it was like a novel written on there. I wrote back, "Why do you care about gay people, they are not hurting you in any way, Maybe you are so angry at them because you are gay and afraid to come out yourself.? .... Two days later I came back to guard that site and that potta potty was removed. Yep, Nailed it. And yes, We INFJ'S have the power of the real deep tissue truth of a person we have analyzed, studied who they are deep inside and we can understand people from all sides of the stick, but don't back us into a corner with no way out or we become that person's worst nightmare just by speaking out loud everything thing truthful about that person's hidden personality that would have that person either running off crying or storming away in fear because that narcissist was just exposed to the world on who they REALLY are and boy does that sting toxic people hard. But as they say, "The truth shell set you free." 😎 ❤️🔦

When we have to put someone in their place, its done brutally, but the pain doesnt just affect those we dress down, it then affects us in the heart too. Causing harm to others isnt something we'd ever CHOOSE to do.

@HSBsoulsurfer

3 ай бұрын

They do it to themselves. They set it all up, karmically; all we have to do is flip a switch, and grab some popcorn. It's as if God/the Universe has US be the people to school them, when they mess with us, as they have finally messed with the wrong person. We are brought across their path for very good reason. 😊

Being this level of messenger sucks... Your explanation helps this pattern make so much sense.

Omg thats me someone understand me 😢

Respectfully, from the standpoint of the INTP, I think this is a "nuclear option' for INFJs because of your empathy. Hitting someone that hard and fast will have blowback for empaths, even if it is only regret.

@rmkpilates

Жыл бұрын

So true...

@Tified967

Жыл бұрын

As a 'cognitive' ENFJ with a particularly fluid FeTi axis I'd like to point out that the empath stereotypes are much more applicable to the behavioural INFJ not the Jungian cognitive variant; cognitive INFJs are primarily Ni-Ti convergents and hence they are abstract logicians; 'empathy' is not their primary mode de operandi. I believe people conflate the two. The irony being on this channel Wenzes & the vast majority of followers are cognitive ISFPs; the Fi-Ni attached logic is evident...objectively, not that I'm assigning a value judgement to this, it simply isn't reflective of the cognitive reality.

@yanamclaughlin1644

11 ай бұрын

It's true, it hurts us.

This video is showing us that we're actually very strong. It's just in a different way from other people. We do indeed understanding insecurities and maybe some of that comes because we've had to face up to our own. And when you mentioned that we don't want to outplay others, I understand where you're coming from, because I never defined my life as a "game" in the first place. When it came to "hitting hard" because we knew how to do it - (also knowing where to hit - I have a hunch that that's part of our being strategic. I liked it when you said that we understand that we had the upper hand to start with. I know this is true, but it took me a while to learn, and I still remind myself of it at times. Yes, we do have the upper hand, thanks to our strategic mindset, along with the ability to work as the situation demands. Reminding ourselves of it is good to do daily.

Arrogance is fine if properly used

Resist the devil and he will flee thank you Weezy LOL 🥰🥰🥰

I was bullied for my weight alot as a child... still feel bad for the bullies

Ah yes the facade...public persona...I have mastered it lol

@byronryan4216

11 ай бұрын

I’m immediately enthralled by your mysterious persona Tracey … 🦎

I cannot wait until my schedule is open enough to line up with a bootcamp. Wenzes, loved the masterclass last night, it was ridiculously timely and on point; thank you. In the meantime, your videos have been a much needed sanity saver and pivotal learning/turning point. After a catastrophic car accident 10 years ago, the healing process has put me in so many situations where people around me listed my INFJ qualities as the lingering effects of multiple TBIs [brain damage]. I won't hazard a guess on when it was out of convenience, a lack of understanding, or intentional manipulation, but I can honestly say that I have cried in relief at hearing my inner thoughts and perspectives coming out of your mouth and in the comments on your videos. It is difficult to explain the weight that has been lifted and the soothing validation that I am not stupid, cold, ungrateful, or outright mean in my efforts to gain autonomy, set healthy boundaries, and regain my previous levels independence. Gosh! Thank you so very much for what you do and how you are doing it: you have been a true and authentic gift on my, and I'm sure, many others', journey toward health and ongoing growth.

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

Yeah don't let people tell you anything about yourself you know yourself best. I think that people gaslighting you can also cause you know we're defects because they are intentionally gaslighting you

I'm not INFJ, every time I do the 16 thing I'm an ISFJ, but I resonate with your video a lot. I wonder if it's just asians are trained to be INFJs, at least that's what I'm feeling. Even if we good at something, our culture just wants us to fit in, to be the same as the person right next to you.

@mariagordanier3404

Жыл бұрын

I am familiar with more than one culture. They are all like this. Conformity is king!

@matilda4406

Жыл бұрын

I can imagine it must be so hard. Find other Asians who are INFJ, it will help a lot.

@steevelapeuraite8262

Жыл бұрын

The 16 personalities uses a big 5 model with too much room for variations on its likert scale of 7 for subjective matters. More reliable test that I used in the past was from Truity and the udja app develop by Cs Joseph and its community members. Personality hacker book is also very user friendly to have a clearer understanding about cognitive function and how it displays in the various types. Hope this helps.

You just observe what is 'going on' and simply 'tell our own story'. You do not need to impress others, you remain 'true' to yourself. You 'play' to your own 'strengths'. People will ultimately 'tell the difference' between a 'fake' and the 'real thing'. Keep true to yourself and your own identity.

This hit home hard compared to the other videos. I have been abused so much, but this helps a lot. Thank you 😊

I keep hearing that we go deeper and see thru facades but for me, it feels like people leave all there issues laying out on the floor to make me try to step around them and avoid them. Am I the only one?

@byronryan4216

11 ай бұрын

We all must make self-sacrifices sometimes . Keep in mind that stage presence is everything … 🦄

When I'm treated badly, I just walk away. It's just what I do, it is natural to me. No fighting, no struggles, no pointless stress. I just leave, without a word, I'm just gone. When you're gone, if they miss you, they return humbled. If not, I'm better off without them. They realize that if they want to be around me, they have to come back right, and treat me like gold, no bullshit or they won't get another chance. Is that an INTJ thing to do? Or INFJ? It's so confusing

Thankyou for this, i find alot of these kinds of videos sound egotistical - so listening and the way that you describe where the thoughts and actions come from. . . it's a good reminder. I've had so many people drawn to me like a magnet just to sabotage the friendship 2 or 20 years later. I truly accept people as they are. when i have had the chance to get an answer to 'what happened there' - well, i always feel inferior around you. And me growing up with 0 self esteem is like 'what???!!

Not only do i humble arrogant people, i completely leave them shocked and rattled without speech. My demeanor is always cool, calm and collective until someone decides to disturb my peace. My reaction leaves them bamboozled 🤟

hey, I feel this was such a great topic we INFJ's are hyper-aware of other people's weaknesses and strengths, but the thing is that as you mentioned, I personally was not using this as a strength of mine like I didn't necessarily defend myself in the course of my life, even if I knew many things I was not using this weapon, cause as you said, is painful. But is good that you brought up this theme in this way, because it is real that we want to present ourselves as ' no threat ', and we are Not because in a way, we stay true and loyal to not being a threat, and we do so because we are prioritizing being surrounded by other people and accepted than being authentic ourselves. After you mentioned that part, it hit me. And now I know that is better to be upfront with that instead of continuously valuing people over myself. Like I feel that now, after realizing this, is like if I feel more secure and protected, like somehow before, as I was trying to belong I would let people treat me like shit and not even use or do anything to defend myself...but now I got it. Hope it makes sense

The INFJ sees most facades and especially two faced ones. Some people are easy to read like within the first ten minutes you can tell a lot from someone, some people are good at facades but doing actions are one thing and saying actions are another watch these things they are dead give away. Not always but someone who talks about others then they talk about all, This is not always the case though some people border things like being realist etc which i can agree with because i am an INFJ but also a realist and other outspoken personalities can be realist too at times. As long as you don't really give reason for people to bad mouth you then they can't really this is key. They can talk sht buy its all empty words at the end of the day.

Yesterday I was doing the same with my partner. Now I'm seeing this today.

So on point. We don't loose, but we might end up embarrassing folks that "try to" fight us hard!....and we make them question their existence....at the end. Ps: we just know and see all the time...& give "grace" until there is no more to give...for the disrespectful & arrogant & prideful narcissistic folks many times. No time for BS.

You are always 100% ON POINT. I love you Wenzes.

@byronryan4216

11 ай бұрын

Sandra you have a winning charm … 🐢

Unfortunately it is so true, this is something that we we have to deal with more often than not. I think sometimes it is with The narcissist, which of course we attract like a magnet, but that really is a whole different animal, because there really is no humbling that type, at least not to any great effect, but just to a person who has some aire of arrogance, we are usually forced to deal with them in this way. It is so true as you've said, that the more we are developed and secure with ourselves, the better and more effectively we can deal with this, or even better, stop it in the beginning. Great advice as always!😀

Soooooooooo SPOT ON 🤦🏾‍♀️🎯

Have you ever noticed that when we want that, the lawyer helps us (intuition). He shows us the way to the end, how to win. He's having fun with it. Intuition is hierarchical. The intuition thinks like an alpha.

This video just made my day!! IM RIGHT IN THIS SPACE RIGHT NOW ✨️💖‼️‼️‼️ Thank you beautiful fellow INFJ for being a voice for and with us!!!

@GrayDiamond

11 ай бұрын

Hi, Lovely ❤. How are you doing today?

@GrayDiamond

11 ай бұрын

I heard that you are amazing and smart person. I will be thrilled if I have the chance to talk to you.

Why do people think we're all shy, week and meek? There's this common perception of us, and if we don't behave that way then we're not a true INFJ 😂 I mean, yeah some of us are extremely introverted (like me) but not all of us BEHAVE shy and meek in public. Some of us like to act like ENFJs 😂

@Tified967

Жыл бұрын

I think this is a descriptor about behavioural INFJs which everyone is on here but I distinction needs to be made with the cognitive INFJ which is rare; I can't see any comments of here that are indicative of anyone being a cognitive INFJ, indeed convergent Ni-Ti seems to be something of a blindspot. I'm a cognitive ENFJ (typed professionally by CPT) but I'm a behavioural INTJ; I'm actually socially introverted.

Thankyou Im glad someone understands me Your amazing and I just got fed up with people running all over me

I experienced this too many times. But now that I am more mature in the workplace (well, I think I am better, after all those inner turmoil and self-made inner chaos I went through), I chose to shut up and let him learn that himself the someday. I have tried to confront him nicely when we we're still friends. But he gaslighted me, and tried to call out my flaws disguising it as a "friendly advice of like what I did to him". Could you guess what's his facade with this limited info I am saying? Haha anyway. I cut him out of my life. I have had enough of him. I did my part nicely and it was his choice not to listen. I can see him learning things the hard way in the future, I don't want to interfere and teach him right now 'coz my words alone can pierce through his heart.

Wenzes, you’ve helped me grow as a person at a point that I felt I was plateauing. Thank you.

INFJ, The masters of "Mic Drop". Rings very true for me. People who really know me, know when I offer what I think, it comes from a place of helpfulness/encouragement. People who don't know me consider my veracity Arrogance. There is arrogance, I know to trust my intuitions. They think I am just a know it all. I don't, but the guidance or opinion I share many times feels like it is given to me, rather than thought up by me. Question: Do you think Edgar Casey was an INFJ?

We’d rather be peaceful and kind, but if you cross that line after being warned…

As u can tell I'm fed up an fed up being walked on

well done ~ loved the wrap-up ~ thank you, right on!

Thank you. 100% agree.

Spot on!!!!

I really do know how to humble arrogant people, but what scares me more is how I can do it over text, like in the comments section to someone I've never met or even know. Once in a while some troll tries to mean and I have to put them in their place, and somehow I know exactly what to say to them to end the banter, they just fade into obscurity like it never happened and stop responding. It's a superpower, I see someone and a few exchanges I can just tell what they are, but I have to focus and be aware that I am trying to know this person, I have to pay attention because I get played sometimes then hate myself for not paying attention, but sometimes I know them subconsciously and will just defend myself when I need to.

@terrijamison9154

Жыл бұрын

Have done that many times myself

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

It's kind of like one of those things like do you want to tell your friend the truth or do you just want to blow smoke up their ass you know it's like it's best to tell them the truth try to do it lovingly but in the long run it's better for everybody

@judah9906

Жыл бұрын

@@taraarrington2285 I don't know how to lie, I'd rather keep my mouth shut than lie.

@redefinedliving5974

Жыл бұрын

very much can relate. lol.

You are such a BEAST at this!!!! 👏👏👏👏

You are unbelievably right on about this. With each point you made, I was saying to myself, “yes.”

I needed this video thank you 🙏🏽 ❤️

Accurate as helll!!!

This all resonates with me and my life experiences!

9:40 absolutely 💯

I totally agree with you. This is very true.

Awesome!

Amazing video.

Great video! 💪❤️👍

This info is so true to me.

You are amazing. I am going thru this right now.

Thank you for explaining this so thoroughly because I've always felt very uncomfortable with stepping into my personal power, precisely because this sometimes means humbling people. My natural, kind self wants to build connections with people, and so when people have hurt me, I really took it to heart. As I got older I learned how to use my intuition and respond strategically, and now because of your video I understand that if people pull away from me, it is not because of who I am as a person but because they are reminded of things about themselves that they are not ready to acknowledge yet. It helped me to reframe it from a 'me' problem to a 'them' problem and that I am just the mirror but they are the ones who need to do the inner work...that's not my job.