I’m 40 he’s 30, it’s been 2 years and I’m almost due with his first child. Never a dull moment, his energy keeps me going ♥️ He’s the love I never knew I needed.

@lovereachable

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. Wonderful.

@Rishonable

2 жыл бұрын

This comment made me feel so happy for you.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you

@tracyparker129

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations

@Mari-lv1rd

7 ай бұрын

Lovely. Best wishes for you all.

I encourage older women to be open to dating younger men. It truly can be a wonderful relationship.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Amazing! love hearing that!

@kondwanimbuzi5431

9 ай бұрын

I agree. I prefer women older than me, but can also date those younger

@kondwanimbuzi5431

9 ай бұрын

I agree. I prefer women older than me, but can also date those younger

@barbarafox437

9 ай бұрын

Yes it can.

@Naked_Sports200

Ай бұрын

Feel cringy however your encouragement will hopefully work

My #2 husband is 17 yrs younger then me. I was 40 & thought he was around 30 after a few months I found out he was only 24. Everyone thought it was just a booty call & have us 6 mo's. Here we r 20 yrs later with an 18 yr old son. He considers my kids & grandkids & I know he loves them. Best man I've ever met & don't regret 1 minute of the last 20 yrs.

@MsParisiandoll

2 жыл бұрын

Wow that’s beautiful

@serenity5679

2 жыл бұрын

That is a beautiful love story. ❤️

@lydiakamwine3902

2 жыл бұрын

Wow more blessings

@rymhidour6789

Жыл бұрын

Wow that's awesome

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy for you my dear!

My husband is 27 and I’m 54. We’ve been together for four years. We have a great relationship and the age difference really isn’t an issue.

@mojok7070

2 жыл бұрын

The age gap shouldn't be a problem. My wife is 44 and I'm 33 and we been together since 2015 and between us there's never been a issue but people seemed to have a issue with it.

@tinadraper9143

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, I'm 48 getting asked out by a 30 year old, I was thinking 18 years was too much of a difference, glad to see it's not.

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

@@tinadraper9143 I m really tired with my single. Helll Tina

@Aksafos

2 жыл бұрын

Just wait ten years later when he wants to have children and your body starts to age.

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

@@Aksafos heyy How are you

Wow! So many women are in a relationship with a much younger man ... I needed this. Thank you for this video!

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! ❤️

@libellenflugpoetry6800

Жыл бұрын

I am dating a guy 20 years younger than me and have been facing since then tons of prejudices - MY prejudices, not his... He instead is very openminded and uncomplicated.

@tayandkayworld9095

23 күн бұрын

Yes I have recently started dating a man whom is 22 and he is such a breath test f fresh air it’s almost scary but I like it and I’m 32 and we are having a pretty good relationship and I pray it goes even better with time 💜😊

I am 42yrs old and my husband just turned 30. We have been together for 9 yrs(3 yrs married)

@Mat_Shaffer

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

It's funny how men have dated women young enough to be their grandkid since forever but when women date even 10 years younger there was a weird stigma around it until only the last 5 or so years where people realizing age doesn't matter as long as you're adults

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for your feedback! :)

@raytracer5726

10 ай бұрын

Let's not pretend like there is no stigma attached to older men dating younger women.

@Gurlbyetalli

4 ай бұрын

feel the same and we are called that tasty cougar name

@karadiberlino

2 ай бұрын

@@raytracer5726There really isn‘t, unless they are ugly and unattractive. Then you start doubting the woman‘s self-worth…

As a 41 year old, I had a wonderful sexual relationship with a 25 year old, this year. Now, I’m with a more marriage minded man who just turned 27. This year has been the BEST I’ve had in a long time. Both have taught me just as much as I’ve taught them. It’s an incredible feeling to be playful and let go, allowing them to give me their masculine energy. Happy Loving, Ladies!

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

beautiful share!! thank you for letting us into your wonderful romances :)

@Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx

3 жыл бұрын

@Marin Cuculic Our 1 year anniversary is in a few days ❤️

@Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx

3 жыл бұрын

@Marin Cuculic ❤️

@magemuria3939

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mat_Shaffer .

@magemuria3939

3 жыл бұрын

Ok

I'm 49, he's 34. The best relationship I ever had!

@thatjamericankidd6637

3 жыл бұрын

What makes it so good

@iotu6745

2 жыл бұрын

What about Kids? Do you like to have children together?

@lashaydodd1608

2 жыл бұрын

@@iotu6745 We both have three of our own, 1 girl and 2 boys.

@iotu6745

2 жыл бұрын

@@lashaydodd1608 thanks for answering

@louisaatje

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss!!!🌟🙌💚

My fiancé is 21 years younger than me and he is great and wonderful person

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

that's awesome!!!

@crose55082

4 жыл бұрын

I keep getting asked out by younger men.

@marisdalen8263

4 жыл бұрын

Awe same situation❤

@beannie4050

3 жыл бұрын

Sana all

@vivaeuropa

3 жыл бұрын

@@marisdalen8263 How old are you and your man?

Sold!! 💓 I so agree with you, the 25 year younger man that I am seeing, has taught me to be free again, and reconnect with myself. I say go for it! Life is too short not to enjoy it!

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously. 24 years old but age is not important for a good relationship with a woman

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Starla you look so charming :) May I just ask if you are single at the moment?

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!

I love your videos. I’m 61 and he’s 44. We started with the intent of being casual three months ago. He has definitely taught me to be more vulnerable and open. I think I’m showing him that it IS possible to spend time with a woman who will support that he’s going to go sailing for a month or whatever makes him happy. He can be present because he wants to be and not because he feels he has to. He has been contacting me more often. He’s started sharing things he’s doing, showing me pictures. It has been an intense sexual experience from the start and we are now wanting to actually talk and get to know each other. Seems backwards, but what started out as hot sex is now evolving in a real interest in each other. The more freedom he has, without feeling guilty, the closer he has become. I’m learning a lot. Thank you, Matt. ❤️

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful share thank you my dear!! So happy for your wonderful connection with him ❤️❤️

@marah3298

4 жыл бұрын

I love this! The more freedom he has, the closer he has become.

@chrissyw.7500

4 жыл бұрын

I feel like younger men tend to lead with sex, that is, their libidos are sorta in control...but this becomes a terrific asset when we can get to know the beautiful man that is emerging in front of our eyes. As older women it is our responsibility to lead by example and I feel like my man (im 50 and hes 26) is eager to learn. I am always fascinated by him and his utter passion for life that hasn't yet developed into cynicism, and hopefully if we say together for a while, he will learn to set back and flow with it like I do. Im so happy to read stories like yours because I know I have a wonderful supportive community to turn to if I ever feel shaky or uncertain. Thank you again to Mat for facilitating the public that may not normally have a good network of support from friends and family.

@bossgrammyify

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 74 and he is 40. We have been average once a week and I'm married to a PTSD alcoholic. No excuse, just love and sex. 9mos., now.

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

@@chrissyw.7500 HELLO beautiful Queen How are you .Single man looking for one Seriously

I'm 47 and my sweetie is 24... the sex and laughter are sooo refreshing after 2yrs with a emotionally unavailable 48yr old man

@sarahmk2966

2 жыл бұрын

Do you look 20s though?

@louisaatje

2 жыл бұрын

Yessssss💚🙌🌟 love it!!!

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Are you still together?

@Mat_Shaffer

4 ай бұрын

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

@Gurlbyetalli

4 ай бұрын

yep u said it !

I’ve always attracted younger dudes... they make me laugh 😆

@ikart00ntube52

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same 😭

@vivaeuropa

3 жыл бұрын

How old are you?

@MelaniaRose

3 жыл бұрын

Amen !

@bvarengh

3 жыл бұрын

Same here 🤣

@NarrowPath_7

2 жыл бұрын

Me too lolol

Men around my age (50) are damaged & I've not had good luck. Now dating a man 12 years younger & an exceptional communicator. I'm totally falling for him & so happy we found each other in this crazy world. 🤪

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy for you my dear! 😊

Ive just started a relationship with a man i met 20 years ago and he is 48 and I'm 66. It has been great so far. He is amazing

@Mat_Shaffer

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

My partner is 25 years younger. It was only meant to be a summer fling but here we are 8 years later and planning to marry next year. We are crazy about each other, lovers, best friends and partners in crime. I didn't have much when we met as I'd been a single mum for years, so he definitely wasn't after my money! He has never wanted kids so that made it easier. I do sometimes worry about the future but he just says that no couple knows what the future looks like and whatever challenges come along we'll face them together. We rarely think about the age gap and our friends and family are so used to us being a couple they forget about it too. Don't know why there's so much hate online about AG relationships.

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Lottie are you still dating him?

@lottiecaldwell8627

Жыл бұрын

@@marincuculic1020 Yes, getting married in September and happier than ever!

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! ❤️❤️

@lottiecaldwell8627

Жыл бұрын

@@Mat_Shaffer And he's now my husband 😊

I needed this. I'm 42 and started a relationship with a 28 year old. I have anxieties about the age gap. The things you mentioned put me at ease. Thank you.

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome Lazydaisy! 🙏

@borboletalila

2 жыл бұрын

I’m 43 and my bf is 31. … so far it’s working despite things like He wants to have a lot of kids and thought at the beginining that I couldn’t 😱 of course I can

@lovereachable

2 жыл бұрын

Good good : )

My girlfriend is 25 I'm 21, we've bonded like no one I've ever met before. I am planning to marry her someday.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

AMAZING! Love blossoms at all ages!

@ReliancePraiseSquare

Ай бұрын

its bn two years, are you married to her? please keep us updated

@JKNat9004

Ай бұрын

4 years isn't a big age difference. Even 10 years isn't a big age difference if you're both over 30. However an age difference where the one person is of the same generation as the other's parents, that's where it gets cringe worthy.

@DeliaHerz

Ай бұрын

At that age it feels like a pretty big difference ​@@JKNat9004

I'm 56 and he's 27 and it freaks me out because I'm attracted to him and we work together. This feels insane to me but yet wildly intriguing lol!

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate your opinion on this!

@jasminebarnes5650

Жыл бұрын

And you just can’t get enough girl I’m there with u

@dezz238

4 ай бұрын

Yes 🙌

Hi Mat! You have become my favorite relationship coach by FAR! I just wanted to say that I have recently started dating a man 24 years younger than me and at 1st I was a little bit terrified, but he is SO proud of me, has already told his mother and all his friends about me. I have never felt so ADORED by a man and I cant help but surrender to the wonderful way I feel when I'm with him...almost like my first high school crush! I going for it, Im all in and wherever it goes, I'm going to have FUN the whole way!! I deserve it!!!

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

You absolutely do!! So happy for you!

@lioydwilliams1850

3 жыл бұрын

Chrissy Weihrauch,hope he treats you well

@andrealouisabasile8529

2 жыл бұрын

I will be 52 next month and just had my first date with a 27-year-old… We will be going out again… So happy for you!

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously. 24 years old. For me age is a number

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Hi Chrissy :) Are you still dating him?

I’m dating someone 22 years longer and he’s the love of my life. It’s beautiful and special. Live your life and let go of what other people think!

@TigerLilyNo13

2 жыл бұрын

Haha update: found out he was playing me. BE CAREFUL LADIES!

@Mat_Shaffer

2 жыл бұрын

good catch my dear!

@lesliestewart6239

4 ай бұрын

how was he playing you @@TigerLilyNo13

i'm glad i stumbled over this video and read the comments. me and my boyfriend started as friends. it's been 5 years (i'm 30 now, he's 25) and he's talking about marriage and kids. i needed some advice from people who have been there ( i'm expecting backlash from both our families). and i realise now how lucky i am to find love and friendship in the same person.

@Mat_Shaffer

Ай бұрын

I’m so happy for you my dear!

I'm 59 and he's 26 he's a amazing guy I love him soooo much best thing ever happened to me .

@Mat_Shaffer

Ай бұрын

That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

I just got divorced (amicable) form a man 21 years older...and now I'm dating a man 10 years younger! (it's brand new) I'm so into these beautiful, sweet, fresh younger men. I have a few I'm seeing, they ARE men, ladies, just younger. Many of them are serious and capable, don't write them off!

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

very wise words!!

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously.

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

HELLO beautiful Queen How are you. Singel man no kids looking for one Seriously

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Joy you look so charming :) Are you single?

I'm shocked by the comments! Reading about women dating men 20 years younger than they are... When I spent 2 years wondering about if I should give a chance to a guy 6 years younger than me. Anyway, interesting video :) Thanks

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome Sweet Mélanie! 🙏

@raye2920

3 жыл бұрын

Me I turned 23rd yesterday then for him, he's turning 21st in November

@halimaalidrissi568

2 жыл бұрын

sameeee hahahahaha

@keikei1943

2 жыл бұрын

Tbh 6 years is not bad, it's like you guys maturity level is the same👌🏾

@courtneyjames8223

2 жыл бұрын

Lmfao me two 😂

Agree with everything you just said. My live in caregiver for my husband of 2 years passed and he remained in my home as a renter. He approached me with his feelings for me and I thought he was nuts! He is 39 and I am 71! A month ago I realized we have developed a strong friendship and compassion so took the step romantically. All I can say as he has taught me more then I have about being happy again.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

so sweet thanks for sharing! its a great connection :)

@oak1day

Жыл бұрын

Just turned 68 and he won't be 40 til September, over here! In fact, he said 40 at first because he knew that'd give him a fighting chance. Am I ever glad I did! The Universe has reminded me how it feels when two people are head over heels and too, that every man hasn't fallen for all society's messaging.🎉❤ I feel so seen and loved.

@ASMRyouVEGANyet

9 ай бұрын

Be careful that he's not looking at the widower inheritance money. It happens a lot.

Im 61 and he's 29 going on 4 yrs together. Love him so much , everything you said here is spot on. Mine although young has had a lot of trauma but he rises above.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!🙏❤

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@rosamarks5359

4 жыл бұрын

Thank You

@nishatluna2602

4 жыл бұрын

I am not able to connect with you through zoom apps. It is confusing me. Is there any shortcut way to connect with you Shafer? I am eager to know please help me to reach you directly.

@sharonjohns1686

4 жыл бұрын

Matt I applied many times and even emailed you after you suggested I email. No response! Not sure why

@rosamarks5359

4 жыл бұрын

HAPPY NEW YEAR MATT

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

you will be a part of the course!

I'm 32 this year and connecting with a 28..meeting him soon. I've been going out with men older than me but so far he's the only one who can really communicate clearly. Interesting.

@Mat_Shaffer

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

I’m glad I found this. I’m crazy about a younger man. Everyone says no he’ll just break your heart. ♥️ Last guy I dated was the oldest and the least mature! He looked great on paper but he was so mean spirited. I’m willing to take it slow and see where this new one goes. The chemistry is fabulous.

@Mat_Shaffer

2 ай бұрын

I’m so glad this helped you!

💯 what you said in beginning. I’m a man who never wanted kids, and I like women who are older than myself, who never had kids.

@Mat_Shaffer

2 ай бұрын

I’m so glad this helped you!

I am 46 he is 32 and our relationship is great. The best I've ever had. And despite the age difference, we are very similar and want the same thing. Remember that no relationship is perfect, everyone struggles with theirs, so age shouldn't matter. Thanks for your video, I'm a fan ❤️

@Mat_Shaffer

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing! 🥰

Thank you. The biggest problem is dealing with perceptions of friends and family.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome.

@boomersD9CAT

Жыл бұрын

I divorced at 30 years old, and around a year later I met a lovely woman who was 42 years old. We both caught a lot of grief from family members who disapproved of our relationship. She had 2 grandchildren, and I had a 5 year old son. Her daughters stopped talking to her, and I had family members giving me a hard time. The pressure from both sides took a toll on the relationship , and we both agreed to part ways after a year together.

@maryjanewesterlund9958

Жыл бұрын

@@boomersD9CAT THAT is sad! I’m so sorry.

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Mary Jane, are you single?

@kahalacromwell9741

3 ай бұрын

@@boomersD9CAT so sad to hear this.

Grateful to read the comments here. I have been seeing a younger man who is 22 Yrs younger than I am off and on for 3 years….i was concerned about the age gap but after reading the comments here, I feel a lot better. We just have this attraction to each other and have learned to accept that age, height, status doesn’t matter. Life is short, been married 2x’s had my heartbroken, and admit friends have criticized me for only being with younger men. The youngest guy I was ever with was 38 Yrs yet I wasn’t looking for a long term relationship with him. After being treated badly by the ex hubbies I had, I am happy that the guy I now see said “age is just a number & I am attracted to you” that I gave him a chance. No relationship is perfect but I encourage everyone to be open to guys who are younger, because age is just a number. Bless all of you here.

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

I’m so happy for you my dear!

I’ve had a young man pursuing me for a couple of years. I keep pushing him away. I’ve decided to not push him away again and just see what happens.

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

good luck let us know hw it goes!

@oscarwilliamson1264

4 жыл бұрын

Cheryl Ledbetter, you're absolutely gorgeous ❤💓❤and I will be glad to know you

@WanderingExistence

3 жыл бұрын

@Marin Cuculic Look at this thirst... go grab some water, buddy, your chances of meeting someone off youtube are slim, and more than likely; none.

@WanderingExistence

3 жыл бұрын

@Marin Cuculic Yeah, cuz I'm not trying to chat up vague YT profiles, I like the lady I am currently seeing. Good luck with your recycled "charming" line, I guess.

@WanderingExistence

3 жыл бұрын

@Marin Cuculic She's older than me... So that why I watched this vid. I commented because I think your "charming" line is cheesey when its so shallow.... Just seems so thirsty. But hey, do you, bud.

I’m happily married to a younger man 8 yrs younger than me but before him during my single yrs mostly my suitors were younger men😄 . I never dated a divorced man with kids specially older than me because i don’t want to have competition and usually they look much older than me 😂😂

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

beautiful share love it!!

@trinityp8575

9 ай бұрын

Do you look older than him? I have the same age difference with my bf & although it’s doesn’t look it right now I worry for the future …

I met a younger man.. He's 27 I'm 47..wow..he is amazing.. Thankyou.. This is so encouraging

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

amazing congrats!!! whats your fav part of dating a younger guy?

@iamsdaughter

4 жыл бұрын

@@Mat_Shaffer well this younger guy is very mature in his thinking.. And he doesn't have baggage from past.. He's understanding.. He listens he likes to spend consistent time with me, he doesn't want children but wants to travel the same as me.. He's a man that knows what he wants.. He has good goals and he is a man that makes me feel safe.. I know that older men can be like this too... But I've not found any.

@oscarwilliamson1264

4 жыл бұрын

@@iamsdaughter you're so beautiful ❤💓❤❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

@iamsdaughter

3 жыл бұрын

@Marin Cuculić you say this to lots of women.. I seen on your channel 🙄😁

@MonicaSancio

2 жыл бұрын

@@iamsdaughter Congrats, I love what you say, and I love that he spends consistent time with you!

My partner is 9-years younger and we are crazy about each other 😊❤ Hands down the BEST relationship I’ve ever had.

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

So true Dr.Love!!!.... Love my younger guy to bits and I have learned sooooooo much from him. We do have a huge strength...he's a man man and I get to just lean back. We definitely have that dance down pat. I think what he looooovvvveeeesssss the most about me I just let him be him. I recognize the particular stage of life he's in so he has AMPLE room to grow and stretch....which makes it very interesting because I just let him come to me when he can. This may seen like a terrible thing to do but autonomy is something no one seems to remember about and since he gets that freedom with me I see not only the strength of his best self but I also see the other sides of his prism.. It makes me love him more and also I found it creates a stronger connection...

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

YESS beautiful share :) haha doctor love, LOVE IT ;)

@MonicaSancio

2 жыл бұрын

Very interesting indeed about letting him come to you when he can... Similar to how I think... Yet do you keep your options open?

@genevalivingstone1929

2 жыл бұрын

@@MonicaSancio nope...I enjoyed our relationship and stayed dedicated to him because that's what I wanted... If you find yourself needing to have options open then just date till you find what you want...💙💙💙

I couldn't agree more with you, Mat....more particularly about point 4, I had a relationship with a man 28 years younger than me and I learned so much from him! He had an impressive knowledge and culture, it was a pleasure discovering things I didn't know in arts, science, tourism etc. I often told him how much I admired him for that (and it made him very proud, of course 😊).

@labroussic

2 жыл бұрын

@Marin Cuculic thank you 😊 No, right now, no....Are you interested ? 😁😎

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

@@labroussic Hi :) I thought you are still dating him. :) How are you? I hope we can have a chat :)

@Mat_Shaffer

4 ай бұрын

I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.

I needed to see this! I've just met this wonderful young man in his 30's (I'm 53) and he's fun, upbeat and very positive! So refreshing. There's a mutual attraction and we enjoy similar things, (like playing online MMORPG games, like Sci Fi, Anime, etc. (we're both geeks!) I'm looking for someone to do fun things with, and enjoy the good things in life. He makes me feel great! He's youthful, full of energy and ambitious. It's wonderful to meet someone not burdened from the harder experiences of life. I've been pretty much on my own for 12 years after the passing of my husband and he's the first fellow I've met that I can be completely myself. :) That question about whether he'd want to have a family (kids) in the future did go through my mind, but if this connection gets more serious, I will ask him about it. But for now, I just want to enjoy his company. :)

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy for you my dear!

You have brought up some excellent points. Thank you for sharing this info!

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

I’m so glad this helped you!

I Really needed this talk : I adore and have a very exciting physical relationship with a younger man. But want to not get hopes up for long term yet open to & enjoy each moment with.

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

YES be present and see what happens!

Thanks Matt. I really feel more comfortable around older ladies. i've tried dating younger girls but it just doesn't work for me. I really feel relieved after watching a couple of your videos.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Happy to help!

I needed this today!! I’m head over heals about this guy that’s 33 & I’m 53,, no one understands!! My heart is so full of love for him! It’s not just a thing it’s been 8 months an my feeling haven’t changed at all! We’ve been together twice an it was beautiful! Trouble is I believe he’s fighting his feelings for me! I could be wrong but that’s what I feel with all my soul! I adore him and then I think rationally,,, what’s our future really?? Where could this actually go from here? My heart broken

@MonicaSancio

2 жыл бұрын

You've been together twice in 8 months? Anyway, enjoy & go with Matt's teachings!

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

CC Jones you are so charming :) Are you single at the moment?

@HunterJohnson77

Жыл бұрын

My wife is 20 years older than me, best woman I've ever been with.

@Mat_Shaffer

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@merilyngeographia9212

6 ай бұрын

Enjoy reading the comments here nd listening as well to you Mr. Matt.This is such a relaxing topic. Thanks for this.🙂🙂🙂

Awesome Matt. When you mention this vid in Aarons 21 challange I felt drawn to watch it. Thank you 👍✨

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Hope you enjoyed it!

Thank you Mat, I needed the reminder and reassurance. You made great points here.

@Mat_Shaffer

2 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

OK Mat... this is actually rather funny. All the things you listed off as to what a younger man can teach you, is EXACTLY why i prefer a younger man. To me i have a better connection to them then i do older men or men my age. Their energy level, their playfulness, the way they view things...i just find that i can feel free to be me without worrying about being told I'm too old to be acting that way or too old to enjoy my life and the spontaneous things that cross my mind that i do. If I decided to have a water gun fight with my guy then he's down for it... an older guy not so much. I get met with a grumpy fest over it. I may be 45 but my mindset still likes to play in my early 20s. 🤷🏻 lol ❤

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

YESS love hearing this! so glad this landed with you adn appreciate the share - its a great dynamic! :)

@oscarwilliamson1264

4 жыл бұрын

M. Jolean,you are absolutely gorgeous ❤💓❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

@tee4303

3 жыл бұрын

I love this😌🙌🥰 yassss!! Hehe

@user-nr9yu3zj4x

2 жыл бұрын

What you think about a 34 years old guy?

@jamesjones2530

2 жыл бұрын

Hello

Your voice so warm and full of love it moved me into tears

@adamadel7097

3 жыл бұрын

Are you looking for a serious relationship

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Julia are you single?

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

You are so sweet!

this advice is so good! made me think

@Mat_Shaffer

15 күн бұрын

I’m happy this resonated with you!

Wow.. Didn't know i would fall in love wirh your content and change my perspective in this aspect so instantly as this ia the first video in watching of yours and ive already hit thw subscribe button too😄 thank you so much dear. This is the video i really needed... ❤

@Mat_Shaffer

4 ай бұрын

thanks for that beautiful feedback Julieta! Welcome to the community :)

QUESTION OF THE DAY - what is the biggest thing YOU have learned in dating younger men? Or that you're curious about?

@MsDesiree39

4 жыл бұрын

Great video at a great time! I've learned to be more playful again. I've finally gotten over my hesitancy about dating or even showing interest in dating younger men and learned to see the individual for the man that he is and to be open to the live he wants to give and the relationship we may form. My mother thinks I should focus on age appropriate men but I am rather young looking for my age thx to her...lol. So I'll just see where things go

@lisaquinlan1292

4 жыл бұрын

Mat Shaffer Feeling frustrated. Moby Dick was easier for Ahab to find than for me to find a nice younger man! I prefer a younger man... Guys my age and older aren’t as spontaneous, fun, stuck in their ways. So where are they?

@tinadavis7742

4 жыл бұрын

No matter how much younger guys like older women.they always have a young woman on the side. They fall in love with older woman they are in lust with younger women.

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

love it ladies thank you for these shares!

I'm in a relationship with a man who's 29 and I'm 48 it's refreshing in a lot of ways

@tinadraper9143

2 жыл бұрын

For how long? I'm being asked out by a 30 year old and I'm 48 wondering why he wants to go out with me so bad and could it even work?

@leilajoang

2 жыл бұрын

@@tinadraper9143 why wouldn't he? People can't tell ages anymore. We broke up after a year and a half but my ex before was 24 and I was 42. We lived together for 2 years, he wanted to get engaged I didn't. Stop doubting yourself

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Leila you are so charming :) Are you still dating?

@leilajoang

Жыл бұрын

@@marincuculic1020 no. Ive been single since dec. Thamk you!

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

@@leilajoang Oh well I just wanted to say you look very charming in your photo. :) I am Marin and I'm 28. Really hope we could maybe chat. :)

My age is but a number, inside I’m still wide eyed and excited about life in general

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for your feedback!

I'm in one of the best friendships that I've had in a long time! We connect spiritually, share a goofy humor, discuss much about current events, music, history, whatever. We talk honestly about our experiences. We know that we can depend on each other without doubting each other, his loyalty is refreshing. I love this person and will it go further? not worried.

@Mat_Shaffer

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

I needed to hear this.. Thank you what a relief. I was so worried about 2 year difference

@MsParisiandoll

2 жыл бұрын

So did I ! I feel way better ! Especially since he also looks older than me

@Mat_Shaffer

4 ай бұрын

Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality.

I'll be 62, he will be 44. Our sexual-ship, high sex drive matches. Going on 15 months. Not dating, but that's what we agreed on in the beginning. So far, so good! Those limiting beliefs creep in at times, insecure thoughts and feelings. With being intimate, those feelings are real and an emotional connection has developed, even though he hides it. Not me...that's the part where he says, he doesn't want to hurt me. Well, I don't want to hurt him either. I take care of me and my home along with other things that go along with being a homeowner. Him too. So be it! And, so it is!

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing! I appreciate it!

Appreciate your video. This is exactly what I needed to hear.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

I’m 47 and he’s 34, we’ve been together 7 years. Can’t imagine being with anyone else.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!

@trinityp8575

9 ай бұрын

Does it show visibly?

He's 35 and I'm turning 43 it's just been casual but the goal for me is to go out on dates and see if there is compatibility that can develop... I don't want it to continue where I develop feelings and then he's found someone else to be in a relationship with. Been down that path way too many times

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Are you still dating him? :)

@trinityp8575

9 ай бұрын

I am 40 and he is 32 and the longer it went the more feelings we got for each other. It’s been almost 2 years now. But… I worry for later in years… because I would be much more comfortable if it was on reverse 🤣

@Mat_Shaffer

4 ай бұрын

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

@gr122

Ай бұрын

@@trinityp8575 you should worry, because sooner or later he will be checking out the younger ones

Thank you so much. My boyfriend is 22 Iam 31 and we love each other so much.it started like friendship now we are so so happy. And people say we are the same age 😄

@vivaeuropa

3 жыл бұрын

How'd you guys meet and do you want kids?

@wisdomphiko7525

Жыл бұрын

OMG am even afraid his 22 am 27 already trying to stop it cause in African culture I'll be seen as a devil but he loves me I don't know whether to stick to it or

@allanacumberbatch9476

Жыл бұрын

@@wisdomphiko7525 how did it work out?

@wisdomphiko7525

Жыл бұрын

@@allanacumberbatch9476 unfortunately we broke up

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

I’m so happy for you my dear!

Thank you, i didn't think about that until i heard about it. 🌻🙏🏾 I'll be more open for this Konstellation 🎉

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

Happy I could be of help.

What revelation,i am 64 and going to start a relationship with a 36 year old man,i love him very much ,and he also loves me,we talk about the future,but it is always in the back of my mind that i am so much older,and he always says that age is just a number, so i will dive in because i don’t want to have any regrets to miss out on a great love,i’m going to enjoy him and our relationship.

@Mat_Shaffer

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

I was enlightened with this video💖thank u

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

Fantastic so happy to hear that 🤗🤗

Hi Matt, can you share or perhaps do a video on how to respond when a younger man asks you out and how or when to talk about the age difference please? I often have to repress laughing out loud because it catches me off guard. Your feedback would be so appreciated! 🙏🏻

I’ve just had a one year relationship with a man 23 years younger than me. It’s the best relationship I’ve ever had. I’ve never experienced so much affection and happiness. I’m the first long term relationship he’s had and I knew it couldn’t last. I’m struggling now with him not being around but I know I need to let go so he can go and live his life. I’m glad I had that amazing year with him.

@Mat_Shaffer

Ай бұрын

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

This gives me hope. My 62, his 40. Quite a span, and both of us have baggage, just different types. His kids (one disabled) demand all of his time right now. Praying that after we are able to live in closer proximity, things will naturally fall into place.

@Mat_Shaffer

10 ай бұрын

Amazing! I hope it helps

I am in a relationship with a man 12 years younger. The perspective of this video is very true in my experience. Going over 1 year. Not sure how long it will last, but who cares. I let go and we just have a good time loving and caring for one another one day at a time!

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Hope you are still together Shannon :)

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Yay! You deserve a great guy ❤️

I agree with everything said in the video. I met an older guy from dating app whos 28 he was he was still dealing with a recent break up with a ex of 5 years. He kept bragging about how difficult it is and how’s he emotionally unavailable.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!

I’m 59 and have been dating a 47 year old for 1.5 yrs. It’s going great! My second husband was 7 yrs younger than me as well.

@Mat_Shaffer

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

You nailed it Mat, thank you

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much my dear!

I love the energy of younger men, the openness, they are curious about a lot of things and they truly WANT to know how things work, how I work, what I feel and like and they have this willingness. Guys around my age (35+) is, in comparison and generally speaking, lazy and they just fall into old habits of doing things. Since dating younger men I find it really hard to even be attracted to men around my own age, they do not excite me even the slightest most of the time🤭 And most of my insecurities about how I am or how my body looks, after having two kids, is just what the younger men love so I’m learning to a appreciate and owning my body just as it is and I’m truly grateful for it💛

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

Love it, love it, love it! 💝💝💝 I'm playing catch up on your video's... 🤗🤗

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

aww yeah time to binge watch! :)

@oscarwilliamson1264

4 жыл бұрын

Lenore, you're so beautiful ❤💓❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

@lioydwilliams1850

3 жыл бұрын

Lenore Marie,I admire your lovely smile

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Lenore you look so lovely :) Are you single maybe?

Thankyou I really needed to hear this

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome ❤

This was great. Thank you. 💗

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed it!

I just turned 43 years and my husband is turning 27 ,and we are trying to get pregnant with our first child together

@Mat_Shaffer

2 ай бұрын

Amazing! love hearing that!

Thanks for the positive side of this. Wonderful post. I have found #3 to be the best aspect of dating younger men. It is MUCH easier than dating men my age who are so set in their ways.

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Krista you look so charming :) Are you single?

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

AMAZING love that share!! :)

Excellent Mat, thank you so much! ❤️

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

Number 4 is absolutly right. We give each other knowledge on everything. I´´ ll miss him some day because the gap is high. but it´´ll be one of the best times in my life.

@Mat_Shaffer

Ай бұрын

Amazing! love hearing that!

Wow you picked every fear of mine ha I seem to attract a lot of younger men and have always distanced myself. Thanks Mat.

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

@angelas9585

3 жыл бұрын

Same!

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

May are you single maybe?

i’m 10 years older than my current partner. he treats me better than any ex. i’m 32 he’s 22. i love him

@lifewiththedeans9493

2 жыл бұрын

I got company I was worried 🤣 I'm happy with him

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

@@lifewiththedeans9493 single no kids looking for one Seriously . Hello beautiful How are you

@lifewiththedeans9493

2 жыл бұрын

@@pleasuretube2132 hey you will find someone at the right time 🤞🤞

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

@@lifewiththedeans9493 are you single dear?

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

@@lifewiththedeans9493 I m ready for a good relationship

This message is so inspirational, thank you. Spirit is introducing me very soon to my younger Kingdom spouse and I confess I have a bit of concern about our significant age difference and will keep this information in mind.

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

I’m so glad this helped you!

Great video :)

@Mat_Shaffer

2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much my dear!

I loved it! This video brought me alot of relief! Specially because of the first one. I have to admit that I had this assumption. Not anymore! Haha! And the third one is just the reason why I love this man so much! It's fun, it's easy, it's amazing!

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Many thanks! So glad you enjoyed it! :)

Thank you for your insight, Mat, excellent and thought provoking as always!! Just one small quibble: "....sometimes casual connection can lead to something deeper." Sure, though the keyword there is "sometimes." Not to be a party pooper, but don't count on it. That's the exception, not the rule.

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

great point my dear :) definitely not something to count on, OR dismiss! we get to stay present to all possibilities and grounded in trusting ourselves and our discernment!

@heatherfoss5106

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with Jillian.

Love this. So good! And your voice is so soothing.

@pleasuretube2132

2 жыл бұрын

HELLO beautiful Queen How are you .single man no kids looking for one Seriously

@marincuculic1020

Жыл бұрын

Shamica you are so charming :) Are you single maybe?

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!

❤ your advice is awesome

@Mat_Shaffer

4 ай бұрын

wonderful thank you for that feedback!! 🤗

Ur video really helps alot to boost my confidence...Now i feel more relax dating my young bf

@Mat_Shaffer

5 ай бұрын

I’m so glad this helped you!

Amen, brother! They're FUN & interesting... 😉

@Mat_Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

TOTALLY!!

Thank you for sharing

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

SPOT ON!!! My bf is 12.5 years younger, and I’ve found all of these points to be true! I actually think he’s the easiest bf I’ve ever had.

@Mat_Shaffer

3 ай бұрын

I’m so happy for you my dear!

I've subscribed to online dating just recently out of curiosity. And I wonder why there's a lot of younger handsome men who want to chat with me when there's a lot of younger woman who's more sexy and attractive. Now I know and understand 😚 Thank you Mat Shaffer💖

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

We're older. I am almost 75 and he will be 68 this year. One of the things he told me younger women only want sex or to use him. We have fallen in love, he wants to get married and I am hesitant and told him we'll know when the time is right. He is very independent and so am I

@MonicaSancio

2 жыл бұрын

Very inspiring! Marry him!

@Mat_Shaffer

4 ай бұрын

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations!

Thank you Mat! It's really open up my eyes and my mind towards my boyfriend who younger than me.

@Mat_Shaffer

5 ай бұрын

I’m so glad this helped you!

Awesome video Mat so great 👍🏽😊💕

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much

Dear Matt, You described to a T the younger man I am getting to know. All 4 surprising truths that you explained so well are evident in him. Thank you for articulating in such a succinct, encouraging, and fai

@heatherfoss5106

2 жыл бұрын

…faith building style these 4 main points.

@Mat_Shaffer

Жыл бұрын

So glad my content supports you :)

Younger men don't want kids, older men have already had them. The problem of course is men that waste women's time. Plenty of those about.

@Mat_Shaffer

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

This was great advice and true :)

@Mat_Shaffer

5 ай бұрын

I’m happy this resonated with you!

Thankyou so much ❤️😘

@Mat_Shaffer

2 ай бұрын

You're very welcome.