Hey guys, we hope you liked today’s video! Who would like us to break down next? :-)

@lysaali50

2 жыл бұрын

loving the channel! you should make shorts, where videos are summaries of advice. KZread will eat it up

@Normvids

2 жыл бұрын

Norm Macdonald!!

@abrahamlincoln9758

2 жыл бұрын

Norm MAC donald!

@nf4866

2 жыл бұрын

Blake Griffin's good friend Nooorm!

@MajorasMaskMailman

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely Norm MacDonald

1. Be calm in situations where most people would show fear; 2. Hold eye contact during conflict; 3. Don’t let other people dictate where your attention goes; and 4. Be honest even when it goes against your best interest.

@doctorsketch7476

2 жыл бұрын

thank you

@owethunala2632

2 жыл бұрын

This was kinda pointless

@latinoheat4657

2 жыл бұрын

@@owethunala2632 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@nulle.k

2 жыл бұрын

@Ryan Brunker thats.... literally what the original comment said

@cfatih93

2 жыл бұрын

@@nulle.k in case someone misses the original comment obviously

“Attitude is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” Roy T. Bennett 🖖

@liammurphy2725

2 жыл бұрын

Wisdom told me that I had to do something or the situation would become violent. So I broke his nose.

@suryanaveen8919

2 жыл бұрын

Noted sir.⭐

@Sagittarius-81

2 жыл бұрын

This is the one. Ignore the video, and look to things more like this quote.

@joshc5309

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sagittarius-81 The video and the quote are very far from contradictory.

@jerryjuliangutierrez7536

2 жыл бұрын

@@joshc5309 josh your pic shows me you far from a man you another weak minded boy

Alfie Solomons (as played by Tom Hardy) is one of the greatest characters in television history.

@InTheDarknessWhereIDwell

Жыл бұрын

Tom Hardy is pretty awesome in any character he portrays, he really brings them to life.

@iheliocrati9527

Ай бұрын

Yeah i agree ! Alfie and as Delaney in the masterpiece „Taboo“ if you don‘t know that , you will love it.

Both Tommy and Alfie always command attention and respect when in any place but in completely different ways. Tommy is calm, calculating, and unreactive while Alfie is loud, unpredictable, and intimidating. The one thing both share in common is intelligence.

@nulle.k

2 жыл бұрын

ARFUR SHALOM

@vincentloh3709

2 жыл бұрын

thats because tommy is a sigma alfie is an alpha

@nulle.k

2 жыл бұрын

@@vincentloh3709 lol gtoh

@vincentloh3709

2 жыл бұрын

@@nulle.k thats the simplest difference between them u fool

@anothertime1282

Жыл бұрын

'The one thing both share in common is intelligence.' - And the fact that they are actors who have learned lines written by someone else.

1. Be calm in situations where most people would show fear 2. Hold eye contact during conflict 3. Don't let other people dictate where your attention goes 4. Be honest even when it goes against your best interests

@abrahamlincoln9758

2 жыл бұрын

Basically, be Norm Macdonald on The View.

@doctorsketch7476

2 жыл бұрын

thank you my friend

@fhuckgoogle4171

2 жыл бұрын

Don't apologise just to avoid conflict.

@tyrantbill4447

2 жыл бұрын

O

@patl709

Жыл бұрын

I’m so very sorry!

Great content. 1) when you pause it makes the other person feel you are thinking about their feelings or request, giving them some hope. Works in many situations. When you react immediately it makes a person feel as though you weren’t listening at all and that you were just waiting to say what you wanted to say.

The 3 second rule helps alot. I used to just pop off with my first verbal jab just to prove they didn’t want to argue with me. Over time, I realized I didnt want to win that way. Staying calm, pausing and saying what needs to be said, not what I want to say. Im the type of guy that doesn’t talk much, I’ll show interest in the convo, but not much banter. Then when i speak up, even to interrupt, my words hold more value with their unsaturated rarity. I commanded respect from top level professionals when I knew i was in the right. Dont be a victim, speak up, clearly.

@cangryang3609

2 жыл бұрын

"pop off with my first verbal jab just to prove they didn’t want to argue with me." How old were these people you were 'proving' this to?

@ericbogar9665

2 жыл бұрын

@@jaigi2 Yeah, that was clever. Took him 4 seconds to come up with it too. lol

@feellucky271

2 жыл бұрын

You've got it all now mate. No further need to convince us how impressive you think you are. Carry on.

@montybarrington2732

2 жыл бұрын

>Im the type of guy that doesn’t talk much, I’ll show interest in the convo, but not much banter. Then when i speak up, even to interrupt, my words hold more value Not really. I've know a lot of men like you and when they finally speak people just say "who tf rattled his cage" then everyone laughs and the group moves one while mister shy and enlightened goes back to being ignored.

@cmebckkd

2 жыл бұрын

@@montybarrington2732 You misunderstood my comment. I speak up a lot actually. I say what others wont. I just don’t need to use a lot of extra time repeating myself. Being the loudest person in the room doesn’t make you right. I’m the guy who asks why you wont stand up for yourself, not someone who just speaks up to whine. Sounds like you need better friends.

“I started my life with a single absolute: that the world was mine to shape in the image of my highest values and never to be given up to a lesser standard, no matter how long or hard the struggle.” Ayn Rand

As someone who has spent thirty years in public service jobs, I've had numerous opportunities to use such tactics. They definitely work. When dealing with rude, angry people it pays to be cautious with them. Remain calm and collected always.

@ChaosAngel667

2 жыл бұрын

A favorite of mine when dealing with angry customers is to talk calmly, slowly and the more they scream the lower i get my voice. If they interrupt I let them talk then go back to repeat the same sentence I was trying to say before from the beggining. And if they talk too loud I make a face like I have a headache and tilt my head, close my eyes for 2 seconds then go back to my original point.

@Yes-ht3fw

Жыл бұрын

@@ChaosAngel667 😂

@randallanthony1794

Жыл бұрын

Well, if you were in government work, you probably deserved everything you got

Can you please do a video on the late great Norm Macdonald!!

@dominichart2795

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@jimjamjerry

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@pescatoralpursuit1726

2 жыл бұрын

Norm had transcending confidence.

@rodneykang-

2 жыл бұрын

That's a great idea and a video I'd definitely watch

@abrahamlincoln9758

2 жыл бұрын

Normy normy normy! hockey, Normie!

After watching Charlie's video with Graham I begin to respect this channel more for not only focusing on monetary reasons

Not dropping your eye contact when someone interrupts sounds like the most respectful and sweet thing ever.

@PutYoRhymeOn

11 ай бұрын

People break eye contact and get distracted all the time in the middle of a conversation with me. Not much are more disrespectful than that. While it's on me to earn more respect too, it'd do them good to know these things.

"Don't apologize just to avoid conflict." If you feel that you're often in this situation, it's time to drop those people anyway.

@harleighworkman7253

2 ай бұрын

I believe you have missed the point. Solid advice, though.

@bodosam7798

Ай бұрын

​@@harleighworkman7253i think he got the point very well.

@harleighworkman7253

Ай бұрын

@bodosam7798 It's scary how much people take things out of context to prove a point. makes things so conveluted, to an extent that the original point is lost. Good examples of this are the LGBTQ community, religious finatics, the telephone game, and the comment above.

Having to do with eye contact and eye direction: While walking towards any location, stare directly at the path you are going to take. People will move out of your way because they see that you have a purpose and a clear mode of direction. It's like parting the Red Sea. I use this daily for work and it helps wonders especially in crowded areas as most people are looking around, down on their phones, or otherwise not sure where to go.

@billh.1940

Жыл бұрын

I worked in a tough area, until after 12 midnight, always walked with strong purpose, steely eyes. No one came near me! Watch Clint Eastwood!

@dailyjay.495

Жыл бұрын

i do this too!! like a lot, even when i’m just walking on the streets and yk streets here in the philippines are very crowded most of the times and people would avoid my direction when they see me walking straight ahead with my head up high and my eyes to the front, mind you, i’m a woman and only 4’11 (yes i’m small af) but it does work!! even middle aged guys here that usually catcalls women gets silent when i walk past them and let me tell you, it brings me so much confidence 😩✨ (sorry if i have grammar mistakes, english is not my first language)

@NoGoatsNoGlory.

Жыл бұрын

I am still in school and I don't use this in order to look more outgoing and practice holding eye contact. But when I need to get somewhere now, I surely will employ this method

@Rhythmicons

Жыл бұрын

Don't get mad when it doesn't always work.

@abhashmall

Жыл бұрын

​@@billh.1940

"tell the truth and then you don't have to remember anything" is what I say to my friends about honesty

@vintagecrazyjay4970

Жыл бұрын

“If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.” ― Mark Twain: Motivational Notebook, Journal, Diary

@monster_family

Жыл бұрын

Yes in most situations you only have to tell the truth once but a lie will have to be repeated.

@lyndsaycrawford

21 күн бұрын

Need a good memory to be a good liar

Tom Hardy is so entertaining to watch on screen. Enjoy all the characters he portrays from Mad Max to Bane, Black Hawk Down, and my favorite of his; Taboo

I love Tom Hardy's acting. That "f**kin' ell look at that" when Arthur threatened him was hilarious and felt like such a real, raw, reaction.

If you have ever met SAS soldiers you will understand how this works. They are calm, never shout, are fully ready to deliver overwhelming force but do it very controlled.

This channel is my absolute go to for honing my charisma. The material is so extremely valuable and well put together. I was able to take something that was stressful before, like job interviews, and make it something I can genuinely feel comfortable about. This content was able to help me tease out a quality in myself that I now consider to be one of my greatest strengths. So, thank you! Keep up the good work!

@anothertime1282

Жыл бұрын

'This channel is my absolute go to for honing my charisma.' - But the fact that you have to use a KZread video to develop 'charisma' shows you have none and never will. Anyone with genuine personality can always see through an adolescent who has tried to learn the tricks.

@waynerobinson3030

Жыл бұрын

You cant 'learn' charisma hahahah

When someone gets really mad or angry at me, I calmly say: "I love people who show passion", it usually disarms them and gives me time to think about my next move.

@yoshijb9428

2 жыл бұрын

Then how many smack you? Just curious cause that can come off as smug not confident. Be careful how you respond to someone angry. Sometimes your attempt to disarm can just piss them off more.

@macb124

2 жыл бұрын

@@yoshijb9428 or a broken jaw

@yoshijb9428

2 жыл бұрын

@@macb124 exactly my point.

@bruhdude6712

2 жыл бұрын

@@yoshijb9428 well yeah but him/her hitting is just wrong and shows even more weakness, and he would probably regret it later. So take the hit!

@lyndsaycrawford

2 жыл бұрын

There’s this old saying where I’m from “I’d rather take a sore face than a red face” meaning you’d rather face the challenge of a fight that be embarrassed (red face) for walking away from the fight. When you grow up with that psychology, these tips seem ridiculous. There was also the fact that if you went home beat up your dad would tell you go back & finish it or slap you for getting a kicking. Characters like Tommy Shelby, Alfie Solomons are products of their environments, not to mention they’re fuckin actors. In an actual argument, no one ever lets anyone get their point across. There’s no cue just ppl getting louder & cheekier till someone throws a punch. It’s not something you can adapt to ppl, you learn it cos it’s your real life.

A few years ago back in NYC, I was droping off my ex at her place after a movie. As I headed home a guy pulled a gun on me and tried to rob me. I had only a 20$ on me and thought if he got pissed off I was dead. I reminded calm and collected, and started a dialog. Guy responded and we spent the next 20 or so minutes talking about how F---Ed up life had gotten. I remember these words clearly "I was going to rob you, but there's something different about you and it doesn't feel right". He started to walk away and I told him to hold up and gave him the $20. I of course called the cops right after. I got lucky but he still had weapon and was ready to commit a crime. I hope he decided to not do it anymore. Times are tough but we shouldn't be in a position to harm others just to live. Anywho, 580 comments I doubt this will even get looked at, but I was reminded of that day when he was calm and honest with a gun in his face. Feel like it might be harder to lie and convince someone with a gun on you when the person you are lying to can just end your life if they feel wronged.

@albertsadler4322

2 жыл бұрын

That's a great story brother Well done

@fireelighting8610

2 жыл бұрын

You fricking chad lol

@MrSwitchblade327

Жыл бұрын

Excellently played if true. If not Excellent story.

@Random-sk6hm

Жыл бұрын

Why would you give him the $20 THEN call the cops on him? Until he had the $20 your version of events was hearsay at best but with him in possession of your $20 your story has a little more credibility meaning you essentially set him up.

@lyndsaycrawford

Ай бұрын

@@Random-sk6hmI was kinda thinking that! Why give him a score then grass him in anyway. Your twenty quid would’ve ended up in evidence. I wouldn’t even pick him up in a line up then get the bastard when he left the cop shop..…without his gun lol

Many years ago I took a job as an engineering area manager in the UK. My boss had this trait where he would do just this...go silent for several seconds rather than immediately respond. It earned him the nickname of "Antichrist" with the other area managers. It was extremely off putting in meetings & definitely works to get someone rattled!

Bit late to the party but, hey, all that matters is that I'm in the right spot! Came here for the Peaky Blinders connection but stayed for the impressively expert analysis and presentation. Oh, and I'm joining the channel for much the same reasons. Keep up the great work!

Obsessed about your channel guys thanks! Can you make a video about fluently speaking and staying on point when you are telling something. You never ramble and always on the right track when you are speaking it makes me think that you might be using a prompter actually 🙈 i know youtube videos are mostly scripted but i would appreciate any advise on this topic! In my videos i always use cuts in order to make the whole thing more fluent 😂 and also how to be “quick witted” could be a topic thanks in advance 🙏🏼Greetings from Turkiye 🙋🏻‍♀️

the value and direct your attention one is a very good one. ive seen it and used it first hand and its amazing

@showrunner2183

2 жыл бұрын

Remember: women want The authority of men The benefits of being a woman AND the accountability of children

One important thing to know here. In other videos handling more physical confrontations. If the person you are talking to is breaking conversation and eye contact and moves their eyes down to one side (noticed right side is more common) it is a good chance they will chose to attack you. By disengaging and distancing themselves for the conversation they give away that they plan another approach to the ongoing conflict. This has saved me from getting punched in the mouth several times. Many spend time talking as they want to be heard but in a conflict I rather let my opponent talk and even ask questions as they won't think of attacking you when they're thinking of the next thing to say. There are of course exceptions but then it's most likely a planned attack to begin with so always be aware of your surroundings and keep distance.

@g.k.1669

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah...I hate holiday family gatherings too. They always go this way for some reason towards the end of my bottle of tequila.

@huntclanhunt9697

2 жыл бұрын

A punch is often immediately proceeded by a quick glance in the direction the punch will come from.

I've learned all of these through Psychology years ago! I can tell you this is absolutely true!!!

Every time I watch one of these, I find that I already do these things. Just live and adapt people, these results are just a natural result of learning through conflicts.

Any peaky blinders videos will always teach us much more in life than any other Movies 🍿🧠👁

That was fun. Take it from me, these things do work in life or death situations. Those themselves build confidence to know you're ok however it plays out. Principles are dying out, as quickly as mutual respect; living by them gives everyone around confidence in you.

Some great content and ideas. Also, how you use your voice to attract and engage is also key.

I looked at this looking to learn, which I did, but noticed that there were a few things I study and do now. Love it

Thanks for sharing and adding value to my day.

@Apprecihateu

2 жыл бұрын

wtf u mean "value"? xDD wats dat mean?!!

#3 is the one that gets people tripping. When someone tries to take away from what you want to discuss and you take that bait or even consider it, they will subconsciously not respect what you say.

When managing emotional response during conflict, there's a fine line between poise and restraint...and Psychopathy. I agree with the rest.

I have been waiting for these videos on tommy😍😍

That long bit about confidence... one thing that was pointed to, but never once mentioned is called integrity. Standing behind the right thing whether you've enabled it or not, yeah, integrity. It's an extremely important factor in life that has been gasping for breath and nearing death quicker and quicker by the day. I'm not surprised, considering the state of humanity, that it wasn't named.

Direct eye contact states you are willing to listen. People that eye pierce while you eye engage have something to hide or a different motive. Easy side thrust of the eyes is an easy way to disengage their thoughts and allow you to get a thought in. Thank you for your vids and keep them up, please.

@Zack-lq9tb

Жыл бұрын

How do you stay non attached, and centered when holding eye contact? I struggle with boundaries between self and others, and often in life feeling scattered and overstimulated.

The mental dual between Alfie and Tommy at the desk was the greatest TV ive seen since Walt on Breaking Bad avoided getting killed by Mike in Breaking Bad the scene where Gail got murdered instead it was literally that tense.

I’ve had people try to intimidate me with eye contact, only to hold it for too long as you said. They just looked ridiculous, especially in the cases when it wasn’t even a serious matter.

I didn't realize that I already use the 3-4 second rule. And that I speak slowly at my own pace. I don't do this in intense conversation, I do this all the time. No wonder people take me way to seriously

Not saying I did everything right but I recently got in an argument with somebody over something that I perceived to be trivial applying this video to my actions in the situation I’m glad to know that I at least appeared confident well trying to communicate that I no longer wanted to waste my time on a friendship with them

@anotheryoutubeaccount5259

2 жыл бұрын

Forget that person 1v1 them

This guy makes u acknowledge any form of Insecurities that exists, makes it relate to u, with the fact that how u can tackle it. but before u know it completely, or are willing to know more of it now, he Sells his Program at that exact same point. ~Just appreciating the marketing efforts. ~

Always speak your truth. The other person's response to your truth will not change your truth

Being unwaveringly honest has more upside than just letting you have some upper hand in a conflict or some charisma in social situations.

My dad used to scream at me sometimes and expected an instant response because he knew I was just a scared little boy. Today when someone asks me a question, I pause and respond in my own time. Nobody tells me at what moment I should speak now.

wow, sounds about right. I never knew why I did these things. thank you.

Covered my favorite scene of the show in the first minute 🔥🔥

I've been doing most of this gestures since I was young, like it was naturally in my personality, maybe this is the reason why I always been chosen to be a leader in a group, tbh I don't want to lead people or tell someone what to do and lastly I hate responsibility. but yes I can handle stressful situations where others go blank. I've been Team leader,Venue Head, supervisor, manager before I turned 27, but I still prefer more like a non-leading solitary role.

@itsbayside6802

2 жыл бұрын

im the opposite, i dont follow anyone nor want anyone to follow me, i do my own thing.

@aneeshdev1300

2 жыл бұрын

stop dreaming and wake up.

@debatetv5794

2 жыл бұрын

@@aneeshdev1300 yeah thank you i woke up and i quit my job it's too stressful handling people for me not worth It.

@godbyone

2 жыл бұрын

Sound little like people on reality show. S “ when I walk I the room I’m the alpha. Don’t want To be but my mom noticed that also.

While I hope to apply these lessons for personal reasons, they work great when it comes to customer service. Still, I to develop those skills in my profession over time. But when I have had to "go off" on a customer, I never raise my voice, and use pick apart the irate customer's counter-argument (if any). The moment profanity is used against me, that's when I know I "won". At that point, my typical response is to point out their crude-ness before telling them that they can call back when they behave themselves. Works every time.

thanks for preparing this kind of contents 🙏

Cant believe I watched this for 6 minutes before realising I was watching an ad... Great job!

My older brother enjoyed accepting a bully's challenge with a few, well chosen words. My favorite was when he would get face to face, speak in a low voice, and reply "I can't stop you from trying but I'll break you of the habit."

Alfie Solomons is the only character in the Peaky Blinders that doesn't give af about Tommy

@nulle.k

2 жыл бұрын

I would disagree. The two has a very big respect between them. Tommy, at least in my eyes, respects Alfie more than any other character in the show.

@harshitrautela8662

2 жыл бұрын

@@nulle.k yup just like a sigma respects other sigma

@prajwalshetty7

2 жыл бұрын

You saw luca changaretta???

@lyndsaycrawford

2 жыл бұрын

I think Alfie likes & respects tommy just not as much as he likes & respects himself. but he always betrays him & Tommy knows there’s always a risk of that. Loved it when Alfie set Tommy straight “live by the sword…” he just understands their lifestyle & all the underhand shite that comes with it.

@davidtoohey783

Жыл бұрын

@@nulle.k Yeah, but I'm sure Young Vinny's comment that "Alfie...doesn't give af about Tommy" means that he doesn't care about Tommy's potential to harm him. So yes, there's respect, like you say, but that's not the point you are disagreeing to. And this ConC video shows that Alfie is one of the great gangster movie characters of all time, played by one of the great actors of the last 20 years. (Mad Max, Locke were his masterpieces.)

Thanks for all tips.

I had to watch this. Can't wait to Monday

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

@wattyler9806

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks friend.

@ultimatemixmeister5127

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

@lyndsaycrawford

Ай бұрын

“The only thing we can take for granted is the present” Marcus Aurelius Meditations

5:36 I remember when our boss had to mediate me and my collegue about having my collegue aren't recieved a set of copies of booklet for distribution to a certain number of stores. I am shocked that she had to spend a narrow time alloted to us instead of finding ways to cope up with the demand. She kept insisting that I should alloted her a sets of copies of that reason. At that time I am busy counting and binding booklets to be delivered to my own intended group of stores. I said in the mediation, I would alloted a sets of booklets to you first even if am left behind because you are assigned to those big stores BUT you aren't there at that time...so what should I do? I'll wait for her presence to come to our facility just give to what she want? And I said, No! I would rather give it to my assigned stores in order to get their copies. And my boss looked at me, and said you should appologize, in my mind "what the heck I am appologizing for?" In that moment I looked my boss her eyes evading her command. Then my boss concluded that I am a hard headed employee, then I felt puzzled by her utterance and left me speechless. To break the hiatus, I looked my phone then I said, excuse me I have a deliver to be taken with. Up until now my relationship to them revolves on work related and now I felt invinsible to them but that's ok for me at least.🙂

Just stumbled across this page and I'm glad I did...

got to love how it's one of those websites that doesn't tell you anything about the program or price...just a bunch of people telling you how good it was until you sign up for somethingthe video Awesome by the way!

Please make such a video on Raymond Reddington (The Blacklist).

Just here to share some things; knowledge cant be lost, time is gold, and let me share a quick motivational quote :) "I've never seen a strong man with an easy past" Thanks for your time and have a good one :)

@zakosist

2 жыл бұрын

Knowledge is lost all the time at school. But good quote

@thanosnoctem4473

2 жыл бұрын

@@zakosist yeah the quote is really good

@chrisoconnor3119

2 жыл бұрын

Cool one! Thanks

@johngalvin3124

2 жыл бұрын

One to remember when the world spins out of control and you're scared and you don't know which way to go - 'Take the centre.'

@huntclanhunt9697

2 жыл бұрын

Hard times make hard men. Hard men maje good times. Good times make soft men. Soft men make hard times.

Já ti přece knihu dal! Vsadím se, že jsi ji nečetl! Tam je spousta zajímavých informací! Fakt.

Could you make similar video, but for conversations over the phone, when people cannot see you?

Just always show respect but when someone is arrogant to you, show him your calmness.

I came to tell you there is no "tricks" you have to work on your self by putting yourself in challenging situations and build experience.

@tannhauser5399

Жыл бұрын

@King Apri - this! But also some people may have more sociopathic tendencies than others, and they will cope with all of it quite easy. In fact they will feel like fish in a water in some scenarios. Applicable to the office/corporate life too of course, and also on the other extreme, to some dangerous places in some cities around the world. Edit: grammar/spelling

Great vid Wondered if you could analyze Jeff Goldblum unique charisma

Some good stuff in here sir

Here's the problem...you have to BE this type of individual. In confrontations or other high stress situations, it's not as simple as "act like alfie" if you're not this kind of person naturally it won't work!

@masonboard

2 жыл бұрын

Yup. Some have it, most don’t The only way you find out is by being in high stress situations

@lyndsaycrawford

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! There’s this old saying where I’m from “I’d rather take a sore face than a red face” meaning you’d rather face the challenge of a fight that be embarrassed (red face) for walking away from the fight. When you grow up with that psychology, these tips seem ridiculous. There was also the fact that if you went home beat up, your dad would tell you go back & finish it or slap you for getting a kicking. Characters like Tommy Shelby, Alfie Solomons are products of their environments. It’s not something you can adapt to ppl, you learn it cos it’s your real life.

@lyndsaycrawford

2 жыл бұрын

@@masonboard agreed! If you could just fake this attitude everyone would be an intimidating gangster. Christ knows what happens when they’d actually need to beat someone up or kill them cos they’ve disrespected your pseudo hard man reputation. It’s ridiculous

@TheOutlawGeneralBacon

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Or be the absolute best salesmen in the world. Proven.

@dirkz.duggitz1567

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@@lyndsaycrawford i kn now its been a year, but this is absolutely the truth. If you grew up with a hard life, you have no choice but to be a stronger, harder person. You either are, or u arent.

This seems like a character trait developed with experience

Shalom arfur I love Alfie he is such a boss. Great video guys!!!

Respect is created through long term credibility.

@PeterSellers22

2 жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head, no need for psychological tricks that are themselves masking deficiencies and are almost impossible to pull off

@anotheryoutubeaccount5259

2 жыл бұрын

Two beta males coping. It's a hard life.

@kuroki2986

2 жыл бұрын

@@anotheryoutubeaccount5259 You are not a beta?

@PeterSellers22

2 жыл бұрын

@@anotheryoutubeaccount5259 And I guess you're just perusing self-help videos for research purposes..?

@anotheryoutubeaccount5259

2 жыл бұрын

@PeteFromSalesDepartment Sure, why not. I like perusing.

Being a bit mental also helps when applying these tips.

Incredible amount of value in Peaky Blinders!

Tak je to jasný, zase jsi sjetej :D

I have confidence when faced with real danger, I’ve had people hold guns to my head more than I care to say. On the other hand, I get extremely anxious in normal conversations.

I can see the 3 second rule being helpful but as I grew up with multiple siblings who were older and a neighbourhood who has respect for my older siblings I became a target. The 3 second rule never really worked in my situations imo but not to say I didn't use it as a dramatic pause. But I gained way more respect and friends by having a quick response and a witty one at that. Half of the time having a sarcastic demeanor or tone was way more effective

@sicotic2897

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sarcasm and quick wit both require very high cognitive ability (especially combined) therefore it means something to people who can recognize and understand that. Everyone is capable of silence, so it helps, but only so far.

@user-pp9bl5gr1n

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Because you’re dealing with people with fake aggressive behavior or kid like behavior……when it comes to dealing with women or corporate setting the pause works every time

that aweseome tips. thank you sir

I never heard Of this this show or saw it but it interested and great video

Can you do a modern interpretation of Sunzi's The art of war? What lessons can we use for our everyday life/conflicts?

@koopmalverde6486

2 жыл бұрын

Who is Sunzi?

@user-fr8xv9gz7e

2 жыл бұрын

@@koopmalverde6486 philosopher and war strategist. His work is one of the most known in the world

@leonrussell9607

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-fr8xv9gz7e *sun tsu

Norm Macdonald !!

all that for an add, well done, you got me

When I’m in a conversation with people and someone butts in and the person I’m engaged with has turned to engage with the other person I walk away and I don’t engage with either of these people again until they engage and apologize. It drives them crazy, I simply wont be dismissed by either of them.

The only two questions you need to ask yourelf are " how far am I willing to go and how far is he willing to go." Sometimes it's best to walk away, or you might end up wearing a grass coat and a headstone for a hat. I'm speaking from real life experiences. Assess the situation and respect when it's smart to step down. You'll live longer.

@totaltwit

2 жыл бұрын

yeh what we see in movies is make believe, not really the place to take serious life lessons. A quick way to get respect is to floor the other guy, in a 1:1. - not good, it's the only way some people understand. I think there's different "respect" for different situations, not all are violent intent.

Knowing number 4 may have saved my marriage lol I always took the blame eventually in order to end the argument, and it seems I helped create a monster

@charlesclaridy8127

2 жыл бұрын

My experience is that apologizing if I am wrong does deescalate and saves my integrity. The best tactic I have found for addressing when someone wrongs me is to have them swap roles with me and tell me how they would feel as the recipient while maintaining eye contact the entire time.

Fantastic video!

Great help . . . very good .

Could you make videos on how to deal with or put limits/set boundaries on narcissistic, self-centered, egotistical, manipulative and toxic people, please? Great channel! All the best!

Rolling my eyes. No wonder it's harder every day to find good people, everyone and their 3 yr old sister is running an online store, pretending to be something there are not, or blaming anyone and everyone else for their poor choices.

great explanation!🎉

Cool! I really didn't notice but I used these methods/techniques in handling difficult clients. I really agreed on not you're sorry when you do not meant it.

The thing is, anyone who is genuinely confident sees through these little learned tricks and despises the person using them even more. This is clearly something for adolescents.

@cosmic130

2 жыл бұрын

The real thing is, anyone who is really confident doesn't need to denigrate the efforts of others to do and be better. Ever.

A great way to increase your self confidence is working out. There is something magical about how great you can feel with yourself when you see your body changing because of your own effort, it gave me a great boost of confidence.

Repetition is the finest teacher. By 'acting as if' you have confidence, you gradually become more confident. Find role models you respect and study them. Then adopt some traits you see working, but always remain yourself.Truth is, most confident people I ever met were faking it until they made it, because confidence comes and goes.It's not a sin to improve yourself, but it could be to settle for less than you deserve? Best advice is to cheerfully make mistakes until you make yourself a success. At one time, as a known top Salesman, I actually gave Seminars on my mistakes in Sales, which i couldn't have if i was perfect. That way, other people learned from my mistakes and paid me for making them. Nobody is what's on the tin, inside they are all just like you, human, and they all have confidence crises. And i do mean all, and don't you forget it...

I'm watching this now, thanks.

I want to be like Alfie in every way

Best thing is to get to the point where you could actually say that you’re ready to die: “Wouldn’t be my first choice, but if it’s time, I’m ok with it.” Which takes developing trust in your Creator and your place in the universe.

Thumbnail Shouts: ''THE THREE SECOND RULE'' - I was disappointed that it doesn't involve food. Seriously though, the point about breaking eye contact to the side versus down is excellent.

Just stay calm when fear runs rampantly through your whole body. Yep, great tip.