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@asifmuniruniverse7732

Жыл бұрын

Hi,No one can buy , happiness and internal staticifaction eccept materials or luxuries , it's just can by God

@kellywade8275

Ай бұрын

Buying time is for celebrities and white privilege. I am an educator and clean for cheap rate of $80 every other Saturday for grocery money. 🤷🏾‍♀You live in a different universe, but still have good points.

After 50 years of marriage, my husband and I looked around our large possession filled home and decided to get rid of it all and travel. We were still relatively young and healthy at 65 and 67. We gave away or sold everything and hit the road in our RV. Not a big monster RV but a compact livable one. What a luxury to have all of our possessions in one small space and each of them is either beautiful or useful or both. Our treasures now are the experiences we enjoy as we travel the country, the people we meet and the lovely landscapes we see. These past 4 years have been the best of our lives. We are hoping for several more years to travel but when we do settle down it will be with a minimalist lifestyle still. We wish we could have advised our younger selves to not buy the stuff!

@mihaeladog7187

8 ай бұрын

I swear I’ll do the same. Just waiting for the kids to leave 😂

@junecarter9330

7 ай бұрын

I love this so much and look forward to decreasing my accumulations and living more! Thank you for sharing this.

@dearLynna

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this, I hope you a beautiful long healthy life 🤍 collecting memories not things☁️

2:25 1. Purchasing experiences. 3:20 2. Pro-social spending. 4:38 3. Buying time.

@stevethea5250

2 жыл бұрын

Was looking for this 🤩

@markme4

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for buying me time 😁

@glendyonline

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the summary was looking for it all over haha.

@jogb9515

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@atomictraveller

2 жыл бұрын

try purchasing some weed

I learned a looooooong time ago - and this is the literal truth - NOT some warm and fuzzy philosophical notion - if you 1) own more than one pair of shoes, 2) know where you're going to sleep tonight, and 3) can choose what you're going to eat for dinner - you're among the wealthy of the world. Self-awareness about where we are in relation to our fellow earthlings is critical for a healthy world view...

@atomictraveller

2 жыл бұрын

smoking weed is only going to help with all of that there, and it will help in case someone else needs to get some weed or any of that other stuff there

@rajindarsingh1417

2 жыл бұрын

@@atomictraveller 😂😂

@xxxtyphon4298

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this wisdom, very well said

@sw6118

2 жыл бұрын

You are correct. But acknowledging those three defeats our pro-consumption economic system.

@garrydye2394

2 жыл бұрын

100%...I was totally clueless to the realities of life as an American until I started to visit 3rd world countries. Most Americans live in a bubble and its actually pretty gross on a spoiled and self oppressed level.

I read once that the secret to happiness is: (1) Someone to Love, (2) Something to do, and (3) Something to look forward to....I like your examples too!

@chrisd1172

2 жыл бұрын

Great list

@bekind913

2 жыл бұрын

Yes i agree.

@Barbara-jn2gw

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. Great list. The first two points to the idea to have a purpose outside yourself. 😊

@YPEFFLE

2 жыл бұрын

❤

@Mushroom321-

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!, 😍🥰👏👏👏

Being debt free has been a huge factor in my emotional well-being

@lchapter383

7 ай бұрын

I so want to be debt free. I’m going to try and start doing some debt relief and start saving and decluttering

The third one is great I pay $40 a month to have my one bedroom apartment cleaned. I’m 74, and this gives me great joy!

@paulamoors

2 жыл бұрын

Buying time is also part of being a minimalist. You have way less to clean and it takes such a burden off your shoulders to not have to deal with all that “stuff”.

@ratherbfishing455

2 жыл бұрын

In my state maids get paid $30 an hour! I only make $10 an hour :( Most are not citizens.

@attheranch873

2 жыл бұрын

@@ratherbfishing455 here it’s $50 per hour!!!😭

@ratherbfishing455

2 жыл бұрын

@@attheranch873 That's about what my sister pays in Austin. The women has a third grade education.

@staceykersting705

2 жыл бұрын

@@ratherbfishing455 Here, that depends on whether u do deep cleaning , like spring cleaning...or just weekly cleaning, like clean bathroom, do a load or 2 of laundry, change beds and sweep or vacuum floors. Deep clean is about $50 hr/ weekly clean is more like $15.

I couldn't agree more with this! Especially #1. When I was a kid growing up, my parents nearly always spent money on family experiences rather than material possessions. So I didn't always have the coolest toys in the neighborhood, but we always had the coolest experiences! Years later we all still talk about the great experiences we had as kids but we have mainly forgotten the junk we purchased back then. I think my parents did the right thing by raising us this way.

@hampdog5716

2 жыл бұрын

Notes taken

@shannaveganamcinnis-hurd405

2 жыл бұрын

So so true. Experiences over things ALL DAY.

@michellebobier-groves7821

Жыл бұрын

My family travelled in a van conversion every summer for six weeks. We started planning at spring break and my parents let us pick the places, based on their recommendations. It gave us something to look forward to in addition to great lifelong memories.

@slchance8839

Жыл бұрын

@@michellebobier-groves7821 mine, too. at first, it was a station wagon. then, later, a conversion van. I can say I've seen nearly every tourist attraction and amusement in the country...by car. The memories are cherished. National Lampoon's Vacation is not just a good movie, is a slice of that era of Americana

One of the best "experiences" I received cost nothing. A young neighbor walks his toddler in the stroller every morning. One winter's day he brought a snow shovel and cleaned our driveway, quietly and without fanfare, "just for exercise." It was something I don't forget and maybe a wonderful example for the baby. A good example, it costs almost nothing to give our time, service, and attention to another person. We are older and it made a difference to our day and to our safety!

@carroyo911

2 жыл бұрын

I too, have done that very same thing, unbeknownst to my neighbors "just for the exercise."...

@lindablower836

2 жыл бұрын

I also had this a man in the next street cleared my path of snow And in the summer last year when work wasnt done on our gardens by the council a young man came and cut my lawn Wonderful gifts neither of them wanted money

@lindablower836

2 жыл бұрын

Ps I didnt know these people

@noelminneci4930

2 жыл бұрын

@@lindablower836 Amazing! We are lucky.

@lindablower836

2 жыл бұрын

@@noelminneci4930 yes we are there are some lovely people around

After looking at the comments, no one has said this. Another way to buy time is to have the tools or utensils or equipment that is within your price range to do the work you need to do and save time. For example while growing up my Dad was very proud to only have hand tools for gardening. This took him a long time to cut back trees and bushes and push mow the lawn. Eventually he got a petrol mower and a chainsaw. Time saved. Also he was not spending as much energy on his short weekends (1.5 days). So if you have an old vacuum cleaner that hurts you because it's so heavy or takes dragging over the rug 50 million times to suck up the dirt, upgrade within your spending and save time and energy. Apply this as needed - car, kitchen appliances, etc etc

@itgetter9

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent advice - thank you!

@joanparsley2332

2 жыл бұрын

As an aside, I will say that gardening is something many people love to do while vacuuming is not universally loved at all!

@Sharsung

2 жыл бұрын

Good thoughts, I’m glad you shared them!

@jamilgotcher5456

2 жыл бұрын

What kind and or brand of vacuum cleaner do you like?

@plusbonus1165

2 жыл бұрын

I like the way your Dad used to do it. Simply with least impact on the environment. A Zen gardener .

Last year I saved up enough to buy myself a beach vacation and if I were to describe that experience in one word it would be BLISS, just laying there by the beach, feeling the warm humid air of the sea, the sand crumbling beneath my feet, the kisses from the waves. And minimalism has helped me achieve this. 🤟

@maureensamson4863

Жыл бұрын

So glad you enjoyed the experience ! Sadly , many have been bitterly disappointed !

Buying time. My main motivation for minimalism. Spending less time maintaining my home has been the greatest payoff of this journey.

My favorite way to spend money on others is when we have friends or family get-togethers. I like to bring lots of food, desserts and drinks for everyone to share. I’ve always taught my kids, ‘Never show up to someone’s house empty handed’. Whether it be a homemade dessert, bottle of wine or potted plant, bring something special to show your appreciation for them opening their home to you. Hospitality really does go a long way in building lasting relationships with others.

@jazzbeau507

2 жыл бұрын

I hate it when people bring stuff for me like a potted plant or "something special," or some food I don't like. Sorry you teach your children that way. By the way they are not kids, they sons or daughters or both, or if very young they are children.

@juanitajuanita7222

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazzbeau507 you seem miserable ….have a blessed day

@jazzbeau507

2 жыл бұрын

@@juanitajuanita7222 Yes Juanita, you are correct, I have received hundreds of gifts over the years, and they have been a burden to me; you cannot donate bottles of wine to a homeless shelter, and you cannot donate gifts that have your name engraved in them. And I have received lots of gifts of unhealthy food. Yes, these gifts have made me miserable, and I can't help but wonder why there are people like you who think gifts are good idea. They have been a huge burden to me.

@noelminneci4930

2 жыл бұрын

Your heart is in the right place but maybe make sure the gift is something the recipient wants. If someone brought me a gift card to the coffee shop or bookstore, I'd be thrilled!

@jazzbeau507

2 жыл бұрын

@@noelminneci4930 Gift cards are sort of a nuisance for lots of reasons. They may not be a convenient amount and you have to carry it around and your usual cards, and especially for men, we don't carry around purses. Gifts are fun to give, but not fun to receive.

#3 came into play when I used to work late at a bar. Instead of dealing with the subway at 4:30am to get home, spending a little money on a cab improved the quality of my life.

I've always chosen to reside in condominiums rather than single family homes throughout my entire adult life, just so I never have to worry about lawn care, landscaping, snow removal, etc. I had to do way too much of that crap when I was a kid, and didn't want to bother with it once I grew up. Leaves me all kinds of time to do the things I really enjoy!

When I see empty countertops in the kitchen it makes so happy and satisfied!!!

@JoshuaBecker

2 жыл бұрын

I like it too. Thanks for watching.

@anjuwadhwani8100

2 жыл бұрын

Love the clean kitchen... Buying time absolutely 👍

@sararichardson737

2 жыл бұрын

I got to agree with you there. It so elevating to the mind and soul. ‘Space”

@scarletj.salazar6706

2 жыл бұрын

Ir make me happy to have all my bills paid, extra money ti help others, treat myself for nice dinners at my favorite restaurant, give generous gifts fir graduations, wedding, birthdays, but resent when my giving isn’t appreciated or simply forgotten ,

@mbrights3158

2 жыл бұрын

@@scarletj.salazar6706 I'd say if you resent it when your gifts aren't appreciated you are giving for the wrong reason.... you're giving for yourself (to get an external reward), rather than doing so genuinely for others.

I recently subscribed to an unlimited car wash service and my husband wasn't happy about it. I hate having a dirty car and I'm too short to wash cars well. My car is parked in a dusty environment so I run it through a couple of times a week. It's removing a negative experience and buying time as well. Thank you for this post.

@coffeejab3381

2 жыл бұрын

Very justifiable ☺

@Known-unknowns

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve got a lovely picture in my head of you trying to reach the roof. Lol. 🤣

@joshenyou360

2 жыл бұрын

@@Known-unknowns LOL, the problem is real. I am 4'11" I must say, Jo Robinson, I may consider the unlimited car wash myself.

@lindavanderhoef7674

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve never heard of an unlimited car wash service. I’m going to look into this. Thank You.

@socalfriend6985

2 жыл бұрын

This is a great service! The new car wash by me is offering half off the first month And then only $14.99, but a single car wash is $6.

I live a pretty minimalistic life. I live in a studio condo and don't have many possessions. But one possession of mine has been in need of replacement for years. My couch has been in a state of decay with the leatherette disintegrating and peeling of in small pieces. I had a matching ottoman that I threw out a year ago because it looked so bad. With my home being so small it's impossible not to notice such symbols of decay. So for the first time in ten years I've purchased a major piece of furniture. My new couch is being delivered on Friday and I am happy about that! : )

@minbannister3625

2 жыл бұрын

You got every penny out of the old one.

I would add to the list that buying wisely adds to happiness. Get that one perfect coat/bag/car and look after it. Might cost you more to start but if you love it you will repair and care for it. Quality lasts and you are not always feeling dissatisfied with your not quite as good but cheaper purchase. I used to have drawers full of cheap jeans. Invested in one pair of really good ones and threw the rest out. It’s a joy every time I slid them on. Take the constant decision making off the table. Mental peace.

@CocoPink44

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with all you said.

@atomictraveller

2 жыл бұрын

yeah, perfect bag, yeah! finally, someone who knows weed makes you happy.

@MonicaJNYC

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, even expensive items are not necessarily "quality" anymore...Yet definitely avoid shoddy low-priced junk...

I go visit my neighbor that's the best gift I can give to her. Her husband died just recently. I feel so much better going to see her then going to a mall and buying something that is pointless.

Thanks for your channel. After my husbands death 4 years ago at the young age of 54 I took the time to downsize & minimize my life. It helped me to become a healthier & happier more aware person. I just told a friend the other day one thing we don’t have enough of in life is ‘time’ So how ever best you can… take the time to watch a leaf flow down a stream. Take the time to become aware of the blessings around you. Unfortunately for me it took cancer to become more aware of the shortness of time. You have a great channel . Keep up the great work…🙏🏼

I personally love the ability to get groceries delivered - reducing the stress and hassle of travelling to the supermarkets, making a million and one decisions, distractions and impulse purchases in the shop, and having bags of heavy stuff brought to my door!

@GrammyVInDaHouse

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Lynda! People ask me WHY I order groceries online with Amazon Fresh and I do Target Drive Up orders for other items. It’s a real sobering moment when you review items in your cart and say “Do I really need 2 kinds of cookies?”. I would find that going grocery shopping after work equaled lots of impulse buys. For delivered groceries I tip well and do not have an ounce of guilt about it, even though I’m not a person of means. My time, and energy are more important to me in my 50’s. Plus I’ve declared this year as the year to lose weight and get healthier and I spend half a day Sunday cooking breast Of chicken in my instapot and frying up Beyond sausage patties in my air fryer for the weeks meals. I’m worth it and my time is too valuable.

@socalfriend6985

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! The delivery service is so great! And my Mom can use my account too since we live close by each other.

@atomictraveller

2 жыл бұрын

you should having some weed delivered, and then when they get to the door witht he heavy stuff, they might like to have some weed also.

@gtw4546

2 жыл бұрын

Groceries are the one thing I feel I must choose for myself, especially produce and meat products. I will order things like canned soups online, but not fresh items. Those to me are still worth a trip to the market.

@sherrymcmullin1914

2 жыл бұрын

Oh, me too!! I fought the feeling lazy thing... I have almost everything delivered!!🥰😍

The third one wasn't too surprising to me! My father would spend hours working himself into a fury trying to fix or build things that he couldn't, because he refused to pay for anyone else to do anything. As an adult I've always tried to realise when it's going to be better for everyone to just pay someone who's good at the thing to do it for you.

@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! My dad either exhausts himself, or does without rather than purchase services froma professional. He is rich too. Doesn't make sense, other than a general anxiety about having "enough" in the future

@prettypuppy6752

2 жыл бұрын

@@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380 my dad is the same☺️

@zainabfarooq9468

2 жыл бұрын

Pay someone who is good at that skills, saves time money stress

@seerguru6896

2 жыл бұрын

There’s satisfaction on doing it yourself , it does depend on it the fixing stresses you out or if you feel liberated for not having to lay someone . Again depends on time

@TANQ31

2 жыл бұрын

Yes and no. If its something you enjoy doing, and are extremely proficient at something, don't pay someone! Now, if you have to reinvent the wheel or spend copious amounts of time, then yes, maybe pay someone. But it's not one way or another

Not everyone fits into this. I dislike spending money on experiences. Vacations do not relax me, they take me away from what I enjoy doing. Going out to eat is never as good as how I can cook for myself. A walk in the park is better than a vacation and it costs only time. Doing things for others also costs time and is time well spent. The long commute is great if you can listen to audio books. To be honest there are numerous things that stress people out that do not disturb me in the least.

@SN23031978

2 жыл бұрын

Thats just like my husband. He prefers playing his musical instrument and cook food himself at home, than going out for experiences.

@snu3877

Жыл бұрын

You know yourself and that in itself is a wonderful blessing.

@amyshomesteadanimals

Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad I'm not alone! I live on a Homestead and have an animal sanctuary for the unwanted creatures. I do this because I am happy to be a home body so am always here for feedings and to give care. It keeps me going and gives them a happy home. Traveling is so expensive and stressful!

@maureensamson4863

Жыл бұрын

@@amyshomesteadanimals Each to their own ! My family cares for " hopeless cases " at perhaps the last stages of their lives , in the animal world ! It's lovely to see them enjoying themselves ... humans and animals , alike ! All the best in your work .... often stressful and heartbreaking , but oh , so satisfying , as you enjoy it !

@amyshomesteadanimals

Жыл бұрын

@Maureen Samson thank you. Yes, it is hard on the heart, but they leave this earth feeling accepted, cared for, and loved from us on our Homestead. Blessings and love to you as well.😚💕

Best thing we ever bought was a dog. A truly wonderful and long-lasting experience, providing daily joyful experiences. A few less than joyful, but overall, the joys outweigh the challenges by tenfold.

@annesmith1491

2 жыл бұрын

i agree. better than people who use and give back nothing or stab you in the back for your generosity. and when the canine passes away, you can get another one that looks just like it and name it the same. keep it going. thats my plan.

@suen5006

2 жыл бұрын

We love our dogs, they are the best things we have ever bought; they give so much joy.

@antiantipoda

2 жыл бұрын

I "bought" the most expensive mutt ever. I found him on the middle of the road, run over. I spent a ton on surgery and medication. Two years later he is the most constant source of laughter in my life.

@christinahurley7742

2 жыл бұрын

@@antiantipoda I LOVE this comment.

@maargenbx1454

2 жыл бұрын

I got a dog 2 years before the pandemic…I can’t imagine what 2020 would have been like without him.

I agree with #3 100 percent. Years ago, with my wife’s blessings, I hired someone to cut the lawn and rake the leaves. I now look forward to the weekends instead of dreading the time yard work would eat up. Yep, buy the time. It leads to the experiences......

Happiness to me is being retired. No more Monday morning dread.

@mtracy244

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I don't know what caused your dread but mine was the workplace ogres. Now I'm retired, life is rather nice.✌️

@iamjane9628

2 жыл бұрын

Retirement = the ultimate example of "buying time" !!

@Gigi-VG

2 жыл бұрын

@@iamjane9628 So true!👏

@monpet8952

2 жыл бұрын

….and here it is Monday, and I def dread it …..

@EASTERBUNNY7772

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Work is hell.

Being rich is not about accumulating more but sharing more

@cumorahwatson1967

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree👍👏❤

@anoukc6928

2 жыл бұрын

true!!

@Gk2003m

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Almost all of the material items I own are in my life not “for me to have”, but to be shared.

@atomictraveller

2 жыл бұрын

share some weed.

@rogermccaslin5963

2 жыл бұрын

You don't know many rich people, do you?

Happiness is not something you buy, it’s something you ARE. It’s a frequency you tap into. Find a happy place within first, by meditating and deliberately focusing, and then anything you do will be joyful. ❤️

I use all of my money to rescue abused and homeless animals. The fact they are in this state stresses me, but being able to help them with a happy future makes it worth it. My robot vacuum SAVES MY TIME, and helps so much with all the animal hair. Money WELL SPENT, and one of my greatest purchases. BEST invention EVER, imo!!!

@ab935

2 жыл бұрын

are they vegan animals?

@markdraine3571

2 жыл бұрын

Great ,Krissy ..Thanx so much for what you do for animals .All the best to you !

@deeandrews7051

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you, I feel the same way. They don't deserve to be mistreated or abandoned. Some people actually move and leave their animals behind. Don't know how these people can live with themselves.

When I returned, by ship, to the US from Australia and got off the ship all my stuff was missing. Years of record and book collecting, paintings, clothing, etc. It was the best thing that ever happened to me because I found out I didn't need all that stuff. As Randy Newman sang, "I'm free white and 21, own 3 pairs of shoes, ain't got no right to sing the blues." The less stuff I have the more time I have to do the things and spend time with the people I love.

I would also add buying things to support your interests, which aligns with experiential purchases. So if you enjoy woodworking, buy good tools; if your hobby is cooking, buy top notch ingredients; if photography is your thing, buy good gear. As long as I’m using those purchases in the creation of something I enjoy, I almost always get joy out of them.

The less you need, the wealthier you are.

@staceykersting705

2 жыл бұрын

Well said! I don't smoke, seldom drink, never really dress up, drive a low mileage great older car...paid cash for it. Hardly ever go to a store for more than salad ingredients. I'm usually invited somewhere for dinner. Splurged on an inner tube, camp on the ground. Living the best life ever. My friends all know I'm good for pitching in for gas. We load up, go to the beach about once a month. I buy them each a lottery ticket or a cup of coffee. Always throw down for the tip at lunch., feeling like royalty. Living a royal life.

@rayc9899

2 жыл бұрын

Money never buys happiness, respect, morals, dignity, and love. Those emotions depend on the work you are willing to do day after day. The difference between a loser or a winner is the winner does in life what the loser doesn't want to do.

@2drealms196

2 жыл бұрын

Yet look at his expensive house, and his large well furnished kitchen with expensive appliances, granite countertop and expensive cabinetry.

@maryann7619

2 жыл бұрын

@@2drealms196 Your point? He probably has those things because of his lifestyle. We all make choices on what we spend our money on.

@2drealms196

2 жыл бұрын

@@maryann7619 I just find it amusing he preaches minimalism to his viewers, but he doesn't appear to follow his own advice. I'm not pro or anti minimalism, just making an observation.

I’m a book collector. My collection is carefully curated with objects that bring me joy. This is the opposite of mindless consumerism. My oldest book is a late sixteenth century Vulgate (Latin) New Testament. For four centuries plus others have cared for this volume. Now it is my turn to be the steward of this book and I take that responsibility seriously.

@ladymacbethofmtensk896

2 жыл бұрын

I dream of owning an 1895 The King in Yellow. Dark, proto-Lovecraftian fare there.

@MrGone-bw6bk

2 жыл бұрын

I collect books, records, musical instruments, always have lots of stuff to look through, pay for storage, decide whether to keep, sell, give away, etc. I’m a Maximumist! I’ve examined my behaviors, questioning if it’s hoarding or collecting. Seems easy to cross that line into OCD

@mountainliving514

2 жыл бұрын

Minimalist:"Less is more" Maximalist:"More is still more!". Collect away!

@bobdillaber1195

2 жыл бұрын

I just purchased a wonderful accounting journal from 1910. It's huge 12x18", beautifully leather bound, weighing probably 18-20#, 350 pages, each page lists business income and expenses in beautifully written handwriting. Someone worked endlessly on that business record. I'm so glad I found it and could save it. It should never be discarded!

@MrGone-bw6bk

2 жыл бұрын

@@mountainliving514 Oops, Maximalist, rather.

buying gift for others without strings; only if your heart is truly generous. Grew up with a parent that always had strings attached to gifts for every single person.

@marinachoban2607

2 жыл бұрын

Just cut the strings

@greenkitty82

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to that. I grew up with a parent who would get me material things and then try to use it against me later on in order to control me. Since then I've refused everything they've offered (at the consequence of being called ungrateful) as I know there are strings attached. Gifting should be completely unconditional and from genuine affection, not for the desire to control.

@PenelopePeriwinkle

2 жыл бұрын

@@marinachoban2607 she died 5 years ago. I cut the strings long before that.

@rubyoro0

2 жыл бұрын

You guys are so stupid. You couldn’t love your parent unconditionally so you cut strings.

@marinachoban2607

2 жыл бұрын

@@rubyoro0 you're right. Jesus said "if anyone compels you to go with him a mile, go with him 2 miles. If he takes your shirt off your back, give him your coat also. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. That you may be children of your Father in heaven. I was just thinking how we shouldn't let others manipulate us

I am a compulsive learner. It brings me joy to share detailed knowledge with others. I used to teach knitting to senior citizens. They were so happy to enjoy the hobby and learn and share with others not burdened by their age or physical limitations. I have attended 2 funerals knowing I enhanced their end of life experiences. 🤗👍🥳

“Buying time”. …..absolutely worth it. Why I love Insta cart!

@Finchersfarmstead

2 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely!

My favorite daily activity is hiking with good friends to watch the sunset from a viewpoint. We bring food to eat together. It makes me both healthy and happy which certainly adds to my time on earth! It's virtually free and often the greatest show on earth!

*Hope everyone reading this has an incredible day and finds the motivation they need to pursue their greatest potential! May this year be a successful year that brings you wealth and happiness!*

@lydiasalerno2320

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks and the same to you! Take care 😊

@May-xt9pv

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Miriam..right back at you!

@miriamstrauss

2 жыл бұрын

@@May-xt9pv You're welcome!

@atomictraveller

2 жыл бұрын

"greatest potential" "motivation" oh i think we know about weed already

I like the concept of not wasting money on further purchases of possessions, but I’ve experienced the other side of this research, paying for experiences to have with others and they didn’t get the same or any enjoyment out of it, buying gifts for others that didn’t appear to be appreciated, and paying for someone to do the task that I could have actually performed better. I’ve found the most enjoyable times to be moments of peace, when your able to be still and just watch, the time is just yours with no need to purchase or spend or worry.

@vee8648

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree :)

My best memories as a child were the experiences my parents gave me. Ice skating, skiing, camping, hiking, trips to the beach, theme parks, even the simple birthday party at home, roads trips to visit family. These are among the most precious to me and they make me happy. And I also found joy in buying experiences for my children, yearly zoo pass, visits to the apple orchid or pumpkin farm, swimming, art exhibits... I could go on!

I will add a fourth: buy/prepare/eat nutrient-rich foods. It's difficult to be happy if you are unhealthy. (I would also recommend regular exercise, but you can do that for free.)

@blupyxi5669

2 жыл бұрын

So simple and so true. Also meditation whether you are "good at it" or not.

@spinalcrackerbox

2 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@TheFeldhamster

2 жыл бұрын

You might want to hire a personal trainer or access to group training if your motivation is lacking. Would that count as "buying motivation"? Maybe things like coaching, that help you to choose to do things that are good for you in the long run should be it's own category. Trainer, nutritionist / stuff like weight watchers / groups like AA (ok, they're free) / life coach / therapist...

@MrCmon113

2 жыл бұрын

If you're living in a first world country, you won't be unhealthy, because your food lacks nutrients. To the contrary, you might well get unhealthy, because your food is TOO NUTRITIOUS and you get fat.

@TheFeldhamster

2 жыл бұрын

@@MrCmon113 you're mistaking "calorie rich" with "nutritious". Highly processed food in first world countries will have lots of what we call "empty calories" - sugar, fat, salt. But can still lack essential micronutrients. Like vitamins and minerals that the body needs. Or dietary fiber. So, you get fat while still being malnourished and still feel hungry (from lack of fiber). Malnourishment isn't just when you get too few calories.

Love the 3rd point- buying time to reduce negative experience,

@seerguru6896

2 жыл бұрын

If gardening and mowing are fun then don’t hire . I may be getting a pool service tho

YES to Buying time … paying another (to do lawn, snow removal, rake leaves, etc) … removing negative experiences … reduce stress … build relationships !!

@cdsersd2d

2 жыл бұрын

We took out our lawn and use bark and plants instead of green lawn. Best decision we ever made. Saved water and work. No more mowing or broken sprinkler heads.

I've always valued experiences over things. But I hired a housekeeper to come by every 2 or 3 weeks, and it's transformed my life. I work pretty hard, and having time on the weekends for people, experiences and hobbies has made me so much happier. I felt so guilty at first, but the housekeeper is a mom from my neighborhood. She leans houses part-time to help her family, and she is grateful for the flexible work. It's a win for everyone.

1. Experiences 2. Spending money on others 3. Buying time (delegating)

In my twenties I quit my job and traveled all over Europe South America and the US..it was a great experience but what I remember most was the older people who said it was good to do what I was doing young..since waiting meant for them being unable to do things free and easy especially physically..it also made me aware of staying healthy and taking care of my body..now I’m an old fart but look forward to many adventures in the future..take care everybody!

So true on the second point. I'm fortunate enough that my income wasn't really impacted over the last 18 months but I have a few friends that it devastated them. Last time we were together we were heading to dinner and I overheard them discussing who can cover and when they'll get their next unemployment check etc. I immediately ended that conversation and covered the bill. Nothing too outrageous but I appreciated the feeling I got letting them know I cared enough and appreciated my ability to do so.

@annedonnellan6876

2 жыл бұрын

Perhaps your friends could set up a cooperative either formally or informally. Either set up a small company or bartee services a ong your friends.

@17thUnicorn

2 жыл бұрын

I love it!

@gizellea8056

2 жыл бұрын

I deeply appreciate your response. When I have had extra money in the past, I have treated friends who were strapped financially. I'm in that position now and it touches me when a friend or family member invites me out and insists on covering the bill.

@Sacred-Heart-of-Jesus829

2 жыл бұрын

That is really awesome! 💘

It's worth $5-10.00 for someone to do my shopping and bring it to me. It is totally worth it. I'm widowed with a young boy so having "help" is helpful. Edited to add: I find it interesting that research shows people are happier helping other people than just spending on themselves. Biblically we're commanded and expected to do that and it's neat to see there's research to back up that actually being good for the people who give as well as those who receive. Twice blessed...

@yessumify

Жыл бұрын

You're right! It's just clenching the fact that God is giving us these commands for our good

I don't remember any junk I bought. I do remember who i jouneyed with, where and what we did. Such memories are fiber of life that endure.

I see buying time as purchasing things that prolong your life as well. Looking after yourself.

I'm a young, abled bodied person, so I used to think hiring a cleaner is a bit lazy, or a bit too "upper-class". But my husband (who also hates cleaning) convinced me to hire one and it's been great. They come in only once a month, yet it has taken away the pressure of having the house in perfect shape all the time. We have a toddler and a baby coming, so we much prefer to spend quality time with our family.

@emmel4fun

2 жыл бұрын

You're so lucky that you're husband was on board with getting a cleaning person. I've tried to convince my partner that we get someone to clean since cleaning is not something I like to do and neither does he. Unfortunately he doesn't think we need someone or he's too cheap.

@anaalves3658

2 жыл бұрын

Money well spent especially if small children, the time you spend playing with them is precious, make the most of it.

@joannego856

2 жыл бұрын

@@emmel4fun I hope he will reconsider when you share the findings herein.

Hi Joshua - Great video and message. Now that I'm almost 70, I get it. And your three fundamentals are right on. You learn over the years that things weight you down, but experiences give you joy. Thanks for sharing and continued success. Love PegEgg

Giving to someone has always made me happier than receiving. Often wish I could do more for people.

@greenkitty82

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I do get much more enjoyment when I can give to charity knowing it will improve the lives of others but at the same time I do enjoy some material things like books and films. These genuinely give me lots of joy that never stops so I could never be a complete minimalist. I only buy things I know I will use a long time. Otherwise I just borrow.

@atomictraveller

2 жыл бұрын

you should grow a lot of weed then

@chomperthefirst533

2 жыл бұрын

Wait a minute while I get my address… lol!

When I was a young child, my grandfather would take me and my siblings all over the state on road trips (day trips) to show us everything from historical sites, dams, mule driven mills,………….. you name it. He would take me out to a rural area and sit patiently in his car for hours just to let me shoot my BB gun. The experiences I had with him and because of him still brings me joy just to reminisce on.

@extra2ab

2 жыл бұрын

♥️♥️♥️my grandfather too did the same

@bethheerten1132

Жыл бұрын

What wonderful memories you have.

WOW!!!! So true!!!!! I used to love to buy clothes but now it’s just a necessity when useful clothes are worn out. May as well replace them at the 2nd hand shops and then using our money where it matters.

Grocery pickup is peace of mind for us too! I like the drive there & back; a time to bond with the kids or rock out to tunes, or just chat a bit. It limits the kids seeing all the temptations of in-store distractions , feeling like they “need” something new to bring home. And we don’t have as many unnecessary or compulsive purchases - if it wasn’t on the order list by the previous night, its too late! :)

When I reflect on these three uses of money, I can see that I never regret spending money on a vacation or an event. Good memories are the topic of discussion, not money spent. I feel similarly about giving to others--a desire to give or do more is the outcome. The last use is especially poignant these days as during lockdown, both my husband and I realized that we were spending too much time in the car away from home and family. I changed my job as a result of this realization and am much happier with a ten minute commute. Excellent content as always. Many thanks.

@Izabela-ek5nh

2 жыл бұрын

In my family spending money for any events or trips was a complete waste. Amazing how old pattern affect us now - I always feel guilty when I choose to spend money on travelling or other experience like going to workshop. It is a constant struggle.

@lizziemcdougall2767

2 жыл бұрын

@@Izabela-ek5nh Thanks for replying. I don't think that you should feel guilty for spending money on a planned trip or workshop. As long as you have saved money in advance for it, positive experiences and learning experiences are worth the money.

Last year we hired a guy to rake & remove the leaves in our yard. Omg it was such a gift to ourselves! Gift in time & health. Love the video! Ty!

Well said! I don't regret one cent of the money I have spent on international travel. In fact with COVID making tourism uncertain for years to come, I am even happier that I have done those trips.

@TheHoriginal

Жыл бұрын

Agreed 👍 😊!!!!!!

I’m in the process of decluttering and selling stuff I no longer use, it’s satisfying making money from it and I always go the extra mile to make the customer feel like they had a great experience by wrapping it beautifully and adding thank you cards, I always get great reviews and this makes me happy 😀

Definitely yes to buying experiences! Instead of toys my kids get experience from grandparents at xmas and bdays and so far they have done indoor skydives and the uk's longest zipwire across the mountains and they l loved it!

I find that I have never had to photograph “experiences” . They are in my heart forever.

@sis_yd_jesuschrist

2 жыл бұрын

My phone was even off on my wedding day. I received photos from my guests😂

@calliemyersbuchanan6458

2 жыл бұрын

I actually disagree with this one somewhat. I'm a "reliver". It also effects the way i look back at the day. Took my mom to the zoo a few dayz ago. Had a horrible experience near the end of the day that tainted my reflection on the day. However i have a fantastic video of my mom feeding and being french kissed by a giraffe. Helps reinforce the positive memories. Same for my wedding. The only thing i have recently learned though is to take photos/video of unique elements of the experience such as shots of your own group. The zoo is a great example. I used to be the kind of person to take a picture of every animal we saw. Or when we went to popular tourist destinations i would be taking pictures of whatever landmark we saw instead of just taking it in and being in the moment. Plus thousands of pros have taken those shots for me!! We have over 10,000 physical pictures from my grandfather's travels and it's mostly landscapes and landmarks. he's only actually in a few of them! He's gone now. Guess which pictures we care more about?

@emmel4fun

2 жыл бұрын

@@calliemyersbuchanan6458 I had never heard anyone talk about this picture thing before but I have to say I agree. In the past when I had pictures developed and was ready to put them in an album, I found that the ones with landscapes and landmarks didn't really satisfy me and I didn't feel like they were good enough to put in an album. The ones with people in them were so much more worthy of displaying.

@jazzbeau507

2 жыл бұрын

memory can be vivid, but can get somehow distorted or not as vivid as you think; take some photos.

@marti220

2 жыл бұрын

The problem is when people spend so much time taking pictures to post on Facebook later that they aren't enjoying whatever they were doing.

I spend a lot of money going out to eat, and if it eases my depression at all, I will keep doing it.

@lindavanderhoef7674

2 жыл бұрын

I never thought of this. I have been diagnosed with high anxiety & depression. Since the kids are gone, I cook very little. I keep beating myself up over it. I would have to do a lot of thinking, about spending the $$ to eat out & eat healthy. One has to buy food for the house & its costly to eat out. If I thought I could afford to eat healthy meals out, I would choose every other day. Its my husband & myself. Thanks for giving me something to think about.

@socalfriend6985

2 жыл бұрын

My parents enjoy eating out too, and I think it is a good way to eat a varied diet and socialize. I need to cook at home to keep an eye on ingredients and calories.

@brianpan6453

2 жыл бұрын

Just try for awhile ... maybe even a few weeks? .. eating a bowl of cereal for breakfast, small salad and an apple or peach or plum or banana for lunch and, finally, a can of soup (any kind) for dinner with fresh bread or crackers (ok, a choc bar if you need it for dessert). That's like a 10-12 dollar a day food budget accompanied with walking one to two miles a day. The majority of people should be able to do this. JUST TRY IT FOR TWO WEEKS! Then compare how you feel with how you are now. You would be amazed.

@annemccabe1714

2 жыл бұрын

@@brianpan6453 Thank you Brian for your sensible advice, especially in this day & age, when Iots of people have gained weight due to the covid pandemic! 🌿 🐦 🌸 🌿 🐦 🌸 🌿 🐦 🌸 🌿

@kalo924

2 жыл бұрын

@@socalfriend6985 me too.

Great video! 1. Purchase experiences 2. Spending money on others 3. Buying time

Having a commute that is guaranteed to be under 20 minutes is a beautiful thing.

brilliant!! I agree-i’m a big believer in buying my time back-it’s worth so much in mental health; the mental load; time to enjoy life and relax. absolutely agree.

One of my definitions of happiness: Find a good mechanic, buy an old car that you can drive into the dirt with A/C and not worry about dents and scratches. Two : take real good time to keep in shape, mentally and physically. Three : look at money as maybe a form of having a little bit of independence - so you can choose amongst the options of modern life caos.

Like has been mentioned in other comments, buying time can look like so many different things. I love how it basically means simplifying our life, something I love learning about 😉 for me, it means simply donating clothes and items I dont want as opposed to spending time listing them online for only to get a few $$. Or buying frozen veggies in the store as opposed to trying to grow enough to freeze for the winter, as many of my friends and family seem to enjoy doing. Or even something as small as buying pie crusts instead of making them 😉😊

I'm surprised nothing was said about learning something new i.e. exercise for the mind - which is very important for happiness. I was never happier than when at university even when attending as a mature student. Now I've retired early, mainly because I can't motivate myself to work 60 hr /week for next to nothing and also the fact that I am now financially secure due mainly having saved all my life.

@pachecodecastro2593

8 ай бұрын

Learning new things falls into the “experiences” category.

I bought a book as a gift for each of 3individuals today. I felt so good.

Peace of Mind: this can vary depending on a person's circumstances - health insurance if you are at an older age or have issues where health care becomes worrisome - paying off debt if you are financially stressed - paying more for rent/mortgage to move away from high crime area

@rogerdevero8726

2 жыл бұрын

Health Insurance? What about 'Eternity Insurance'?

@gaillewis5472

2 жыл бұрын

You should have health insurance at any age. Wellness is important throughout life. Annual physical exams and routine dental cleanings are vital for good health.

Modest homes are being torn down and rebuilt for huge homes for smaller than ever families or even just childfree couples. This will make it even more difficult for older couples and singles to find homes later (or even currently).

@ratherbfishing455

2 жыл бұрын

Homes in my city start at $500,000. Yankees are moving here and buying houses sight unseen :( a couple of years ago, you could buy something for about $200,000.

@rockstarofredondo

2 жыл бұрын

I know a childless couple that works all the time except for their 2 week yearly vacation. They have a 5400 square foot home just for the two of them and they live somewhere that requires AC all summer. Can you imagine such waste?

My parrot, a motorcycle, and a trip to India are the purchases that have brought me the greatest joy, so I guess those kind of fit with "experiences."

I go hiking in forests, 2 weeks ago I went to Mt Washington . I spent $36 on GWB and gas. I want to go back so bad. I was happy there and I cherish memories of nature. It was beautiful.

@justgivemethetruth

2 жыл бұрын

what is GWB?

Glad I watched this video. What he says is very true. And the fact that he gets to the point without having to babble for 30 minutes with his background, sponsors, etc.. shows he means it. I agree that helping others regardless of how little or much you can give has its own reward. I don't have a lot of money, but I do give to specific charities on a regular basis and I know from the thank yous I get the money is well used for the benefit of people I will never meet in this life. I have spent a lot of money on things in my life that have not brought happiness. I have a ton of books, CDs, DVDs. yet the one thing missing is being able to share those things with a partner.

Buying good quality food can contribute to happiness (in the long run), because your health is your wealth! I always find it strange to see miljonair KZreadrs only eating junk food and packaged stuff or powders. Or rich family members saving on their groceries but living in a McMansion and drinking alcohol every night. If you can afford it: nourish your body with a Whole Foods Plantbased diet with lots of fruits and veggies. Sometimes it's even a lot cheaper than the standard American diet but it depends on where you live.

@TheJoyfulEye

2 жыл бұрын

So true! If you lose your health you won't be able to enjoy experiences, give to others (because of doctor bills), or enjoy your time when you buy it.

@Gigi-VG

2 жыл бұрын

Totally 💯 true!!!

@itgetter9

2 жыл бұрын

Hear, hear! Great comment.

@downbntout

2 жыл бұрын

Those who say plant diets cost too much, look at meat prices and don't forget to calculate in surgeries for heart disease. And the things you never did bc you were tired

@ladymacbethofmtensk896

2 жыл бұрын

Or better yet, have a diet based on genuine food, real meat, real dairy, real fat, real sugar, and take your time at meals.

Yesss. Buying time is big. Time is a limited recource. I want to have time for resting, socializing and hobbies.

Wonderful! We started doing grocery pick up several months ago, and we just love it. This is one thing we learned from the pandemic. It was so cool to see a Dick Clark clip! I wonder how many people commenting remember him

@jackieo2403

2 жыл бұрын

I do!! :)

@mindibear

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I also signed up for water delivery and love it! No more lugging 10 jugs of water from the store into my car and then into my house several times a month. I dreaded it. Now my life is so much easier.

Josh you blew me away with the last one. Buying time. I've been buying time unknowingly. It has brought me so much joy and freedom. Thank you for opening my eyes

I think investing in wellness for me would be pretty high on this list. Getting as healthy as one can and reasonably maintaining it seems to me to elevate all the other areas of life and the ability to share, lift, give and connect. Pro social spending ranks pretty high as well. It’s a toggle between wellness and this for number one. I didn’t realize how much satisfaction a few houseplants would be for me, along with having the company of the sweetest cat I’ve yet to have. They both bring me daily joy unlike the usual positives of life. I actually enjoy doing my own essentials shopping and for the most part the housekeeping. I don’t think I want to give up physical work of this kind entirely because I believe it has inherent enrichment for the soul. Although with the housekeeping, I admit I probably enjoy the satisfaction of a job well done and having it completed more than doing it. When it comes to shopping, I still like seeing what’s new, cultivating our home life in person rather than online and following what the prices are; figuring out our preferred brands and managing our home storage supplies. I did start ordering the pet supplies online and that has worked out for the most part. There’s less to cart from the store to the car, from the car to the house and I don’t switch brands enough that I have to fuss with returns. I really don’t like making returns for whatever reason. Perhaps online shopping will become more important to me at a later date. We shall see. With the means I wouldn’t mind hiring out my wardrobe shopping to a stylist. I’m fairly a minimalist in that category but I think in my imagination there is someone who could help me find better quality items that I actually like and stick with. I’ve gotten better over the years not buying what I’m less likely to care to wear. I don’t care much for the do it yourself home projects, maintenance, repairs and landscaping design but I think vegetable gardening may be it for me someday. Our housing hasn’t offered much opportunity for this other than a patio garden and so forth, but perhaps in the next move wherever that be. Gardening also coincides for me with the pro social as I’d love to have a huge garden and donate the surplus. Perhaps I would be willing to hire out some of that work if it wasn’t practical to manage myself. I love learning so having access to the world vicariously helps with the “experiences” mentioned in this video. Fantastic literature, cultures, the sciences, spirituality, human stories and more can be such a thrill and awe.

Another awesome video from you Joshua! So thoughtful, well presented, and what a twist! Buying time leads to happiness.

I like tip #3 best. Although I'm retired & living on a very fixed income, I do have what I need. There are tasks that everyone hates doing. Paying someone else to do them for you may seem frivolous to folks who are struggling financially but I think it may tick more than one box here. It frees up time for you to enjoy some other activity, or experience, but it also provides the person you hire with a bit of money they may really need, ie. doing a nice thing to help them a bit in their struggle. tick, tick, tick.

Again spot on! I need more happiness in my life and you answered my deepest questions. Thank you and God bless!😊

Thank you for this! Yes, I agree with buying the removal of negative experiences.

I like that I can contribute to various causes I believe in. I am glad we did the traveling we did before Covid, and I look forward to more. Thanks. Tina

Love your content and will keep watching! ❤ I’m so happy that there are researches on what you can buy to INCREASE happiness, not lifestyle creep. At the end of the day, money is just a tool, and it’s only valuable when it’s spent on things that truly matters😊

Another good message. Thanks for sharing. You are appreciated.

The Rainbow Fish! Sorry we just read it and talked about what really makes someone happy. It's kinda the kids version of this video. Giving to others & the experience of friendship.

Personally, I think that the best way to be happy is to do what you love and try to spend as much time as you can with those that you care for. All those 3 tips are great, but what if you can spend money on others, experiences and even buy time but then you´re bored? I am not about bragging here, but I have 2 maids and a gardener (where I am living now, it is way affordable to have staff... I am not rich, just a lucky guy.), I donate to several causes, and I go out for dinner (or order food) and travel when I can... but when I travel alone (for various reasons) or sit in my living room trying to find something to do with my time it just gets boring... so in conclusion, happiness can be free, you just gotta do what you love WITH someone else that you care for. (That´s just my take)

I'm 65+. In my lifetime, I've given the contents of 5, 2 bed flats away, and provided labour to several, to set up their future food needs. All was done without thought of reward - that came with the gifting. Now, this latest lot of "stuff", is to be sold, to help defray expenses involved, in teaching, poorly taught professionals, "tricks of their trades". I trust that they learn, & apply the knowledge to help their future clients. Namaste 🙏 💟

I feel great when I buy time. It makes me feel good because I have more time for myself and I feel good knowing that I’m helping others who help me achieve this. Groceries, yard work, etc.

D'accord. We have some plumbing issues and though I am expertly qualified, I liked being able to hire an equally qualified plumber recommended by my student who is asking us to buy the parts, and the labour will only be 600 pesos! Super happy about that! Never thought about it before. Thanks, Joshua!

By the way, most of the experiences I've enjoyed were things that were free.

@soniaventura9244

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

Thank you Joshua for another great video. You ‘hit the nail on the head’ every time. This video has really resonated with me.

Thank you for your videos! I have recently started watching them and they sound full of Wisdom. Greetings from Panamá

I purchased two tickets to a minor league baseball game in my city recently. We don’t have MLB quite yet. It’s over July 4 weekend and they are having post game fireworks. I have a daughter who I’ve taught about baseball and we play catch as often as we can. She has a very good arm for 12 year old. I hope it will be an enjoyable time. It cost $51 total for the tickets. I got fuel yesterday and it was $30. The allocation of money to buy experiences is not hard, it just take a little thought and maybe a few trade offs. You are helping people with this by your videos.

I've waited for nearly a year to buy myself a robovac. It's a year now that I have one & so grateful for it. One of my top buys for saving time on something I don't like to do, but it needs to be done daily. 😊❤

@Galen_G

2 жыл бұрын

I named mine Andrew. I just love that little guy!

On this list, I love helping people. One the best and rewarding experiences. ☺

Love the last tip - Buying time. It is so important to value your time.