Showing my husband that I honored, respected and loved him (he know that without a doubt) gave me comfort, I did not have to think "if only he knew how much I loved him, respected him," when he passed away, do not wait till it's too late, I am honoring my husband now by passing this important information on. RIP Tim💗🙏

@EE-hi4re

Жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss

@steveredstone1711

Жыл бұрын

Requiescat in Pace

@ArielGonzalez1

Жыл бұрын

This actually made cry of just imagining that tim left this world with, at least, some peace and happiness

@paulprice1705

Жыл бұрын

Your a good woman and he no doubt knew this in you and how you felt. Without respect love cannot sustain and grow and I pity the youth that are being taught that it is empowered womanhood to disrespect men and themselves and it will lead so many to misery. Sorry for your loss and again: You are a good woman.

@TheMarrethiel

Жыл бұрын

Rip, I am sure he is.

1. Honour and Respect 2. Support 3. Physical Affection

@colinpatterson728

2 жыл бұрын

@@jacqueandrew1033 - Do yo mean physical affection ?

@saramaxwell7868

2 жыл бұрын

Men needs to respect women, degrading, MONEY, sex

@violetglashin8979

2 жыл бұрын

Also the very very same, needs to be shown to women as well

@violetglashin8979

2 жыл бұрын

Also the very very same, needs to be shown to women as well

@chris532008

2 жыл бұрын

return to patrichial system abolish communism

My wife and I have been married 20. My wife has done these 3 things consistently for the last 18 years. We have an amazing marriage and we are falling in love all over again. The 5 love languages book was a huge turning point in our lives. Kudos to this woman.

@pitacanini1880

2 жыл бұрын

7

@karlgritsch2098

4 күн бұрын

I envy you.😢

I'm glad that I found your channel in my early 20's ( I'm 23) bcuz modern feminism would have killed me. I am a very caring person and I always feel like being a housewife, or at least working part time would be a better option for me instead of hustling and they always told that I was wrong. Thank God I found you🙏

@Kalinga_yodha

2 жыл бұрын

Just make sure don't coincide the feminism and gender equality both are different in nature.

@chiefsnarlsnortz1610

2 жыл бұрын

Good Luck 🍀 I’m 63 ugh 😑

@chris532008

2 жыл бұрын

and because women mature emotionaly 11 years sooner than males but age physically 11 years sooner there need be 11 years younger than male to minimize conflicts and age gracefully together rathar than disputes and divorces

@anbanandantp4506

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct and if every woman follows it the relationship will be joyous and peaceful forwarded forever 💙

@steveredstone1711

Жыл бұрын

@@chris532008 That's a modern-day problem I think. People in my village would mature really young. Like 10 years the old child had the mindset of 30 year old. Obviously, things were tight back then.

I am a 63 man and I tell you this woman hit the nail on the head.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@machinecore500

2 жыл бұрын

👍

@benlotus2703

2 жыл бұрын

Mad Jack (my uncle) used to say to me : 'The soul of man is divided into three parts: intelligence, reason and passion. Intelligence and passion are possessed by other animals, but reason by man alone.' - Pythagoras (c.570 - c.495 BC) women = Lacking in reason & logic

@vickmurray5751

2 жыл бұрын

@@RebeccaBarrett As I think you can see 👀 there are few women here online thanking you for that extremely sound advice? Very 😟 unfortunate, but it's unlikely that any significant % percentage of "mod-women" in our culture today will even think about taking heed to that wonderful relationship advice you gave?.. So 😥 sad, but true..

@vickmurray5751

2 жыл бұрын

@@RebeccaBarrett Please keep putting it out there.. Some ladies will eventually start listening to reason? Maybe?.. In The Meantime, Guys will Be Like 🚀 Jetting ✈ Out On Them..! Fellas.. *NEVER MARRY A FEMINIST!* 👩 If she happens to be the only type of girl to date available at the ⌚ time_ cool Ok, kick it with her a bit. But, Do Not Marry Her! (We've gotta be careful, don't knock-up a Chick you know that you ain't gonna be with?) Stay on point, keep on your mission! Guys.. We've gotta "collectively" drop these "femfatales" like 🔥 hot 🍳 skillets! When they 👀 see their more feminine 💃 counterparts move on to more fulfilling, harmonious relationships, and_ that they're not being chosen in mass perhaps, they'll finally get the message? Or, they can just stay right where they are, kicked to the curb & left in the dust, with their feminist attitudes and all... ✌😎

Work with your hubby..dont nag him to death.Make him believe in himself. IF you do that us men will move mountains for you.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

100% correct!

@190averagebowler9

2 жыл бұрын

@@RebeccaBarrett also some peace and space

@fabricembida4526

2 жыл бұрын

Soo true. It is a matter of disagreement often with my girlfriend. Sometimes she cannot understand that I need may be 2 hrs per day to do my own thing, all alone, in my corner without interacting with her...

@seankelly6461

2 жыл бұрын

@@fabricembida4526 exactly..we need peace.Send your emotional needs to the garbage bin for awhile.

@SynnJynn

2 жыл бұрын

Agree! I have never had to nag my husband. I ask and he does not because he feels he has to but because he loves me and knows I will do the same for him. I pray every morning and evening thanking God that I am blessed with a wonderful husband.

This was a great video. Another suggestion I would make along with the lines of physical affection, is to avoid the “frump” syndrome which is basically after women get in a serious relationship, married, or even have kids. They tend to become frumpy so like they don’t comb or brush their hair, stay in their pjs all day, don’t wear anything cute to bed, and gain weight. Like I think we have all heard and read but men are visual people, and how you present yourself to your man is a reflection of that. Just another tip :)

@Aphrodite_ErosLuvChild214-80

Жыл бұрын

Duh that's not housewives do that's the professional women I've noticed never in history was a housewife frumpy ! Go look for yourself

@linalicious415

Жыл бұрын

My mother taught me exactly this

@n.d.m.515

Жыл бұрын

The same goes for men and not just women.

@Fitmom312

11 ай бұрын

@@n.d.m.515Of course. Not really relevant though. This is a conversation about women.

She is correct. I knew that respect was the most important thing that I wanted from my wife even before I read the literature saying that it was a man's number one need. Also, yes, physical touch is my primary love language. Sex is an important part of it, but it is much more than just that. Quality time was my close second love language. I lost my wife to cancer, but her primary love language was acts of service.

@djsmigs

11 ай бұрын

Same bro!!! And every married friend of mine is the same too

This woman needs to be protected at all costs. She gets it.

@aniveksinned2782

2 жыл бұрын

She will lie and cheat too to better her situation dude. It's called hypergamy.

@last7509

2 жыл бұрын

the list is food, s, and silence. see chris rock.

@Spaceysgurl

2 жыл бұрын

@@last7509 the 3 Fs

@livsstilen

2 жыл бұрын

I think most women gets it. They just disregard the real world

@NormanLy101

2 жыл бұрын

The Force is strong in this one...but she's not a Jedi yet.

My God. This lady totally gets us. We're very simple creatures, but 99% of women have no regard for even our basics.

@jimmymac601

2 жыл бұрын

And feminists wonder why men want to marry a woman like her. Attractive , feminine and respects and supports her husband.

@jimmymac601

2 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Tanaka says the banana gobbler.

@jimmymac601

2 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Tanaka Jezebel ? Did they just defrost you ?

@Ace-ns9co

2 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Tanaka I think you would have some tears of your own - reading the comment section on a clip like this..

@angryginger791

2 жыл бұрын

@Sarah Belkerson Oh, is it your genetic memory that keeps reminding you of the "thousands of years" of serving you DIDN'T do? You stated your problem perfectly. You're selfish. No one is asking you to "serve" us. We're asking for a mutually giving relationship. You want respect, but offer none, and you will probably never learn because what all feminists lack is accountability. You'll just keep blaming the patriarchy or some other bullshit, then wonder why no guy wants anything to do with you. Enjoy your lonely life!

I absolutely love this channel! I grew up in a traditional house hold then in high school and college became exposed to a very feminist world I didnt realize how in trouble I was until I was engaged and how I needed to fix myself to be a better wife. Being newly married I definitely see how being submissive to my husband and letting him be the man makes him and myself happier! I do definitely need the reminders though especially with how much our society blurs the lines between women's and men's roles.

This lady hits the nail right on the head. If women could realize and understand this, human life will definitely go back to basic principles of nature. Thank you Rebecca for bringing this absolute facts to light. You're a light to women. You deserve much more love 💘 and respect. If you were my woman, I would do anything for you that you would want me to. I would wash your feet, spoil you in anyway that you would want me to, I would worship you. Keep well 🙏

Men who can choose between love or respect; choose respect every time

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

@TheAdamSmasherMultiverse

2 жыл бұрын

Facts. Its our currency. Respect is love for us

@dallasbrat81

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheAdamSmasherMultiverse I don't care about a woman's respect , I want my brothers respect and woman's desire that's it.

@JKMcClaren1979

2 жыл бұрын

Truth

@anxietyebriety6553

2 жыл бұрын

It's not mutally exclusive. If she's not attracted to me im completely turned off and ill be gone before she can blink. If she doesn't respect me, that's the same thing as love. Now if you're talking love as in sex, sex is necessary obviously because why would a guy date you if he isnt getting any? But with that said sex does comfortably take a back seat if other needs are met. If other needs like valuing him arent met then thats when sex becomes the forfront because it's like "youre not giving me what I want emotionally" so Imma get what I can from you physically and dip.

At least you are married and giving advice. Wrecks my head when single women are making content about something they don't practice.

@benlotus2703

2 жыл бұрын

Valid point

@blaxpoitation8528

2 жыл бұрын

That's facts bro

@kuuryotwo5153

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. Never, *ever* take advice from someone that's not capable of doing in practice what they're attempting to teach you. You don't go to a white belt to learn self defense, you don't learn to shoot from someone that's never held a pistol, you shouldn't take relationship advice from someone that's never had a relationship last longer than 3 months.

@yveje9720

2 жыл бұрын

@@kuuryotwo5153like kevin samuels? Lol

@icecold9511

2 жыл бұрын

@@yveje9720 He's mostly just telling them how a guy sees it and uses logic to explain results of choices. Many of the women approach him thinking men pick based on what motivates her. "I want someone to comfort me in my old age." Okay. But men want to play with grandchildren in their old age, or go fishing( or his personal equivalent thereof). A honeydo works against that goal.

WOW. Not once have I ever heard these things be pointed out, and it's absolutely blown my mind. I've never been able to put it into words, but you've done it for me. Love it

This is so true. No one has put it in words so simply and eloquently. Respect, Support and physical affection. Thanks lady.

I am in shock, a woman being honest, and truthful about a man’s needs, did the world just stop spinning, is this a dream, a woman that speaks about a common sense approach to a successful relationship,or did l just fall off the planet. Whoever you are , thank you for sharing your brilliant words of wisdom, it takes true courage to speak the truth.

@randalcolucci6833

2 жыл бұрын

Like women out in radioland give a damn about what she said

@c-yah1325

2 жыл бұрын

Stop with the foolishness. The earth is flat lol.

@barrylast8655

2 жыл бұрын

Chameleon?!

@keithmoriyama5421

2 жыл бұрын

I agree! Now we only have 3.5 billion females to educate.

@fluffyjoker69

2 жыл бұрын

Lol, don't worry guys it's only 1 woman who thinks like this, the rest are just as terrible as we already know

I like the coach metaphor. My wife explained it once as we went shopping before I started a new job. She was picking out my clothing and described it as my armor. She gives me the weapons I need to represent our family. My wife isn't my squire, she's my princess and I am her champion.

@SynnJynn

2 жыл бұрын

Aww... so heartwarming. You have a wonderful,loving, marriage!

@WheresWaldo05

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry but I'll pick put my own clothes thank you very much. I'm not incapable. I know a shyt ton of men are in that regard.

@damonhart1268

2 жыл бұрын

if she was picking out YOUR clothes , then she is being your Mommy.

@PhoebeBouley2212

2 жыл бұрын

I dig the name. Most people won't get it.

@ruckboger

2 жыл бұрын

​@@damonhart1268 Well, she is the mother of our children and does play a motherly role but I think the analogy falls short after that. I prefer to view it rather as seeing to each other's well being.

One of your videos popped up in my KZread feed.and I'm so glad I watched it. I'm so glad you have an understanding and sense of compassion of what we as men feel. Thank you for not being biased and for telling what we as men and women need to hear

@RiyaSharma-fx5sl

2 жыл бұрын

You should really watch the queer kiwi's video. She i think gets it better.

@anthonyrodriguez2382

2 жыл бұрын

@@RiyaSharma-fx5sl I'll definitely check it out, thank you for the suggestion

Rebecca...you nailed it. Yes, these are the primarily 3 major causes that destroy relationship and replace feelings with agony. I am on the verge of parting away from my 23+ year old marriage. And you have got almost all summerised in just 5 mins. video.

We just not just want "sex", but physical tenderness, this is more appropriate to say. Sex is part of it, but not the whole thing.

@carlsutherland3730

2 жыл бұрын

I liked her words better.

@brianjacobsen5762

2 жыл бұрын

At least slap me on the back of the head call me an asshole as you float by.

@rickt1154

2 жыл бұрын

@@brianjacobsen5762 Yeah, that silent treatment really sucks.

@brianjacobsen5762

2 жыл бұрын

@@rickt1154 Not exactly That would be a perfect world.

@UristMcFarmer

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking about this recently and it seems to me that what has happened is that, as men, we're brought up to be tough and are slowly starved of physical affection as we get older because only the weak need affection. The only time it's acceptable for us to have physical affection is when it is a part of sex. Then we don't know there is a difference between the two. Then we get ourselves in all sorts of trouble with promiscuity and infidelity because we don't know how to read our needs. For example, I know if I'm craving chocolate milk, I'm thirsty and I just need to chug some water and the craving will go away.

My wife stopped giving me these things around the time she became a Vice President at work.She became the one who decides everything and criticizes everything I and our sons do. It disgusts me. My sons constantly complain how their mother now is.

@wolewole7800

2 жыл бұрын

@@WhyteHorse2023 He has also KZread channel (same name). His videos have usually up to 3 hours long, but are full of mind-blowing info. Diving through it will change your life (no exaggeration). Take the red pill.

@davisholman8149

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry. You deserve to be treated with respect. Just a suggested - next time she starts barking orders at you, tell her to “go back to the office, Mr. Vice President.” 🤨

@paolafriedrick

2 жыл бұрын

you just got an involuntary change of roles in your relationship. Pray for your wife and for your marriage, pray together if you can, read how the Bible talks about "women honor your husbands, husbands cherish and love your wide like Jesus loves the church that died for us"

@segenm950

2 жыл бұрын

Kk

@timdietel9797

2 жыл бұрын

Well Mr. Gray... serious upside to your situation is, she'll be paying alimony to you while you enjoy your new girlfriend 😎

Well said!!! Honor/Respect, Support and Physical warmth,/affection/ love making!!!

There is a beautiful dance to the vision you put forward in this video and the one for women’s need. When a woman feels safe and secure she will want to honor and respect the man who provides that. If a man feels like you are on his team, he will want to listen to you and here your thoughts and needs. The affection needed by women is a great conduit to lead to the sex a man needs. The hard part is conversely, these can be very hard to connect when one or both are failing to serve the other in that way. If a woman doesn’t feel safe she will not respect her husband. If a mans affection is never reciprocated with sex he may be tempted to with hold affection. Humility and a decision to seek to care for your spouse in the way they need it can lead to an amazing complimentary relationship.

The fact that this even needs to be said is the reason men have gone their own way.

@kampalamanuel4263

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯

@bitchmood7658

2 жыл бұрын

It didn't need to be said. This lady makes a living pandering to you idiots and y'all keep falling for it

@Valconize

2 жыл бұрын

@@bitchmood7658 wwll she's not saying anything wrong and just as long as her intentions are right it's OK.

@bitchmood7658

2 жыл бұрын

@@Valconize this lady isn't wrong, but she's acting as if most women don't know this already. It's common sense.

@walterpont2882

2 жыл бұрын

@@bitchmood7658 and your name is?

Just got divorced from a woman who believed that if she gave me any of these, it would be tantamount to subservient.

@h2t26

2 жыл бұрын

Feminism can ruins marriages.

@dwarden3

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats!

@bobbyscalchi4013

2 жыл бұрын

Feminist

@bobbyscalchi4013

2 жыл бұрын

I've said this across multiple red pill and psych channels. Women confuse the word servitude and submissive and the definition of it with something opprrssive and controlling. Love. Real love. Agape love not romantical whimsical love is submitting yourself with trust and vulnerability before someone worthy of it. Even Jesus Christ knew better. He washed the feet of his own aoostles despite being their master.

@aaronburdon221

2 жыл бұрын

Submission is not the same as subservience. Submission is given willingly out of love or at least respect. Subservience is given out of fear or danger. A lot of women mix these 2 words up. Men submit to their women and women submit to their men. Women submit a lot of their autonomy to his leadership outside of the home, and men submit a lot of their autonomy inside the home. Both sides need to be honored because both are equally important if they're doing their job correctly.

This woman is truly a crown to her husband. God bless you, Rebecca And God bless everyone reading this! Jesus loves ya!

@marshablesszion7349

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@kersimistry6690

2 жыл бұрын

What u said was absolutely correct but l will add that men's foremost love is through his stomach

Wow Don't hear that everyday! You soooo nailed that! Thankyou! Going on in my household for the last 15 years! Desperately needing this, trying to convey this, I've been dismissed, told I was just overly sensative, it's just the way it is. Things change And I did go to get some attention, and it felt soo good. As wrong as it was, I don't regret it I tried for years , the only attention I got, was the attention I gave her

Thanks for the great reminders, Lady! Sometimes it feels like I am swimming upstream in a world that hates men, wants to turn them all into women, or just wants men and women to hate each other. Keep up the good work. This was encouraging! Gonna go love on my man🥰

@abdulmazed9163

2 жыл бұрын

I like your advice. I have some requests to you. Question is, 1. Do women like wathing porn & which type prefer maximum women? 2. Who enjoys more sex, men or women? 3. Who is feeling better on top position, men or women? 4. Do women like younger guys than themselves & why? 5. Thick or slim, which type girls maximum men prefer? 6. Rough or slow passionate sex, which type maximum women prefer? 7. Do women like body hair & which part? Please do some people’s survey and explain these. Thanks

@otiswilliams1928

2 жыл бұрын

God bless this lady she is the best

@apophisca2163

2 жыл бұрын

hell yeah!

@apophisca2163

2 жыл бұрын

@@abdulmazed9163 what da?.... thats a lot your asking for answers... but hey... ill do my research and will come tell... wait for it.

@ddog210

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

All three of these are so 100% spot on and should be a given. It's such a sad fact that in today's western culture you feel guarded when you say it and worry that it's going to be too controversial.

Thank you, Rebecca! So many relationships and marriages could be revived or saved by understanding these facts. Lack of these things really erodes us.

You get it Sis ! That makes for a great dynamic in a relationship.

Need more women like you. God bless

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Haha thank you. That’s the goal of my channel, to help more women in relationships. It’s a win win for everyone 🙌

@mrbas5150

2 жыл бұрын

Don't be fooled by a trojan horse.

@keithmoriyama5421

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrbas5150 Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.

@carlsutherland3730

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrbas5150 I am confused! Who or what is the trojan horse here? Seriously. I don't get it. When you explain it to me be straight and clear.

@Ptero4

2 жыл бұрын

@@carlsutherland3730 Rebecca. The idea being that she is faking it to get something off men (revenue from youtube's monetization).

This is my first time watching your video. My life was wasted trying to please a cold, sexless woman. Divorced after 25 years. I'm 56 now. I don't recognize the dating landscape nor do I understand the "modern" woman. I have no idea where to turn or what to do. I guess I chose poorly. I'm glad there are people like you to help younger men, and women understand what relationships can be.

@UniqueBreakfastTaco

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I'm 42, but honestly happier without the harpie in my life. Find things you enjoy, and work on yourself. When these modern women get to my age, they're looking for any simp they can get to provide for them. Just don't commit to any other woman...ever. they want your money, not your love.

@cd-dw2ml

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the club. Newly divorced after 23 years. Never again.

@ponderrous2659

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, going through a divorce after 22 years. She changed, went hard left on me. Had to have everything her way and could care less what it cost me physically, emotionally, financially. When I finally pushed back and asked where we could compromise, she got a divorce attorney. Fortunately I guessed she would do that and already had one. I could have had full custody of my 7 kids, I had enough dirt on her that it was a possibility. I settled for joint custody which is a win for men in this world. Now I'm rekindling the friendships with my guy friends that died during my "marriage". Would I like a woman in my life? Sure, but it's not worth the hassle right now. Working on myself to become who I always wanted to be first. Then we'll see about relationships when I no longer "need" someone.

@johnjackson9235

2 жыл бұрын

@@cd-dw2ml I am about to go through a divorce and our 25th anniversary would have been in October

@johnjackson9235

2 жыл бұрын

@@ponderrous2659 I understand you 100%. I am currently doing the same thing: DJing, playing basketball, visiting family and friends. It is disappointing that it couldn't work, we couldn't have grown, honest, accountable conversations, and live a more balanced life. However the upside is we know better now how to create boundaries and balance.

At least once a month I watch this video to “check myself.” I am in a leadership role at work effectively acting in a “masculine energy” every day but my true self just wants to be in my feminine and in a relationship with a male who can take the reigns. It’s hard to balance both and you remind me to keep going for what I want instead of what society is pushing onto me. ❤

The 3 points you make: spot on. Just one thing: men who have their stuff together don't "desperately need" anything. If we did, MGTOW would not be a thing. These are things a quality woman must provide if she wants to get and keep a quality man. If she doesn't, he eventually "gets" that she doesn't really want him (as her lack of actions in these areas communicate this), so he packs up and moves on. Ladies, don't ask where have all the good men gone if you refuse to do any of these things for any man. I don't stay where I'm not wanted. Neither do most other men in my experience, quality or otherwise. The few that are weak and clingy, no one wants. 29 years together, 23 married, wife and I still very much into each other. Yes I get these from her even now.

@IndyMotoRider

Жыл бұрын

I was going to say this, but at the very beginning she said "for relationships". Obviously if we're not seeking a relationship, doesn't apply.

@TGP109

3 ай бұрын

Maybe stop treating women as if they're needy in the first place? Women want ADULT men, not children looking to be spoiled.

Men needing physical affection as their love language is so true. I only realised just how badly I needed it when my now ex girlfriend stopped all forms of physical affection and touch with me. It literally broke me and shattered my exsistance. I think a lot of women and society think men generally don't need this sort of thing or are not bothered about it but that is completely false.

@christopherrobin361

2 жыл бұрын

I completely agree, especially since women have less problems with finding a man they can have intimacy with, but at the same time be either cruel or coldly practical with men while denying men real substance. They care little how much this hurts men unless it effects them directly.

These are gold, respect is a killer to relationships, if I'm disrespected I can't stay. To stay is to accept devaluation. I can leave someone I care about if I feel disrespected and unappreciated

@robynalvin7413

2 жыл бұрын

This young lady is spot on. Everyone deserves respect but men need it like they need air. Men desperately want respect and women desperately want to be cherished.

@jamesclear9680

2 жыл бұрын

You're right

This is actually 100% accurate. None of us are looking for an other mom.

You are so brave to say these basic things. It takes courage to be truthful. Keep it up!

Rebecca, Every Man who sees this video is thinking " Where are these Women?!!" You have spoken The Lords truth. The coach metaphor, outstanding ! Resect and trust is absolutely key! You can't Love someone unless you have that. You will raise some amazing girls someday. Best short vid. I have seen in a long---------time. thank you. Tom

@kenyo8297

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@shirleymwaanga5231

2 жыл бұрын

Whoa! Well said

Just like comedian Ron White always says, “I’m a pretty good dog, but if you don’t pet me every now and then I’m leaving the porch.” I told my Bride of 29 years about a year ago I needed it every other day to keep my head clear. God bless her, she stepped up to the plate. It's so nice not to ask or beg. I know that evey other morning she is there for me.

@johngalt5205

2 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Tanaka All I mentioned was frequency. If you can't handle that, join a nunnery.

@johngalt5205

2 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Tanaka You are the one who broached the topic. Do you expect people not to share person experiences at all? I think the key is that I'm an, and I quote, "old guy". If a young bride said more or less the same thing do you really think your reaction would be the same? One of disgust and revulsion? My post, as of this writing, has 24 upvotes, and you are the only one that responded negatively, or at all. You are the first one to respond negatively when I've shared this story, as a matter of fact. Which tells me the problem is not with what I've said, rather, misandry and ageism is the problem.

@TheMrMused

2 жыл бұрын

​@Jessica Tanaka Yes. By all means, let's keep repressing the conversation in public. Let's keep the 1950s in full swing. Let's perpetuate puritan stigmas. Healthy relationships require open communication - not only between partners, but between humans as well. Rather than continuing to leave "the norm" up to the imagination, it's *far* better to put it out into the open so "the norm" is understood. That doesn't mean "the norm" must be obliged by everyone - what works for one person may or won't work for another. What it *does* do is removes societal shame based on incorrect assumptions from a person's imagination. If you think that's "too much information", you and reality are going to butt heads - often.

@robwells354

2 жыл бұрын

Grow up

@robwells354

2 жыл бұрын

Jessica

Thank you for putting this out there that sounds like good advice to me.

Wow! This is so rare! Liked and Subscribed right away! She gets it! Thank You Rebecca.

Respect, loyalty and a willingness to admit when there wrong.

@hairymotter5455

2 жыл бұрын

accountability is their kryptonite

@denverspin

2 жыл бұрын

I had to teach my ex wife how and when to say sorry. She had no idea.

@truthseeker2171

2 жыл бұрын

Respect should be enough for now, accountability is kryptonite. You'd be lucky to get a whiff of it.

@enitanakinde4737

2 жыл бұрын

This I can work with plus the affection. The submission part is ridiculous.

Men want a wife and NOT another mother. Frankly it pisses men off. I also know several men who do all the cooking because the wife can't boil water. In one case she is a trained doctor.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Yea they definitely don’t want another mother. Oh dang, that sucks

@sla6234

2 жыл бұрын

I hear you.. I know a guy who wants to be a stay-at-home dad while his wife will be the breadwinner (doctor as well). He has a marketing degree though so he'll probably work and then eventually at home.. Not super common but definitely an interesting dynamic!

@knownothing3999

2 жыл бұрын

Not "can't," WON'T! Most women have learned that if you act like you can't do something, then no one will expect you to do it, and someone with come to the rescue. Me learn to suck it up, and get it done because no one is coming to save you.

@stevec3526

2 жыл бұрын

@@knownothing3999 Women who act like children or victims are not attractive to most men. It is a big turn off. Men want women tghat are feminine and supportive. I am glad my wife is just that and more.

@knownothing3999

2 жыл бұрын

@@stevec3526 agreed. I, too, have what most would consider a good woman, but she's tried the "I don't how" routine around the house once.

Thank you for this vid 🙌🏻

Completely agree with all of these. Great video.

Is the word "submissive' even legal nowadays?

@brians1793

2 жыл бұрын

Only if the man is being submissive, if anything men are shamed for NOT being that, even when it's absolutely beyond their will to be that. Happened to me in a narcissistic abusive family as the youngest, my twin sister being enabled to be very abusive and manipulative to me and me being forced to be 'submissive' in general, even though that wasn't my personality at all. I'm a lot like a sigma male, I have no problem assuming a fairly submissive role with leaders, depending on WHO it is, that's what they didn't get. I could be a leader, but ONLY if I truly believed I was the best leader, I'd say if I think another person would be better for the role. But I can't stand people that want to lead because of their ego, or because they're just a narcissistic abusive person. I'm naturally a strong, intelligent, 'independent' type with a strong will, patience, and discipline(more so than most adults when I was only 12 TBH), basically everything narcissists can't stand partly because they wish THEY were true intellectuals and things like that instead of having to fool others into thinking they're 'smart'. I ended being the scapegoat/invisible child/truth teller because of it. I seldom spoke truth because of how abusive everyone could be, often punishing me for months on end for calmly speaking truth in the most respectful way possible. I would only do it when it was really necessary and important to me, partly because I knew it most likely would have no positive outcome and just cause problems, but if there was even a small chance I could successfully hold my dad for example accountable. The total lack of self-awareness and accountability was unreal. Like he asks me if I want to go fishing with an uncle, and I jokingly make a play on word choices or whatever and make it VERY clear with a smile, tone, ect I'm joking, and he acts like it's serious. Then 4 months later he asks me and is clearly still so mad about before not understanding even after saying SEVEN times I was joking, but he's so stubborn once he sees something a certain way, treating his assumptions like 'fact' because God forbid he ever realizes and admits he was wrong to see something a certain way. He's almost shaking, asks if I want to go fishing, doesn't even give me a chance to answer, and says if I don't want to go I can just go anyway. Then 7 months later after I totally stop joking with him, he asks me why I never joke with him and takes is so personally, omfg. I tell him EXACTLY why and he still doesn't get it. Meanwhile he tries to play his 'jokes' seriously, and I have a great sense for when someone is joking, but he knows I know he's joking, and keeps acting 'serious'. Then the instant I start to actually wonder is he actually serious, THEN he plays it off like I'm being ridiculous to think he wasn't joking. That or jokes at my expense and I don't necessarily take it personally, I just don't think it's funny, then my brother in particular LOVES making 'jokes' at other's expense, then gets upset when people don't think it's funny, even though he's the worst at taking jokes at his own expense and everyone knows it, and that's partly why it bugs people. He's so narcissistic he expects people to ignore that and let him make jokes at other's expense, AND act like he's soooo funny to top it off, and not ever give him shit back. I don't react at all and he tries to act like I'm 'being ridiculous', I can be the most nonreactive person and people will act as if that means I'm 'upset' or whatever when they're trying to bait me or get under my skin. That or it's ONLY because I know how extremely patient I can be with the bullshit, but they absolutely can't take the slightest negative criticism, I literally don't even have to actually say or do anything, just LOOK like I'm bothered by anything they say or do in life or like I'm losing my patience and it'll offend them. Or here's a good one, my dad will say about someone else "He thinks his shit don't stink!". He can be so pathetic when it comes to being a people pleaser and almost act like he's a 'victim' because of it, like when I knock on the bathroom door when he's mid-shit but I don't know it at the time. He instantly flushes, doesn't even wipe or wash his hands, just pulls his pants up but hasn't zipped yet, when I could just use the upstairs bathroom as his way of trying to be 'considerate', even though I'd rather he not do that partly because I'm left with a shit-smelling bathroom, and it makes it hard for me to respect him. I REALLY wanted a dad I could respect but he didn't realize how hard he made that, even with me saying exactly what he could do that would help, like not be so passive-aggressive and childish and act like I'm the problem when I refuse to respect that, and convinced everyone else I'm the problem and not him. I try to downplay my reaction to the smell of his shit, but not necessarily try to repress it totally and don't think too much about that. He sees me react just slightly, and gets OFFENDED by that. So I'm either supposed to totally repress the reaction altogether or pretend his shit smells good I guess, I can't even believe the irony when he says FIGURATIVELY that someone doesn't think their shit stinks, and then LITERALLY thinks his doesn't. Sorry I wasn't going to go on a rant quite that long, but sometimes I get carried away once I get started lol. Recently watching videos on narcissism by Dr. Ramani made me realize how rare of a person I actually am, a lot of adults even can't spot red flags and bullshit, it takes a gifted kid to see that, even when I was only 8 but 12 is when I was really starting to realize it could be a lifelong problem if I don't try my best to call people out and hopefully get people to see the problems I did, and things that needed to change, but I didn't realize how hopeless it was to hold on to false hope and optimism as long as I have.

@alltheworldsastage4785

2 жыл бұрын

Lol. I think so, maybe.

@elmateo77

2 жыл бұрын

@@brians1793 It's funny that so many feminists push for that but then when they find a submissive man they're completely unattracted to him because deep down that's not the type of man that women actually want.

@brians1793

2 жыл бұрын

@@elmateo77 Yeah, I'm realizing one of the hidden intentions of feminism is to disrupt human biology. That and body positivity is basically brain-washing women into committing self-harm, like 's*xual liberation' ruining pair-bonding for good, and self-improvement is basically 'self-hate' when it comes to being overweight. It's like telling a hard drug addict they should love themselves for being an addict and not do anything about it, or a smoker, it's ridiculous. Then even top 10% attractive men are shamed for refusing to date morbidly fat women, even when the women themselves openly admit they're not attracted to men their size and won't date them. When you're an older guy that still has a strong love of women, like a fatherly tough love of younger women in particular, it honestly hurts to see how much it's actually hurting women. I've been realizing smart phones and social media is like a Trojan horse families take in that is ruining them within. Especially since the pandemic, it's like the whole country has become a massive digital 'tribe', but humans have a hard time comprehending past 120-150 people as being humans. I'm realizing I was really born a high-value male when it comes to things like intelligence, traits, ect. I can't help but feel like I'm an older member of a tribe and our women are under attack and being turned against us. IDK if I mentioned this in my past comment, but feminism incentivizing women to phase out fathers besides also ruining men and making men less attractive in the first place, is like a less blatant way of enslaving men than killing their wife and kids. It's almost more evil, because when enslaving the masses it's more ideal to keep them alive and convince them it's to their benefit. Much like people were convinced their smart phones are benefiting them, when it's actually part of what's enslaving us.

@michaelvol8922

2 жыл бұрын

Women turn to feminism because they think they've been slighted, that they need power. Women have always had the power.

I wouldn't emphasize so much "desperately". If there's no respect, then man knows there's no love, so it giant red flag, or rather say deal breaker. That's a huge NO GO for me.

@Holypikemanz

2 жыл бұрын

yeah dumbass keeps saying "desperately" and i see most women screaming back "thats needy!!". Ofc spoiled women think everything is needy.

When I saw the title I was a little skeptical at first, but you indeed NAILED IT perfectly. Great job!

Rebecca is spot on! Thanks for making this video.

You should add "Loyalty", Consistency" and "Femininity"

@michaelarnold417

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@kuuryotwo5153

2 жыл бұрын

That's a tall order in 2021. You'd be lucky to find on that had two of those.

@alltheworldsastage4785

2 жыл бұрын

@@kuuryotwo5153 Sad truth, moder women can be so pointless. 😒

@vibe2248

2 жыл бұрын

@@alltheworldsastage4785 how to you feel about modern men? Do u think they have it all figured out?

@motivationmoneywellness

2 жыл бұрын

Amen amen say it again

Your content in this series was priceless and much NEEDED! # KEEP DOING WHAT YOU DO!

Amazing thoughts! I totally agree with you!

So spot on. These are so important too that I would argue a relationship is in major danger of collapsing if any of these 3 things are not present. This used to all be common sense/knowledge... It's a shame some modern ideology has confused people so much they don't intuitively know these things. Thank you for the the video and this whole channel!

The concept of women being submissive is only offensive to women who are in competition with their s/o. Unfortunately that's most women nowadays.

@Kissfan96dr

2 жыл бұрын

more importantly, when a woman is submissive, the man and all he is and all he has, in turn, becomes totally hers. In other words, it's about investment and return.

@eukonidor

2 жыл бұрын

What so many women don't understand is that "submitting" to a husband does not preclude them being a strong woman. In it's most basic form, the term just means that he's got a majority vote. Unless the man doesn't respect his woman, then she has the ability to influence things without turning into a bitch, and still be able to buck up and accept when he decides that "this is the way it needs to be". But if he doesn't respect her opinion at all, then it's just going to be a nightmare for her.

@192OOIDJJ3

2 жыл бұрын

Yes but I wouldn't call them women. Just little girls in grown women's bodies.

@192OOIDJJ3

2 жыл бұрын

@Sarah Belkerson If you can't accept your role, it's not gonna work out for you. Power sounds comtrolling to me and is not what Random Guy meant.

@Kissfan96dr

2 жыл бұрын

@Sarah Belkerson Grown adults such as the WW2 gen and before, call it "investment and return". Submission is the investment. Love, children, eternal life, protection, and good quality of life are the return. Societies that understand this live on...those that don't understand, have inadequate reproduction rates and die off. Darwinism is alive and well.

This is the second video I've seen of yours today. You nailed it. For Me ( and Men like Me) these three things covers a lot of ground in Our world. I'd definitely provide for a woman offering and capable of these things.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

That’s so great to hear. I tell women, men are not that complicated they just need respect, support and a little suga lol. My husband agrees lol

I agree with everything she said. For the 3 reason definitely fact. That i have a headache or too tired only works so often.

She has the wisdom of women in generations long forgotten. SHE GETS IT! YIPPEE!

spot on. And that means, I should watch the "what women need from men" now.

Man this is so refreshing and important to share. A sincere thank you.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome, I’m glad you liked the video

I love you! You get it ! Such and important video! Thank you so much! I'm forwarding this to my rebel witch of 21 years. I'm not going to hold my breath though.

You are Spot-On. Great marriage and relationship advice.

Your channel blowing up every day. Hope is a great thing and is sorely needed my dear. Keep it up.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, yea it’s been a trip to watch

Just imagine being yelled by your boss and being in a bad mood. Then your gf support you and criticize your boss. I would make this girl my wife after my first salary

@truthseeker2171

2 жыл бұрын

Look at this guy, hahahahahaaa

This lady is a blessing to society, knowing three important things in men's life is highly commendable

Great tips!!! Thx for sharing.

This is an excellent video. I broke up with my X and asked for all these things and she treated me like something was wrong of me for wanting such. I just wanted to be loved and was punished with break up and not being a "man" about it. Thank you for treating us like men, we love you for it.❤️

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m glad you found value in my video. I’m hoping more women will be encouraged by videos so they can make their men happy and feel loved.

@geminiwoe

2 жыл бұрын

@@RebeccaBarrett absolutely, and I showed this to a friend and she agreed that she's made these mistakes in the past and got rather melancholy about it. Looks like you made a difference with two people.😉

@oldtymer9106

2 жыл бұрын

You're not the only one, sir. I married an incredibly beautiful woman I met at Church - I often refer to her as an Asian version of Jessica Rabbit. She was sweet. She was submissive. She was supportive. She liked classic rock AND the three stooges (she was 11 years my junior)! She was a lot of fun. And then she got pregnant. And she became someone I didn't know. I gave her grace while she was pregnant. While she was nursing. While she was starting her business. While we moved. While we bought and moved into a house. Then one day as we were preparing to move out of the house (we lost) she was going on one of her rampages and it occurred to me: "OMG, this is who she really is! She's never going to be that person I met, fell in love with and made a child with"! She had pulled a total 180 on me! All the while I was working a full AND part time job to try and keep us afloat financially. I also did most of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, household budgeting, driving and when she wanted a dog we got one and I had to take care of her too ( that dog's sleeping at my feet right now - lol!). Marriage counseling - I did it. Church attendence, Bible study groups? "Praise the Lord!" I'm in! I Gave her validation constantly (which, watching these pro-man KZread channels they tell me is the worst thing in the world you can do for a woman!). Finally, when our Son went off to college, she went with him to keep an eye on him. While we were in the process of figuring out how we would move forward in the relationship she came down with a really bad case of CoVid and passed away two weeks later (January 2021). My whole life for 20 years was centered around trying to make her happy, so now I have this big hole in me. I miss her greatly, but honestly my life is so much simpler and easier now. Working on fixing me. I put on 140lbs during the 22 year marriage, during the last three months I've lost 40lbs of it! It's an exciting journey of recovery - and the dog she made us get keeps me feeling needed, respected and loved! Still a lot to work through, though. Best of luck to both of us. Thanks for listening.

@riverdrop777

2 жыл бұрын

@@oldtymer9106 I appreciate that you honored your vows and kept your covenant with God. I've unfortunately seen many men, even strong Christian men, break and run in such situations.

@oldtymer9106

2 жыл бұрын

@@riverdrop777 I've seen that too Stephanie, and I came very close to breaking and running in 2010, but God sent me a very clear message that he wanted me to stay in the relationship. Around 2014 there was a straw that broke my meek and humble nature and I threatened to walk. After that she calmed down and dialed back the rampages from a level 10 to a 5 which I could tolerate. It was an uneasy, unspoken mutual level of acceptance that we kept in place until she and the kid rode off to College in late 2019. There were weekly or biweekly conversations about our son or her mother's verbal abuse of her (she moved in with her Mom, and it was her Mom who brought CoVid into the home they shared. Her Mom passed away 9 days before my wife, also from CoVid ). It's been quite a journey/adventure. For those who trust in God and keep their end of the bargain he blesses them, one way or another. He certainly did with me. Take care.

Listening to Becca makes me feel like I'm listening to an older sister ❤

Thank you. Everything you said is true !

Wow! Thank you Rebecca. You spoke to the heart of my frustration in the first 20 years of marriage.

here's another one! I'm a Senior Manager in a large bank where I manage a staff of 150 people and when I come home... I don't want to see a list of what I have to do. I live lists and I don't want that at home. I make more then enough to pay other people to little jobs at home.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

I hear that. I was that nagging wife until I changed my ways. Have you spoken to your partner about this? I can hear the frustration in your message.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

@@AbstractAngelArtist lots of premarital counseling and we also attend marriage group with other couples who have been married for 20+ years. I learned from our other successful couples.

@gregorybeckom2875

2 жыл бұрын

I told my wife that once, she got angry at me because she knew I was right, as high earner who puts in long hours, some jobs I don't have the skills or I'm just too tired, I pay someone else to do it, hence just get the job done, well she didn't like that

@grndiesel

2 жыл бұрын

@@gregorybeckom2875 A wise man once told me that there are very few things that a woman can do for a man, that man cannot do for himself. Of the things he needs a woman for, she better be amazing at it. Otherwise, what's the point in having her around? I wish more men understood this.

@jackdeniston59

2 жыл бұрын

She is homemaker right? That is her JOB then.

It is a point that needs to be repeated, and contrary to the beliefs of many women: Good men are not afraid or shy regarding commitment, effort or personal sacrifice to a relationship. It is the lack of acknowledgement or support that kills us inside. A woman doesn't need to make herself a doormat or a full-time sex goddess (no reasonable guy ever asked for that).

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

You are 100% right about that.

@LisePlansandJournals

2 жыл бұрын

a women?

@michaelarnold417

2 жыл бұрын

@@LisePlansandJournals You're such fun to be around, ay?

@jackburtonstwin

2 жыл бұрын

@@LisePlansandJournals Amended for your benefit. Maybe you can capitalise the start of a sentence for mine.

That was very healing. Thank you.

Well said Rebecca Barret you are on the money ! Living in Bangkok Thailand now this is the way of life here !

This is one of if not the most accurate and mature top 3 things us men need from our women. Great job sis.

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@grahamupton2717

2 жыл бұрын

Oh God I just released why most of the time I was so unhappy I just thought it was me

The basic sentiment is correct. But I would say that the coach is usually a older man that is more experienced, has knowledge to transfer and has already achieved success. A womans role is more like focused on managing equipment, logistics and making it possible for the man to focus.

@akatheheretic3014

2 жыл бұрын

Bingo ! 😉

@x-mess

2 жыл бұрын

Encouraging

@bv2999

2 жыл бұрын

But....a really good woman is more like a Majordomo who Counsels the King. Much respected by the King.

@davidharrison1502

2 жыл бұрын

A woman aware of what, when, and how to communicate is able to encourage, inspire, and offer her perspective in an influential manner.

@MrMartijo

2 жыл бұрын

@@davidharrison1502 You mean a Lady? Well put. Certainly qualities worth aspiring to if a modern woman would be so inclined.

I didn't even realise just how important physical affection was to me until I entered my first long-term relationship. I knew I enjoyed physical affection (not just sex, everything from sex all the way down to simply holding each other), but when I stopped receiving it, my relationship felt hollow, and it reached the point where I felt catatonically miserable. I since left the relationship, but it was a huge learning experience for me. Now I know what I actually *need* in a relationship, not just want.

Thanks for your resourceful points.

In all honesty, you have way more logic/IQ and understanding than most western women and because of that, they probably wont understand what the hell you're talking about. ( or wont care since they have all the attention they need ) It's refreshing to listen someone not using " I feel like " in every sentence. Keep up the great work, and keep educating these modern 304's

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I really appreciate it. Trying to help these women out here see the truth.

@tommason3372

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, she might as well ride the wave for the next 4-5 years and it will be some completely new issue men and women in western culture will be facing. Then her and the rest of them can hopefully ride that if there is anything left to save.

@llcooldrockindahouse4631

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry to ask this...what on earth is a modern 304? Sounds more like a Droid model number or some form of robot.

@icecold9511

2 жыл бұрын

@@llcooldrockindahouse4631 Type it on a calculator and turn it upside down. Rude word that is flagged by KZread.

@icecold9511

2 жыл бұрын

@@llcooldrockindahouse4631 But a droid number is an apt description. Robotic sex, completely impersonal.

Spot on about the physical side, even down to the incidental touching.

This lady just made it..you greatly dig down to our hearts...👍

You have so much insight !

This has my vote for the best KZread video of 2021. Can't believe the truth finally made it out there. Many thanks, Rebecca, for publishing this. Now we only need every woman on the face of the planet to see it.

@jefffitzsimons9143

2 жыл бұрын

AAAAMEN DAWG!!!!

#3 physical affection, is number 1, god i miss that.

@JuanTorres-ny9ff

2 жыл бұрын

In my case, my spouse, it's inexistent, she knows or does nothing.

Simple...and this is exactly what I've been clueless all these years. I lost someone for not understanding this. Thank you! ♥️

Excellent information, thank you!

It's so true... my friends always tell me how lucky I am to share my life with such a generous and masculine man. I have always done the things you mentioned intuitively. Now I am realizing it :P.

@rodneywells4640

2 жыл бұрын

Much respect to you an he is a very lucky man GODblessyou guys

@ElifMagi

2 жыл бұрын

Your friends should recognise how a stunning supportive you are just to say he seems to be really lucky too

Rebecca, that was one of the best I've heard.

Spot on! I pray more women listen and heed your advice. ☺️

So truly said!

Short and simple. Outstanding video. Rebecca, you understand us men very well. We're really not that complicated. Men, don't stay in a relationship with a woman who doesn't respect you. Women, don't get into a relationship with a man you don't respect.

Totally agree with you...most women just want to constantly argue and demand to be on a pedestal while you provide money/food/shelter...I should have been more careful with whom I married...

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Yea the vetting process is so necessary. Can’t skimp on that or else you might get stuck with a nightmare

@h2t26

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, though as guys that's not something we are normally taught or are told to consider. Like you say that other places and you'll be shamed as a woman hater. So boys don't get the right message.

You are SPOT ON!

You are so spot on, thank God someone finally spesks tbe Truth, may God bless you.

Wow this was pretty spot on!

@RebeccaBarrett

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Feed a man . Romance him. Be faithful to him and no one else then you will have him for life.

Great video! This is spot on and so true.

As a newlywed (dated for 7 years though) I can say I've observed this to be true! My husband asks me the most for more respect, I've noticed our definition of what that means varies. So we've both had to have an open mind, he explains what he means and we learn about each other this way too. I support him by helping him find solutions, preparing meals and keeping home tidy so he can focus on work outside of the home, and any other tasks he may ask me. And physical affection is a big deal for me too, ladies try it with your husband! Hugs, kisses, loving touches like hair/head or arm/shoulders go such a long way! It's like saying a physical "hello I'm here and available for you" from both sides 💕🥰