Narcissists overestimate how much people think about them, and exaggerate how much they care about others.

@CJ-fs9gt

3 жыл бұрын

That statement? Is a keeper! Thanks for sharing your insight :-)

@margaretwebb6372

3 жыл бұрын

Bingo!

@farahmahrinnivrita9948

2 жыл бұрын

This statement is gold.

@emmafilamo8519

2 жыл бұрын

They are telling narc are poor hygiene..but my bf is more particular in good hygiene..he didn't smoke nor addicted to alcohol..but the attitude 100% close to narcisist

@j_freed

2 жыл бұрын

I think they are terrified of low regard because they have low self-regard…

The worst is someone who abused you your entire life, then gets sick and tells everyone how horrible you are because you don't care about them. The gut wrenching pain, frustration and rage I have at this person is beyond words.

@christianpulisic7784

2 жыл бұрын

Inner Monk,You are pretty 🌹🌺🌹,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

@ta_nimal2023

Жыл бұрын

Yup.

@brandonc8864

Жыл бұрын

I sympathize with you.

@FallingStar44

Жыл бұрын

I can relate to this. Lashing out because they have delusions of persecution which only mirror their victims cries, which may include your own. Maddening. But joining their game makes you look like use the truth as a weapon, as they further claim victimhood against your counter attack. No contact is a thing.

@sheilabang3942

Жыл бұрын

That sound totally like I have felt All my life. I just want to growl, scream, kick and in rage tell everyone, how i've been treated. I cannot stand her evil and neglect.. Even she died some years ago.. And even my own doctor is icecold refusing to help me by a therapist... Im extremely tired of life. I was NEVER good enough!!! I knew, suddently, in my deep futs, that I just knew that it wasent me that was wrong!!!! Sov shut up, treading on eggshells. Deeply scared about when she would assult me personal the next and next time... Ive been living in fear and lonelyness, in all my life..... No one that knew my mom believes me.... I hate when she or everybody else. .. , so many i can never count how many there has been. And All my life i was bullied from kindergarden, school, even at a grown up- study where expected that grown ups should have learned to behave themselves to other People. Why do anyone think i chose Heavy Metal music to get my rage and disgust out somehow. But that was a catastroph for mom.... then I certenly wasent good enough.... and she allways tried to smash mevtovpiecen, and then "glue" the shattered pieces togeather, AS SHE wanted, and thought she could brake me. Her words for that was ... "she wanted to "form" me as it fattede her. And that I should grow up. I got to take care of myselv from about 4 and a half years. No real happy safe peacefull childhood. I was ALLWAYS DENIED ALL THE LITTLE PEACES OF FREEDOM TO BE MYSELF, AND ACCEPTED AS I AM. I JUST HAD TO TRY TO REMEMBER, THAT SHE WAS SICK I HER LUTTLE "BRAIN"...THAT I WAS NOT WRONG FOR BEEING MYSELF AS IM BORN. AND THE ONLY TIME I SUCCEDED TO SAY IT ALL TO HER. IVEVEN SAID THE TRUTH, ABOUT THAT THE ONLY THING I EVER REALLY HAD WISHED FOR IN LIFE WAS, THAT SHE HA

I was in college in upstate New York when 9/11 happened, and there was this girl in my dorm who was hysterical because she claimed her brother might have been in the towers. Of course, everyone rallied around her, and was trying to comfort her, and at the time, I felt bad about feeling something was off about the whole thing. We find out later, she didn't even have a brother. Pretty sick.

@zac3392

2 жыл бұрын

“I walked through blood and bones in the streets, looking for my brother… He was in Northern Canada.”

@karlabritfeld7104

2 жыл бұрын

What a witch.

@jessoftherocks

Жыл бұрын

Wtf. My sister and her husband were in new york a couple days before 9/11, they went on the tour thing where they go to the top or something? Still hits home when they fell because they debated staying longer to see more of new york.

@eshim3961

Жыл бұрын

@@jessoftherocks I was actually at Cortlandt Station (aka the World Trade Center subway station) less than 24 hours before. My friends and I went to the NYU film festival, and I ditched my Monday class with the expectation that I would get up early on Tuesday morning to finish a paper that I was working on. I am a very calm and rational person in most cases, but even a photograph of the World Trade center before or after gives me anxiety, even after all these years. Stranger than that, I ran across a movie title on Amazon that for some reason made me queasy; I realized later that it was one of the films that I'd seen at the festival on September 10th. Now if someone such as myself who was lucky enough not to have lost anyone that day, and whose proximity to the event was very peripheral could have the reaction that I have to this day, I still wonder what kind of soulless person would use something like that to get attention.

@melissabyrd1310

Жыл бұрын

Oh my word, that's is so messed up. My jaw dropped when i read that. 😠

It took me a long time to recognize the victim games played by narcissists. I got so caught up, and really believed everything was my fault. For years, I thought I was wrong and deserved every bad thing they did to me. This kind of manipulation and guilt tripping is exactly how people get trapped with narcissists for decades and decades. We're always living in a state of confusion.

@velvetpixiecake5310

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. Everything becomes illusion.

@vmuz3516

2 жыл бұрын

I am struggling with this right now. When I told that giving 97 % and he only gives 3% in parenting because he only comes home and talks to them and watch them for less then 30 mins. And he got mad at me, then said that I have to pay half and pay on everything. When I pretty much do everything and plus work 30 + hours in 2 weeks with 3 kids and house load in me. After so many years always felt guilty, and always being my fault. I can relate. After yesterday was the first time I laugh it off. And was like ok I can pay 50% of pills. I can do it. And he after didn’t want to talk to me and went to sleep.. now trying to guilt trip me.

@vmuz3516

2 жыл бұрын

I am trying my best and be calm even thou I attempted to be calm and not react . It hurts because I didn’t do anything wrong. Just asked to put other two kids to sleep because baby was hungry. And need to be feed.

@EMILYHERRERA

Жыл бұрын

​@@vmuz3516 Sounds like you'd also have a greater quality of life without him.

@nathanroberts7693

Жыл бұрын

@@vmuz3516 sounds harsh but choose the right man to have a child with, most people don’t get to know the person they make children with and that causes all the problems

I think banging your head against a solid object is most of our experiences with narcissistic people

@paulclinton6414

4 жыл бұрын

The wall would eventually break.

@jamesshaw6363

4 жыл бұрын

Well I hope it falls in the right direction - away from you

@everlastingideas8625

4 жыл бұрын

The best description of it. They create so much frustration in you by their nonsense.

@dalegribble5661

4 жыл бұрын

YES!!! Ur so right

@Iulia958

4 жыл бұрын

🙈😅 exactly how you feel around well said

When I think of how many “crazy women” he told me about, how he only attracts “crazy women,” that he’s a “crazy magnet”... and now that I’ve left him, I’m positive I’m his latest “crazy woman.”

@candacecasey5634

3 жыл бұрын

You always have to remember a guy who claims that all of his exes are " crazy " well he is the " common denominator " here. Maybe he's the " crazy one " 😂

@seriouslystop

3 жыл бұрын

@@candacecasey5634 Yeah, but those guys have now seen all the videos and memes and info all over the internet that label this behavior as a red flag-so they're evolving their strategy!!!!! Ughhhh.

@DarkerSideOfDawn

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate

@chrisbova9686

3 жыл бұрын

I only want to know if you are crazy in all the right ways.

@becca7038

3 жыл бұрын

They cause the crazy... By the end idgaf how crazy I became. I lost it :)

The Martyr Narcissist is so much more dangerous than the normal narc. They'll sabotage not only their life but yours too in the process. & You won't even realize this until you're too far into the game to stop playing.

@user-gg3qh4di9s

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct! I've experienced it .

@glitterginger

2 жыл бұрын

If you are still alive, it is not too late. Get out, please!

@AfterAFashionASMR

2 жыл бұрын

Explain this more please if you have time... I’m in need of clarity in my current relationship. Things are starting to feel very confusing

@deliajones9541

2 жыл бұрын

I stopped playing after 50 years when I realized her lies, cut her off went no contact. It has worked.

@jeanetteshawredden5643

2 жыл бұрын

Martyr Covert Religious Narc. Grand slam: my mom.

My mom was the epitome of the victim narcissist. She insisted on making the cake for my grandparent’s 50th anniversary party. The cake fell over during the trip over. Oh, the drama that ensued was all encompassing. The day became all about her and the cake. This happened in 1990’s and I just recognized her tactics after watching this.

@zouzli395

Жыл бұрын

Wow that’s sad. The fact that you still remember it tells a lot!

My Father: Beats me, offends me, tricks me and verbally totally abuses me Me: Cut off the contact to my father, due to reason not be be injured again My Father: Tells everybody that he did his best, but I am difficult and that I am a bad person because I do not contact him anymore. Portrays himself to be the poor father who has been ignored by his evil son

@isaaksteshman9879

3 жыл бұрын

@@HelenL-je9yn nice of your adult child to have supported you by recognising the wrongdoings of that dominating and abusing mother of yours. It must be quite depressing to realise one has a monster of a mother like that, especially when one goes through her puberty\adolescence period of growing.

@heytampon

3 жыл бұрын

@@HelenL-je9yn my mother does the same sort of thing. Behaves in ways that provoke confused, angry reactions in people. when confronted plays the victim and accuses people of being bullies and creates fictitious dramtised stories of how she was attacked by who ever confronts her and gains sympathy.

@Justice4ALL.120

3 жыл бұрын

YUP! That is one of the tactics they use. The sad part is that it usually works.

@RealJohnConger

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you all are just a pos and there was a reason y'all are "treated" that way 🤔

@karistone1297

3 жыл бұрын

Siciliano good for you! Better to get away from someone like that. I notice you posted this months ago. Hope you are travelling ok.

"The narcissist always thinks everyone is thinking about them" Reminds me very much of someone I grew up with

@jerome1lm

3 жыл бұрын

And you are obviously thinking about them, lol.

@ladybird491

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, my daughter tried to say that in an argument the other day after using me again and I said "I did not sit around thinking about you and wanting to see you all the time, especially since you only use me and bail"

@ladybird491

3 жыл бұрын

@@jerome1lm you sound like a narc, deflecting it back to them. 🤣

@dotsyjmaher

3 жыл бұрын

It is funny...I never realized that ..I reconnected recently with my best friend from childhood...her mother basically adopted me whenever I could get away from my Cinderella like miserable "home"... We were talking a lot lately about what our friendship did for us..and I realized..the time I spent with her mother and her allowed me to COMPLETELY forget about my pyscho mother..for those hours and even entire weekends...my crazy brutal mother "did not exist"

@bethflynn4278

3 жыл бұрын

I worked with someone like you described. She would create a crisis every 3 months or so such as, some one comes in at night and steals all my pens! 😲 No one believed her. She did retaliate on me a few times because I told her point blank that she was full of sh*#. But I reported her to HR and they believed me and removed her from our shared office. Total insanity.

A narcissistic situation I observed this week was; a daughter was in tears as a friend almost succeeded in his suicide attempt but the daughter's mother attempted to make it all about herself by instead of comforting her daughter who was hurting, kept phoning friend after friend saying how traumatized she as the mother was. This behaviour made the mother receive attention instead of the daughter being comforted for the traumatic near death of her friend, the mother was using the event to get attention instead. The daughter was just ignored and used as narcissistic supply for the mother.

@LisaMaryification

Жыл бұрын

Wow. That's bad.

@princesskileyrae

Жыл бұрын

This sounds like my mother...

@stephaniepascual6677

Жыл бұрын

This sounds like my mother in law

The only time I ever saw the narc in my life get seriously wound up (and show his true colors) was when I did the gray rock stuff and acted indifferent. The calmer and more logical I spoke to him, the crazier and angrier his responses became. That's how you really 'get back' at them. They can't stand not seeing you distraught over their games. Then he asked something of me, and I said I'd do it as long as he did something simple for me in return, which he didn't. He then acted outraged when I stuck to my word and didn't give him what he'd asked for. Like I'd stabbed him. Even though I told him weeks ahead of time what I expected if he wanted my cooperation. They're truly insane.

@Omneyvdwatering

Жыл бұрын

This reminds me of a time when my mother wanted to do something in her garden which involved some heavy lifting. She asked me to help and i said "sure, let me know when" (in an app). I never heard anything back. A few weeks later she shows pictures of her garden and i say "oh, it is done. okay, looks good". So she plays the victim "yeah, no one wanted to help me, you didn't want to help me.. so i ended up doing everything alone.. as allways" (my dad did help her but i guess she kind of "forgot" about that too? ). So i tell her to read back the app. "tell me when" and i tell her. Hey.. i'm not a mindreader, you never told me when. not my problem.

@losejane

Жыл бұрын

I effin love this!!!!!!!❤❤

The typical situation I run into is the narcissist pushing boundaries, making passive aggressive insults, provoking, antagonizing, etc. Then when I finally tell them to cut the crap I'm the big meanie who abused them.

@MLayt-jt1mj

3 жыл бұрын

That is called "Gaslighting" , Narcs will never admit their faults, they will always blame someone else for their crimes. My partner promise to look for help they went to tell her therapist (who happened to be her friend) that I was the one abusing her and she completely played the victim, she is very charming and managed to get sympathy from her friend so now the therapist has acused me of being the criminal one... Narcs are evil, when satan doesn't come, he sends narcisists to do the job for him. I sympathize for every single victim of narcisists and please remember you are not crazy, you are just trapped on satan's lies.

@mskatonic1

3 жыл бұрын

@@MLayt-jt1mj hang in there. I Hope things improve for you. You definitely nailed the life of narcissists to a tee.

@MLayt-jt1mj

3 жыл бұрын

@@mskatonic1 Thanks for your kind words. All the best to you.

@LisaMaryification

Жыл бұрын

If anyone insults you, stop contact with them. They aren't normal.

@desireelococo1747

Жыл бұрын

Yes!!! Omg I through this constantly with two narcs

Or when your partner goes out of their way to do chores that you normally do before you get a chance to. And then incessantly complain about how they have to do everything 'around the house' and how you never do anything.

@randygraham7966

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@justaperson4475

2 жыл бұрын

I felt this but with my dad. I’ve been taking care of the house since I was 11, late nights and whole days we would go without parents and everything would fall on my shoulders. Suddenly I get a job and attend uni and want to leave and he starts doing all the chores and complains that I’ve done nothing for them and I am worthless.

@Sarablueunicorn

2 жыл бұрын

@@justaperson4475 Typical narc parents behavior. Doesn't matter how much you do they always tell you do nothing or they actually prevent you to do something because you are too unable/uncaple to do it and they are the only ones who can do it tight, and then keep the narrative that you do nothing.

@rcantu1204

2 жыл бұрын

Why does this sound so familiar -_- My husband will clean up every so ofter, but when he does, all of a sudden i do absolutely nothing and he always is cleaning and picking up after everyone -_- and you cant argue with them because as soon as you start bringing up valid things, they change thier game and will start being more loud, or bring up things from years ago that are COMPLETELY unrelated.... its so fustrating!!!! You cannot win.... and they will do everything they can to flip the script on you and make themselves the victim. They want a reaction from you and will poke and poke and poke and poke.. then when they finally get a reaction, all of a sudden you are crazy and need to calm down... they will say things to you that they KNOW will hit you right in a nerve and will keep playing on that over and over.. and then the first time you say the same hurtful thing back, just so they know how much it hurts... all of a sudden "HOW COULD YOU SAY THAT TO THEM!?!??!?! " and again... they are the victim and you are a horrible person that they must tell your family and social media about how horrible you are to them... This behavior usually goes in waves. You might have a week or two or maybe even three, where everything is going great... then they see its great and your starting to get close to them and loosening up again, they will switch it up on you and all of a sudden they start the cycle again.

@LindaPlant1

2 жыл бұрын

My husband has started doing chores and now claims I have done nothing for 27 years!! I served papers 3 weeks ago!! I now have no regrets but am amazed I put up with all the crazy for so long

This describes my ex's mother to a T. She always makes up stories and unfortunately, I was her target for many years. I went no contact for 2 years and was suckered back in on the Christmas holiday when I agreed to attend a family Christmas party at her home. She bought the kids lots of expensive gifts, mainly electronics. She used the gifts to pressure us to stay the night. The next morning, I was up early and ready to go home. We left thinking that perhaps she had changed. The next morning, she calls and asks if we know where any of the other kid's gifts of laptops, tablets, phones were. To shorten the story, she had actually taken all of the electronics herself, hid them, and made the entire family think that my ex and I had stole them. It was so hard for me to believe that a middle aged woman would go to these lengths. There were many other similar situations. It was disgusting.

It's all about the audience! The narcissist needs an audience and thrives most on having an attentive audience. Without that, they don't function well at all.

me going into this video: scared i'm a narcissist me coming out of this video: oh wow, never mind.

@h.borter5367

4 жыл бұрын

I know. Everyone and their mother is being called a narcissist by someone somewhere. It's makes a person a bit paranoid.

@moniquevandeplas5210

3 жыл бұрын

Wait...you dont want to send flowers to yourself? C'mon!

@luke-db2es

3 жыл бұрын

i'm a bit worried about it too, that's why i'm here lol

@cherrylow9818

3 жыл бұрын

Heidi Borter Everyone is definitely a Narcissists to some degree. Even the sweetest Grandma that loves everyone has Narcissism

@justaname___

3 жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA

Thank you for debunking 2 widespread misconceptions about narcissism: 1) they are all intelligent 2) they all have great social skills.

@christianpulisic7784

2 жыл бұрын

Dixie Ginger,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌺 dear,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

@dixieginger7794

2 жыл бұрын

@@christianpulisic7784 not anymore 😄

@lonewolfomegamale690

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely a myth... my worthless ex-fiance and ex- bestie/ romantic interest were "victim" narcissists... utter failures at life that were shunned by most people 😁👍

@jennharr4642

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. They think this and surround themselves with lower intellectual people who they fake smart around be believed by them. They'll never go into places where the competition could possibly "out smart" them and bruise their sensitive ego.

@sparkstudies1675

2 жыл бұрын

lmao

I thought I was a narcissist until I started listening to these stories and realized I’m the normal one and the erratic narcs in my life are the “strange” ones.

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

Be careful bc the roles change & often last many generations...

@cynthiamanonelles9465

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@Threemore650

Жыл бұрын

You might be an empath. Look up HG Tudor. He gives consultations.

@vernasmith-ql9gd

Жыл бұрын

Right🙄🕯️💯🤔

They have only cognitive empathy. This means they are fastidious about doing and saying things that indicate they have concern for you. Unlike many grandiose narcissists, a covert narcissist has a cognitive understanding of how people behave when they have concern for others. But when the chips are down in your life, such as you are the victim of a crime, you are very sick, or you lose your job, the covert narcissist is chilly, abandoning, and just “doesn’t get it.” They may blame you for your misfortune. The covert narcissist can’t summon any of the normal ways of caring in these moments. In these ways, they reveal themselves to have no emotional empathy. Depending on how long it takes for you to experience such incidents, you could go for years not realizing that your partner is a narcissist. They may literally turn their back on you, over seemingly trivial matters. This is a trait they share with grandiose narcissists. Maybe they get annoyed that you’re walking too slow and leave you alone while they rush ahead, or they get impatient with what you’re saying and turn around while you’re in mid-sentence, or maybe you’re a little late for a social function that you’re attending as a couple, only to find them already inside as if they weren’t at the event with you. They probably appear charming and competent to those who don’t live with them. A covert narcissist’s constant striving for perfection often results in a set of traits that most of us (who are not obsessed with perfection) admire, as long as we don’t get too close to the narcissist. This makes explaining the upside-down hall of mirrors that is your shared intimate space with the covert narcissist impossible to explain to those outside the relationship, who will assume you are either exaggerating, or that your relationship skills are lacking. The covert narcissist may be a pillar of the community, or has lofty, well thought-out ideals. The striving for perfection of a covert narcissist often results in associating themselves with highly regarded intellectuals, businesspeople, or other such pillars of the community, such that the covert narcissist appears to be a pillar of the community themselves. Additionally, covert narcissists can identify with a vision of societal utopia, and become a zealot about their particular ideals, whether liberal or conservative. The covert narcissist is surprisingly lazy. Despite their lofty ideals or connections, the covert narcissist often does little to no work to actually earn the respect of people in the community through their actions. Their ideals or connections are a facade they choose instead of real effort and commitment. They can be sexually faithful. Unlike grandiose narcissists, who are often sexually unfaithful, covert narcissists can be sexually faithful for fear of their reputation being damaged, or out of sheer laziness or shyness, not out of an emotional commitment to their partner. This can be confusing to the neurotypical partner, who sees the faithfulness as a sign of love, making the erroneous assumption that the covert narcissist has emotional empathy, and therefore the capacity to love. They have a Jekyll and Hyde personality, often raging, or finding fault with you, in private as a way of relieving their own inner shame at not being perfect. This is another trait that coverts share with grandiose narcissists. It feels like you have a partner who’s really a teenager, and that it’s your duty to shoulder the “steadiness” they need in the face of their criticisms and anger. The covert narcissist has absolutely no sense of humor about this behavior, meaning there’s an unnecessary “heaviness” in the relationship that leaves you walking on eggshells. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when him or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Metaspyhub@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

My narcissistic ex-boyfriend falsely accused me of assault, it took time, money, hiring a lawyer not to end up in jail. They are outstanding liars.

@christianpulisic7784

2 жыл бұрын

Michaela Sanielevici,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

@michaelasanielevici1854

2 жыл бұрын

@@christianpulisic7784 Thanks, I am in no contact and I feel happy, I regained some of my self confidence and I know now that these monsters users-abusers are to be avoided.

@malaika4960

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too. He ended up being charged instead, going to court, hiring a lawyer to save himself, and ended up having to take court mandated anger management classes 😅

@rynemehan2950

2 жыл бұрын

Same. Two exes accused me of assaulting them and often labeled me a narcissist...even though they were the ones who literally lied about being abused and assaulted... Weird how that works...

@josephscriven5454

2 жыл бұрын

My ex wife did that. And she convinced them. I did time on false charges.

My mother is a vulnerable narcissist like this. It’s had a significant negative impact on my life. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

@barbaramarshall5271

2 жыл бұрын

I have to agree, my mother is too and she is truly crazy.

@freyatries3895

2 жыл бұрын

Mine is too, I am 100% sure of it. I cut off contact telling her that I was diagnosed wit PTSD from her treatment growing up and she tells everyone I was diagnosed with bipolar and cut her off for no reason (Poor her!). I would be heavily beat and hurt as a child/locked in a empty room for days but she always said she had it worse as she was in the care system and at least I have a mother? Kinda wish I was put into care tbh.

@harleyquinn5774

2 жыл бұрын

Mine as well.

@sfuterfas

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too. She's now 80 and has made no plans for her future or care and expects my sister and me to take care of her, yet she's always saying, "I don't want to be a burden on anyone!" Elderly narcs are the worst because they can't take care of themselves anymore yet feel so entitled.

@westcoast747

2 жыл бұрын

@@freyatries3895 My mother went into a rage when I was a kid about minor incidences. For example when I accidentally ripped my school trousers when I slipped on some gravel at school and cut my knee. She went ballistic at me, saying I did this on purpose. Too this day she rages about silly minor things. I’ve emotionally detached from her and have minimal contact. I treat my own children in a better and more healthy way. I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression in the past. But have eventually over these difficulties in my life. I’m a healthy and empathetic person and I don’t need negativity like her in my life. With the right help you can also overcome your own health difficulties.

Yes! I'm dealing with one right now. It's almost impossible. It's ALWAYS someone else's fault, he does no wrong , and there's no winning.

@trecome396

Жыл бұрын

I think I am also 😳

@laurendeaves376

Жыл бұрын

What ‘winning’ I think the ‘winner’ is the one walking away, I’m not going to argue or fight for the last word, I’d just let the gronk talk and whine to itself

@CoCo-yv3hl

Жыл бұрын

Same I’m so drained & done I will pay him to leave me alone…. He will create issues then when I react I’m crazy I complain all the time & I have an attitude 👀…. If I’m so horrible why don’t you mention it before I tell you how you’re draining me for not being what you said you would but yet complement every other woman…. I’m sure they have help

@CoCo-yv3hl

Жыл бұрын

They also like praise for the bare minimum & for what he’s supposed to do… like if I wasn’t around you would have to do more

@pebbles92able

3 ай бұрын

Leave! Save your sanity please! The panic attacks I was getting saved my life.

I've been in short-term and long term relationships with narcissists. Even if it's just a brief conversation with one, it always ends the same way - they throw me away like used toilet paper. It's similar to a one-night stand - come morning, they just want to get out of the involvement like it's evidence of a crime (and in a way it is).

I think in the recent past, I have tried to manipulate someone into caring for me. My lack of insight into the situation caused me to not realize that people can have sympathy for you but that doesn’t mean that they’re obligated to be in a relationship with you. Sympathy does not equal love. You can’t make someone love you through guilt, sympathy, and/or shame, not only do they recognize what you’re doing but they also resent you and the fact that you’re trying to manipulate them. You can’t make someone love you, they have to choose to. And I’m glad that at 27 ( 3 years after all of this) I finally realized how toxic I was to him. And I am slightly embarrassed and ashamed of myself, but I’m glad I caught this early on in my life.

@texastea5686

3 жыл бұрын

❤

@thekmfdmmachine3919

3 жыл бұрын

That is what life is supposed to be, expanding yourself by learning from mistakes. Its a beautiful thing when one has the capacity to open their mind with self reflection.

@DaveyD187

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like borderline to me but goodluck

@TheMidnightGarnet

3 жыл бұрын

@@DaveyD187 I don’t think I’m borderline. I just grew up in a household where love wasn’t demonstrated properly to me. I wrote this post for people out there to understand how it can show up in yourself and recognize how it manifests in personal relationships without realizing it.

@-norsecode-

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I've done the same. Now I know better. I'm actually terrified of coming across as manipulating, mean, needy, all sorts of things. So I end up apologizing too much, just in case.

I'm a retired social worker, I find these case studies to be very interesting and helps me make sense of things I have seen during my career.

@kathyborthwick6738

4 жыл бұрын

Steve Morris I am a Semi- Retired DSW and I agree!

@thelastspartan4804

4 жыл бұрын

@Steve, right, think of us who have experienced these mentally ill attention seekers... holy moly...

@stevemorris270

4 жыл бұрын

@Geezart The reality is that we don't know everything. The specific case that I am referring to was one in which I got extra consultation from a psychologist and I believe I did help the client. Research continues to improve our understanding of disorders and treatment and Dr. Grande does a particularly good job of explaining those findings. In a perfect world every counselor and therapist knows all they need to know and never needs continuing education-- but that is not the case. I will admit that I was less than perfect with each and every client, but any honest counselor would admit the same.

@PSALMS-oe7ri

4 жыл бұрын

I am a social worker as well & I almost gave up on my social work career because of these behaviors.

@creativeideas012

3 жыл бұрын

@Geezart people who've never had to deal with narcissists at a personal level wouldn't even be able to see a pattern It's unfathomable on a human level the destructive, conniving, disgustingly hateful these narc.s are unless you've 'lived through them'

I had a Nurse Supervisor at work, she drew on her own family picture that was on her locker in the break room. She came out crying, “Why would someone do this to me?” She blamed me… Everyone felt so sorry for her. I was off for 3 days prior to the incident. A few co workers knew she was lying but I knew she did it. I suggested that the needed a camera in that room. I even offered to take a polygraph test. She got better treatment after that.

Reminds me of my mother. Her favorite technique is to ask me in private for something she knows I won't do or give her, and then ask me again in front of other people. She'll then start crying about how mean and difficult I am and how I never do anything for her. My dad used to fall for it, but he's caught on to her game, finally. Other people still believe her narrative that I'm evil and she's a loving mother who's constantly mistreated.

@Gem-lo2ey

Жыл бұрын

Heard this story many times!

@Laura-nl8df

Жыл бұрын

My mom would talk negatively about me to my friends with me sitting right there looking at my friend like 'see?'. I never engaged in it, during or after. I've known something was wrong with her since I was 7/8 yrs old. No one believed me. I know now, I'm not her favorite person. I really wish these people wouldn't have children. They're so desperate for love they think they can produce it in their kids. They just mess us up in one way or another.

@sopostoquandoda

Жыл бұрын

@@Laura-nl8df I'm not even sure it's love they want. I suppose it's just as likely to be validation they're after, or a clone of their perceived perfection. Too bad children are real people with personalities. They don't plan for that.

@Laura-nl8df

Жыл бұрын

@Jay Totally! They miss something they never had and can't recognize it when they get it. Never enough to satisfy that incessant fear. Ugh.

I've found covert narcs all use the victim scenario. They use drama for attention. Every time you scratch under the surface of their stories, it all falls apart. It's like dealing with toddlers. I've had an ex-coworker send herself flowers! Unbelievable!

@DaveyD187

3 жыл бұрын

@Pr.incorporated sounds like a narc to me

@ThangNguyen-kk1wh

3 жыл бұрын

Exworker sends herself flowers !!! HA HA HA....some thing VERY new for me... Amazing Behavior..

@toi4154

3 жыл бұрын

@Pr.incorporated It's fine to get gifts for oneself of course, but I think they talked about making others believe the gift's from someone else.

@iTammy

3 жыл бұрын

Lol😅 Flowers

@camimons470

3 жыл бұрын

Prince Harry. Meghan Markle.

"Traditionally, not associated with a high level of intelligence." Hilarious 😆

@christianpulisic7784

2 жыл бұрын

Cynthia Alsup,You look gorgeous 🌹🌹🌺, hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

@juv3ydvs3vb3vst7

2 жыл бұрын

@@christianpulisic7784 stop love bombing

@johnleebass

2 жыл бұрын

@@christianpulisic7784 creepy

@laurie507

2 жыл бұрын

Cynthia Alsup Lol, Wasn’t sure about this comment right under the video until I watched it. Only then did I see the humor in your comment.🤣😅

@katiebriley3584

2 жыл бұрын

@@laurie507 I actually had the same thing happen on another video about narcs like who are all these predators????

I think the first example is actually a natural progression for vulnerable narcissistic personality disorder. My dad, when he was in his 20s and at the height of being full of himself and trying to impress people with positive behavior, was very quickly diagnosed by a professional after just a single visit. He scored so high that there was no question at all he qualified for a diagnosis. But as he's gotten older I've watched him deteriorate physically and mentally, I've watched his narcissistic rages happen more often and over more and more petty things, I've watched him use me as a scapegoat to make people feel sympathy for him (woe is me, my daughter is so useless, I am such a suffering father, while I take care of him). The older he gets, the more it's become clear that he failed to become popular or famous, the more he leans into this first type you described. His narcissistic personality disorder didn't disappear. It just changed how it presented to the world as his life circumstances, and chances for gaining recognition, changed.

I had a colleague with covert narcissistic traits. She left our job for a short time and when she came back she was very disappointed that we weren't happy for her return (we were indifferent). She was expecting that we will be glad to have her back. This in spite of treating us bad, spreading lies about colleagues, but so well mixed with truth, that you couldn't properly discern. It's true that they over estimate how much people care about them. Sometimes she thought everybody hated her.

This is proof not only of their lack of insight but also how they continue to be their own worst enemy at every turn.

This should be required viewing for everybody, like a public service announcement .

@moniquevandeplas5210

3 жыл бұрын

I second this motion

@JaneDoe-hf8bb

3 жыл бұрын

I agree totally, public needs Educated on This !

@ecunningham2062

2 жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@gigiarmany4332

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr?

The reason she kept sending the flowers after she was fired was to prove that she wasn't lying about it.

I can't imagine being in medicine and thinking that some people are not entitled to compassion or sympathy, couldn't get past that

@Fido-vm9zi

Жыл бұрын

I can't imagine they feel good.

A colleague stood in the lobby telling everyone that her son was rushed to the hospital by her parents, whom they lived with, because he would not wake up. She was excused to join them at the hospital, but instead she went on to describe the situation and discuss possibilities of her son’s issues. People were crowded around her listening. It seemed to be attention seeking behavior; my thought was that I would have been out the door the second I was notified that my kid was at the hospital.

@eeeriebrilliance

2 жыл бұрын

@Sallie Gallegos Maybe she had Munchausen by Proxy and was expecting the call and looking forward to basking in all the attention she'd be getting on her sons behalf...

@bfisherful

2 жыл бұрын

@Susel precisely

@justjosie8963

2 жыл бұрын

You are that wise person who sees through a narcissist that others do not.

@angelacasein7059

2 жыл бұрын

Omg that’s so sad to hear about poor kid

@KZ-vj6km

2 жыл бұрын

Yes and your point is

I have known a few narcissists. I have noticed they know their side of any story very well. When asked about others’ sides, they rarely provide many specific details. They leave out others’ perspectives. Good video. Thank you.

@a.b.2850

2 жыл бұрын

Just keep in mind that an autistic person would also most likely struggle with this, but the difference is that, if they trust you, if they care about you, once you correctly explain to them your perspective of a specific situation, and how you felt at that time, they will listen, will want to understand, and they will feel bad when they understand how they truly hurt you. The last thing an autistic person wants is to hurt anyone, even more if it’s someone they know and care about. The narcissist on the other hand will reply by making some sort of an argument by using some past issues that were resolved, or so I thought.. and there starts the projection. So the reaction says it all.

@arsiejackson2958

2 жыл бұрын

They are only 1% of the population. How do you know so many? Sure you're not one of them

@alisonj9533

2 жыл бұрын

They are not interested that's why they cannot tell you.

@wisdomtarot2379

2 жыл бұрын

This one, so relate

@EMILYHERRERA

Жыл бұрын

because others' perspectives threaten their objective and narrative. They are only concerned with their reality.

Dr. Grande, we are dealing with the fallout from a Narcissist, so this video came up at just the right time! It is always a good idea to have the narc file on hand so that you know who you are dealing with! This story well illustrates the lengths that they will go through to get attention and/or set someone up. Thank you for this informative and unusual example!

My mother in law is a vulnerable narcissist. What a piece of work. Thank God I'm not married to her son who was Narcissist Junior.

When my neighbors wife was pregnant he followed me to a convenience store. He told me a sad story about needing a part time girl friend. He said something like “I see there is a built in bed in the back of your van.” (It’s a very small RV) He is very immature. I said, “I think you better go home to your wife, and work it out.” I am about 25 years older. Apparently, he stayed angry about the rejection, and it came to me calling the cops. In retaliation he told people I threatened to do bodily harm to his children. I’m pretty sure this is the type person you are describing. Later he admitted that he made up the lie about my hurting his children. But a LOT of social damage was done. I mean ALOT. As I said, he is very immature. What is strange is that his wife covers up for his sexual misbehavior. Moral of the story, “your wife’s pregnancy is not my personal crisis. If you can’t manage it without damaging other people: Get help or quit having kids.”

@gracebe235

4 жыл бұрын

Maturity is earned......I guess I’m a rare person.....I don’t believe in listening to gossip that is obvious that it is intended to turn me against someone I haven’t even met yet. I give the other person the benefit of the doubt, to be given the courtesy to show their ‘side’. What I have found in the majority of cases, is that the person that was gossiped about was actually a pretty neat person.....and the gossip was a narcissist. We would all do well to allow each person their chance to prove themselves.....instead of only relying on the gossips word.

@professionalinsultant3206

4 жыл бұрын

cool story bro. another example of a narc making up stories for attention.

@shanaadams4456

4 жыл бұрын

Gross, gross, gross.

@ENFPerspectives

4 жыл бұрын

Wow! 🤣 What a Strange pick-up line! Smh.... geeeez! Such a weird world .

@Dylann8245

3 жыл бұрын

"But a LOT of social damage was done. I mean ALOT. " Sounds like you're a narc trying to draw sympathy for yourself lol.

“Not consistent with a high level of intelligence” 😂 I gotta save that one for later.

@glitterginger

2 жыл бұрын

So true. They think they are of superior intelligence and yet they are truly very very low.

Mine was a cop who falsely accused me of harassment to his cop bosses. When I went to his house to ask him if our relationship was over, he had me arrested. I lost my teaching career. Worst grief of my life. Hatred for him is indescribable.

My Narc mother called me 'deplorable,' which in itself is a horrible thing to say. After a lifetime of her devaluation, this really was the last straw. I had done nothing to her at all. I cut ties with her, but not after giving her several chances, over three years, to simply apologize. I wanted to see if she was even capable, but sadly, she is not. She even defended her words, by saying, "It's not as bad as all that(again, devaluing me, but this time my vocabulary), it only means lamentable." Oh, I feel so much better now!! I didn't know about Narcissism at the time, but cutting her completely out of my life is the best thing I've ever done. While it would be probable that I would be written out of her will, then again, she may just leave me everything to guilt me from her grave. She absolutely would do that, to prove how even though she was not honored as a mother should be, that she, even in death, could never be wrong and she is so far above me, so superior, that she will be overly generous toward her deplorable, ungrateful daughter. Then everyone will know the 'truth' about me. That really would be a winning situation, for me, but I couldn't possibly care less about her 'stuff'. She lost her only daughter. I have gained my sanity and freedom. It's not like losing love or anything close to that. She cannot hurt me anymore.

Dr. Grande is one of the few youtubers that deserves every view and dollar they get. Quality content mate.

@delsi1204

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, also Dr. Campbell with covid related studies.

@m.lisewilson8704

3 жыл бұрын

Mommy dearest tried to engage my father in friendly banter relaying gossip she heard from a phone call with a friend which in later years she referred to as cleaning lady. We never had a cleaning lady. Told my hard of hearing dad that adolescents were using nail polish remover to get high. I’d just had a friend over and sitting on corner of bed facing dads dresser we tried and removed several colours. Why would I huff something where my father dropped off his change. Mom knew I was just playing with makeup but that dad thought she was a hero was too good to pass up. While I was getting beaten and interrogated for hours she had to get rid of evidence of my innocence. The rift between father and myself lasted a lifetime although he came to live me very much when I finally came back at thirty. I’d run away four years later. I was eleven. I was never allowed to have friends or even date. She would get hysterical. My life has been one of complete isolation. My school had me removed. She had everyone believe I was bad and in a detention centre. She refused to take me home and was always threatening to have him beat me. In the end he realized that with her getting rubella in first trimester, her use of diethylstilbestrol and diet pills caused my autistic features. He was remorseful enough to tell me he was leaving me his house. She told everyone fir 8 years that she wanted him to buy me a house but made sure I got nothing and made me homeless. Convoluted drama. Pure hell so much rage and anguish. I now have second of both cancers associated with DES she used.

@seriouslyjoking2

3 жыл бұрын

I had a friend who did that. I thought it was odd. Now, I know why.

@blueblack3591

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@noteworthy4247

3 жыл бұрын

I agree!!!

My ex would physically abuse me to the point I had to go to the hospital, and then turn around and tell everyone at work I was abusing him. When I found this out, I just couldn’t even believe it. I’ve never been so infuriated and disturbed in my life.

@CJ-fs9gt

3 жыл бұрын

Mine smeared me for 8 years behind my back. He lost 3 children to the system before he met me (sob story went how he wasn't on the birth certificates, he was supposedly out of town when his supposed meth junkie/crazy ex "gave them up", he fought soo hard for those kids!! 🙄) ... anyway so this time he planned ahead, right from the day our son was born, the smear campaign began. He has now collected over 40 letter writing flying monkeys reiterating his allegations as witness statements. It's a never ending nightmare of being under constant investigations for my son and I. I get the lame excuse that they (CPS) has to investigate every time a report is made. I asked them if they might want to investigate him instead because the constant frivolous reporting IS harassment and psychological abuse for both my son and I. He has never approached the courts to exercise his right to visitation .. because then the judge will order him to pay child support. But has 3 hours every day to run down to the police station next to it, to file grievance after grievance, allegations that I'm planning on fleeing the country .. absolute insanity. My son and I have had to move 3x, had 3 vehicles suddenly become inoperable after he finds us. Even with a restraining order, they say I can't prove it's him doing it and shrug it off. Oddly enough, our young son had been trying to tell me for 5 years some of the things his Dad was telling the neighbours, friends, co-workers (anyone who will listen) ... I didn't believe my son... We left with just our clothing because police wouldn't allow us to take anything from the family home. So the Dad put all our stuff into a storage locker, then didn't pay the rent so the locker was repossessed. The contents auctioned off. He literally stole my whole life history, I'm 50 and the last person in my family line left alive, I was the family historian since I was 20. He put all my rubbermaid bins that held primary source documents/family pictures/letters etc. for over 30k people into that locker, along with the laptop that held the digital copies. Pawned all my family heirloom jewelry, my coin/paper money collections dating back to 1876. Even my son's PS4. I won't mention how many times he tried to "accidentally" kill me 🙄. Like you, when I found out I was completely shocked at how dedicated he was to this "alternate reality" he had created .. all under my nose/behind my back. He had convinced my neighbours to call him at work if I left the house, which explained why he'd be home before my return to get ugly. I eventually stopped leaving the house all together for 6 years. BTW my neighbours never told me this, my son did after we were out. So inevitably he'd call the police to claim I attacked him when I was in all honesty trying to get my wallet and car keys that he would hold over his head as he called the police. Heck a few times he showed them scratches on his face (that my son watched him do to himself). He enjoyed hauling our son out of bed at any time of night so he could watch his Dad abuse his Mom, then tell the boy "Mom started it, she attacked me before I woke you!!" ... By the time he was doing this stuff I was for all intent and purpose completely 'mute', I still can't talk (verbal communicate). The last time we saw him up close and personal, he was running behind my car holding a kitten in the air like the scene from the Lion King, in an effort to manipulate our son into turning back and staying. He didn't realize it was our son who had been patiently trying to work with Mom to get out and stay out. The most heart-breaking thing is the holiday/birthday abuses, when our son was 6 he wrote a letter to Santa ... asking him to not bring presents for him but that he wanted Santa to take his Mom to the North Pole so she would be safe. His Dad laughed at him over it, told him there was no Santa, Dad is Santa. Mine is a bit more than a narc mind you .. My psychiatrist believes he's a high trait psychopath.

@marisadaniela6

3 жыл бұрын

@@CJ-fs9gt I'm not educated on law, so maybe it's entirely legal what he is doing, but it sounds like harassment and psychological abuse to you and your son. I wonder if a lawyer would give you a free consultation and tell you if this is legal, because it is very clearly, at the very least, wrong and immoral, even if legal in the eyes of the law. This is a child's mental health at stake! God bless you both and I am praying for your safety!

@katsmith4905

2 жыл бұрын

So you are infuriated that he flipped the story and but not that you were abused and hospital bound. You are prioritizing and focusing on the wrong issue!

@ecunningham2062

2 жыл бұрын

He is very abusive but not physically abusive because he knows if he ever hit me I will kick his ass

@coolcat3452

2 жыл бұрын

That literally illustrates Amber lol!!😅

I always appreciate how calm and steady your voice is, and clearly you speak about these topics using evidence from the academic literature instead being mostly anecdotal. I feel there is value in both academic studies and personal experience, and your content is wonderful.

Brian Laundrie comes to mind. Thank for sharing so much information about different mental illnesses. I am learning a whole lot and its shedding some much needed insight into a particular case in which the alleged agressor is a Narcissist and since its not any easy mental illness to understand and it tends to get tangled up with others since they do align with other mental disorders and or illnesses so this was made much more easier to understand exactly what this mental illness is.

@garyaustin8595

2 жыл бұрын

lol Brian Laundrie is a Hoax. FaKe duh

Dealt with a secretary with these issues. Every project was overwhelming and difficult, every customer screamed at her, the annoying board member sexually harassed her, every other female she worked with disrespected her. Every bit of it was imaginary

@LisaMaryification

Жыл бұрын

Maybe she was doing all that to others.

"Traditionally not associated with a high level of intelligence" is a phrase that I will attempt to use in my day-to-day.

@LisaMaryification

Жыл бұрын

The problem is, you can't even use it with Narcissists because a) they don't think they are Narcissists and b) they are the smartest person in the world.

@vanessajoycecollett6607

10 ай бұрын

I know right😂😅

@lizakroberts

9 ай бұрын

Ya. 😂 I feel bad for these people causing themselves so much strife, but at the same time it’s almost like a sitcom, like so silly… if it wasn’t real 🫤

Dr Grande, I often listen to your videos because I find them soothing when I'm going to sleep. When I listen to them back when I'm awake I'm amazing how much I remember. Thank you for your safe, comforting voice.

I don’t think we could have opinions to your spot on video content, but possibly relating our experiences to your teaching is what we give to help make sense of it all and help others feel inclusive in this cycle of abuse so they will keep seeking knowledge. You are one of the best here! Thanks for all you do for humanity! 🙏

Ive seen some cases where they start with becoming a victim and spinning stories to get attention from one group of people, blaming one particular person for troubling him and simultaneously having grandeosity in work related issues. From what I established is that their egos are so weak that any form of defeat in their mind is unacceptable and they are willing to go to any lengths to blame, accuse and become themselves victims to refrain from accepting responsibility for failure

This is more entertaining than any Netflix show I've watched lately.

@dianeorr8937

2 жыл бұрын

So true!

@alicewonderland8027

2 жыл бұрын

Did you ever encounter a narcissist?

@murielhahn8584

2 жыл бұрын

It's not entertaining to those who have had someone in their life like that.👌🤔

@girlinthesouth850

2 жыл бұрын

Right 🤣🤣🤣 So crazy!!

This is all so elaborate. I've had narcissist experience, and my observation would be that it's more spontaneous and reactive, generally. Whatever it takes in the moment to avoid (even mis-perceived) criticism; whoever is handy to scapegoat. I guess a therapist paying attention to all these subtleties might be helpful.

Oh my goodness you hit this on the head you are so spot on... My ex literally got a protective order on me and I never ever did anything violent or threatening to him or anything just to make our friends think that he had been violated and was in a domestic violence situation and the reality is is I was the one that suffered the emotion of abuse

I prefer grandiose narcissistic than vulnerable narcissistic 🤔 Since the second one takes time to realize

@goddessvibes08

3 жыл бұрын

Both are boundary busters. The second will try to coerce you into doing what they want through guilt. Just gotta not give in.

@lwolfstar7618

2 жыл бұрын

Just easier to spot grandiose narcissists generally.

@horaciocapanelli-soto4710

2 жыл бұрын

Be careful what you wish for. All kinds of narcs make you feel like trash. At least the vulnerable narcissist shows pity for herself, the other one thinks she/he is “unreachable”, that’s exactly the word I heard from an ex lol.

@siv5085

2 жыл бұрын

I dislike 'em all, no favorites here

@siv5085

2 жыл бұрын

Funny, the 2nd one....

Dated someone who played the victim. Claimed her mom had cancer when she didn't and would self sabotage to generate sympathy.

@darlenelawson1255

3 жыл бұрын

It is very sad that some people are so needy. Ido feel sorry for her in a way. What a world we live in. Thank you for explaining things I never could. I actually just thought people like that had a very bad childhood without love💞

Thanks Dr. G. for the video - (I watched it a couple of times) I am trying to understand the need to create false scenarios by some people. I was taught at an early age the importance of being genuine in life and fiction belongs in creative writing or film. I understand now that creating false scenarios in life could be a sign of mental illness.Thanks again.

Thank you for leaving this video up I always learn something new and I appreciate you very much 🙂

This is what freaks me the hell out about these narcs. The length they go to set these scenarios is mind blowing. Thanks for the info. Have a great day.💃😉

@melissam597

4 жыл бұрын

In CogNito 🙄🙄🙄

@qiuwbr091

4 жыл бұрын

I wonder if Dr. finds people with extreme dependency traits to be more like this. Male or female.

@sheilajac

4 жыл бұрын

​@@qiuwbr091 I don't think there is a spectrum of "dependency traits". Dependence is a spectrum, from dependent to independent. In the middle is interdependence, which is healthy.

@merlinsvdd

4 жыл бұрын

Unbelievable of them.

@thelastspartan4804

4 жыл бұрын

@SelfGoverned ... oh very good, I can see you are not OPINIONATED... rather you self educated, good for you, most do not do that... stay your path, you'll survive at least. : )

Also had a boss who would inflate problems to create a *crisis* then call meetings to shame staff. Type of person who says place would fall apart without them.

@Dan_Chiron

4 жыл бұрын

@Anarcho Frills You said it. _Perceiving_ something as a big problem is *very* different from creating a chaos around insignificant issues to show off supposed "problem solving abilities" and saving the world of something that wasn't a big deal in the first place.

@simplyonemortality8122

4 жыл бұрын

Dan but “low insight” means that they don’t see what others may see. Which is what I think Anarcho Frills was saying. To them what they think is a “big deal” may actually to others appear insignificant. To some people their may be validity to what they are calling the meeting about, they may just not handle or execute the addressing of matters in a way which does them any favours with others. To colleagues etc it may also “appear” as though their only purpose to call a meeting about things that the majority of people deem insignificant, is due to them wanting to throw their weight around or make themselves look good. Yet that might not be their intent - they may be genuinely frustrated, it may not be to look like a hero at all. From their perspective what they are doing may not be starting a “crisis”, but it also depends on what you define as a crisis in order to think that is being made into one also. In reality there could be lots of reasons “pathological” or not as to why a persons behaviour may seem that way, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it can only be narcissistic behaviour, coming / based from a narcissistic thought process. It depends on the person but it is easy to interpret things different from what actually might be going on with someone, of course knowing and seeing how a person operates in different situations over a LONG period of time can help you do a sorta-guess, but even then, it is still just that - a suspicion or an assumption.

@simplyonemortality8122

4 жыл бұрын

Anarcho Frills totally agree, things aren’t always as they may appear, and how they appear differs from person to person also.

@simplyonemortality8122

4 жыл бұрын

Anarcho Frills I think as humans we do to some extent have to use judgement for a lot of things (including people) and sometimes we have to assume too, because if we didn’t make any judgement or have an opinion then we cannot make decisions or do things we simply need to do to get through the day. I just think people need to realise and have the self awareness that just because you speculate someone is doing something for reasons it appear to you as an individual, that it is still only that - speculation. We need to make judgements on people on a daily basis, what we don’t need to do is have tunnel vision and see everything they say or do as likely pathological - wether people “think” what another person says or does may have been done for potentially unscrupulous reasons - you’ve got to be aware of your own biases and “check in” with yourself, you can deduce by logic and experience what the likelihood(s) of a persons intent may be and therefore choose to be cautious around certain people - but just because you think you know what someones intent is (which to a large extent we do innately for self protection etc), its important to always keep in mind that thats just your perception, and that doesn’t make it what is actually occurring. Using the “Pinch of salt” method with a bit of learning from the experiences you have with people, but not letting that lead you or be the primary/sole reason for a judgement. Theres got to be a balance and a healthy curiosity into how your own mind and how potentially others’ minds work, if you allow yourself to suspect everyone and everything because someone “did you dirty” in the past then thats just you being affected by a past experience and potentially taints how you view everything/everyone; but I think if you can keep in mind what people are indeed capable of and assess yourself and others potential outlooks or perceptions, different peoples reasons for saying or doing something, then that is called learning in my opinion. If you never make any judgement about how people may think/act and you constantly get hurt by the same people over and over because you choose not to judge them, that would be foolish in my opinion because your constantly putting yourself through the ringer (if indeed the person is the type of person to ruminate or be effected by it).

@meera2531

4 жыл бұрын

I had an ex-colleague like this... a production manager. He used to knowingly create problems, knowing people would need to speak to him to solve them and thus to appear like a hero. My covert narc mother does this too but I'd say that colleague may have had shades/ traits of Narcissism but wasn't full blown NPD. Sometimes people use tricks of narcs learnt earlier in their lives or careers.

Glad to have a definition for vulnerable narcissist. They want so much to be the center of attention. But who in their right mind would want to identify as a sorry piece of s**t all the time! I am tired of listening to the constant lamentations and whining and accusations. I want to say "Do something to change it" But they have no interest in change. Apparently it is working for them?? My family is devastated by this member.

Dr Grande, I've heard you use the term, " wounded hero" before in your videos and it has helped me put my relationship with a family member in perspective. Thank you

This definitely brings Jusse Smollett to mind.

@daytonabeachUSA

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it does. Trump too.

@henrytownshed5304

4 жыл бұрын

Dark Side Phil

@CarbonGlassMan

4 жыл бұрын

@@daytonabeachUSA Oh please! Trump pretends to be a victim? You must be joking.

@Mike-om4tv

4 жыл бұрын

CarbonGlassMan Lol he carries on daily about what the dems are doing. Persecution every dayyy

@pickingwilddaisies945

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah it definitely reminds of him but I think partly he dug himself into a hole that he couldn’t get out of so he just had to keep telling more lies. Definitely didn’t think it all the way through.

A bit like being at a family reunion. Never again.

@teresafarrell6457

3 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@JettBlast

3 жыл бұрын

Or a funeral when you were given something by the deceased and no one else got anything...

I just thank God for the internet and KZread. After so many years of dealing with a narcissistic mother and an enabling father with some narcissistic qualities of his own, these videos are so helpful to me and my self worth. Understanding the phenomenally crazy things that happened in my childhood with those two at the helm helps me move on. Thank you.

Thanks Doc for these wonderful healing insights. It astounds me to see how widespread this problem is in reading all the comments. Blessings to each of you as you reclaim your lives and move on to your higher good where you belong.

I love when a little bit of humor enters Dr. Grande's voice at the absurdity of these situations. Always makes me laugh when he's clearly holding back a chuckle.

@florencerichardson6352

2 жыл бұрын

Love love dr grande

You know your parents are crazy narcissist when you don’t even get weirded out by those stories 😂 on a more serious note: sorry to everyone who has to endure them, these people are a curse to everyone around them.

@miguelcruz2682

2 жыл бұрын

AGREE!! my dad is like poison to me kryptonite that IS!!!

@simonabbott725

2 жыл бұрын

@@miguelcruz2682 lol same the word Vile comes to mind with my dad

@Lawofimprobability

2 жыл бұрын

Or you lived in a neighborhood with crazy people. The skepticism born of experience gets taken as paranoia or "victim-blaming" by people who somehow can't imagine these sorts of scenarios.

@godschildyes

2 жыл бұрын

You're so sweet. Thank you for your kind words of compassion, and for your amazing insight.

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

Hey, my parents both resemble ur remark!

Thankyou so much. I wish I had looked you up earlier. Your advice and delivery is so much appreciated by me. Easy for me to understand and I am grateful to you. Thanks again. John.

Thank you for pointing out how they lack empathy

"That was the jacket you were rubbing on the side of your car earlier." HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAAHAAHAHAHAAHHAHA

@dollyrivera2840

2 жыл бұрын

🤣😆

@markpfeffer7487

2 жыл бұрын

I'm ded

@TheMurni4

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

This defines my mother perfectly. She even planned and committed crimes against me once she no longer lived with me... so I appreciate that you include the criminal aspect here. These people convince others (they use those narcissistic skills they possess -- being so good at persuasion) that they are being terribly abused.Then others rise to be their heroes and end up committing horrible crimes (even murder) against people who are really only guilty of figuring them out. I've had to go NC with my entire family because, even though I let mom live with me for more than a decade, they still believe the stories she sold them -- that I abused her. I didn't. It's been a nightmare recovering from her abuse and crimes. Through multiple false police reports, potentially fatal acts against my fur kids and an well-executed home invasion -- I ended up getting lifelong stayaway orders on my family members. Please... anyone in a relationship with one of these people... cut your losses and run away from them as fast and as quietly as you can. They can and will destroy your lives.

@claudiacardinelli1867

2 жыл бұрын

This happened to me too! Very similar situations.

@ncsynthex2478

2 жыл бұрын

My parents were able to use false accusations with police on multiple occasions as well. There was a month where it happened weekly, until finally my mother was able to convince the police that I had committed a crime worthy of arrest. Neither one of my parents would bail me out, so my sister showed up to get me out after 3 days. My mother got word and showed up at the same time to pay the bail bondsman more money to keep me in jail (not even legal). After this she completely cut my sister out of everyone’s life with threats against her and her daughter if they communicate with anyone again. My parents reasoning for all of this was to force me into a drug rehab. I am thankful for my road to recovery and a better life in that regard, however I was never asked, or confronted about seeking out treatment, they just assumed this was the way they would have to go about it. The whole ordeal made me feel worse off than I was before and I have been struggling with substance abuse again. I constantly look on all of these events wondering if it’s my fault that my family is in shambles, and have a huge amount of guilt.

@mangalam2827

2 жыл бұрын

A

@0blivvy8

Жыл бұрын

OMG I'm so sorry you went through that! This describes my mother perfectly as well. Your comment struck a cord with me because my mother has done the same in claiming that it's ME who's abusive! Now that she's older in age she accuses me of "elder abuse"! She's threatened to file false reports against me multiple times, everything from the police for "elder abuse" to CPS to try to get my son taken away from me. The last time that she cried elder abuse, she couldn't hide the big smile as she said it!

This was exactly what I needed to hear. Very eye opening

Dr. Grande, I think u r right on the money here. As I listened I began ruminating but in a good way because u validated what I have known for a very long time

This perfectly describes my father-in-law. He's constantly fishing for pity to cover his malicious and outrageous behavior. He still doesn't get it that others just don't give a sheet and are repulsed by the lack of accountability and obvious deceit.

"Not consistent with a high level of intelligence" lmaooo

@seanmatthewking

3 жыл бұрын

@Sheryl St. Germain ooookkkkkaaaay then

@gratefulila9980

2 жыл бұрын

@Sheryl St. Germain patience is a virtue

@pebbles92able

3 ай бұрын

Brutal!

WOW you were perfectly describing a few of the narcissists I UNFORTUNATELY have communication with

Dr Grande's style and content are fantastic.

To summarize, any plan that includes the words “I’ll show them, I’ll show all of them!”

@ecunningham2062

2 жыл бұрын

He's nothing but a paper lion

"... in the end, what we have here are two people who rammed their heads into solid objects. ... not typically associated with a high level of intelligence." That summed up Case #2 quite nicely.!!! Also, the irony in all cases so vividly demonstrated: The Narcs care about no one but themselves, while assuming all care about them. ... BINGO!!! Thanks, Doctor Grande! Informative and Entertaining, as always. Thanks!!!

@LanceLust1980HugeTheWarningFan

4 жыл бұрын

If someone you think might be a covert narcissist claims no one likes/loves them, or they're ugly, would this be thought of as covert narcissism?

@LanceLust1980HugeTheWarningFan

4 жыл бұрын

@Jazz Heart I am merely asking if a covert narcissist would say/claim such things in a way to gain sympathy, as what this video suggests might occur.

@LanceLust1980HugeTheWarningFan

4 жыл бұрын

@Jazz Heart They might also claim they are pretty, to mess with us, right?

@LanceLust1980HugeTheWarningFan

4 жыл бұрын

@Jazz Heart They can claim they're ugly to gain supply, yet say they're pretty later to mess with whoever they're engaging with. Then tell you they never said it in the first place...

@LanceLust1980HugeTheWarningFan

4 жыл бұрын

@Anarcho Frills "Generally it's not a helpful thing to see manipulative intentions behind ppls behaviors unless you know for certain this is a calculating person as opposed to a delusional person not in much control of their behaviors..." Are you trying to claim a narcissistic individual has control of their behavior? I thought recognizing these personalities as parts of abnormal psychology is to indicate they don't have control of this...? I do have empathy for these types of people, but I thank you for pointing this out for others. I was defending this method of understanding and compassion just yesterday in another video completely off topic to this, to a whole host of negative individuals who weren't empathetic to others. Despite the fact some people cause much harm, we should treat them with as much respect as we ourselves think we should be, but remember their abusive behaviors are still relevant and not lose sight.

Thank you for this! The examples you gave , very helpful and informative.

I really enjoyed your scenarios. They explain that kind of narcissism well.

A completely accurate description of the dangerous covert narcissist and the absolute destruction they perpetrate while blaming the victim and as a result they leave other unintended victims in their wake There is no description better

@dianefarley37

4 жыл бұрын

Well, they do target vulnerable victims, if they are malignant narcissists.

@ecunningham2062

2 жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

This does make sense considering a narc will manipulate you to get into a relationship with you. The love bombing phase is all about that. They create scenarios that match perfectly with you and your personality to make you think you've met the perfect partner. They keep it up until you are hooked in.

@Zeitgeistmusic997

2 жыл бұрын

It's called 'baby narcissism' because they all think the toxic things they do to others can't hurt and you should be a good sport. That's the same way a baby feels that 'lil' ole them can't hurt anything no matter how wrong they are. The origin of them is simple. They 1. Can not figure out how to fit in. 2. They copy cat behaviors 3. They get friends from the mimicry 4. They target and bully threats to expose their facade just to keep their friends (Basically, someone thinks they're a person by mistake and the narcissist never let's that go and have to bring sacrifices to the friends to keep respect. It's no different than a dog chasing a rabbit or squirrel for the owner. So the friends are the enablers who let them hurt you people)

@jaydemohammadi3196

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly I speak from personal experience with this. Everything you stated is 100% true 😞

@ashleyfowler1776

2 жыл бұрын

To my shame and ignorance, the love bombing sold me.

@rs3007

2 жыл бұрын

I had one of those! Quick moves. Boom together. Boom moved in.... He was so "prefect" but better than everyone, then BOOM "here's Johnny". 911 call he called on himself but saying I broke the door. I was the one after him! (When he was after me and the reasons idk, so many red flags I ignored bc he was "perfect") had to leave my own apartment cops let him stay and remove himself and his things before I could return... I'm married now 8 yrs to a wonderful man and have kids... But I'm on my toes he could be stalking in the shadows if he could find me idk.

@warriormom5843

2 жыл бұрын

Truth and an absolute nightmare!

I was meant to come across these videos I could not have survived without you all I thank you.

Oh my gosh thank you! You have totally helped me unpack what I am dealing with (again) today with the "victim" Ex-husband!

I have to comment on this one: I had a Narc coworker and stories 1 and 3 made me laugh because she would have done either of those. She had so many blow ups, it was ridiculous. At one point she ate a package of cheese, which people saw, and the next day screamed at everyone that her cheese was missing and someone stole her cheese. She went as far as calling and waking up the sleeping folks who worked graveyard shift to hurl accusations. She finally ended with a dramatic presentation in which she declared she would call the police. Everyone laughed at her and she sulked back to her desk in a rage. Because she was embarassed, she later decided that someone took it, but it was probably an accident and acted like none of her wild accusations and screaming fits had happened. Of course, she apologized to no one. She never did.

@AmyLSacks

4 жыл бұрын

@In CogNito J. just said people saw the co-worker consuming the cheese which she later claimed was stolen. Of course, there *are* people who *will* steal your food from communal spaces. I've had it happen to me. But people who lie about that kind of thing serve only themselves. In fact, they make it harder for others to believe later on that you've had stuff stolen, even if that really happened. :(

@paulclinton6414

4 жыл бұрын

If she could have had someone falsely arrested, she would have without losing a second of sleep.

@dianefarley37

4 жыл бұрын

@In CogNito Well, you raise an interesting point. The situation could have gone either way, for all we know. The bottom line is that we cannot know what happened. All the same, the scenario is a reflection of common human behavior. It invokes serious thought on at least the "what if" angle of the situation. Just imagine that things played out as represented, and go from there. It is true that malignant narcs set people up as targets in the workplace, amongst other areas of life, and then have everybody else on her side to target the individual as well. I've been in such a setting, so I know and I sympathize with your point. The narc who is just learning her game, or a stupid narc, could also make herself the target when her nasty behavior backfires on her.

@AmyLSacks

4 жыл бұрын

@In CogNito I've dealt with bullying myself. I've also had food stolen from a dorm when I could ill afford to keep replacing it. The girl who stole from myself and others had real problems of her own (though she wasn't poor). Sure, we felt sorry for her, but that didn't help us to keep our food for ourselves. Nor did it excuse her family who knew she had problems but failed to intervene and just let us deal with the consequences ourselves.

@LorenaBerrenbaum

4 жыл бұрын

They think they are so smart but honestly they are stupid kidults..🤣😂🤣😂

This is precisely what happened to me by two men who created a smear campaign about me after I decided I did not want to date them or associate with them anymore (ONE WAS BY MUTUAL AGREEMENT). They started slandering me, spreading all kinds of malicious lies and half-truths about me, they sent things to my friends and family members insisting I was the narcissist when in fact they both are. This has been such a traumatic experience for me as it lasted for nearly 3 years. These two men are textbook narcissists and love to attack women who cut them off due to THEIR narcissism! I had to hire a lawyer to obtain multiple restraining orders against the main ringleader. THE MAIN RING LEADER IS ALSO A PROFESSOR AT FIU. SICK SICK SICK!!!

Wow...I just watched this...good job! I enjoyed hearing the examples!

Dr. Grande, the levity in these examples is appreciated. In my unfortunate experience, Narcissists are highly studied and specific in targeting their victims. Then, after they study them and work up rage, then they may play the victim role but for a specific reason (Narcissistic Injury or entitlement to others’s power, work output, achievement, money, sex). Narcissistic Abuse seems directed at a specific person or a specific targeted group of people. There seems to be an often a jealous aspect, like “why should THEY have that? I should have that.” From the limited examples, I have witnessed, Narcissistic victim behavior has not appeared generic in origin, like the first and last example provided here. It has seems motivated first by targeting and attacking a specific person or group. A common example that we often see in media is the women who alleges rape only when the guy is planning to leave. It is a very sad and insidious example, because it diminishes the credibility “as a group” of those victims who are actually raped. As well as the horrific crime to the specific individual to be accused of a false crime, and all the fallout that brings to their life, livelihood.

That moment when you realize all your favorite soap opera characters are narcissists

@88_TROUBLE_88

3 жыл бұрын

95%+ all people who regularly appear on television

@harrynac6017

3 жыл бұрын

@@88_TROUBLE_88 The initial comment refers to characters, not the actors playing them.

@gergatron7000

3 жыл бұрын

...... Or narcissists are just like your favourite soap opera characters

@christinalw19

3 жыл бұрын

Lol 😝👍🏼👍🏼 so true!!

@cogit8able

3 жыл бұрын

@@harrynac6017 type casting.

I love the awareness being created about narcissism by Dr. Grande and other professionals. It really is an indictment on society. Narcissism is one of the worst traits a human being can have and it is becoming more and more prevalent with social media. Social media has benefited narcissistic people so it might as well be used to create the negative awareness they so richly deserve. Keep it up Dr. Grande

@gigiarmany4332

2 жыл бұрын

ABSOLUTELY👍🏽💥🔥🙏🏾

@captnhuffy

Жыл бұрын

Well said! Have you noted a pattern? I'm old enough to see that some of these Social movement train their following in Narcissistic tactics. And then as the movement gains speed they add darker tactics that would be associated with Psychopathy and then Machiavellianism.. I mean, they say they want "change" but power is their goal, so it makes sense they go there. Marxist movements incorporates every personality disorder it can from the Dark Triad

@mateuszw383

Жыл бұрын

No. The social media just made it easier to recognize them. Just look at their profiles or posting intensity. All those narcists just keeps exposing themselves thinking that's how you are gaining social credibility.

@denniscwalina6897

Жыл бұрын

That's the reason I took my Facebook platform down I felt like I was getting caught up in it. I don't quite understand why people have the need to share every aspect of their life except the negative aspects as so much to show off. Social media is definitely having an impact on many people's mental Health and our society in general. I opted not to participate anymore. I can't explain why but when I took my profile down I felt a sigh of relief. People don't realize how much of their business they're putting out for the public to see. The more somebody knows about you the more vulnerable you are to become a victim of a crime. A good example of this would be posting that you're on vacation then people know you are not home. Then your house can become a target for a burglary.

@mateuszw383

Жыл бұрын

@@denniscwalina6897 I agree. I use Facebook as little as possible. But I do get angry at myself when occasionally I get sucked into scrolling through it. I guess I should take my profile down too. I am not interested in other people's pictures of meals anymore...

My spouse is a Covert narcissist.. it took me 14 years to figure this out. But I am learning now.. I wonder it's easier for a women narcissist to play a victim. I came to know that my spouse has been running a smear campaign against me, my family and basically anyone I get even a bit close. People have listened to her for years without even trying to know my side of story. Once I found out I tried to explain , it was like they were brainwashed, and all my explanations were falling on deaf ears.

@breathinggreen2790

11 ай бұрын

They are so good at bad mouthing the people who actually love them. Like they took a course on how to manipulate and control others while always appearing the victim who can do no wrong. It's because deep down they know they are a piece of shit and everything they do is to distract themselves and you from this obvious fact. I hope life is good for you You deserve happiness.😊

Thank you for making my job as a Social Worker more tolerable. I see this on a daily basis as a child welfare social worker.

I know one who can't seem to catch a break but is the one who orchestrates their own weird dramas and problems.

@moniquevandeplas5210

3 жыл бұрын

I know one like that too. Finally I made him pay me back some money but the level of fighting was exhausting. Then when I told him fine, all I wanted was accountability and he could keep it, he got mad and called me bipolar...but okay, that I understand. However, he then told me he could not wait to pay me back the rest of the money so we could both move on. Then a few days ago I got an email telling me that he has been broke and depressed since he paid me back the first bit of money and that his last Cerb cheque will be all gone before he even pays me back. I didn't catch it at first but then I did...he demanded to pay me back...btw, he told me if I did not take the money he would get the police involved...so he demanded to pay me back and then he ever so subtlety told me he has been broke and with nothing since I took that money. Keep in mind before i took it i asked him if he would have 500 before i took it or after i took it as he said he went from 2000 to 500 in one day. It was 300 dollars he sent and I knew he had a month to go. To my question he replied none of my business and I said I did not want to leave him screwed. He then turned around and said he would be fine. Yep that is right.

@moniquevandeplas5210

3 жыл бұрын

Oh I forgot to mention he also said he had been jobless etc. Now keep in mind that this person who I helped with 600 dollars in March of 2019 and then 195 in April (those were 2 loans..the first to help with rent and the second with a project) and then basically gave him 200 dollars over time. This same person I helped with food and money and car rides but because I got upset back in March but we talked again in April and then he once again ghosted me...so by June of 2020 I said he needed to pay me back and the first 2 emails back from him were...Imknew I would hear back from you sometime this month demanding your money.....and then...I had to block you off my phone not because I was going to stuff you on your money but because I think you are a pyschopath. Keep in mind that this person just always needed a break and could not get ahead and could not get welfare and had no help...and always pays everybody back...yeah and then he gets 4 months of Cerb and I dont say anything until his 4th cheque and then when I call him out for not checking in with me...and tell him lies and manipulations he cannot believe i would say such horrible things!

@diplomatdiplomat2800

3 жыл бұрын

@@moniquevandeplas5210 Leave this person. Doesn't sound like a good person. Find yourself a new friend. May I remind you that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him. Give Jesus a chance to love you unconditionally as your Lord and personal Savior.

@moniquevandeplas5210

3 жыл бұрын

@@diplomatdiplomat2800 hello its amazing isn't it. KZread. The timing. I dont think I will have to leave this person because I am pretty sure he has left me. I have not heard from him since the end of August. I doubt I ever will. It hurts still which is weird cuz part of me never wants to see him anyway...but on the other hand I feel sad. However, life moves forward and there are good people. I just need to learn to stop investing in the bad ones. I really appreciate you reaching out. And just for the patheticness of it, if you do get back, can you see this guy contacting me again?

@chanoy._v8758

3 жыл бұрын

@@moniquevandeplas5210 Yes he will contact you! Protect yourself !!! Narcs are notorious for discard and you still thinking of him after all this means he has left and imprint. Ones he’s bored of his new supply or he gets cut off there, he’ll come back for ole reliable Monique. Don’t invest in someone who won’t, don’t and cannot invest in you financially or otherwise. Only you can determine who is good for you and who can enter your life so be aware and be careful. Lastly , never give away money you are going to expect back. Narcs are sweet talkers by nature. They mirror you, love bomb you and this is the closest you’ll feel to them but what your getting is a lie and when the discarding phase happens you’ll fiend for that connection again after going through withdrawals. My suggestion to you is to hold on to that email and cut off all contact.

In my state, a black girl sent herself threatening messages and blamed a white girl. The black girl was exposed by the FBI, but the school told the white girl she was not allowed to tell anyone she had been exonerated, and made excuses for the black girl. What happens when narcissism is enabled by our institutions we are supposed to trust?

@LisaMaryification

Жыл бұрын

People can't understand that others can send texts and emails from your phone number and email address. Once my email was signed in over 200 times in one day but my email provide said not to worry. I changed email providers. To this day I worry that someone was messing with my contacts.

@Threemore650

Жыл бұрын

Society breaks down. It’s obviously grossly unfair. Stamp it out where possible.

@applepretz5368

Жыл бұрын

While that's unfortunate , As Narcissistic abuse sucks hard and as lol people should be held accountable, Their races and or ethnicity did not need to be mentioned in that situation. Every race have narcissistic individuals.

@kylesanders8276

4 ай бұрын

​@@applepretz5368No, race and the context it predicted in this instance are a major factor. Wokeism and DEI are a BlackRock, corporate, top-down psyop coming from the same people who bought and control the institutions a long time ago. Race is perfectly acceptable to mention given that the teen Jessie Smollett'd herself. I wonder where she would have been influenced to do that?? The same institutions that encourage it. Just. Like. Original comment. Said.

@isabellesender

3 ай бұрын

That's called the woke virus due to DEI and inclusion sickness.

This topic was very interesting. I’ve been trying to learn as much about narcissism as possible because I’ve dealt with it for so long with several members in my family and only now am able to put my finger on what was happening. I always knew something was wrong but didn’t know what it was. I recently learned because of insightful websites and videos like yours. It has really given me the tools and the resolve to distance myself from them without guilt or shame. Thank you

@kylesanders8276

4 ай бұрын

Precisely the same situation. It is a very gaseous, ethereal condition that, exactly as you said, I knew something was off but was too uncalibrated to normalcy that I couldn't put my finger on it. It wasn't until I happened across a video one day and read some comments, then the supernova of realizations opened up.

i loved the examples, it really gave me a good idea of how narcissists are self centered and the extent they will go to to be acknowledged or felt bad for, only to gain sympathy and attention.