15 Things I Know at 40 That I Wish I Knew At 20 and 30!
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Hey family! Today I share the knowledge that I wish I mastered in my 20s and 30s. From personal growth to navigating challenges, this video is your roadmap to smoother journey. Whether you're approaching 20, in your 30s, or reflecting at 40, these lessons are treasures for every stage of life. 🌟💡🔄 Subscribe for more life-changing advice and for your journey!"
Thank you for adding 30s. Because ppl act like you just blink, turn 30 and your life is all together.
@kimik01889
2 ай бұрын
That's not true in 40's either. When you turn 55, you'll look back to your 40's and be shaking your head at all the ridiculousness. GROWING is a neverending process ❤ You will ALWAYS be able to look back
It's wild seeing you as a 40 year old woman. I've been following you since you were in your 20's. It's amazing seeing your growth and evolvement throughout all these years. I'm proud of you Doc!!!
COME ON!!!!!!!!!!! “I’m not gonna move faster because you fail to plan!!!”
"...I had people that have even tried to throw my adoption or my abandonment or ... in my face..." Why would anyone.!!!! Where they at!?!?🥊🥊🥊
Self-forgiveness. There are so many years in which the weight of a mistake kept us just existing and not living, but not enough people know how to let it go... A-L-L of it. 💔
Your lack of planning is not my emergency- I need that on a t-shirt. I felt it in my soul. Yassss ❤❤❤❤
Your content was made for motherless daughter for sure! Thank you for giving us the jewels that are often clothed in shame! 🌻
Change is inevitable. Be open to change. Each day, week, month, year is different. Address accordingly as needed for the betterment of the whole. "Spend time loving yourself instead of trying to find someone to love" ❤
Appreciate the advice as always. That lipstick is popping!
I'm currently 21 will turn 22 at the end of 2024 and ive been watching you aince i was 18, and I've truly learnt a lot, I've gotten to a place where i say, "if I'm not asked i wont defend or retaliate, if they wanted to know they would have came to ask me and not just assumed, but since they assumed im going to let them do it". Last year I made a purchase of a few pencil skirts and everytime I leave thr house i always wear them, I'm not yet working so i can only afford certain generic perfumes and I've been over the moon. ❤ thank you for being able to pour into our lives because this makes growing up a bit easier, stop making excuses and starting with what i have. May God bless you and always be with you❤
I am turning 30 on Saturday and this was much needed. It was the roach analogy for me! 😅I am having serious issues with my childhood favorite cousin and now I am turning 30 I see that I answered it also myself. She was my favorite as a child and now I finally feel “grown” and we are moving differently and she wants me to stay where she is I think and I can’t do that.
Just turned 20 a few months ago & I’ve been trying to gain as much insight on life as possible as I’ve been feeling ‘behind.’ I know there’s so much time to reach your goals but I feel like there’s so much pressure nowadays to be ‘young & successful.’ I wanna be able to achieve that sooner than later😭😫
I clicked SO FAST! Thank you Dr. Nina. Wishing you and yours a blessed week! Now let me tune in bc I know you are dropping some gems 💎 today!
@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for being here!
You are so right. I'm 51,and spent most of my life in one relationship behind the other. I'm in a relationship now,but now it's like after this is over I can't wait to explore single life.😅
Thank you so much! This video is so for me God richly bless you Am turning 26 this month and am a mother of a 2 year old toddler Especially that topic with friendships letting people go etc Is a lot on my mind bc I feel there is Growth happening even as am building my business that the surround needs to change It doesn't match any more
I just turned 34; this was so helpful! Thank you for sharing your experience 🤗
OMG, learning about and setting boundaries was a HARD thing for me and I didn't learn until my late 30's !! And it was all relatives and parents that I had to set those boundaries with- Wish I would have done it sooner!
As someone who has lived it, been there done that and bought the T-shirt, I absolutely love this video. The only thing that I am going to add to this is, if you have the opportunity to act in your own best interest do so. Don’t put yourself into a potentially dangerous situation, relationship, or lifestyle change. If it comes a time when sharing is something that seems like a good idea. Do not give people places things ammunition to hurt you. And hurt can come in many different guises, I’m not saying walk on eggshells for the rest of your life, but BY. Anytime you enter into a relationship or you join an organization or project or you start to make a lifestyle change take a second and pause and ask yourself. Is this going to hurt me in anyway? Is this going to help me in anyway. And just mentally start juggling up the pros and cons, the benefits and the drawbacks make absolutely certain that what you’re doing will always be a benefit to you. If that makes you selfish and other people, tell you that you’re selfish because you think this way, kick them to the curve. Get them out of your life as fast as you can blink, because that person will always be that Thing that throws negativity your way. And I do believe Dr. Nina has talked about toxicity. So many things can be toxic in our lives, and it is nobody’s responsibility but your own to get those toxic things away from you. And can I stress the hardest thing go to therapy. There is no shame in going to therapy. I go to therapy on a regular basis, and I plan on going to therapy for the rest of my life, because as I go to my primary care doctor, I need somebody there to actually help my mental well-being. It is perfectly OK to love yourself to treat yourself, and if that means that you don’t have a lot of friends, that’s OK too. Because I live by this one thing that I’ll never forget. If you have one real friend in your entire lifetime, you are doing damn good. You’re not doing just OK you’re not just doing, good, you’re not even doing good, but you are doing damn good. That should say something, because having one real friend takes that much so think of all the superficial relationships that you’re tethered to and ask yourself is this worth it. It’s what I do, and yes, I will gladly waive this flag proudly, I do not have many friends at all, and I don’t want them. I’m not a mastermind or anything crazy like that, but I can definitely say that friendship and having people approve of you is overrated. Nobody is going to love you like you are, nobody is gonna help you get to your dreams, and no one is ever going to, hold your hand when you fall down like you will. So thank you so much Dr. Nina for doing this absolutely absolutely love this video, and I will see you next time.
This video was absolutely for me TODAY 🙌🏽✨ I’m 27 now and I’ve been following you since my I was 19 through my HS Journey and entering into adulthood, you’ve given me so much confidence. I’m so appreciative of your platform ☺️
I love this!! Focusing on yourself and learn things so that person will have something to love.
This is so good!
Amazing advice! Thank you!
This was so good. Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you for this video! ❤🙌🏿
Heyy pretty !❤❤❤ thanks for sharing this video.
Thank you so much for this video🥂❤️
Powerful video, you said it well 👏
Thank you always good info🤗🙏🏽🌸
Great video, thank you so much.
Love this video I needed it
Great insights!
Thanks Dr Nina!
This BLESSED ME!!!
LOVE THIS
Love this content 🩷
Amen!!! God bless you Dr. Nina❤❤
This was Good!! I think I'm on the right track. Thank you Dr. Nina.
Loveeeee! Very DEEP!
Thank you for sharing. Appreciate your thoughtfulness in sharing your experience with us. I made sure to share to others
I loved this video. I was able to see my growth and see where I need to continue to develop.
It’s always so great to see you. This is wonderful advice ❤.
Thank you so much truly! This is really helpful and hitting on a lot of things I’m experiencing in this season. This is truly a blessing 🙏🏾
I needed this video. Thank you 🙏🏽 you are completely right your traumas are not for everyone to hear! Thank you
Thank you Dr. Nina from someone who is old enough to be your mom. What you shared here is GOLD!
Dr. Nina I love everything you put out, you never disappoint.
The lipstick is beautiful, thank you for sharing
This hit my timeline at just the right time!
Yes it's a single life, sometimes lonely. I would love to have a mentor or partner! You really gave us something to think about. Would love to watch it again.
Preach Dr. Nina Preach!!!!!!!!!!
This video is a breath of fresh air!❤️🙌🏽
Hiii pretty thank for sharing that ❤❤
Dr. Nina you have never lied ,you hit all points . I have a couple of folks that I’m sending this to .
Thank you for sharing from your experience, Dr. Nina! I'm 30 and this message is so timely, truth-filled and encouraging.
Yes i love these type of videos: so very helpful !!!! So many great tips! Thank you for sharing! Rockin' that pink which really makes your teeth look super white by the way! Also the bun buns are so cute & fluffy looking, love them!!
Dr. Nina, you are awesome! Awesome in every way. I needed to hear this...blessings and peace to you and your family. THANKYOU
The analogy with roaches sent me lolll. So true. Great video!!
Not even half way through the video and I'm already adding this to my favorites! Thanks Dr. Nina! I'm approaching 40 and I've learned so much in so many ways. Your wisdom over the years have contributed so much to my self development! Blessings to you! ❤
Excellent video and soo spot on. I struggled all thru my 30's bec I felt myself elevating and saw my friends potential and wanted the, to grow with me/spending Years trying to make things right but finally I realize that was incredibly unrealistic. Although I had the best intentions I should have just let them go! I'm incredibly selfless and that has hurt me alot so I'm learning to be positively selfish and standing firm on my word and actions. I'm still very kind, but I've learned I need to put myself first!
Always love your videos and the info you give. The constant zooming in and out was making me a little dizzy, but as always, great video. ❤
I love getting the cheat codes 😊 Thank you for sharing these insights! I'm turning 25 in a month and I am learning many of these things and it's encouraging to have it reinforced by others ❤
I'm so happy for you and your family! THANK YOU for being an inspiration and testimony for God's plan! YOU have inspired me and given me the confirmation that God is not through with me yet! KEEP SHINING! Blessings from H-Town 🙏👑
This is so real Im 27 and needed this everything in this video
11:57 this is so true….. and I’ve learned it’s ok…. It nothing wrong with that
Good topic
I would love to hear more of your journey through academia and tenure. I'm struggling right now
Thank you for the content, but can I please say that your lipstick is popping!!!!!!!!! I absolutely love that color💄
Awesome tips!! You are God's blessings girl that lipstick is popin
I am thinking about getting therapy, thanks for all you do and shared
Hey niece, awesome job on that weight loss. Awesome video tweety bird!!!!!
@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol
2 ай бұрын
Thank you Auntie! I love you!
Love will come! 💞
Im going to have to watch this a 3rd time and take notes literally
I just wanted to say it's been such a blessing to be mentored by you❤ I will be 39 in August and I have been married for almost 20 year's and we have four children. And.. I can honestly say that I am just now learning who I am. The Lord has made a way for me. I have suffered from anxiety and so much pain in my life. I am just now learning you can't trust everybody and learn to trust the process and take care of myself. I can not pour from a empty cup. Bless you sister ❤❤ I am learning so much from you.
Yes yes, be a lone and spend it loving yourself. I wish I would have poured into myself earlier rather than now at 40
I'm.27 and just now learning this
Hey beautiful brwn baby Doll 😊👋
Let me just say, I loveee you vlogs! Baby Hunter is soooo gorgous..thank you for putting us ladies on with much needed knowledge ❤
@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol
2 ай бұрын
You are too kind! Thank you so much!
Can u do a separate video of how u were able to get out of your situation in college
Thank you so much for your wonderful work. Do you know where I can find a mentor please? I would love to have a accountability partner
People come and go is a sad fact frfr 😩😩
Hi looking back didn’t get that motivated from family as far as as Education .. Yes I am educated but I am not where I could have been, toxic relationships.. Therefore I spoke this into my Son’s and there are good ..
1:37 I did the same thing the other day. I’ve been wondering if I should become an RN. I’m not sure if I have the grit for it.
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Great video but I didn’t hear a word you said Dr Nina was just looking at your mouth coz that lip colour is poppin’!
Dang you're 40?? I totally thought that you're like 25 or something. You literally don't age