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You're the best Eric Great advice Sir

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Why, thank you, sir...I appreciate that!

Great as always :].

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Cheers!

Great Vid as usual 👍

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Thanks you, sir! Much appreciated!

Wow amazing advice. This is life changing stuff.

@SkillofAttraction

9 ай бұрын

Thanks, man! Glad it was helpful!

Another superb video.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it

Hey man I love # 5!

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! Any of these, done in the correct way, will have a positive effect on her attraction for you.

Excellent video

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much!

Fantastic video

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Thank you very much indeed Eric, for another tutorial of depth, integrity and insight. Please would you kindly - and any of the rest of the Skill of Attraction community expand on what is meant by 'being selfish'. This facet sits uncomfortably and a deeper explanation would be hugely appreciated. Thank you very much indeed again, Eric. Ted from the UK.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Selfish means to put yourself first...what you want & need ahead of her wants/needs. Of course I don't mean all the time, but usually. Most of us has been taught to NOT be selfish from a very early age, but people/women tend to walk all over those who are always putting others first.

@Edwardjjp

2 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Thank you Eric, for this reply. Women walk all over men that accommodate? Goodness

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@@Edwardjjp Well, if you're TOO accommodating. Selfishness (to some degree) communicates that you can & will acquire resources for survival. When a woman chooses a man, she's always thinking in terms of "will he be able to ensure me & my children's survival?" That may sound a little ridiculous in modern times, but it's simply part of a woman's instinct...evolution hasn't caught up with modern times.

You should've named this 11 ways not to be a Simp. Great advice you put in this one

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

You know beter bro stay blessd

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Quality content as always. The best relationships I've been in is when the female chases me. Once you start chasing, they quickly become bored, females love the thrill of the chase.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Yes, they LOVE the chase!

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@Nic777 Exactly! Plus society tells THEM that men are supposed to chase.

Nice content coach... Tho I have a question... Do you ever feel... Performance anxiety in a relationship sort of?... Like feeling like you always have to be funny... Or always have to be witty and the conversations with your girl friend have to be A grade all the time... I mean sure... They are like that.. But the feeling that you have to be like that everytime... Always having to be exciting.. How do you deal with it?

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I used to feel like that...but, you're putting too much pressure on yourself & whatever you say or do is going to come across as inauthentic. Plus, you're indirectly putting her on a pedestal & entering in to her frame with that mindset. No man can be "on" 100% of the time. The idea is to just try to have some fun & bring her into that fun. If you're not in the mood, then you're not in the mood. It's not a big deal. Remember, you're not her entertainment.

The thing with women's behavior is that, clearly, they were designed for a "polygyny" relationship. That is, sharing her lover with multiple women. That's why a lot of things don't make sense, as NONE of these issues would arise in that type of relationship. The benefits of monogamy is that it democratizes access to women (instead of, say, the top 20% men keeping all of the women and leaving the scraps to the bottom 80%), and the drawbacks are: men focusing on one woman too much, woman getting bored and losing attraction which turns itself into a breakup or simply a dead bedroom. Too bad we can't have the best of both worlds. Maybe that's what wars were for, nature's way to reduce the availability of men - as grim as that sounds. As an example, after the Paraguayan war where the male population went down dramatically, every man had to engage in polygyny. There's a saying that paraguayan women are good at sex because they were breed for that after that war. One modern alternative to replace polygamous relationship is to have a purpose in life. But even with that, it doesn't replace the dynamic.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Well, it's actually men who are innately polygamous. Women are hypergamous, which means women date, mate, & marry up...a high value man. This leads to some women being willing to share a high value man, since they're in scarce supply. But you're right...monogamy gives everyone a fair shake. The idea is that men strive to be the best man they can be & women will fight for them too...those men become one of the top 20%. Much of what of talk about in this video, or all my videos, will often come naturally to a man when he reaches a high status. What you're speaking of about the Paraguayans is something just about every tribe & civilization has experienced to some degree throughout history. Of course it's not much of an issue in modern times, but it could turn back to that if we breakout into a devastating war. If you haven't yet, I recommend that you read the book, "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi. You can find it here if you're in the US: amzn.to/3G5VlEQ That book will connect the dots for you & give you a much better understanding of all this.

@ddmozz

2 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction completely agreed on women being hypergamous and willing to share a high-value man. Spot on! I haven't read The Rational Male so I'll do it as soon as I can. Thanks for the tip man.

I went to my partners house last night and she’s not well as she’s having a week of all weeks on her peri menopause. She sat there with nothing like a zombie so I left even tho I was kind and being caring, I asked her if she wanted to come to mine for tea after she finishes work on Saturday she said maybe as I’m going out with her son to her mates house to celebrate a 50th birthday and they are all having a take away. Now I felt rather sick as she said no to me but yes to her mate. I haven’t manifested this before this I was living in the end feeling warm fussy feelings being wanted and needed by my partner. Last night was the first night in 2 years I didn’t feel like a priority. I’m I over reacting ??? On my situation or not

@MrTheomighty1

2 жыл бұрын

@@bbblueridge I understand what you are saying only she is going through the menopause and it plays havoc with ladies hormones they’ve killed and got away with it. I know it will get better and she will be back into me as she was more into me as I with her. It’s just strange seeing someone love you and then over night she doesn’t even know herself

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

I would say that yes, you're overreacting. I know it stings a bit, but if this is the first time in 2 years...& she's going through menopause...it's most likely just a little hiccup & nothing to worry about. She wasn't disrespectful or anything. Just give her a little space & turn your attention elsewhere. If you turn this into a "thing" & make a big deal about it, it'll only cause her to pull away.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@BB Blueridge - On point.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@MrTheomighty1 - I haven't had to go through it with a woman yet myself, but from what I understand menopause is a bumpy road...not just for her, but for the man in her life as well. It'll take some patience on your part.

Key word "high value"😶

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Of course the idea is to build yourself into a high value man...

PLEASE ! Can you make , or do you have, any video for how to make my girl interested in long distance relationship, we see each other 2/3 days every month and that’s it. She likes me but im afraid she will stop at some point , she will go ghost….. thanks in advance!!

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

I believe I discuss that in this video: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pnylyc59j92waKw.html

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

I just found this one too: kzread.info/dash/bejne/m6uWx8eIpZeofpc.html

@hasohaso8190

2 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction thank you very much!!! It means a lot!! Thank you❤️

I hate the term spin plates..lol

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, me too...I hate a lot of the terms used (alpha, beta, etc), but most people are familiar with them.

The most shitty thing though is even if you done most of these things and still looked after yourself and yet she still leaves 😢 Plus can you even have a girl obsess over you if you don’t have a big social circle,even though she does can I still keep her obsessing truly over me?plus if the girl you were dating was looking at other guys on a couple of occasions from the start does that mean she never really liked you in the first place?

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Remember that women are innately hypergamous meaning, they are always looking for the best, most high value they feel they can attract. It's not until she has fallen in love or feels she has the best that she will stop looking. The only thing you can do is just be your best. If that's not enough for her, f* her...then she's the one not good enough for you. It may sting right now, but there's a better one out there for you. See it as her loss, because you're the prize. She just didn't see it...& she may not see it until she meets/dates a few other men, but buy that time it'll be too late. She missed the boat. There are a lot of factors that go into how a woman chooses a man. While you may be the best man in some areas, other areas where you lack may be most important to her. Just keep working on yourself & meeting/dating new girls. And if your small social circle is a factor, then perhaps this is a good area to start working on. For suture reference, I've changed these up a bit here. Please see my pinned comment.

@jasonstatham4834

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction okay coach, I did really work on myself, I put my best clothes on, always kept in shape(even though when she came over we would eat pizza and junk food) but when she went I would train my ass off! I did do things wrong I did bite at her and she bit at me sometimes. I remember when I told her that I wasn’t getting with anyone else and she told me she thought she would feel over whelmed if we were to keep seeing everyday but she wanted to as much as me but I did keep playing it cool in that time. But yet still feel like it was an excuse because I reckon she was just keeping her options open with me when I look back due to her mentioning that she wish she could look up to me(my height), her looking at other men from time to time, and her pulling away and for the fact that we were fine before she went on holiday and she came back and told me she didn’t want to be with me. It hurts because the amount of effort I have put in to better myself coach i feel like I still failed and it really hurts inside and the fact that all my friends have moved on with there lives and I’m alone just cripples me but I may be wrong because she did really feel infatuated because I could tel a couples of times and this was after we had that serious talk. But your not my therapist I know, but you have stayed in contact with me from last year all the way through coach and I just wanted to say thankyou very much, I really appreciate your help. Sometimes no matter what some women will just always put me second place no matter how hard I put my work in to better myself. I will send funds over thanks coach 🇬🇧🇺🇸

JC what is that shirt? Having a hard time taking attraction advice.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

A shirt is distracting you?

If a womam is proposin plans before you do it it is a bad thing?

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily...it shows she has a relatively high interest. You just want to be sure that you take the lead from there. Unless she already picked out a place to go, then you decide where you're going & what you're doing.

make vidoes about wifes.. treating a wife is different than a gf or someone ur dating.. nobody does videos focusing on wives

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

What i teach is about building & maintaining attraction. That doesn't change when you're married; although, it's much more difficult when you're married, LTR, or cohabitating. So, in the context of this video, it's really the same if you're married. You may need to make a few adjustments due to the marriage (obviously you can't be dating other women if you're married, but you can continue to flirt with other women as long as you don't cross the line), but the fundamentals are the same.

ME ENT SAYING SHE NO GOLD DIGGA

@SkillofAttraction

10 ай бұрын

I'm not sure what you're referring to...

A man has to show me he really cares for me to reciprocate. I don't waste my time on games.I don't compete for love or chase a man. I cannot stand a selfish man, yuck! I don't date a man that wants to date others while dating me. If he flirts with other women then I don't go out with him anymore.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

On a conscious rational level, of course you're not going to like this or agree with it, but deep down, on a psychological level, it's different as long as a girl is already experiencing a high level of attraction for a man, or at least an emotional attachment. At this point he must be properly leading the relationship & making her feel special. A lot of my videos require context from my other videos.