HEY! Thanks for watching and extra thanks to those who gave this video a thumbs up - I appreciate you. What's one thing you're going to start saying no to ASAP?

@GirlMomma

4 жыл бұрын

My mama- who has lived with me since I moved out with my 3 year old at 19.(so basically my entire life) I really need to work on saying no to her. She is narcissistic but possibly dying this third round of needing another kidney transplant, so it's hard for me to stand up to her manipulation because I'm scared of regretting it for the rest of my life if she dies. To start with an actual goal I guess I will say no to her cooking Thanksgiving for my family this year. I'm 39 years old and I've never been allowed to cook a meal for my husband or family in my own home because that's "her thing." So I'm going to ask if I can do the cooking this year. 😁👍 (I'll let you know how that goes... She's too weak to throw anything at me so....😆)💜 Thank you for all you do, Julia.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

@Babs Franklin Yes sister! Music to my ears.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

@Malinda Vogel If you're sick YOU NEED TO REST! Good for you.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

@@GirlMomma sister - just because someone is dying, it doesn't give them an excuse to be a jerk. You can speak up, set your boundaries and hold your ground without being rude or mean and I think you will grow a lot more if you let yourself own your wants, needs and preferences - even with you mom - than if you let her walk all over you until the day she dies.

@GirlMomma

4 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah you're absolutely right. 💜(says my head,not my heart) thanks for the advice.

I was not allowed to say "no" to my narcissistic husband. I was controlled by him. He gets angry and makes me feel guilty and abuses me emotionally if for example I say I don't feel like going to the movies tonight. This is one example of thousands other examples. He doesn't accept any boundary. So I finally left him 4 months ago after living with no boundaries for more than 20 years. I'm extremely proud of myself and respecting myself more and more everyday.

@alyx19

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy for you!! You rock girl!!

@mistilove2686

3 жыл бұрын

I'm going through the same thing 😂.I feel for you . Know how it is. Not good. We do everything we can and it's not good enough for them..

@mistilove2686

3 жыл бұрын

It's been 30 years for me. I'm 50. No longer have a life . No say in anything if I try I get told I'm starting trouble 😅.

@mistilove2686

3 жыл бұрын

No respect and I'm feeling like I'm not even a person anymore 😭. Have alot of ailments and they don't care. They are selfish and self-centered. I can't leave. I have nowhere to go and know one to help me.

@irisvanlimburgstirum9878

3 жыл бұрын

@@mistilove2686 😭 Pray God you can get out of it.

1. Staying in situations or interactions you're not OK with. 2. Saying No to conversations which you don't want to have. 3. Justifying our choices to people to whom it's none of their business. 4. Say No to apologising to people who don't like what you like or think you should like or dislike something. 5. Don't apologise for your goals and dreams. 6. You need to stop saying No to feeling pressures or obligations to do other things. 7. Say No to being an A-Hole to yourself. (Belittling yourself) 8. Say No to waiting for other people to change so you can be happy 9. Start saying No to taking responsibility for other people's thoughts and actions, feelings and choices. 10. Hmmm. I must have missed one!

@MagsChase1229

3 жыл бұрын

Health, take care of our health. Do not neglect it for other things that are not as important.

@winniecantonese

3 жыл бұрын

thanks a lot.

@winniecantonese

3 жыл бұрын

6. Say No to things and people that are not healthy to ourselves...You can take the choices to treat yourself well. Be honest to yourself. No sorry for self-care.

@mm-sv6hd

3 жыл бұрын

Being willing to walk on eggshells around anyone is the missed point, I've catched it from instagram post

No is a complete sentence.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@GirlMomma

4 жыл бұрын

This is my new motto. 👍😁

@mytwosense5223

4 жыл бұрын

Suggestion : put that on a t-shirt, that's catchy

@kasey77

4 жыл бұрын

@@mytwosense5223 hahahah...thank you!! great idea!!

@TheMehkey

4 жыл бұрын

Not really, but i get the idea

We don't need to do things that we don't want to do, we need to respect ourselves and put ourselves first, not caring what people think or say...

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Isn't it so simple? A wonder why we make it so complicated.

@ErikaK

4 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah yes!!! The fear of being rejected, fear of judgement, fear of getting hurt. When we are seeking for approval and validation. I really love your channel thank you so much ♡

@ErikaK

4 жыл бұрын

@@denverskywatch777 ♡♡♡ I'm so glad !!

@ErikaK

4 жыл бұрын

@Anton Boludo:) ♡

@moulee7448

4 жыл бұрын

I like it!

When I had to give up a good long friendship I cared about it more than she did I said good bye for my sanity.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it's necessary to respect the fact that some people are not offering what we want or need.

@terrilynn6148

4 жыл бұрын

I hear you Heidi! Ive had to give up both of my best friends. It was painful. But now I have my sanity back too. And so much more energy to put on myself and my goals. 😊

@christamaranda

4 жыл бұрын

good for you, girl.

@evei11

4 жыл бұрын

I got rid of a nasty friend aswel. I hadn't realised how bad it was until I actually got rid of her. I felt free I was generally in a better mood and just happy. Some people are really not meant to be in your life, they may not act on it now but if you feel a negative sensation GET RID OF THEM, as it's only a matter of time before those negative feelings you have are confirmed. Much more careful now😊

@newearth4071

4 жыл бұрын

Me too.

A quote that helps me when thinking about delaying happiness waiting for someone ELSE to change. ‘Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.’

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

AMEN SISTER!! That is one of my favourites and I say it often.

@kennethmcphee9555

4 жыл бұрын

Powerful

@lisapurnell2064

4 жыл бұрын

Love that ..and so true.

@niharika9414

4 жыл бұрын

Haha true but funny too

@claudiahamilton9884

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for that one. Love it and will remember it when its time :-)

Thank you for this..I had to walk away from my entire dysfunctional family over a year and a half ago and move to another country..after 5 decades of covert abuse a big NO came from my soul when a seemingly " innocent" email from my brother sent me wretching into the toilet..I am an empath and took on all the responsibilities of my family...it nearly killed me ...I was dead inside. ..my mother passed away a month ago...I did not go to the service and remain no contact with my family..I have suffered enough and now it's time to mend my broken heart...much love strength and blessings to you and all here present...💖

@phoenix9999

4 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain. I had to separate myself from my mother who has all the characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder except for one. I was tired of the emotional and verbal abuse. Unfortunately, there are some people who don't know my mom well, who invalidates my feelings and tell me I should speak with her. I just recently declined a wedding my mother will be attending. That person kept trying to convince me that I need to go. I don't know how you deal with the judgers who don't understand but I'll take advice about what to say if you have any.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yes sweet Angel - you absolutely need space to heal. Sending you so much love and strength.

@thisismycomment8611

4 жыл бұрын

💗💗bless your heart thank you for your words it helps me feel less alone and more sane. I relate. Keep doing you. No contact will save your life.

@angel772921

4 жыл бұрын

@@thisismycomment8611 not alone! We're in this together and breaking a cycle of abuse which is and can be transgerational..it's massive work but only for the brave of heart..that's YOU..much love 💖

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

4 жыл бұрын

@@phoenix9999 I walked away from my whole family too and the environment often don't see their dominance. I recognize the controlling behavior from the others trying to tell you to talk to her. They guilt you while the perception is reversed as if you are the bad person and your mother the left behind mother victim. It's awful but I'm happy you distanced yourself and cut off their controlling patterns. I'm still wrestling with guilt now and then. Also suffered from manipulation at work and it's hard to stop the conversation with your supervisor but I should do it from now on by saying 'I'm not going to have this conversation'. Because it's manipulative and labeling and one way traffic transfer. Bless you.

Damn! No wonder why I have so much anxiety. I need to start saying NO to 50% of these. I have a lot to work on. ☹

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Siera - what a powerful insight!! keep us posted on how it goes. You've got this girl

@jenniferedmondson5019

3 жыл бұрын

Same here.

@shabnamrafique7730

3 жыл бұрын

You'll get there in the end.

I've apologized for a lot of things in my life, but one of them WASN'T my dream of starting an Etsy shop. Now I make a full time living doing what I love. Thanks for the reminder to keep saying yes to yourself! 💕

I'm Jess, I'm 24 and I found you because I have depression and anxiety, and I am trying to change that. I want to be happy and feel confident.

I lost a relationship for not knowing to say no. I was pleasing her all the time, at the end I lost myself and she walked away, so is greater than we believe

@tonimehring6495

4 жыл бұрын

I'm going through the same thing right now. 😔

@shabnamrafique7730

3 жыл бұрын

I think this is a generational thing we are taught to please others, and subconsciously we allow the teaching to take place through observation, if it's the only thing we have learned in childhood it's the only thing we know. It is a behavior we can un-learn especially if taught the consequences of people-pleasing; narcissistically abusive relationships teach us these exact consequences. It's hard to leave a narcissistically abusive relationship even when individuals want to; because the external factors work in such a way that it becomes difficult to leave. This is what society is failing to understand. That's not to say it isn't doable.

I learned to say no about 5 years ago. I feel so free now. I don’t have to , and will not do anything I don’t want to do. No guilt. Just freedom for the things I do want to do, and the people I want to do them with. That’s happiness

I'm saying No now to my family and it's been the best decision. 1 year & counting

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it's necessary to say no - even to family.

@larryfritz1726

4 жыл бұрын

@@laurenmichelle6420 Man, when you had enough of the back-biting you'll make that change believe me!! 🙏💜💜

@larryfritz1726

4 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah 💜🙏💜love you

@reenasingh-id9zh

4 жыл бұрын

I have watched so many videos where they talk about random negative people in your life or negative or abusive family members but none for those family members who we love but are unable to be available to them round the clock . Some days i too feel exhausted that why i am compelled to say yes to whatever they ask and if i say no ,i feel guilty later on .

@larryfritz1726

4 жыл бұрын

@@reenasingh-id9zh It took 65 years before I said No, Please Don't Take as Long as I did🙏💔✔

Saying no is so important! We often feel like we have to be everything to everyone but then we often forget to be good to ourselves in the process! Thank you for the tips. I love your passion.

Oh my gosh you are doing the lord’s work with content like this. You have no idea how much I needed this today. You rock!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you sweet Tiffany! So glad you're here.

My ex husband broke my neck in 2012 over my dead husbands ashes. Etc etc. I stayed. He did horrible things after that. I stayed. I endured it. I had bought a new house up north. I took possession of the house in aug 2017. 1 mo went by and he threatened to smash my brains in w a fricking hammer. I had got myself where I could walk 50 steps from 10 steps bc of mobility problems. I left that day. I started researching why I stayed. How to love myself... and what that means. I love listening to ur advice! U r 1 of my favorite inspiring life coaches! Ive learned how to make the boundaries for ppl like what u talked about in this video!!! Every word in the video above is part of respecting urself enough ... loving urself! Ur amazing Julia!!! Women like me (who I was) need u!!! Thank u for inspiring us to be ok with who we r... and teaching ppl how to matter and be happy!!!

@roseh1132

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry you went through that, glad you're safe now.

As a highly sensitive person, you set a wonderful example of a healthy nuance when that person made a comment about working mothers. Just seeing that helped me a lot. Thank you! 😊

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

It puts a bee in my bonnet, that's for sure! Really glad it helped. We have some work to do to get the gender equality we need, but we are making ground. Glad you're here Athena.

Julia you are a light in the darkness. Thanks for what you do

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you friend. So are YOU.

@jenniferedmondson5019

3 жыл бұрын

I concur 100% . I just found Julia’s channel and I’m so thankful for her advice!

The health part is so central, because it dictates the rest. For some ppl, self-development should start with taking good care of their health, which will make the rest of other steps so much easier. Some ppl can ingest literal garbage and still perform relatively well, and so they can skip this cardinal rule of self-development.

@sassysandie2865

4 жыл бұрын

Desert Vox they can skip it when young but believe me, it catches up to you when you get old! Good advice!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

totally agree.

You’re so very authentic, real and organized in your content. I really enjoy your videos! This one hit home. Boundaries are my toughest challenge. I’ve recently set up goals including 5 year and ten year. I’m 54 and don’t have time to waste. In my friend group, I was forever the counselor, life coach, even punching bag etc for folks repeating the same things over and over and needing me to hear the daily drama. It exhausted me, derailed me from focusing and left me scattered. I’ve had to let them go. It was painful but I need to focus on myself, my career, my health and my sanity. I even deactivated my FB account. Now that I’ve had that energy back to direct toward my goals I’ve scored amazing job opportunities I never thought possible (interview on Tuesday!), been running daily and so much more. I now wake up and instead of reaching for FB, I reach for motivational videos and feel thrilled to watch your new ones each time! You really validated all that I’ve been saying NO to, and I thank you! Needed this! 💜

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yes ma'am yes!!! Get it girl and way to take charge of and responsibility for your own life and happiness. Standing up and cheering for you!!

@terrilynn6148

4 жыл бұрын

Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you! 😁

@thisismycomment8611

4 жыл бұрын

Never too late. I support your journey.

@terrilynn6148

4 жыл бұрын

Thisismy Comment Thank you and I support you too. 💜

@MagsChase1229

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, Terri I am so very happy for you. I hope the job interview last year went well. Yes, the over and over. I admit sometimes I was the one calling about my issues. Also, someone keeps telling me same things. I walk away, gentley, I've told person..."can we stop talking about that one guy"....there is an apology and then in 2 days or so the guy is brought up again in conversation and I end up moving around and leaving room. (it's a family member who talks and I live with.) Otherwise, things are pretty good, many blessing here. Look at life, and people and nature, you'll see sooooo many blessings, with gratitude on a daily basis, things change, the Universe / God force gives you what you want. Meditation is key.

The health of my body is what I need to focus on more. Specifically the food that I eat. Thank you again for the video.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Really glad it connected - glad you're here.

Guess I tend to forget that I'm a person too.🤔

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, you for dang sure are!

@GirlMomma

4 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah thank you. 💜

You’re so strong, smart and healthy. Very inspiring! Wish I’d learned all this in my twenties. Great information.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

J Plerson - I absolutely don't come by any of it naturally - I've done a LOT of my own personal work and healing to get here which is why I'm so passionate about teaching others how to as well.

Hey my name is Jonelle I think the algorithm found you for me. And I'm so happy it did. You jus popped up. And I listen regularly now. Thank you. 🙏🏾

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Oh I love it! So glad you're here Jonelle.

@CMoore8539

4 жыл бұрын

+Jonelle D Be Sure to subscribe and hit the bell so you don’t miss any of them.😊♥️

I want to stop waiting for other people to change before I can be ok.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yes sister - YES!!

@selfdevelopmentlab4078

4 жыл бұрын

Patty Hill -- so insightful! Love it!

I don't know how I found you, but I'm glad I did. I needed this.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

That is music to my ears! I'm so glad.

This is exactly what I needed!!

@justjonelle

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah but it gets easier the more you do it.

@admirbarucija2018

4 жыл бұрын

Jonelle D Yeah that’s true, though I always seem to lose friends as soon as I start setting boundaries and respecting myself.

@shaymay2892

Жыл бұрын

​@@admirbarucija2018 they are not your friends! Say no is weeding out people that don't belong there.

One say I like: - Not my cirkus, not my monkeys. :D

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yes sir!

@ThePossumone

4 жыл бұрын

Torhild Sageng Hansen circus Yes I agree

@tammyileene4060

4 жыл бұрын

I like this way of saying no. "Not my circus, not my monkey's" And then i can add another animal to get the point across.

@shabnamrafique7730

3 жыл бұрын

How about "I don't have a circus and monkeys".

Learning to say No can be really hard. Becoming complacent is too easy. But when you realize you need to put yourself first it’s such a freeing moment. Thanks for sharing, it’s something we need to talk about more. I heard your podcast with sunny! You were really inspiring to listen to 😊

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Tamara! So good to connect with you sister. It's not ALL about us - but it's not NEVER about us - most of us need a lot more balance in that area, that's for sure.

It's funny Julia, if I said to my friends, the things I say to me, they would hate me. I never thought it was that big of a deal until you mentioned it in that perspective. Great analogy.

Hi Julia! A friend of mine suggested that I listen to you because I’m married to a Narcissist. Thank you for creating this channel! It’s totally Awesome!!!♥️

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Welcome Cindy! I can imagine that is not easy AT ALL. I teach a ton about boundaries on here and they are ESSENTIAL for dealing with any tough relationship so you are in good hands ;-)

@CMoore8539

4 жыл бұрын

Julia Kristina Counselling Thank You So Much for commenting! You just won over a new subscriber.😊♥️

@newearth4071

4 жыл бұрын

Hi beautiful, please go also to Lisa A . Romano life coach channel which is professional in NARCISSISTIC abuse and CO DEPENDENCY matters. Wishing you health and happiness. GOOD LUCK my friend. 🙏🍀✌💜🌈🌞🧚‍♀️💃🌹

@CMoore8539

4 жыл бұрын

Sussan Mahdavi Thank You, Susan! I will check her channel out.

@newearth4071

4 жыл бұрын

@@CMoore8539 Hope it helps you, because she is a victim of Narcissist herself, she has felt the poison by her flesh and blood and deep to her bones. Wishing you healing very soon 🙏🙌💝❤🌹🧚‍♀️

I agree 100%! So many people Love to start drama and we don't have to bite the hook! We don't need to explain who we are to anyone .One day I'm starting a non profit...

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yes you are sister! What's the first thing you're going to do to make that dream a reality?

@jessicagarcia7105

4 жыл бұрын

pukasmom that’s my dream as well! I would love to start a homeless shelter in my home town for women and men but mostly women. In our state, the only way you can receive help is if you are a woman going through domestic violence, where you have to report it to receive help or you are a drug addict. There are more places to help men than women and children and it sickens me. God bless u for your dream

I am so tired and disgusted when people demand to know my reasons for being a vegan. I am over it, they want me to apologize for not eating their foods. Crazy stuff

@mrararatovich

3 жыл бұрын

I'm not vegan, but yeah, that's crazy

@amberv4223

3 жыл бұрын

I’m vegan too sweetie. I understand your pain. You don’t need to justify your values to anyone. You choose everyday to stick to them in the face of immense societal pressure to conform. You’re doing an amazing thing so just know that 💚

Being responsible for my own emotions and being there for myself. I really appreciate your content and delivery. Thank you!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

That's it! And you are so welcome - grateful to have you here.

I heard a pastor once say “If you get strong enough in God you won’t care what people think about you.” I thought that was a very insightful statement. Trying to please others is a fool’s errand. People are fickle and unpredictable. Certainly we should care about others although boundaries and self standards must be put in place in any healthy relationship.

I find it harder to say no to my old beliefs, at times i self doubt and saying no to that is challenging as it starts as a self care but then leads into questioning if my choices are legit.. ufh. But thank you for this video. I dont want to take any crap including my own. It helped me realize that ❤

These are all so good. Saying no to conversation would be my first step. I need to set boundaries for myself. I tend to participate in gossip and then feel like crap afterward.

My dream is to have a small hobby farm/homestead & teach my grandkids things my grandparents taught me & connect to nature.

@christmasmorning7685

4 жыл бұрын

Me too, without the grandkids.

@fabiancanada8876

4 жыл бұрын

That is an awesome dream. We (wife, 2 girls 4+7) are living on a small homestead and love it. I hope that my children can stay on the homestead or the neighbour property and that we can live together as a family and that we can help them with the grandkids as well one day :-) Family&Health are top priorities to us (not to society which makes it hard sometime but it is really important to us and if things go well is a very strong bond which makes it better for everyone). All the best!

This resonated with me. I have trouble saying no to family. They use and mistreat me, my mom has Alzheimer’s. So I thought by helping them it could keep the family together but then I realized she would not want me treated this way and she would be appalled. I stood up to them, they mocked me, I held them accountable, they don’t speak to me anymore. I have peace.

Hey Julia, Budding psychologist here.. I also have a hard time saying no. Thanks for these videos. People need access to mental health like this.. Kudos.. #Respect

Great video! You’re one of the only other counselors on KZread that I’ve found. It’s inspiring to see you master your KZread craft. I was so excited to see you on the Sunny show!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Ah! So good to connect with you! I'm so grateful for this incredible community.

I'm retired Army I served 22 years and I'm 40. I was married for 17 years to a narcissist. I didn't know or notice till the last 3 years of our marriage. I am a man and was belittled and controlled to the point that I lost all respect for myself. I alienated all family and friends for this person. I never said no because of the rage that it would cause if I didn't comply with their agenda. I have been divorced now for 3 years and in a new relationship. I am still suffering from complex PTSD/narcissistic abuse syndrome. I still find it hard to say no but when I do I feel guilty. I also feel like I'm saying no in a mean or angry way. I'm working on it. Videos like these encourage me that it is ok to say no thankyou.

So grateful you take up this, after many years of putting my health aside, I was suddenly diagnosed with cancer, My boy was 11 years old, I realized if I do not move NOW, I'm not going to survive...., I moved in ONE week, good friends helped me, and during 5 years I had 25% possibility to survive, still here...... Good that you remind of this, the moment you get a diagnose like this, you will realize that Now I am not among the normal healthy people anymore, it did'nt show on the outside, and I do not wish this upon Anybody, so PLEASE listen to Julia Christina. Please, save your lives. They will never change, I have tried with a couple of people they will never change.

I am proud of you and your drive to use your mind and help others with decision making and setting boundaries. I do agree however that our kids need us too. You’re great Kristina. Loves.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks sister. Grateful to be a part of your journey.

I’m so happy I found you.You made my day, I really needed to hear this. I’m in an emotional abusive relationship that I’m trying to escape from. I’m saving my money and leaving the state. I will continue to watch you as I prepare to make my escape.

My dad often goes on rants about politics, and I've purposely been avoid dealing with politics and news lately. Yesterday he started on one of these rants on the phone, and I started ignoring what he was saying and doing stuff online - that is often a way I've dealt with it in the past (not the healthiest). Then he paused, and asked me if I was paying attention, and I actually said, "No, I am trying to protect myself. I can't handle emotionally and mentally thinking and talking about this stuff so I checked out." At that point, I realized that I could have just said this from the get-go, and saved both of us from wasted breath and hurt feelings. But, this was the first time I actually spoke up about this with my father. Baby steps!!!

Hi Julia, found you on KZread about a year ago and follow you on IG and Facebook. Love your down to earth and authenticity!! Thank you for your passionate commitment that comes through in every message!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Thankful for you Marlene - and big kudos to you for investing in yourself. I hope you're proud of you!

As a child in a majorly dysfunctional home with an highly abused older sister - 9 yrs older who was angry ( for many good reasons)and so critical. Mother left us with her parents when I was 6 months. I was a smart survivor who found being self-deprecating, caused the older jealous sister to lighten up. Now, for me to stop the survival technique used as a child. I can do this NOW!

Hi Julia...I have discovered you at a critical time in my life. The youngest of 5 adult siblings who are not direct, take offence when I AM, are carrying baggage from our distant childhood relationships with our parents.....I am 66 !! I wish we could relate better and openly! When I say NO somehow I feel shamed for being truthful. I feel like tearing my hair out!!.......so thank you for your thought- provoking dialogue.

Hi! I’m Elaine. I came across one of your depression videos... I believe it was the one regarding “ helping someone who may be depressed” ... I was having a relapse of depression symptoms and watched your videos to try to see if there was any hope for me. Just want to thank you for making your videos they are helping me tremendously

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Here with you sister. You've got this. You are amazing, strong, resilient and brave. Do remember to take good care of that head and heart of yours.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, Julia. My name is Linda and boy, I had issues with boundaries. You are so much appreciated.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Hey girl! So glad you're here and that it connected. Yup, that lack of healthy boundaries can really kick our butts- good for YOU for making working on them a priority.

Saying no to conversations I really don’t want to have really connected to me Julia been there done that.

Hi Julia, as a medical practioner, loving your videos , they are helping me and my patients.

I wanna combine my love of crochet with my love of art!!!

@GirlMomma

4 жыл бұрын

That would be awesome! 💜

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

sounds amazing!

Great topic!! So many of us need to here this so we can start setting better boundaries and respecting ourselves and others by being more honest. Been planning a video on boundaries as well. Thanks so much!!🔥🔥❤❤

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Boundaries are huge, aren't they Christian? Glad we're on the same page with this one.

We don't need to share our dreams and desires to people. We don't know how they feel about us and they could sabotage it by being negative about it. Or people you expect or would like them to help out and end up disappointing you by not being supportive. There are things we should keep to ourselves

Literally got tears from this video! Thank you so much for making this. It is exactly what i needed. You are our gift, thank you 🌺

Your words are so valuable....thank you!....I am taking them to heart!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Really grateful you found this helpful Kathy. Sending you love!

Greetings from an Italian living in Germany! I love your videos! Very eye-opening ...thanks for your work and effort you put into these topics!!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Anna - thanks so much for watching - really glad you're here.

Love this advice.... Love yourself and do what you want to do. You don't need to justify yourself to anyone. Live your own life. And yes us mum's are made to feel guilty in society. I step away from negative people and I'm learning to stand up for myself more now....we don't need to explain or justify ourselves to anyone unless we want to, otherwise no. Keep away from drama and live your own life 😊

Thank you so much for these videos. I share them with my children. One thing I love about your videos, is the pace and delivery. Pace is so important and you got it! Have a wonderful day.

Hi. I actually found your videos through the topic of self-sabotage. Your videos are really helpful and make me feel okay. Thank you.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Christina - love to hear that! Really glad you're here.

Literally LOL to " count the bristles on your toothbrush " 😂🤣😂🤣

@raymondstoter6290

4 жыл бұрын

I have an electric toothbrush try counting the bristles while the item is moving, not easy , xx

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

@@raymondstoter6290 lol!!!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Ha! (face to palm)

@terrilynn6148

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤔😂🧐🤣

@christianlamb

4 жыл бұрын

Ditto!!🤣😂🤣

You're changing my life, and im sure other peoples' thank you so much. I have a lot of respect and gratitude for your words of wisdom. I always come home from work stressed and i listen to one of your videos and it helps me so much! Your topics that pop up seem to be aligned with my oife questions. Thanks for the direction. 💛

Julia, I can't thank you enough for your spot on insight. I first watched your people pleasing video last week and learned so much in that. I'm 55 and starting to realize that by always saying YES I am getting so exhausted, esp because many of these people don't really care about me. My true friends are fine with me saying NO and it's easy for me to do with them. Thank you sooooooo very much. You really are the BEST!! Todd

Hey I'm Sophia. Just came across your channel in my healing journey. Sharing you with my friend Lynn as well. xoxoxo

Julia Kristina, I love your videos!. I started wacthing them just.....for practising my English listening (my native language is spanish).... Now I am so engaged! By the way, I almost understand everything already, hahaha. And I enjoy so much your wonderful pieces of advice, your encouraging energy and, last but no least, your adorable voice! Thanks a lot!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations friend! And I'm so glad you're here - thank you for your kind words.

Hi I am Korean Mohammed, I found you some how listening to other therapist and found that your videos resonated with me more than the others. I have been learning from you so many amazing things about myself that I didn't understand about myself by listening to your videos every single day! I am very grateful because you have become my 5am routine, I wake up and play your videos while I am getting ready to head out every day since. So Thank you so very much for the amazing advice I even started talking to a real Therapist,so thank you so very much ❤️

I am so thankful to have found you.I am an empath learning to set boundaries.

My dream is to use all my money once I'm old and start a trust to take care of stray animals.

Moms are just as shamed for not working. Moms don’t win.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

It's not fair and not right. We need to let women make their own damn decisions for what is best for them AND their families.

Love your videos, Julia. Wish I could stand up, give you a long squeezing hug and thank you for these awesome tips. I'm in the process of dumping a narcissist and saying NO is definitely going to be crucial.

Thank you so much. Your videos are doing an enormous change in my life. I can't thank you enough. It's exactly how I felt all my life struggling to say no. Each day I am feeling more free and empowered. Thank you , thank you, thank you.

One day I want to open my own Floral Shop🌸

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Okay Lori, what's the plan and what are you waiting for?

@christianlamb

4 жыл бұрын

Do it!!!💥🔥❤🌹🌻🌼🌷⚘

@mcdowell356

4 жыл бұрын

I want to go motorcycle camping in the dessert

@funanimalsounds

3 жыл бұрын

Get on with it then

Found you last week and I'm glad I did!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you did too! Welcome Coleen.

Thanks Julia, I've been a subscriber for a couple years, your KZread's have given me a lot of insight about myself and better living skills. I am grateful for the opportunity to integrate your ideas into my routine.

Julia, I just discovered your channel tonight after much research on self negativity issues. I’m just trying to figure out how to just not survive & fake it every day! I love your truthfulness & really, you’re just a truth teller bad ass councillor who I can hang with that makes so much sense! I need to re-watch everything because I can’t stop! Thank you for these! God bless!

Julia you rock life. Love it

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

You too girl!

Thank you so so much for this video! I've been working on codependency and not feeling responsible for other people's issues. I didn't even realize I was doing it but now I do and it's so unhealthy! Now I can listen to people without getting excessively worried about them or upset. Yay!

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

This is everything! So good for you Kat.

@k.ambriz9789

4 жыл бұрын

Julia Kristina Counselling thanks! I signed up for your boundary boot camp. So excited!

It struck me to my core when you said waiting for other people to change. I started to cry. I guess that I have known it all along. Hearing it shows how important it is.

Hi Julia, I found you because I was "Stuck" and not getting things done in my life. i googled and found you. I think the black and white video look draw me towards you. there were many options. I like your videos and content. I'm a 60-year British man living in Scotland.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Paul - really glad you're here - and thanks for your kind words - I appreciate you.

I want to spend my time doing art. Practicing and working and maybe someday doing something that I'm proud of.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Anything preventing that from starting now?

@peameem

4 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah I just retired. And I'm settling in so that I can do it. I am susceptible to being distracted by all the many things that need to be done. So I am just working on finding a balance. I really love listening to you I have been listening to you for a few years. And I appreciate your upbeat, helpful messages.

Back again 😊 really interested in self development and psychology so watch videos, your video came up in my suggestion box about a year ago, really like what you're about and your wisdom and video content. Guilty of the 1st one to start with, recovering co-dependent ( rescurer) people pleaser and one of those people who try to keep the peace at all costs. I need to speak my mind more often and be stronger with my personal boundaries. The flip side of that is I go nuclear when people push me beyond my limits. This video is really helpful!

I've been struggling with this for a while. Your videos are a big help in getting me on the right path. Thank you.

Amen sister!

Have just done that I was not interested in the friendship anymore.

Oh my! I learned that I have to start to say no to all of them. But, I will start to say no to belittle myself, instead I will be easy and be the good friend that I need to be/have for my self. Thank you for sharing 💕

This has been a big struggle for me all my life. Thank you for identifying these areas and making it easy to follow.

This is ironic. I so needed to hear this today. Thank you.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Oh so good! Don't you love it when that happens?

Hi Kristina, My daughter found your channel while looking for some help with her anxiety. We both watch every video together an it gives us both tools to help her/me cope with th overwhelming feelings So Thank you so much 😊 Thank you

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Hi to you and your sweet girl! So good to connect with both of you - and really glad you're both here.

Waiting for people to change 😔 that's one I struggle with. I've recently been working with the theme of Acceptance. Self acceptance & acceptance of others and it's helped a lot. Still a work in progress but I'm nearly there. Thanks so much for sharing these videos. They help immensely. You have a very grateful Chris subscribing 🙏🏻

Oh my god! this single video can change my life! Thank you so much Julia, I wish I have someone's told me to love myself and take care of "me" years ago.

Staying late at work when i have personal plans afterwards 😕

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that's gotta be a no-go. Boundaries are needed at work too - and you and I both know there's always more to do, so it's up to us to set the limit.

Hi I’m Rachel. I’m owning the dream of one day wanting to buy a house by the sea! Love your videos and share them with friends. Thank you for posting them x

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Ah!! Rachel - put that dream into a plan and it will be yours. Thank you so much for being here - I appreciate you ❤️

@funanimalsounds

3 жыл бұрын

Why?

Julie, you are doing a great job here. We must be self awareness within ourselves and listening to negative self talk, and we are responsible for our own happiness and we can't change anyone, not our responsibility.

Thank you, Julia. You're helping so many people with your work. Thank you.

Hi I'm Marlena and I learn form You from Poland 💖

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Marlena! So glad you're here. Welcome!

I find as I get older I say no a lot more. When I fill myself up with good and healthy things and habits I’m able to have the energy to do more for myself and others. As a Christ follower I like to give to others but I do have to give to myself in order to do that.

@juliakristinamah

4 жыл бұрын

Yes sister! You can't give on an empty tank.

Had me in tears yesterday, video about self respect. I'm in deep now. I wrote down things I heard from your video. Now today it's why to say no. Thank you you got another follower from oregon.🤗