What do you use instead of a high chair? :)

@HapaFamily

2 жыл бұрын

A weaning table! :) I did use one with my girls for a bit until I felt they were more ready for the weaning table, but if I did it all over again, I’d instead most likely try lap feeding (a la the RIE approach) until weaning table time.

@Millymul

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! That’s really helpful :D love your videos - I knew nothing about Montessori till I found them! keep up the great work :)

@MP35467

2 жыл бұрын

@@HapaFamily do you let them get up as they want during the meal? And come back if they want more? Or do you set boundaries during meal time that they need to remain seated?

@peronne17

2 жыл бұрын

She also uses the Tripp Trapp, which has straps and brings them up to the height of an adult table. The main difference is that it has steps the child can climb into independently, but otherwise it's the same as a high chair with no tray.

@HapaFamily

2 жыл бұрын

@@MP35467 The expectation is that they are seated for all meals (snacks included). If they get up at all (with the exception being to use the restroom), I take that to mean they’re done and their plate is cleaned up. And they fully respect this limit. My oldest will often remind my youngest of this rule when she tries to test the limit on occasion, lol.

1. 2:32 - Flashy Plastic Battery Operated Toys 2. 3:53 - Baby Crib 3. 5:33 - Colouring Books 4. 7:56 - Baby Holding Devices 5. 10:25 - Sippy Cups 6. 11:40 - Toys/Books That Promote Violence 7. 13:34 - Toy Box 8. 15:16 - Playpen 9. 17:28 - Restrictive Clothing & Shoes For Infants 10. 21:03 - ABC/123 Toys For Babies & Toddlers

@khatijasyed7256

2 жыл бұрын

Thank u

@annazraf

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so Much!

@ur5860

2 жыл бұрын

The MVP! 💖💛💖💖🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@Slotcaramba

2 жыл бұрын

Mvp

@rachelgooden9981

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks!!!!!

Learning to colour inside the lines was a very crucial part of learning fine motor control and hand eye coordination for me. I remember getting frustrated at how hard it was when I was young, it must have unlocked something important

@PieterRaath

7 ай бұрын

I agree. As an art teacher you can follow the "blank" method if you know how to stimulate creativity in your kids and you are part of the experience. If i understand correctly she would not be part of their kids education because they have to learn it themselves. Kids learn by copying. The one side of your brain analize and your other side use that info for creativite expression. If you don't feed the analitical side and give it some reference/guidance your child can be stunted creatively.

I LOVED all sorts of coloring books when i was a kid and i dont think it affected my creativity in any bad way at all. i still did draw on my own as well. So i wouldnt want to take that from my child.

@heidibedidee

2 жыл бұрын

As a kid I loved colouring books as well, and the drawings in the book opened up my imagination rather than hindering it. I had a barbie colouring book, and it had barbie in different situations, outfits, with different people, etc. Definitely did not hinder me in any way. If it were up to me I'd just be drawing swirls on the paper lol.

@SapphireRavenmoon

Жыл бұрын

I agree, colouring books are great!

@kiwi6421

Жыл бұрын

I'm told that as a small child, I had coloring books and insisted that all of the animals be colored the way they were in real life, and I would tell off any adults who tried to use the "wrong" colors. I also remember laying sheets of plain paper over top of the lineart and tracing it to teach myself to draw dinosaurs. As an adult, I'm an excellent artist. I love drawing absurd fantasy creatures as much as I do realistic animal portraits. Coloring books never hindered me. If anything, what hindered me were the art teachers at public schools.

@beckysmith6375

10 ай бұрын

I've used coloring books sparingly for when my kids were elementary school age. If our home school lesson was on insects, I would give them a coloring page of a dragon fly, grasshopper, and wasp, for example. They enjoyed coloring the picture while learning about the thing being colored. They would not have enjoyed trying to draw an insect...

@DarlingKaya

10 ай бұрын

me to i learned how to draw alot of things from seeing them in coloring books and copying it :)

I would LOVE a 10 must haves in a Montessori home video.

I'm glad that someone is able to stay with the baby 100% of a time and give care and attention all the time needed. As a babysitter of a triplet, some of those devices are agreeably not for the best of children's development but for caregiver's sanity at some point. Some things like bouncers are for keeping the caregiver sane while the baby is not traumatized when used minimally.

@2okaycola

Жыл бұрын

Ya! Women totally deserve a bathroom break without having to hassle anyone else to watch the baby for a few minutes. Kids need to be able to entertain themselves

@amberfick4329

9 ай бұрын

your response seems to start out rude. why did you start your response that way? did you mean to be rude?

@Pizzadepasta

9 ай бұрын

@@amberfick4329 😘 think as you wish

@QuiteQuietASMR

9 ай бұрын

@@amberfick4329it may or may not be sarcastic, I’m not sure. But she may genuinely be glad that someone is able to do that.

@lab4change2023

Ай бұрын

@@amberfick4329I read it as a genuine statement.

Man… learning to color in a coloring book was HUUUGE for me as a kid, it formed the foundation of my creativity. I feel like non-artists make this decision for children without understanding the importance of inspiration. Also, since dinosaurs don’t exist in photographs, the only thing you can see of any accurate version is a rendering that an adult drew. 🤷🏼‍♀️

@liiin109

Жыл бұрын

Hahah! Same - i coloured normal objects with crazy colour combinations! It was a combo of colouring book and plain paper for my own creativity.. or even drew my own animals within the book… I didn’t like when adults tried to correct my colour choice - ooh this is supposed to be green. 😀 that did upset me

@stiaininbeglan3844

Жыл бұрын

I had the opposite experience. I remember thinking (as a very little kid) that learning to "colour inside the lines" was a very adult thing, and I didn't want to be an adult. As I got older, I felt my natural child-like imagination being smothered because something an adult made was always telling me how to be. My nephew just turned 8 and he questions everything adults tell him to be "right". He wants to do science experiments his OWN way, and doesn't want to learn the science that adults already know to be true. He doesn't accept that spear fishing is something he can't do in North America because he doesn't think that it being illegal means anything. His imagination is outside the lines society has drawn, and I wish mine could have stayed like that.

@katie8325

Жыл бұрын

@@stiaininbeglan3844 strange comment. Your child wanting to do things that are illegal doesn’t showcase an impressive imagination and isn’t something to brag about. I also highly doubt it has anything to do with colouring books.

@soniquecat4745

Жыл бұрын

Yeah... is the kid supposed to pull their version of dinosaur out of their behind? There are various styles of coloring books and they provide kid an guideline and inspiration. Same with the art kids... it doesn't mean they will have to forever and ever create one particular thing... but unless super duper talented kid will not learn how to draw certain things unless you show them HOW. Then they can work with the idea

@soniquecat4745

Жыл бұрын

@@stiaininbeglan3844 well, hope this "my own way" discovery of science does not go all the way to high school. Others have learned that pouring water in acid is dangerous, kid does not need to have his face burned off to learn that "his own way"

I understand your reasoning behind these. I did have to start using a playpen because unfortunately it wasn't safe for me to leave my baby around my toddler even long enough to go to bathroom 🙃

The only one I have to really push back on is ABC/123 for toddlers. My son is 23 months and he has really started gaining interest in counting. I didn't put this on him, he just started repeating numbers at me one day. Now, we don't have counting toys like described. Our counting play is in the form of counting stairs, shoes etc, but some kids that age are definitely developmentally ready.

@myrielka118

Жыл бұрын

One time I met a child who could do additions even with big numbers at the age of 2 years in a different language than his mother tongue! He really enjoyed it. It seemed to give him a sense of security.

I don't think I agree with you entirely about coloring books. As someone who has a lot of autistic traits, there is a certain paralyzing difficulty to having a fully blank canvas (paper, whatever) in front of you. I think as long as the child can use whatever colors they want, coloring books can be a good way to relax and be creative without having to make literally every decision.

@scottdwyer4345

Жыл бұрын

I think your absolutely wonderful and doing a great job. Keep up the good work. 👍

@lollsazz

Жыл бұрын

Also, you can teach the child to think outside the box. They DON'T need to color a field with ONE color - they can make a pattern, they can make a gradient, they can draw something inside the shape. There shouldn't be rules for how children color - it's not homework, it's learning to try new things and being creative

@canecorsomom2023

Жыл бұрын

Learning to color in line is also good for hand eye coordination and refining fine motor skills. I think there is space for both.

@onjelbercier

Жыл бұрын

Adding to that. Children need to have an idea of what real world objects look like in order to draw them on their own. Your child needs to see that a face is comprised of one nose, one mouth, two eyes. Or that a car has a body and four wheels. Otherwise, they will not have the basics down.

@guineapigcuteness6887

Жыл бұрын

Great point xx

the „what I don‘t buy“ videos are so important in this crazy consumerism world

I think the biggest difference for our home is that we did not use a floor bed before age 1. Dr. Montessori unfortunately died before SIDS was identified and research on it could be done, so she didn't have the knowledge we have now on sleep safety. Waiting until age 1 to ditch the crib, per AAP guidelines, was totally worth the wait for us!

@YOS3liN1

2 жыл бұрын

Don’t completely agree with this because in your child’s crib , you shouldn’t put anything in it ie. pillows, stuffed animals, blankets and crib bumpers . It’s the same thing with a floor bed . Putting the mattress on the floor is not going to cause SIDS more than the mattress on your crib . You would still buy a mattress that can be breathable and not be super soft like memory foam .

@peronne17

2 жыл бұрын

@@YOS3liN1 AAP guidelines recommend a crib/bassinet/etc for infants, so that's what we went with. But agreed, definitely shouldn't put anything in the crib with them!

@peronne17

2 жыл бұрын

@Greg Davidson Cribs/cots are actually very popular in Japan. But again, we chose to follow AAP guidelines and they recommend a crib/bassinet/etc for infants.

@natalietheodoropoulou4113

2 жыл бұрын

What’s the difference between a firm mattress with no toys or blankets vs a crib? I’m not sure I understand what’s unsafe about a floor bed.

@peronne17

2 жыл бұрын

@@natalietheodoropoulou4113 The primary difference is that to follow AAP guidelines, the firm mattress needs to be fitted inside a crib without gaps around it to prevent the infant from fully or partially being able to roll off. The possibilty of suffocating or re-breathing their air is much higher when they can roll into odd positions, such as dangling over the edge.

How refreshing to see content sharing things we DON'T need as opposed to the so many videos telling us what we DO need! 😍

@ntmn8444

Жыл бұрын

You honestly don’t need much to be a good parent. You really don’t.

It’s so interesting hearing mom’s different perspectives! There are some here that I’m totally into and some that I may not be. But it’s cool to hear different opinions and reasoning to see what I end up loving for my own little 🥰

I want to give my own perspective around colouring books as an armature artist and teacher. Creativity is a bit miss understood. Our brains are incapable of creating anything truely original. Creative minds are simply capable of reorganising material that they have seen before in more ways than non creative minds. For example, a non creative person will simply draw a dinosaur that they have already seen. A creative mind might combine different elements of different dinosaurs to create something "original". Children arguably have less creative potential then adults because they haven’t experienced life and so they need more help. And this is where copying comes in. The more a child copies, the more their creativity will start to show.

@skiluva

2 жыл бұрын

Interesting perspective. I see where you're coming from a bit because my daughter has increased her imaginative play a ton after being allowed to now watch 30 min of TV a day. Always acting out related situations that she's seen on her shows like Daniel Tiger.

@MariaandMontessori

2 жыл бұрын

This is true! The way this is presented in a Montessori class is by exposing kids to different forms of art- professional and made by their teachers- to give them that basis of creativity. So rather than a coloring book that prescribes a scene to color, the space has books, cards, and images of art pieces, materials around those art pieces like 3 part cards, and sometimes even a couple sample projects that the teachers put together for inspiration. But then the child can take the mediums available to them, reference all that knowledge, and create/recreate on their own. And even if they set out to fully copy an art piece, it will still have its own flair over a pre-made coloring book.

@vanessat9309

2 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@StrawberryShortcake12335

Ай бұрын

In high school, my art teacher made a point of showing us some of Picasso’s early, more realistic, paintings. He was very skilled artist and eventually evolved his own style. The more skills a child has, the more ability they will have to create “original” art.

I have a montessori background and I've done a little research into children playing with guns. There have been studies that show it does not enfluence aggressive behaviour it can actually result in children developing problem solving skills and better self regulation as an adult. Just like playing with swords if you have boundaries and limits in place it is completely okay for children to play with guns at the end of the day it's a sport. You can shoot a target. It's all about the language used and modelling appropriate behaviour.

@KatieGrady1997

Жыл бұрын

Love this

@cinnamonroll372

Жыл бұрын

So there have been studies that show it doesn’t affect aggressiveness, but haven’t there also been studies that have shown that? Not trying to be mean, just questioning the logic :)

@galactichermione6727

3 ай бұрын

No, studies attempting to prove a link between weapon play in children and increased violence have only ever shown an association, but were unable to prove a causal relationship. Subsequent studies have shown that imaginary play with weapons is both good for emotional development, and also unpreventable. In the absence of model weapons children will use other objects to approximate weapons.

Love from HTX. Thanks for being so educational! I love your videos. My husband and I have a 13 month old and she’s our first one. It’s so interesting seeing her take the reins and doing things independently just as a toddler! It’s crazy, we don’t give them enough credit!

@olgatarasevich3113

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats! I also have a 13 months old, watching him grow is the greatest joy of my life!

Just wanted to comment on what you said about babies and toddlers not being developmentally ready to learn letters. My 21 month old has shown a great interest on her own since she was around 16 months old, just through books and puzzles and us pointing them out to her (we don't do light up electronics toys either), and can name many letters. So I do think babies and toddlers are little sponges and can absolutely learn them and are interested too if we show interest in a natural (non-forced) way.

@stephaniem8278

Жыл бұрын

I think that's wonderful; and if your child developed the interest all on their own that it is certainly appropriate to foster a love for learning letters and symbols. It may even make for a cute story some day when she's using these skills in her career.

@divinityomine6935

Жыл бұрын

I believe in allowing and having available tools your child can use to learn skills of any level (as safety allows anyway, dont have a hand-saw laying around, ya know-)

@katie7748

Жыл бұрын

Same for two of my kids. By 2 years old they knew the alphabet, numbers, colors, and basic words.

@potluck712

Жыл бұрын

I have way too many toys for my child & before I have what I currently do, I got rid of TONS of toys to make room. Sadly my child has sat in front of the tv so much while I clean and cook. He just turned two, yet he knows his ABCs (the whole song), he can sing a few songs, he could count to 10 before his first birthday, he identifies shapes, identifies colors, etc… all because of the way too stimulating children songs on KZread. We have also worked with him, but majority is from all the repetitive songs. I plan on doing more one on one and stopping all the stimulation. Point being, children really are sponges & it doesn’t matter if you use plastic versus wooden toys or coloring books.

@leahgenet6186

Жыл бұрын

22:39 It can happen actually. My son loves to sing the whole alphabet and he just turned two.

I wholeheartedly agree about being so careful about violence in the name of “playing” such a good point! It is crazy how our culture is saturated with violence as entertainment but then people wonder why there is so much violence in the world….

@m0bz0mb39

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah my mom's a pacifist and she never even let us play with squirt guns and stuff but my brothers are pretty violent now as teenagers, I think being sheltered from it made them more drawn to it

@lauren8627

2 жыл бұрын

Make sure you don't look at children's play through an adult lens. I make sure I not only take on advice from "girl mums" but also ND and "boy mums" too. Because we have a non violent house hold and yet my 3 year old is obsessed with whacking things - watch out family dog - with sticks and also pretending things are guns. Like how do they know what a gun is? It's inbuilt I swear. It really shocked me to start with, but if you don't project your fears and insecurities you can just take it at face value. It helps I live in Aus where actual guns are rarely in the open and people lock them up in gun safes.

@annarocha3254

2 жыл бұрын

Why has there been violence in the world for thousands of years-since the conception of humanity- before such forms of entertainment existed?

@NeonAtary777

2 жыл бұрын

after I had my baby ,18 months now, I became extra-sensitive to news and films that show violence. not only paying more attention to it but literally becoming unsettled and extremely emotional when seeing it!

@lauramarinofinan9250

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with her approach too! I am a mum now, but even before that as an auntie I've never bought any war toys at all. It's question of principles you want to trasmit to kids. The same thing with video games. Children have much better toys to play with than guns and addictive screen devices. No matter what the society push for, we are our kids educators.

I love this! Not only does it align with our thinking, it highlights some areas for change (in our home) that I hadn’t thought of. This is a really great way to ‘explain’ to friends and family why we don’t want them buying certain toys and gifts. Thank you so much!

Great advises for mamas that do NOT work and own big houses. If you are working mama and need to feed your kids, do what you need to do and buy all devices in the world that will help you survive.

Montessori or not, all of the products mentioned make sense! Not limiting our children to the capacity of the toys, structures, etc is so important for their growth! Thanks for the information as always. 😊

We got rid of the flashing lights toys (or took the batteries out) not long after I started watching your videos around the time our daughter was 9 months old. I can tell now that’s she’s 2.5 that anytime she’s exposed to it she’s either overwhelmed or annoyed. One thing that’s somewhat similar that I would never buy again is the Sit-to-Stand walker. I like what you all did with getting one that actually can double as a push wagon or just a sturdy baby doll stroller. Not against the walker itself, just the ones that are unitaskers.

You’re so awesome! I’ve recently started watching your videos mainly to get ideas for my 2 littles on living the Montessori life. And it’s been helping so much. So many things I wish I knew before I had my son. Now I have a 2.5 yr old daughter and a 1 year old son😓 trying my best to incorporate Montessori in their everyday lives.

Appreciate the insights and mostly agree with entire lists. However, I found that blanket statement about counting and ABCs very generalizing. We don’t do passive toys either and certainly not ones that light up and talk and all that. At around 18 months we got this Animal 123 book. At first my son was super engaged because he loves animals, and immediately learned all the animals in the book. He quickly became interested in the counting part and learned to count 1-10 in both English and Arabic. Now at 20 months, He is obsessed with counting everything. Granted, he still doesn’t connect the numbers with quantity, but he starting to do some of that especially up to 3 or 4. We even have a Lovevery counting toy which I believe comes in the 19-21 months box. So to say children aren’t interested in counting or ABCs until the age of 3 is not accurate and can be a limiting depiction. I’m all for letting children learn at their own pace, but I think we should not limit them either

@bwj54

Жыл бұрын

I agree. We dont do electronic toys and my 21 month old has shown great interest in letters for several months and has learned a lot of them just through books and puzzles and us pointing them out to her. Same with numbers.

Loved this and agreed with most but a holding device… my baby had to come with me when I was needing to use the bathroom or shower and she was only safe in a bouncer or small activity circle (one with no electronic parts).

During the pandemic (even now) I had to work from home some days and had zero help while teaching college online. Sometimes I had to put my son in the walker or playpen for a bit so I could get through a meeting or give a lecture. You got to do what you got to do sometimes. I think it's important to recognize even though it's not "ideal" desperate times call for desperate measures sometimes. The amount of shame I have gotten for this is just so unreal. Not that I am saying you are shaming, but in general sometimes these things give parents with no options in the pandemic a little help when help cannot be there in person for health safety.

@HapaFamily

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely not casting any judgment or shame on anyone for making such hard decisions. Like I said in the video, I think that everybody has to adapt Montessori to their particular lifestyle and needs, and there isn’t one “right” way to do it. 😉

@nicolemusselman4246

2 жыл бұрын

@@HapaFamily I definitely think you expressed it the right way. Some other Montessori groups...not so much LOL. It is ROUGH out there. I feel like your space is a safe space that is much needed.

@MariaandMontessori

2 жыл бұрын

@@nicolemusselman4246 I've found the same to be true-isn't it odd that a community of parents focused on raising their kids in a way that is unique to the child's development and personality, centered around grace, courtesy and peace...can be so judgemental to each other?? 😶 I had an activity center and pack and play for the same reason-first I was set to return to work remotely, and then I was trying to job search full time. My girl only took to each for 5-10 min max anyway, so it wasn't much help, but in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't un-Montessori the rest of our environment 🤷‍♀️ After all, the family's basic needs (including an income!) also need to be met!

@LissaxKristine

2 жыл бұрын

Not an expert by any means, but I think a playpen is one of the best baby holding devices there is- especially if you can get one that's basically just a fence where the baby is still on the floor. It solves the problem of wanting to keep the baby contained in a safe space while still allowing for freedom of movement. (Of course, I can also appreciate the fact that if you're in a meeting and the swing is the only thing keeping baby from screaming, then putting baby in a swing for 15 minutes isn't the worst thing in the world. I think the real issue is that people tend to overuse and abuse baby holding devices).

@hannahscott6604

2 жыл бұрын

It isn’t shame. It’s usually just surprise that you couldn’t have used the playpen instead of a walker because the playpen is going to allow for more freedom of movement and that’s a fact

Ashley, thank you very much for everything you teach us ❤ I learn A LOT from you and I always try to share this knowlege with other people 😘

Thank you so much for that insight into coloring books. I sincerely appreciate & will be trading them out for just plain paper here out 🙌🌈❤ Love your channel and thank you again!

I just wanted to say Hi from Canada :) I've been watching your Montessori at home videos for months and now some of the fam vlogs too! I've completely fallen in love with Montessori and have been eagerly learning absolutely everything I can on the subject and of course having fun with incorporating into our home

I think it’s also okay to have kids also use something where they do have to follow directions to make something come out a certain way- it teaches them TO follow directions. They will need that skill when they are older too. For example, putting furniture together- like a bed. But I do agree that kids need many ways to show their own creativity and imagination.

It's so cool watching my daughter (3) slowly grasp the concept of letters making sounds/words. She's definitely got her favorite letters that just "clicked" one day and then there are other letters that she is completely uninterested in at the moment.

My daughter is 4.5 months now and I’m totally devoted to raise her based on Montessori philosophy. Your channel has been the best discovery! She spends most of her play time on the floor. We do have a bouncer and a swing just because I discovered Montessori approach after all these things were gifted to us. We barely use them though.

I have used your videos so many times for advice and to get an understanding of how to implement Montessori principles in our day to day. You are great at explaining things! Thank you!

So much to say… 1. I feel so much anxiety over the floor bed. I discovered the Montessori method when my son was about 15 months old and switched him to a floor bed at 18 months. He instantly started sleeping better and I was convinced. By the time my daughter was born, I switched everything over, but I feel like I’m constantly being inundated with the AAP guidelines and safe sleep advocates and my anxiety is just through the roof about it. We’ve had struggles with sleep since day one with both of my children and feel like I constantly have to choose a compromise. 2. Re: baby-holding devices. I hear you for the most part. I was a minimalist before I went Montessori so I didn’t have any of those things anyway, and then my daughter was born and she was so discontent all the time. She screamed almost constantly for the first five months of her life. I was fighting so hard to do the Montessori thing and allow freedom of movement, but she just wasn’t having it. I finally came to the conclusion that a bouncer chair isn’t that much different than a Montessori cestina. Her being on an incline and able to track me with her eyes gave me a few moments of peace to get myself a meal or deal with my older child. I really beat myself up for a while because I felt like I was doing Montessori “wrong,” so I’m saying this to encourage others that sometimes it’s okay, in survival mode, to just do what you need to do. 3. You didn’t mention it, but playpens can be really helpful for those that camp! That is the only time we ever used ours. And we have the Guava Lotus, which unzips on the side so they can crawl in and out during the day. Yes yes yes to everything else though.

@Hitogata

2 жыл бұрын

Why are you struggling with the floor bed? 😮 I mean, I ask because my son was always a terrible sleeper and things got better when I moved him to the floor bed. He started napping there from 4 months old and sleeping there from 6 months old. Always with the monitor (sound and image always on), so I never felt that I was compromising on safety. The bed is empty and there's a soft play rug on the side of the bed in case he rolls off. And I have a super light sleep since he was born 😅 Oh I really miss sleeping for a whole night straight 😴

@hufflepunkslitherclaw7436

2 жыл бұрын

A key point in the Montessori method is meeting the child where they are and giving them the tools and skills to become independent. If your child needs to be close to you right now then that's what she needs. If you hold her when she wants to be held then you can help her feel secure. When we feel secure we feel safe and brave, and able to farther from mom.

@starlessstephtx

2 жыл бұрын

I love the guava travel crib.

@emilydecker5945

2 жыл бұрын

@@Hitogata I seriously do NOT want to add any anxiety to another mom's life, so I'm hesitant to even say why I struggle with it. Again, the difference in my son (now 3.5 years old) was night and day (no pun intended). He went from waking every hour and fighting his nap to waking once at night and willingly napping. However, there are safe sleep advocates and paediatricians out there that cite that suffocation due to rebreathing on an adult mattress is one of the most common causes of death in infants under one year of age. I certainly have questions about the studies performed, but because I have yet to see clear peer-reviewed research from either side of the argument, I've just concluded that I'm going to feel anxious about sleep.

@emilydecker5945

2 жыл бұрын

@@hufflepunkslitherclaw7436 Oh, I agree. I held my daughter every minute that I possible could, but there were also moments when I just had to put her down, and in those moments, I found a bouncer seat was the key for our survival. She crawled at 5 months and walked at 9, so the time she spent in a chair was definitely not detriment to her gross motor development. I just don't want moms to feel guilty in the name of Montessori for light use of a device.

Number 4 does definitely not work for us, I don't feel it's safe to use leave baby on the floor when I'm cooking in the kitchen so a bouncer and high chair on our island for when they can sit up has been so useful for us I really worry about dropping things on them on the floor

My daughter has a developmental delay and at her age she is "expected" to learn letters and numbers. I get anxious that she may be falling behind and that I am not doing enough. I loved your comment about not pushing Mia until she is interested. This gave a sense of relief that it is OK for her not to be ready.

@lauren8627

2 жыл бұрын

What age if you don't mind me asking. It's so different in different countries. I didn't ride a bike until I was 7 or 8 (probably hypotonia, poor balance etc.) We should obviously support kids, but I think expectstions are so over the top these days for 3, 4, 5 and 6 year olds.

@thesweetspot26

2 жыл бұрын

She is 4 and has Down Syndrome

@thesweetspot26

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I think a four year old must be mostlt playing still. By expectations I mean her curriculum for pre-k includes numbers 1-20 and letter recognition and tracing A-Z.

@Hitogata

2 жыл бұрын

I only started learning at the age of 6. That's how it was done in my country (Portugal) when I was a kid and everyone turned out fine 😄 These days they start a bit sooner, but it's not a "must learn this" kind of thing. It's not a big deal if they're not interested yet.

Thank you!! I love this list, and now I feel so much better on my practical outfit choices for my daughter. She also cries more in booties because she needs her feet out 😂 She just turned 5 months and loves to crawl around, so being restricted with her movement is the worst!

@emilybach

2 жыл бұрын

Little baby shoes are so cute but highly impractical. For my kids I have found that waiting until they are walking (2 of mine walked at 9 months) or until it's winter (usually when they are around a year or so) to put them in shoes has been the best for us. It saves money, they don't have to put up with restrictive clothes, and they have an easier time learning to walk.

Hi Ashley! I just received the yoto mini I won from your giveaway! Thank you much again💞 my 3yo will love it

Reminding parents who have or have used any of these items YOU ARE GOOD PARENTS - YOUR KID/KIDS are going to be okay - I’m a Montessori educator myself and I have a crib. I used a bouncer seat for convenience at times. I also used freshly picked moccasins all the time. My daughter is 2 - she can count to 20, sing her ABC’s, can speak 5-8 word sentences. ALL children WILL DEVELOP DIFFERENTLY. I think the video was super insightful and great for others but definitely felt like saying using some of these things is wrong. Just my opinion. A lot of other educators I work with do use your videos and we do recommend for parents. I think as a educator and a mother your videos are great. Just I need to say - if you do use these items or have in the past - it doesn’t make your child any less then another. By ages 3-5 most kids do regardless of exposures will know how to count, sing ABC’s, color, talk, etc

@naomimarie183

2 жыл бұрын

My daughter used a soppy cup - and drank from a regular cup no problem. She ate with a high chair and showed us cues when she done. All kids are different and all parenting at tales are different. Kids will development regardless.

@yewandekoyenikan4732

Жыл бұрын

Thanks alot for this🙏

@jesystar

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, not that she is wrong but I know for a fact that you can help a child learn quite early their abc's, 123, shapes and colors and they actually do like it especially if you do it in a fun interactive way.

@Latviaitalia

Жыл бұрын

Some parents are just too into their head & control lol

The idea that coloring books are “limiting” a child’s creativity might sound logical because most of us may remember someone telling us to color inside the lines but let me tell you this is a complete misconception. Coloring books absolutely boost creativity, it gives the child a basis to explore and imagine and play with. That’s like saying even Montessori approved toys limit a child’s creativity because the child didn’t come up with the toy themselves and an adult created it first. That just doesn’t really make sense. Adults guide children in their learning of the world in one way or another and children need their guidance. I don’t think Montessori aims to completely eliminate guidance from a mentor (parent). I LOVED coloring books as a child, I used them all the time and today I am a professional artist. My work looks nothing like the books I colored in as a child either, it’s full of creative freedom. Please, give your children coloring books and let them enjoy scribbling within the lines, outside the lines and everything in between. Also, speaking as an artist, coloring inside the lines is a good way to develop your coordination and ability to maneuver the tool in your hand. There’s nothing wrong with that either! Anything that gets kids playing and coloring is a good thing in my opinion.

@Derlet30

Жыл бұрын

Love your comment! Thank you soo much for sharing this valuable input! ❤️

@v.dargain1678

2 ай бұрын

Same . I think artistic development in children is one of Montessori's weak areas . Neo Piagetians ,T Berry Brazelton and Lev Vygotsky address the psychology of children's art better .

Thank you for sharing! I agree with you on most of these. The no crib and no highchair thing I just couldn't seem to get on board with, and I do use a large 6'×7' play yard for when I'm having conference calls (I work from home), otherwise the house is baby-proofed and our 16 month old is almost totally free-range. As far as ABC/123 education goes, I don't buy flashy "teaching" toys, but I do incorporate learning opportunities into play and daily activities, mostly colors, shapes, counting, print awareness, opposites, and other basic concepts. Never forced, just casual ("You're wearing a blue shirt today," "How many green beans do you have?" "What does that sign say?" etc). When my daughter was 4 (she's now 13), she surprised me by suddenly reading sight words and trying to spell things. We had never formally taught her up until then.

@merviceliwonde6915

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree on the ABCs n counting with you. Am from Malawi Africa n English is not our first language so if we delay upto 4. Yrs before we start introducing ABC we are in trouble interms of language development

I’ve noticed a huge difference in mobility between my first and second child. With our first we put him in swings and play pens and with my second child I have only put him on the floor. My second child is 7 months old and already crawling and sitting up, my first started sitting up around 9 months and crawling around 10. With my second child I also began using sensory balls and other little simple sensory toys very early on with him and he has had amazing hand and eye coordination since about 3 months old. Not sure if this is due to Montessori or not, it does seem like it though.

@Sophie-qg5vy

2 жыл бұрын

I have noticed the same, my son is 2 and daughter is 8 months. She has been crawling and is already trying to walk, he didn't crawl and started walking after his first birthday. Thanks to Ashley's videos I was able to incorporate a Montessori play set up area when he turned 10 months.

@m0bz0mb39

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sophie-qg5vy Yeah It's crazy how many people use products that are known to delay development or sometimes even kill or cause permanent damage to infants because so many people use them that they don't even second guess buying a walker or swing

@m0bz0mb39

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sophie-qg5vy By kill I mean certain floaties and stuff, many people put their babies in the floaty devices that they sit in but the problem with those is they can flip over and drown your baby

@Teacupgirly

2 жыл бұрын

I didn’t do baby swings with either babies and they were still both so different when it came to physical development (first crawled at 6 and walked at 9, second just started crawling at almost 10)

@jessicas.3886

2 жыл бұрын

My Kids werden different at this point. We had no Swing or other devices for our first child. But she wasn't happy laying on a blanket on the floor, she was crying unstoppable every time we put her on the blanket for playtime. She even didn't accepted a stroller. I then used a Babywrap and some Babycarriers for her and these were heavy used until the age of 3,5 years (and it wasn't her choice to give up the carrier). We had a featherswing for our second child (we used this for his naps until he was 9 month old), this child loved to be on the floor and refused the carrier since he was able to walk alone. Both Children were crawling since they became 5 month old. But my second child is much more agile and his motor skills are better developed in comparison to his sister.

I’m glad you acknowledge that everyone’s family and homes are different. I love the idea of a floor bed and I’m about to switch my 15 month old over to that now. Thinking of our next baby, I’d LOVE to do it from infancy …. However I quickly remembered we have a 130 lb mastiff dog. We have baby gates and don’t allow him free access into the nursery or living spaces where the small baby is because he could easily step on a baby by mistake. All that to say, I realized that is why the crib is a MUST for us until over 1 year old or confidently walking. I can’t have a slip up of the baby gate or bedroom door not latching and my curious gentle giant walking in and crushing the baby on the floor bed. Just wanted to share to affirm your empathy for other situations! I haven’t seen many Montessori vlogs that include a MASSIVE sized dog lol.

Thanks for this video, Ashley! My thought process is in line with yours. I too have not purchased any of these 10 things that you have on your list. I have tried to segregate my child's toys and furniture based on my understanding of the Montessori philosophy and yes, this video makes me feel good about it. My son is about to be three - about Mia's age. I have been a regular viewer and follower of your videos and content since two years now and have also taken a few of your courses. Your channel is my go to place when in doubt! Keep up the good work! Much love ❤️

I'm definitely for anything that encourages soft tees and LEGGINGS! 😜 I live in mine and it's 90% of my daughter's wardrobe. 🥰

Some of these I agree with, but not the ABCS and Letter one. I work as a toddler teacher in a daycare and I mainly work with kiddos 28 to 36 months and they love reciting the alphabet and their numbers when we do circle time. I don't understand waiting until a kid is 3 to introduce that to them, by 3 most( every kid is different) should at least be able to count to 10.

I'm so happy Shayla recommend your channel, I'm excited to learn more about Montessori!

Love love love your conversation on violence here! It's been interesting to see that each of the items that aren't very Montessori that we have tried to use for our own few seconds of calm have been not very liked by Stella 😅 The water wow coloring book? Not really into. Magic markers with blank paper? Loves. Activity table for when I thought I'd be going back to work and needed to take work calls? No more than 5 minutes before she's over it. Freedom to roam the whole home? Loves. She was ok with a play pen for a short period of time while I cooked to keep her safe before dad got home but once she learned to walk, it had to go. But none of the swings, bouncers, etc ever made it home and I'm glad now we didn't spend the money on it. Hoping if we are lucky with another, we can find away to avoid the play center and play pen completely. It's made baby proofing the home much easier too. We have been keeping the same boundaries ever since she was rolling, so aside from actual dangers like chemicals or stairs that she can't navigate herself yet...she is very capable of maintaining boundaries with the rest of the home. Which is very helpful when visiting places that aren't baby proofed!

@AmmaraSHAH773377

2 жыл бұрын

Omfff yeess thats what I noticed, every time my mum or I have ever given her a non-montessori item it doesn't satisfy her curiosity or needs and she is mostly confused as to what they expect her to be able to do with it other than transport it. Pressing buttons is not really enough and if its a soft toy she'll just hug it but look to me to see if there's a name for it like the other animals she has. Idk its definitely an indicator to me that the activities we prepare or have in our environment really are worth it and probably the reason she has this interest in physical items that she is able to manipulate herself. Also i now know what it would be like generally in our house if we weren't doing Montessori which tbh is a bigg ambiguous structural mess personally for my autistic mind. I know that Montessori is exactly the right approach to our home setting both for Huda and Myself too lol just being able to see other homes without Montessori implented truly showed me why i need to keep up with it in our home.

@AmmaraSHAH773377

2 жыл бұрын

Also yes when visiting ikea or a child free home or doctor's etc its nice to know that shes conscious of the boundaries in regards to areas she cannot go and resecting other people's personal space is probably something a lot of babies in the pandemic had to learn too i guess bless.

@MariaandMontessori

2 жыл бұрын

@@AmmaraSHAH773377 oh yes, my parents' house just has a basket that holds all of Stella's toys there like a toy box, and she avoids it until we lay out the activities like it's a shelf 😅 Ikea! Have you gone with Huda? I get overwhelmed there myself, I can't imagine what it's like with a toddler 🤯

This is really cool. I didn’t really know these things were Montessori per say but we didn’t use majority of these items. Even when gifted them I found myself getting rid of a few months in. We never used a crib since my first was born. Bought it and used it a handful of times with each kid but toddler/ floor beds are what works for us. I keep stuff TOt locked that I don’t want them to get into but every where else in the house is free reign.

This made me want to throw out everything I just bought for my daughter. 😭 I’ve been so nervous about her developmental progress. 😩 I figured these things would help, but you are definitely right! I’m currently transitioning into the Montessori lifestyle with my 8 soon to be 9 month old. I’m planning on getting her into Montessori schools as well

Man ok. My girls go to a Montessori school and I am a very natural-minded and attachment-based parent, and I have to say: if a 7 month old drinks from a cup and another baby uses a sippy cup, what does that ultimately mean for them in life? Nothing! It doesn't make someone smarter or develop more profoundly. There are absolutely some scientific-based principles within Montessori practice that does contribute more to development in long run, but the cup thing- nope. The colouring book thing- nope. Just need to relax a little when you can.

@wrightclick

11 ай бұрын

I don't know, pretty sure the premise of this entire video is that your kid won't get into Harvard because she's using a sippy cup and spends a couple of minutes in an exersaucer 😅 😭😭😭

@YaGirllllJaz

11 ай бұрын

It doesn’t mean anything. She’s just saying she doesn’t find it necessary, and that’s okay!

Agree with so many on this list, where we deviate is with baby holding devices. I babywear and love it and also used a snuggle me on the floor or the bed when she was a newborn. Worked great for us.

@HapaFamily

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I mentioned the baby carrier as one of my exceptions, too! :) We loved ours.

Thank you for fearlessly speaking from your heart. I have gained so much from your videos 🙏🏻

I was so against baby holding devices (apart from my carriers)... until my baby started crawling at 6 months and by 9 months had the fastest commando crawl going! So a walker i got given is a safe way to keep him contained for a few minutes (im on my own in a tiny flat that isnt the safest for a baby). I have a safe area where he has free range of movement but he can escape it so if im doing dishes and he's in an escaping mood then into the walker he must go for a minute! He does seem to really enjoy it too

I love this goal! Such a great video😍

Eu adorei todas as dicas que você deu nesse vídeo, são realmemte todas importantíssimas para a formação global das crianças, São pontos importantes, que os pais sem saberem gastam muito dinheiro com coisas superfuas , obrigada pela contribuição Ashulie, NEIDE, BRAZIL,BRASÍLIA, (PORTUGUESE)

This is my first year homeschooling my daughter and I've already gone through so many methods because I just couldn't figure out what was working for us. I knew I had an idea of what I wanted but just couldn't figure out exactly what that was. I stumbled on your channel the other day and after watching the first video I came across on Montessori living it was like the heavens opened up lol. This is exactly what is going to work for us because my daughter is extremely independent and free spirited and I am just not a very maternal woman so I have hard time figuring kids out 🤣 also saw a video on, I forget exactly what it's called-gentle or patient discipline something like that haha, and started implementing it 2 days ago and already it's like changed our lives! We were having sooo many issues and I was crying everyday because I didn't know how to handle them but I started using all the methods you talked about in the video and it was like a switch went off and she's been a totally different kid these last couple days! I've been praying so hard for direction with this stuff, thankful God put your videos in my feed 😄

That was so educative! Thank you, looking forward to learn more about it :)

It's wonderful just to hear you talk about this because I am often criticized for doing Montessori and listening to you makes me feel better

I am a stay at home Dad of three children…I am not totally obsessed with Montessori…my wife is more into this…I’m not against it but I just don’t spend time thinking if what I am doing with my children is Montessori or not. However I totally agree with the gun/violence part of this video. My oldest child is a boy of 5 and he has never even seen a gun yet. I simply can not understand how parents can encourage or even just sit back and watch their children shooting each other. Teaching children that violence is a form of entertainment is to me very upsetting.

@tiyya91

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!!!

@annarocha3254

2 жыл бұрын

Because squirt guns are fun as heck.

@272attwell

2 жыл бұрын

@@annarocha3254 With a bit of imagination and some thought there are many ways to have just as much fun with water without a (replica) gun being involved.

@annarocha3254

2 жыл бұрын

@@272attwell Of course. Children also have the ability to use a "replica gun" for fun without without ever remotely thinking of committing actual violence against another person. My mom was someone who never allowed us to have gun-like toys. That was her choice and my childhood certainly wasn't ruined. Now I enjoy buying squirt guns for my nephews and my own sons and their childhoods also won't be ruined.

@272attwell

2 жыл бұрын

@@annarocha3254 It’s difficult within a KZread comment to actually articulate my line of thinking with regards to the subject of violence and guns and child’s play. My initial comments have nothing to do with providing or not providing my children with a happy childhood. (I played with guns as a child…I had a happy childhood). I am more concerned with desensitising a child to violence and the horrors of violence. I have no intent on trying to stop my children from discovering the existence of guns or violence for that matter. In the right time they will discover such facts and I hope to be able to talk to them about such things. One day my children will learn about guns and understand that some people use them as tools to hunt animals and some people use them as weapons to kill or harm other people. When they learn this I want them to be shocked that a person could use a tool to inflict such harm onto another person. I want them to be so grounded in an alternative normal that makes this revelation shocking. I look back to my childhood and there were so many things which were tolerated, encouraged or taught that were in fact harmless in themselves but gradually reinforced mindsets that as an adult I believe were harmful. Children may play with replica guns shooting at each other in an innocent way without any sense of being violent to each other. They may be able to play with toy guns by shooting each other and remain unaware of the consequences of actually shooting another person with real guns. However i think this sort of play is teaching them how to misuse a tool and more importantly the beginning of them being desensitised to the effects of such a miss use. I would like to ask you two questions. What positive fruit do you think comes about in a child’s life as a result of playing with toy guns. Second could this fruit be equally or better cultivated through other types of toys and activities?

You've gotten really good at saying nicely "don't take this too personally people" lmao 😅❤️

@HapaFamily

2 жыл бұрын

🥴🤣

I use coloring books to help with teaching healthy emotional regulation and as a stress relief. It applies to adults and children alike.

I never really take the time to say how much I value your content. But thank you 🙏🏽. You have expressed why you don’t buy books/toys that promote violence in a way that I couldn’t. My partner would like to get our child a nerf gun at some point and I may have to be willing to compromise if we don’t fully hold the same stance on this. But at least now I can show him this video to express why I don’t want them in our home and maybe he will understand the importance of not just following the crowd. I think I agree with all of your points. We have a high chair that is similar to the the Tripp trapp one which currently has the tray attached but apart from that (and the obvious car seat, stroller etc) no baby holding devices. We are yet to set up the weaning table (largely due to limited space in our home) but our baby is only 9 months so I’m hoping I can still make that possible somehow in the next month or so. I always learn so much from these videos, they help keep me in track with our Montessori at home journey. Thank you 😊

Hi Ashley :) great points! How do you know that your kid is ready for learning? What signs should we look for? Also what's the best way to start introducing letters? Is it the phonics first or just the letter recognition? And how do we know they are ready?

@skiluva

2 жыл бұрын

Can't speak to all your questions but Ashley does have a video about teaching reading and the main thing I got out of it is that Montessori says to start with sounds not letters. So play I spy with sounds (look up I spy sound game) to start. Teaching letter names is actually last.

This was a great video! Thank you! I've been watching since my son was born a year ago! For his birthday our family bought him a ton of light up toys, even though I tried to explain what I wanted for him. I was not happy about it. Will most likely be returning most of them and finding things we like better.... my house is currently cluttered with plastic light up toys. Not happy. I guess I wan't specific enough with them, and should have just said we do not want plastic or light up toys.... I guess I didn't want to come off too strict, but now I'm frustrated with all the clutter. He litterally has like 5 or six ride on toys. And still we get bored.

All of what you said makes sense but the colouring book really came as a surprise. Never looked at it that way. Although our 2 year old doesn`t have one yet, she won`t get one too. At least not from her parents that is. Thanks so much again!

Great video Love learning Montessori from you!

When I was little my dad sectioned off a whole corner of the living room with baby gates. I had a mattress on the floor, a cardboard box, stuffed animals, notebooks, books, etc and I would just spend most of my time in there doing my own thing.

I use coloring books as scraps that we can start to create sth from because a blank page can also be quite overwhelming (as for so many artists and authors). Other than that I am still very grateful to learn from your experience. Thanks to you we went straight from my bed to floor bed and now my 2 1/2 year old is the fittest toddler in kindergarten and da hood =) Another important nobuy for me, that is not necessarily Montessori: strollers! In the beginning I used a baby sling. Later, I let her crawl outside and upstairs (supervised of course). As soon as she started to walk I took a friend's old buggy, adjusted the handles around her height so she would push around the buggy all day. She just loved doing that. Of course, I would put her in occasionally ... We were completely finished with it by the age of 1 1/2. I love this life with my very mobile toddler. Things are so much easier: going to the museum or concert or traveling by train, even the supermarket. Have you tried buying all the food with a kid in a buggy? It is fing impossible ^^

I need to add, if you have children with special needs, you MAY need to have some of these things for their safety. We had a almost 4 year old join our family (foster) and he was autistic and was constantly “eloping” (amazing ability to be 2 doors down in someone’s backyard near their pool because i get a phone call and was not specifically looking at him for a few seconds. He needed a crib because it was not safe for him to be freely able to move about the house while we were sleeping, etc.

Never used a play pen the way your describing, it’s always been a safe place (for baby 3 and 4, while cooking or cleaning to keep them from the other children ) or a second bed when they are very little and I don’t want them sleeping in my room so far from me.

Thanks for sharing this! Very insightful for me with an 11 month old. Unfortunately (for me haha), my daughter almost never wanted to be set down on the floor. Before she was mobile she hated being on her tummy. Hated lying on her back unless she was playing/reaching for toys or being sang/talked/read to etc. Not to mention, she hated being in the car seat, being in the bath, lots of things. She was a very spirited infant and still is pretty spirited as an almost toddler. She disliked everything EXCEPT being held, or sometimes being sat in a sit me up seat or (a bit later) in a bouncer. This was usually only for 5-10 minutes when I couldn’t hold her and she would not tolerate being laid down. I carried her as much as possible in my arms or with a wrap or carrier but of course… sometimes I had to set her down. She’d go crazy after moments of being on the floor, so I tended to set her in a safe kind of propped up seat until she could sit up safely by herself or move herself around. I WISH I could have avoided using containing devices - but I struggled so much with having to hold her every moment she was awake. She still struggles with independent play without me in her direct view - but it’s getting better. We also have a GIANT playpen. Our house has huge vents on the floor and they’re dangerous for her. Basically the whole living room is hers, but since there are no doors we had to invest in a playpen for the moments when I can’t be staring at her and making sure she’s not getting her hand or food stuck in the slats. I can’t wait until we can move and can set up a safe room for her 😌 again, thank you for sharing it has helped me get some ideas and some understanding for when my LO gets older. 😊

I agree with a lot of what you said even though I didn’t have a strict Montessori environment for my children some things I didn’t have either due to lack of space or money such as a jumperoo, and I’ve realised that in the end we actually never needed one! My son would sometimes enjoy the jumperoos they had in soft play or play group locations but it’s not the sort of thing anyone needs at home specially if you don’t have a large living area. In addition I completely agree about the electronic toys, I find them so distressing and annoying too with all the noises and flashing lights, wouldn’t give that to my worse enemy!

When it comes to the floor bed (which is the only thing I am against at for the following reasons) how do you deal with 1) lack of air circulation which leads to moisture and mold 2) dust, considering that it collects primarily on the floor and can trigger allergic reactions or respiratory issues (I suffer from dust mites allergy for example), and it never goes completely away even if you clean regularly 3) cool temperatures-the air is cooler on the floor and if you live in a cold climate it’s even cooler 4) bugs?These issues are very serious cons and they certainly outweigh the benefits, in my opinion. Even if you air the mattress and clean twice a day, you couldn’t avoid them completely, plus you would have even more housework to deal with.

@ettinakitten5047

2 жыл бұрын

Perhaps look into Japanese-style floor beds?

I really enjoyed listening to this and plan to implement some of these suggestions in my own home 😊 In regards to the playpen, we personally used one for our baby because we have two cats and we wanted to keep baby safe from them. Otherwise we definitely would've put him on the floor! Now that he's a bit older, the cats are afraid of him so there's no issue anymore 😂

@l.s.d.5863

Жыл бұрын

Well... no issue for him. Maybe an issue for the cats.

Thank you Hapa Family for reminding us the 10 things we don't buy as a montessori parent. Stay healthy!

Wow I love your idea about coloring books, my girls are just 22 months and I got 2 drawing in line books but from now on won’t do it anymore:)thank you 🥰

As a Montessori guide, I wish I had seen this before the holidays so I could send it to all my parents. Each one you named, I found myself saying YES, THANK YOU.

WHY DO I AGREE WITH YOU SOOO MUCH?! 💓 I love you! I will not buy those stuff you mentioned if ever I get pregnant one day. Thank you for these notes! 💯💯💯

I 100% agree with you on the violence thing.

This is great! I learned some new things, and I do wish childcare providers knew these things. It's so hard because people don't get the issues that come with things like sippies and bouncers/exersaucers because they actually cause anatomical problems (reducing of the jaw space for proper teeth spacing and hip displagia and pelvic floor dysfunction, respectively. Yes to the toy box issue. Ugh! SO looking for a work around!

I never thought of that with colouring books. Thank you!

Such great content as always!!!

💯 agree except the numbers and letters. My daughter is 22 months old and she looooves them!

I learn so much from your videos! Thanks!

Using a sippy cup doesn't prevent them from learning how to use a glass. We did both simultaneously and it was ok. Sometimes you have to be flexible. I found Montessori often isn't.

@v.dargain1678

2 ай бұрын

Well said .

Hi! I didn´t feel like a montessori parent until now :D From time to time I watch your videos for inspiration or just for fun and I´ve just realised your list is my list :D

I learned some new things and have a new veiw on some of the items u mentioned. Thinking about what will fit in my lifestyle 🤔 for my own when they come.

Really informative, thank you! I am new to the Montessori world but am in love with the concept! Do you have any suggestions or ideas to keep the lifestyle for older kids? Everything I see is for younger children but my oldest is 16.

Learning so much! I have a two month old. Currently living with my in laws, so I cant implement all of these as there is a lot of clutter, and she doesn’t have her own room but buying a house very soon and excited to start these!

1 - The majority of my toys are montessori materials, but for example the wooden coin drawer my kid wasn't a crazy fan of. Granny gave her a talking pig that you put the coin into and she LOVED it. So I'm happy to be flexible.

It’s funny- when my daughter was young and she wanted to color I’d put her in her up seat with the tray and she’d sit next to me while I worked or was in a meeting. She had a jumper which was great when she was in that stage where all she wanted to do was jump- I have a medical condition that prevents me from being able to hold her up while she did that for really any amount of time- to encourage her leg muscle development we went with that. It was short lived- we didn’t use it longer than a few months during that stage but she was never left alone in it and I usually was sitting right there with her encouraging her to jump and singing songs. We’ve never used any of these things as “containment” devices- I’ve seen friends do that and it always bothered me. I used things when necessary for as long as necessary and then moved forward. Our cosleeper looks like that playpen. We used that in bassinet mode for as long as it was practical and we it in the playpen mode only if we are traveling since it’s familiar to her and eases the transition to different sometimes scary places. We were gifted the cutest pair of pink converse crib shoes. They were soft and during the chilly times it was nice to have an extra layer of warm (since she would ALWAYS kick her blanket off) usually she only wore them when we left the house-I can’t imagine trying to get her to wear them all the time. All the rest we never used either. For learning the alphabet and numbers we used sand letters and letter sounds.

Hi Ashley! Love your videos and I appreciate all you do on this channel to help all Montessori parents ❤️ Quick question: what printer do you have/recommend for every day homeschool printing?

@HapaFamily

2 жыл бұрын

I prefer a laser printer because the cartridges on my old inkjet would always run out on me way too fast! I’ve got a Brother color laser printer, unsure of the exact model.

@Ketovore-RN

2 жыл бұрын

@@HapaFamilyyes, not to mention ink is crazy expensive. Thanks so much!

@AmmaraSHAH773377

2 жыл бұрын

@@HapaFamily thaaank you i couldn't find the old comment you left before and was searching aound. I realised its esier for evryone if we just bought one good printer for the home. Thank you.

Thank you for your insight and info I use a couple of items you don't but that is okay like you have said in several videos that you can have a mixture in your parenting style. I am primarily Montessori based but I use a sippy cup and play pen and they work best for our lifestyle. I appreciate you sharing your insight though and it's super helpful! TY 🙂

My boy is 6 months old and I’m glad I found your channel at the right time..

We don't have a lot of money so we only buy what is absolutely necessary... so now instead of saying that we are broke, I will say that we're doing Montessori.

@Teeee155

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LOVE this!!! Thank you thank you thank you💗

Wonderful video as always! My baby actually prefers an open glass cup to a sippy cup and she took to the glass much easier. I also don't love the fancy baby outfits that constrict their movement. The more natural, stretchy the fabric the better. Ive found bamboo made clothing to be the most comfortable for them! (baby jeans are a no!)

After reading some comments, I just wanted to say that so many guidelines and opinions are pushed on mothers as if they are law and if you don’t follow them you are endangering your child. Sometimes the worst culprits are other mothers. I have a 10 month old and another on the way. At some point with my son I was empowered to make choices based on common sense and instinct. Don’t let statistics or fear direct your parenting. It’s never bad to get advice, but you don’t have to take it no matter who is giving it. I will be moving my son to a floor bed soon. I’m new to the Montessori approach. I may not follow it completely, but I know that many people might be afraid to because society has scared them into not wanting to give their child independence. My son never used a sleep sack. I asked myself “are you choosing this out of fear?” The answer was yes. So I made myself face the anxiety and gave him a blanket from day one. As a newborn, he couldn’t move much so he couldn’t even get it over his face. At 4 months he rolled over and slept on his stomach so I placed it behind him by his waist. Once he sat up at 6 months and stood at 7 he was strong enough to move the blanket himself. He mostly chose to sleep on top of it. As for the floor bed. If you child proof, take away any hazardous items, and use a monitor. Then you can keep your child just as safe as a crib. Plus a bed on the floor reduces risk of falls. In Sweden kids sleep with pillows and a blanket at only a few months old. I just want to say that doing something should be because you’ve weighed the options and feel it’s the most comfortable and most helpful to your child development not because someone made you feel scared or like a bad parent if you don’t do it.