I'm a mother of five, three of which are boys, and I've noticed that when my boys start complaining a lot, or just seem like they're angry more often, my husband needs to spend more time with them. It works! They come back happy and more grateful. Also, I noticed my husband is the one who can make our girls see how beautiful and cherished they are, just by spending quality time with them. He has so much power. I can be the comforter, nurturer, and giver of life, but my husband had to take over at some point and really step up. This was so hard for him, as he lacked confidence and knowledge he never received from his abusive dad, who thought that if he only went to work everyday, he was doing his job. I really feel for men nowadays, since there are so many fatherless men who are just trying to figure things out, and it looks really messy. Just one note on this though. Ladies, your husband will be more willing and motivated to be a fantastic dad if he's loved and appreciated by you. Tell him your grateful for him when he's leaving for work, tell him he drives you wild, make sure he's getting the intimacy from you that he needs, then sit back and watch how much better of a dad he'll be. We as women are so important too. I'm m grateful for this channel. Thank you.

@homesteadishdad

Жыл бұрын

I consider myself at least a decent dad, but that line hit me - " if he only went to work everyday, he was doing his job". That is a simple but deep thought....can't just be a provider, gotta be a dad.

@EssPhour

Жыл бұрын

We are relatively simple and low maintenance, if wives did little more than show us the gratitude you suggest, we will contently with a sense of honor fill our roles, if a wife were to follow ALL of your advice? Those wives would find they had a tool at their disposal that would move mountains for them.

@lorenzoburton3974

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 😢 Beautifully written.

@davegcomedy1267

10 ай бұрын

This is so spot on. Men can become superheros when the right women loves him the right way.

@fennek5351

10 ай бұрын

Beautiful.

As a wife and mother, I love this channel. I want to help my sons to become great men, but only MEN CAN MAKE STRONG LEADERS, AND AWESOME, GODLY MEN ! Men make men, period. Blessings!

@freesk8

Жыл бұрын

Boys need both fathers and mothers. But we men would not have proper humility if we did not acknowledge that mothers are more important! My dad used to say: "A boy's best friend is his mother." Fathers have an important role to play, of course. And this culture does not value fathers and "male energy" enough. But if you had to pick only one, go with the mother! :)

@bestlifeever4548

10 ай бұрын

Same here and mom of 4 boys and I'm retired military and my husband veteran and has successful business and so thankful he is old school thinking and amazing husband and father and hardest working man I know but always puts us 1st and great example. I homeschool our youngest 15 and have 3 more 17 to 22 and 2 serving overseas in military. It's so sad society has become what it is and making weak men and boys and females not fulfilling our design and nature . I have seen extreme in both.

I’ve fallen off the path, & lost sight of what’s important … progress isn’t linear , but I’m back, & determined to change my life for the better.

@jasoncooper4737

Жыл бұрын

You aren't the only one- keep smashing that wall until it comes down!

@JuansUncle

Жыл бұрын

Daniel, Jason is right. You are not alone. I had fallen so hard over a year ago and made way too many mistakes, that I'm still picking up the pieces right now as we speak. We have all the tools. This channel offers countless Gems for us all. Never forget, we are in this together. Self accountability is King, this road of reclaiming who we mean to be. Most importantly, God has a plan for each of us. It's up to us to use our gift of free will to do everything it takes to align our selves with that plan. Thank God for this community. We are not lost. We are here. Now. Together.

@chrisbajema8002

9 ай бұрын

Amen men!

@jp5419

9 ай бұрын

You got this!!! Women support you honey. Stand tall and strong and one step in front of the other.

@isMatvei

8 ай бұрын

Progress may not be entirely linear, but it is horizontal or vertical in some way. It starts somewhere and ends somewhere else, good thing to remind yourself of :)

I’m 43 and I grew up without a dad. I’ve been cynical and unmotivated all my life. I’ve dealt with substance abuse, anger issues and run-ins with the law. I’ve only recently realized I need to become a man. I’m in jiu jitsu, I’m taking accountability for my life and decisions and I’m done drinking. I’m responsible for where my life is regardless of my childhood. Thank you for these videos ✊

just found you. i have a 25 year old son who won't embrace his obligations. absent father, etc. i am out of tricks and am praying for him .

1. Be the example. 2. Be present. 3. Communication has to firm but fair. 4. Be humble as a father. 5. Be proud of the right things as a father. 6. Get involved with children's school. 7. Coach youth sports. 8. Get involved in community programs. 9. Get involved in church. 10. Run for elected office.

I grew up without a father, and went down the wrong path growing up Having children, one being a boy I find it very hard to teach him how to be a man, especially since I myself never really had any role, models or men in my life that were willing to teach me things I’m glad that I found this. Thank you for what you do.

I was raised by my mother, grew up low income in hard neighborhoods, two step dad's, they came an went. I am all Man!. I knew at a young age, I needed to decide what man I was gonna become. I took tools from each bad ass man I would meet, on top of this my Mother was a badass. Now I am.

@joerodriguez3002

Жыл бұрын

I've also raised a bad ass 17 yr old young man, and a 19 old daughter. Both badass

I am a pastor with two young boys. I’ve been led to start a young mens group in our church following material from John Eldridge. Thanks for the video.

Couldn’t agree more on validating and celebrating boys who rise up against bullying in school. Good words man!

I lost my dad when I was 12…I struggled a lot without his mentorship, yet turned out fine. I am 73 today and still amazed at what a powerful positive influence those 12 short years had in my life. It’s as if he had given me a moral gyroscope…even when I strayed, something always managed to steer me back to the right course. RIP Dad

Hi Ryan, I'm a criminal defence lawyer from Dublin in Ireland. Really interesting video, we have slightly different issues here but the same root cause; no guns or gun violence problem & minimal gangs but serious mental health and addiction issue that are almost a cultural norm & the associated street violence etc. The common theme in the young men who i deal with is a lack of personal & community responsibility & a soften of society to focus on feelings & not consequences, outcomes and achievements. This is not limited to any particular section of society or socioeconomic group but an attitude in the home and surrounding spheres of influence. We, in Ireland, have seen our society rebel against traditional conservative values as a result of the collapse of the influence of the church, which dominated society after we won our independence, & the traditional institutions; whilst this was not unwarranted the vacuum that has been left is causing these significant problems rather than solving the ones that previously existed. I really appreciate your channel & the message you are getting out there & I hope people continue to hear your voice because there is nothing more toxic to humanity than depowered, scared and voiceless young men with all the strength and aggression that they are born with but no notion of the responsibilities & opportunities that that can provide. Keep up the good work, your voice is being heard beyond America.

@Barbarian646

Жыл бұрын

What's happening there is a result of years of radical cultural marxism

@eoingallagher3501

Жыл бұрын

@@Barbarian646 thanks for your comment; I would be interested to know what you would view as "years of cultural marxism" in Ireland?

@Barbarian646

Жыл бұрын

@@eoingallagher3501 not just Ireland, thoughout Europe and the USA

@semiliterate6930

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree , this is so important now more than ever to get these sorts of conversations happening in men of all ages, good luck in Dublin with your journey and any help your providing to those in need.

Above anything show them you love them... Don't be so caught up in your own insecurity that you can't hold your own son.

@MrCROSS1911

10 ай бұрын

Yessir. One of the first ways a boy learns to show masculine love and care vs the love he would later learn to show a woman.

Truth. To grow and continue to learn from other men is just wise. I have learned seriously valuable skills from other men in my life especially in the last decade.

Such an important message, and it’s needed in today’s day and age more than ever. As a 31yo who went down the wrong path throughout my 20’s, I’ve realized how much of this was missing from my life growing up. Now I’m left trying to pick up the pieces as a grown man and it is extremely difficult to accept, unfortunately there are many men who are in the same boat as me. It’s never too late to make a difference in yours and others lives, this video is a springboard onto the right path.

@sirgordan3279

11 ай бұрын

Amen

Opening comments are completely correct! We are short on men due to the new norm of being strong in solitude. Iron sharpens iron, and to think you can be a good man from start to finish ‘solo’ you’re probably full of yourself. We all learned to be men from somewhere, someone! Appreciate your channel.

Boy Scouts of America needs merit badge counselors. It's not a very time-consuming endeavor, and a guy can have a huge impact on kids.

This video was amazing! I have court for custody of my son, in about 2 weeks. Things have gotten out of hand with his mother and me. I just want my son in my life and for me to be a positive male figure in his. The lines got skewed about 2 months ago. Boys need there father’s period. Don’t allow the mother to dictate, when you are allowed to see your son’s/daughters. Be proactive and take it into your own hands. Thank you so much for the video brother!

If someone has what you want you learn from them to help you get it for yourself... Honestly we need more real men to stand up around the world

As a boy who was raised in a fatherless home, I like you, I had to learn how to be a man, because I just didn’t have one around. That being said, I’m super pumped at how I’ve turned out and i intend to continue to be intentional in raising my kids. But I never did organized sports. To be fair I was in my mid 20’s before I sat down and watched an NFL game. I was in the Army and my buddy sat me down and made me watch it. He would explain what I was seeing and what I wanna see. I know enough about football now, to maybe have some in depth discussions, but I doubt I know and understand enough, plus have the actual physical skill and experience of playing the sport, to actually coach. Maybe assistant coach….strong maybe

Render myself obsolete. Like this!!

Love it! “It has always been that way” with the dumbfounded look on your face. Spot on response.

At around 12 minutes you were describing that a school would have a no fighting rule, and you propose that we should find out why they were fighting. I'm 64 now and what we used to say is that women say no to something like no fighting. Men teach their boys how to do it like when and how to fight. Schools have the female energy. You would have to reinsert male energy into the school system. Good luck my friend.

(25:08) "If all of us did just 1 or 2 things from the list . . . " 💯 We need to do these things. More than 2, however starting with 2 is a start. Work the plan. We can make the world better, especially for our kids.

Thank you Ryan! I am a substitute teacher who is in the minority because of the lack of men in schools. I'm also running for my local school board because I'm sick of the nonsense that is being taught in my school district. I'm not the strongest, nor do I have an wonderful beard like yours, but I know that using my skills to help others (especially boys) become become better. I like that idea about the community program. I'm a writer and would like to teach boys and young men how to write heroic/manly tales that we don't see any more in this far too feminine media. We need to bring back stories of heroism like those of the Knights of the Round Table and King Arthur.

@271EVO

9 ай бұрын

Fight the good fight. Thank you

@jefffinkbonner9551

8 ай бұрын

Excellent! It doesn’t get as much love or regard as something tactile like an axe, but the pen absolutely moves mountains. Too many mountains have been eroded by the pens of morons in our age. Go get it! 💪

As a mother of boy and girl I absolutely love your content 💖 thank you for bringing such a precious lesson 🙏

inspiration! love this content

Excited for this one

Love it!

We need more of this 🙌

I’m enjoying your channel more and more, thank you

Great message.

Excellent work Ryan 👍🏿

Great video Ryan, you totally nailed it...

Such a fantastic channel!

This is going to be a great episode! Thank you for all the great inspiration and information

Amen Brother, great message!💪🏼🙏🏼

God always finds a way to direct one back on the path he once stepped off. I have father all my life, and he was bully to us all this time and wasn't present the way he should. I spent most of my childhood with grand grandmother and on my own along with my brother. I see how destructive influence it had on us and in some aspects still has. If at least half of the mentioned points were taken care of, we would've had a lot easier life. This channel is a good guidance for fathers to be better in what they provide to their kids mentally. It's never too late. Thank you.

Thank u bro 🙏

One of the best damn videos you’ve ever made brother and dead on!! It’s truth and exactly what boys as well as men need to hear!!

this is great i used to struggle with assertive behaviour because parents being split and not seeing my dad much. glad to have found this page

You just earned a follow

I love this channel, I share these videos all the time. Great job!

@Orderofman

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Encouraging words thank you. I give God thanks for allowing me to learn from men around despite a father who wasn’t there for most of my life. I have a lot of room to grow but trust that it is possible.

The Second Mountain by David Brooks “The crucial way to tell whether you are on your 1st mountain 🏔 or 2nd, where is your ultimate appeal? To self, or to something outside of self?” “If the 1st 🏔 is about building up the ego and defining the self, the 2nd 🏔 is about shedding the ego and losing the self.” “If the 1st 🏔 is about the acquisition, the 2nd 🏔 is about the contribution.” This is a secular book that has some solid knowledge & wisdom. It however, is no replacement for the Bible. ❤️‍🔥

Exactly. Men are not born with it. We must be shown and taught.

I am now a 29 year old man ; that never had a father around or a father figure , my mother raised me by herself and did a damn good job and did the best that she could. One point you made was that any sign of firmness from another man for example a boss at work , I always took as aggression and I would feel threatened by and try to rebel and push back. I always thought I felt that way because I hated rules or authority , but it really comes down to I was never exposed to firmness in that way and should never take it personal as I did. I’m happy I realized that about myself because I have a little boy on the way in October and I’m so ready and excited to be in his life and raise him along side my amazing girlfriend together , the way it should be. Thanks for the great video !

I have no sons, but I have four daughters. My job is to be the man in their eyes that another man will have to live up to in order to take their hand in marriage.

I was challenged to a fight by another boy in ninth grade, so the night before the fight I asked my dad for some boxing moves because back in the 80s, MMA wasn’t a thing. He told me to step on his foot and punch him in the stomach. What he think I was five? But whatever my dad said, I treated it like gold . So we went into a stairwell and the fight starts. I went to step on his foot, and I missed, so I came around with a right hook three times really fast. He charged at me and I threw him into the wall and was using my shoulder to his chest repeatedly, which was knocking the wind out of him. At this point the fight is nearly over because he’s missed with his shots and he’s losing pretty badly. What I didn’t know is that his mom had enrolled him in a self-defense/karate class. So he grabs around my chest and comes up with a brutal knee to the groin. And says I’m sorry I’m sorry Back then a kick to the balls was a cheap shot, and cheap shots were what cowards do. He hit me so hard I couldn’t move for 15 minutes and a couple of seniors carried me out of there. Everybody was pissed about the cheap shot because all he had to do was say “I give”. The worst that came out of a fight was a blackeye or bloody nose back then. So the principal was pissed and he suspended him five days out of school. So his mother gets involved because “it wasn’t fair” and insist that no fighting policy meant that I had to be suspended too. So they gave me three days in school suspension, which was way worse than out of school as far as I was concerned. I guess the only good news that came out of it was as an adult this guy was road raging and chased me down and I didn’t even know what he looks like. He threatened my girlfriend, so she said to me “there he is”. I tried back away since it’s an adult fight, and it could mean life or death, but he charged at me. Long story short, I got him in a front headlock and was pummeling him with my right hand. I was very careful to protect my groin area by my twisting to the side and using my leg to block any potential shot he might try. 😂 his friend came up behind me and said “that’s enough”. I turned to hit his friend, but he backed away with his hands in the air, and I realize the fight was over. My girlfriend had called the cops, but I couldn’t be bothered with the paperwork. Besides his only injury was his pride, so there’s no less in the system should have told him that he didn’t already learn. In both cases, women handle problems differently than men. Men have to respect each other when we talk because if we don’t, there is the implicit contract that we can always “take it outside”. Violence for women is a disaster, and to be avoided at all costs. So the divorce mother was right to seek as much punishment from the system as possible, if it was her daughter. But for boys, the principal’s judgment was sound. Now they’re arresting boys, so they never learn to respect other boys, and shoot their mouth off and get themselves killed in the wrong situation. As for the adult fight, again, it was handled by the men, lesson learned, punishment over and no need for the system to jail. the guy. An ice pack and the humiliation for starting a fight and losing. It was all that was necessary. This country cages more people than, any country in the rest of the world. Most of these men are black. It’s a disgrace, and our society pays dearly for when these men get out. It used to be men with a wild streak could choose to enlist in the army to get charges for male disciplinary problems. Our effeminate society can’t imagine handing things that way anymore. Somehow we eliminated the bullies and gorillas and invited in a dysfunctional dystopian surveillance state in its place.

Remember the movie "Scent of a Woman" with Al Pacino, the Baird School Court hearing scene

💯💯💯

Amen 🙏

You make a ridiculously obvious but solid and for whatever reason elusive point, why talk about a problem continually if we aren't willing to do something to change that problem???

I look at my function as a Father-figure as being a part of my children's lives. I am in their lives to work my way (largely) out of their lives. I think Ryan's use of the word obsolete is demeaning. As a post- leaving home influence in my Adult Child's life I can make myself available to be a grandpa and to offer (asked for) perspective when an Adult Child comes to me asking what they should do about a particular personal problem to bring greater clarity to a situation. But, ultimately (if I genuinely care) I have to leave the choice of what to do to them if I am to honor and uphold/affirm their status as Adults capable of making good/balanced/positive choices.

Comment for the algo. Salute

Airsoft is an extremely underrated hobby for young men.

@ultramarine3527

8 ай бұрын

Same

A good reminder from Charles Haddon Spurgeon “When a man admires himself, he never adores God.” The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding. ~ Proverbs 9:10

Yo where in Maine are you? I’m near Wakefield nh on the boarder

I totally concur with this channel, need something better an more to teach Young men better quality of life.. I know I could of used it growing up myself.. 🤙

19:21 real man

This is so difficult.

Proverb 27:17 Iron Sharpens Iron...

Society punishes young men for fighting their own battles then threatens them if they don’t register with selective service so they can fight society’s battles if need be. It’s hypocritical.

Wow what a message I certainly have a lot of work to do, honestly i haven’t been the greatest man, been more like a grow up Kid. Ive had times where I buckled down and started to get it together and then gave into my bad habits and I would take 2 years to get back to getting it together. God recently has blessed with a baby boy and Im starting to get it together, Ive been working out again, changing my eating habits, decided to drop drinking for 3 months because that was getting out of hand. ( a beer here and there ain’t so bad) I still feel i 27:26 need a mentor with getting a business started and learning how to make those moves. I got back into prayer I have to start somewhere! Soon Ill be starting boxing training which I’ve dreamed of learning since childhood and Im sure along the way Ill find some jiu jitsu friend. I have blue belt in jiu jitsu but haven’t trained since 2020 pray for me brothers I aim to become a better man the one God showed me that i can be. If read this far into my comment thank you for your time !!!!!!!! Thank you for this video Ryan you boosted the fire in my heart

What an asinine comment that person made… seems obvious that men would have to learn from other men & our current world shows how it’s been lacking. Hell women (mostly young girls) need to learn what a man is supposed to be by men & that seems to be lacking even more…

The response to young women when they struggle in their lives: let’s find all the external factors in their lives and around them that are holding them back and figure out ways that we can remove those external obstacles so we can help them. The response to young men when they struggle in their lives: men just need to do better.

As a mother, I really wonder how I could help my sons to become men when their father has always been a nice passive "boy", physically providing but emotionnally disengaged. I'm not blaming him. Himself never had a father or a masculine model. But I can't expect him to be an emotionally available adult man and to be a model. Any ideas?

@rogath_silayo

8 ай бұрын

Show him this video and after that tell you should have a genuine and open conversation with belittling someone.

There simply aren't fathers in the home much anymore and, if they are, more than likely they were left by their father. Not every single family but ALOT more than in the '50's and '60's.

I heard no lies

… iron sharpens iron ⚔️

The only sports I would teach would be martial skills. Fighting without weapons and with weapons, group assaults, breaking contact, intelligence gathering and how to build relationships just like Special Forces. How to fly, ride bikes, swim, scuba, hunt, trap, make shoes, clothes and metal items. How to deal with women.

So I wonder who the anti-bullying curriculum is written by? Men or women... And is it written to be politically correct?

When the child has learned how to tie his/her own shoe laces then I step back from doing it for them. Or I risk turning them into child dependents for life and this does not honor them as maturing human beings capable of doing more and doing it sooner and better than me (as their Father). Or what is the point of the next generation?

how do i send this to my father without offending him? and where do i find these kinds of videos for women as well?😅

@rogath_silayo

8 ай бұрын

Don't be afraid, men are not that difficult to communicate especially when you tell us the truth. Send to him or show him this video and don't comment on him let him figure out himself.

can you please make a video on how fatherless boys can become men?

By force? Necessesity, obligation? The fact this topic is necessary should be alarming. There's no choice where I live you either become a man starting in your teens when you drop out to work full time or you become a criminal. Education is a privilege that should not be taken for granted. Disposible income and opportunity should not be taken for granted, otherwise you find yourself being a grown boy.

Reality is one day you WON’T be there! If you haven’t prepared them to be self sufficient you have failed them.

Everything in life is explained in "The Kid Gallagher Story ". If not, at least you will learn something inexplicable!

Dear Mr Michler, I believe you referred to your podcast as a show. I'd like to ask you to refrain from doing this in the future as I believe what you are intending to communicate through your podcast(s) are actual life lessons in how we as males should represent ourselves to the world and local/neighborhood culture as mature, responsible men. Your youtube channel might well be considered a kind of "digital classroom" to impart shared wisdom into the lives of males who did not have access to the kind of Father-figure/mentor you are doing your best to represent.

4:30 Must ne why the children of single fathers do better in at least 70 different categories than the children of single mothers See Dr Warren Farrell for the receipts

Cool, event, my son is working at Tim Pond resort in me. Not sure where that is in relation to you

Former 82nd Abn Div paratrooper, commanded 2 US armored cavalry troops, BSA Scoutmaster for 11 years, Muslim, African-American. My main turn-off with this presentation is the obvious misinformation and then promotion that CRT is a net negative. That position almost completely negates my own acceptance of OOM as a programmatic approach for Black boys and young men. A central belief that CRT is being taught at levels below the university and actually graduate school is generally a predicate for dismissing Black history and the realities of the historically lived experiences of Black folk in America. At it's worse, the sentiment put forward by this kind of misconstrued understanding of CRT is a marker of unconscious bias and, at the very worst a marker of racism.

Any vets wanna be international firefighters. And you wanna go back overseas. Get your passport. Don't deal with any of this.

I guess the person that made that statement is Tarzan and learned how to become a man by the help of the jungle, lol.

His comment only shows how confused he as a man

So you homeschool, but everyone else should get involved in their local public schools to keep society from going downhill?

Do you support Defendant trump?

@Greg-yu4ij

8 ай бұрын

What’s the difference? We are manipulated to fear and hate the other side. So what difference does it make which team we are on?

Women need to stop trying to keep the father out of his kids lives. It is complete bullshit.