thank you, married 9 yrs, feeling beat, tired, hopeless, alone while together and paying her bills. Currently I don't think I have the strength to have the drama of a divorce. I am 75. but your video tells me I am not crazy and I need to move ahead. thanks and God Bless you

@PickleRick65

Ай бұрын

Good Lord. You got married at 66??? Go with god my son 😬

@beastmaster415

Ай бұрын

Bill....do what makes Bill happy...people can only wish to live to be your age... you've made it this long bro💪🏾💯...dont let anybody dictate how you feel or take away your happiness...You are living Bills' life...not anybody else...but thats just my opinion...listen to music you like...any comedy also helps...you got this... lets make Bill happy again💯💪🏾👍🏾

@PetitHibou72

Ай бұрын

@@PickleRick65Age is just a number, and commitment never goes out of style.

@user-bb2vn8vz5x

22 күн бұрын

You're 75 😄 ? You might as well stay married 😄. You don't have much time left 😄.

@pixie9422

11 күн бұрын

@@user-bb2vn8vz5xyour a cnt hopefully he lives a lot longer than you will🤡

Every single one of these signs are spot on. Sadly I found myself trapped in a bad marriage with a leach & a narcissist, however I found the courage & strength to move forward with a divorce.

@lukebarrett2317

Жыл бұрын

found there are prayers for fixing divorce and brokenness marriages. Although me and my wife are now back together and our love is even stronger but I was a total mess when she first dumped me.

@adibee88

Жыл бұрын

I hope the BEST for You. The healing process; years. Every day after, will be your best day. Why? You are no longer in that situation, being harmed the worst way - emotionally. God bless you.

@uncut3293

Жыл бұрын

🙏🏽

@katiebarquet8783

Жыл бұрын

Yes I am going through the same thing 😢😢

@apeldian7264

11 ай бұрын

@@adibee88uuuu

nice point we’re all busy ,but if someone is important to us we make sacrifices

Statics show 50% marriages end in divorce Another 35% are unhappily married but elect to stick it out Only 15% are happy and glad they married their present spouse The odds are not good Be very selective

@hanselpollack4075

2 ай бұрын

These statistics are suspicious. Be careful.

@jessiesheldon-huffey1824

2 ай бұрын

I totally believe this. I was part of the 35% but stuck it out for 25 years because I thought he was at least faithful. Turns out I was wrong due to his porn use so now I'm getting a divorce, so I will be part of the 50%.....

@professionalhater3348

Ай бұрын

I'm still thinking why people still feel the need for marriage. That's pretty much useless nowadays. You don't need marriage to be able to love someone for the rest of your life. 😅

@NancyMalcunMusic

Ай бұрын

wow that's really eye opening :(

@wandacarr668

27 күн бұрын

The 50% stat isn't actually accurate. Someone looked at the number of marriages and divorces in a year, but did not take into account all the people that were already married.

They put up with you...they don't enjoy you. They only discuss important things. They don't hug you when you get home. They have weekend fun activities that don't include you. But basically.. they just put up with you. Because to them your assets...money and work ethic... are useful

@mildredwilson9562

Жыл бұрын

Just like when say your crazy and your got theming wong but youknow th a only start shit wen thay doing wong robustly thasafr

@ninamorantes414

6 ай бұрын

Not putting up with me...more like using me!

@createone100

Ай бұрын

@@mildredwilson9562Say what???

@ashleydooley2601

Ай бұрын

Preach!!!!

*Me, a single male in their late 30’s, watching this at 2am* Fascinating.

@85jamesr

7 күн бұрын

@@buttfaceloser well life dealt me a hand of cards at the beginning that was impossible to come out on top from. However, I did have an amazing time throughout my 20s but suffered loss after loss to find that everything I thought would be there suddenly gone. Now 38 years old, I am in a better place and I probably ever was so I do wish I was in my early 20s.

@AbigaleKirsten

Күн бұрын

Me, a single female in their early 30’s, watching this at 4am. Numb

@85jamesr

Күн бұрын

@@AbigaleKirsten 😔 sowy.

The fact that people have to watch this video is the answer to this question already

@ritapeters1330

2 ай бұрын

Yes, true

@angelaraines4107

Ай бұрын

Wow that just hit home for me 😢. Thank you

@nehemiembombo9912

Ай бұрын

😭😭😭😭

Spot on. Recently discovered I’ve spent 25 years married to a narcissist. They hit every single one of these. I recall asking them to dream of the future with me and they always refused claiming they were too stressed at work. During a cruel attempt at a partial discard, they told me they didn’t see me in their future. It’s been painful but eye opening. I filed for divorce. I can give myself the love and future I wanted.

@lpsglitterpaws8536

2 ай бұрын

How are you doing now? I am in the process of divorce right now

@maribellama

2 ай бұрын

I wish God will help you finding a true love ❤️. A man that truly cares and cherishes you , gives you love and affection. Amen

@nickrakemer9277

Ай бұрын

Did not dicuss future but stayed with you for 25 years. Does not add up.

@Babyhoneyyomama

Ай бұрын

I’m so broken I never thought their would be an ending. He moved out and I went to the court house and got the paper twice but I just can’t bring myself to fill them out. I was with him for 20 years and he moved out once our daughter left to college I tried to convince him to come back but he’s only been back to sleep with me then leaves. You’d think I’d respect myself a lil more after all he has arranged for the owner of the home we rented to allow me to stay not inside the home but the garage is what I know now as home. This from the guy who payed for everything now all I hear is I will continue to pay untill the end of this year. The sad thing is I have no money to fight him and lawyer up and I know he has for years hid through investments or bitcoin hidden money.

@kb7202

Ай бұрын

I wish you all the best for the future. I truly hope you find someone who loves you and is on your wavelength. My friend has been in a loveless marriage for 20+ years and is trapped for many reasons. Scared to divorce because of uncertainty.

These are all the reasons why I’m leaving him…. I can’t take it anymore 😢 i want to be happy

@darkallyrecordings4931

2 ай бұрын

I wish it were that simple for me.

@katjay3125

2 ай бұрын

You will be in bliss

@theNileRiver316

Ай бұрын

❤sorry hunny , me too

@PatriciaLeiserson-ut5ug

Ай бұрын

Iam in the same broken blues 😢 everything he is saying all these things that I have indeererd I I have no emotion left o feel so dist oppon and unloved😢😢😂

@darkallyrecordings4931

Ай бұрын

@@PatriciaLeiserson-ut5ug I think we all are.....many people I know are going through this.......energy change. If anyone needs someone to talk to....Im usually always around. No since in going through this alone.

I wish this video was available in 1997 a month before I got married. It would have saved me a lot of pain.

@rickrick3169

Жыл бұрын

Why because even if it was available you wouldn't listen anyway, you know how you are, you are always one to learn things the hard way , so even if this video was available and you heard it seven times you still would not have listened ,

@aimeedequoy2786

5 ай бұрын

@@rickrick3169narc

@blackeneddove

19 күн бұрын

Are you still married? I’m in a similar situation where I wish someone could have gotten through to me before I got married.

I was in a relationship like this for 11 years, he was a narcissist, and every one of these facts was him. I am now in a very loving relationship, and the difference is amazing, and he is amazing.

@lukebarrett2317

Жыл бұрын

found there are prayers for fixing divorce and brokenness marriages. Although me and my wife are now back together and our love is even stronger but I was a total mess when she first dumped me.

@wardenandriuk9448

Ай бұрын

I dated a woman for 10 years she was so controlling, manipulative, and downright mean. Found out she was cheating with her ex. She would say she was grocery shopping but I always knew better. Now I'm single and happy. I dont think I'll ever be in a relationship again.

@vittorioluchi2134

7 күн бұрын

Most women are narcissists...precisely why marriage is a low reward for men. Women think they are only gender who are victims and fail to recognize that the majority of women are narcissists.

I experienced most of this in my last relationship with was for 4.5 years. It hurts a lot. The words never matched the actions. It feels awful to finally open your eyes and realize how manipulated you were. 💔

@diloromkubayeva6561

Жыл бұрын

Well it is as though you're talking about me ... I wonder maybe he felt the same like you do now 'manipulated' .. But l liked him (maybe not every day , but I did . And my feeling switches off and on which I don't understand myself ) If I ever said or do something it was not for manipulation . Whatever , it came naturally .

I'm 61, reasonably thoughtful and intelligent, just got over a three year relationship that went the other direction. This is a great video and you nailed it and hit many things right on the head, just confirming what I already knew and what I'm learning right now. Thank you for this this is a good one.

@ladyb5888

2 ай бұрын

I hope you come through this. I fully understand. I am here if you need to talk. I really do understand. It's heart breaking.😢

@216trixie

2 ай бұрын

@@rickrick3169 did not see your comment from a year ago, but I'll answer it now. My IQ is tested twice at 136. I'm aware of the dunning Kruger effect. I'm probably underestimating myself.

@216trixie

2 ай бұрын

@@ladyb5888 Hi, thanks for your nice comment. I'm doing great. I did learn a lot from that experience.

If they request anytime apart, practice patience or are the last to contact you. They don’t care about you that much, let them walk and take back control.

I guess I’m the one that doesn’t love anymore, but after 14 yrs of his narcissistic abuse, it’s about time. Yay🎉 for me. I hope this for us all!😊

@AbstractM0use

Ай бұрын

I know how you feel. I was with a narcissist for 13 years. It's the only breakup I ever had where I was joyous and optimistic right after. My only regret is wasting all of those years with her, but I choose to look at it as a learning experience. If I can help it, I'll _never_ put myself through that again. I know all of the signs now. 🙂

@vittorioluchi2134

7 күн бұрын

Plenty of women are equally or more narcissistic.

It's interesting to see that there are people who would disagree with the video. Being in a relationship like this is confusing, exhausting and affects your mental health. You can end up a shell of the person you were. Is it worth it? I was in a relationship like this (with 8 out of the 10 points) for almost 8 years. It only ended when he died. He prioritised all his social commitments before me, but I was the one who helped him through his last days. Not his golf buddies, not the whole rest of the community that he would always drop everything to be there for. He was a good guy, a decent man and universally liked within the community. I love him but I was miserable with him, and even though I miss him, my mental health has improved a lot since his passing.

@joesephknoettgen3551

2 ай бұрын

These words of Yours are to the core of ones ability to be in love with their SO. I wish all,,,the best of luck ,finding and living with the person that helps them grow,,in their heart ❤

@aruvielevenstar3944

2 ай бұрын

Sounds like mine, but he is still alive and change golf buddies for his work and we can shake hands. 😢

@user-wx8hi6ih4o

Ай бұрын

Dude I feel like I’m not me anymore I step out and I can’t get the confidence I once had anymore and I’m an attractive dude and I know it and I haven’t yet been able to get my confidence back I put walls up man bad and I hate that about me bc I want to tell them how I feel but my ex really fukd me up

Narcissist.... get out!! Run!!!!

@GG4LuhZiContent

24 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂

Not everyone is going to have an relationship because of love. I was married for ten years. It felt more like an business model than a lovely relationship. Sadly it took me years to realize how unhappy and lonely i felt. We were to different in many ways that we never had a chance to be happy together. After the wish to divorce, my partner tried everything to make my life more difficult. Of course my ex-partner did this because of fear and emotional distress. Despite of many years of suffer, i learned a lot what is important to me. That me need of happiness is important. This is something i own my ex partner. That i was able to leave from it. I am in a relationship again, for two years now. Holding hands every time we leave the house. Cuddle several times every day were together. We just love each other like we love ourselves.

This video is absolutely the BEST and just spelling out the truth of relationships! I spent almost 2 decades in a "bad relationship". The man I'm with now is a God sent! I wake up a princess every morning. I want nothing but for him to have the best and happiest life possible. We're best friends, partners, and cheer leaders for each other. I just wish I was able to be with him longer...

@irenemorrissey5969

17 күн бұрын

Where did u find him, Angela?

I hope one day they meet someone who loves you as much as you do, cares about you, and is willing to fight for the relationship.

10/10. It's over. I wonder if she knows it too. We both pretend we still care. I do half of this list, she does the other half.

I usually always in a relationship where I’m the one who loves more than them.

Red flags. Do not ignore.

This actually made me realize how much my partner loves me... It also makes me realize how I do not require all points due to my mental health, tho I truly love him. I hope he'll never doubt my love for him

You don't need signs, you just know when you've checked out.

Good Morning, B.D.!!! Immaculate and very articulate list as always. So many of us learn what "love" is through so many different sources... Family/upbringing, media, etc. It's important to be in touch with yourself - if something doesn't feel right, you should feel safe and confident enough to talk to your partner about it, and your partner should have concern that it bothers you. Really, a lot of the time we have differences that won't be changed... But making compromises and listening to one another is truly a gift. 💖💖💖

In my view, the best way to avoid all, or most of these factors is to prolong getting married, or in a serious relationship until you have reached a comfortable emotional and psychological level of maturity, and even then bear in mind that nothing is permanent but change; therefore, be prepared to adjust and adapt to whatever the circumstances present.

My husband once said that once he won me over he didnt think he had to try as hard anymore. That csme from a boys mindset. Once he grew up, he was worth hanging on to. Been married 31 years now.

Love is NOT a feeling but rather a BEHAVIOR. It's how you treat the other person. It's wanting for them that which makes them happy. It's agreeing to do that which the like.

Thanks so much for sharing this. The information couldn’t be more timely. Definitely enough to think about ❤

This video has very important points. If your tap dancing, hyper vigilant and constantly guessing what to do to keep your partner, get out and get help.

8 years yesterday. And I feel like my partner no longer loves me, or wants me. And that Mt wants and Mt needs don't matter. I give 100% daily and do whatever I can to try and show them I love them, and want them. Because it hurts when your wifh someone so long. And no longer feel loved or wanted. I still love her, and I wanna keep my family. But idk what to do. I've tried talking to her. And it just seems like it doesn't matter. And it's not like I can go elsewhere to get needs or feelings met. So I'm at a complete and total loss. Should I just bottle it all up, until I just can't take it anymore? I don't feel that's the right thing to do. But I also can't stand the thought of coming home to an empty home everyday, where there was once my happy little family. Please send light and love my way if you could. And I'd like to send light and love to all!!

@show_me_your_kitties

2 ай бұрын

Doesn't sound like your family is happy. Give yourself a chance for happiness.

@NanaAmaD.

2 ай бұрын

I wish my partner wants me this much

@lol-xr9zw

2 ай бұрын

Universe is by your side ❤ don’t worry you won’t ever get lonely since universe is with you , create the world you need and work on it , talk it out and if they still don’t understand leave … sending strength love and support by my side , I’m with you mate ❤

Perfect. It helps me get back on track with what I am looking for, instead of taking lack of love personally and trying to improve myself to get it. Thank you VERY MUCH! 👁

thank you for this video. it really helped clear my mind. i finally recognize where i stand in this "relationship"

On number 3 and this comes from a lifelong bachelor I have noticed but most couples forget about I love you I want you to accomplish your dreams and I will support you while you reach for them not use it as a excuse to argue and fight

I wish I had seen this 7 years ago. It would have saved me from so much pain. It’s sad that 6 year relationship ended because he no longer had time for me but I want to be happy. Even if it’s by myself.

@jenneyjen-vo2mq

18 күн бұрын

Really?

This was so helpful because I in relationships right we're as close as we used to be since Covid19 Thank you so much 😊

Excellent information and advice. Thank you!

They could also be broken hearted, disillusioned, depressed...immature or have CPTSD, come from a dysfunctional family.

😢the man I thought I would grow old with, hit all 10, all 10, every single one😢

It's 2024, and this hasn't been explained, taught until recently. Most parents didn't teach this to their children because the parents didn't understand it, nor did their parents, etc. It seems to me that a LOT of people will benefit from these explicit guidelines, in all kinds of relationships! But I do wonder why no one has figured out or taught this before. Why has it taken us so long to figure out these basics that can be itemized on a on checklist?

I'm guilty of all this by mirroring him, that is how i knew it was time to go. I walked his shoes and felt the lack of love and realized i was wearing rose colored glasses for too long.

Either you stay or break up with a covert narcissist, it's difficult, almost impossible to regain your happiness or at least your serenity. He kept hidden our relationship from everyone for five years telling me that what we have between four walls is enough. Finally, he chose a rich old woman from abroad although I have just given birth to his son. He can't love anyone but himself. Open your eyes! I didn't. Time waits for no one.

Thank you for sharing your videos

Should be mentioned that all these signs and feelings can come and go in a long term relationship, real love can be tested but really hard to break...you could even break before it does.. LoL ❤️

Thanks for your presentation. Agree with most of it. When it comes to close relatives ir friends, not so black and white. Relatives and friends can be tricky to navigate because they often gave motives for not wanting to let you go , jealousy, dependency, priorities. So they can be rude or unwelcoming or picky and hard to please or " over protective". And if you find yourself on the receiving end of very unfavourable comparisons to his other women, LEAVE! He'll have feelings for you - but they'll be cruelty, contempt and deep dislike. As I experienced in a connection last year. Can't call it a real relationship.

Eye opening list! I'm quite inclined to agree with it too! Still gonna stay single for a good while! In any case, great video! I especially love your words near the end of this! Thanks!🌹💜🌍

@lukebarrett2317

Жыл бұрын

found there are prayers for fixing divorce and brokenness marriages. Although me and my wife are now back together and our love is even stronger but I was a total mess when she first dumped me.

I found the courage and strength to move forward with a divorce. This is very helpful to me. Thank your sir for the information.

I think this is your best (and most important) video yet. This explains so well many of the things in my past relationship that really urked me..... and now i know why. This will definitely help open my eyes in a future relationship. Thanks Brainy Dose!!!! I've saved this video in a youtube list :)

@lukebarrett2317

Жыл бұрын

found there are prayers for fixing divorce and brokenness marriages. Although me and my wife are now back together and our love is even stronger but I was a total mess when she first dumped me.

@markwilliams4489

Жыл бұрын

@@lukebarrett2317 you're a lucky man! :)

@lukebarrett2317

Жыл бұрын

@@markwilliams4489 No, I was lucky to have got the prayer when I did 😇

Thank you for sharing

THEIR ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN THEIR WORDS - is the summary of the 12 signs if your person don't love you .

Thank you so much for posting this video it was definitely what I needed to hear. I was just sitting here watching a lifetime movie and for some strange reason I clicked on your video and it brought light to my eyes 😊 Thank you so much and GOD BLESS YOU 🙏🙏 HAVE A WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL BLESSED NIGHT

OMG! After 22 years of marriage. I am very fortunate, I can't relate to any of this video. My husband truly loves me and I truly love him! Thanks for sharing this. As a couple we are truly blessed. We are very happy and very contented in our marriage! ❤❤❤❤

It’s so hard to find someone that cares sooooo hard,,,,

Thank you ! 😢 LET ME PREPARE TO GO MY SEPERATE WAY

It’s good to know all this signs from a professionals so thank you .

the one that cares the LEAST is always in control !!!

i wish i found this video 4 years ago. thank you. everything hits way to close to home.

Some people are just no good, if someone tells you. Then you need to find out

Thanks !

Very helpful

She checks all the boxes……. But then again what she doesn’t realize I checked them long ago

Yup happens to my family, friends and my daughters future ex. A lot of them got no feelings one another.

No. 10 hit hard 💯

Another sign is that they go i don't love you , i see you as a friend

With great power comes great responsibility Brainydose!

They won’t let me walk away ..

You left out them wanting to take vacation without you, but want you to pay for it.

Well said ❗✔️

Number 11 love yourself and move on

Thanks man very much man

I'm in a relationship like this, unfortunately there's a baby involved

@mzansifamilyvalues8040

2 ай бұрын

So what you going to do?

Tellement vrai ! Exactement tout ce que j'ai vécu avec D. pendant 18 ans.... jusqu'à ce qu'il me quitte pour une autre femme quelque temps avant notre retraite du travail. J'y rêvais depuis longtemps. J'avais tout plein de projets pour une vie moins stressante avec lui ! J'étais TRÈS AMOUREUSE et aveugle...

Great video

Yup, this happened in my 17 year marriage. Had children but i was always struggling to hold the family together. He just wanted to drink and hang out with his friends. I wasted so much time and damged our kids in the process staying.

Thank you so much 🫂

Pretty sure I know. But let's do this.

Thanks ❤

Wow, so many of these points hit home. Was living with a woman who meant the world to me. After I found out I wasn’t the only guy in her life (business trips) it gutted me but as hard as it was asked her to leave. Been a long uphill road ever since. I regret promising myself i would never let another woman hurt me like that again and have held true to that.

@KH-hs5xv

Ай бұрын

😔I'm sorry that you had to go through that...but even though it may not seem like it right now ...but guess what? Her loss....Don't change yourself or make the next person suffer because yes that is very tempting but it's not right....just look at it like this, now you know what to look out for and what you want and do not want....make a list of things that will be deal breakers up front so that you can refer to it when you move on. Give yourself plenty of time to heal,be kind to yourself,maybe take a trip or hang out with some friends. Treat yourself to something that you have been wanting. If you don't have any pets also get one,animals are so therapeutic. They are always happy to see us ☺️ they love to cuddle unless it's a reptile😅just kidding but first and foremost ask God to heal your heart ❤️ sorry about the long text but I hope that this helps and just know that you are Loved ❤

Good video to make. When you're in the throws of a relationship, want and need so much for them to love you, it can be hard to see what's really going on. Good to have these bullet points laid out.

Exactly what I need to hear right now! Thank you for making my mind cleared, now I know! I distance now my self with toxic people!!

@rickrick3169

Жыл бұрын

It's hard to distance yourself from you just work on change, changing you and you most likely will have a better outcome

I have noticed all of the traits (despite the disrespecting the family part) in me when I got pregnant. We’ve been together for only a year and a half but the moment I had those feelings I broke up with him. I’m glad I realized that I just don’t love him at all. He doesn’t understand yet that I have saved him a lot of time.

Feelings suck. I've lost women I love because I was hot and cold and I didn't know why.

That is the whole reason why I'm saying I don't have a partner communicating engaging it only seemed like it was only in a professional way. No need to have anything to do with each other in that way

It's time for me to be completely alone. No one will have the chance to know me again. I have been tested like I don't exist.

Never found real love. 💔 😊 Alone is ok. Being alone is a choice. Enough BS. Sorry, but my experience. Getting married young was stupid.❤ Self-love.

When I wanted to split with my ex early on, but his mother insisted we stay together. And I felt bad his ex broken up with him too. I wish i would’ve listened to my gut straight away.

Yeah, she couldn't keep up with date night for more than a month.

With the first one I question on the first one the hot and cold thing if your partner is an introvert they need time to theirselves so don't mistake that as hot and cold

How about cool and colder

I guess I must be lucky. I spent 43 years married to my best friend. Non of the above applied. The reason it stopped at 43 was I lost her to cancer. I would have gladly traded places with her. I would do another 43 with her.

@krishnagondhea7428

Ай бұрын

Lucky you. Many of us ended up in horror show marriages. 90% bad most of the time. Littered in abuse and incompatibility.

I haven't found love yet I'm 22 I hope it happens soon I want a good relationship😃😃😃😃

@pemj7360

Ай бұрын

Think slow Act slow Take a breath.

I have felt this way for a long time, but I can't leave as I know my wife will crumble and the drama will be overwhelming. It's easier to just stay and continue to live with each other like roommates as we have done for several years. I don't understand how she doesn't see that our marriage is a shadow of what it once was.

@FabiaburlesqueCerra

Ай бұрын

Your trapped 🚩

I’m actually experiencing every single thing this video is talking about

My partner only want me on paydays.

Spot on

It’s a No Brainer🥵🫤Actions speak louder than words………… He will never make one excuse up to why he couldn’t meet you! Love never stops him from hitching a ride to walking to come see you and spend time with you! I thank god I learned that from a stranger. Never understood but as I got older I got wiser! When two people love each they respect each other, they are honest, they are committed! Love will make you act like a kid again. So stay with the one who has never stop being there and always honest! If he is embarrassed for whatever he can come up with! If wait for him tha😅what u will always be doing waiting! Life is short he might never have been the one if he never did one of these

I was in a relationship with somebody for 6 and 1/2 years before I really woke up and figured out that the only reason she wanted me around us cuz I paid for everything and every one of these signs that you have mentioned in this video were present I was a man of Hope back then and I kept hoping that she was going to change but she never did I'm still a man I hope but I am also a man of facts and seeing what is really going on around me if anything that is what I learned from that relationship

Bravo if in doubt get out some people just like to try and control you

Wow …. I relate with every single one of these.