My mother always had the perfect response to invasive questions: "Why do you ask?"

@diariesofagrowingcaramelqu6665

4 жыл бұрын

You knoowww, that would make the person asking so uncomfortable

@apteryx7080

4 жыл бұрын

I've used that myself. It's the best comeback :-)

@Veroniqueme

4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!!

@bboggs1277

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the reminder. Such a great comeback!

@apapapapapap

4 жыл бұрын

Natalie Anima agree, ruin the relationship.

This is not just for affluent ladies this are BASIC manners

@sojansetly6810

4 жыл бұрын

Yep.

@wantheng2734

4 жыл бұрын

Emily e

@chadewalleta7361

4 жыл бұрын

exactly , it's just commun sense , intimate questions belong to people with whom you have real intimacy with

@aren7138

4 жыл бұрын

amen. I love how my entitled family members act like it's okay to act like they have authority over my singlehood

@abigail8063

4 жыл бұрын

who said this is just for affluent ladies?

“How can you afford this?” Asked by a man next to me. I was on a first class flight, and dressed/presented nicely. In reality, my boyfriend had purchased the flight, but I just replied coldly, “I have a job.”

@rasantos4538

3 жыл бұрын

What? If I ever replied to a question like that, that’d be: that’s none of your business.

@LetThereBeRaineTV

3 жыл бұрын

I can’t believe he asked you that. Very rude!

@sampuatisamuel9785

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you

@yaapeasah4443

3 жыл бұрын

I almost threw my phone

@angelaferrante7234

3 жыл бұрын

Why? Is he only entitled to fly class? Whats wrong with these people?

do a “how to respond” to these questions video please.

@shaniquegrant5758

4 жыл бұрын

Yyyass

@mennaemam1819

4 жыл бұрын

Just go like "Why do u ask"

@beaulahbhakre4504

4 жыл бұрын

Yes please!!!!!! I have been asked this questions “when are you getting married” and it’s so bugging!

@mariel6959

4 жыл бұрын

I've heard #6 so many times and I never know how to answer to that

@deannadavid6482

4 жыл бұрын

ExCuSe Me?!!?

"have you lost weight?" Is also a little intrusive. We never know what people are going through.

@bogantellectual

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. I have the opposite problem, but I know some people who really struggle to the point of taking steroid medication to gain weight. Or they lost weight from illness or stress so it's not really something to celebrate.

@Dfgjgjod

4 жыл бұрын

Tessa Meyers I stated this on her post, it is extremely offensive of a question to me when people ask me that, I suffer from social anxiety already enough and then that person is apparently “celebrating” my looks now that I have “pleased” society and in reality that makes my social anxiety worse. Not to mention I’ve suffered from eating disorders and a severe health issue. It just makes you feel “not good enough”.

@SueHawkins6816

4 жыл бұрын

Really!! Are you telling me that I usually look like a tank? Please leave weight out of any commentary. I only say, "You look great!" or "You must be living right!"

@asceticfeminine

4 жыл бұрын

@@bogantellectual definitely! There are a lot of people with eating disorders, and this kind of a question can be really destabilizing .

@asceticfeminine

4 жыл бұрын

@@SueHawkins6816 YES that is where my mind immediately goes. Was I a rhino before, or do I look like a skeleton now?

What about the question "What do your parents do?" I always felt like that question was a covert way of asking about someone's social status. I never liked that question. Why are you asking? Is it going to determine how you treat me? What do you think?

@leonaj.5835

4 жыл бұрын

Answer their question lightheartedly & honestly. The problem is with how you feel & your perception to their question. It's not the answer that they judge you with, but how you answer it reveals the real you & how you peceive them. If it's no big deal to you that your parents are of low social status, then it's not going to be a big deal to them too. But if that question affects you & you think that "determines how they treat you", then it's as if YOU already judged them as snobbish you are ashamed of your parents & your social class. The thing about rich people (most of them) don't like liars.

@leila_de_hautjardin

4 жыл бұрын

The worst is that teacher ask that to kids on the first day of the school year. It has been proven that they are, consciously or not, influenced by the social status of the parents. Why bother helping this kids from the lower class ? He won’t go very far anyway...

@MillyMayy

4 жыл бұрын

This question makes me so uncomfortable! Especially as my mum was a 'homemaker' for a long while, which would often lead to a lot of unnecessary and judgmental comments.

@Hellokittyy555

4 жыл бұрын

By already making this judgement you’re already polarizing yourself between high and low social status. There has been many great and interesting success stories from humble beginnings. Take it as a compliment instead, that someone wants to get to know you better. We should be proud of our background/parents despite status.

@Rumena101

4 жыл бұрын

llamacj so trueeee xxxx

There is a rule I was once taught....do not comment on someone about something they can't fix in 10seconds

@dalilamahmutovic3949

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss!!✨✨✨

@warmastergorwrath

2 жыл бұрын

That is a great advice to use when socializing with people in public.

@JohnJohnson-oe3ot

2 жыл бұрын

But anything that requires more thinking won’t get help

Also, don't point out 'You're so quiet'. Is saying 'You're so loud' respectful? Then why the opposite? Don't ask anyone why they eat so little if it is disrespectful to ask why they eat so much!

@lorelaycf5048

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I got all the time...."You eat lile a litle cute kitten"...

@larissalinhares1978

3 жыл бұрын

wow, these are exactly the problematic questions for me. I'm naturally quiet and don't eat much, people are always pointing that out and making me very uncomfortable, it's borderline bullying sometimes... even made me want to leave a environment I really love. Glad that the people who used to do it a lot are no longer there, it's funny that I talk a lot more now without the pressure.

@cristinacamelia984

3 жыл бұрын

Respect nowadays is so underrated... 😅

@ccverdera6298

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve gotten the “you’re so quiet” one before as well. How would you respond to it? I am not sure how to respond it’s an awkward question :/

@indranisingh3503

2 жыл бұрын

@@ccverdera6298 Honestly, I just laugh it off but I suppose saying something like "I just don't prefer to talk a lot" along with a little laugh should do the trick.

Nobody actually asks these questions with good intention...

@MsRickylynn

4 жыл бұрын

Bon Boni could you imagine “ you look fat, here sign up for my weight loss program!” Hahahahahaha 😂

@mrsiz218

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! They’re being mean.

@petersmith2040

4 жыл бұрын

Married people with children asking people they just met the question "So, are you married? Do you have any children?" are very rude because the the other person could be single, in a partnership, separated, divorced, or widowed. And if married, whether they have children or not is their own business. Guess what? If they have children, the next questions will be "How many? How old are they? Are they boys or girls?" And if the children are in their late teens/early 20s, the next questions will be "Which university are they attending?" "What's their majors?" This just shows that most people are so predictable, ignorant, and boring that they don't have any idea what other topics to talk about after talking about the weather. Asking another person's marital status or children is an extremely private matter and should be avoided entirely specially nowadays that the divorce rate is so high.

@sisterson_screen

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Boni

@MsRosieA

4 жыл бұрын

@@petersmith2040 I do agree with you, but I must say, I feel that people who ask those kind of questions are trying to pigeon-hole you, trying to find out what your "Social Rank" is so that they can work out whether you are to be feared, revered or disregarded. They are desperate to see if they are "Better" than you.

I often answer with the whispered question: "well, can you keep a secret?" Usually people then get very excited and answer: "Of course! Sure!!!" Then I will answer with a wink: "So can I!" and I am out... 😊

@JudgeJeana

4 жыл бұрын

@Flora MHK You will love the face the other person makes! 😉🤭

@negrilgyrl

4 жыл бұрын

Good one!!!

@khalidatami517

4 жыл бұрын

You made my day 😘 😂😂😂

@JudgeJeana

4 жыл бұрын

@@khalidatami517 That made my day! 🙏😊😊😊

@JI-cs1vk

4 жыл бұрын

That’s the dialog from movie “Maid in Manhattan”. But it’s actually useful though

You'd be surprised how much of the general population lack in basic manners.

@enigmatiika

4 жыл бұрын

Lux Meow Soooo many people

@AlicjaJJ111

4 жыл бұрын

I would not be. Most of it.

@lifehelpexpress9504

3 жыл бұрын

It is so true. I get asked "Why am I still single?" all the time.

@davidwhitestine

3 жыл бұрын

Try working in the restaurant 🙄, and you won't believe how uneducated the society really is.

@amadib.6405

3 жыл бұрын

Frrrr

Also “are you sick” like hate that I’ve seen so many girls who decide for whatever reason not to wear makeup that day and everyone asks them if they’re sick like uhhh no

@sarahd1706

4 жыл бұрын

Also saying you look tired...

@klee7973

4 жыл бұрын

Sarah D so true unless your saying that while surprising me with my fav coffee order 😉

@quiannatorres7820

4 жыл бұрын

True

@ms.anonymousinformer242

4 жыл бұрын

That used to happen to me !! Like cant people see its just a no make up - face? I find that question very rude .

@deannaishmael4749

4 жыл бұрын

Kitty my mom asks me this lol . Like what are trying to say mom ??

It’s also rude to say “you don’t eat much” or have something to eat or you will disappear! What if the person is having a medical problem etc. It’s very rude

@quiannatorres7820

4 жыл бұрын

Elle I get that a lot and I think is so disrespectful! I’m 28 years old, 106 and 5.7 so I’m not happy when they asked that cause I keep myself eating healthy as I can . I’m just skinny .

@whitneyrideout4553

4 жыл бұрын

Yes i had all those rude comments made to me and yes i have medical issues. It makes me feel horrible about myself and also makes me think less of the person making the comments

@jay.jay.

4 жыл бұрын

That's true! I was having very severe swallowing problems and people kept asking me why do I eat that little or why I lost weight. On the other side, I was fighting to survive (from not being able to swallow the food )

To the age question I always reply "I'm 72" (when I'm actually 34) and add that I have very good genes. Some people realize that they've just asked a dumb question after that. Some look annoyed.

@user-sh9xf4ht7p

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry but that is a childish actitude. I can't get why is so wrong to ask how old are you to a person. Is just basic information

@lyudazadneprovskaya1445

3 жыл бұрын

I have done this so many times! Always works!

@sampuatisamuel9785

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@m.r.9827

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@sammarie8923

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-sh9xf4ht7p some people are offended by it, some people assume you might ask that because they look poorly aged! Not simply and innocently just inquiring.

I get asked if I'm pregnant ALL. THE. TIME. I've lost nearly 50 pounds this year, and constantly getting that questions makes me feel awful about my progress.

@bellemorte1646

4 жыл бұрын

It's none of their business honestly and you shouldn't feel awful. 50 pounds is a MASSIVE accomplishment they're tactless. Forget them. You're beautiful and congratulations.

@snippetsofvictoria

4 жыл бұрын

@@bellemorte1646Thank you very much. That's very nice of you to say.

@WarriorOfStateOfMind

4 жыл бұрын

I feel so sorry for you, you don't deserve that! Be proud of what you already achieved- many struggle with 5lbs already, many never even get started- 50lbs is such an achievement!

@lorenrenee1

4 жыл бұрын

It’s a great achievement but whenever I lose weight I find it brings out nastiness in others. I give them the benefit of the doubt that they’re not trying to be mean, but they’re certainly not looking out for me either.

@aoutsky

4 жыл бұрын

People are rude as hell!

I get asked all the time by men “why an attractive lady like myself is still single” I find it very uncomfortable and brusque.

@infjgirltalks9224

4 жыл бұрын

It is like they want to say there must be some problem with you.

@Empz-wm9rc

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly! It’s like it’s not possible to be single by choice. 🙄 Such a silly question.

@kimdkus

3 жыл бұрын

You and me both!!

@devildollx

3 жыл бұрын

I HATE this question yet get asked it ALL the time. I never know wtf I'm supposed to say...

@alicehuijbregts

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a privilege to be a woman and single; but no one’s ready for that conversation and insight

With the pregnancy question, there's also the risk they may have recently miscarried and are still carrying some weight up front-uncomfortable if not full on painful. Just DON'T.

@jumafaro

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. I had some friends who went through that very situation. They said it was a major triger to them.

@SuperCynthia333

4 жыл бұрын

Laurin Fairchild THIS. My teacher in sixth form had a pregnant wife and in class he said he needed to end the lesson because his wife had been rushed to hospital. I loudly blurted out omg is your wife pregnant (because I was shocked, there was NO ill intent) however he said he thinks so and rushed off. After he never came in for a while and I was informed that his wife miscarried. I felt so bad. I knew that it I didn’t mean any harm by asking but I do wish I had at least kept it to myself or at the very least asked him in private. But you live and learn 🤷🏾‍♀️

@meynelaacemora6798

4 жыл бұрын

OMG ahhh noooo t.t. that did not crosed my mind! So awful.

@AmaryllisTV

4 жыл бұрын

So true and people asking those silly questions never consider that.

@yvettedean92

4 жыл бұрын

Laurin Fairchild true that, I had two ectopic pregnancies back to back and I gained and lost weight due to the complications and chemotherapy, and people kept saying “oh my god you lost weight.” So unfair because it’s so hurtful that I lost by baby and it triggers negative thoughts about my loss.

While going through infertility treatments for several years I had to put up with people asking me when I was going to have kids. It was terribly hurtful and I never knew what to say because it wasn’t any of their business. Thanks for bringing this up!

@carlagreco494

4 жыл бұрын

I’m going through the same thing. I just answer politely but it hurts. Best wishes

@ShannBrianna

3 жыл бұрын

Same. Two miscarriages later

@kallias.3503

3 жыл бұрын

@@ShannBrianna so sorry to hear that...people must learn manners ASAP...hope the best for u ladies💓💓💓💓

@lexharleyy

2 жыл бұрын

My mom had two miscarriages between my younger brothers and so many people ask why they have such a big age gap between them, but they never realize how much it hurts my mother to have to answer and talk about it. 😔

as a young girl who lives in a rundown trailer and is lucky to get thrift shop clothes.....you Miss Anna give me more confidence than my own family....

@clairewillow6475

3 жыл бұрын

Keep it up hun! You can be the one to change the family tree ✌️

@hannahwoods1350

3 жыл бұрын

@@clairewillow6475 thank you sooo much!!! that means a lot to me!!

@sarahz2827

3 жыл бұрын

You never know the good that can happen to you! :)

@hannahwoods1350

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahz2827 you know what, within the past 7 months, ive been open to a lot more things, learned things and experienced sooo much more than i could have ever imagined, this comment just absolutley made my day!!!

@Zanati_Thaziri

3 жыл бұрын

Stay strong girl 💓i love you even if i don't know you

Anna, Unless I see the baby’s head crowning, I never ask if a woman is pregnant! 😂😬😅

@mtotheily

4 жыл бұрын

So many women just simply get tired of talking about their pregnancy and things baby related. They begin to feel just like an incubator instead of a person after awhile. Some women love the attention, but those are the ones that will bring up their pregnancy/baby on their own.

@rositaramos9896

3 жыл бұрын

LOL 😂

One night at a friend’s party, I walked into this girl who’s a friend but not a close one. A few months earlier, she was celebrating the fact that she’s pregnant after going through several rounds of IVF and everyone was very happy for her. So at this party, I said, “Wow, you’re not showing at all!” In my mind, it was an offhand comment and I thought that perhaps she was careful about her weight gain. And she said ,”Oh, I lost the baby.” 😱😱😱 I apologized profusely. Luckily she didn’t seem to take offense but my gosh, I want the ground to swallow me! I still sweat when thinking about my thoughtless remark and have never commented on anyone’s pregnancy since.

@mylaskiesskies6129

Жыл бұрын

mmm sorry was a good lesson learned

Q-Why are you still single??? Ans- Because I am over qualified 🙄.

@SSNUTHIN

4 жыл бұрын

I give the same answer for "don't you want kids?"

@donne32701

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@aphroditeg2712

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@Anna-fw7lm

4 жыл бұрын

You can respond : I cannot show all my boyfriends and girlfriends at ones!

@farzanatuli3905

4 жыл бұрын

@@Anna-fw7lm I don't know what's wrong with them???they are struggling with there married life and force me to get married.I mean seriously 🙄.

I had this friend that called me just to ask me "Is it true you got fat?" ....The most awkward thing was that I haven't talked to her for years.

@heidicheckettswest1091

3 жыл бұрын

That is terrible.

@aneekaak

3 жыл бұрын

That is not a friend at all

I was wearing chanel earrings and a girl I’m working with asked if they were real. When I said yes, she googled the price of the earrings next to me... The most awkward moment in my life 😟

@27.mdareeb16

2 жыл бұрын

Girl that’s so awkward

@heartbysi

2 жыл бұрын

Gosh, that's so rude!

“How much money do you make?”, sounds rude and really intrusive and should be nobody’s business.

@aaziababy1912

4 жыл бұрын

Angela Challita Dear, trust me , in some cultures is a common thing, to check about your cast and this things 🤷🏻‍♀️

@NanHoumSian

4 жыл бұрын

@@aaziababy1912 You're right. My relatives are likely to be the ones who will ask once I get a job

@womang3821

4 жыл бұрын

Sian Sian and those cultures are backwards or lacking in basic manners , sorry

@gangurogeisha

3 жыл бұрын

@@womang3821 I agree with you. Just because something's a cultural thing, doesn't make it OK.

@strau5453

3 жыл бұрын

One classy answer you can say is “Enough” and smile. They’ll probably get the hint that you don’t want to elaborate!

I abhor the question: “What do you do for a living?” In the US, I think the majority of people are confused into thinking that profession and identity are synonymous.

@deeb8733

4 жыл бұрын

Easier on the pallat when you are proud of what you do.

@arnelabih1845

4 жыл бұрын

Nedega Dolma yesssss...I hate when they ask this one. Annoying.

@MakeItSo_ST

4 жыл бұрын

julijakeit You’re exactly right! I don’t want to be hounded for money, so I prefer that no one knows my net worth.

@talksolot

4 жыл бұрын

@@deeb8733 pallat?

@barriecuda3816

4 жыл бұрын

As a child in the US your taught that asking what someone does for a living is an ice breaker question. Consider the intent when being asked this question. Usually, the person getting to know you is trying to give you the opportunity to speak freely about yourself. They are trying to show you a kindness. It's perfectly okay to respond I'd rather not discuss and change the topic to something you want to speak on. That is what the person asking the question is after in the first place. The intent is to get to know you better and they misguidedly went with something they considered a safe question. Intent is everything when it comes to questions.

I don’t ask any of those questions but I’ve also never thought negatively about the people who ask them either. I think they just try to start a conversation but they’re not very good at it.

@LyrasRaven

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! That's definitely been me. I hope people can understand and give us stupid question-askers the benefit of the doubt 😅

@beaulahbhakre4504

4 жыл бұрын

It’s so obvious that it is or it isn’t a sensitive topic or question.

@mattydudak5250

4 жыл бұрын

Ur right

@miavnavarro

3 жыл бұрын

Do you have any conversation starter topics that don’t cross any of these lines? Cause I have definitely used most of these questions to start a conversation before and now I realize how rude I was!

@arielsbeloved

3 жыл бұрын

@@miavnavarro if it’s someone you care about and you follow their social media or you know what they are up to, I guess it’s best to ask caring questions like how’s your new house? How’s your puppy? How’s your little ones? Etc. If it’s a complete stranger I don’t know. I’d go quiet. 😂

Another one is "are you gay or straight?" "You're not gay, are you?" or "Are you one of those feminists?" All loaded questions.

@dorinadragan20

4 жыл бұрын

@Pengoto K I am not sure what your end goal is with that question. When I go on dates, I enjoy paying for both. There were a couple of men who felt I was trying to emasculate them. Perhaps it's a "damn if you do, damn if you don't" situation. I encourage you to discuss political views with someone you date and really like, if it's a subject of interest for you, and if your date shares that interest. However, you seem to ask belligerently, wanting to cause trouble on a occasion that should be relaxed and fun, as a date is. That makes it rude. If it boils down to money, it makes it even worse. If it triggers you so badly, you may want to find a way to discuss that BEFORE the date. Otherwise, you're just setting the date up for failure...

@nihilisticbarbie

3 жыл бұрын

@Pengoto K Oh, my. I don't think you're in the right place. I believe you'd be much more welcomed on videos or certain websites that cater to angry men that hold vague, baseless grudges against a vast majority of people.

@sampuatisamuel9785

3 жыл бұрын

Weird questions

@m.c.2899

3 жыл бұрын

I was asked this question in a medical clinic. They also wanted to know whether I'm a woman or?

@Em_Elizabeth

2 жыл бұрын

Especially of they're assuming you're gay when you're just not interested in dating at the moment.

"Why you don't want to have children????" I HATE this question! And always this discussion after. 🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦

@LifeofMinna

4 жыл бұрын

Just tell them - long story

@daphnepearce9411

4 жыл бұрын

I've been asked this obnoxious question more times than I care to remember. Not that it's anyone's damn business but I decided not to have children because quite frankly I've never felt an overwhelming maternal urge to have a baby. This not a reflection on my parents, they were the absolute best! And no I don't hate kids, I'm the cool aunt to my 3 nephews and 4 nieces, whom I adore.

@narcismebelgie

4 жыл бұрын

Zwischen Burka und Bikini And when you say then, that it was a conscious choice not to have children. (Like my case) They start shaming you and trying to make you feel guilty. I think people are really jealous of my freedom. 😆

@daphnepearce9411

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah. I've had former co workers tell me thst uf they could do it again that they wouldn't have had kids. I think that's sad....

@narcismebelgie

4 жыл бұрын

@@daphnepearce9411 Many people say this. I have done the test once. I asked people between 50 and 65. 90% said they love their kids. But they would not do it again.

Thank God there is finally A Lady talking about these things !!!!

Here’s two big ones: never tell someone you think they look like some famous person even if you think it is a compliment. You don’t know if the person you’re telling thinks that person is attractive or not. When I was a teenager, people told me I looked like Belinda Carlisle. Total compliment - Belinda Carlisle was adorable and I’d be thrilled to get that compliment today. But at that time in my life, I was struggling with my weight and my self-image, and I perceived Belinda Carlisle as “the chubby one” (she wasn’t) and it didn’t feel like a compliment. The second one: do not comment on a person’s accent. Americans often find foreign accents charming and fascinating, so we think it is a harmless or even flattering question, but in many parts of the world, an accent is considered undesirable and the mark of an “outsider.” (Also related questions based on their accent or racial appearance, like “where are you from?”) Drawing attention to someone’s “otherness” has a good chance of making them feel uncomfortable at the least, if not insulted.

@AMcDub0708

3 жыл бұрын

That’s overkill in my opinion. I lived in Spain for awhile and EVERYONE commented on my appearance and my accent. Who cares. I look different and sound different and I know it and so do they. Also it sounds like a personal issue if you get upset that people say you look like someone else. Way too sensitive and you’re expecting people to walk on eggshells.

@KM-pm6qe

3 жыл бұрын

@@AMcDub0708 yes, it was a personal issue in my case, not their fault, but if I have a *choice* of whether to potentially insult someone or make them uncomfortable, when I know it’s a risk, I would rather not. If I know it’s a risk and I do it anyway, and someone feels hurt, that’s not accidental on my part. This isn’t walking on eggshells, it’s just being respectful and kind. Just because you weren’t offended doesn’t mean it’s not considered impolite anywhere in the world. Like I said, Americans generally don’t mind being asked about their otherness. That has a lot to do with American privilege - pointing out otherness usually carries a connotation of relative status. You might not feel the same if you were the “other” from a lower status, less powerful, less influential country. In the context of what we’re trying to elevate ourselves to here with Anna’s advice, we’re trying to move smoothly through society and not be a bull in a china shop, and damn other people if they’re too sensitive.

@fraupurzel

3 жыл бұрын

Someone told me once I would look exactly like Jodie Foster. I was not pleased, because I saw myself totally different.

I love when she says ladies🤗🤗

“Is that real?”......I find this question so incredibly offensive and I’ve heard it several times (in regards to jewelry/handbags/nose/breasts etc). I find that it usually comes from JEALOUS and competitive women trying to cut me down and embarrass me. I detest these kind of comments. Personally, how would you answer? I feel like a response should be polite AND one to shut up the person asking (and make him/her feel stupid and rude for asking). Also, “when are you getting married?” and “when are you going to have a baby?” are also incredibly awful and invasive to ask. You are correct about mental and/or physical health being a very real and raw reason some us are single/childless. I think every year that goes by, people just become less and less decent in their manners. It’s gross and embarrassing.

@rita55

4 жыл бұрын

T C it happened to me a lot I don’t why I got the « is that real ? » question a loooot (about certain facial features and designer accessories)

@lth7023

4 жыл бұрын

Ppl are trying to get "Chummy" with you & insert themselves into your life more than you want them to! If you were THAT close friends or thought they should know, in YOUR mind you would confide in them before they asked, or not at all! It's just that Simple!

@tc2904

4 жыл бұрын

Leita Thompson I agree. I don’t believe a real friend would ask/need to ask these types of questions. I was more referring to acquaintances, coworkers, people you “have” to tolerate in social settings, and new people you meet who casually toss these questions about. I feel these questions are asked with the intent to pick on, hurt, cause a reaction, or somehow validate the asker’s sad life. How would you respond if whilst in a group (who you barely knew and/or didn’t care for) were asked if your bag was real? Or in a group setting of mothers were asked when you were going to have a baby if a) you and your partner were having difficulties in your relationship and didn’t want to complicate things more with a child or b) you had been trying for years and were unsuccessful or c) some other crisis was happening in your lives you didn’t want to discuss. I’m just trying to get some advice on how to answer these types of questions without telling people where to go and how to get there!!! 💁‍♀️

@Anna-fw7lm

4 жыл бұрын

If you want to be polite, at the question 'Is that real?' you can answer 'I think it is, but I'm not so sure now you pointed out. Can you tell? Do you have experience?' and show them the piece. If it's truly a fake...you can play the victim and make them talk about their bad experiences or, if they have never been fooled, you can coat them with compliments on how smart and classy they are. Don't show them fear, just admiration about their skills (rather than what they own), so they want you around more.And when someone goes into personal subjects, instead of responding ask their opinions, the most sincerely possible, so you can get to know better that person (sometimes someone ask just out of habit) and you make them do the talk.Sorry, english is not my native language.

@TLRyder591

4 жыл бұрын

No. It is lies and darkness. ;) Nice weather we're having!

Could you talk about how to respond when people are asking these questions to you✨

@stephanijeopdevelt5600

4 жыл бұрын

I would answer: "What an interesting question to ask." followed by short silence and than talking about something irrelevant like the weather...

@matzohgirl

4 жыл бұрын

Shreya G If someone asks you something offensive respond by asking them what they weigh or how old are they. Lol!

@asceticfeminine

4 жыл бұрын

Nobody expects blunt honesty, so make them equally uncomfortable by being bluntly honest! "When are you having a baby?" "Actually I don't want kids." "Have you lost weight?" "Yes, I am struggling with anorexia" my personal favorite " are you pregnant?" And just act like you have no idea what they are talking about.

@marah3298

4 жыл бұрын

Tessa Meyers this is what I’ve always done and it is golden! Even when someone once asked “what do YOU have to be depressed about?” I answered bluntly about a trauma I had recently gone through. They said they were sorry to ask a rude question, and walked away lol.

@frostgoddess

4 жыл бұрын

I was always taught to answer invasive questions with “why do you ask?” 9 times out of 10 the person KNOWS their question is rude and nosy so they will quickly change the subject. It allows you to turn it back on them without having to be rude or share anything at all that you don’t want to.

I'm so glad you mentioned the question about university. I feel like many people use this question as a way to rate someone on a scale of importance, but really it has always seemed like an empty and classless question! Many successful people never went to university and have way more interesting things to speak about!!

@siastories1229

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, or in my case when they ask which university you go to, and when I answer that I go to a local college, they say but you're smart so why aren't you in a better one. Or when they ask what you are specialized in the university and you answer them, they start debating your life choices and saying that you would've probably done better in another speciality.

@havanax8096

3 жыл бұрын

@@siastories1229 don't hate them these are people who take pride in certified education rather than financial success

@alondrasanchez8133

3 жыл бұрын

Right! I hate when people ask that! Like why does it matter??

@annabourbon

Жыл бұрын

As someone who has many interests I feel this question a lot. Like, I can't just go to college and choose one career because I love at least 13 more. So I'm trying to study by myself, but sometimes even after I explain it to them, they still make me feel worthless. And I don't know how to handle this question or any of the other ones to be honest, which is why I'm here. To learn.

"You're so pretty, what are you mixed with?" As a black woman, that is EXTREMELY rude. And I usually respond with "black and slaveowner" and watch the other person fumble for something else to say

@malinasworld

4 жыл бұрын

omfg I'm using this from now on. "Indian and colonizer."

@christinaferreira8594

4 жыл бұрын

Oh I get this one all of the time and they say weird things like you’re so exotic! It’s so weird like do you think I’m some sort of tropical bird.

@KiaTheDMVBison

4 жыл бұрын

Anna Heart you are horrible. As a light skinned woman, ignorant women like YOU don’t realize how RUDE you are. By insinuating that a black woman is beautiful because she looks unique or exotic, you are saying that she must have an additional race mixed with black BECAUSE BEING 100% BLACK ISN’T ENOUGH TO BE CONSIDERED BEAUTIFUL. So stop being so full of yourself, get out of your world and try to be more understanding.

@mcomeslast

4 жыл бұрын

Chris Tina yeah, I’m Native American and Irish. I get “oh you don’t look Indian”. I politely respond “well, you don’t look like an idiot but I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt”.

@KiaTheDMVBison

4 жыл бұрын

Anna Heart and your grammar is atrocious!!! It’s THOSE and GENES, you troll!!!

- How old are you? Me: The same as you. How old are you? - Have you gained weight? Me: My mirror says no. Oh dear... You have something on your front teeth... Yes... It's gone. - Are you pregnant? Me: I was going to ask you the same thing. Are you pregnant? -Why are you still single? Me: I am not. I only talk about it with people I really trust. - When are you getting married? Me: Only those invited have already received that information. - When are you having kids? Me: It's funny that you ask. Studies have shown that people who have children have resentment towards those who have less life constraints and they apply peer pressure to feel less bad about their lost freedom. What's your opinion on that? - For any other questions: Me: Thank you for asking. (Pause...) As a general rule I don't ask or answer questions of that nature as I find them a little bit too penetrating. I hope you don't mind (smile).

@Jenierf

4 жыл бұрын

Sunday Pie Good answers!

@maedae759

4 жыл бұрын

These are great. Keeping these

@wasnae8675

4 жыл бұрын

Smart answers.

@misssunshine1221

4 жыл бұрын

I love this !!

@setswerere

4 жыл бұрын

These answers are brilliant!!

I married at 31. When people would ask me when I was getting married I always answered "OH NO! I knew I forgot something!l

@bogantellectual

4 жыл бұрын

Which country? Here in Australia, 31 is close to the average age to get married. If you get married at all. I'm 31 and never been married but no one asks why not.

@doroparker1702

4 жыл бұрын

Well, same in Europe. Here they say why are you not married? You are pretty, smart, friendly and no man is interested? Well, if it is a woman asking, she is probably not very pretty. She thinks if you are single as a pretty woman, she will never manage to get a husband. Just relax and tell her you have lots of plans with your life and want to marry when you are ready to settle down.

@eldiazoni

4 жыл бұрын

I'll use that one, thanks!

@bogantellectual

4 жыл бұрын

@@doroparker1702 Mostly younger people here wouldn't mind getting married but they value buying a house or travel (two v expensive things if you're Aussie) over one day in a white dress for your aunt you barely know. I always say I'll only get married if I'm with someone from a culture that values traditional weddings. And if it's so important to them, they can organize and pay for it. I'll just show up on the day!

@bogantellectual

4 жыл бұрын

@Natasa ! Ooh glad to hear you're enjoying it here! I think it's impossible to say one country is more or less racist. My best friend is Chinese Aussie and he thinks Chinese people are more racist. I wouldn't know because I don't understand Chinese. Australia does have a problem, but it's mostly aimed at Indigenous and South Sudanese people. Even other migrant groups can be super racist towards them. So unless you're in those two groups, you're probably unlikely to notice it on a day-to-day basis.

I keep being asked by some of my friends: "how is your love life? Have you found someone special yet?" The fact is that, I never talk about my love life with this kind of people just beacause of that: I dislike the gossiping and I know that's exactly what they want to do. They do not actually care about my love life, they just want to gossip. That's why, whether Im seeing someone or not, I never tell them. I like to keep this to myself and If you know someone a little bit, you ought to know what subjects do they like to talk about and what subjects they like to keep private, so I find it so rude that they insist and keep asking. I thought it was me, so I'm glad i saw this video to prove I wasn't wrong.

@leila_de_hautjardin

4 жыл бұрын

One of my ex-friend thinks like you. While I respect your view, isn’t it weird that I learned one year later that she was married ? 🤔 She was a close friend that I had known for 10 years.

@siastories1229

4 жыл бұрын

I honestly don't even ask my closest friends about their love life or their boyfriends, I believe that if they trust me enough they'll tell me on their own.

@beyzayildiz5296

3 жыл бұрын

@@leila_de_hautjardin that's so weird indeed and I wouldn't consider someone as a friend if they hide their wedding from me. I share my personal things with my closest friends and it also happened to me that a girl I considered as a close friend get married without telling anyone 😵😵

@meliel1715

3 жыл бұрын

It's so rude !

🙅‍♀️ as a southern girl, I’d never ask these questions ! Bless their heart... * sips sweet tea * 😁

@emilypalma4772

4 жыл бұрын

It gave me a little chuckle when you added the sips tea at the end! Made my day

@havanax8096

3 жыл бұрын

Drinks iced chocolate milk during curfew 😁

When I'm asked, "Is that real?" I answer without sarcasm in a joking way: If you can see it, it Must be real!

@deeb8733

4 жыл бұрын

Right! That is MUCH better than saying no!

@LifeofMinna

4 жыл бұрын

That's a good one. I have been wanting a good comeback for those "fake vs real" questions 👍

@sarahmackeprangesquell6660

4 жыл бұрын

Good response!

@lisadipasquale6121

4 жыл бұрын

😂

The one I hate, even when people ask me is "how come you can afford that at your age? "- stop it

@ah5721

4 жыл бұрын

they just might want to know how you got in a a financially stable situation because they may not be there themselves..

@ms.x1669

4 жыл бұрын

@@ah5721 True, but most of the time you can hear it in their tone of voice when that isn't the case

@ah5721

4 жыл бұрын

@@ms.x1669 I agree this is extremely rude to assume things of people's ability to own nice things. If I were to ask a simular question "how are you able to afford this? " It would be because A: I know you more than a passing aquaintence and it would be polite interest so I can get an idea what I need to do to rise to that level but not in judging. I may hazard a guess that the people asking probably ask because they think if you are a certain :status/color/age that you shouldn't have nice things. I find it insulting! Personly I don't have much means right now but it doesn't mean I'll wear tatty clothes things that don't fit or look like I've given up on life ..

“ why are you still single” “ when are you getting married” “ do you have trust issues”!? 👈 “ how much mo money do you make!?” “ do you work” “ did you finish your school” “ why do you believe in that? I get that a lot Thanks a lot for making this video and I hope everyone would benefit from this

@Mariely1

2 жыл бұрын

Do I go to school ? Bro mind ur business lol

We can add... "how can you afford that?"

@vgcc9723

3 жыл бұрын

Wow! That's rudeness on another level. All coming from envy, of course. That is way more rude than "how much did you pay for it?"

You touched on the comment "Is that real?" when someone sees a piece of jewelry! I learned MY lesson early on when I was about 8 or 9! My father was one of the managers for a Farm owned by an English Widow, who was a member of the Aristocracy! I used to play with her Granddaughters & one day while I was over for Tea, I said "Wow, that ring is so pretty, I bet that cost a Bundle"(an expression I'd heard on a Television program) She repremmended me by saying in her most stren British voice, "The discussion of the cost of things is Vulgar and young ladies should not be asking such a question"! I was embarrassed & apologized immediately! When I told my Mother she was Mortified & threatened to not allow me to visit them again, if I didn't mind my manners!😆😁

@Maki-00

4 жыл бұрын

Leita Thompson At least you were a child and didn't know any better. What excuse do grown people, who should know better, have for asking such rude question?

@user-nu3ih7ih4f

4 жыл бұрын

I would ask them every time then. Love to embarass these wannabe rich people hahahahaha

@sabrinaflipse7732

4 жыл бұрын

LGT reprimanded*

Some people ask rude questions on purpose. To be confronting. Unpleasant!

@kallias.3503

3 жыл бұрын

Do they gain pleasure to make someone feel unconfortable? I have faced all of these over the years i am guilty only about the religion part but after i apologized im just spiritual person and wabted to know more abd open a discussion always woth respect

When I get asked how old I am, I usually reply: "How old do you think I am?". Boom! The ball is on your roof now!

@KohaTheEternal

4 жыл бұрын

LOL I totally do this all the time when someone asks me. I say, " Go ahead and take a good guess" usually they in turn become flustered and walk away or try to guess and I just laughed my butt off.

@Emily789

4 жыл бұрын

Doesn't work for me. I'm 32 and look 18 so they just think I couldn't possibly be insulted if I'm young or something. They just guess and ask if they were close :/

@ms.anonymousinformer242

4 жыл бұрын

@@Emily789 go BURMP!! Real loudly , then say wrong ! Just laugh and dont answer. Change the subject or walk away.

@negrilgyrl

4 жыл бұрын

I say that "haven't you been told that it's rude to ask a woman her age?"

@sidynqa

4 жыл бұрын

Im not so sensitive and dont mind if somebody asks me about age. Or if somebody asks my mom about her age. She is super conscious about it and answers. But we r probably different culture (central Europe) and very open people. Discussing salaries with others, age, and everything and I like it.

I've become comfortable with knowing that just because someone asks you a question.... Doesn't mean you have to give them an answer😘

And really, the fact that you mentioned psychological issues as reasons for being single and financial issues that are subjects similar channels brush over or ignore....shows how classy you are, down to your heart. Not put on, but who you really are, no matter any circumstances.

Instead of asking a lady if she's pregnant I just say " *Girl, you are glowing!!!* " and see where they lead the conversation

@stephanijeopdevelt5600

4 жыл бұрын

That's awesome! Thank you for that 🥰

@MissMaskless

4 жыл бұрын

But you're still prying into a private matter in a sneaky way😕

@-MaryPoppins-

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely not lol. It’s always just sweat 🤣 you’re calling us sweaty.

@petraolbrich3859

4 жыл бұрын

To me even that sentence is intruding particularly coming from someone I don’t know that well - I heard it several times before and was not appreciative of it.

@Eciju

4 жыл бұрын

Majors insecurities makes people uncomfortable with these statements...

Yes!!!! Stop asking “are those real?” If they are blonde, tanned or whatever the heck it is, stop asking... it looks awful!!! Also stop asking about the age🤦🏼‍♀️🤯🙄

Hey, Anna. This was a very thought out video, but I need a way to get out of answering these questions with grace (especially those who ask them constantly with malicious intent). Thank you for creating wonderfully feminine content. KZread lacks this type of content.

I had a friend that when asked when her and her husband were going to have children would say "we do it for fun, not profit!"

@isiibelieveinmiracles1903

4 жыл бұрын

Omg.. Im dead 😂😂🤣😭

@lifeventures6651

4 жыл бұрын

Hilarious

@hueningbahibitch3694

4 жыл бұрын

for fun 🤭

@camis.1347

4 жыл бұрын

2 funny!!!

I'm that kind of a person who hates personal questions in general, and whenever I meet a nosy person and they ask me I say politely " I don't like answering personal questions" so they don't move to the next question.

@futsinen

4 жыл бұрын

The way to handle it. You just don't need to get offended about these things.

“You need to have children of your own.” My boyfriend and I wish to adopt children when we are married . People feel the need to say this to me all the time whenever it comes up .

I detest small talk, and I'm ever so grateful to be an introvert at this point.

My mom is constantly asking me: How much money is there in your bank account? " to me & other ppl casually. outrageous! I keep telling her don't ask. But she won't listen !

@matzohgirl

4 жыл бұрын

salonika101 turn the tables on her. Respond by Asking her the same questions. You will see how fast she clams up

@salonika101

4 жыл бұрын

@@matzohgirl I like that ! I'm gonna say that next time she's so intrusive.

@crarls27

4 жыл бұрын

That's so weird! Lol!

@salonika101

4 жыл бұрын

@@crarls27 Yeah ! She'll randomly walk up to ppl at our place of worship saying, "How much does your husband earn? " it's Insane ! As if that's normal conversation starter ! So many Indian women do this & think there's nothing wrong with it. I hate it !!

@asceticfeminine

4 жыл бұрын

what?!!!!! omg i'm laughing hysterically!

“When are you having kids?” ..people/family/friends asked me that question 1000 times for years!! So rude!!

One of the rudest questions I've ever encountered was on my wedding day, when a guest at the wedding came up to myself and my husband and asked how much he was currently earning. The person in question was always very competitive regarding household income, but I was shocked at him bringing it up at our wedding!

@MsVakong

2 жыл бұрын

Tacky 😬

I just subscribed you. You’re very logical and I like how you stand on whatever you believe in. And that’s power and independence.

I have a lot of hair and people either ask if my hair is real or if I’m wearing a wig. It’s just awkward and annoying. Sometimes I ask them a personal question back to teach them a lesson. People need some home training.

@matzohgirl

4 жыл бұрын

Black Rose i sometimes ask that question knowing it’s real hair. Then I tell the person she is sooo lucky to have so much natural beautiful hair coz I have very little hair. I don’t know how that cud be offensive if the hair is gorgeous and real

@doroparker1702

4 жыл бұрын

Well, just tell those people that you love and admire their hair. That you would be so happy to have some more hair. They might answer that they spend hours on their hair and it is a lot of work. But see, this is a conversation about hair and not offensive for them. Just make sure that people get you admire their look. Most people like to get a friendly compliment

@jumafaro

4 жыл бұрын

Let me guess: people ask you why you don't get your hair straight? After all "you are so pretty, you would look great with straight hair".

@rachaeld.4753

4 жыл бұрын

Say "Why yes it is! Thank you for the compliment!" (it probably looks so good that people think it's fake)

"How can you afford such a lifestyle? Are you rich?" Have been asked this horribly intrusive question with actually quite a negative touch a couple times. I don’t think it’s anyone’s business... 🙄

@ah5721

4 жыл бұрын

In america people who ask this either are jealous and want to know how they can make money like you do -or they know people who fake wealth but are in horrible debt and own nothing.

@ChiaraFrancioli

4 жыл бұрын

This! I have been asked a few times about friends of mine "how does she afford it?" or even worse "I know she can't afford it" (Seriously? Who do you think you are to know they can't? Who do you think I am to expect I'll badmouth my friends?) To me this is a "cease and desist" red flag :)

@PatriziaCavaliere

4 жыл бұрын

I actually just went to a networking event last night and after having a brief chat with this guy who asked me questions which sounded like from a list, he actually asked me where I live. This happens a lot in London because depending on where you live people build their opinion about your status. I find this horrible since I believe someone who is not living in a posh neighbourhood can have incredible skills and determination to do something amazing. So, although I could have given him an answer which would have satisfied his judgemental mindset, I chose not to and simply replied that I prefer not to disclose my location because I'm a private person. Sometimes I feel like us women are exposed to more rude questions than men, unfortunately. Or we're just not used to brag about as much. Don't know...

@ChiaraFrancioli

4 жыл бұрын

@@PatriziaCavaliere yuck, class assessment in disguise has so many forms... Wishing you a fantastic time in London as a fellow expat now back in Italy (oh, the things you do for love...)

@ChiaraFrancioli

4 жыл бұрын

@Pengoto K Patrizia and me were discussing how some socially coarse people can ask details on the income of common acquaintances. This happens in many circles, including ones of educated professionals, which is where I've seen it. What you are talking about I don't know.

I’ve literally been asked every single one of those questions. I was asked if I was pregnant when I was 22 and significantly underweight just because I was wearing an oversized t-shirt I had purchased in Disneyland. Needless to say, I never wore oversized t-shirts again... but that tactless question was not great for someone who ate one tiny meal a day. As you say, you never know what’s going on in people’s lives. I’ve also been asked how much my house/car/watch cost by people I’ve just met. They literally have no shame.

When asked an inappropriate question, my stock reply is: “Why do you ask?” This usually disarms them & they get the point & change the subject.

Oh my gosh YES! Everyone should know these “social graces”!!! I have been asked EVERY one of these questions and it was extremely uncomfortable...by family members! It’s very tacky to do this to anyone, especially in a social setting.

Many years ago, I was asked by one of my husband’s colleague (he just started working there a few months ago at that time) why we didn’t have kids. I told her we didn’t plan to have any kids. She then asked whether it’s because I couldn’t get pregnant that I said I didn’t want kids. How rude can a person be? That’s not all. She went on to ask us to lend her a substantial amount of money so she could start her own business! Such crazy woman! My husband doesn’t work there any more and obviously we aren’t friends with her any more.

@abirdietoldme4102

4 жыл бұрын

That woman sounds like a rude and intrusive person seeking to take advantage of you and your husband. My husband and I are also "child free by choice". I'm familiar with the underlying criticisms and assumptions that can come from people in that regard.

@user-lr2cf1xk5g

4 жыл бұрын

@@matzohgirl LOL

@LifeofMinna

4 жыл бұрын

@@matzohgirl great sarcasm 😂😂

@e.h-v.8070

4 жыл бұрын

People used to be like that about kids. It used to be the ultimate validation of a couple or the existence of people altogether. Thank God society is evolving now about disparity and personal and couple's choices, LGBT couples and personal development. Nobody had asked me "Do you have a permanent job or are you happy in your life now?" No! All they wanted to know was if I am married and if I have pondered one more child on this overpopulated planet.

@yvettedean92

4 жыл бұрын

S Mapelish woah that blows my mind 🤦‍♀️

“Why’re you single?” “Why? Are you interested?”/“why are u interested?”

@lorelaycf5048

3 жыл бұрын

Another is. why are you still single....do you lile women or are you lesbian

@harrietdickson419

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha

@mona4273

3 жыл бұрын

What if he says: "maybe"? 🧐

@Li-jn2qz

3 жыл бұрын

I like to answer that there are so many great options that I can't decide!

Some people are so rude , when I just lost my mother , I was meeting my friends for coffee and she was commenting how much weight I put on, who hurt me

@christine-my3gd

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate.. i am sorry for your loss

@sampuatisamuel9785

3 жыл бұрын

Foot in mouth friend

"Why are you still single?" I heard so many times in the past 3 years, so sick of it... Oh, and also after this question you will hear "time is ticking." What the heel is this? :D Why people don't understand that better is to be alone, than with someone who doesn't respect you, doesn't love you and etc. I know so many people who is together with someone, but they not happy at all.

@LyrasRaven

4 жыл бұрын

Imagine how heartbreaking it must be for someone who has just been dumped to hear this question. I've been there and it's been HARD to not burst in to tears when I've been asked this.

@nihilisticbarbie

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. It is so unbelievably rude. The best company you have is your own!

Yes question 4 and 5 are my reasons why I avoid people..they make me feel like it’s my fault or my value is linked to being in a relationship 💔😩

@Elven.

4 жыл бұрын

and when it's not your value seems to be linked with your career and accomplishments. People like that usually gossip and have overall bad manners

@smy693

4 жыл бұрын

The same here 😢. I've been single for 3 years now and a friend just keep mentioning it

@giuliana5888

4 жыл бұрын

Also a person might have just gone through a break up, it's a sensitive subject

One mistake I have made with asking questions is not realizing the consequences of the answer before the words leave my mouth. I think Anna is pointing that out very well in this video. It’s awful when you’re talking to someone and you very innocently put them in an awkward situation.

I have been so pleased and impressed with the content you provide. I’m from the Caribbean, this particular culture expects women to be married, a homeowner and mother no later than 30 years old. For years I had experienced these uncomfortable, super inappropriate and intrusive questions. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it’s brought comfort and guidance to me moving forward.

My own father has been harassing me about getting a boyfriend since I was 15-16 years old, it's honestly offensive and annoying

@Maya.0114

4 жыл бұрын

@@julijakeit I've also been asked if I was gay. I don't know why people always assume that you're unloved or a homosexual if you're not in a relationship

@tabilittlefield1326

4 жыл бұрын

He is probably just looking forward to the joy that comes with a growing family.

@leila_de_hautjardin

4 жыл бұрын

It’s the opposite for me ! My mother has pressured me to not date anyone since I was 10. And now she wonders why I am not married and not motivated to find someone...

@squarepeg9484

4 жыл бұрын

Translation- He’s trying to check out if you’re gay. My dad did the same, I was a slow starter with boys myself

@gatestimonymiracle1302

4 жыл бұрын

That's strange

Straight hair looks sooo good on you!

@jessykaiskander8569

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Especially when they know your hair is naturally curly..."your hair looks so much better straight." Please keep your comments to yourself.

@rachaeld.4753

4 жыл бұрын

Say "Yes, I tried something new! But I love my curls, you know you should try curling your hair!"

@MissAnatance

4 жыл бұрын

@@jessykaiskander8569 I believe @timburton'snightmare was actually complimenting Ana on how she is wearing her hair in this video

@zeynep-jg6jq

4 жыл бұрын

@@jessykaiskander8569 i just wanted to give her a sincere compliment, that's all. My hair is naturally extremely curly so i know that " your hair looks better when it's straight " comments can be very annoying but that simply was not my intention.

@zeynep-jg6jq

4 жыл бұрын

@@MissAnatance yeah exactly! I just wanted to give her a compliment but i think people misunderstood it. that's fine tho, stuff happens

"are you pregnant?" "why, do you need pointers?"

@MsVakong

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha, I love that! 😂

This is soooo needed today! So glad you made this video. It's a shame that grown ups have to be told not to ask embarrassing questions, but sadly, society is degrading and so is basic manners. I work with people at my job who always ask every question here you said not to ask. Worse yet, when I tell them I don't want to talk about it, they continue to press me. I dont know why a perfect stranger would be so concerned with how "old" I am, and "why don't you have kids?"...What makes people think it's not only ok to ask these awkward questions, but to keep pressing about it.

@skasmow

3 жыл бұрын

i feel you so much ! they are just jealous of you ! you should stop being kind with strangers there is no other way to deal with them ! (i am also trying hard to achieve it) just say "did i ever ask you how old are you" NO i dont care for you enough to ask you, while you do!

Honestly the "where did you study" question hits me the hardest since I was so chronically ill and just trying to survive. Some of us had the dream of going but were unable to at some point

@lapislazulii141

4 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Blanford No loss sister! You would have only paid for your own Marxist indoctrination.

We simply need to mind our own business and avoid asking personal questions.

@venuselectrificata

4 жыл бұрын

Wasnae obviously IF a person is asking you questions they want to make a connection. What’s wrong with connection?

@wasnae8675

4 жыл бұрын

@@venuselectrificata talk about yourself and if the other is interested he will tell you about himself/ herself. Nowadays no one likes questions unless they're very general.

@venuselectrificata

4 жыл бұрын

Wasnae that’s precisely the problem...people always talking too much about themselves 😀 whatever

@Em_Elizabeth

2 жыл бұрын

That's basically what is comes down too.

I have a health problem where i tend to swell especially in my stomach and im petite. Just recently got told I gained weight and asked by a different person if I am withchild. Later on asked by another one how I got so "fat". All within this month. Thankyou for this.

Great video! I have been asked every single one of those questions. I did feel it was rude. I have also been rude in the past. That changes today 😃

Never ask if someone wants more kids. Because sometimes they have been trying for several years and have had traumatic miscarriages and failed IVF treatments. Very sensitive topic. Mind your own business people.

@artenlifeingroningenbenhek4123

4 жыл бұрын

So true

@anastasia_six

4 жыл бұрын

This happened to me many times...so hurtful.

@angelac.merlin5790

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I get that questions all the time. Why don't you have kids?? I want to answer with, none of your damn business!!

@karaa7595

4 жыл бұрын

So true. People ask me why I only have one or when I'm going to have another so my son can have a sibling. Then I feel pressured to explain my health issues to them and how the wisest choice for my family is to stop at one. No need to risk having 2 but then leaving them without a mother by age 10.

@annaheart7731

4 жыл бұрын

If everybody will mind their own business we'll never be able to create relationhships.

When people ask me when I was having kids my reply was when you're willing to pay for all the cost of raising them. I only sent this to friends and not my family because my family would have said will pay for them.

@veneragrace3007

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂 everything for grandchildren 😀

@alwaysyouramanda

4 жыл бұрын

Damn, my mom just wants me to be able to take care of her 😅😅😅💀💀💀

@Joanofthearc3

4 жыл бұрын

Ah the kid one.... I get this all the time “oh you’d make such a great mother” ....... silence..... do you go through my daily activities uh no don’t give me advice if you’re just looking at me from the outside !

@bettinaorevil5056

4 жыл бұрын

Haha true Haitian parents/church folks do the same. After I got married everyone wants us to have a baby.

@annak3325

4 жыл бұрын

hahah literally same w my family my mom is all like "dont worry if you get pregnant ill take care of it" im like djfkla nononoo

Probably my favourite video of yours. There has been multiple times when people ask these questions around me and i myself being present in the scene get so awkward even though the questions aren't thrown at me.

When someone asks what something cost, I always answer - it was a gift.

I hate when people ask me how much my rent is or what I do for a living, etc.

@nandinishah1709

4 жыл бұрын

Why exactly, can you explain? That's just a way of initiating a conversation, it's small talk. Most people aren't judging you, they're just curious.

"Are you pregnant?" is the worst question eveeerrr

@truthhurts1988

4 жыл бұрын

No it’s not. It’s just bad for the females that can’t keep their legs closed or know the guy doesn’t care about her at all.

@SaadetOZTRK

4 жыл бұрын

Jessica Lindstrom what the heck girl

@happyhavoc5891

4 жыл бұрын

@@truthhurts1988 literally w h a t

@AlternaIlva

4 жыл бұрын

Couple days after my coleagues find out (not from me) that i will get merried, they already was asking - are you 3 months pregnant, even said, not asked. Fun/sad part that I'm not pregnant :D so it means im getting fat or what... SAD

@maeowen8495

4 жыл бұрын

I have had some one ask me this as I was shopping for tampons. Do you not know how the reproductive cycle works?

I despise the question 'why are you single?'. It immediately makes me not like somebody, I cringe in their faces.

These people asking you if you gained weight believe me they know how it is going to make you feel and that's exactly what they want.

I can’t have children and I can’t count how many times people have asked when I will. I don’t take it to heart but I do wish they’d stop, it’s not something I like to be reminded of. Even though I’m not particularly sensitive about it I don’t feel like explaining my medical history to everyone.

In asian culture, you can ask someone's age in order to treat them appropriately.

@zeynep-jg6jq

4 жыл бұрын

Oh thats so interesting

@peaceonearth8693

4 жыл бұрын

Or, you could just treat them better without making someone qualify.

@aritataitenyu9681

4 жыл бұрын

@@peaceonearth8693 I didn't mean you could be rude to anyone. But how you call someone differs according to their age. For example, It's disrespectful if you call an elder by their first name.

@alwaysyouramanda

4 жыл бұрын

I was obsessed with Japanese culture at the age of 13 once I realized how different things can be (socially.) I’m still absolutely infatuated. 😍🙏🥰

@leonaj.5835

4 жыл бұрын

@@peaceonearth8693 Hierearchy is important in East Asia & how it things work here. SPECIAL Respect for seniors is given even with 1 year age difference is because of culture & religions (filial piety). We appreciate foreigners who respect & adhere to our traditions instead of making us bend to theirs when they come here whether it be because of work or leisure.

The other person: asks invasive question Me: why do you ask? The Other : because I want to know Me: The other: won't you answer? Me: I don't think it will be pleasant for me to tell you mind your own business

@AlicjaJJ111

4 жыл бұрын

I'd say- I don't care what you want.

I am not aiming to join the high society, but I love to watch her videos just for myself, my own value. And I am really happy to sometimes aknowledge, that I've already been following some rules that she talks about naturally.

These questions truly are too invasive. It's people wanting to know about your personal life, that is reserved for close friends and family, but without doing the hardwork of proving that they are trustworthy and decent people. Why should I trust a random person with my life's important bits when they can't even be trusted to be polite with people.

When are you getting married? When are you having kids? As a Muslim, we have the readymade answer - InshaAllah! 😂 (Means 'If/when God wills') Don't have to reveal anything at all😂!

@meln.4927

4 жыл бұрын

Fathima In Spain we use a similar expression 😆 “Cuando Dios quiera” “When God wants/wishes”

@zwischenburkaundbikini2418

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you, sister .. I am a muslim with polish backround. I will marry soon in sha Allah, but we want to stay childfree. It is so stressfull to always defend myself for my decision...

@dinahassan4320

4 жыл бұрын

And if you are Arab and a muslim too ,you really have no idea what I usually hear on this regard 😂

@Anna-fw7lm

4 жыл бұрын

I'm gonna use it from now on XD it's so smart!...and true :) In Italy we say: Quando Dio vorrà, or if one is not religious : Quando il tempo vorrà. In older times the phrase was : A Dio piacendo. But here our meaning it's more...drastic (like...if deep down you know you have few chances). It's softer in english.

@truffaut650truffaut6

4 жыл бұрын

In nigeria they say: by the grace of god 👌

This is my favorite post of yours. Ever. On behalf of women who have been asked every one of these things over the years, THANK YOU!!!

You are so thoughtful! I'm reading your ebook right now and the clothes and physical things are important, but most important is the thoughtfulness that comes with having good manners.

I can't wait to view the video on getting out of this questions. !💞

Thank you for talking about these subjects. I agree it’s very unfair. Everyone is asking me when I’m having kids, and it just makes me feel bad. I lost 2 during pregnancies and a year in between to get pregnant again, and currently undergoing ivf, and it has been such a painful 1.5 years, and it is so unfair that people keep asking me about children, and not to mention hurtful.

Fantastic video! Definitely have been asked SOOOO many times “are those real??” with my body lol or items I have bought with my money. Love your channel it’s one of the best😍