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@Celeste-new49

8 ай бұрын

I hope you feel better soon. I'm planning on checking out your patreon too in the next few months - been wanting to sooner, just haven't had a credit card in years or Paypal. I'm starting to invest in starting my own digital freelance business and slowly but surely getting stuff like Paypal and better tech (I've been watching your videos through an old put together computer and still have a flip phone at the moment). Your channel has been very inspirational for me. Thanks again - take care

@AW-lp4vm

8 ай бұрын

Wonderful video!

There's a poem that says, "People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime." I've always thought this is so true!

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Yes, I love that!

I've discovered your channel recently, and although I don't practice minimalism specifically, I find your videos and your perspectives about life in general so soothing, so down to earth, and so encouraging at the same time, that I find hope while listening to you. Thank you so much for the content you share with your audience. Thank you for your calm voice, for your simple aesthetic (and notice that when I say simple, I mean it as a compliment in this modern world of over-simulating images and loud noises and in-your-face product placements, etc.). Thank you for sharing with us the knowledge about life that have taken you years to learn by trial and error. I wish you a speed recovery and much success in your future.

Good basic advice. I’m 75 and had to learn these lessons myself along the way more than once. We tend to forget to take our own life advice at times along the road, but age makes one’s priorities clearer and clearer. No time to waste fretting over people and things that don’t serve us well.

@joyhaave6151

7 ай бұрын

Vera is wise beyond her years...sage advice doled out on this channel!

Those of us who grew up with toxic parents had to learn everything the hard way...on our own.

@tenwaystowearit

8 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

@beautyintakes

8 ай бұрын

And at many points in life we all feel behind because we learn so many thing too too late that many grow up learning just by being in a happy family.

@NintenJon2023

8 ай бұрын

@@beautyintakes Took the words right out of my mouth, haha! 😂 On the positive side, those of us who did experience that toxicity can develop better forethought and intuition to interpret our actions and reactions so that we maintain a sense of calmness in all sorts of situations. We become more analytical and aware. We might be more sensitive as it is in our nature due to past experiences in life, but with proper love and care, we can shirk aside the societal expectations and implications placed on us and give ourselves the grace we need to move forward into a brighter, healthier future. ❤

@bumblebee_mrs

8 ай бұрын

@@beautyintakes Sorry, I don't get it. What do you mean?

@bumblebee_mrs

8 ай бұрын

@@NintenJon2023 Lets hope so.

Vera about the wallet example. When my son was about 10 years old he found 200 dollars in the laundry mat while I was doing laundry. He wanted to keep it. I said no because that could be someone rent money and they may come back looking for it. So I turned it into the laundry mat owners. My son said to me mom how do you know they won't keep it. I said I don't but that's on their conscious not mine. I thought that was the right thing to do.❤

@mcdade7489

5 ай бұрын

I think that was the right thing to do. A good role model for your son😊

@cathylynnpietranton

5 ай бұрын

@@mcdade7489 thank you 😊

'I you're feeling bad and it's night time - just go to sleep!' I can confirm that this works wonders. Super loved this Video! ❤ Best wishes for a speedy recovery!

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Thanks Monika!! Happy to hear you also find that to be true. As one of my patrons said in the comments of that video: "The morning is wiser than the evening". Very true! 😁💕

@popovka

8 ай бұрын

Many years ago I also set up the rule for me "worries after 10pm should not be taken seriously - go to sleep first"

Regarding your example of returning the wallet. I have a simple logic. Would I be happy and thankful if someone returned my lost wallet? Then of course I know what the right thing to do is. We need to help create a nice world for ourselves and our children. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏🏼

#2 - Yes, I understand your "work friend" articulation. I learned this after my first long-term job and letting that go was freeing. Life is a journey. Some people will come in and go out and that's okay. Our capacity for close friends is less than our eyes realize.

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

So true! :) Have a great day Viki 🤗🌷

What a great video Vera. I actually found someone’s wallet who was in Chatham on vacation. He had set it on top of his car and driven off. I found a business card that showed he worked at a newspaper in San Diego CA so I called them and said someone must know where he is and left my phone number. He couldn’t believe I tracked him down and said no one would do this where he lives but long story short I wouldn’t be able to look myself in the mirror if I had taken his money. ❤

I know my uni friends and I don't have much in common beyond student life. It makes me sad, and I often find myself feeling that these friendships are somehow 'fake' even though I love hanging out with these people. This video got me thinking that maybe what matters is not that we stay friends forever. Maybe what matters is that we give each other good memories. I'm going to try and make the most of the time we have left.

So many nuggets of wisdom here! I so agree with listening to our gut. Isn't it amazing how many times there's no logical reason why something should be wrong, but our gut tells us something is wrong, and it ends up that they're actually IS something wrong with the situation? It would do us all well to listen to our intuition more often.

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Our intuition can be very wise indeed! :)

@cherrycookie7365

8 ай бұрын

That was a bunch of great advice! I for one constantly underestimate how important sleep is, trying to work on that, and it's nice to see it reinforced that it is indeed important

When I was young I felt guilty that I liked some friends more than others and tried really hard to improve the relationships that didn't click as well. Then I realised it's because we are all different and we will resonate more with some people than others.

I love your insight and transparency. I’m almost twice your age and everything you say resonates deeply with me. Maybe it’s an HSP/introvert thing? What a beautiful life you have ahead of you putting your words into practice. Love to you Vera 💖

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Aw thank you for your kind comment! 🤗💕🌷 So glad the video resonated with you. Have a lovely day!

@andeeanko7079

8 ай бұрын

Yes, I feel the same, and I'm also probably twice Vera's age. ❤

@janeking9597

8 ай бұрын

I’m 55 and love watching Vera too ❤

@lizzabbott

8 ай бұрын

Same ! I’m old enough to be Vera’s Mom and I find her insights to be very valuable.

@ali18398

8 ай бұрын

💟💟💟Vera, you are truly a blessing in my life! Thanks for being you!

Heart ❤ of Kentucky. Hi VERA in the NETHERLANDS. I so appreciate this message. I need to trust my gut feeling. I've just prayed for you and your love ones. ❤ GOD BLESS 🙏 YOU VERA. You are SUPER TERRIFIC! Katie.

Your channel, I'm sure, helps many people. In addition to clearly communicating valuable life advice and personal anecdotes, you are warm, genuine and personable. Your channel stands out and I wish you ever-growing success.

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Aw thank you so much, that was really nice to hear 🌷🌷🌷

Thanks Vera! #7 spoke to me the most. I feel so tired right now and lack energy yet often times I do not go to sleep when I should. The change of season always has affected me. Even when I was younger. However it is getting more difficult now that I am older ( in my 50’s) to get motivated and stay positive when it is dark outside. God bless you!

I found out your videos today and I have watched 3 in a row (HSP, Burn Out and this one). I feel really really represented by everything you tell about your personality (and previous traits), and I feel like I have a lot to lean from you 🥹 thanks so much for your channel! Also your voice is very soothing. I have me/chronic fatigue syndrome that is like a massive burn out 😓 I got it after covid. It's been 2 years now, and I am slowly getting better, but still a long way to go. Your advice is very very helpful for my reality 🫶🏽

@SimpleHappyZen

6 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for leaving a comment and welcome to the channel!! Hope you'll continue to slowly feel better. Just take things one step at a time and take it easy when you need to. 🌸💕

Thanks for the sound advice & your vulnerability. You have a gift for getting your insight across 🌸

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Aw thank you!! Glad you enjoyed the video 🤗🌺

When I first listened to this on Patreon, I was struggling. I know that my struggles, whether with the way I think, feel or judge, don't have to define me or influence the way I act. The thing is, hindsight always seems to give me a better picture. I feel like time helps as well when it comes to learning from any faults, mistakes or misgivings. But to me personally, allowing my faith in God to be at the center of my life gives me more relief than what I could ever do for myself. I could spend all night questioning things because of me not being able to regulate my thoughts and feelings (and this has happened to me plenty of times), and even with Him in the picture, it still isn't easy sometimes. Focusing on faith rather than fear may still require work on my end, but just knowing that He's still there in the midst of it all gives me hope ❤

This is one of the best advise I received

I love the morning times too. I get up around 3:30 or 4 each day, so I love that my Evening “wind down” time starts at 5:30-6ish. I light my candle which helps get me sleepy too. 8pm is about that “just go to bed” time 😊

Thank you so much for this video. You are wise beyond your years. As it is not in my budget, no spend year, I can't join you on Patreon, but I so appreciate your wisdom. Recently I found myself feeling discouraged about something important in my life. I shared with someone that I was feeling discouraged and immediately they tried to offer unsolicited advise, like I'm not allowed to ever feel a moment of discouragement. How unrealistic, I'm so glad that I have learned to allow myself my feelings and that I no longer buy into the need to always be bubbly and up. Sometimes life is discouraging, but this too shall pass, and that leaves me with a sense of hope. Thank you, again, you are awesome!♥

Vera, you are one of the sweetest, most genuine KZreadrs I (virtually) know! Thanks for the content :)

I hope you feel better Vera🤧🙏🏻❤️I almost lost it when you said “give yourself a hug “🙈That’s how sensitive I am🥹😝🙈🙊🙉

Self hugs for the win!

Dear Vera. Just want to say your intuition did a great thing this morning in telling you go ahead and make the video even though you feel sleepy. Every single word you said was something I needed to hear due to very recent experiences. Maybe it was your intuition plus your guardian angel, who knows. But it was just wonderful. Many thanks.

I watched this whole video as my starting and end point for me 20 minute run on the treadmill. Great video. Thank you I

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Ah cool, way to go! 💪🤗

I like authentic people and its hard to say what authentic means but for me Vera is a truly authentic young person. Her values are my values and I wish society promoted these values more because we would all be the happier for it. I wish more men especially would quit being angry and ignorant and stupid and learn that being gentle and selfless is not a weakness but a strength. Money is like manure. Best spread around to do the most good and I am a firm believer in supporting charities that do good. That is why a shroud has no pockets although I do recall a story about a man in Nigeria who was buried in his Mercedes. Tomorrow I intend to leave the house early, buy a bottle of cheap red wine and enjoy my day just doing something or nothing at home and not worrying about the state of the world and all those "problems" that we know exist and see where we live and on our TV screens. I think sensitive, quiet people feel the weight of life crushing at times so self care is good and necessary. I sometimes think humanity is losing its soul but then a Simple,Happy,Zen video pops up and my faith in goodness and kindness is restored thanks to this little lady.

👏👏👏 Exelent video ! Totally enjoyed it .

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Thank you Teresa! :) Have a great day!

Made my afternoon, in between a billion corporate calls! Thanks for sharing 💙💙💙

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

🤗🌷 Take care!!!

I could so resonate with the money point, always integrity above money and money is definitely an important part of our life but not everything...i will definitely remember money in the head, not in the heart✨

Hi Vera hope you are feeling well 🙏 thanks for sharing your wise words & advice that is so relatable. Enjoy your visit with your family. Still praying for peace in my part of the world 🙏🇮🇱💔🙏

These were so helpful and relate to me. I had a friend at work who I saw as a friend at work. After I left the company we were going to catch up but I was tired of her complaining. As I've got older, the challenge is wanting to keep going even though I feel achey. Thanks so much, Vera, for this encouraging video in a relaxing environment ❤

I learned the value of true (work) friends when I left my long term job. I had a great boss and fabulous coworkers and the 6 of us still get together as if no time has passed (1 of the 6 is my sister so I see her all the time haha). Then 2 years ago I started a term position in a small town where there wasn't many opportunities and I had a boss who was a bit of a bully. I couldn't speak my mind to this person (which I normally have no problem doing) because there were no other jobs during the pandemic. It was tough and even though at that time I had to keep silent part of me regrets not being true to myself. I've been able to let a lot of those feelings go but it was a valuable lesson for me.

@zhangsophie333

8 ай бұрын

I hope you feel better now and have a great day!

Happy Christmas & New Year. May the Lord Bless.

You make the world a better pace Vera, your lovely wise and humble character just makes me joyful. Thank you

Thank you for this video! Felt very honest and real. Really touched on a few things in my life that I've been grappling with. I'm actually going to re-watch it so I can remember my brief epiphanies :-)

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Aw thanks Naomi, so glad the video resonated with you! :) Have a wonderful day

I've been following you for awhile and absolutely love your content and enjoy the spirit of your mission. I relate to the majority of your personal comments and your content is spot on for issues that concern me. Thanks for your work and your beautiful online presence. 😊🎉

Vera you are the best 💕 I appreciate the great content you work so hard to bring us!!

“You’re the one who has to live with yourself your whole life.” 💕

I'm in a transformative point in my life and this came at just the right time. Thank you so much for sharing, and thank you to your patrons as well ❤

Thanks!

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you so much for this superthanks Tanya!!! That's so kind of you 💕🤗 Wishing you a lovely rest of your day!

Hey Vera! Great video and what resonated with me was the need to take care of your body as you grow older. I have recently gained lots of weight during the last five years and have promised myself to start going to the gym next month. I am very excited about it and God willing, will enjoy the process and not stress too much about the results. Thanks for the other tips and get well soon!☺

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Awesome Gerald, good for you!! Cheering you on from here 💪

@geraldgithunguri1969

8 ай бұрын

@@SimpleHappyZen thanks for the encouragement! I will need all the cheering I can get ☺️

Thank you for all these wonderful thoughts. This has made my day. ❤

Super!!thank you very much Vera!!

Thank you much for all the light and messages that you share. You really do share your heart! Keep sharing and shining!

I resonated with everything you said here. There's so much food for thought here, so much to think about. You are so insightful, clear and inspiring.

Circumstance friendships really is a thing to understand and to just not take personal

Hi Vera, I told you once before, your wisdom precedes your age and you are really young for your years, I remember myself at your age, everything was possible and it was, then I started a family, and a year later I had my daughter. I resonate with everything you say and think, I can't do something I MUST. I learned that in life everything is a choice, not an imposition. I hug you Vera!❣

Love Your Videos and All You Share! Have a wonderful visit with your family!

What a great video with so many important insights for anyone at any age. Having to look yourself in the mirror. It is so satisfying to live by your values, sometimes quietly but often in a way that may be exclusive, too. Still, we are all we have and by being true to ourselves it seems like everything else falls in place as it should. Then we realize we are meant to be who we are and it’s ok.

Thank you Vera,excellent video great thinking .

Your warmth and genuineness is always so soothing, uplifting and inspiring, Vera! Thank you for this lovely video and all your wonderful videos, which I watch often for this very reason! 🥰🙏🏼🫂

Love these videos!! You should do more of them! 😊

You must know when to compromise and when to not because there is this one person in the mirror, who will look into your eyes in your whole life ahead. Loved that one🍁.

This is a great list! Lots of things I've never heard on other videos. ❤

I am on my lunch break and very glad to see that there's a new video :)

Love this video.. Love your honesty too....we all go through these things..either in whole or part.. Thanks for the tips..and for sharing Bless you🙏💟

One additional piece of constructive advice. I’ve been a subscriber for years and really enjoy your calm insightful videos. I am now down to yours and Joshua Becker’s channels because of the way the info is presented. I enjoy listening without the use of profanity so common in the world today. I’ve unsubscribed from many others because of this. I was a bit taken aback when I listened to your video today. After the 3rd time you dropped the word I ended the video. Please continue in your previous manner and drop the profanity. ❤ In today’s world, trying to keep the crazy harshness out and the peace in has become a struggle, but one I’d like to keep. Thank you!!!

Thank you Vera ❤

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

You're so welcome! 🤗 Have a great day!

Another great video Vera! Thank you for sharing your insight and tips with us. They are most helpful, and I always feel uplifted after watching your wonderful videos. Keep up the good work Vera. Sending you big hugs my dear! 🤗

I live by most of these rules already. Thank you for sharing your insight. ❤

Stress is when you don't feel you have the resources to cope with the current/future circumstances. My inner resources change throughout the day. Something that I can cope with easily when I have energy, can feel overwhelming at the end of the day.

I needed to hear this today. I’ve been a bit depressed over the past few days. Please thank your Patreon members.

Great video and advice as usual xxx

Wonderful video and so many truths for me too! Thank you for the videos you make and I hope you had a wonderful visit with your parents.

Thanks! Wise advice and much needed reminders. Trusting your gut can be the most important. I learned that the hard way and still have regrets because I didn't believe in myself enough. It was even a problem not that long ago (needed to learn this lesson more than once) when I let the "experts" guide me when it came to my health, instead of trusting my own gut that disagreed with them. I was believing them that it was just anxiety related (I'm HSP too), when I knew deep down that there was something physical. I now know that my problems (chronic fatigue etc.) were caused by a long lasting perimenopause (started at 36 and I'm now reaching menopause and almost 50) and central sleep apnea. Just the relief of knowing finally what's going on with my body has reduced the severity of some of my symptoms and has given me the strength to adapt and move forward with my life in a more positive direction. I agree that sleep is super important too - night owl here - I sleep until late in the AM or the very least ease gently into the day. I hope you get your much needed rest too. take care

Thank you for this!!

This wisdom really brightened my day! Thank you. I only very recently learned that if my mood turned dark in the evening, going to bed was the happiest choice I could make. I also often wake up with dark thoughts, even though I'm an early riser and a mostly cheerful person. I've learned that I'm not one of those people who can happily grind out a 5:00 am routine with exercise, journalling, meditation, meal prep for the day or anything else. I think you talked about this once too. After about 40 - 45 minutes of quiet relaxing reading (or even inspiring KZread watching) I'm ready to do all the things. (Fortunately, I get up early enough to still have time for them.) Feel better soon. xo karen

I loved this video, thank you for sharing.

Thank you very much for your videos🥰 I follow you since 2018 and I think you're great, so genuine and such a good inspiration, I always feel so identified, so thanks a lot for all the valuable content 🥰 greetings from Uruguay 🇺🇾😘

As always, it has been such a beautiful video, Vera, thank you so much for sharing! :) Hugs!

Me encantó este vídeo, al igual que todos los que subes. Me pareces una persona muy cercana y auténtica y siempre que veo un vídeo tuyo me guardo muchos de tus consejos para aplicarlos en mi vida. Valoro realmente todo el trabajo que haces en cada vídeo y agradezco haber encontrado tu canal. Tu consejo de auto valorar nuestros esfuerzos diarios y abrazarnos por ello me hizo llorar y me lo guardo en el corazón. Mil gracias ❤

That is an amazing advice❤

Excellent video. So very relevant. Thank you.

I hate to admit it, but I'm a pessimist most of the time. Мore and more often I have negative thoughts and I feel that I am not feeling well, but unhappy. But I didn't choose to feel this way. I've had arguments with a significant other about this many times, he doesn't seem to understand that it's hard to control. It hurts me that instead of trying to understand, he debates with me and accuses me of being like this, as if I do it on purpose. But I definitely want to change that because I've felt this way for years, which is partly why I'm seeking professional help. I have a feeling that very few people would understand this unpleasant feeling. Only the people who have experienced it.

What wonderful advice today! I love the hug yourself! You are amazing! Love and Light, Laara

A great video with many good points!,thank you!

Simple but wise advices. Thank you!

Hi! I've enjoyed your videos and your thoughtful advice so much even at my advanced age. So, thank you! My mom used to turn on the lamps in the living room in the late afternoon so that as the evening progressed there was always light in the room. This is a habit I carried with me and feel that it helps to ward off that end of the day slump. Maybe you would like to give it a try.

LOL. “Stick it up there”. Love that expression! A unique way to say it😂

Loved the advice❤️

I can't thank you enough for your honest thoughts and opinions. I relate to a lot of the things you said. Your videos help me calm down my thoughts.

Hi Vera, goodmorning from Melbourne, Australia 👋 I just watched for your video with a hot cup of green tea. Your videos have such value & are so refreshing & different. They are simple, straight to the point & you present in such a soothing way. Thanks for your time & sharing.

This was great thanks !

Thanks for this. Lots of really good tips. I particularly like the one about money, which I put up on my fridge. It seems to me, that it's about ruling over your money wisely, rather than allowing money to rule us.

Thanks for sharing. Love your videos. ❤

Thank you very much Vera for a great video. Have a lovely Day. Greetings from London.

Just needed these pieces of advice❤

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

I'm glad you found them helpful! Take care and have a lovely day 🌺🤗

My favourite video of yours so far

Just what I needed

Wat een mooie punten haal je aan. Vooral zelfcompassie is een mooie. Vroeger kon ik mij enorm opwinden als ik iets fout had gedaan en iets (in mijn ogen) doms had gedaan of gezegd. Daar kwam dan ook nog een grote portie schaamte bij kijken. Tegenwoordig probeer ik het zo snel mogelijk om te zetten in een leermoment. Je mag fouten maken, onhandig zijn, enzovoort. Je kunt er alleen maar van leren en het de volgende keer anders doen.

Vera, your voice is very plesant and calming❤

Fantastic advice, thank you ❤

Bedankt voor je goede adviezen. Je video's zijn echt heel betekenisvol voor mij en ik leer er veel van. Ik denk dat je echt een heel mooi persoon bent (van binnen en buiten). Veel geluk❤

@SimpleHappyZen

8 ай бұрын

Aw dankjewel voor je lieve comment! :) Fijne dag!

I love your voice! Always enjoy listening to you Your voice and topic does calm me. I sometimes even fall asleep😊

Wise words. I am 65 now and I am so dismayed at the focus on verbage instead of action. I am afraid that our language is monitored by corporations and specific groups to the point that without realizing it, we are being brainwashed in how to speak and think. It astounds me. Great advice on all of these issues.

Wow I resonate with some of this! I thought I was the only one! Thank you. 🙏🏼💜

You’re a smart person Vera!