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@RebeccaZungEsq

3 жыл бұрын

I will be there to answer all your questions. Can't wait to meet you there!

@tlove6932

3 жыл бұрын

@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you for highlighting my last comment 💛 It was my 1st time ever!!! Thank you!🤗🥇❤️

@laurieberry4814

3 жыл бұрын

Can I be a narcissist if I suffer from anxiety and insomnia. I was told not to take melatonin. I took a medicine that made me permanently anxious. My Dad told me that I needed to go to a doctor. He called me abnormal. You are right. The doctor told me how great he was. I did not trust him though. He ruined me with trilofon. Can people be so vain that they will think that they are extremely superior to me no matter what and that they need to make decisions for me like who I date, what career to get in and to check myself into loony tunes hospital. Doctors are not always good people. There was a nurse who was caught as a serial killer. The medicine made me bad off. My family downsized me by the behavior that the behavior the medicine gave me which is caused akesthesia. I blocked my siblings. I don’t like how my Mom criticizes me for blocking them. I wish that she understood. You are right. I can’t waste my time reasoning with a narcissist. They will always believe that they are angels and mermaids while they believe that I am the crazy messed up one. I think that I am coming up to the point that I don’t care about them. But my Mom follows me. I was told to get a restraining order. Should I? She refused to go to family therapy. Mom acts like she has no problems. Then sometimes she asks me if I think if I can do better than her? I can see my family as feeling entitled. I get yelled at a lot.

@jaegrant6441

3 жыл бұрын

@@laurieberry4814 meditation will help you still your mind. It is not you. Start with 10 seconds & increase gradually. Best of luck. You can claim your happiness.

@scv8659

3 жыл бұрын

I like to join your free sessions.

They hate to see you laugh. They hate to see you dance or do anything you enjoy. They hate to see you have relationships that are not about them. They hate you for having talents they don't have.

@ganymeade5151

Жыл бұрын

They are mentally ill. Avoid them. Get them out of your life. They need lifelong mental health counseling and therapy.

@shilohbreigh3591

Жыл бұрын

Oh my God… My boyfriend of three years acts disgusted. I laugh too loud, or it’s not funny…

@magnificentmuttley154

Жыл бұрын

I have a cousin who's like this. It makes sense that although we share grandparents in common, he comes from a completely different bloodline. The everyday thing with him is getting people to do for him what he is capable of himself. Or, trying to help himself to my things. He is so d e p e n d a n t & powerless over himself its miserable to watch. Notice that in all of these examples never once does he say "Please" or "May I." Its never a respectful request. Its always a DEMAND, which gives away their "You owe me" attitude. Ha! How can you possibly OWE someone anything in a relationship where they do all the taking! For sure, I never owed Ricky a thing. Ever "Come outside & help me with this" "Where's your (blank)?" Phone, car, tools, etc "Im in a bind. I need your help" "(Blank) for me." That's usually find things on the internet for him, write his resumé, or take him to work "I need gas money" "Let me borrow $50. I swear, I'll pay you back." He's never paid me back. Not even ONCE There was a time when I was young & generous with my money & my time. I did grow up with him, afterall. My only sibling was my sister, so he was my big brother, not just a cousin. But he didnt start manipulating me until I was 18 I'm 51 now. And for the last 15 years my everyday sentence to him is "Do it your d*** self !" and "I'm your f a m i l y , not your butler. So start t r e a t i n g me like family, not like your servant !"

@magnificentmuttley154

Жыл бұрын

@@shilohbreigh3591 ✨💎 Exactly: your emotional pain is their pleasure; your pleasure is their pain. It really is that simple Easier said than done of course, but get as far away from him as fast as you can. You may need close continual support of a mentor or a private psychologist. But thats a small price to pay to avoid the years of needless suffering this creature will cause you. And when you do break free, MOVE. Make sure to live somewhere that his friends, family, church, or town will never see you. The best thing ANYONE can do for themselves is make sure these weirdos dont know where you live, & keep it that way

@optigirl366

Жыл бұрын

My sister lives with me. She does everything to try to upset me. I went to see The Stadium Tour and Nikki Sixx gave me a guitar pick as I was directly in front of him!! Brought it home, showed her how cool it was and the time I had. Next day she found it and threw it away!!!!!!!!!

Being hated by a narcissist is the highest form of flattery you can get 🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️

@marciastewart1527

Жыл бұрын

I never thought of it that way but it makes a lot of sense. My Narc husband has been gone for many years. He died a broken man. Unfortunately I still hear some of the awful things he said to me. Now I’ll think of those words in a different way. Thank you.

@LukiGames0

Жыл бұрын

They especialy hate "no" or "i will not". It triggers shit out of them and goes to rage or act like little child and go silent and offended ...

@ingeningeningen

Жыл бұрын

@@LukiGames0 Entertainment at it's best ☺️🥳🥸

@ingeningeningen

Жыл бұрын

@@marciastewart1527 He lived a broken life aswell. You had what he needed and he didn't have anything you needed that's why he prayed on you. Now you are free 🤗❤️

@Music_Just_Stopped

Жыл бұрын

Why? They hate the whole world.

You don't beat Narcissists. You leave them.

Narcissist say " you'll never find no one like me .! Then my funny come back is I don't want to find no one like you ."😂😂😂 LOL. I truly said that .

@alluringstar5910

Ай бұрын

Lol! Best clapback I have ever heard! I'm taking notes! 👏🏼🤣 📝

@shan7180

Ай бұрын

Exactly!!!!

@ijarsaahamiileedhalootatub6175

25 күн бұрын

Omg really it's my madam word

@tarrantcountykid

25 күн бұрын

I say, omg! I hope not

@alluringstar5910

25 күн бұрын

@@tarrantcountykid LMFAO! Love your comment! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

When they are wrong they never apologize.

@Mentalhealthmattersthemost

Ай бұрын

14 years not one apology ever.

@socalnahtty

Ай бұрын

32 years & I just got it from my older sister.

@craighamilton5206

28 күн бұрын

@@Mentalhealthmattersthemost I'm learning about the narcissism and don't really get it or why, its kind-off that song from forieghner called head games =so if I ever get my girl We'd be happy watching ants build their deffencesive castle and get excited when they got a crumb for desert = then after that id take her to dairy queen just to look at a nice view at where she wanted to look at with no words or some bs talk. Now ill probably get labeled.

@jrbone05

28 күн бұрын

They will talk over you when they are wrong so that they don’t here the truth.. and won’t admit to even if they are wrong.

@sharondowns3606

8 күн бұрын

Or when they do it is not genuine. They just start all over with all their crap.

Just being calm works too. No matter how much they freak out, remain calm, talk normally.

@dennismcginnis

Жыл бұрын

I do that and Tell them to check their blood pressure otherwise I'm calling EMS.

@audreydaleski1067

8 ай бұрын

Do. Exactly what I do.

@alm777

8 ай бұрын

This angers them too

@mamalovesthebeach437

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely correct.👍🏻

@feoxorus

6 ай бұрын

No, that doesn't work. They will just find a new angle and carry on.

I love that quote: “Not today, Satan! “ Their behavior is EVIL!!!’😈😈😈

@Mantras-and-Mystics

5 ай бұрын

Imagine if you actually said that to THEM???

@mistiquefire3462

4 ай бұрын

I have 2 signs in my back car window. Maybe today Satan. And get behind me satan.

@perfectpitchmeow7470

4 ай бұрын

Me too

@user-xn8hu7hp7d

3 ай бұрын

Gorgeous

@janetpattison8474

3 ай бұрын

Yup! Misery loves company, and the narcs do everything they can to sabotage your happiness.

“I don’t care” and walking away works very well

@IraBLiss-xp1le

2 ай бұрын

Worked for me

@lisaalexander1824

Ай бұрын

Didn't he grab you and hit you ??😮

@gemmeerobinson1803

Ай бұрын

A dog in sheep's clothing is a face full at the end of departing.

@agnesrossini9490

Ай бұрын

Walk away like a big baby😂

@gemmeerobinson1803

Ай бұрын

@@agnesrossini9490 Gaslighting. What do you want?

1. Praise for others 2. "That's not true." 3. "I will not ..." 4. "I cannot ... for you." 5. "You lost." (Game, etc.) 6. "You're wrong." 7. "I don't care." (When you reach the point of apathy and they can't get to you.) 8. "I'm busy." 9. "Not now." 10. "No."

@judyrank7084

2 жыл бұрын

Thks for listing them

@jimb8847

2 жыл бұрын

Great List Thank You

@grettyhaqim5508

2 жыл бұрын

i already use all those magic words to my narc ex bf, and iam letting him go now so i can be free, my heart and my soul :)

@texaslovelylady

2 жыл бұрын

2. And 6. Caused Narcissist to explode and retaliate.

@lorenzoortez64

2 жыл бұрын

This comes off as wisdom of the world trying to navigate wrg behavior & attitudes. Hope ppl remember if a woman divorces her husband & marries another while the former is still alive is committing adultery. (1corinth7:39)

My personal favorite: "Not today Satan!"

@lisabowden402

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

@123arrrggggg

3 жыл бұрын

I heart this remark. I love it. I have a ex bf narcissistic ex bf. His name is Greg Myers. I got thrown. It's not funny for violence. At least my ex will have a loong sentence for my safety.

@abcabc-cb1vj

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@123arrrggggg

2 жыл бұрын

@@abcabc-cb1vj at least I have a restraining order and I keep it and my baby. I'll keep my baby away from my ex boyfriend's parents. I don't need narcissist people raising my baby. Like hell they will go near me and my baby.

@abcabc-cb1vj

2 жыл бұрын

@@123arrrggggg May God bless them

I lived with a narcissist for way too long. I blame myself for allowing it to happen. It was the best day of my life when it finally ended with me picking my clothes up off the front lawn and living in my car for several months. I was homeless but happy.

@nicolesturges5367

2 ай бұрын

Kudos to you! It must have been tough, but oh so fulfilling! We are responsible for allowing it to happen, but don't forget to forgive ourselves in order to be truly free of them!

@user-yi2xh5qk1n

2 ай бұрын

I am about to be in the same situation, I've tried to leave a few times in the last few months, he just knows me so intimately I have shared everything about myself and he is better at the game and makes me feel guilty for wanting to leave. Ugh, I just doubt things sometimes I don't have proof so I'm crazy. But I know things are off now I just lost my job because of all the chaos with him In a mess most days, this i know is what he wants i make more than him he has been trying to get me to quit for 2 years. Sigh, thanks for listening I know I would be happier in my car, I have so much shit I need to start getting rid of stuff.

@rhowar1

2 ай бұрын

@@user-yi2xh5qk1n Do you have any friends or family that would help you get out? My problem was that she made sure I had no friends and everyone in my family passed away. I wish you the best.

@UBenHad

2 ай бұрын

Narcassists HATE 2c you HAPPY,ESPECIALLY IF THE NARCASSIST IS A FORMER PARTNER OR FRIEND!! That burns their A$$ 2 no end!!! But they will be forever believing their assumptions was CORRECT despite evidence 2 the contrary!

@ng.kemzie7506

2 ай бұрын

This sounds like my case. Putting up with a Narcissist for over 20years was sickening 😪. I almost passed on but for God's grace that liberated me. The day I walked out the door with few of my clothes stocked in the trunk of my car , I was free both spiritual and physical. It wasn't easy but it was worth it today. They're the worst thing that can happen to any normal person.

Great advice. Wise and wonderful. Narcissists prey on empaths and good hearted souls.

@RebeccaZungEsq

26 күн бұрын

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This type of thing should be taught at school.

@paulaanderson2654

2 жыл бұрын

yes, yes, and yes

@1687rlopez

2 жыл бұрын

When people complain about how terrible other people in this world can be it’s usually the same types of complaints that we hear, and they’re usually the traits of a person with some type of cluster B personality disorder (narcissists, borderlines, and antisocials in particular) and yet these are probably the least understood and least considered by the average person. Schools really should incorporate lessons on these as part of the regular curriculum in order to prepare young people for what they’re gonna run into in romantic relationships, jobs, and maybe even to help them to be able to cope better with their own family members

@mybackithurts7792

2 жыл бұрын

Maby I would have realized I was being abused before I was an adult

@paulaanderson2654

2 жыл бұрын

Y. E. S. They have health class...why not mental health class? Might even take some pressure off the less than adequate psychologist available to young people.

@Michelle-zl7tu

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! So many people would be able to begin to recognize a real problem before it is out of hand. If I had more info available to me, I would have been able to get my three boys and myself out much earlier.

"I don't care" is the best answer when the try to blackmail you. That destroy them.

@MH-cv5ye

3 жыл бұрын

Get a recording, and go to the cops.

@stevejames2566

3 жыл бұрын

I have found it the most satisfying!

@joinveronica5041

3 жыл бұрын

True

@1010QUEEN7

3 жыл бұрын

He hates when I tell him that ha ha ha lmao

@athensmajnoo3661

3 жыл бұрын

S. A. " I dont care " is the best thing to say to them..... It drives them crazy.....!!!

Hell hath no fury like MY SILENCE..

So true. I learned over time not to engage with the conversation that doesn't go anywhere. They will not even apologize when they are in the wrong! Walk away, try to focus on yourself.

@RebeccaZungEsq

Ай бұрын

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“whatever” with the calm walk away is the best weapon ever.

@JasonManners

2 жыл бұрын

Whatever can also be used by the narcissist. It depends on how it is used. Whatever is not always okay to say to people. Your dad tells you to cut the grass and you say whatever, then that isn't right either.

@daphneruthsebastian1244

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. It drives them, not you , up the wall.

@Respect2theFallen

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with Jason depends on person and if they are in presence of flying monkeys. My narc had a flying monkey with them and after I said whatever and walked away I was called rude even though they were accusing me of things and smearing my name.

@amandavest2854

2 жыл бұрын

@@Respect2theFallen I win!!!!

@justbeyourself8843

2 жыл бұрын

My ex boyfriend uses" whatever " on me. He is the narc and uses that when Im trying to talk about his addictions or somethingshameful. He watches videos as everyone else is the narc and plays the victim. I'm trying to understand this disorder. He definitely doesn't like it when I tell him I'm not playing his games. I win!

So many people are tragically affected by a narc for years without knowing there is such a thing.

@Mentalhealthmattersthemost

Ай бұрын

That was me!

@PatrickReese-oo2uf

Ай бұрын

I did not know nothing about it and wasted 7 years and my heart was destroyed, but I fought my way back. A lot of pain and tears of how I was done.

Ive always found it strange my narc dad literally could not stand to see people relaxing.

I won after 16 years of marriage. On the road to recovery and I’m feeling great Thank you for these great videos 😘

@angelofamillionyears4599

6 ай бұрын

Dennis. Check out the posts on here from Neville Goddard. He is inspiring and his books are experiencing a boom. Good Luck. :)

@petegdula4749

3 ай бұрын

God Bless you! I'm enjoying 20 years of freedom from the prior marriage of nearly 20 years that truly drove me to drinking. Rock on, Dennis!

@dennisbeekhuizen4225

3 ай бұрын

@@petegdula4749 Thank you. All the best to you and your recovery embrace every day take care of your health 👍

@Mentalhealthmattersthemost

Ай бұрын

🎉🎉🎉 that's great

“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. They will treat you so horribly, that you will become withdrawn & depressed & then they will turn around & say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.’” - Susan Williams✨☘️🙏

@celissewillis9399

Жыл бұрын

grey rocking has this affect as well. Once you accept the truth & protect yourSelf, then there's no need to wallow in depression. Then you just become mindful of interaction & pay attention to how they're trying to trigger a reaction or response from you... basically become boring to them, by not feeding them your emotions. When they can't manipulate your emotional state, then it's draining for them to be around... not the same type of drain that an empathic person goes through with a narc, but moreso, because they need your emotions & life force, to support their process.. if they can't get it like they once did, then they'll look for someone else to get it from.

@oftin_wong

Жыл бұрын

'they' ...will treat you etc. Not gender specific with narcissism

@evelina787

Жыл бұрын

@@oftin_wong Yes of course, 100percent concur with you :-Sorry i were just quoting *Susan Williams* Obviously, she's just sharing her own individual experiences which obviously, from her quotes, happened with a male:-However, i've ammended now to "they" My sincere apologies :-Hope lifes treating you extremely kindly ✨☘️🙏

@oftin_wong

Жыл бұрын

@@evelina787 wow a bit overboard on the apology I wasn't making a personal criticism at all. Thanks anyway but it's fine ...relax

@chardonnaybarlow4873

Жыл бұрын

Oh my God, literally my ex tried to ship me off to my family because he no longer wanted to be in the relationship with me I was so deep in a depression spiral. Literally said those words to me. He broke up with my right before Christmas and kept flip flopping. Accused me of cheating(even though he broke up with me?) And claimed that I didn't cherish, love or respect him. Took 7 break ups but better late than never!

I used to tell my ex. “Go tell the tree outside because it’s going to care more than I do “. He hated that. Lol. 23 years free. Thank you Jesus. Hallelujah

@Pyarpyarindia

2 жыл бұрын

Hallelujah 💕✨

@saraumar3295

2 жыл бұрын

LoL that's a funny one 😂

@shauniesmitem5515

2 жыл бұрын

SO HAPPY FOR U. U DO NOT KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT U GETTING OUT OF THAT TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. 😇😇😇

@shauniesmitem5515

2 жыл бұрын

U GO KIM. PRAISE JESUS.

@Prosper927

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Without words, what absolutely works the best is to genuinely laugh when they look at you, it makes their blood boil! It leaves the narcissist wondering what your laughing about, whether it be about them, your happiness, or just the mere fact fact that they have no inclination what the laughter is all about.

For every narcissis there's someone that needs to be with them.

@lisabowden402

2 ай бұрын

Yes, they’re flying monkeys. 🙊 The ones who believe them, and tend to be like them.

@laurabernard2094

Ай бұрын

So true…

@chadpfau7799

23 күн бұрын

Of course. Weak people love those that have a competitive spirit. But apparently that's bad.

No phrases needed, you walk away from them.

@bessyhill531

2 жыл бұрын

Too bloody right

@tomwright943

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely the most healthy thing to do my dude 😎👌

@teresasmith533

2 жыл бұрын

Just make sure you watch your back. They will attack you from behind like a coward.

@charlottehanna790

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Because they might try to kill you. Trust me.

@silvanaokedurum2813

2 жыл бұрын

Is easy to say , have many times to walk away but he use many reason to bring me back and manipulation deciving , God let me come out from this narsistic marriage

I've experienced four and a half years of being with a covert narcissist and this video concerns me very much. Most of the advice is severly triggering to a narcissist. This could easily push them over the edge. A narcissist pushed this far can be very dangerous, ether spontaneously or with premeditation. Do not try to provoke a narcissist but plan a careful exit from the relationship. Do not humiliate or cause them to lose face. Keeping yourself safe is paramount.

@debe-ol6cg

7 ай бұрын

Yes I completely agree. I'd feel sick after eating his food, scratches and dents in my car, laundry go missing off the clothesline and recently important letters missing, can't prove any of it was him

@gloriarangott8803

6 ай бұрын

​@debe-ol6cg The creep in my life right now has been doing exactly the same thing...drawers with woolen sweaters that were so full the drawer wouldn't close easily...now half empty Jewelry in the nightstand drawers gone...just empty jewelry boxes...tools gone, etc😢

@debracappiccille6485

6 ай бұрын

YES. My daughter is doing this to my husband and myself right now as we are trying to move away. Unbelievable things. Everything missing including things needed for our bad health. On top of verbally, emotionally, psychologically abusing us and threatening. This is very true and tragically sad.

@Lilione111

6 ай бұрын

I agree. Have to be very careful. My ex has lots of narcissistic characteristics & his dad was definitely NPD or possibly a sociopath. My exes mum told him to never tell his dad that he’s wrong because he will stab you while your in your bed 😳 so yes, you have to know who you’re dealing & if you’re not sure, it’s better play it safe. while my ex would flip with outbursts etc (we all know the signs) he was subdue & pretty quiet around his dad. Even he knew he could push his dad. Re: the ex…I’ve read before that some people can have learned narc traits from a parent, without being fully NPD themselves. Or he was just a more covert & had me more fooled & confused as to what he was 😆

@margaretadami6358

5 ай бұрын

I agree. Some of this would work possibly, and some would cause him to get even

I use each and one of those words against a Narcissist without knowing that they bother them, now I know why she was mad at me all the time and made my life a real hell

@nadinechomyn1076

22 күн бұрын

So true

“No” is HUGE!!! Be prepared for all hell to break loose when you say “no”.

@clintonnagy1662

Ай бұрын

Absolutely. She couldn't take the word NO. It drove her insane. Her son was even worse. I don't miss that brat. Thank God I'm away from that insanity.

@Mentalhealthmattersthemost

Ай бұрын

That part!😂

I feel the best way to deal with a narcissist, is to ignore them completely. They like to argue, so just cut the call. If they send nasty messages, block them. It's just too tiring to deal with them.

@susanberdan1626

10 ай бұрын

So right it's scary

@pip393

8 ай бұрын

In truth ignoring them really does work, but it does limit the potential somewhat for revenge. I prefer to counter their outrageous behavior with my own brand of eccentric peculiarities. It puzzles them and never fails to put them on kilter while providing me with so much fun. You can never however take them seriously, or you'll lend credence to their own internal sense of turmoil. Pissing them off is a lifetime pursuit of mine.

@debe-ol6cg

7 ай бұрын

​ hey so I can understand that. Mine's very controlling, manipulative, runs me down behind my back. His only nice to get his foot in the door. I've been sick many times from eating his food, things go missing off my clothesline, scratches n dents in my car, recently important letters went missing from mailbox but I can't prove any of it was him. He's so needy but I know he only wants a free ride from everyone, he's so fake it's ridiculous. Wish I never fell in love with him that's for sure.

@drtcs63

6 ай бұрын

@@IAintNobody1445 I agree wholeheartedly! I hope you have made it or will soon make it out of the relationship you refer to. I was with my abusive narcissist for a long time and through experience learned not to say the things that this video recommends. So I wouldn’t recommend that to you or anyone else. I’d go so far as to recommend not deliberately provoking anyone with mental health issues. You don’t know how bad their reaction will be. So for me the value of the video is in learning what not to say, and helping to understand the effect of (my or others’) words on the narcissist.

@RobToz2011

5 ай бұрын

Yes, they are so tiring to deal with. It’s exhausting. I finally learned that it’s best to ignore them. I’ve gone no contact with my brother. It’s been years now. I’m living in peace now.

I’m not with him anymore, that makes me the winner!

@candiceadams7477

2 жыл бұрын

Nice ! Such a difficult accomplishment but ot feels so good and things will look up from now on! Just don't fall for any Hoovers

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

You DEFINITELY are! ❤

So years ago I had a Supervisor that was requiring long hours and some weekend work based on demand and was not taking no for an answer or hiring additional staff. I finally blew up and told him late one night that it’s MY CHOICE whether I work the long hours as requested NOT the company (inferring him). I DECIDE WHAT I AM WILLING TO SACRIFICE IN MY LIFE! (Time or money) It was such a life changing event he talked about it years later to me like he still held it against me. He knew I was no longer his puppet for his promotion. Later he left the company and I took his position. I made sure I never treated anyone under me with such little regard for them or their family.

Thank you for this post. I’m trying to recover from a 10 year marriage to a woman that has been so controlling and getting worse each year . I refused divorce for many of those years. She would ask me several times over the years if I wanted a Devore . This year She told me that she wanted a divorce and this time I said yes she looked surprised because I always would say no Now we are divorced and just starting to realize that I was not the one with the problem . I do have a hard time trusting people now and will have to keep praying for help

@debe-ol6cg

7 ай бұрын

Talk to the elders at church

@tracybrasuell2470

6 ай бұрын

I get it! After that we feel like we could never ever trust or pick the right person. Mine can wear a mask for 10 years.

@Avigail06

5 ай бұрын

I’m going through that now. I agreed to Divorce now though.

@phengsysouphanthong6314

4 ай бұрын

10 years as well

@MrTrollbaby

4 ай бұрын

You are the help.

"Hell hath no fury like a narcissist scorned." So true. Freedom rules!

@shararosierose3133

Жыл бұрын

That is probably the worst divorce from a narcissistic family member, partner, friend, co-worker or anyone in which you engaged.

@Iarrived

Жыл бұрын

But👈🏽nothing can stand a chance against the forces of God.

@raven4090

Жыл бұрын

@@Iarrived Yes, but when it comes to narcissists, only God can help or change them. We're best off staying far away from them. They're possessed by demons. Only God can deal with that. I learned that the hard way.

@Iarrived

Жыл бұрын

@@raven4090 Well put sister.👏🏽Preaching to the choir. Nothing could be more truer.🙏🏽✝️❤️

@dawndominick2833

Жыл бұрын

So true. My daughter hung up on me on Christmas day in a rage because I told her that she was turning a blind eye to the truth because the truth didn't suit her (we were having "words" about a "certain medical thing"). My birthday was a couple of weeks later and she couldn't even be bothered to text me a b'day greeting. Well I guess she showed ME huh? We haven't spoken since. I wasn't sure what to do about it at first, but then I decided that it would be best to just stay away for now. Hmmmmmm.... sheesh, I never thought that she would be such a jerk to me--we used to be so close. Sigh. A lot of people seem to be experiencing this nowadays. The world is becoming full of narcissists (just look at social media). Hugs to all whose lives have been upturned by this unpleasant behavior.

The one which worked best for me "I'll never apologize for telling you the truth." The 17 year long silent treatment began that day and is going strong! Freedom!!!

@RebeccaZungEsq

10 ай бұрын

Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - icanslay.com

@debbievoss3496

10 ай бұрын

Yeah. That can penetrate Some !

@RiverRatSurfers

9 ай бұрын

I dealt with this tonight. Are you sorry, yeah why are you sorry, actually no I'm not at all sorry for saying the truth

@tjkasgl

9 ай бұрын

@@RiverRatSurfers Are you safe in your current circumstances? Do you have people who can help you?

@robynwaldo5565

5 ай бұрын

SAME HERE! My Ex was ALWAYS demanding I owed him an apology for something he did & that it was MY fault he did it... UM.. NO!

Any person can only "forgive" for their partners deceit, lies and manipulation so many times and each time you do, 1-your teaching them how much shit you put up with - which essentially is disrespecting yourself and ya own boundaries ...and 2- you lose a little bit of love and respect for ya Narc,...Ya Narc will KEEP going on with their Toxic behaviour, this goes on, till all "love" and respect is completely gone! Letting my narc go - was the best decision for my own wellbeing!

You've never dealt with the level of scum I am being put through. It's demonic.

@coudgeb

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately most of us have dealt with horrible levels of scum. I’m sorry you were hurt so badly. You never deserve that. ❤️❤️

@susankenny696

6 күн бұрын

My daught has 5 youngies n he puts her down calls her cu.t name ,tells her bad mother , he lies in bed till afternoons she comes home n goes back WHY ??

I’ve found it’s best not to engage with narcissists. I mostly just walk away! They hate it but it’s okay with me.

@MyVisualRomance

Жыл бұрын

Fuk em if they hate it. 😂

@penumbra8173

Жыл бұрын

Ye but how do u know someone is a narcissist on the first look?

@kantimj

Жыл бұрын

norway: they comes with many form(satan-devil-evil-with flying monkeys with tiny......!)

@broskichannel4163

Жыл бұрын

💯

@julietgover2832

Жыл бұрын

Stopped reacting to the catalyst remarks. When the narc is on the warpath, I withdraw into my own little area. This keeps the situation under control and is a mental saviour.

My narcissist is doing the silent treatment now, it’s great!!!!! The word salad when in rage mode is incredible.

@christielawrence4640

Жыл бұрын

It surely is!!

@rickkowalski2155

Жыл бұрын

Do fun stuff without the narc. Play Fu Manchu (loud, headphones if you are in appartment) when you get the silent treatment. Plan a date with the narc and when they decide at the last minute to not go, trying to control the situation, go yourself. If they do take you up in the date, walk out at the first sign of behaviour that is getting on your nerves. Dont say anything, and stick them with the bill. Let them find their own way home. Yeah, I've done these things. Yeah, it might make me a bit of a d*ck. But its better than sucking up. They will do you a huge favor by dumping you. You cant buy that kind of good fortune, run with it.

@Michelle-ld9vj

Жыл бұрын

Lol I get it gonna through the same thing

@iononcantomascrivo

Жыл бұрын

In their twisted minds, they think they are punishing us when they give us the silent treatment. In reality, the silence gives way to clarity as we are able to ponder how much less stressful our lives are without them invading our existences. That's what led me to do a list of pros and cons regarding my narcissistic former friend. Once I subtly went no contact with her, my stress level went way down. Naturally, she didn't notice till months later that I had cut her off completely. I'll spare you the soap opera that was her trying to recruit flying monkeys to spy on me to see if I was talking about her. I wasn't, but she was dead convinced she was so interesting I couldn't let her go. It was pathetic, really. For clarity, this was not a former love interest or even a girlfriend. She was just an older lady I was friends with and our relationship was purely transactional on her part. She flipped out and threw a tantrum that would have embarrassed her only grandchild. Just giving you an idea of how old she was when she realized she had lost me forever. Crazy woman.

@CristyB66

Жыл бұрын

It’s not YOUR narcissist.

This is great. Unfortunately my parents were somewhat narcissistic and told me that 'being nice is the right thing to do'. So, I totally fell for, annoyingly, more than one narcissist. Your words are all about having excellent boundaries. And it is really nice to hear good boundary words. It feels good to hear them, even better to say them. Narcissist hate boundaries!!

@Jane-yq6yq

4 ай бұрын

Same

My favorite phrase: "Because I said so." We all have the basic human right not to explain ourselves.

@gloriarangott8803

6 ай бұрын

Mine, recently, is "when you come in here to work, it's ALL ABOUT MEEEEE! and not at all about YOU I'm in charge...not YOU...I WRITE THE CHECKS!!!!😊

Thank you. I’ve just begun a divorce with a narcissist. I’m so relieved that I’m not going crazy.

@pamaladarsow2763

2 жыл бұрын

My daughter is about to file for divorce . This is such good advice . Watch all her videos if u can .Hang in there , you can get through this and finally have a peaceful happy life . Good bless

@mariacamarena2645

2 жыл бұрын

Me to!

@miltonaliff3316

2 жыл бұрын

@@pamaladarsow2763 my daughter also, prayers for yours and mine.

@VeroSCIA

2 жыл бұрын

How're doing Nina? I hope you're holding up OK, getting divorced is difficult regardless of the situation add a narcissist in the mix and let the emotional blackmail begin. Nina cut ties completely if you can, be gental with yourself and lean on others because they really do care about you. Believe what sincere people tell you, those that can you in the eyes without blinking for 3 seconds. Take care.

@candiceadams7477

2 жыл бұрын

Hang in there...its not easy but you have a community supporting you

In the calmest voice possible after she has tried to provoke me or guilt trip me: “Are you finished?” That worked so well. Once she saw I was completely indifferent to her and she wasn’t going to get anything out of me, she was completely shutdown. Two years free from her and life just keeps getting better.

@RebeccaZungEsq

10 ай бұрын

Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - icanslay.com

@gloriarangott8803

6 ай бұрын

Oh, I LOVE "are you finished" after a rage fit or a tirade😅

@MarkThomas-mf6zh

4 ай бұрын

Nice 😂

@carbonunit6573

4 ай бұрын

My wife knowing full well how much I hated looking for things would hide stuff on me. Like my wallet and other things. When she asked about the things that were missing I would just casually say yeah it’s missing and I don’t care because I know it will show up eventually. And it would.

Until recently I didn't know how to deal with a narcissist. Not knowing how to deal with them if they're in your circle is like hell

"Explain" is a great one for those narcissists who act purely on emotion they cannot control.

@RebeccaZungEsq

Ай бұрын

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My all-time favorite is to laugh sincerely and say, "You're funny!"

@candiceadams7477

2 жыл бұрын

I may be afraid of his reaction though

@jerrymartinez6700

2 жыл бұрын

Mine is they just talk over you and not let you say the truth

@Gracejmh1

2 жыл бұрын

I'm using that one tomorrow can't wait- 7years with a narcissist and just starting to learn what he is now I new something was wrong but finally have a term for it getting ready to leave-

@Gracejmh1

2 жыл бұрын

@@candiceadams7477 yuup

@candiceadams7477

2 жыл бұрын

@@Gracejmh1 so glad you are leaving and will eventually e able to live a normal life...whatever that is😉JK bit be aware because he will try wveeything to get you back! They are not the winner when you leave them!

I laughed out loud at the first one. I worked with a overtly narcissistic new hire. I quickly realized that he HATED when I would compliment other people, so I started doing it ALL THE TIME! The beginning of the end for him is when we got another new hire, and I would just gush about how great she was. He quickly imploded, and quit. True story.

@thehaverel3275

6 ай бұрын

That just sounds rude

@jamest2861

6 ай бұрын

You sound like the narcissist. Lol.

@tonyhudson8698

6 ай бұрын

YES two can play the game. YOU nor I have to tolerate the Narcs behavior and Over riding Often wins the day.. I AM BOSS in my World not the narc....

@user-ys7bv6ug6k

6 ай бұрын

Awesome story!

@winkyhere8697

6 ай бұрын

@@jamest2861 Actually, I was targeted by a covert "Mean Girl" style Narc at work. She had a little group of "flying monkeys" who joined her in bullying b/c it gave them a sense of belonging & Power. It was inevitably other gals she went after, never guys. No Sisterhood of mutual support exists in some women's minds, which is just sad. We'll only work our way towards equality *together.* I wasn't able to confirm what set her off, as far as her behavior towards me. I'm a hard worker & try to get along w/ *Everyone.* However, her tendency to reveal her *deep insecurities* by calling other gals "peacocks" if they received kudos of *any* kind leads me to think she felt threatened. I suspect I was targeted b/c I was selected as a newbie to hand out awards at a conference, while she ran slides instead. From then on, she made it clear that she *hated* me, while hiding her true nature from most others (esp anyone male & *above* our level). She went out of her way to make my office life *Hell* for 2.5 years, till I *finally* went to HR. I would have Loved it if 1 of our bosses had been a *real* leader & addressed her behavior *Much Sooner.* What pushed me to it was when a 3rd person quit b/c of her bullying. A black gal she targeted, in the midst of our DEI campaign. What *horrid* optics there, on top of the *shocking unfairness* of it all. Over the years, I *did* seek *candid guidance/advice* from a few of our departmental leaders (just the group I supported directly). I simply provided a few quick examples, then would ask "How best should I handle it?". The most *honest* response I got was "No one wants to tell her boss (our EVP), b/c he really likes her". Worst advice received was "Oh, you 2 girls need to just learn to get along" from a male superior. She's in her 40s, I'm in my 50's. I personally haven't identified as a "girl" in about 3 decades, but whatever. 🙄 I never fought back, didn't argue w/ her. I just *refused* to become 1 of her minions (she had a couple of those already). *Nor* would I join her in bullying others, which seemed to be her goal. I *helped* her other targets, instead, when I could (they were mostly new hires she was *supposed to* process-train but wouldn't). Otherwise, I simply became more introverted & went *"gray rock"* w/ her for my own sanity & job security. *Nothing* was done about it until I finally clued HR in to the fact that she'd driven 3 other employees to Quit (narcs *rarely* have just 1 target). She'd once stated to me in conversation that she "knew HR's job better than they did" and took it upon herself to "chase away anyone who doesn't fit in". So, I made sure that HR knew she was undermining their efforts, as well as wasting chunks of their hiring budget. When we add up the costs of advertising, interviewing & doing background checks/screenings, that comes to a fairly *significant* total cost per person. Esp when the company's struggling to cut costs to pay for ongoing IT projects. Now, that company's stock is *in the toilet* for the 2nd year in a row. The HQ office (our location) just *laid off* 50% of its staff. For the "survivors", there's a big "Win Trust" initiative to *improve morale & reduce turnover* throughout the company, nationwide. Just 1 narc employee in a high enough position can *wreak havoc.* It all starts at the Top, where co. culture is concerned, and spreads from there. Any firm that *allows* bullying will have an *uphill battle* when it comes to *repairing broken trust.* So, that's why I *Love* this poster's comment. *Real leaders* Don't allow that BS. Sadly, there are *too few* of those folks around, much of the time. People w/ the *gumption & Integrity* to stand up to unreasonable A-holes are my *heroes.* They recognize the dangers to the company, and *care enough* about their workforce to "take out the trash" before it *stinks up* the joint. It's a bigger challenge for those of us who grew up in chaotic homes w/ a narc parent. Bullying becomes *normalized,* to the point that we willingly take further abuse from others. (I only spoken up when I saw the impact on *other* Good people). Even w/ 4 years of therapy & a cross-country move, I *still* didn't escape the effects of early abuse. I belatedly realized that's *why* I'd put up w/ such treatment in this situation for as long as I did. *Never, ever again* will I stick around for *that* nonsense. I have a *strong allergy* to it now. Unfortunately, the widespread existence of *generational trauma* has us living in a world full of *broken people.* That makes the *heroes* who nip that 💩 in the bud *all the More valuable.* *HOORAY FOR THEM!!* 😃

Once I realized WHAT I was speaking with I started to just say NO; it’s a complete sentence…followed by calling them out each time lies came out, whenever speaking, it was a lie. Took 2 weeks and so far, so good in the no contact👍 They do not just dislike, they actually HATE. It’s the darkest energy to be around. Sad humans as I can not physically be around my friend’s 94 yr old narc mom. She’s only the 3 female narc I’ve met & able to protect myself. Narcs love empaths but have problems with us empaths that are also highly intuitive 😎

Another example is when people say they are speaking "Their" truth, because that phrase gives narcissists an out, in (their) mind, but unfortunately in today's society, people have bought into the idea that a persons truth is automatically to be accepted, but the error in that is, that a persons truth, is Not always "The Truth", and/or reality.

@ebonyfrost1875

2 ай бұрын

❤

@UBenHad

2 ай бұрын

I agree and even if they are confronted with the truth THEY REFUSE TO ADMIT THEIR ERROR!! AND FORGET ABOUT AN APOLOGY!!!

@clintonnagy1662

Ай бұрын

I agree. They believe their own crap, then argue and deny. It's exhausting. Just go away...

I've apologized to a narcissist because I was in the wrong and he still managed to make me feel like shit for it. For the apology

@dutchess263

3 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate

@ylarrymore

3 жыл бұрын

That is what they do. Just know the universe heard you ❤

@MH-cv5ye

3 жыл бұрын

Being punished for doing good.

@lorilee698

3 жыл бұрын

Because it makes them feel small because they Never apologize. So instead they try to make you feel small!!

@lorilee698

3 жыл бұрын

Because it makes them feel small because they Never apologize. So instead they try to make you feel small!!

They cannot stand the word, “Whatever.” Which is very close to what Rebecca said about “I don’t care.”

@lookupthereupinthetrees9860

2 жыл бұрын

One of my daughters says "cool" every-time mum threatens or takes something away from her. She has to pay a fine when she says it though.

'You're wrong' , with proof instantly triggers gaslighting with the narc I know. '.... but that is what I was saying. You are the one who got it wrong'.

They hate anything that prevents the biggest bully from becoming the greatest victim.

Narcissists live for having control in the moment. If saying one thing one minute then saying the opposite the next keeps them in control, they'll do it.

@FC-hj9ub

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, completely contradictory. No wonder I used to think it was some kind of bipolarity

@1010QUEEN7

3 жыл бұрын

He knows he can't control me and is always afraid that if I start fussing with him he can't win I out fuss him every time I told him the other day to go eat a shit sandwich he kept quiet for the rest of the week lol

@pashakdescilly7517

3 жыл бұрын

@Gemma Dann I don't know how old your daughter was at the time, but I wonder what his response would have been if she had had a 'wee' accident.... Been there. My father screamed at me for hours on end, at least once a week, for at least three hours. Best response is to escape, by whatever means possible.

@pashakdescilly7517

3 жыл бұрын

@Gemma Dann with people like that, 'no contact' is the only effective response. That means no intermediaries who can play flying monkey games.

@pashakdescilly7517

3 жыл бұрын

@Gemma Dann Thwarted marcissists get very determined. I emigrated.

Narcists are crazy! Period..

@Wau12345

2 жыл бұрын

More than that. They are rotten.. 😭😭

@jcbanbury

2 жыл бұрын

@@Wau12345 yes 🤮🤮🤮

@juliemiller9760

2 жыл бұрын

@@jcbanbury . . .and usually drunk (my tormenter sister)

@sausage6984

2 жыл бұрын

@@juliemiller9760 there is often substance abuse with narcs, usually alcohol and or weed. They do it for escapism because they have extremely low emotional intelligence.

@laurabernard2094

Ай бұрын

Evil is more like it!

Just on the word 'no', the narcissist will automatically assume you don't really mean it or are incapable of carrying it out. So as a ploy they might play with you on that, or punish you harder. But saying 'no' in an in-your-face way is language they understand.

I told them all to my narcissist ex friend and ex boss! Without knowing they hated them!😂 He liked none of them! Got mad, angry, tried pleading, harsh unfair comments, even tried tears as he could see I was drifting away! It all built up to a final clash and I just walked away in silence... Of course, I was the villain! That was a month ago. Recovering slowly from the destruction, stress and injustice. Putting the pieces back together, licking my wounds. A great many comments ring a bell in me, namely the fact that they can't stand to see you laughing or even talking to other people. It simply drives them crazy! A million thanx for this post, very relevant and helpful! 👍🙏

You need to be very careful when leaving a narcissist. My ex-husband became very dangerous once he realized I saw through his facade. I was afraid he would kill me or my kids. I got the help of a psychologist who knew how dangerous a narcissist is to help me navigate through getting him out of the house. As tempting as it is, it isn't a good idea to piss off a narcissist.

@pamelabarone5868

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed my dog was stabbed

@joeygirl314

2 жыл бұрын

It’s TRUE…my sister escaped - initially - she left him (her husband) then went into a battered women’s shelter with her doggie 🐶. He didn’t like that AT ALL. She was getting her life back together, then about a year later, this POS tracked her down: hE FOUND HER - a *bloody narcissist* shot my sister in the head, then dismembered her and burned the place down. 💔😖😫😩 Luckily for my family, the COWARD also did himself in before setting the fire…10 January of this year was the 30th “anniversorry” of one of the worst days of my entire life…💔💔 I never learned what happened to her ‘Bandit’ (short-legged, cutie-pie, happy little mutt😉 with a ring around his one eye like “Peetie” (“Peety?”🤔) from the “Little Rascals”)…🥺 No doubt he was there, too…😖😥

@samreynolds3789

2 жыл бұрын

Some folks CARRY & NOT AFRAID to Defend! Narcissists KNOW , WHO NOT to THREATEN

@tamarac7587

2 жыл бұрын

I was terrified my last husband would kill me. Thankful.. I'm breathing and free from his control.🙏🌈

@pamelabarone5868

2 жыл бұрын

@@samreynolds3789 agreed

Before I knew my husband was a narcissist or knew anything about narcissists, I found myself doing these exact things. But, I felt driven to do these responses to preserve my sanity.

@cordeliadaniels7737

3 жыл бұрын

Dear Sally , I always asked my hubby , why did you marry me ? I am not a push over !

@tamarac7587

2 жыл бұрын

I left my ex when I noticed I too was exhibiting learned bad behavior. It was not me anymore. Got.. ME back and love myself to the moon and back🙏

@kathleenclark138

2 жыл бұрын

Married a man who read the Bible eight times and had preacher's license when he took me home after a honeymoon he really couldn't afford pressured me for the piddly thousand dollars I had in my savings account that I had long before I ever met him I was told I was selfish self-centered a b**** I was devastated crushed and then I took an incredible violence and was told that it didn't happen or it did happen but it was my fault I'm 130 lb this guy is 260 lbs I'm the one who started it I tried to hit him it was devastating to the core but it was interesting to be taken home from a honeymoon and told you have health insurance now you can see a psychiatrist I was very confused I thought we were going to be Christians that believed in the word of God and that God didn't give me a spirit of fear but love power and a soundclear thinking mind. BeRated me constantly about if anyone cheats it'll be me and it kept it up and kept it up and I come to find out this guy had a hidden lust when is showed it's ugly head, wow had I just been tricked I had just been tricked out 12 years of my life by religious hypocrites it was most mortifying. And I was robbed for as much as possible done to a defenseless woman. I found the law the wrong ignorant Church heads provoked and incited this person to do even more damage to me and the children involved. Nothing but a hoax I swear on my life nothing but a hoax.

@raven4090

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Then I finally realized saying anything to them is a waste.

@lynda676

Жыл бұрын

Me too

Sounds like what my mom did! Walk right into our house, while I’m in the shower, into the bathroom, walk also to my work area, in the back of a Restaurant, thinking she could, etc etc etc! Have a VERY LONG LIST, of what she did and would do! Don’t have to worry abt that anymore! I HAVE MY OWN LIFE!!!

After 40 years of this monsters torture, coldness & cruelty, I am so ready to win. It just hurts so badly. How can I even notice this excruciating pain after all these years, why am I not used to it???

@ebonyfrost1875

2 ай бұрын

You will be ok Remember when Charlie Baltimore almost died in A Long Kiss Goodnight Her daughter ran to her side and shout with all her heart GET UP U CAN DO IT. LIVE. ❤❤❤

My mother was a narcissist, my childhood was all screwed up. It took years of therapy to confront all the problems I had because of her. Today, I refuse to allow another narcissist in my life, even to the point of blocking my own granddaughter, which she thought was just awful and her words to me were, "You're going to die a lonely old woman" I'm not alone, I have other family and friends who care.

@125varma

2 жыл бұрын

You are a winner and I salute you for that :)

@margiehenson2440

2 жыл бұрын

I 🏆 IWIN!!!!!!.......

@monaestewart4591

2 жыл бұрын

Ahh! Winner! Winner! Chicken dinner😊!...ENJOY! Shalom❤️💜❤️

@sandyo1063

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it is better to be alone than to be around a Narcissist.

@rogerweatherman8349

2 жыл бұрын

One of my sisters told me the same thing when I avoided her. It is confusing and hard to do, while listening to your conscience.

I have a lead hand that is a text book narcissist. I’ve been dealing with his tantrums and head games for years. The easiest way to deal with a narcissist at work is don’t deal with them, anything other than the job at hand there’s no conversation with him. No “good morning”, basic conversation or “good bye have a good night”. I’ve walked away while he is in mid conversation as soon as I realized it had nothing to do with work. Problem solved

REBECCA I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH IT IS MY FIRST TIME WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS SO INFORMATIVE YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE IS SECOND TO NONE AND I SAY THAT ONLY BECAUSE YOU ALSO ARE A ATTORNEY THAT SAYS A LOT ABOUT YOU INTELLIGENT AND GORGEOUS ❤

People who are with a narcissist want quiet and softer videos

@susanwright4414

Ай бұрын

Thank you. I have a headache...

So true! I have text messages, videos and he still says not true. He is so twisted in his fake self it’s insane. It’s like split personality. He says he’s never lied lol…

@rosemadder5547

3 жыл бұрын

Same. Even charged in court for elbowing me in the face: that not true. Never happened. Headbutted me in the face in front of 3 friends? They are liars and it never happened. Must have been dreaming...... just insane.

@angelapitts2123

3 жыл бұрын

I've noticed all narcissist say they never lie. Saying that is a lie

@123arrrggggg

2 жыл бұрын

I know what you're saying. I had that too. Well God my ex's dirty mail. At least I have what God gave me. Joy. I'll laugh at the enemy's face because people that don't live for God do things contrary to scripture. My ex boyfriend. I laughed when he thought otherwise..

@danishgirl4781

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, HUGE split personality! It is so disgusting and gets so old.

@55nfabulous

2 жыл бұрын

I have video too and he said it’s not him. I’m in the video with him 🤦🏻‍♀️ Ty for sharing. It’s that insanity that think we never figure out. It does take a while to figure it and then out but when we do and finally do something about it, it turns on them and they Freak out! And it scrambles their psychotic crap! Man, when I turned it on him, my narc ex, it reminded me of that scene in Austin Powers with the chick bots blowing up 😂🤣😂😆😆👍👍👍

I used to say “Ask me if I care.” He hated that lol 😂

@florenceoztas6186

3 жыл бұрын

Nice one !

@MaryOKC

3 жыл бұрын

The one thing I never liked was “oh well” ... it was a huge response to everything back in the mid 80’s.

@athensmajnoo3661

3 жыл бұрын

Thats a good one!!!

@suzannebunbury2961

3 жыл бұрын

Woooo hoooo good one.

@Napsteraspx

3 жыл бұрын

I'd tell them, " Don't start." Diffuses the situation before it starts.

Well put Rebecca, try to prove them WRONG, controdict them, the calm way with actual facts. Thank you Rebecca.

WOW!!!!! This explains sooo many "whys" of monsters that had been in my life. Thank you!!!!!!!

The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference or "I don't care"

I won! I'm free of the narcissist that almost drove me to insanity! God bless you all and have a wonderful holiday season!

@RebeccaZungEsq

10 ай бұрын

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@DR-sd2mu

4 ай бұрын

Congratulations! It’s not easy for sure but so worth it.

Rebecca, a gift for all of us who are facing Narsissist amongst us today . It's saving grace for Royal Family especially during this festive season. A big TQ. Merry Christmas. Octogenarian.

I once worked for a guy who checked every box of being a narcissist. One day he was throwing a HUGE temper tantrum for no reason (as usual) so I just left because I refuse to accommodate that type of behavior. Especially from a 60+ year old man.

I wish I’d known all this when divorcing a bipolar narcissist twenty years ago. I’m glad you are educating people. 👏

@myvbeatsbabygirl1475

2 жыл бұрын

Me 2

@shararosierose3133

Жыл бұрын

It's great you knew that it was wrong enough to get away from that person even though there wasn't a term coined for that mental issue at that time.

@ddee7307

Жыл бұрын

Me to! It took 15 years after leaving the narc to finally get him out of my life

@gerrycelotto561

Жыл бұрын

Ditto! 24 yrs ago he’d been arrested for the 3rd time and managed to manipulate the system n secured a divorce attorney to assist him. It was a 23 yr marriage nearly destroying me. That was 24 yrs ago, we lost our USMC youngest son who ran away from him/us to the marines because of the narcissistic turmoil was relentless, my WASband continues to try to mess with me by messing around with/AT our deceased son’s grave. I can write a book, however, back then it seems the system was ignorant to NARCISSISM…thank God for affective therapy ….

@ddee7307

Жыл бұрын

My experience with courts, divorce, children was that the so called professional people just accepted his threatening, bulling manipulative behavior and gave him what he wanted for fear he would make further complains about them. It was an horrendous time. If professionals can't stand up to a narc with no prior involvement with them and further the unsubstantiated smear and vendetta against the victims then these useless professional people should be held to account and struck off!!

Here are the predicators for narcissism: Selfishness + fear of abandonment = Jealousy

@cherylwitt4075

3 жыл бұрын

I think their funny

@ylarrymore

3 жыл бұрын

That's the ingredients to the secret sauce right there!

@kaydennard7105

3 жыл бұрын

ABSOLUTELY!

@shirleycolee1

3 жыл бұрын

@Esoterique I think the Cluster B personality disorder overlap. Narcissistic, Borderline, Sociopathic, Hysteronic - all shallow selfish bullies with no empathy

@suzannecartercarter6930

2 жыл бұрын

Yep all of those are my partner

Rebecca ,Thank you for this informative talk! Very helpful!😊😊

Like a breath of fresh air, thanks Rebecca - I’ve got a boss like that and I somehow learned to use a lot of those tactics to mess with his head and keep mine clear. Reassuring to hear you articulate them so beautifully. To be honest, I was just defending myself at first, but now I kinda enjoy it.

Everything you say is true. ..... Took me 18 years to leave my narcissist husband ( Im 12 years living my life alone and loving it) .....

@nancyfriedmankeynotespeake1473

10 ай бұрын

My DiL was labeled as borderline personality disorder . Nope full blown narcissist!

There is one more phrase they hate and that’s “whatever “. From my experience with narcs it shows that this one is the worst 😱

@furtherahead5867

3 жыл бұрын

I agree totally. Mine always says NO NOT WHATEVER. It's my go to saying 👍

@cherylwitt4075

3 жыл бұрын

Yes ma'am he is

@catlady6938

3 жыл бұрын

My ex would say “whatever” and I hated it, he must have known I hated it if he hated it too.

@kmc9662

3 жыл бұрын

They hate hearing it just as much as they love saying it.

@gionagrace3343

3 жыл бұрын

Anita..I totally agree. Saying WHATEVER is like a fork in their eye. They see stars. Their twisted warped minds have no way to respond to that because it throws them into a state of confusion. They can not figure it out when you say it. Its perfect because all they want to hear is the word YES!

100% spot on with every single one of these. My dad has flipped t.f. out anytime I've done any of these.

@RebeccaZungEsq

26 күн бұрын

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Rebecca, you were spot on! I have dealt with a narcissist for a few years now, and seriously I thought I was going crazy at first. Nothing was ever his fault. He was always wiser, and I just really needed to take his advice because he knew better, in his own head anyway. In the beginning, we had no arguments because he would just tell me how amazing he was, what my flaws were and that was that. Eventually that changed and the arguments ensued. We lived under the same roof and it got so bad that I refused to acknowledge him, which he had a whole melt down about. He literally broke down yelling and screaming that I wasn’t saying hello to him. And then it got worse later on when I started defending myself against his regular attacks on my character. I began making it clear that he was wrong, that he had more than a few shortcomings, and that his life wasn’t anywhere near as amazing as he believed it was. We finally got to a place where he started avoiding me, which came after I made it clear that I don’t give a crap! I just simply did not care anymore and it confused him because he is so awesome in his own mind.

@RebeccaZungEsq

Ай бұрын

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@m998hmmwv7

3 жыл бұрын

Narcissist didnt get the memo.

@zebeart8808

3 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@bekaharrell3885

3 жыл бұрын

Mine tried to kill me repeatedly.

@bekaharrell3885

3 жыл бұрын

@Gemma Dann mine was a covert malignant, demon possessed parent. Went no contact 8 years ago and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done! Prayers for all of us!!!

@bekaharrell3885

3 жыл бұрын

@Gemma Dann oh they’ll never just go away I’m afraid. The only way you’ll get away from them is if you make the decision that no matter what happens you’re leaving and not looking back. RUN don’t walk away and SLAM the door in their Face!! You can’t help them as they’re perfect in their own minds. They’re incapable of love as that actually requires giving and they’re demon possessed and evil and only care about sucking their environment dry of all energy. True parasites. They’ll fight tooth and claw to keep their hooks in you. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain better getting as far away from them as possible and they’ve got everything to lose if you’re successful in learning to leave them behind and start your healing process. It’s not easy. Prayers and love for us all!!!

I typed a huge response the other day then deleted it all and sent “K”. I WIN!💞Thank you for all you do re: awareness

@tonytentoesdown6428

3 жыл бұрын

GOOD GIRL.

@jasminea7828

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, another good one to annoy them is “o tru” lol

@dvawva5197

3 жыл бұрын

Very good. Now I've got to start doing the same.

@angelal1096

3 жыл бұрын

@@dvawva5197 7

@kimberlys.7097

3 жыл бұрын

Be careful they take this as a challenge to make you more unhappy and more abused. I hope your away from them physically doing this.

Incredible information can’t wait to try this out

Very interesting indeed, thank you Rebecca. ❤❤

@RebeccaZungEsq

Ай бұрын

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“I don’t care” falls in line with my personal favorite “Whatever” … It absolutely drives them crazy.

@RebeccaZungEsq

10 ай бұрын

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@Imaginaryspread

4 ай бұрын

My husband would just use it on me at some point like he waiting to use it

When finally he hit me after 8.5 years he told me he wanted me to just shut the f. up and had to hit me to shut me up. Ha. I. Win. I left and been free for almost 2 years

@wendylucas6557

3 жыл бұрын

You should have called the police

@carolbell4811

3 жыл бұрын

And STAY FREE!!!!!!!!

@nickblokland4680

3 жыл бұрын

Yes they like to get physical , then tell lies to authority , she called police ,, pokicee asked me shall we take her away ! Lol

Love your program immensely! My other is a malignant narcissist, and all of our lives have been sheer hell throughout our lives! So awful! Thank you so much!

@RebeccaZungEsq

26 күн бұрын

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Absolutely agree I have been with someone for 10 years and your spot on. I’ve always thought there’s something not right and now I can see it we’re not together and everything you said is exactly the way they are Jenny thank you.

Ironically, he didn't like the words "lie, passive aggressive, gaslight, self loathing" when he was draped in all of those

"I'm sorry you feel that way" and "I agree to disagree" always drove the narcissist in my life to lose his mind

@jamesarmstrong4179

2 жыл бұрын

Michelle Reed,You look stunning,I hope you are not with a narcissist......

@jerrysanders9101

2 жыл бұрын

As well as .. ghosting them.. absolutely zero response. That gets them the WORST.

@ebriggs3498

2 жыл бұрын

Yup! You’ve acknowledged their opinion but not given in!

@flaircraft

2 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely. The controller in my life absolutely refuses to "agree to disagree". Stated that it was only for little things like favorite flavor of ice cream, not for meaningful stuff. Also absolutely hates when I say "I'm sorry you feel that way". Acts like it's the worst insult rather than the empathetic statement intended.

@Ashdaesq

2 жыл бұрын

I once made the mistake of suggesting of agreeing to disagree…whew!!!! That was when I experienced narc rage. He got up in my face like he was going to hit me

10:22 "And so if they don't perceive you to be 100% for them and giving them every minute of attention every second of the day immediately when they want it them obviously you're against them." This is so true. My narc family member calls all the time and if I don't answer they get pissed at me. Even if I text them back and tell why I can't answer and even apologize for not answering I get the silent treatment from them for a couple weeks. It's the most controlling behavior. I MUST answer and respond the way they want or it's a huge issue. Currently I have gone no contact with them not because I am strong but because I simply couldn't take the mental abuse anymore and decided I have to stop putting up with it.

@lonniedj

6 ай бұрын

BEING A TYPE A PERSONALITY, IF MY FAMILY TREATED ME THAT WAY, I WOULD FORGIVE THEM AND THEY WOULD NEVER HEAR FROM ME AGAIN. MY DAD FOUND THAT OUT THE HARD WAY.......🤔

Dr Carter says this is a good reply. "I must refuse." I won.

@cherylwitt4075

3 жыл бұрын

I know I have won

@suzannebunbury2961

3 жыл бұрын

Classy. 👑

I knew on the first date. We went to a restaurant and I thought he was smiling at me. I smiled. No response. I turned around to see what he could be looking at. There was a giant mirror in back of me. He was smiling at himself. It was shocking!

@kaylove7362

4 ай бұрын

I’m sorry it’s not funny at all but I’m dead😂 I’ve had something similar happen

@zerospecs2331

2 ай бұрын

Please tell me you're joking 🤦 smh

@Technician_One

2 ай бұрын

In the first few weeks of my getting to know a woman -- who I painfully came to understand over the next six years -- as an extremely abusive _covert_ AND over time also an _overtly_ (& sickeningly) _overt_ narcissist, I was ordered to place mirrors in several places in my living room so that she could _watch herself_ dancing. I was uncomfortable already with her that evening & was not even close to being in any mood for dancing at all. She did not ever care whatsoever about _anyone_ except herself. Ever.* *In the years after being ordered to put up mirrors for her literally narcissistic self-adoration, I learned that she had had 8 abortions some 40 years before we met... & she had driven 2 men to suicide. A real-life monster with an unbelievably manipulative & devious personality. When I hear people talking about merely "narcissistic" people, it often sounds to my recovering soul like something of an understatement. People with bonafide _narcissistic personality disorder_ are leagues beyond just "selfish people" acting in their own best interest ! But I have come to learn that the only people who can really understand the NPD mindset are those who have had direct experience with such monsters. Even therapists, "Doctors" even, are not actually trained to help _victims_ of long-term, insidious & truly sickening narcissistic abuse. It feels good to be able to vent _just a tiny bit_ of this here with you who have shared the pain.

@Mentalhealthmattersthemost

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@josephmeador1529

3 күн бұрын

My ex wore out my passenger side car sun visor to the point it hung by a thread because it had a mirror on the back of it

Omg! I needed to find you!! You are absolutely amazing! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! “ I WIN”🥇 🏆🙌

@RebeccaZungEsq

Ай бұрын

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I liked these. Helps for both self reflection to moderate any narcissistic tendencies of my own, as well as helping to notice and confirm narcissistic traits in others. Helps me be sure im not one, and to decide what kind of people im dealing with. Narcs tend to be really good at acting lol

@sharon70418

6 ай бұрын

I'm doing the same. Don't want their behaviour rubbing off on me.

#11. They most hate SILENCE when they’re ‘gaslighting’ you. Just stay silent & wait ‘til they exhaust their rant. Respond only, when they ask you a ‘legitimate / genuine’ (not sarcastic) question about you.

My narcissist knows that I'll shine a light on them in front of everyone else at work if they dare treat me badly. They've left me alone since. I've embarrassed them publicly multiple times.

@ebonyfrost1875

2 ай бұрын

That doesn’t work. People need to stop running and expose they ass right there in front of people

Thank you, your so right. Thank you ❤️😊

Thank you for sharing your insight.