You know what? When you finally get unhooked from these beings, your senses come alive, your brain relaxes, your heart calms, and you start enjoying things you always knew you liked - the small, simple things in life you were not allowed to experience, feel, get to know.

@tedschmitt178

3 жыл бұрын

Amen, amen, amen!

@PfeifferProductions

3 жыл бұрын

Yes Angela! I dropped every narc, moved across the country for a new job and life in November 2020, and feel truly happy and alive for the first time in over a decade. When I called my non narc sister recently, she said how much better and happier I sound, just in a short simple conversation. Be true to yourself, leave your abusers behind, move on with YOUR life, and stay strong warriors! We got this, peace.

@JackieSuz917

3 жыл бұрын

you don't need drugs or alcohol 🤪🤯 you be free! @ ✌

@katydid594

3 жыл бұрын

How I wish I could leave...😥

@selenem3384

3 жыл бұрын

@Whoreally Cares narcs are rarely in control of anything in their real life, so they target weak people to control, to get a feeling of control over their own life which is normally totally out of control

It's really a disgusting but sobering thought to think that there's certain people in this world that believe that my weakness, insecurities, and vulnerability are fuel for their "power" or "success". God help us..

@sage9836

3 жыл бұрын

I felt a little less self-condemning when I learned they zero in on people who tend to be gentle, kind, and ready to get along. I used to beat myself all up over being codependent, weak, and stupid, but that did me no good. Now I think, I was a nice, hard working, naive person who just really wanted a friend more than anything. No more beating myself up.

@YaggiAnomolous

3 жыл бұрын

@@sage9836 i relate to that very much. I hope I can find more wisdom to abstain from self sabotage.

@krisztina442

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, certain people behave like predators. They know that I'm a prey when they feel my good energy and vulnerability. They know on some subconscious level that they would never have a chance to have that good energy and to be authentic, etc (whatever they are jealous of) so they try to destroy the prey. The prey represent an enemy in their twisted world... This video might help but as I see it, the major problem is that in a new situation I don't know the person in front of me. By the time I know that I face a narcissist, I will have revealed too much of myself...

@lynnfincham6839

3 жыл бұрын

Austin once you recognise this kind of behaviour once it makes you guarded... but that’s not a bad think as you will always be kind and loving but you will be wiser ❤️

@wheelerpat8

3 жыл бұрын

Krisztina G. This is why I love Jane Austen movies/books. Just about every story she wrote is about learning a person’s character before becoming intimate...as you would with a close friend or partner.

They push you to a point of reacting emotionally then sit back and smirk and feed on your reaction. Its all over their face, eyes twinkling with excitement over what they have caused. makes me sick to think about past interactions

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

It's called the Gotcha game. Dr. C

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

True That

@DangerousWillie

Жыл бұрын

I've seen it called baiting. Baiting you into defending yourself, explaining, arguing whatever it is they're looking for & then they gaslight & play the victim about how abuse your behavior is. Once I learned this I started calling it out by name to my narc & it caused her to shut down & walk away because her game was exposed.

@EastmanEditing

Жыл бұрын

This is one of the things that still triggers me to think about. That smirk and gleam in their eyes...ugh. And how "crazy" and "dramatic" I would feel afterward for defending myself in front of others. They would never bait me like that one on one...only as soon as someone else or many other people were around. Then suddenly, it was open season.

@bambulion

Жыл бұрын

True

“Think for yourself, or others will think for you without thinking of you.” - Henry David Thoreau

@gloriaforzaglia982

3 жыл бұрын

Very good and very true.

@legalservices8856

3 жыл бұрын

good one! never heard that before but love Thoreau!

@princessdiamond123

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, this good! 🥳thanks💕

@audreypistor4610

3 жыл бұрын

Love that so so true...

@melanieknowles7002

3 жыл бұрын

You think for yourself. Make good decisions. Sucessful career. Then the sick insecure narc goes behind your back and manipulate everything for him. Then again you have to create order out if his chaos. Then you kick him in the teeth and cut his supply forever.

When you are true to yourself they go even harder at trying to destroy you because they actually hate you for those special qualities that you have. Such cowards these fools are. Empty vessels👹

@joannadavignon3166

3 жыл бұрын

Empty vessels that believe a four year college experience is better than their children being able to choose their own path of experience

@notagain779

3 жыл бұрын

Elaine James, It seems to provoke them if you have a natural confidence in yourself.

@elainejames6942

3 жыл бұрын

You are spot on. My nar x would always try to make me feel bad about my job because it was taking to much attention away from him and my job was working with children . Give me a break. Such big ass babies 😬

@Cat-sx6ep

3 жыл бұрын

Right I am tired hearing we are weak the narc use deception until we finally gathered our thoughts we recovered What so strong about using manipulation lies and other ruthless tactics to make someone your victim

@JackieSuz917

3 жыл бұрын

dealing with this now because i dared to call them out on their superioroity complex i've seen all my 57-years of livin....😱

That sinking but sobering feeling you get when you realise you have nearly every weakness that narcs seek out in a victim...😬😰

When we become good with ourselves on the inside and we learn to have strong boundaries we stop being a fuel tanker for narcissists.

@Mysikrysa

3 жыл бұрын

When you want to establish the boundaries with the narcissist, they hate you even more because you dared to shatter their kingdom of absolute power.

@carolnahigian9518

3 жыл бұрын

amen!

@sage9836

3 жыл бұрын

The fuel tanker cpmparison vividly depicts how a relationship with a narcisist works!

@19tams67

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mysikrysa i just came down to the comments to ask about that. The more that I take care of myself, the more I get the house exactly the way he wants it, it seems like it has gotten sooooo much worse. Ohmygoodness! Every single night for 3 weeks straight. He took a couple days to be nice, then here we are again. 😑

@marywilsonvocalist2181

3 жыл бұрын

i resent the term we..

3:26 1. You don't speak plainly or openly about who you are 4:14 2. You constantly feel the need to appease 4:43 3. You feel the need to justify your choices/actions 5:22 4. You're easily tense or anxious 6:01 5. In public, you do a good job of covering up dysfunctions 6:47 6. You're easily motivated by guilt 7:28 7. You may argue, but in the end your assertions are weak 8:04 8. Your moods are too dependent upon others 8:45 9. You're often in a bad mood 9:18 10. You may ask questions, but you don't make declarations

@deena3003

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listing😊

@sunkissedheart347

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks!!!!!

@Dixieland-kj4yu

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@radiant1583

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you for taking the time to make this list because I was able to take a screenshot to save and look back on later 👍🏾😁💯💜

@sunkissedheart347

3 жыл бұрын

@@radiant1583 me too!

Thirty years ago I was weak and vulnerable. They fed off my grief issues that created weaknesses and vulnerabilities. Not now. I am redeemed.

Rigidly authoritative parents are inherently narcissistic. Not those who demand and maintain order, but those who interpret any independence or pushback from their kids as treasonous. Absolute authority, even for a parent, is dangerous to a child's growth. The child learns to navigate under the auspices of being dominated. The children don't grow up to assert themselves and are usually underachievers. Authoritarians are thin-skinned, egotistical, and feel easily challenged. I know. I grew up under one.

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

I had two narcs for parents... Overt & Covert

@cindylong624

Жыл бұрын

Narc parents intentionally stifle their kids to keep them dependent. Kids need to have outside interests, friends,etc and the narc parent sees that as a threat to their agenda.

I did All of these things, then I discovered 'assertion', calm and speak from the heart without aggression or spite.... The narcissist exploded and then ghosted and finally melted into the background. I have ME back 😌

@komododragon4242

2 жыл бұрын

Mine served me papers. She wanted out. I started finding the old me and she was loosing ground fast. Her smear campaign was and still is ferocious. BUT, my network is strong and resilient. She wanted more kids. We have 8. I said no and got a vasectomy. She flipped out. Said she'd turn our current kids against me. That was three years ago. She filed the 9th of Aug. I think she found a new supply that will give her what she wants. Hell she may be pregnant now.

@angelaatwood46

Жыл бұрын

@@komododragon4242 Omg....she wants more kids... 😂

Any guidance from mr c is like wearing a suite of armour emotionally ... guarded , wiser and protected 💕

@Philsmith151

3 жыл бұрын

damm straight

@Valentina-Steinway

3 жыл бұрын

YESSSSS @ Lynn Fincham. This man saved my life.

@mdee860

3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Carter is the best, so WISE & wise about these creeps.

@Derlet30

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! 💪😊

@Positivevibes6238

3 жыл бұрын

Yes,me too.Dr.L.Carter gives me courage to stand firm through his videos,I am so thankful.God bless him.

Giving fuel for their soul drains mine!

@Texasboots

3 жыл бұрын

Nicely said, and so accurate.

@selenem3384

3 жыл бұрын

@Whoreally Cares preach!!!

@donnafoley9684

3 жыл бұрын

My gas station is closed!!!!!

@tauruswinds37

3 жыл бұрын

They drain everything

@beverlywilliams5188

2 жыл бұрын

I do feel drained

Empaths should take one moment and try to look at the world through a narcissist's eyes, it's horrifying and un-relatable. These are real life demons, and they're no small portion of the population, there is a real battle of good vs evil happening every day. Critical thinking is essential for decency to exist.

@morningsong8077

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve tried that. It’s something I can’t wrap my mind around.

@Jezebel066

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. We wrestle not against flesh & blood! I can FEEL myself being dragged down around him.

@annemccarron2281

3 жыл бұрын

They ARE demons. Some people say there are no truly evil people. I disagree.

@christar9527

2 жыл бұрын

You took the words right out of my mouth! I was thinking how hard it is for an empath to exist in a world full of diabolical narcissists. We empaths naturally feel what other people feel and usually are very effected by them and have poor boundaries. It’s a very conscious effort to imagine just having a boundary (at least for this empath). I feel like we are born to serve and help others. I think that Satan was the original narcissist and Jesus was the original empath. It’s a tough, hard road for us empaths but in the end we’re better off for it.

@ladyreepatton6342

2 жыл бұрын

God help us !

And the funny thing is that on number 9 when you said they love when we’re “always in a crummy mood” and they’re literally the cause of that 🤦🏻‍♀️

@payxience1331

3 жыл бұрын

This! And because you do not want another episode of gaslighting and being blamed for something they did, you just tell them it's about something else.

Explaining myself. This was the toughest one to get my head around. Every time I hit difficulty, I tried explaining why my choice was important. It took ages to understand how my narc actually enjoyed it and felt power in my need to explain.

@rfoley402

3 жыл бұрын

I still get tripped up by this one. Happened last night.

@vicbaker8367

3 жыл бұрын

On the plus side... when it happens at least we understand what’s going on. After a while, it fiiinally sank in that it was building up the wrong person. Watching the narcs face as I explained was helpful. I realized there was a smug look of satisfaction. That helped me back away. Besides, it’s normal to explain. It means we’re ok. The sick part is how they enjoy it.

@vicbaker8367

3 жыл бұрын

@@p_tiffanii : Well said!

@sage9836

3 жыл бұрын

I believed that if only I explained with logic, evidence, and a kind tone of voice while showing respect for the other person, things would be fine. But, narcs put good things to bad use!

@tuineilson8545

3 жыл бұрын

Just fell into that trap again and lost my cool again

They test your boundaries constantly. It's designed to provoke a reaction. They feed off your emotional responses both positive and negative. This somehow validates them. It makes them feel that they matter.

@MJ-qb5ph

2 жыл бұрын

F@@@ them

@desertangelfish140

2 жыл бұрын

I enjoy telling them they are not special, important, relevant or matter!✌️

Every single video in this series is like a college course. I think I’ll soon have my honorary doctorate because of this incredible channel. You’re helping me in so many ways. Thank you

@giliwsapiandante8454

Жыл бұрын

I agree 150 %. Yes, thank you

I love the idea of being " confidently calm " . That's peace !

Everything is supply to a narc. Praise them....Supply. Get mad at them.......Supply. Love them.......Supply. Hate them.....Supply. And if you are less successful than them they look down on you and hate you. If you are more successful than them, they are jealous of you and hate you.

If you appease narcissists, then you're participating in your own conditioning. Love and be kind to yourself, you deserve it, and don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

@carolinacooper7068

3 жыл бұрын

"Participating in your own conditioning"---never thought of it that way before, but you are exactly right. I will remember that phrase!

@g.marion5888

3 жыл бұрын

@@carolinacooper7068 Looking at my behavior in that way finally got me to change, glad you found it helpful too.

@EphemeralProductions

3 жыл бұрын

What if you don’t have the fortitude or courage to deal with all their freakfits they’ll throw if you DON’T appease them? Someone that don’t like confrontation at all and don’t handle it well?

@barkeater7867

3 жыл бұрын

I have a 14 months to go with a narc boss. I cant lose the job. I have to appease to get through. its a nightmare.

Love many Trust few Always paddle Your own canoe

@kathrynwinter49

3 жыл бұрын

I remember that written in my autograph book in the early 70's. Pity I didnt take it on board. Have been far too trusting and danced to the beat of other people's drums.

@sofiaruby603

3 жыл бұрын

Yup they use anxiety and sickness against you..my kid does this..they do pick up on EVERTHING.

@trysmarter1014

3 жыл бұрын

that's cute.

@francophiledawg9059

3 жыл бұрын

Love this 👍

@charmainemiller8958

3 жыл бұрын

I like that.

My grandfather used to say, "They think I just fell off the turnip truck". Referring to narcissists.

@curtiskd8776

3 жыл бұрын

OR “ I was born at night but last night”

@camilleg7813

3 жыл бұрын

That’s a cool saying 😎😊 and after reading that I’ve decided from now on I’m no one’s turnip. 💁🏻‍♀️

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Lol, that reminds me of when I was a kid, there was a vegetable truck that drove through our neighborhood selling all sorts of vegetables, Johnson's Truck.

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

@@curtiskd8776 You mean "not last night"? That is a good one.

When I was engaged, he told me he had a brother who was insane and in an asylum. I was nothing but concerned. Later he told me that was just a test to see if I’d marry him anyway. Well I did ... to my everlasting regret.

so exhausting living with these creatures 🤦🏾‍♀️

I do damn near all of these thing. It’s time to stop giving supply

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

It's time. Dr. C

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

It's past time... you deserve a peaceful life.

@anikaallen3741

3 жыл бұрын

I live in this miserable loop. I do all of them except no1

Narcissistic people are drawn to empaths and super nice people. Become more discerning and use protective shielding for empaths. Thank you for your amazing informative videos. Narcissistic people are drawn to our good nature and good energies

@artandculture5262

3 жыл бұрын

But if we enjoy being the softer presence that lets go of our reality to please, then it’s us.

No wonder I felt "crazy" in the beginning of my marriage..... I was doing all of these things. Now that I've recognized these behaviors and stopped them, my husband is angry and frustrated and trying harder to manipulate me

@user-zy8gk2nn7d

3 жыл бұрын

you have changed - you are not the weak person he married :))

@loriculbertson9442

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-zy8gk2nn7d Exactly

@emilymcmillan5964

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you for figuring it out! I did it for 30 years before having to leave which was very ugly! 12 years later I remarried after 7 1/2 years of getting to know my most wonderful husband of 8 years now! A totally different experience using many of the methods I learned from reading 52 books to try to "fix" my first marriage, ha ha! He read many of the same books in his 30 year marriage which WORK with a person who is not a narcissist! Life can be beautiful!

@mdee860

3 жыл бұрын

Lori, sorry, he's not going to get better or nicer. Yes, they do get really angry when you figure out their "bag of tricks" & refuse to be their endless supply. They won't ever change. Good luck to you. Hope you keep learning from Dr. Carter & the community here! Hi & Hugs everyone.

@loriculbertson9442

3 жыл бұрын

@@mdee860 Yes, I agree. They don't get better.

Narcissist wants to have a dysfunctional partner like themselves it makes them feel like they're in their comfort zone to be around other broken people. All the horrible things they do to you is to have company, once they see you are breaking down and having a hard time and not functioning as your old self they are happy because they created another one of themselves to play with. So don't pay no mind to them and get them out of your life as soon as possible .

@user-uh5tb9er4o

Жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing that image... being "happy because they created another one of themselves to play with." that helps me keep clear about why i don't x, y, z, with them

I used to fit all these 100%. Then one morning, I decided that when I'm the one who has to deal with the consequences, I'm the one who gets the last word. And that marked the beginning of my journey to becoming a "difficult person". Never looked back!

I realized after being sucked into a “conversation” that lasted till past 1am that I got pulled into a supply trap again

@saurabhmeshram972

3 жыл бұрын

Me too just before valentine's day she managed to contact me despite i blocked her everywhere and i got sucked in

@joannadavignon3166

3 жыл бұрын

I bet if you had hung up on them to go to bed they'd say you were rude and continue to say they fear that you'll hang up on them each time you're having a conversation with them. You're not rude for wanting sleep and sticking up for yourself

@sage9836

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. I am glad you mentioed this! I. Am adding the long conversation to my list of ways they test. I thought I was really clicking with a new friend in a 45 minute conversation in a parking lot. Fast forward, I get used.

@pinkposey8134

3 жыл бұрын

And here I thought that was my own private hell. Very astute.

@johnreynolds6369

3 жыл бұрын

Hmmm... my “conversation” was on the phone, lasted 4 hours and ended well after 1am. 4 hours of lies and a relentless desire to demean. When she was finally called out a few days later she said she was “glad the truth has come out”. What a fucking idiot I was. Lesson learnt though.

Thank you, you made me cry. I discovered recently about narcissistic disorder and my mother fits in everything I read or see about it. I'm 32 now, the "black sheep" and lived with her till 30, because I was worried about leaving her alone, but she always treated me like shit. Her behaviour became very strange to me after I decided to leave, and she made my life a hell; she turns everybody against me, using my personal faults to destroy my image and turn the game. I started the "zero contact" 1 month ago and its being pretty hard, sometimes it seems like I lived all my life in a bizarre kind of Truman's Show. Thank you for your job, its very important to me.

@janb5177

2 жыл бұрын

Well done on getting out. Sounds like you're sensible and strong enough to stay out. Good. :)

@jacquelinefroehle3583

Жыл бұрын

Good for you. Now you can be You. Don't allow narc into your life

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

I'm nearly 60 and envy anyone who got to suffer ONLY half as much as me. Both Parent's are Narcs but was blessed with father's passing in 05

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

I'm 59 yo & my Sadistically 👹 Catholic 😇mother has gotten so much worse. She's a healthy 84. If I could have 30 years ahead to go now that I'm ENLIGHTENED... Your blessed to know bc I just found out 6 mos AGO that mother is an enemy not an asset.

@demondogmom7221

Жыл бұрын

I was in my 50s when I realized my mother was a narcissist...as was my ex husband. The more I read the more I realized what I'd been subjected to. I was lucky I was able to bring my older sister along for the ride. We healed together. My mother died 4 years ago. I've never mourned her passing and never will. I have to careful because I'm a magnet for narcs. This video pinpointed why. Well done!

1. No talking plainly, 2. Appease, 3. Justify your actions, 4. Anxiety, tension, 5. Covering up dysfunctions, 6. Guilt feeling, 7. Argue with weak assertions, 8. Moods dependent on other people, 9. Bad mood too often, 10. Ask questions without making declarations.

@janb5177

2 жыл бұрын

Thing is, they condition you to behave in these ways. All roads lead back to the narcissist.

Aren't they just so wicked??!! Wow, they are certainly conniving. It's like quicksand around them. Dangerous people.

@nancyclark-gaines6856

3 жыл бұрын

Linda Moore I was just thinking the other day that my relationship with my ex-husband is like quicksand. They are like quicksand and when you fall into their trap the more you struggle the more they suck you in!

@morningsong8077

3 жыл бұрын

Great analogy!

@lindamoore9729

3 жыл бұрын

@@nancyclark-gaines6856 It's impossible to get out of their trap. If you can, my advice is to RUN!! Don't be around them any more than you have to. I'm stuck with my husband so I applaud you that you left!! And they play head games with you so you're never sure if it's them or yourself. Oh, they are evil is all I can say.

@northstar5919

3 жыл бұрын

They are the most dangerous to those people who know nothing about this disorder

@lindamoore9729

3 жыл бұрын

@@northstar5919 That's for sure!! Took me 44 years. I've been with this wicked person 48 years.

Narcissists are always scanning you. They pick up on the slightest gesture or sign of tension. Sometimes, I’ll wring or rub my hands together when I’m cold and my narc mom will zero right in on that with a quick once-over: “I just saw her tense up. Good!” Like they always want something to be wrong.

@mariaawake4502

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it is so terribly annoying, I have to teach myself not to take this controlling nonsense seriously.

@breakthroughmoment1647

3 жыл бұрын

@@mariaawake4502 Exactly! It’s another way of controlling the mood.

@morningsong8077

3 жыл бұрын

They absolutely do want something to be wrong all the time. My narc husband used to always ask, “What’s wrong?” I’d respond with, “Nothing’s wrong. Why does something always have to be wrong?” I absolutely hate that question! He also always led statements or questions in the negative, like, “You don’t remember. . . “ or “You don’t want to. . . “ It was excruciating living with him. None of us could be positive, and he hated it when we laughed together. Somehow, spending time with our kids and forming strong bonds was a threat to him, even though we all did everything we could, as often as we could, to make him happy or to get him to join in the fun.

@happyhealing3583

3 жыл бұрын

It is so sad how they can take such joy in taking advantage of any piece they can!

@youtubechannel8276

3 жыл бұрын

My ex narc partner would notice if I made any particular movements and mention it in condescending manner. What an evil being.

I learned the nightmarish traumatic way being married to an abusive malignant narcissist alcoholic ex to “never wrestle with the pig You only get dirty and the pig likes it” I’ve gone completely no contact and finally getting my true authentic beautiful self back That he imprisoned for so long

Narcissists push your buttons because they want you to blow up at them, it makes them feel justified in how badly they have treated you. If you do not respond they run away because they see it is not working and there is some sense of failure they don't want to face. My brothers and their wives only like me in family gatherings where they have flying monkeys. They tried to reconnect a few years ago to draw me back into the gatherings but when I didn't come I never heard from them again. They cannot talk to me one on one without others around because I can hold my own in confidence, they have no allies to look to for validation. They are literally afraid of me because they cannot control me. I am kind in spite of their meanness and it makes them crazy that I don't act the way they do. It is such a blessing to look back at all the times they attempted to make me feel guilty and nearly succeeded at times, but I never responded in guilt. They cannot stand that I don't feel guilty over silly things.

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations, distance helps. I used to feel guilty about not seeing my family more but once I understood that they were not changing, I decided to stay away and don't regret it. I have peace of mind, money can't buy that.

@20ASilva

3 жыл бұрын

More power to you.

@timothygenaw2199

3 жыл бұрын

I have nearly given up on family gatherings - a source of tension not joy. I'll see my dearest relatives in private one on one. I work in the medical field so I just say I have to work that day, even if I don't, and it's believable.

@gwendolynwehage6336

3 жыл бұрын

@@timothygenaw2199, interesting because I came to the same conclusion with my family, I will only visit with them one on one. They seem to be more subdued when it is that way and on my turf, at my home. But even that is rare these days because even those visits seem forced and unhappy. They are just jealous and unhappy people all the time.

@rhiannoncarino2603

3 жыл бұрын

I wish that were true. He just keeps coming and coming and uses the children to further his agenda. I will not respond in any shape way or form.

I'm so glad I escaped ...this time last year I was trapped. Thank you for your videos. To anyone reading keep educating yourself with videos like this and speak kind words to yourself, love yourself, you will break free. All the best.

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for these encouraging words! Dr. C

@lovesings2us

3 жыл бұрын

Your words warm my heart and light the way. Like Dr C reminding us what a powerful, amazing thing it is to simply be ourselves. I'm so grateful to you and to Dr C.

If they are constantly checking and pushing your limits, that only shows they are just acting like bad kids. Also reminds me a concept in Chinese says “attention whore”.😅

@angieshelley4901

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@back_to_the_nineties2534

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@elizadarcy8641

3 жыл бұрын

I love that.

Hearing Dr. C made me realize how hard of a time I must have given to the narcissists present in my life by standing up and by myself and not giving in to their BS.

@nellsmith9721

3 жыл бұрын

Lol me too ...., your challenging me Elle !!!! He hated that ..... I thought it was hilarious 😂 6 weeks no contact .... after 5 years !!! It’s wonderful 🥰🔥🥰

12 years of living with my narcissistic mother and I'm done, she's sucked every bit of joy and energy and self esteem....and life out of me.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

teeka7777,you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

@melanieknowles7002

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that is so sad. My mom was an angel mom. My kids and grandkids adore me cant do enough for me. I dont understand women like that. They should publically be stripped from their mother title.

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Mine tried to and I left town. That's the only way I could survive. I took a college level psychiatry course and learned not to be ashamed that I didn't love my mother. That took a huge load off my mind.

@christar9527

2 жыл бұрын

Mine was a walking, talking demon and I put up with her for 59 years. She was just one of many but probably the worst. She told me to kill my self a lot which started when I needed her the most due to a bad situation triggered by an eye injury. It only got worse with time. Anyone with a very narcissistic mother needs to get away fast and never get in contact with them again...ever, especially if you’ve been chosen as the family scapegoat. As you say they’ll leave you with no life left in you you’ll be so drained or even suicidal like I was.

@kristyrobertson1212

2 жыл бұрын

I get it. I had a lot of respect for my mom who's educated and done well for herself. I was convinced that I was the problem and did everything I could in therapy, psychiatrist, medication, recovery, you name it I've done it many times over and over trying to get her approval and acceptance but she just favored my younger sister and her children that's all she had room in her heart for. Since I knew she had the capacity to love as I watched her with my sister it confirmed that I was not up to par so I kept trying. So I totally get it. No contact for 2 months now

This one’s probably going to sting a little.

@djcrackademiks1191

3 жыл бұрын

That’s ok... you’ll learn about yourself

Being in a bad mood gives them supply because misery loves company.

My narc used a note pad to write down my so called faults and how I could better myself to make him happier with me!! What a joke!

@timothygenaw2199

3 жыл бұрын

My ex-wife did that to me. How dehumanizing! Sick!

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, hope you buried that note pad where the sun don't shine.

With regard to caring about public opinion - narcissists will also use it as a weapon during the smear campaign. If you don't care about public opinion the smear campaign is ineffective.

@selenem3384

3 жыл бұрын

good comment

@jademariephyllis9347

3 жыл бұрын

👍🏽

@EphemeralProductions

3 жыл бұрын

What if you’re someone like me who very MUCH cares about public opinion of me and what people think of me? I have very low self esteem and hate it when people have any bad thoughts about me

@jodyyy8752

3 жыл бұрын

@@EphemeralProductions u you have to learn how to find comfort in knowing the truth by yourself . I used to be like you but I had to learn how to knowing my truth because they will always use the smear campaign so you have to learn how to be strong and increase your self-esteem

@kristyrobertson1212

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sure there's quite a smear campaign going on since I went no contact with my mom and sister 2 months ago however there has constantly been a smear campaign as soon as I leave the room my whole life and my children too. They just marinate in their gossip yet no one knows how to talk about anything that has any depth and no concern for the well-being of this family. Unbelievable. 25 of us just left California and moved to Idaho and within 4yrs 4 family members have bowed out. It's a shame. When you're raising it you can't see it but when you outgrow your own family you see everything clear back to the beginning

After beginning my healing work from narcissistic family system, I've gotten really comfortable with the words and phrases: "no", "I'm busy" "I can't do that" "I need more time" "let me get back to you" "i need to paid x". I no longer care to accommodate anyone unless I know I've got myself covered first. I don't care if someone doesn't like my "no". Not my problem.

@miriammoriarty8588

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent advice!

@kaleighpatterson9275

3 жыл бұрын

Ugh learning this too lesson after lesson with different people!!

@lovesings2us

3 жыл бұрын

That's so cool that you feel really comfortable with those phrases! I'm beginning to see that practicing saying no in a kind way can actually be fun!

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

You go, girl!!!

The less they know the better they know nothing

I was raised by a narcissist and this video describes my teenage self. I'm an adult now and trying to be more firm since I now attract narcissists left and right. Not my fault, but if there's anything I can do to protect myself I'll do it.

@northstar5919

3 жыл бұрын

Thick and tall wals for a start. Dont justify, defend or explain yourself to them

@ARedMagicMarker

2 жыл бұрын

a .44 Magnum comes to mind. XD

Just say to yourself it's not my fault, no matter how low they've dragged you down

@mandolaa4855

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

The crazy thing in my life is that I’ve lived with a mother that was constantly guilting me into doing what she wants and never let me be myself and told me I’m weak and silly. Years later I’ve cut her out for good even though it was extremely difficult. Now watching these videos and realizing that she is a prime example of a narcissist and I took the best route with her. I’m much happier now. Your videos are excellent and they help to understand and realize that it wasn’t my fault. Thank you.

Narcissists are bullies, an interesting thing about bullies is although they appear strong and their victims appear weak, the truth in each is revealed when the victim finally has had enough, and stands up for themselves, by letting the bully have it one way or another. The victim discovers they are not as weak as they thought, in fact they find out they are quite strong. The bully however, is revealed as the weakling they really are. It is the beautiful irony of justice. Each person finds out what they are made of. The victim learns to heal and becomes an even better person, while the narcissistic bully is left with nothing but his empty soul and self inflected injury.

1. You don't speak plainly 2. You need to appease 3. You feel the need to rationalize 4. You're easily tense/anxietal 5. Publicly a poker face 6. You appear apologetic/guilty 7. You argue, but without consequence 8. Your moods depend on others 9. You appear to be in a bad mood 10. You ask questions, without declarations

@lovesings2us

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the list!

No matter what a person is like, they should not be treated poorly by a narcissist!

Dr. Carter. Thank you so much. Last year I was in a dark place once I realized who I was dealing with. I am now a starter on team healthy and she has spun into drugs and of course the usual drama, chaos and entitlement. Once my eyes were open it was like the toothpaste came out of the tube and cannot be put back in. Same with me, I cannot go back ever. We still co exist due to our circumstances but my walls are thick and tall. Thank you

@timothygenaw2199

3 жыл бұрын

Great analogy- "The toothpaste has come out of the tube and can't be put back in."

I met one on Facebook. He gave me a phone. I thanked him for it and he said, I'm not doing it for you, I'm doing it for myself. Why? Because it had spyware on it. Beware!!

They don’t care about anything you do in terms of moral. But they use your moral to shame you and feed on that.

Dr Carter....Your help has been essential. I now picture the Narc as a psychological Mountain lion. A cunning predator who will lie in wait to attack when your back is turned. And use everything in their power to take you down. No mercy. No exceptions. For me that clarified the absolute necessity to go No Contact & protect myself. Thank you.

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this feedback, and good luck moving forward! Dr. C

@pjpj3416

2 жыл бұрын

That's a good analogy, and good for you, going no contact is the best choice.

They're wolves in sheep's wool, be a cool dude trust rely on your self your instinct.

"Do you need to be taught a lesson?" - Oof!!! That hit close to home with me. That's exactly how I feel with the narcissist in my life.

it's weird that ppl really think that way. yuck.

I had been on an anti-anxiety medication for PTSD from a terrible physically abusive relationship.. but when I started dating my narcissist he told me that I was “a drug addict” for taking that prescription. So I got off of it and was in a constant state of anxiety around him. The day after seeing him I would sleep for sooo long! That should have been a sign right there. It makes sense now why he wanted me off of it. He wanted me weak.

No JADE. No justifying, explaining, defending, or explaining myself. These show the narcissist that they are in control and superior.

I have a confession Dr Carter - every time I know that I’m gonna be around Narcs - I go on KZread & listen to your videos. It gives me the proper tools to handle them. Thank - you from the bottom of my heart !

these are some dark, sick folks! incapable of truly loving anyone.. I almost pity them.. almost.

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Right, they're almost non-human... like aliens walking among us.

@pjpj3416

2 жыл бұрын

That is so true, I may pity them, but I'll never fall for their bullshit again. At this point, I'm ultra alert, and that makes me feel a lot better.

@KishBish

2 жыл бұрын

YEP.. once you're aware of how they operate, it's much easier to avoid getting trapped..

This is painful...how people like this take advantage of someone in this way. Just horrible. Don't give fuel to this kind of person.

I wasn’t these things but he turned me into them bc I loved him & wanted to make my marriage work. Bc he kept threatening to divorce me. I finally said “go ahead!” Took me awhile to learn to not walk on the eggshells & to not be timid around him stilll. Finally remembered who I was tho. Now the game has changed

Narc mom is not trying to SEE where I’m vulnerable; she CREATED where I’m vulnerable. That’s the difference between meeting, or marrying a narc and being handed to a narc when you were born. I’m trying👍🏻

Been abused by narcs repeatedly and despite what I’ve learned I still have a major problem with overly explaining myself and justifying my every move to people all the time. I’ve always been like that

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

But I know you're working on it... keep your head high!!!!

@karifoto

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. It’s because we are self critical and care about how we may affect another person and they fully take advantage of that. I also projected my own good qualities onto the last narc which put me in great danger. I also trust easily and don’t require a new love interest to act differently, just because I’ve been through hell - but I better walk gingerly around their past bull$hit! No way! Never again. Hang in there. We can all try hard to keep ourselves out of another awful situation like that again. Now we know more.

@pjpj3416

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to that, just keep doing your best to protect yourself and you'll be fine.

@Paarthurnaxdova

2 жыл бұрын

Get therapy for that or you will always be taken by a narcissist

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

Ditto @ 60 yoa

Keeping feelings of guilt, serving behavior, ignoring yourself, continuing to show empathy, keep making excuses to the narcissist. Don't stand for your own opinion.

@evaggeliamy

3 жыл бұрын

They do rely so much on our empathy. All the time. They believe we're going to forgive them no matter what they've done to us. When they see we're finally distancing ourselves from them,they might come up with serious family or work problems as an excuse for their shitty behavior,in order to make us feel bad and guilty and forgive them once again!! And that never ends! I hate these people!!

@Daysleeper1000

3 жыл бұрын

@@evaggeliamy it's so difficult when it's your mother. Ugh.

@antoinqueen8261

3 жыл бұрын

@@Daysleeper1000 yessss

@amandaroberts5111

3 жыл бұрын

@@Daysleeper1000 or your only son

@Daysleeper1000

3 жыл бұрын

@@amandaroberts5111 😩 so sorry. That's so painful.

Out of all of Dr Carter’s posts, this one is definitely one of the best. Fantastic concise and very clear explanation of how we unknowingly make ourselves a target and then go on to continually feed the narcissist’s entirely self centred and cruel needs. It’s almost a crime that this material is not taught in high schools.

@joywebster2678

3 жыл бұрын

Teaching the lingo to narcs makes them stronger. What needs to be taught is what is healthy communication, respect, etc. Not narc management.

@maricamaas5555

3 жыл бұрын

@@joywebster2678 What we need is not a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind... Fear and hate towards someone provides them with an intoxicating sense of omnipotence... Perfect love drives out fear.

@selenem3384

3 жыл бұрын

@@maricamaas5555 the spirit of love and unconditional embrace of narcs does not work with narcs...they feed off your kind nature and try to take everything from you because of that "kind, accepting and forgiving nature of yours!" if you let their bad behaviour slide, they will groom you to accept it forever and think you are a massive pushover that can be used at their beck and call. Narcs see kindness as weakness not as goodness or something to be valued.

@christar9527

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a very good one. I was thinking of saving it for my playlist.

@overprime3978

2 жыл бұрын

@@joywebster2678 most narcs act like this subconsciously anyway mate this video will do 100x more good than harm

These people are monsters.

So basically,anything other than grey rock gives them supply?I'm learning a lot here!

@joywebster2678

3 жыл бұрын

I tried to be more interactive during our long lockdown, phone, since he and I are both isolated. Just pleasantries when he called. Broke the grey rock. Now I'm having panic attacks because he has pulled out all his nasty narc tricks making me feel so worthless again. So I'm back to restablishing the grey rock, but emotionally I'm degraded again. So nope they can't be given an inch they will take a mile....

@peachesmcgee4795

3 жыл бұрын

@@joywebster2678 sorry to hear this.they function differently "regular" people don't they.its taken me years and years to work this out.

@northstar5919

3 жыл бұрын

@@joywebster2678 find a way to work on your healing. Feeling worthless didnt start from narc it already existed. Need to get rid of that feeling in a healthy way

@joywebster2678

3 жыл бұрын

@@northstar5919 no it started with narc parents, thanks.

@northstar5919

3 жыл бұрын

@@joywebster2678 one psychotherapist said-all psychological problems people have originate from their parents

Mine is definitely a punisher and always trying to teach me a lesson.

@christianpulisic7784

3 жыл бұрын

Kerri Gynne,You don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

Dang, how clear you make it, Dr. C. Narcissists treat us how their parents treated THEM. "You're too happy and certain of yourself... I'm going to have to teach you a lesson."

@northstar5919

3 жыл бұрын

Yes and they punish people for something they survived

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Right, I wish a man woud say that to me... but they won't because I have boundaries and it shows. They have a radar and like a hungry wolf they look for weak sheep in the pack.

At the end of the 5 1/2 month bf relationship, I was horrified when he said, “ I needed to teach you a lesson.” I said, “who does that?” I mean we are 60 odd. It still gives me chills 14 months no contact later.

@cindys9491

3 жыл бұрын

Eww. I'm glad you got out.

@DogsRuleGrandma

3 жыл бұрын

Wow good you’re out

@kaleighpatterson9275

3 жыл бұрын

Ew sounds like my mom who said she “needs to put me in my place” after I stated facts and spoke up during a fight. Just remembered my ex said that too after door slamming me and changing the locks with no conversation “I needed to show you it was real” like what??? they continue to just take it further and further it’s horrible and worse when they justify it they don’t think it’s wrong

@lovesings2us

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you for getting out! I'm inspired.

@selenem3384

3 жыл бұрын

narcs have years of pent up rage and emotional stuff they don't ever deal with...so they pick targets to serve as trash cans...and funny thing of it all...even though they use people as trash cans to dump all their emotional garbage on...they never actually purge themselves of their own demons,because they never deal with them...so their inner demons always follow them and ruin their lives with whoever they get involved with

I can even feel how the narcs are making those questions mentally. That look on their eyes, like having a mental meeting with themselves...

@user-of9bx1uk3u

3 жыл бұрын

The look in their eyes 👀, very calculative and that smirk...a dead give away.

@pinkteaforfemininity7958

3 жыл бұрын

By God, that’s so true!

@christar9527

2 жыл бұрын

True! I can see the father now with his brain clicking away thinking “How can I “get “ her next?”.

@ValleyMyStar

2 жыл бұрын

Mental meeting 🤣 love it

Dr. Carter ... you continue to teach valuable and insightful techniques to help us manage/leave relationships that are toxic. You are a gift. I appreciate the work you do to produce not only these videos, but also the many other tools you offer us. Thank you ...

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome. Dr. C

When my ex said to me that his affair partner "was a lot like me", I now know what he meant (and yes he did discard me for her) . I was desperate for love and thought he was amazing. I had no confidence or value and virtually no boundaries. I was ripe for the picking and I suspect so was she the perfect victim.

@JohnSmith-wo7ns

Жыл бұрын

I think that's how my ex saw me, somebody she could control and dominate..I hope you've moved on and are happier today.

I do a lot of those things - but one thing I do also though is I eventually get to a point where enough is enough and I get away from them. They never see it coming, they've always assumed they can go on being mean for as long THEY want. Thanks Dr C for making me more aware so I can avoid these time wasting and emotionally draining dramas altogether.

Oh boy! In the beginning of the relationship when he acted so strangely, I told hi "Look, Im a naive and gullible person so dont play any games with me bc I cant take it" He laughed mockingly and said "Youre HANDING it to me?!" I didnt understand then what he meant but I sure asf do now.

@jd659

3 жыл бұрын

SICK! 😡

@lucy766

3 жыл бұрын

omg I said that to mine too.....he didn't respond the same way but I wish I had never given him that ammunition

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

@@lucy766 It doesnt matter if we do or not, they will still act the same manipulative way because theyre severely mentally ill. The ONLY way with these monsters is to get the hell away and NEVER reply again. They really are bat shit fukn crazy. (Pardon my french)

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Lesson #1, don't tell people you're naive and gullible. Oh my, what were you thinking?

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

@@polarbearsrus6980 I KNOW! I know that NOW, lol! "Youre handing it to me?!" He said and I didnt get what he meant but ofc..NOW I do lol! But seriously you cant see these thigns coming bc a normal person with a sound mind cant even fantasize about these personalities actually existing.

They are just not safe to be around. You don’t aim at studying people to extract things you can use against them or to detect their weaknesses so you can find buttons to press when you need to. It’s not just evil but inhuman. You engage with people in an authentic genuine manner, whatever you discover about them whether good or bad is not a weapon for you to use against them. People like these always brag about how “good or best” their upbringing was, the parents they had, etc everything about them is all good. It kind of make you uncomfortable especially when they clearly didn’t have that bed of Roses to grow on, their life, personality and character clearly negates all their claims. That’s a red flag to watch out for and don’t you ever open up or let your guard down with these type of people and their friends/flying monkeys. Good points in this video. Thanks 🙏🏿

@user-of9bx1uk3u

3 жыл бұрын

Spot on!! 🎯

I still deal with my narcissist on my terms. Nothing he says or does bothers me now that I’ve educated myself on his behavior. I feel so much better that I’m in control and 2 steps ahead

Put Yourself in the (WHO) instead of (WHAT) you are category.

2. Feel that you have to constantly appease that individual

I wish I knew your information 50 years ago. I have been victimized by narcs my whole life. They are attracted to me like flies on poop. They sense, right away, I am kind, empathetic and would help if I could. But after 2 years of watching yours and others videos, I am so on to them. I can smell one within a few encounters. This particular video is brilliant in assessing what we might be doing to tempt them to use US. Thanks again, Dr. Carter, for your forthright, clear insight and practical suggestions. Just brilliant.

Oh and no control. Them you call the company and they pretend knowing nothing and rebuild everything again. Worse assessing ever.

When they feel inferior in something,say looks or money. That’s when they start to boast their ego with lies that they are actually much more then what they already are, and then they get jealous at everyone that breaks that false reality to them(because they are better than them). They begin to torment that person if they can get in a relationship with him, but at first they start as friend because they really want what that other person have even though they can’t get it.

I have autism and a lot of this is true for me simply because of my diagnosis. I can be easily knocked off because I'm highly sensitive to a lot of things. It is very easy to upset me as well since my brain can easily go on overdrive or it can lead to a meltdown. I am high-functioning, but that does not mean that I am not disabled. And I always feel the need to explain myself because that's just what it's like to be this way. I am continually misunderstood or my words are twisted, so I often have to explain myself to everyone--narcissist or not. So, I may not pick-up early on that this is happening because of narcissism simply because this has been my existence since birth. I also have to wear a "mask" in public to disguise my autistic traits because I know I would be treated very poorly by people if I did not wear a mask in public. My ex knew about my diagnosis, but ridiculed it more than bothering to understand it. He constantly put me into situations that would trigger a sensory overload or meltdown. I always felt very anxious around him because he was not very understanding and didn't want to be. I think that I stuck around longer than I should have because I kept thinking that if he just understood, he would be nicer. But when I thought about it, everyone else in my life was understanding of my situation. Why couldn't he be? I just couldn't understand it... Being in a relationship with him felt like hell. A lot of autistic women are very vulnerable and tend to get into relationships with abusive men. I didn't understand why this was the case. But the behaviors listed here are pretty much the diagnostic criteria for autism in short, so it's like I naturally attract people that are really cruel and have the worst intentions. I wish that I could see the red flags when they happen instead of later on...

This makes sense. If we want to be a deterrent to narcs we must be confident, comfortable, and ok with ourselves. This has been my problem my whole life. 😭

@kachka2983

Жыл бұрын

Good morning! Z

They don't know that their dealing with a mentally ill person because its hidden. This is why some folks are in the relationships for years and years.

@mandolaa4855

3 жыл бұрын

Pandemic and the quarantine have brought to the light a lot of truths. A lot of relationships have cleared

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

That's why you should listen to what people do, not what they say they do. Best advice I ever got, totally change my life. The signs are there, you just have to be listening and not ignore it.

You should talk one day about a narcissist boss and what to do when you have to coexist and honour a toxic personality like that. A lot of business and organizational leaders after all have narcissistic traits since the system rewards that behavior I find. Just a suggestion.

@probablynot1368

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent suggestion! My last boss could be absolutely charming, but then flip the switch into banshee behavior when she believed others had crossed her, or when it was discovered that she’d failed to do the job she was hired for. After more than 3 years of her increasingly erratic behavior (the ‘filter’ was certainly off by now), I decided to quit. As she sat behind her desk, angry and so red-faced that I genuinely thought she was going to stroke-out, she demanded three reasons for my decision to leave. With each very specific reason, she brushed me off with comments, “You’re whining!”, then “You’re complaining!”, and finally “Oh, and more whining!” So, within a matter of a few minutes, I discovered her opinion of me was that I was an ungrateful, whining complainer, when in reality, I had been her most loyal, hard-working staff member. She told me that I was so replaceable that she’d have my position filled in 6 weeks. It took her 9 months to hire 3 people to do my work. Oh, and she told me neither to expect a letter of reference (nope - this ‘whiner’ wasn’t going to ask for one), nor would she provide any warm, glowing recommendation if any of my potential employers called her. That’s why it’s important to (1) have the next job lined up, with a confirmed start date; or (2) start your own business; or (3) retire.

@summerrose4286

3 жыл бұрын

@@probablynot1368 Exact same here. I walked out. I miss the paycheck but not her.

@omega4126

3 жыл бұрын

I am a 50 yr old 'traditional-thinking' female & I must say that these Modern-Day🎭Feminist Females at Jobs have destroyed the Cooperation & Professionalism brought by Males!!! So Done with Crazy Emotional Cluster🎭B at Work!!!

@Morganistas

3 жыл бұрын

Good suggestion! My husband just joined a company who just fired a narcissistic foreman. It seems everyone is still recovering from the aftermath of years of manipulation and bullying. Btw, the narc was fired after he physically threatened one of the guys. We suspect the boss doesn't trust anyone readily because of it.

@cyndigooch1162

3 жыл бұрын

@@probablynot1368 ❤

Whilst this is a list of behavioral enablers for narcissists you meet in your life, I feel that these also stand up as resulted behaviors for children of narcissistic parents. I had to work so much to get over all these behaviors, which I was ”trained” by my father to develop in order for him to feel good about himself and lie to himself that our relationship was a good one.

Well, fuel for their ego. They are without a soul.

Narcissist are ALWAYS looking to see how they can USE people to BENEFIT their lives!!! ALWAYS!!

They are predators. Very enlightening. I'm not doing any of that anymore!

Wow. The inner working are cathartic to hear. Wow. It’s so alien to hear these energies.

@christianpulisic7784

3 жыл бұрын

Krista Tripp,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

3. Feel that you have to justify your actions or choices

This is me. This is him. I’m devastated by this realization. I have tried escaping him a million times; he always drags me back home. I have no other friends anymore because he got rid of them all. He told me nobody likes me. I finally give up. I still have a tiny voice inside me telling me to leave by any means.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

Even though you haven't left yet, watch the video, Recovering your worth after leaving a narcissist. You deserve better. Dr. C

I can't WAIT to get to Heaven where there are no ulterior motives, evil plans, or NARCISSISTS!!! Thank you Dr. Carter your videos are tremendous, God Bless you 💕💕

@ravenraven966

3 жыл бұрын

Me too angie, me too 💕

@northstar5919

3 жыл бұрын

It is necessary we learn from it on this planet

@dw3403

3 жыл бұрын

God wants heaven on earth.

@KishBish

3 жыл бұрын

CANNOT WAIT.

@marieanyou5065

3 жыл бұрын

Do you really want think if we get to heaven

Almost 3 weeks no contact. It's been a dark time for me and I've had to subdue myself from the majority of my friends due to a malignant narc in the group. They will understand one day, I see the light at the end of the tunnel.

@redtigerlily8165

3 жыл бұрын

The important, uplifting people will be there when the time is right!

@pattis.1645

3 жыл бұрын

Good to use some caution 🚧 It sucks going thru things like that. My siblings are especially messed up. No conscience at all.

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome, you can do it. You can also make new friends. You have to continue to distance yourself, no matter how hard it is. 😎

@missesmia2

3 жыл бұрын

@@polarbearsrus6980 Thank you Its a strange situation The narc has my friends working on his vehicles (extensive stuff) so he can drive and take them home They cant stand him He is moving thousands of miles away in next couple months to work The narc likes to drive things rough and break shit Including his parent's vehicles Overall I am doing better and I'm out of the situation and giving it way less energy. But it is still a healing process - I still have my people by my side and we make our own plans. They are patient with me. At the end of the day I need to become by own best friend again... speaking it into existence now

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

@@missesmia2 Sounds like you've got it together, good luck!