Thank you. All of their experiences and comments are extremely relatable.
@cattyelse2372Күн бұрын
who are these so called experts?who or what is DML? ineed to know more about the makers of this 'documentary'
@monaj332 күн бұрын
The mother "empath" cannot leave he narcissist "rotten dysfunctional lost child"
@aly42433 күн бұрын
was raised my a narcissist. sometimes i feel like ill never be able to heal from it. sometimes i feel like i dont deserve any other treatment than what they gave me
@BigMouthPrick333 күн бұрын
De energie die jij uitstraalt is geweldig
@beckycoppa48063 күн бұрын
Just got out of a horrible relationship and this video helps
@leoracohen49984 күн бұрын
Exactly true the painful patterns meant to break you TEACH PEOPLE HOW YOU LOVE TO BE LOVED❤
@tokidefresa31136 күн бұрын
"Dancing with the devil"
@KatyYoder-cq1kc8 күн бұрын
PLEASE Report at the highest level of governance: NOW ON LIFE SUPPORT: Cease and desist on malicious use of AI and poisoning supremacist Communists and terrorists. I'm not your property.
@roxannmurray59229 күн бұрын
I’m currently dealing with this with my mother in law. It’s devastating that she has treated her son and myself so horribly with her behavior.
@guenthermarschall019 күн бұрын
soo true. very good explained. thank you for the video. there are three more things that I experienced: no one it's the feeling of losing your capabilities in a way - mentally and physically. like you are no longer able to do certain things or thinkings you are normal capable to do. it is like an alien took over and is limiting you. no two is, it feels like you re next to a black hole that sucks off all your energy and you are exhausted. no matter what you do, anything positive will be sucked up. no three: you turn into a person that is getting "harder" in order to survive the company, as if you constantly have to stand up for yourself instead of just being yourself.
@myworldlovesme10 күн бұрын
Thank you for this video. It is such a huge supoort.❤❤❤❤❤
@CheezhOfficial11 күн бұрын
Years of self isolation, Complex PTSD, Psychosis, lack of sleep & lack of motivation for anything. A relationship with a narcissist is incredibly damaging and most of all confusing.
@Cherry-kt8zo11 күн бұрын
Spot on! I could add even more.
@TessaJonker-fj2rn11 күн бұрын
See! These girls came from very emotionally neglecting parents. But they are not narcs. Lucky! However, their kids can be narcs….. it often is genetic or in the dna. Take care everybody.
@TessaJonker-fj2rn11 күн бұрын
Not all “neglected” or “abused” kids become narcs or psychopaths. The best of parents can still have a narc child….. please scientists. Mention the inherited trauma. Mental illnesses run in families, for generations. Please mention this so that we all are aware of this. Thank you
@JadeForth-cu4lu12 күн бұрын
I just don't know what to do now
@ShirleyLaVerne4 күн бұрын
Heal. 💜
@sandralancaster853215 күн бұрын
😢🎉
@gertrudmoller940115 күн бұрын
Right on every point!
@a.m.223916 күн бұрын
Narc abuser cant feel their emotions thatswhy they use empaths to express their unmet emotions which they cant feel. It makes us strong to hold in in getting triggered. Being motionless is the answer and build steength and selfesteem. Cut the emotional phantasie bond, which developed in our childhood. We need to heal our bounderies and grow selfesteem. They are here to teach us!
@jessiek8417 күн бұрын
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. I was in therapy for a few months. I now take a daily anti anxiety medication daily because of abuse I suffered from for 8 years.
@April-dt8pp17 күн бұрын
I can SO relate to these people...
@sarabonitaduresi711619 күн бұрын
Narcissistic people should be looked away forever. Like wild animals so the can’t do harm to anyone
@theredqueen691123 күн бұрын
I’m sitting here wondering if I’m going to have to check myself into a mental hospital. He has broken me that bad
@Deb_Bee_Thriver24 күн бұрын
Thank you Aletta. This was a very validating video. to watch and reassuring that I am on the right path to recovery from Narcissistic Abuse and C-PTSD. Good luck with your continued healing too. xo Deb
@redraven160426 күн бұрын
I grew up in a nest of them, it took me 53 years to see it.
@BrittaLFstopptNarzissten26 күн бұрын
The statements are correct, please note that Sam Vaknin, is a self-confessed narcissist. Please NEVER trust a narcissist, they always want power and control, they cannot change..... I feel very sorry for the people who have been mistreated by these very misanthropic individuals. I therefore view this video with great skepticism.
@pilarcastellano861927 күн бұрын
Hi. I loved yor documentary. I didn´t expect that the books you reccomend are mostly spiritual stuff. I totally respect. But I think we must be careful because many narcisist and psicopats are gurús, coaches, healers... My advice is to rely on science.
@SteveM-ly7oy27 күн бұрын
As a man, it is sad to see that the vast majority of comments are from women about men. I guess men are the bad guys in the world. But not all. Women are not perfect. My ex is a criminal. She destroyed me my life, and my self-confidence. She beat me, and should be in jail. Even though we split up THIRTEEN years ago, I haven't had a girlfriend or sex since, and sad to say, I now generally distrust women and am always on the lookout for narcissistic behaviour. I have had therapy, recently, and luckily I have discovered the truth about what was going on. I'm ok now. So the past doesn't change, and I focus only on the future. Hopefully I will meet a wonderful normal woman one day. Unfortunately, I had a child with this woman. Our son is 14, lovely, clever, witty, and just great. But he lives with her, and he has been brainwashed by her. All perfectly logical. She loves to take as much money from me, though. Apparently, she thinks I'm good enough for that. She hates the fact that she had a child with me. She actually thinks our son has Aspergers, or something like that on the Autism spectrum, because she doesn't want him to be like me (not many friends, no girlfriend, etc). So she is going to spend a lot of money on a psychologist who will tell her what she wants to hear. Clearly, she doesn't understand the difference between nature and nurture. He's stubbon and a bit specific about what he wants and doesn't want, but he's 14. He's a teen. Finding himself. It's fine. I have my son every second weekend, I love cooking for him and try my best. We have great holidays together. But she sends lots of abusive texts on Whatsapp - still, amazingly, after splitting up 13 years ago. She never stops. She will send 20 or 30 texts in a minute or two. It's like a rapid-fire machine gun of pure hate. She thinks I am a crap dad. The usual texts - oh he is ill because of YOU, you didn't put a jumper on him, and if he's ill YOU will pay for the doctor, etc. I have today decided to block her on Whatsapp, and never see her again. She is also blocked on phone and mail. She also destroyed her relationship with her sister, and one of her parents. And she still doesn't get it. One day she'll die alone with no friends or anyone by her deathbed. You may think that cutting contact and going full-on grey rock is impossible, but I will do it. I will have contact exclusively with my son. He may not like being a go-between, but one day, he will understand. As a 55-year-old, I do not deserve to take this crap for the rest of my life. No one does. In any case, I live abroad, and will return to my home country one day soon. And I will still see my son every second weekend, even if I live in Timbuktu (no, I won't be living there). The main thing is that I need to physically remove this criminal from my life. You can judge me, whatever. You have no idea of the utter annihilation this woman wreaked on my psyche and also my physical health. I even contemplated suicide.
@captng27 күн бұрын
I was not strong enough to realize a narcissist had taken over...it led to my attempt at suicide😮
@JetStream-wx2ow28 күн бұрын
This was amazing 👏 Thank you to those people who took part ❤
@shainabarrett665728 күн бұрын
This documentary in itself is healing millions❤ I feel seen & heard, not crazy anymore. Down to the smear campaign & my own overtly Narcissistic Father so it was obvious to leave him but my Mother I never saw coming. I thought something was wrong with me for YEARS like I was always the bad daughter and both my parents hated me…for trying to tell the truth. At first I wanted protection & validation…then I just wanted peace and change. Even attempted S several times to escape. Thank you thank you thank you❤ May God restore all the victims.
@emmarae432229 күн бұрын
Idealize (lovebomb), Devalue, Discard, Hoover. Learn the cycles of abuse.
@kikindelkaАй бұрын
It’s scary how true, to the tiniest details, this document is. It’s been 2 years no contact, still not over it, healing is a long process. You have to build yourself up and start afresh again but they are always at the back of your head and you control yourself with everything you say and do as this is what you are used to…happy healing everyone ❣️
@kristalmartin6601Ай бұрын
This is my son. Years and years of all this, and I just want out but he is my son, how can I abandon my own son? I tried everything for him, even when he was a child, therapy, love, attention etc. I always thought If I just showed him I loved him more, he would come out of the defiance, out of the bullying, threating of the teachers, and all the lies. It never helped. I tried to parent him by taking things away, and grounding. Even when he was little a small pat on the butt and a no, would just not even phase him. He would go back to what he just got in trouble for. This child has always been difficult to love and parent. I still all through out his childhood, would keep coming back trying to help him. Now that he is almost 18, it's been an abuse roller coaster and I have been trapped all these years. Feeling guilty I even feel like this. He has accused us of abuse, assault, and child pornagraphy. I don't just mean accuse me and that's that, oh, mo. He has called the police and made up lies that they almost believed. It was only because of security cameras we had that we could prove he was lying to DFS. We have lived w cameras in almost every angle of our lives, so when he decides to uproar again, we have a way to prove our innocence. It's a horrible way to live, and it has also affected our daughter who is now 9. He constantly puts her down, and tries to gaslight her even. She busts into anger when he tries all the tricks on her since she is just a kid. I try to keep her away from him, but it's so hard when you as the mother need to save them both. But how do you save one from the other? Idk what I did to have him turn out like this. He is so full of himself, he is so mean to people. He doesn't even know he is being mean, it just comes out of his mouth about any and everyone. I love my son, but I hate this monster within him.
@christopherleubner6633Ай бұрын
The worst is when someone says they love you and you immediately ask in your mind what do they want or why😢💩💀
@ErickSouza-mo3mjАй бұрын
Very helpful, Aletta. You've brought us something unique by focusing on what the victim feels rather than what the narcissist does. In my study journey, apart from learning a lot from Dr. Ramani Durvasula (her book "It's Not You" is a masterpiece), Dr. Les Carter, and survivor Danish Bashir, I recommend the videos on the channel of a diagnosed narcissist, Lee Hammock. Do you know him, Aletta? It was interesting for me to see the narcissist's point of view for one main reason: He explains to us that, having narcissistic personality disorder, he KNOWS exactly what he's doing to his victims; he just can't control it (he's in therapy for it). What difference does it make for us, as victims, to know that? It made a huge difference to me because we tend to see narcissists only as sick people who don't know what they're doing. Many of us empaths even feel sorry for their childhood and sorry that they have the disorder. But when I learned this truth - THEY KNOW THEY'RE DOING US BAD - it changed everything for my tendency to forgive them many times. And what proves that they know? They behave one way in public and another way behind closed doors. Stay strong, people. And thank you, Aletta.
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@SydMountaineerАй бұрын
Sustained devaluation typically begins from 6 to 18 months from the beginning of the relationship - HG Tudor is right about everything, I’ve never known him to be wrong in the 7 years I’ve been listening to him and reading his books & articles - not once has he ever been wrong.
@SydMountaineerАй бұрын
Someone said that this describes Meghan & Harry’s relationship, which is believable since she’s a somatic, middle mid-range narcissist who operates with a facade, and the sustained devaluation is so visible in their relationship since even before they married.
@jesus-on-demandАй бұрын
One of the more positive and empowering videos on narcissism. Good to see the victims speaking from a place of hope, healthy self esteem and good spirits.
@user-yj4ld9mg2bАй бұрын
It's like they expect me to put up with their abuse... even though someone else isn't the one abusing or isn't the one on the receiving end.. but I'm supposed to put up with their abuse year after year after decade after decade and never educate them on the truth. The abusers just want to pretend they're these really good people and abuse people on the sly and when the abused points out actual evidence it's like you can't get people interested because it's not happening to them. But if it happened to them they wouldn't put up with it for 5 minutes let alone 20+ years. I mean abusers get their feelings hurt every 5 minutes but the abused are just supposed to let them go. Show me a teacher or preacher or a police officer putting up with relentless abuse and then I'll follow them. But where are they? There's none of them. And so they say Jesus. Ok, Jesus, yep. But if I have to endure it why can't these others who claim they love Jesus so much?
@sandrahbradley1511Ай бұрын
Yep💯
@amelittaberretta9109Ай бұрын
Silent treatment!
@thomaslgregoryjrАй бұрын
Thank you for including a guy
@CheezhOfficialАй бұрын
you are not alone my guy. there are just as much narcissistic women but they are mostly covert
@marie2928Ай бұрын
I was in italy for my boyfriend. He wanted me to isolate and told lies.. i think he is covert narcist. He was also sadist and scary. And he let me doubt strange thinks.loke in middle of night he strangled me i was really scared. And i was in other country where i didn't trust anyone. I fighted back and i was the abuser. I quit. But still really upset and mixed emotions..like i miss him bit don't understand why.
@ionathelleАй бұрын
So true. One lesson I've got is also, what an enormous blind spot I had all my life until very recently, not even remotely realizing that I've been the victim since my childhood on, and that the closest to me are not just trying to be this evil ignorants from time to time, but there is an official diagnosis for their behavior. Since I remember, I was helping others and solving their problems, family, friends, my exes, I thought this should be somehow my job, because I can do it. Now I'm actually astonished, how I was unable to see the true big picture regarding to myself. I wish I'd know all this as a teenager, my life would be so much different. It's never too late to heal I guess. Thanks. 🌞
@Beth0962Ай бұрын
This is so good! My ex discarded me after 17 years and I’m so close to checking myself in a hospital. I became sick with an autoimmune disease soon after marriage. You’re right! My body was 24/7 fight or flight. You would think I would happy being away from him but I’m not. Guess it’s the trauma bond and it’s been so difficult trying to take care of myself. My mind is so damaged have no clue or motivation to help myself. He’s also been on a smear campaign and still is even though he has a girlfriend, he still continues to crush me. You’ve helped so much! ❤
@catspyjamas7944Ай бұрын
“What if I could let everyone be wrong about me?” That is so so powerful ❤️
@beautypablotamarini7315Ай бұрын
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Thank you. All of their experiences and comments are extremely relatable.
who are these so called experts?who or what is DML? ineed to know more about the makers of this 'documentary'
The mother "empath" cannot leave he narcissist "rotten dysfunctional lost child"
was raised my a narcissist. sometimes i feel like ill never be able to heal from it. sometimes i feel like i dont deserve any other treatment than what they gave me
De energie die jij uitstraalt is geweldig
Just got out of a horrible relationship and this video helps
Exactly true the painful patterns meant to break you TEACH PEOPLE HOW YOU LOVE TO BE LOVED❤
"Dancing with the devil"
PLEASE Report at the highest level of governance: NOW ON LIFE SUPPORT: Cease and desist on malicious use of AI and poisoning supremacist Communists and terrorists. I'm not your property.
I’m currently dealing with this with my mother in law. It’s devastating that she has treated her son and myself so horribly with her behavior.
soo true. very good explained. thank you for the video. there are three more things that I experienced: no one it's the feeling of losing your capabilities in a way - mentally and physically. like you are no longer able to do certain things or thinkings you are normal capable to do. it is like an alien took over and is limiting you. no two is, it feels like you re next to a black hole that sucks off all your energy and you are exhausted. no matter what you do, anything positive will be sucked up. no three: you turn into a person that is getting "harder" in order to survive the company, as if you constantly have to stand up for yourself instead of just being yourself.
Thank you for this video. It is such a huge supoort.❤❤❤❤❤
Years of self isolation, Complex PTSD, Psychosis, lack of sleep & lack of motivation for anything. A relationship with a narcissist is incredibly damaging and most of all confusing.
Spot on! I could add even more.
See! These girls came from very emotionally neglecting parents. But they are not narcs. Lucky! However, their kids can be narcs….. it often is genetic or in the dna. Take care everybody.
Not all “neglected” or “abused” kids become narcs or psychopaths. The best of parents can still have a narc child….. please scientists. Mention the inherited trauma. Mental illnesses run in families, for generations. Please mention this so that we all are aware of this. Thank you
I just don't know what to do now
Heal. 💜
😢🎉
Right on every point!
Narc abuser cant feel their emotions thatswhy they use empaths to express their unmet emotions which they cant feel. It makes us strong to hold in in getting triggered. Being motionless is the answer and build steength and selfesteem. Cut the emotional phantasie bond, which developed in our childhood. We need to heal our bounderies and grow selfesteem. They are here to teach us!
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. I was in therapy for a few months. I now take a daily anti anxiety medication daily because of abuse I suffered from for 8 years.
I can SO relate to these people...
Narcissistic people should be looked away forever. Like wild animals so the can’t do harm to anyone
I’m sitting here wondering if I’m going to have to check myself into a mental hospital. He has broken me that bad
Thank you Aletta. This was a very validating video. to watch and reassuring that I am on the right path to recovery from Narcissistic Abuse and C-PTSD. Good luck with your continued healing too. xo Deb
I grew up in a nest of them, it took me 53 years to see it.
The statements are correct, please note that Sam Vaknin, is a self-confessed narcissist. Please NEVER trust a narcissist, they always want power and control, they cannot change..... I feel very sorry for the people who have been mistreated by these very misanthropic individuals. I therefore view this video with great skepticism.
Hi. I loved yor documentary. I didn´t expect that the books you reccomend are mostly spiritual stuff. I totally respect. But I think we must be careful because many narcisist and psicopats are gurús, coaches, healers... My advice is to rely on science.
As a man, it is sad to see that the vast majority of comments are from women about men. I guess men are the bad guys in the world. But not all. Women are not perfect. My ex is a criminal. She destroyed me my life, and my self-confidence. She beat me, and should be in jail. Even though we split up THIRTEEN years ago, I haven't had a girlfriend or sex since, and sad to say, I now generally distrust women and am always on the lookout for narcissistic behaviour. I have had therapy, recently, and luckily I have discovered the truth about what was going on. I'm ok now. So the past doesn't change, and I focus only on the future. Hopefully I will meet a wonderful normal woman one day. Unfortunately, I had a child with this woman. Our son is 14, lovely, clever, witty, and just great. But he lives with her, and he has been brainwashed by her. All perfectly logical. She loves to take as much money from me, though. Apparently, she thinks I'm good enough for that. She hates the fact that she had a child with me. She actually thinks our son has Aspergers, or something like that on the Autism spectrum, because she doesn't want him to be like me (not many friends, no girlfriend, etc). So she is going to spend a lot of money on a psychologist who will tell her what she wants to hear. Clearly, she doesn't understand the difference between nature and nurture. He's stubbon and a bit specific about what he wants and doesn't want, but he's 14. He's a teen. Finding himself. It's fine. I have my son every second weekend, I love cooking for him and try my best. We have great holidays together. But she sends lots of abusive texts on Whatsapp - still, amazingly, after splitting up 13 years ago. She never stops. She will send 20 or 30 texts in a minute or two. It's like a rapid-fire machine gun of pure hate. She thinks I am a crap dad. The usual texts - oh he is ill because of YOU, you didn't put a jumper on him, and if he's ill YOU will pay for the doctor, etc. I have today decided to block her on Whatsapp, and never see her again. She is also blocked on phone and mail. She also destroyed her relationship with her sister, and one of her parents. And she still doesn't get it. One day she'll die alone with no friends or anyone by her deathbed. You may think that cutting contact and going full-on grey rock is impossible, but I will do it. I will have contact exclusively with my son. He may not like being a go-between, but one day, he will understand. As a 55-year-old, I do not deserve to take this crap for the rest of my life. No one does. In any case, I live abroad, and will return to my home country one day soon. And I will still see my son every second weekend, even if I live in Timbuktu (no, I won't be living there). The main thing is that I need to physically remove this criminal from my life. You can judge me, whatever. You have no idea of the utter annihilation this woman wreaked on my psyche and also my physical health. I even contemplated suicide.
I was not strong enough to realize a narcissist had taken over...it led to my attempt at suicide😮
This was amazing 👏 Thank you to those people who took part ❤
This documentary in itself is healing millions❤ I feel seen & heard, not crazy anymore. Down to the smear campaign & my own overtly Narcissistic Father so it was obvious to leave him but my Mother I never saw coming. I thought something was wrong with me for YEARS like I was always the bad daughter and both my parents hated me…for trying to tell the truth. At first I wanted protection & validation…then I just wanted peace and change. Even attempted S several times to escape. Thank you thank you thank you❤ May God restore all the victims.
Idealize (lovebomb), Devalue, Discard, Hoover. Learn the cycles of abuse.
It’s scary how true, to the tiniest details, this document is. It’s been 2 years no contact, still not over it, healing is a long process. You have to build yourself up and start afresh again but they are always at the back of your head and you control yourself with everything you say and do as this is what you are used to…happy healing everyone ❣️
This is my son. Years and years of all this, and I just want out but he is my son, how can I abandon my own son? I tried everything for him, even when he was a child, therapy, love, attention etc. I always thought If I just showed him I loved him more, he would come out of the defiance, out of the bullying, threating of the teachers, and all the lies. It never helped. I tried to parent him by taking things away, and grounding. Even when he was little a small pat on the butt and a no, would just not even phase him. He would go back to what he just got in trouble for. This child has always been difficult to love and parent. I still all through out his childhood, would keep coming back trying to help him. Now that he is almost 18, it's been an abuse roller coaster and I have been trapped all these years. Feeling guilty I even feel like this. He has accused us of abuse, assault, and child pornagraphy. I don't just mean accuse me and that's that, oh, mo. He has called the police and made up lies that they almost believed. It was only because of security cameras we had that we could prove he was lying to DFS. We have lived w cameras in almost every angle of our lives, so when he decides to uproar again, we have a way to prove our innocence. It's a horrible way to live, and it has also affected our daughter who is now 9. He constantly puts her down, and tries to gaslight her even. She busts into anger when he tries all the tricks on her since she is just a kid. I try to keep her away from him, but it's so hard when you as the mother need to save them both. But how do you save one from the other? Idk what I did to have him turn out like this. He is so full of himself, he is so mean to people. He doesn't even know he is being mean, it just comes out of his mouth about any and everyone. I love my son, but I hate this monster within him.
The worst is when someone says they love you and you immediately ask in your mind what do they want or why😢💩💀
Very helpful, Aletta. You've brought us something unique by focusing on what the victim feels rather than what the narcissist does. In my study journey, apart from learning a lot from Dr. Ramani Durvasula (her book "It's Not You" is a masterpiece), Dr. Les Carter, and survivor Danish Bashir, I recommend the videos on the channel of a diagnosed narcissist, Lee Hammock. Do you know him, Aletta? It was interesting for me to see the narcissist's point of view for one main reason: He explains to us that, having narcissistic personality disorder, he KNOWS exactly what he's doing to his victims; he just can't control it (he's in therapy for it). What difference does it make for us, as victims, to know that? It made a huge difference to me because we tend to see narcissists only as sick people who don't know what they're doing. Many of us empaths even feel sorry for their childhood and sorry that they have the disorder. But when I learned this truth - THEY KNOW THEY'RE DOING US BAD - it changed everything for my tendency to forgive them many times. And what proves that they know? They behave one way in public and another way behind closed doors. Stay strong, people. And thank you, Aletta.
Is your partner manipulative, and you want access to their phone?google chat eaglespy72
Sustained devaluation typically begins from 6 to 18 months from the beginning of the relationship - HG Tudor is right about everything, I’ve never known him to be wrong in the 7 years I’ve been listening to him and reading his books & articles - not once has he ever been wrong.
Someone said that this describes Meghan & Harry’s relationship, which is believable since she’s a somatic, middle mid-range narcissist who operates with a facade, and the sustained devaluation is so visible in their relationship since even before they married.
One of the more positive and empowering videos on narcissism. Good to see the victims speaking from a place of hope, healthy self esteem and good spirits.
It's like they expect me to put up with their abuse... even though someone else isn't the one abusing or isn't the one on the receiving end.. but I'm supposed to put up with their abuse year after year after decade after decade and never educate them on the truth. The abusers just want to pretend they're these really good people and abuse people on the sly and when the abused points out actual evidence it's like you can't get people interested because it's not happening to them. But if it happened to them they wouldn't put up with it for 5 minutes let alone 20+ years. I mean abusers get their feelings hurt every 5 minutes but the abused are just supposed to let them go. Show me a teacher or preacher or a police officer putting up with relentless abuse and then I'll follow them. But where are they? There's none of them. And so they say Jesus. Ok, Jesus, yep. But if I have to endure it why can't these others who claim they love Jesus so much?
Yep💯
Silent treatment!
Thank you for including a guy
you are not alone my guy. there are just as much narcissistic women but they are mostly covert
I was in italy for my boyfriend. He wanted me to isolate and told lies.. i think he is covert narcist. He was also sadist and scary. And he let me doubt strange thinks.loke in middle of night he strangled me i was really scared. And i was in other country where i didn't trust anyone. I fighted back and i was the abuser. I quit. But still really upset and mixed emotions..like i miss him bit don't understand why.
So true. One lesson I've got is also, what an enormous blind spot I had all my life until very recently, not even remotely realizing that I've been the victim since my childhood on, and that the closest to me are not just trying to be this evil ignorants from time to time, but there is an official diagnosis for their behavior. Since I remember, I was helping others and solving their problems, family, friends, my exes, I thought this should be somehow my job, because I can do it. Now I'm actually astonished, how I was unable to see the true big picture regarding to myself. I wish I'd know all this as a teenager, my life would be so much different. It's never too late to heal I guess. Thanks. 🌞
This is so good! My ex discarded me after 17 years and I’m so close to checking myself in a hospital. I became sick with an autoimmune disease soon after marriage. You’re right! My body was 24/7 fight or flight. You would think I would happy being away from him but I’m not. Guess it’s the trauma bond and it’s been so difficult trying to take care of myself. My mind is so damaged have no clue or motivation to help myself. He’s also been on a smear campaign and still is even though he has a girlfriend, he still continues to crush me. You’ve helped so much! ❤
“What if I could let everyone be wrong about me?” That is so so powerful ❤️
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