Hope you continue making videos. I know you'll be one of the biggest youtube channel 5 years from now😊
@willlyon712912 сағат бұрын
I’m in my 30s, I’m still single and happy without kids.
@DullEyes100Күн бұрын
I feel you; with just hinge+ for the month, I got like 80 in a month and got literally overwhelmed. Had to step back for a few months
@MrReuben779Күн бұрын
My 3 values: Do creative work, Work remotely and see Jansley achieve his dream
@jansleyreal16 сағат бұрын
You just made my day Reuben, you the best! 👊
@fatimaallawati947Күн бұрын
Great video, super helpful! One thing that came to mind is that in this ne and only context, when deciding on whether to give up on the skill or not, the sunk cost fallacy should be a GREAT motivator for you in NOT giving up the skill. Though you CAN give up the skill if it isn't working out after that and get back to it a few years later, sometimes we aren't ready for some skills and it's important to be mindful of that.
@jansleyreal16 сағат бұрын
That’s a great point Fatima, thanks for sharing that! :)
@jesusmtz29Күн бұрын
Its better for your mental health (if you want to use that term) to have kids. Spares you from being egocentrical and narcissist. It teaches you to be a better person and care for something beyond these goals which are not impressive at all and last very little. It teaches you to be resilient work hard for others (volunteering and social work are not the same). It teaches you to tolerate being uncomfortable. Teaches you to make tough decisions. Have fun having a sub par teenage life as an adult
@jansleyrealКүн бұрын
My mental health is pretty great at the moment. I care for my basil plant, Herbert. He’s my son now.
@mattcantinnutritionКүн бұрын
Lol you don't need kids to learn these things
@jesusmtz29Күн бұрын
With all due respect, what a loser
@blind_warriorr2 күн бұрын
I’ll have to check out the course. I created my channel about 5 years ago but have only been really posting content consistently the last 3 to 4 months. My channel went from a little over 100 subs to close to 400 subs. It’s not much but I’m hoping the rate of subs will increase as the channel becomes more popular and I get more views. Anyway, I love your content.
@jansleyrealКүн бұрын
I think I saw you joined, I admitted you this morning. Excited to have you in the community! And thank you for the compliment James :)
@raymond_sycamore2 күн бұрын
It's because you're bald. Trust me, as a bald man for almost a decade, and dealing with the social fallout, I have realized most of life is blind luck, and most of that blind luck is informed by the quality of our social connections, which is directly downstream of how physically attractive we are to other people. I have struggled with this for years, and only recently realized the real dissatisfaction I experience in my life is a direct result of being unattractive. I haven't found peace with this brutal realization, but it's the only logical conclusion I have calculated after growing up as a contractor's son and learning all the requisite tradesman skills while building houses in the 00s, getting straight A grades in high school, graduating art school, working in tech and startup culture for years, managing to forge a now 15 year career as a web developer, renovating my own house down to the studs by myself, writing and publishing a novel, and various other artistic pursuits and films that have left me feeling nothing but dissatisfied. None of these accomplishments matter because ultimately nobody cares. I no longer have goals. I'm trying to sell the house I just renovated. I have worked 15 hour days for nothing more than nobody to want to buy this damn house. I'm probably going to lose this current job I have to the remote vs. in office war going on right now, and I don't care to try to find another corporate job. My only debt is a low (under $1,000) mortgage payment. I drive a 20 year old car and a 30 year old truck. My monthly expenses, including my mortgage, don't top $1,900. Including everything. I can do that delivering pizza, and why bother trying to do anything more? No women want me, I'm never going to have a family. I'll never reproduce. It all comes down to being ugly. It's a harsh reality. I have realized the deep dissatisfaction I feel in life is a direct result of how I look.
@danielagh57162 күн бұрын
I downloaded the app for free, and I didn't get any matches in one day. That is insane because in one week on Bumble, I reach 1000 likes. Anyway, the second day someone has reported me. And I didn't match with anyone. I don't get it, lol
@gusmonster593 күн бұрын
You don't need to make list. You don't need to explain yourself. It's nobody's business but your own. Just be honest with anyone you have a relationship with.
@Ameridlo3 күн бұрын
since I found I was a polymath the approach was to focus on my core skills and iterate from a core to more narrow and island of knowledge alike
@ronniejorgensen56313 күн бұрын
Trying Pliability based on your review. Thanks for a great review, you have such a calm voice ans you’re good at describing.
@jansleyreal2 күн бұрын
I appreciate that! Thank you! :)
@juliastroud3 күн бұрын
Every video I watch from you about your journey sounds like I'm listening to myself talking about my creative pursuits, my feelings towards my career, the belief not feeling real. Hoping you are able to make it work!!
@jansleyreal2 күн бұрын
So cool to have other people that have similar journeys! And thank you, I’m trying to! :)
@RichhardRatut3 күн бұрын
What a great Video!
@jansleyreal2 күн бұрын
Glad you liked it! Thank you Richard!
@randomname39cf3 күн бұрын
I can totally relate. I'd say focus on intersection of talent, interest and market value and stick to one tangential interest at a time, making sure it doesn't take too much bandwidth in your brain, otherwise it gets exhausting. I pursue my tangential interest on avarge 1/2 times a week for very few hours
@jansleyreal3 күн бұрын
I think that’s a great strategy! I definitely try to stick with 1 tangential interest as well, I spread myself thin if I do too much haha.
@randomname39cf3 күн бұрын
@@jansleyreal being a "polymath" can really be a prison if not well handled. I think Jordan Peterson refers to this as the eternal Peter Pan sindrome. If i recall correctly, he actually suggests to explore as deeply as possible one subject/profession and then branch out from threre, instead of pursuing/starting different branches with the intent of connecting them later,which might be our temptation as polymaths
@TheSourMaple4 күн бұрын
Best way to end up going no where fast
@jansleyreal3 күн бұрын
Yep so true!
@mmecharlotte4 күн бұрын
One of favorite ridiculous lines used on me is: "You won't know if you'd be a good parent until you tried" So if I do try and it doesn't work out, can I send the kid back to the factory? Can I do a cash exchange? Kids aren't something you try out, they're not a product you can ship back to Amazon if you're not fully satisfied. The very idea that these people think you can just try out being a parent, as if it was a college class you can drop is just absurd. 😂
@jansleyreal3 күн бұрын
That’s a really good point! Not really a trial period for parenthood haha
@becca-d8s4 күн бұрын
Great video! Looking forward to part 3 :) I'm a product designer looking to try freelancing myself but my biggest obstacle right now (apart from finding clients) is using Webflow. I find that I struggle translating my designs across because my Webflow skills aren't at the same level as my Figma skills. I also had a couple questions I wonder if you could answer for me or cover in the next part. How do you share and deliver a final site to a client using Webflow? Do you also include the cost of hosting on Webflow in their bill? Thank you!
@jansleyreal4 күн бұрын
I hear you, I was the same way when I started Webflow. Very overwhelming UI at first. But now I love it! I don't cover those questions in part 3, but I can help here. To deliver a site to a client, you transfer ownership of the site to them. So they become the main host of the website, and pay for hosting. They then can add you as a guest designer so you can continue to make modifications if need be. As far as cost that's up to you. I would do it so they pay for the hosting, and I just charge for the actual design and dev service.
@phantomberzerk94864 күн бұрын
Thanks man even if you are calling me out, it still feels like you have my back. I was straying of from ui/ux into gamedev, drawing and ai recently.
@jansleyreal4 күн бұрын
Yep I got your back! Shiny object syndrome is easy to fall prey to.
@KishorHere-hb7nk6 күн бұрын
Hey i have seen your childfree video.. Can you please give me idea on my situation how to deal with it. I am 38M now, I don't like kids and don't feel any necessity to have one. But my wife is going crazy to have a kid. Can you please let me know how to handle this situation apart from separation.. I seriously can't be committed to kids, and I don't like the extra stress.. My wife knows all about me, but she is ignorant, and thinks she alone can manage everything about kid, which is impractical wrt me,bcos I know her lifestyle. Seriously I'm stuck in this situation, really don't know the solution.
@KishorHere-hb7nk6 күн бұрын
Hey.. Nice video.. Can you please give me idea on my situation how to deal with it. I am 38M now, I don't like kids and don't feel any necessity to have one. But my wife is going crazy to have a kid. Can you please let me know how to handle this situation apart from separation.. I seriously can't be committed to kids, and I don't like the extra stress.. My wife knows all about me, but she is ignorant, and thinks she alone can manage everything about kid, which is impractical wrt me,bcos I know her lifestyle. Seriously I'm stuck in this situation, really don't know the solution.
@jansleyreal4 күн бұрын
I'm not gonna lie, that's a very difficult scenario to be in. I'm not even going to pretend like I'm qualified to give advice here. What I will say, is differences in preferences on children is nearly impossible to compromise on. Either you're willing to have kids, or you're not. There's really no middle ground. If you have the ability to go to the relationship therapist, that would probably be the most reasonable step.
@ruthngwenya886 күн бұрын
Beautiful video
@jansleyreal4 күн бұрын
Thank you so much!
@LorettaBangBang6 күн бұрын
What about a lack of naming systems in Framer? Isn’t that a problem for maintenance?
@corypopoff8656 күн бұрын
I respect your decision! I'm a 35 year old father of a 12, 9, and a 6 year old. We also have two dogs! Lol. My life didn't start until we had our first. We just came back from Vietnam, travel is doable!
@jansleyreal4 күн бұрын
Good to know travel is still doable with kids! Sounds like you all are doing it right, cheers!
@m_jay56 күн бұрын
I have high functioning autism and I can't even take care of myself let alone a child!
@Dottiebonds7 күн бұрын
😂😂😂 they might have something on the weekend which might affect my spontaneous trips……DITTO i love when men are verbal about stuff like this!🤍🤌🏾
@jansleyreal6 күн бұрын
Haha it’s true! And thank you! :)
@companyreviews2947 күн бұрын
Hi @Jansley How do i export the framer website to my own server?
@jansleyreal6 күн бұрын
You can’t. You’re locked in their ecosystem
@apeshitphilosophy52217 күн бұрын
He’s not a 5 I’d say 7
@Seriksy7 күн бұрын
Yeah all parents I talk to within work and other places always talks about their kids, and nothing else. Which of course is understandable because your kids should be your world if you are a parent. However 80% of the time, they complain, and live each day on repeat. Everytime they are happy, or say they look forward to something, it's always when they have a childfree weekend. People say children is an investment for your own future. "Wouldn't you be lonely when you get old?", "Don't you want to be around loved ones at christmas or when you're retiring"?. Well for one, that is a selfish reason, so don't get kids because of just that, those parents end up regretting more often than not. And second, don't people realise that a lot might have siblings, cousins, friends etc.? If you're super unsure, you probably will regret either way. Just live your life and if it happens or not, that is all fine. Don't force yourself into it however
@jansleyreal7 күн бұрын
Very well said!
@PochoNieves7 күн бұрын
Well arent a bunch of designers butthurt here? LOL! So Jansley goes on his exploratory journey and made this honest video and people is just mad... Jansley is ACTUALLY in the right path for himself. He has the one skill many creative people lack... he is taking RISK! The one reason successful people make it is because they take risk! He figured early that UX/UI is overrated and wack. Honestly, UX and UI is cake, you ain't the artist nor the developer... you are just the chick in the middle that we can all live without. You all mad that he has the cojones to be realistic, pragmatic and brave enough to not follow the pack like most of you. He is Star Trek head first where no of you ventured before. Jansley, do YOU and don't look back nor apologize. I am wishing you success!
@jansleyreal7 күн бұрын
Thanks for support, I really appreciate it! Always gonna be haters, comes with the territory :)
@kevincarr3788 күн бұрын
I’m a big fan of how you don’t over-edit your videos, so it’s a steady stream of your raw, honest thoughts. Bravo!
@jansleyreal7 күн бұрын
I’m glad you say that! I like making the less produced videos
@digitalsublime8 күн бұрын
47 here, I doubt the path when you have put a lot of time and effort and it still economically sucks. What I'm passionate now is freedom and peace of mind, and that's 100% related to making money, investing, or having assets that have a return. So doesn't really matter what you do if you can save, and that includes outside of work, living frugal, below your means. There is so much bullshit about passion and liking your work, but even the most fun thing is repetitive, or the most helpful thing for others frustrate you when is not great economically. So I just place my energy where I have actual and sustainable dependable returns and go all in, and invest everything so I can not have anxiety and hopelessness.
@jansleyreal7 күн бұрын
Well said. That’s the biggest thing I discovered too. I can do something I love, but when I rely on it, it becomes not as fun.
@digitalsublime7 күн бұрын
@@jansleyreal Bro i was a yoga teacher, 40 girls a day, 50% infatuated with me, guru treatment, 3hr of work a day, and still I was bored with the routine, unsatisfied, looking to grow or do something else. It's never ending. At the end of the day is all about hope of a future that you're not obligated to do something when you don't feel like it, to have freedom. That's why so many dream of retirement, or being rich. So, work something that you can save most of your money invest on an index fund. It's not your work what gives you happiness, that's intrinsic, is about your state of mind and loved ones. But peace and hope comes for seeing a future were you're not a slave anymore, and the only way out is patrimony, if you don't have it, you have to create it as fast as possible.... took me decades to escape the "follow your passion" trap. 🙏🏻🤙🏻
@ThatsTravelUSA8 күн бұрын
This was great to hear/see from the other side. I do have a child (one) and I really enjoy hearing stories like this. I feel like this is becoming more and more popular and I think it is fantastic!
@jansleyreal7 күн бұрын
Appreciate you stopping by! You are much more open minded than a lot of parents that have been flaming this video, so thank you for the breath of fresh air! I feel like neither path is right or wrong, just personal preference :)
@ThatsTravelUSA7 күн бұрын
@@jansleyreal I went through a really rough time having my son and have had to have many operations since and it has been a life changing event for me and I can’t have anymore children.. I love my son more than anything, obviously but my life would have been very different physical had I not had children.. I guess that probably helps me see it from both sides. I think it’s beautiful people being fulfilled without having to take that next step that society has created to be the “next step”. It’s a very interesting topic! 😊
@Max_G4310 күн бұрын
You're a 6 respectfully
@gsilagan711711 күн бұрын
🎉Yay! I'm the 500th like!!
@jansleyreal11 күн бұрын
Woo, thanks for the 500th like! :)
@sarajaved555211 күн бұрын
Rare find, finally some reminaing specimen of a human male with a working brain. Glad to see that. Good work
@jansleyreal11 күн бұрын
I ain't no smooth brain :)
@MySunshine23412 күн бұрын
This is amazing. I never wanted kids either my mom was a single mother we struggled a lot growing up. Also I'm biracail and I was bullied for like twelve years in public school growing up. Which lead to a condition which made it crystal clear not to have kids. I invest in my hobbies I have two gym memberships. I like going to coffee shops reading spending time with my family and going on meetups. I love cats and I want to volunteer with cats until I get another one. I'm an animal lover. I love my life. But I do work with kids. I see myself as their fun childfree aunt even though they are not related to me. But yeah I'm going to keep my job it's also for a school district so there are really good benefits. I'm currently on summer break. I'm loving every minute of it. It's so nice to hear from men who don't want kids. Keep doing you.
@jansleyreal11 күн бұрын
If you love life, then you're doing it right!
@alexanderomowale698712 күн бұрын
Loving your contents man, Thanks so much for sharing❤
@jansleyreal11 күн бұрын
I appreciate you saying that, thank you!
@personinousapraham308212 күн бұрын
Friendly warning, friend, but you'll probably want that "no" button to call history.back() after rather than only alert("some text"). That way it will actually send 20- folks away from your site, rather than just bringing them back to the "yes/no" screen (which tells them, just say yes this time). Makes the lawyers happier 😁 Have a fantastic day!
@jansleyreal11 күн бұрын
That's a really good point, thank you for this!
@RiyadhMehboobA13 күн бұрын
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@gsilagan711714 күн бұрын
I can 1000% relate to your situation! My wife is a full-time physical therapist, and I work in Healthcare too but I'm studying UI UX online right now. Liked and subscribed!
@jansleyreal13 күн бұрын
Thanks, good luck with your new journey!
@MartialFitness65614 күн бұрын
Costs way to much, i like base vidIQ it helped but I’m gonna have to stop it due to its expense
@DezLandPlayz14 күн бұрын
Is the $99 a month with an annual membership?
@jansleyreal13 күн бұрын
I think when I did it, that was the price month to month.
@BlazeMordecaiMusic12 күн бұрын
Its not month to month anymore unless you pay $200 and then also $20 for a monthly membership. So you're looking at $220 per month or you can pay $1188 for the entire year. I just looked into this. I dont see any youtubers who are famous from using this service. All I've seen is small youtubers using this with very little results. Maybe 3000 - 4000 subs at the most and small viewership.
@Hben_web_creator14 күн бұрын
That feeling when you accomplish what you wanted to do 😌
@jansleyreal13 күн бұрын
Yes exactly!!
@rajatkapoor490114 күн бұрын
I follow a lot of similar steps on my process of building a website too! I’ve been using GPt4 & GPT4o for website structure and copy though. What I found works great is that gpt stores my inputs in memory. So I’ve given a few general directions on how I like my content, & how I like to approach things. And it then just generates all my answers keeping those things in mind.
@pastorrandy15 күн бұрын
I absolutely loved my coach. I had to stop for financial reasons, but when I went back to sign back up, the monthly price went up from $99/month to $199/month UNLESS I paid annually ($1,188). Couldn't afford that so I've opted out of vidIQ and now I'm trying to learn to do my own research.
@uguhaxyi15 күн бұрын
Well done! Looking so good!
@jansleyreal15 күн бұрын
Thanks so much! :)
@o0oWiggyo0o15 күн бұрын
That's brilliant, well done 👍
@jansleyreal15 күн бұрын
Thanks so much, it took forever haha
@cavemaninasuit15 күн бұрын
Thanks for making this, screw the haters in the comments. I have recently decided with my wife that kids are not for us, we love to travel and go to burning man, etc things that are expensive and not really able to do with small kids. I am very seriously considering this surgery.
@jansleyreal15 күн бұрын
Thank you for your support! Yeah if your dead set on not having kids, getting that surgery has been the biggest anxiety relief ever.
@cavemaninasuit15 күн бұрын
@jansleyreal thanks for your reply! Can you give me a general idea of how bad the numbing needle hurts and for how long? It's my only fear really
@jansleyreal15 күн бұрын
@@cavemaninasuit On a scale of 1-10, maybe a 2. It's easy. Soreness afterwards, I waddled a bit haha. But not painful, just uncomfortable. Lasted maybe 2 days. Some residual yet insignificant discomfort for a week or so. After 2 weeks, I forgot I had gotten it done.
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Hope you continue making videos. I know you'll be one of the biggest youtube channel 5 years from now😊
I’m in my 30s, I’m still single and happy without kids.
I feel you; with just hinge+ for the month, I got like 80 in a month and got literally overwhelmed. Had to step back for a few months
My 3 values: Do creative work, Work remotely and see Jansley achieve his dream
You just made my day Reuben, you the best! 👊
Great video, super helpful! One thing that came to mind is that in this ne and only context, when deciding on whether to give up on the skill or not, the sunk cost fallacy should be a GREAT motivator for you in NOT giving up the skill. Though you CAN give up the skill if it isn't working out after that and get back to it a few years later, sometimes we aren't ready for some skills and it's important to be mindful of that.
That’s a great point Fatima, thanks for sharing that! :)
Its better for your mental health (if you want to use that term) to have kids. Spares you from being egocentrical and narcissist. It teaches you to be a better person and care for something beyond these goals which are not impressive at all and last very little. It teaches you to be resilient work hard for others (volunteering and social work are not the same). It teaches you to tolerate being uncomfortable. Teaches you to make tough decisions. Have fun having a sub par teenage life as an adult
My mental health is pretty great at the moment. I care for my basil plant, Herbert. He’s my son now.
Lol you don't need kids to learn these things
With all due respect, what a loser
I’ll have to check out the course. I created my channel about 5 years ago but have only been really posting content consistently the last 3 to 4 months. My channel went from a little over 100 subs to close to 400 subs. It’s not much but I’m hoping the rate of subs will increase as the channel becomes more popular and I get more views. Anyway, I love your content.
I think I saw you joined, I admitted you this morning. Excited to have you in the community! And thank you for the compliment James :)
It's because you're bald. Trust me, as a bald man for almost a decade, and dealing with the social fallout, I have realized most of life is blind luck, and most of that blind luck is informed by the quality of our social connections, which is directly downstream of how physically attractive we are to other people. I have struggled with this for years, and only recently realized the real dissatisfaction I experience in my life is a direct result of being unattractive. I haven't found peace with this brutal realization, but it's the only logical conclusion I have calculated after growing up as a contractor's son and learning all the requisite tradesman skills while building houses in the 00s, getting straight A grades in high school, graduating art school, working in tech and startup culture for years, managing to forge a now 15 year career as a web developer, renovating my own house down to the studs by myself, writing and publishing a novel, and various other artistic pursuits and films that have left me feeling nothing but dissatisfied. None of these accomplishments matter because ultimately nobody cares. I no longer have goals. I'm trying to sell the house I just renovated. I have worked 15 hour days for nothing more than nobody to want to buy this damn house. I'm probably going to lose this current job I have to the remote vs. in office war going on right now, and I don't care to try to find another corporate job. My only debt is a low (under $1,000) mortgage payment. I drive a 20 year old car and a 30 year old truck. My monthly expenses, including my mortgage, don't top $1,900. Including everything. I can do that delivering pizza, and why bother trying to do anything more? No women want me, I'm never going to have a family. I'll never reproduce. It all comes down to being ugly. It's a harsh reality. I have realized the deep dissatisfaction I feel in life is a direct result of how I look.
I downloaded the app for free, and I didn't get any matches in one day. That is insane because in one week on Bumble, I reach 1000 likes. Anyway, the second day someone has reported me. And I didn't match with anyone. I don't get it, lol
You don't need to make list. You don't need to explain yourself. It's nobody's business but your own. Just be honest with anyone you have a relationship with.
since I found I was a polymath the approach was to focus on my core skills and iterate from a core to more narrow and island of knowledge alike
Trying Pliability based on your review. Thanks for a great review, you have such a calm voice ans you’re good at describing.
I appreciate that! Thank you! :)
Every video I watch from you about your journey sounds like I'm listening to myself talking about my creative pursuits, my feelings towards my career, the belief not feeling real. Hoping you are able to make it work!!
So cool to have other people that have similar journeys! And thank you, I’m trying to! :)
What a great Video!
Glad you liked it! Thank you Richard!
I can totally relate. I'd say focus on intersection of talent, interest and market value and stick to one tangential interest at a time, making sure it doesn't take too much bandwidth in your brain, otherwise it gets exhausting. I pursue my tangential interest on avarge 1/2 times a week for very few hours
I think that’s a great strategy! I definitely try to stick with 1 tangential interest as well, I spread myself thin if I do too much haha.
@@jansleyreal being a "polymath" can really be a prison if not well handled. I think Jordan Peterson refers to this as the eternal Peter Pan sindrome. If i recall correctly, he actually suggests to explore as deeply as possible one subject/profession and then branch out from threre, instead of pursuing/starting different branches with the intent of connecting them later,which might be our temptation as polymaths
Best way to end up going no where fast
Yep so true!
One of favorite ridiculous lines used on me is: "You won't know if you'd be a good parent until you tried" So if I do try and it doesn't work out, can I send the kid back to the factory? Can I do a cash exchange? Kids aren't something you try out, they're not a product you can ship back to Amazon if you're not fully satisfied. The very idea that these people think you can just try out being a parent, as if it was a college class you can drop is just absurd. 😂
That’s a really good point! Not really a trial period for parenthood haha
Great video! Looking forward to part 3 :) I'm a product designer looking to try freelancing myself but my biggest obstacle right now (apart from finding clients) is using Webflow. I find that I struggle translating my designs across because my Webflow skills aren't at the same level as my Figma skills. I also had a couple questions I wonder if you could answer for me or cover in the next part. How do you share and deliver a final site to a client using Webflow? Do you also include the cost of hosting on Webflow in their bill? Thank you!
I hear you, I was the same way when I started Webflow. Very overwhelming UI at first. But now I love it! I don't cover those questions in part 3, but I can help here. To deliver a site to a client, you transfer ownership of the site to them. So they become the main host of the website, and pay for hosting. They then can add you as a guest designer so you can continue to make modifications if need be. As far as cost that's up to you. I would do it so they pay for the hosting, and I just charge for the actual design and dev service.
Thanks man even if you are calling me out, it still feels like you have my back. I was straying of from ui/ux into gamedev, drawing and ai recently.
Yep I got your back! Shiny object syndrome is easy to fall prey to.
Hey i have seen your childfree video.. Can you please give me idea on my situation how to deal with it. I am 38M now, I don't like kids and don't feel any necessity to have one. But my wife is going crazy to have a kid. Can you please let me know how to handle this situation apart from separation.. I seriously can't be committed to kids, and I don't like the extra stress.. My wife knows all about me, but she is ignorant, and thinks she alone can manage everything about kid, which is impractical wrt me,bcos I know her lifestyle. Seriously I'm stuck in this situation, really don't know the solution.
Hey.. Nice video.. Can you please give me idea on my situation how to deal with it. I am 38M now, I don't like kids and don't feel any necessity to have one. But my wife is going crazy to have a kid. Can you please let me know how to handle this situation apart from separation.. I seriously can't be committed to kids, and I don't like the extra stress.. My wife knows all about me, but she is ignorant, and thinks she alone can manage everything about kid, which is impractical wrt me,bcos I know her lifestyle. Seriously I'm stuck in this situation, really don't know the solution.
I'm not gonna lie, that's a very difficult scenario to be in. I'm not even going to pretend like I'm qualified to give advice here. What I will say, is differences in preferences on children is nearly impossible to compromise on. Either you're willing to have kids, or you're not. There's really no middle ground. If you have the ability to go to the relationship therapist, that would probably be the most reasonable step.
Beautiful video
Thank you so much!
What about a lack of naming systems in Framer? Isn’t that a problem for maintenance?
I respect your decision! I'm a 35 year old father of a 12, 9, and a 6 year old. We also have two dogs! Lol. My life didn't start until we had our first. We just came back from Vietnam, travel is doable!
Good to know travel is still doable with kids! Sounds like you all are doing it right, cheers!
I have high functioning autism and I can't even take care of myself let alone a child!
😂😂😂 they might have something on the weekend which might affect my spontaneous trips……DITTO i love when men are verbal about stuff like this!🤍🤌🏾
Haha it’s true! And thank you! :)
Hi @Jansley How do i export the framer website to my own server?
You can’t. You’re locked in their ecosystem
He’s not a 5 I’d say 7
Yeah all parents I talk to within work and other places always talks about their kids, and nothing else. Which of course is understandable because your kids should be your world if you are a parent. However 80% of the time, they complain, and live each day on repeat. Everytime they are happy, or say they look forward to something, it's always when they have a childfree weekend. People say children is an investment for your own future. "Wouldn't you be lonely when you get old?", "Don't you want to be around loved ones at christmas or when you're retiring"?. Well for one, that is a selfish reason, so don't get kids because of just that, those parents end up regretting more often than not. And second, don't people realise that a lot might have siblings, cousins, friends etc.? If you're super unsure, you probably will regret either way. Just live your life and if it happens or not, that is all fine. Don't force yourself into it however
Very well said!
Well arent a bunch of designers butthurt here? LOL! So Jansley goes on his exploratory journey and made this honest video and people is just mad... Jansley is ACTUALLY in the right path for himself. He has the one skill many creative people lack... he is taking RISK! The one reason successful people make it is because they take risk! He figured early that UX/UI is overrated and wack. Honestly, UX and UI is cake, you ain't the artist nor the developer... you are just the chick in the middle that we can all live without. You all mad that he has the cojones to be realistic, pragmatic and brave enough to not follow the pack like most of you. He is Star Trek head first where no of you ventured before. Jansley, do YOU and don't look back nor apologize. I am wishing you success!
Thanks for support, I really appreciate it! Always gonna be haters, comes with the territory :)
I’m a big fan of how you don’t over-edit your videos, so it’s a steady stream of your raw, honest thoughts. Bravo!
I’m glad you say that! I like making the less produced videos
47 here, I doubt the path when you have put a lot of time and effort and it still economically sucks. What I'm passionate now is freedom and peace of mind, and that's 100% related to making money, investing, or having assets that have a return. So doesn't really matter what you do if you can save, and that includes outside of work, living frugal, below your means. There is so much bullshit about passion and liking your work, but even the most fun thing is repetitive, or the most helpful thing for others frustrate you when is not great economically. So I just place my energy where I have actual and sustainable dependable returns and go all in, and invest everything so I can not have anxiety and hopelessness.
Well said. That’s the biggest thing I discovered too. I can do something I love, but when I rely on it, it becomes not as fun.
@@jansleyreal Bro i was a yoga teacher, 40 girls a day, 50% infatuated with me, guru treatment, 3hr of work a day, and still I was bored with the routine, unsatisfied, looking to grow or do something else. It's never ending. At the end of the day is all about hope of a future that you're not obligated to do something when you don't feel like it, to have freedom. That's why so many dream of retirement, or being rich. So, work something that you can save most of your money invest on an index fund. It's not your work what gives you happiness, that's intrinsic, is about your state of mind and loved ones. But peace and hope comes for seeing a future were you're not a slave anymore, and the only way out is patrimony, if you don't have it, you have to create it as fast as possible.... took me decades to escape the "follow your passion" trap. 🙏🏻🤙🏻
This was great to hear/see from the other side. I do have a child (one) and I really enjoy hearing stories like this. I feel like this is becoming more and more popular and I think it is fantastic!
Appreciate you stopping by! You are much more open minded than a lot of parents that have been flaming this video, so thank you for the breath of fresh air! I feel like neither path is right or wrong, just personal preference :)
@@jansleyreal I went through a really rough time having my son and have had to have many operations since and it has been a life changing event for me and I can’t have anymore children.. I love my son more than anything, obviously but my life would have been very different physical had I not had children.. I guess that probably helps me see it from both sides. I think it’s beautiful people being fulfilled without having to take that next step that society has created to be the “next step”. It’s a very interesting topic! 😊
You're a 6 respectfully
🎉Yay! I'm the 500th like!!
Woo, thanks for the 500th like! :)
Rare find, finally some reminaing specimen of a human male with a working brain. Glad to see that. Good work
I ain't no smooth brain :)
This is amazing. I never wanted kids either my mom was a single mother we struggled a lot growing up. Also I'm biracail and I was bullied for like twelve years in public school growing up. Which lead to a condition which made it crystal clear not to have kids. I invest in my hobbies I have two gym memberships. I like going to coffee shops reading spending time with my family and going on meetups. I love cats and I want to volunteer with cats until I get another one. I'm an animal lover. I love my life. But I do work with kids. I see myself as their fun childfree aunt even though they are not related to me. But yeah I'm going to keep my job it's also for a school district so there are really good benefits. I'm currently on summer break. I'm loving every minute of it. It's so nice to hear from men who don't want kids. Keep doing you.
If you love life, then you're doing it right!
Loving your contents man, Thanks so much for sharing❤
I appreciate you saying that, thank you!
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That's a really good point, thank you for this!
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I can 1000% relate to your situation! My wife is a full-time physical therapist, and I work in Healthcare too but I'm studying UI UX online right now. Liked and subscribed!
Thanks, good luck with your new journey!
Costs way to much, i like base vidIQ it helped but I’m gonna have to stop it due to its expense
Is the $99 a month with an annual membership?
I think when I did it, that was the price month to month.
Its not month to month anymore unless you pay $200 and then also $20 for a monthly membership. So you're looking at $220 per month or you can pay $1188 for the entire year. I just looked into this. I dont see any youtubers who are famous from using this service. All I've seen is small youtubers using this with very little results. Maybe 3000 - 4000 subs at the most and small viewership.
That feeling when you accomplish what you wanted to do 😌
Yes exactly!!
I follow a lot of similar steps on my process of building a website too! I’ve been using GPt4 & GPT4o for website structure and copy though. What I found works great is that gpt stores my inputs in memory. So I’ve given a few general directions on how I like my content, & how I like to approach things. And it then just generates all my answers keeping those things in mind.
I absolutely loved my coach. I had to stop for financial reasons, but when I went back to sign back up, the monthly price went up from $99/month to $199/month UNLESS I paid annually ($1,188). Couldn't afford that so I've opted out of vidIQ and now I'm trying to learn to do my own research.
Well done! Looking so good!
Thanks so much! :)
That's brilliant, well done 👍
Thanks so much, it took forever haha
Thanks for making this, screw the haters in the comments. I have recently decided with my wife that kids are not for us, we love to travel and go to burning man, etc things that are expensive and not really able to do with small kids. I am very seriously considering this surgery.
Thank you for your support! Yeah if your dead set on not having kids, getting that surgery has been the biggest anxiety relief ever.
@jansleyreal thanks for your reply! Can you give me a general idea of how bad the numbing needle hurts and for how long? It's my only fear really
@@cavemaninasuit On a scale of 1-10, maybe a 2. It's easy. Soreness afterwards, I waddled a bit haha. But not painful, just uncomfortable. Lasted maybe 2 days. Some residual yet insignificant discomfort for a week or so. After 2 weeks, I forgot I had gotten it done.
@@jansleyreal thank you so much for the info!