I want women over 40 to feel GOOD about themselves! 🩷🩷🩷This is a place of zero judgments, total acceptance and a place where you can relax and be yourself.
A bit about me: I'm a qualified Graphic Designer who has never actually worked as a designer. I was an illustrator, doing watercolour illustrations for bath and beauty products, for over 20 years. I am a mother to a teenage son. I hold 2 diplomas in personal training, one in Modern Applied Psychology and one called "Writing with Flair". As you can probably tell, I LOVE to learn and research and improve my knowledge base.
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This was such a sweet reminder
Aw thank you! I am happy to read that you enjoyed it.
How did you find somebody to actually help you? I went to my doctor and was handed antidepressants and basically treated like I was crazy for asking for help with perimenopause. I’m 52 and I still get my period but I have all the perimenopause symptoms. It’s awful!
The first doctor I went to was recommended by a friend, she told me he was clued up with hormones. And now I'm going to a gynae who gave a talk on menopause, which is how I found out that he was supportive of HRT. I would advise you phone or email ahead to a few doctors/gynaes and ask what their take/experience is with menopause and HRT. 😊 I don't know where you live, but I can only tell you that my approach is this: I was seeking someone who would work WITH me, and so don't be afraid to call and ask what their "stance" on all this is, before you waste time and money on a consultation and get told you need antidepressants.
Great video.
Glad you enjoyed it!!!
Thanks so much for sharing. It’s so true how we just think we should look a certain way. ❤xxx
We are certainly shaped by our society.
Love love love this video. thank you so much for this❤🎉
You are so welcome!
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Ah, I LOVE the art and that you're showing us this. We need this.
My pleasure! I am glad you enjoyed this.
I’m 42 just started taking birth control pills but I’m on my first day I’m getting upset stomach and migraines and nausea. How long does it take to subside the reaction?.
Hi, I am not a doctor, so unfortunately I cannot answer that. I would recommend you have a chat with your healthcare provider if the symptoms haven't subsided in a week, or if they are really bad.
I know this part of the video is off topic but that was eye opening when you said its not always so safe to simply go for a walk in south Africa!! That has made me feel grateful that I can safely go for a walk whenever. I live in Australia. I will not take this for granted 🙏 I love my long walks!! Best thing for weight loss ❤️
Ah, you are so right to have picked up on that. And you are right to be grateful for that safety. It's the main thing I dislike about living in South Africa: the lack of safety. We are constantly worried about our safety and live our lives on alert. It's not a good way to live.
Yeah, sums up whats happening to my wife...she is 10y older, we are together 15y+ but the last years its just a different person, and its hell whats happening to me slowly ...
I am sorry it's a difficult time for you both
I can't believe the timing of this video! Just today I spent all day again thinking what diet I am following next week (I do my groceries usually on Fridays for next week). I opted for the food that I actually enjoy. I will be 45 soon. And I am sick and tired to be on this or that diet! I spent good 25 years I think on this. You are so right - the more I restrict myself the more I crave foods that normally I don't even like! I believe most of our weight issues come from all the restrictions. It's so liberating to actually listen to your body and eat what you actually want. I experimented with this before. But my mind is so programmed that these foods are 'bad' and these foods are 'good' that I keep going back to 'dieting'. The most fascinating thing once I allow myself to eat what I want I actually start eating mostly whole foods, I eat less naturally. I might go first few days with 'junk' but then I don't want it, and I did lose weight before 'letting go' so to speak. And definitely was much happier and loved the fact that I didn't think or obsess about food all the time. I had more time and energy to do things. Thank you so much for this video. I am looking forward to be on this journey with you! Thank you! 🩷❤💙
Ah, your comment is so wonderful! This is it exactly! I am guessing that by just relaxing around food, without judgements, I will naturally eat a variety. I won't have the desire to "stuff my face" if I know its all there and I'm allowed it all, whenever I want.🥰 I am so happy this video resonated with you! Thank you for watching.
What is so hard about losing weight for women. Eat whole foods from the land, and move your body it really isn't hard. Women tell each other and their partners they are going to lose weight. But that takes sacrifice and commitment and most in my experience don't follow through.
I know what you mean with diets. In England there is a slimming world diet. It’s difficult to explain but you’re allowed unlimited pasta, etc. buy avocados and olive oil is counted as syns (Sins). I love chocolate too. My downfall is red wine 🍷 xxx
I like both perspectives of yours. I appreciate the motivation to live a healthy lifestyle and not gain excess weight but I understand what you're saying about accepting your body as we all naturally have different shapes. I disagree about labeling foods good or bad though; some have more nutritional value while others do not. It doesn't mean that they can't be enjoyed. I'm in the US where obesity is prevalent and our versions of processed food is so unhealthy that brands have different versions that they produce for other countries. Even our ketchup and tomato soup has sugar added! I may be overly sensitive as food nutritonal value (or lack thereof) is a big problem here. But I am happy that you are giving yourself permission to just BE and not obsess!! 💖
Ah thank you for that. I appreciate you sharing your perspective.
Personally I think you're gorgeous with or without it. Seriously, what a pleasant face.
Aw thank you, you are very kind.🤗
Absolutely everything you are saying is resonating with me! EVERYTHING!
Ah that kind of comment makes my heart SO happy!❤️
When I’ve weighed less my life out in the world has not been better but I have felt better. I’m more comfortable in my own body when I’m at what I feel is my ideal weight. My arthritis is better, I sleep better, I’m just physically more comfortable. Now I admit my self confidence is also better and I know that is societal influence. It’s a journey for sure. Great video ❤
That's wonderful! And thanks for sharing your perspective.
I’m so proud of you. I’m 28, and have been consumed by thoughts of food and reaching the “perfect body” since I was 15. Over 13yrs of tiresome micromanaging and controlling. I look up to you, as I don’t want to continue this behaviour and let it rob me of being happy with myself and my life. Please keep us posted on this journey - we value your story, regardless of what you have preached in the past. That’s life, evolving and changing as we grow and learn❤️🙏 much love xx
Thank you for acknowledging that I am evolving... that's it exactly! I didn't have the words for it, but yes, I have walked the diet/weight-loss path, learned all I can, and am ready for a new path. I want to see what life will be like without all these food/body/weight thoughts constantly on my mind.🤗
Wow! Louise you are beautiful inside and out! I love your videos and the heart you put into them❤ thank you💕
Awww....what a beautiful and heartfelt message. Thank you for that.
heartwarming video as always :) it honestly made me think when you said "just let your body be the way it wants to be" and youre so right. this body is a vessel for us to experience the beautiful world through and is the reason we have all these wonderful moments on earth so why do we spend our lives trying to change it and fight it? its so sad. its going to be hard to change this awful mindset because weve been told that our bodies arent good enough directly and indirectly by ourselves and the media but its never impossible and def worth trying. i can only imagine how much more fun life would be if we had one less thing to worry about and hate ourselves for .
I know, right? I would love to be free of ALL worry about my weight and appearance...but it's really difficult to do. It feels scary. But as you say, if we had one less thing to worry about we could enjoy our experience on earth that much more!
Can I be honest though, I really desire to lose weight because of health reasons and I prefer how I look when I have less weight on- especially because i gained all the weight during a lot of trauma and not out of enjoyment or relaxation, and I really appreciated your approach. It's helped me mentally a lot. I'd go through all these insane diets and your approach was really balanced to me (not speaking that its true for you, but i felt for me it was okay) and it has already helped me feel so much better. I am sorry that you felt bad for your content but you're seriously one of the only creators I like..I like myself now but its okay to want to improve (whatever that goal is for the individual) do what is right for you on this channel, but you never made me feel bad, not even once ❤❤❤❤ this is going to be a wonderful journey for us all.
Aw thank you! I appreciate that. And I agree that there is weight that is unhealthy and at those times, it's okay to lose weight. It's about what's right for YOUR mind and journey. And I feel blessed to have offered a balanced approach that resonated with you. That was my intention: lose weight without losing your sanity. 🤗🤣❤️🥰
Wow, this means so much to me. I have spent all my adult life restricting, thinking about food, desiring thinness. When I obtained my dream body I wasn't happier because I lived in fear of gaining any back. I am tired. Mentally exhausted. Is it really that bad being 5kg above my bikini body if it doesn't require constant restraints? I don't think it's worth it anymore
That's exactly the point I am at now. Maybe it's because if my age, but I'm also questioning whether those extra 3or 5kgs are worth the mental exhaustion of constantly being "on guard".
Love your videos Louise🌸
Thank you so much!!!!
Oh wow, this video brought tears to my eyes and was exactly what I needed to hear. Amazing that you have the courage to see a new message for you and your channel - with all the diet videos you have posted, this was brave!
Awww....thank you for that lovely comment, that means the world to me. I am so happy you could see/hear my intentions behind this message.🤗
Honestly, it’s really hard for me to get fully satisfied with my nose because I know if it was just smaller I would more easily fit some form of standard. I want to get to a place if acceptance. Even if I do get work done I don’t want to still hate my face after.
Hello from Australia! It's so helpful to have motivators for sure and you have been on of them for me, so thank you! However I think 'self-discipline' is the key. ❤️🙏
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Thanks ..I am 37 years, 2 kids .I used to be 51kg after my first baby now I am 60 ..My goal is to be under 55kg. Watching from Botswana 🇧🇼.I can tell you are South African 🇿🇦 with your accent.
Hi lovely from Botswana! Yep, I am indeed South African, you heard that right!🤗🤗🤗
I know your channel is geared towards women over the age of 40, but you are an inspiration to the younger generation as well. I am 18 and receiving much wisdom and comfort from your videos, thank you so much 🤍
Aw, my pleasure. You may enjoy the next one that's coming! Xxxx
I have heard that Ryhthmic cycling in HRT is much healthier because it mimics Nature and engages our natural detoxing with the period. It keeps us younger and all tissues healthier by rythmic for long term health. The body knows the cycle - steady state is not natural, but there are no studies yet.
That may be true, I don't know. I am on a constant dose of estrogen and feeling great, but I have heard of others who do rhythmic cycling and feel great on that too.😊🤗
FDA? That's a joke? Well let's hope you never need to inject insulin 6 times a day, yes injection stings, especially if it's cold.
I am sure it can't be easy or pleasant having to inject oneself many times a day.
So helpful
I love this video. Very positive, realistic, and encouraging.
This was soooooo helpful thank you so much ❤❤❤❤
Loveee your videos so much thank you for sharing if you had 8kg to lose would you focus on walking and food portions only or do i need a gym? Im 33 years old
I would do whatever you enjoy doing, in order to make it fun for you, else you probably won't stick to it...plus...life is short, why do anything that makes you miserable? If you like walking, do that. If you enjoy gym, go for it!
Ozempic
For who?
At the end of the day, it's all profit based - they make soo much money creating insecurities and pushing people to chase for "perfection". It takes us getting older and gaining some wisdom to realise that we were literally perfect from the beginning. People really need to start prioritising holistic health and fitness because at the end of the day - that is what attractiveness is truly based on. Capitalism is a sickness imo and it seeps into every aspect of our lives, value should be placed on our health, our thoughts and attitudes, our mindful contributions to society, motherhood, ageing gracefully. It's such a disgusting disservice to ourselves and others to reduce a literal human being to their appearance. The most beautiful people I have ever met, had the kindest and sweetest souls, that's what captures hearts - not the shape of your nose or the clearness of your skin lol
Side note, you're beautiful and I really appreciated your thoughts and honesty, I felt like I needed to hear this and I'm sure countless other women do too <3 Seeing people as if we were blind was probably the best way I've heard it being put ever lol
Amen, couldn't have said it better myself!
Aww, thank you for sharing that thise words resonated. Appreciate the feedback.
Another great video! I relate so much. I feel the pressure and so I do participate and have altered my body (mainly filler and Botox but I’m also getting rhinoplasty soon). But I also see how sad it is that we’ve become like this and we don’t seem to appreciate differences. It’s sad! I also wish I was stronger to not go along with the trends; but I’m not. Again, love your honesty in your videos.
That's me, in a nutshell. I wish I were stronger to not be influenced into these things...but I have done it all...breast augmentation, nose job (I'm still glad I did it) botox, lasers etc. It's okay to do whatever you feel you need to do. There is no right or wrong.
Even the people on Instagram don’t have an Instagram face. It’s all filters and retouching and fake. Love your content. Thanks for another great video.
Aw, my pleasure, and yes, you're right, it's all filters and makeup and fake.
Its all fascade... I think a lot of people in my country look unhappy. Im in england!
Hi from England
Hi England! It's heartbreaking how sad most people are in this world.
You know when I lived in South Africa years ago I had freckles and I hated them. I have fair skin but it’s only now, I like it. I do wear fake tan on my legs etc. in the summer. I think we’re too hard on ourselves. You’re my age, 45. We’re only young but feel like we need to be on top form. You’re beautiful hun. Your lips look great. Some people have lip fillers and they look so fake and awful. Yours look natural. ❤❤❤ My Mother in Law is 71 and she said she looked better from from the age of 49 -65. I think we worry that we won’t look as skinny as we were at 25. I feel like I know you. Happy 😃 Sunday ❤❤❤xxx
Awww....big hugs to you! One of my very best friends has freckles and red hair and it's stunning!!!!
Does the vaginal estrogen creams that you’re talking about here? is there a risk of uterine cancer or fibroids when using this as it doesn’t have progesterone in it so I was just curious? I know you said it doesn’t cause breast cancer, but I was wondering what its impact is on the uterus? Thank you in advance for your response❤
You don't need progesterone for vaginal estrogen...but make sure it's the type of estrogen that's designed for the vagina only and that it doesn't travel to the whole body. There is a ring that contains a high dose that travels through the whole body but if I am not mistaken, it has the progesterone in it too? I am not a doctor so I don't know all the brands, but my mother (73) is on Vagifem tablets (vaginally estrogen) and no progesterone as it doesn't affect the uterus.
The older you get, the less you care about what others think. Comparison is the thief of joy. With age comes wisdom.😊 Self improvement needs to be for yourself, I think. You’re darling. You don’t need to change a thing.
Thank you! Yes, you're right, with age comes freedom from worrying about the opinions of others. I'm getting there, I think.😊😊😊
I love your content!
I appreciate you saying that.
"Guilt is the most useless emotion when it comes to weight loss." 🎯👏👏👏
I am guilty of what you have mentioned. Truth is that men are just as judged as woman and that is a fact. It’s not just woman that are seen as beauty objects. We kill ourselves trying to fit into some world that we don’t even like. Humans are such an insignificant, insecure, Jealous, deluded, ignorant and vulnerable species that live in fear. Everything we do is out of fear. If everyone truly knew what everyone was thinking then no one would have any friends and relationships would not be a thing. Love is anxiety. Attachment is suffering. Life is suffering. In the end nothing matters. We are all winging it and we are all on the same sinking boat that inevitably ends in tragedy. Drop the ego and character that you are playing and start living. Tomorrow is not promised. Tomorrow does not exist. Now is all we have. The truth about the human condition is that answers will never cure our fears, only acceptance will…….. And Remember, It’s Just A Ride…..Bill Hicks…..
Wow!🩷🩷🙏🏻ty
Love this! Thanks as always for sharing and for your honesty. I just love your self reflection and you have such a peaceful energy. As you say, you can always go back! And it’s not like you’ll stop movement … but how exciting to find out what’s in store next for you and to explore new beginnings ! ❤
Thank you for those words. My soul is yearning for something more creative, so it will be interesting to see what bubbles up in the freed up time and mental space.🤗
Thank u! This is the advice I prayed for! U look amazing!❤
Aw, you are SO welcome.