@@JasonBrohman-wv1dr great question! Ask what her ideas are for improving your communication and listening better to each other. I’ve got a guide I’ve created with my five best communication tips. To get it, text your email address to 626-804-1731.
@BerlinChild8 күн бұрын
Haha, gonna suck my bois dick to this one
@DemichaelUlibarri-b1d9 күн бұрын
Help
@turnitupmarriagetips9 күн бұрын
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@lorimassey10111 күн бұрын
This was very timely for me. I have been married for 24 years and we've hit a rough spot. As I was praying this morning, I got the notion to search KZread for Seven Habits of a Healthy Marriage, and your video popped up. I can't tell you how helpful this information is. Thank you for taking the time to post this and it has indeed been a blessing to me.
@turnitupmarriagetips4 күн бұрын
Lori, Thanks for your comment. I'd love to chat and see what else I could help you with. Here's the link to schedule something: tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call I hope to hear from you soon! God bless, Kelly
@kc681013 күн бұрын
12? 😂😂😂😂
@EM-KeepingtheFaithАй бұрын
Self important bully's. Dont ya just love 'em?
@user-ir7cd6qi7uАй бұрын
thats bullshit. i tried that she just threw that shit on the floor
@lionofjudah4114Ай бұрын
My husband keeps me out of anything that is going on in his life. He is so secretive. And it is so annoying. How do I get him to be more open with me n tell me what he is doing etc or what is happening in his life. Why doesn't he speak to me about things. I have to book an appointment to spend time with my own husband as he always makes himself busy on his days off. I want to spend time with my husband on his days off cos I don't feel we spend enough time together. He works three shift pattern So it hard . I just want to grow together with him. How does he stop being mean also. He is quite aggressive and had a really bad awful attitude when he speaks to me. Or I say something and he is on me trying to bring me down. He is a. Christian also. We attend the same church. But it is like he hears something different all the time. What is going on with him. I want him to quit being horrible
@Hallucitania12 күн бұрын
Wow sounds like you're having a rough ride! I'm a man in my 50s, and I've given more than a few rough rides for various reasons - I can't say they are all good reasons, but I'm hoping they may help you to see the insanities and inanities. - I'm a jerk. that's why women like me. I still need to be a decent human being at the same time and that's not easy - men the last 50 years have been raised by unwitting and unconscious people, just like the women have. I've been secretive with women who poop on my dreams and aspirations, and jam their heels in when we have to pivot and solve problems. She's not cheerleader, and/or she subverts everything into a passive control game because she won't manage her feelings and recognize she's the anchor to otherwise clear sailing to the paradise I can bring us to. Sometimes, I've just allowed myself to get so checked out dealing with daily incoherent babbling at the end of long days that I don't notice myself being a prick when my 18 hours of daily sacrifice, and thousands of lost opportunities for the sake of the "relationship" aren't appreciated, and aren't moving me towards a peaceful life. I just would go numb at best keeping everything floating for someone clueless about how life is. If the family income dropped by 1/3 so I could get familiar with myself and stop being horrible, then I also know that the woman I'm with will also complain about the missing money, and insist I work " better". I have a mission. Your man has a mission (he might not know that). A woman not on board with her man's mission is an anchor or at least dead weight. I'm sorry to hear he brings you down - I have behaved that way when I perceive the one I'm chained to to be an incorrigible idiot that can't follow instructions. It's frustration, and despair that I've just worked 3 shifts and I get home, and I'm still working to correct idiocy instead of having peace. I don't mind if a person isn't the sharpest tool, I mind when they don't cooperate with the plan I have for them. Some ideas are crap and need to be shot down. There is a loving way to do it, of course, but it is difficult with someone who can't tell truth from fiction while insisting they do. not at first, but after months and years.... As you can see, these are all situations I put myself in, regardless of the woman. What can you DO about it? Ask him about his mission, ask him about his sacrifices, but don't ask him about his feelings because you already know he's angry, uptight, and hostile and nothing in your known world is working. You'll have to pull from the unknown. You have to own your complicity in the situation, as does he. I know many men and women who never own their complicity in making life miserable. Avoid these people and don't be one. Look within yourself, read the Gospel of Thomas together (not in your bible, it was on the editing room floor instead) and see what's true, regardless of what your church says. Jesus wasn't building a church; he was freeing people from them - If he's (your man) actually read the gospel and asked questions, he'd know that Jesus said to calm the emotions, calm the thoughts, and enter within oneself to find the kingdom of heaven. but it's put in there in a cryptic way. You man will not accept leadership from you, so you can't tell him. but you can ASK him what it means "Do not fear, take no thought, enter within yourself" - it's NOT presented that way, you have to read it and actually comprehend the conversation and context so don't use my words when you talk to him, do some legwork and use your own words. Most Christian priests don't understand this even though it says pretty plainly in the text that it's the key, and that the religious leaders knew this was the case, never did it, and refused to guide people to it. Nothing has changed - like the man said, it's a narrow path and few are on it. The kingdom of heaven Truly is within, no one can bring you their but yourself so, the Church can only provide support, but the authority is not in them, they have no power to open the door or walk you through. Your work is cut out for you, my dear! IF you have gas left in the tank.... get HIS church leaders to talk to him, not you. Men respect authority chains, so you can use it to your advantage - not to tattle tale. You will absolutely lose every power struggle with a man, even when you think you win you will be losing something you can't get back. Get on his page, and he'll know your both reading the same book. get on board, and he'll know you're traveling together; he's the captain, you're the 1st mate. IF you're not behaving like a 1st mate, then you're a passenger he needs to feed. IT could be he doesn't trust you with the task, IT could be he's just working too much and lost the plot - point being people want to be content in their own home. It could be he thinks your to incompetent for the job of 1st mate, but he loves you and doesn't have the tools to lead the relationship properly or train you up and lead you. Maybe you were disloyal in some way and he told you and you didn't hear him. I can assure you men stop talking to people who don't listen the 1st 3 times. after that we just get worse. Ultimately, you both as individuals need to have healthy relationships with yourselves. if you can't make yourself happy, neither will anyone else, right? I don't know how this is going to get better for you - there are a thousand ways to botch the correction and see it as someone else's fault - from his point of view, from your point of view....Also, nothing makes a woman happy, so, he might not know that and be putting effort into the wrong direction. he needs to focus on the mission, and enroll you in support, and regularly dip into the calm space where he can cultivate his self awareness and refine things. Your job is some of that and mainly to be a compliment to his life. I'm not in your head, I don't know you at all to say what's really going on. Men aren't spontaneously angry just for waking up. Use Curiosity and Love in the face of upsets - our own, 1stly, and don't be a punching bag. He's not suppose to bring the emotional baggage from outside the relationship into the sacred space. the problems can be discussed, but the emotional baggage no. Definitely get help from NOT STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET, go to couples who are happy, with happy husbands -WOMEN GIVE BAD ADVICE - That's a whole book more I'm not going to explain so listen to the man, 9/10 times- confirm they are what they appear to be - at least content, and that they have generated the environment you would enjoy in your life, too. Be at peace, Love, as best you can. We're in an asylum run by the patients, including ourselves as inmates, until we're not. Good luck and I hope the inspiration for the just right thing hits you in surprising way that tells you it comes from the High Place.
@turnitupmarriagetips4 күн бұрын
@hallucitania - I'd love to talk with you and see if my marriage coaching could help you. Here's a link to book a free call: tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call I hope to hear from you soon. Kelly
@Hallucitania3 күн бұрын
@@turnitupmarriagetips 'Appreciated I'll take a look.
@miscalotastuff733Ай бұрын
Best advice. If you cant imagine your future spouse as old, wrinkly, and still think they are hot then do not get married. You are marrying strictly for sex and it is a marriage of gonads not humans. You wont always love each other but if your best friends you will ride it out. People need to be marrying people not their sexual organs. That is another huge reason why marriages are not lasting. They arent in love.
@turnitupmarriagetipsАй бұрын
Very true!
@7Logik15 күн бұрын
Being in love isn't even biblical...
@turnitupmarriagetips15 күн бұрын
@@7Logik interesting thought. You’re right!
@miscalotastuff73312 күн бұрын
@7Logik most human emotions aren't. Guess what we still feel it.
@stephendavison69982 ай бұрын
Yes but it has to be a conch shell.
@danuwintersong222 ай бұрын
in that case I can keep that stick with me all the time as he interrupt every sentence that comes out of my mouth all the time. Any suggestions?
@turnitupmarriagetips2 ай бұрын
Have an honest conversation and ask him to try to stop interrupting so that you can have a closer relationship. I’d be glad to help and give you or both of you a free coaching session via zoom. Here’s the link to get on my calendar tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call
@christys.39122 ай бұрын
I wish i was brave enough to share with my husband... but ive told him these things many times and never recieve what i need other than for a few days after then it goes right back. He doesnt understand why im so lonely. We have read the books, we have talked about it over and over... but it never sticks. Its so defeating. And i try everything to make him feel respected, take care of him in every way, but its hard not to grow resentful. I've gotten used to being the last priority other than when he wants to be intimate.
@turnitupmarriagetips2 ай бұрын
I suggest you get some help I’d be glad to help you.
@turnitupmarriagetips2 ай бұрын
Here’s the link tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call
@christys.39122 ай бұрын
With all these marriages failing and struggling you would think more would be listening. Sad.... great advice! I try to reapect my husband, but he never really gives me feedback so im just guessing. Most times i just choose to keep my mouth shut so i dont risk disrespect. This was helpful! Thank you!
@Jiha-ed9lvАй бұрын
Heyy….please pray more and more that your husband reciprocates. Pray daily without fail…with a lot of sincerity and dedication ❤…divine will definitely help you
@richardcranium60813 ай бұрын
That and randomly changing the subject (within a billionth of a second) and ignore the subject at hand, no matter how important it may be. My wife has a chronic problem with that.
@bridgetpyefinch56923 ай бұрын
My bf does this. I try to also frame it as a respect vs respect thing, too. But he denies that it’s disrespectful and continues. Reading the few comments here, like yours, just makes me cry more. Good luck in improving the communication ❤
@mariannecintron33 ай бұрын
This is very well done and very inspirational. Thank you Pastor Kelly :-)
@turnitupmarriagetips4 күн бұрын
You're welcome! Thanks for the comment.
@BlckCloud736 ай бұрын
People don't interrupt someone when they want to hear what they want to say.
@bridgetpyefinch56923 ай бұрын
This. I feel like the comments here are an echo chamber for things I’ve mentioned to my bf.
@turnitupmarriagetips2 ай бұрын
Very true. Thanks for the thought.
@NR-bt4hu6 ай бұрын
Pastor Kelly my question 🙋🏻♀️ is…. Why hasn’t this video gone viral!!!! 😂 Thank you! GREAT VIDEO GREAT ADVICE
@johib8816 ай бұрын
This doesn't work. Doesn't even entertain the idea
@bridgetpyefinch56923 ай бұрын
I feel a lot of methods don’t work. I’m feeling victim blamed as I try to find solutions and implement them because nothing has worked. I agree with this sentiment in your comment. The concept doesn’t even get entertained, at all.
@turnitupmarriagetips4 күн бұрын
I'd be glad to help you. Here's the link to book a call with me: tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call
@Fahim_Lalani7 ай бұрын
❤oh boy this was a good one I love it god bless you infinitely sir thank you so so much and much love and peace
@lannyhancock91337 ай бұрын
"Promo SM" ❤️
@cindystuder90907 ай бұрын
And if the talking stick doesn't work, turn it into the beatin' stick.
@GODswhitebutterfly7 ай бұрын
Thank you brother. GOD bless ✝️🕊️
@turnitupmarriagetips7 ай бұрын
You are very welcome
@VintagepaperdollcuttingC-wq5ql7 ай бұрын
I’m just gonna interrupt your video in the middle, you’re talking stick is stupid
@crystalrisley7159 ай бұрын
Dont talk to them run
@rosagidowski559410 ай бұрын
Your talks are only about marriage. That is why I don't listen to you anymore. You only speak to one certain group. While Jesus Christ spoke to all . Single, divorced , . unfortunately you do not give talks to everyone.
@kaleahacosta72311 ай бұрын
Thank you for this wisdom!! 1. Ask for his advice. 2. Ask for his help. 3. Don't talk to him a child. 4. To be his cheerleader (encourage). 5. Choose to trust him. 6. Honor him in front of others. 7. Appreciate him (thank you). 8. Say yes (or lock in a future time). 9. Allow him to influence him. 10. Let him know what you want. 11. Do things together shoulder, 12. And Face to Face
@turnitupmarriagetips11 ай бұрын
You're welcome. Glad you liked it.
@user-cr6sr1tt4k11 ай бұрын
Fantastic! Thank you, Kelly, and God bless!
@turnitupmarriagetips Жыл бұрын
Meagan, I’m sorry to hear that but perhaps I can help. Please watch this short video kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall and schedule a call.
@chrisrose1318 Жыл бұрын
I struggle with this, and it is running my relationship with my wife
@turnitupmarriagetips Жыл бұрын
Would you like some help?
@j_r_l Жыл бұрын
❤❤
@suzannedouglas1068 Жыл бұрын
Not everyone is kind. You give give they take take and still condemn.
@turnitupmarriagetips Жыл бұрын
Susan, that is true with some people. That's why need to choose safe people to be our closest friends. Please let me know if you'd like to schedule a call where I can help you with this. Here's the link for more information: kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
@orlandopatrick6681 Жыл бұрын
💯 "promo sm"
@user-pb7ws5nv3b Жыл бұрын
My dad died last month. Thank you.
@user-pb7ws5nv3b Жыл бұрын
I see now. My needs will be met through servanthood
@jasonorefice-pq6ky Жыл бұрын
Kelly u rock!!!
@danhelpsyoubuysell7064 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the insight and tips to communicate with my wife ♫♪ . This has been a difficult situation for me as she now blames me for giving up her dream. Additionally, there is still resentment within our marriage because she couldn't fulfill her dream.
@bryaneagon3059 Жыл бұрын
No talking. I have the talking bat
@MdZohurulIslam-bc5qe Жыл бұрын
Excellent.Thanks for sharing this video.
@elisadelatorre8847 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@stevenbass732 Жыл бұрын
No, I haven't watched the video. Let me guess. The man should always compromise AKA give in.
@MarvaTSmith Жыл бұрын
You're so right, this is such a common problem. Thanks for these tips!
@cgee3057 Жыл бұрын
𝐩яⓞ𝓂𝓞Ş𝐦
@blessmary5729 Жыл бұрын
For everyone going through relationship problems, don't give up. you can still get your ex back. Look, my wife came back after 2 months of leaving our house. All thanks to (Papa Osaro LOVE SPELL) is a powerful spiritual man #papaosaro ❤️
@MrsStutters00 Жыл бұрын
God bless this ministry! Thank you! Much needed content!
@turnitupmarriagetips Жыл бұрын
Thanks Mischelle! I appreciate the encouragement. God bless you
@michaelalfaro36922 жыл бұрын
Awesome message Pastor!
@amberkirton87372 жыл бұрын
Great 😊 video
@turnitupmarriagetips2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Amber, I'm glad you enjoyed it and learned something. What is a challenge you are facing in a relationship? Please let me know if I can help you.
@rosagidowski55942 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your supporting words. My heart is 💔 , I cry a lot, I lost my dad 8 days ago, and I lost my mom 2 year's ago. I feel something s I'm dying, I can't breathe and have chest heaviness. I feel lonely, because there are no close family ties. I'm alone with my loss. I was very close to them. Thank you pastor Kelly. I'm prayingi .
@turnitupmarriagetips2 жыл бұрын
Rosa, thank you for sharing. i'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I'm sure that's very hard. Here is the link to our Grief group that I know will help you get through this difficult time: go2faith.com/page/641?GroupId=508761 God bless you
@rosagidowski55942 жыл бұрын
Thank you pastor Kelly I will link the support grieve group support you sent me 🙏
@rosagidowski55942 жыл бұрын
@@turnitupmarriagetips thank you pastor Kelly .I will Link to your information. God bless
@johnmiramontes55132 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the good insights on sharing honestly and compassionately with our spouses. Very valuable lessons for any type of relationships.
@jomooreyeargin40172 жыл бұрын
Excellent tip. My family and close friends appreciate each other and the love that flows between us.
@turnitupmarriagetips2 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@mfeldstein30223 жыл бұрын
Even Though I haven't seen you for quite awhile I still consider you My Pastor!!! Morrie Feldstein
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And if she doesn’t agree to the stick pastor?
@@JasonBrohman-wv1dr great question! Ask what her ideas are for improving your communication and listening better to each other. I’ve got a guide I’ve created with my five best communication tips. To get it, text your email address to 626-804-1731.
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This was very timely for me. I have been married for 24 years and we've hit a rough spot. As I was praying this morning, I got the notion to search KZread for Seven Habits of a Healthy Marriage, and your video popped up. I can't tell you how helpful this information is. Thank you for taking the time to post this and it has indeed been a blessing to me.
Lori, Thanks for your comment. I'd love to chat and see what else I could help you with. Here's the link to schedule something: tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call I hope to hear from you soon! God bless, Kelly
12? 😂😂😂😂
Self important bully's. Dont ya just love 'em?
thats bullshit. i tried that she just threw that shit on the floor
My husband keeps me out of anything that is going on in his life. He is so secretive. And it is so annoying. How do I get him to be more open with me n tell me what he is doing etc or what is happening in his life. Why doesn't he speak to me about things. I have to book an appointment to spend time with my own husband as he always makes himself busy on his days off. I want to spend time with my husband on his days off cos I don't feel we spend enough time together. He works three shift pattern So it hard . I just want to grow together with him. How does he stop being mean also. He is quite aggressive and had a really bad awful attitude when he speaks to me. Or I say something and he is on me trying to bring me down. He is a. Christian also. We attend the same church. But it is like he hears something different all the time. What is going on with him. I want him to quit being horrible
Wow sounds like you're having a rough ride! I'm a man in my 50s, and I've given more than a few rough rides for various reasons - I can't say they are all good reasons, but I'm hoping they may help you to see the insanities and inanities. - I'm a jerk. that's why women like me. I still need to be a decent human being at the same time and that's not easy - men the last 50 years have been raised by unwitting and unconscious people, just like the women have. I've been secretive with women who poop on my dreams and aspirations, and jam their heels in when we have to pivot and solve problems. She's not cheerleader, and/or she subverts everything into a passive control game because she won't manage her feelings and recognize she's the anchor to otherwise clear sailing to the paradise I can bring us to. Sometimes, I've just allowed myself to get so checked out dealing with daily incoherent babbling at the end of long days that I don't notice myself being a prick when my 18 hours of daily sacrifice, and thousands of lost opportunities for the sake of the "relationship" aren't appreciated, and aren't moving me towards a peaceful life. I just would go numb at best keeping everything floating for someone clueless about how life is. If the family income dropped by 1/3 so I could get familiar with myself and stop being horrible, then I also know that the woman I'm with will also complain about the missing money, and insist I work " better". I have a mission. Your man has a mission (he might not know that). A woman not on board with her man's mission is an anchor or at least dead weight. I'm sorry to hear he brings you down - I have behaved that way when I perceive the one I'm chained to to be an incorrigible idiot that can't follow instructions. It's frustration, and despair that I've just worked 3 shifts and I get home, and I'm still working to correct idiocy instead of having peace. I don't mind if a person isn't the sharpest tool, I mind when they don't cooperate with the plan I have for them. Some ideas are crap and need to be shot down. There is a loving way to do it, of course, but it is difficult with someone who can't tell truth from fiction while insisting they do. not at first, but after months and years.... As you can see, these are all situations I put myself in, regardless of the woman. What can you DO about it? Ask him about his mission, ask him about his sacrifices, but don't ask him about his feelings because you already know he's angry, uptight, and hostile and nothing in your known world is working. You'll have to pull from the unknown. You have to own your complicity in the situation, as does he. I know many men and women who never own their complicity in making life miserable. Avoid these people and don't be one. Look within yourself, read the Gospel of Thomas together (not in your bible, it was on the editing room floor instead) and see what's true, regardless of what your church says. Jesus wasn't building a church; he was freeing people from them - If he's (your man) actually read the gospel and asked questions, he'd know that Jesus said to calm the emotions, calm the thoughts, and enter within oneself to find the kingdom of heaven. but it's put in there in a cryptic way. You man will not accept leadership from you, so you can't tell him. but you can ASK him what it means "Do not fear, take no thought, enter within yourself" - it's NOT presented that way, you have to read it and actually comprehend the conversation and context so don't use my words when you talk to him, do some legwork and use your own words. Most Christian priests don't understand this even though it says pretty plainly in the text that it's the key, and that the religious leaders knew this was the case, never did it, and refused to guide people to it. Nothing has changed - like the man said, it's a narrow path and few are on it. The kingdom of heaven Truly is within, no one can bring you their but yourself so, the Church can only provide support, but the authority is not in them, they have no power to open the door or walk you through. Your work is cut out for you, my dear! IF you have gas left in the tank.... get HIS church leaders to talk to him, not you. Men respect authority chains, so you can use it to your advantage - not to tattle tale. You will absolutely lose every power struggle with a man, even when you think you win you will be losing something you can't get back. Get on his page, and he'll know your both reading the same book. get on board, and he'll know you're traveling together; he's the captain, you're the 1st mate. IF you're not behaving like a 1st mate, then you're a passenger he needs to feed. IT could be he doesn't trust you with the task, IT could be he's just working too much and lost the plot - point being people want to be content in their own home. It could be he thinks your to incompetent for the job of 1st mate, but he loves you and doesn't have the tools to lead the relationship properly or train you up and lead you. Maybe you were disloyal in some way and he told you and you didn't hear him. I can assure you men stop talking to people who don't listen the 1st 3 times. after that we just get worse. Ultimately, you both as individuals need to have healthy relationships with yourselves. if you can't make yourself happy, neither will anyone else, right? I don't know how this is going to get better for you - there are a thousand ways to botch the correction and see it as someone else's fault - from his point of view, from your point of view....Also, nothing makes a woman happy, so, he might not know that and be putting effort into the wrong direction. he needs to focus on the mission, and enroll you in support, and regularly dip into the calm space where he can cultivate his self awareness and refine things. Your job is some of that and mainly to be a compliment to his life. I'm not in your head, I don't know you at all to say what's really going on. Men aren't spontaneously angry just for waking up. Use Curiosity and Love in the face of upsets - our own, 1stly, and don't be a punching bag. He's not suppose to bring the emotional baggage from outside the relationship into the sacred space. the problems can be discussed, but the emotional baggage no. Definitely get help from NOT STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET, go to couples who are happy, with happy husbands -WOMEN GIVE BAD ADVICE - That's a whole book more I'm not going to explain so listen to the man, 9/10 times- confirm they are what they appear to be - at least content, and that they have generated the environment you would enjoy in your life, too. Be at peace, Love, as best you can. We're in an asylum run by the patients, including ourselves as inmates, until we're not. Good luck and I hope the inspiration for the just right thing hits you in surprising way that tells you it comes from the High Place.
@hallucitania - I'd love to talk with you and see if my marriage coaching could help you. Here's a link to book a free call: tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call I hope to hear from you soon. Kelly
@@turnitupmarriagetips 'Appreciated I'll take a look.
Best advice. If you cant imagine your future spouse as old, wrinkly, and still think they are hot then do not get married. You are marrying strictly for sex and it is a marriage of gonads not humans. You wont always love each other but if your best friends you will ride it out. People need to be marrying people not their sexual organs. That is another huge reason why marriages are not lasting. They arent in love.
Very true!
Being in love isn't even biblical...
@@7Logik interesting thought. You’re right!
@7Logik most human emotions aren't. Guess what we still feel it.
Yes but it has to be a conch shell.
in that case I can keep that stick with me all the time as he interrupt every sentence that comes out of my mouth all the time. Any suggestions?
Have an honest conversation and ask him to try to stop interrupting so that you can have a closer relationship. I’d be glad to help and give you or both of you a free coaching session via zoom. Here’s the link to get on my calendar tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call
I wish i was brave enough to share with my husband... but ive told him these things many times and never recieve what i need other than for a few days after then it goes right back. He doesnt understand why im so lonely. We have read the books, we have talked about it over and over... but it never sticks. Its so defeating. And i try everything to make him feel respected, take care of him in every way, but its hard not to grow resentful. I've gotten used to being the last priority other than when he wants to be intimate.
I suggest you get some help I’d be glad to help you.
Here’s the link tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call
With all these marriages failing and struggling you would think more would be listening. Sad.... great advice! I try to reapect my husband, but he never really gives me feedback so im just guessing. Most times i just choose to keep my mouth shut so i dont risk disrespect. This was helpful! Thank you!
Heyy….please pray more and more that your husband reciprocates. Pray daily without fail…with a lot of sincerity and dedication ❤…divine will definitely help you
That and randomly changing the subject (within a billionth of a second) and ignore the subject at hand, no matter how important it may be. My wife has a chronic problem with that.
My bf does this. I try to also frame it as a respect vs respect thing, too. But he denies that it’s disrespectful and continues. Reading the few comments here, like yours, just makes me cry more. Good luck in improving the communication ❤
This is very well done and very inspirational. Thank you Pastor Kelly :-)
You're welcome! Thanks for the comment.
People don't interrupt someone when they want to hear what they want to say.
This. I feel like the comments here are an echo chamber for things I’ve mentioned to my bf.
Very true. Thanks for the thought.
Pastor Kelly my question 🙋🏻♀️ is…. Why hasn’t this video gone viral!!!! 😂 Thank you! GREAT VIDEO GREAT ADVICE
This doesn't work. Doesn't even entertain the idea
I feel a lot of methods don’t work. I’m feeling victim blamed as I try to find solutions and implement them because nothing has worked. I agree with this sentiment in your comment. The concept doesn’t even get entertained, at all.
I'd be glad to help you. Here's the link to book a call with me: tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call
❤oh boy this was a good one I love it god bless you infinitely sir thank you so so much and much love and peace
"Promo SM" ❤️
And if the talking stick doesn't work, turn it into the beatin' stick.
Thank you brother. GOD bless ✝️🕊️
You are very welcome
I’m just gonna interrupt your video in the middle, you’re talking stick is stupid
Dont talk to them run
Your talks are only about marriage. That is why I don't listen to you anymore. You only speak to one certain group. While Jesus Christ spoke to all . Single, divorced , . unfortunately you do not give talks to everyone.
Thank you for this wisdom!! 1. Ask for his advice. 2. Ask for his help. 3. Don't talk to him a child. 4. To be his cheerleader (encourage). 5. Choose to trust him. 6. Honor him in front of others. 7. Appreciate him (thank you). 8. Say yes (or lock in a future time). 9. Allow him to influence him. 10. Let him know what you want. 11. Do things together shoulder, 12. And Face to Face
You're welcome. Glad you liked it.
Fantastic! Thank you, Kelly, and God bless!
Meagan, I’m sorry to hear that but perhaps I can help. Please watch this short video kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall and schedule a call.
I struggle with this, and it is running my relationship with my wife
Would you like some help?
❤❤
Not everyone is kind. You give give they take take and still condemn.
Susan, that is true with some people. That's why need to choose safe people to be our closest friends. Please let me know if you'd like to schedule a call where I can help you with this. Here's the link for more information: kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
💯 "promo sm"
My dad died last month. Thank you.
I see now. My needs will be met through servanthood
Kelly u rock!!!
Thanks for the insight and tips to communicate with my wife ♫♪ . This has been a difficult situation for me as she now blames me for giving up her dream. Additionally, there is still resentment within our marriage because she couldn't fulfill her dream.
No talking. I have the talking bat
Excellent.Thanks for sharing this video.
Amen
No, I haven't watched the video. Let me guess. The man should always compromise AKA give in.
You're so right, this is such a common problem. Thanks for these tips!
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For everyone going through relationship problems, don't give up. you can still get your ex back. Look, my wife came back after 2 months of leaving our house. All thanks to (Papa Osaro LOVE SPELL) is a powerful spiritual man #papaosaro ❤️
God bless this ministry! Thank you! Much needed content!
Thanks Mischelle! I appreciate the encouragement. God bless you
Awesome message Pastor!
Great 😊 video
Thanks Amber, I'm glad you enjoyed it and learned something. What is a challenge you are facing in a relationship? Please let me know if I can help you.
Thank you for your supporting words. My heart is 💔 , I cry a lot, I lost my dad 8 days ago, and I lost my mom 2 year's ago. I feel something s I'm dying, I can't breathe and have chest heaviness. I feel lonely, because there are no close family ties. I'm alone with my loss. I was very close to them. Thank you pastor Kelly. I'm prayingi .
Rosa, thank you for sharing. i'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I'm sure that's very hard. Here is the link to our Grief group that I know will help you get through this difficult time: go2faith.com/page/641?GroupId=508761 God bless you
Thank you pastor Kelly I will link the support grieve group support you sent me 🙏
@@turnitupmarriagetips thank you pastor Kelly .I will Link to your information. God bless
Thank you for the good insights on sharing honestly and compassionately with our spouses. Very valuable lessons for any type of relationships.
Excellent tip. My family and close friends appreciate each other and the love that flows between us.
Love that!
Even Though I haven't seen you for quite awhile I still consider you My Pastor!!! Morrie Feldstein