The National Resource Center on ADHD: A Program of CHADD, is the nation's leading source for science-based information about all aspects of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder for children and adults.
I've been in classrooms with the 'whirling dervish' ADHD child and the school has had no real resource or plan, despite the various IEP stuff. And, the effect is children being parked for hours each day, not learning much. I've watched this wondering how to be of service.
@LydiaHess-uv1bl2 күн бұрын
Dang when he said that fear of pain is a big factor of why we don’t commit suicide it hit me hard. If I wasn’t so scared of pain I would already be gone
@Moscririna2 күн бұрын
Just realizing how blessed I am. I just git diagnosed inattentive type at 38, after post natal depressions, anxietydisorder and 3 burnouts. Everything makes sence now. But I'm lucky that my husband is my rock. We divide the complete care load, we work both part time. He has also all the appointments in his agenda for both of us, in case (often) I forget something. He knows what my ADD struggle is and looks out for me. But poor fella went through a lot with me. 😅 Sending out so much love to all the ADD moms.
@ZbyszekJot2 күн бұрын
I have to get all the shit together around the house, work and basically everything in everyday life what money can't buy. And i still feel sorry I can't make my spouse feel better while she's scrolling through useless Instagram crap. Or when she's walking up tired at 9 while I'm mixing concrete in my backyard since 7 am. Am I selfish?
@giggles12193 күн бұрын
Crap. Less than 5 min in and I have to rewind because my mind wondered. 🤦🏽♀️
@patiaurelio3 күн бұрын
So it’s like having a 3rd child??
@cqwonton50023 күн бұрын
Shooting for a B+ when my parents were dissatisfied by the one A- on my report card 💀🫠 feels rough, but I get how that Should help. Just feels rough
@raesunshine26433 күн бұрын
What an amazing and informative video ❤❤ Thank you😊
@gabbyclarke81664 күн бұрын
really emotional 😢
@gabbyclarke81664 күн бұрын
great video ! i really recommend more of these for us young women who are struggling thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@spirituallyconscious77744 күн бұрын
I swear you people are not educated enough to know the difference between adhd and narcissism smh. 🤦🏿♂️
@Scorned4057 күн бұрын
Suicide is for quitters
@danafox61898 күн бұрын
Everything is great - EXCEPT - the medication part. You don't need to drug your kids, you need to coach them and help them work through these obstacles. The best brain/ADHD doctors state that "they have never seen a case where medication worked" and "it should only be used as a stop-gap". My wife manages a pediatrician office and she has never seen medication be successful. Parenting is hard and parenting an ADHD child is harder, but there are many positive qualities to an ADHD child too. They are worth the extra effort and you will be rewarded.
@noblenumenorean51659 күн бұрын
I always feel like I'm going to make them uncomfortable, like I'm going to say something wrong or overstep. In the past tense, I'm hypercritical of what I did say. Rough
@zachsiner38310 күн бұрын
I am stopping cannabis now as someone with ADHD because it made me easily irritated with my kids
@aegean574913 күн бұрын
Any more information and tools for both partners? I have severe adhd, my wife has depression.
@stalsha88113 күн бұрын
I'm 46 was officially diagnosed at 45 . Unfortunately because of my past I can not find a doctor to give me the medicine I need. So here I am almost divorced after 17 years of marriage because my change of life everything is in super hyperdrive and I literally am rolling on steam grasping for any life line any bit of comfort everything I see is oh take this.. Well where please tell me where cause god knows I've tried
@AngelaHuauya14 күн бұрын
😢
@chrispasson194015 күн бұрын
I feel broken by shame
@bensinger663716 күн бұрын
😭😭
@mkli375216 күн бұрын
I have ADHD but never let it take over me. I still have control over my body so i constantly pick only the good sides of ADHD and dump the bad side
@rossarias952716 күн бұрын
Do you have som resources in spanish ? Your information is excellent to understand adhd. Thanks
@Prince_Gordon17 күн бұрын
I don’t think I was supposed to listen to this. I was already feeling like a huge burden. My wife has been doing all these things the best she can for over 20 years and now I feel like she just can’t deal with me anymore, in spite of trying my best to overcome all my faults.
@martinlutherkingjr.558218 күн бұрын
What medications have shown efficacy in CDS?
@jordanbrock805523 күн бұрын
What about ppl with the inward ADD the non hyper one. That’s what I have. My mind is adhd squierrel, but I’m not full of energy like ppl with ADHD, in fact I’m super sensitive to stimulants.
@graceohkraybill543127 күн бұрын
I think it's really important to couch the socializing opportunities at coops for homeschooled kids with the fact that anyone with Autism will NOT learn how to socialize themselves! This is a major, integral deficit with ASD and ADHD is that they don't get the clues or does not wait to consider the clues!Homeschooling can give opportunity for the parent to teach them one on one, in a quiet, safe environment how to behave in certain situations and coops may be a time they can practice what they learned.
@sj426727 күн бұрын
🎯 **Perfectionism Overview** 🎯 1️⃣ Perfectionism: Good or Bad? It's aiming for super high standards but can be a pain sometimes. 2️⃣ Signs: Quick to spot flaws, harsh on mistakes, and delay stuff fearing failure. 3️⃣ Upsides: Can drive you forward, but the downside? Fear-based perfectionism brings procrastination, rigid thinking, and kills creativity. 4️⃣ Types: There's rigid (linked to self-worth) and adaptive (high standards but chill if you slip). 5️⃣ Impact: Perfectionism messes with your head, so recognizing it's crucial for your mental health. 6️⃣ Fix: Set doable goals, see tasks as manageable chunks, and start with baby steps. 7️⃣ Solution: Get to know yourself, be kind, and celebrate what makes you, you. 8️⃣ Tackle: Picture yourself winning, speak kindly to yourself, and ask for what you need. 9️⃣ Shift: Catch negative thoughts, swap them with positive ones. 🔟 Motivate: Reward yourself after tasks, stick to a plan, and know when it's perfectionism or ADHD kicking in.
@MimiMangetsu27 күн бұрын
I'm trying to get diagnosed, but because my grades were good before my burnout/depression, the doctor thinks I just have residual symptoms from depression. I have always struggled with motivation. I get easily interested and excited about new things, but often hyperfocus on details and then my energy runs out and I never finish anything without deadlines. I had many common symptoms of inattentive ADHD as a child, but the DIVA-5 sadly focuses on outward symptoms. I also experienced childhood trauma, so it could be that, ADHD or both. I was a reserved kid, but often got very talkative with friends, not understanding social rules about when to speak and small talk. But to every adult I was a well behaved smart kid, who just daydreamed often. I have worked on my perfectionism for a while, but I feel like it is natural to me to be detail oriented and go with the flow. I have tried many studying methods now in uni, but the best for me is just read through things, and not get stuck. As a perfectionist it is hard to not google every thought I get during studying. I have also started to just write essays without meticulous planning, because if I plan too much I get bored. This is still a journey, but next I'm trying to desensitize myself to failing!
@mdiaz909829 күн бұрын
Adult ADHD here 🙋♂️ had it since a child was put in SED special Education program etc the list goes on.. I was using THC as a medicinal use for my ADHD I have to say point blank it worked my mind moved faster than it thinks and THC slowed them both down to an equal level, remember I use small amounts of THC 1 maybe 2 puffs. but the damn thing works, at first my brain was chemically unbalanced but the THC somehow slowed the brain and regulated the brain chemicals and equalized them.. it may not be for everyone but for me it works I use to barely hold down a job because of my ADHD but now been employed in the same job for over 10 Yrs... If used right it chemically balances the brain which by itself is a HUGE impact to science study...
@elizabethchapin830329 күн бұрын
Nobody talks about the effect that narcissism has on the 'family' whose son refuses to leave the narcissistic female. Family relationships have been completely destroyed because of the victim's denial and refusal to get help.
@CommittedtoCalmАй бұрын
Me, having anxiety because this is hitting home so much LOL I was just diagnosed with ADHD last year at age 46. So much makes sense now. My psychiatrist and I have been working on treating me for severe anxiety for so many years. I am realizing that a lot of my anxiety has come from ADHD and not understanding it. My mother has OCD so I didn't think I was a perfectionist. But I am a perfectionist when it comes to social interactions and work. I love being aware of these things now because that means I have a place to work from. And it gives me confidence knowing that I can work on something tangible
@lyndiepanitz4431Ай бұрын
Wow I cant imagine him thinking any of this is necessary. I hope it can come to fruition
@brunodaniel7456Ай бұрын
So episodic memory can be a way of self sabotage? Ruminating?
@lateishajones9898Ай бұрын
Can someone timestamp this and be a hero pls lol?
@Johannes_WАй бұрын
For me it was not the right move to learn how to hold back, rather to learn to accept that I can not be friends or in a relationship with people who can't deal with the way my brain works. I hate small talk and enjoy getting deep into topics and also personal things, so I don't want people around me who are overwhelmed by relevant things.
@inesprpic5048Ай бұрын
I have ADHD and CDS and I think it’s not positive at all, especially CDS. It destroyed my life. It was such a relief for me when I experienced reality
@avhd187Ай бұрын
If I was a kid would I want to take adhd stimulants for CDS ? No. Perhaps for just math classes later on, Yes. Do I want to be able to take stimulants as an adult ? Yes.
@tinalaursen8993Ай бұрын
I was diagnosed at 58 with ADHD. I've been on medication continuously for over 3 and it has been profoundly helpful. Even the dr noticed right away the difference in my responses. What it has provided is an opportunity to know what functional walks and talks like. It seems to have a carry-over effect that accumulates giving me even more tools to work with to deal with life issues. As for side effects, well, beyond feeling a bit overstimulated occasionally I haven't seen any issues. My blood work indicates excellent heart health (of course, shot free here). I do consume a lot of olive oil and that has been noted to be very beneficial for the heart. - oatmeal too. I am normal weight, no smoking, limited drinking so no doubt these all contributors. The bigger consequence of delayed diagnosis has been the waste of my life and many others for what is a treatable condition if our medical systems had pulled their heads out of their asses and wallets. I'm sure prescribing some new antidepressant was far more lucrative and a contributing factor in the delay of effective treatment. Of course, this comment is post you-know-what where many of us now see medical malfeasance dressed up as science. If nothing else the delay in my ADHD treatment gave me just cause to be suspicious and wary of what rolled out these last 3 years. I thank God for this as it likely has saved me much trouble and grief.
@anaspringett7255Ай бұрын
What is the wait time for this entire process?
@hollybigelow5337Ай бұрын
Although there's interesting information here, I'm having a ton of trouble trusting the information presented because it is presenting statistics in extremely prejudicial ways that have been proven to be prejudicial. The gun ownership statement in particular was troubling. The US doesn't have a database of guns owned in the country, so it has no clue what percent of guns are owned per state/city/etc. So years ago the people who crunch the numbers decided to assume that gun ownership rates were roughly the same as gun suicide rates and to base all gun ownership data on that assumption. Now don't get me wrong, it might be a valid assumption, but you can't make an assumption that is the root of all of your data and then use that SAME data to prove the original assumption. It's junk math. Hopefully, it's self-evident why that is junk math. Anyway, there are tons of other reasons I have questions about the quality of research with several statistics presented here. If I know that 100% of the statistics with which I am familiar that are presented here are considered junk data for several reasons, how on earth can I trust the statistics they present here with which I am not familiar? I'm not sure if they are deliberately and knowingly using junk data to prove a point or if they are just lazy and are using commonly quoted, but disproven stats, but either way it is perfectly clear they have put in zero effort into ensuring the information they are presenting is actually accurate, and it puts everything they say into doubt for me.
@IanADolanАй бұрын
Really valuable content. Thanks for publishing it!
@brianolson620Ай бұрын
I feel like I have done some of these actions out of being hurt with my partner, but she did those things to get me on the toxic side, and eventually cheated on me. Being an INFP with adhd, I'm a bit of a lie detector, and was right that she was cheating during the time I accused her of cheating- she was! I think it was a circle of gaslighting? She calls me a loser like me, and in return and I don't participate with her family and her family when her parent's came from Mexico. I think In certain cases, both parties are toxic or forcing themselves to be together out of the stigma, "being divorced ". Also, the term narcissist, racist, etc is so so overused now.
@Cecil....Ай бұрын
Are kids students? this is misrepresentation.
@tmc1373Ай бұрын
RESOURCES??
@MelissaSue1998Ай бұрын
I was not diagnosed as a child but as a 43 yr old Wow I have never associated my nausea to my adhd I’m overly sensitive to it all I have misophonia I hate sounds I’m hyper vigilant and hyper sensitive .. I am in therapy lol .. ❤
@DavidLamance-ok2jhАй бұрын
Thank you so much this was a lot of help to me
@___Bexx___Ай бұрын
Im NT , every time I search the relationship between adhd and toxic relationships it's always adhd as the victim, why is my ND partner addicted to gaslighting me? And then using those words against me? When I say 'no I remember this exactly happening' - he says I'm gaslighting HIM?!?! I have some of the most glaringly toxic examples of what is straight up mental abuse but everything I find talks about them being the victim, its not helping me 😭😭
@___Bexx___Ай бұрын
I tried to explain he needs to discuss with his therapist that he cant talk through things when he's in the wrong as he blames me for everything, and you shoudl have seen the delight in his eyes and he shouted with glee ''lets talk through it then!'', it was almost demonic it was scary. its RSD and the refusal to sit with uneasy topics and accepting responsibility for things he has done. this really disturbed me though, in that moment he knew exactly what he was doing. the relationship is toxic BECAUSE of his adhd, not because he fell into one by having it!!!
@amyzing3603Ай бұрын
My experience with being in a relationship with someone with ADHD and displaying RSD, was also 100% a gaslighter as I can now confirm after watching this. I definitely attracted him because I was an easy target to manipulate and control as I really tried to work at the relationship and help him with his ADHD. He accused me of cheating all the time and that I had a secret app on my phone (which I was never even interested in other men) as well as checking my underwear to make sure they weren't too sexy for when I would go out to see girlfriends, and often commenting on how I looked like a slut for wearing certain outfits. Sometimes ADHD goes hand in hand with gaslighting and manipulation.
@amyzing3603Ай бұрын
I don't think I can do it. I feel so invisible in the relationship. Trust me, I have tried different angles at different situations and nothing helps.
@amyzing3603Ай бұрын
@@Clarissa746 Thank you :) all the best to you too
@rossarias9527Ай бұрын
Que recomienda para ayudar a un niño con hiperactividad e impulsividad.
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I've been in classrooms with the 'whirling dervish' ADHD child and the school has had no real resource or plan, despite the various IEP stuff. And, the effect is children being parked for hours each day, not learning much. I've watched this wondering how to be of service.
Dang when he said that fear of pain is a big factor of why we don’t commit suicide it hit me hard. If I wasn’t so scared of pain I would already be gone
Just realizing how blessed I am. I just git diagnosed inattentive type at 38, after post natal depressions, anxietydisorder and 3 burnouts. Everything makes sence now. But I'm lucky that my husband is my rock. We divide the complete care load, we work both part time. He has also all the appointments in his agenda for both of us, in case (often) I forget something. He knows what my ADD struggle is and looks out for me. But poor fella went through a lot with me. 😅 Sending out so much love to all the ADD moms.
I have to get all the shit together around the house, work and basically everything in everyday life what money can't buy. And i still feel sorry I can't make my spouse feel better while she's scrolling through useless Instagram crap. Or when she's walking up tired at 9 while I'm mixing concrete in my backyard since 7 am. Am I selfish?
Crap. Less than 5 min in and I have to rewind because my mind wondered. 🤦🏽♀️
So it’s like having a 3rd child??
Shooting for a B+ when my parents were dissatisfied by the one A- on my report card 💀🫠 feels rough, but I get how that Should help. Just feels rough
What an amazing and informative video ❤❤ Thank you😊
really emotional 😢
great video ! i really recommend more of these for us young women who are struggling thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I swear you people are not educated enough to know the difference between adhd and narcissism smh. 🤦🏿♂️
Suicide is for quitters
Everything is great - EXCEPT - the medication part. You don't need to drug your kids, you need to coach them and help them work through these obstacles. The best brain/ADHD doctors state that "they have never seen a case where medication worked" and "it should only be used as a stop-gap". My wife manages a pediatrician office and she has never seen medication be successful. Parenting is hard and parenting an ADHD child is harder, but there are many positive qualities to an ADHD child too. They are worth the extra effort and you will be rewarded.
I always feel like I'm going to make them uncomfortable, like I'm going to say something wrong or overstep. In the past tense, I'm hypercritical of what I did say. Rough
I am stopping cannabis now as someone with ADHD because it made me easily irritated with my kids
Any more information and tools for both partners? I have severe adhd, my wife has depression.
I'm 46 was officially diagnosed at 45 . Unfortunately because of my past I can not find a doctor to give me the medicine I need. So here I am almost divorced after 17 years of marriage because my change of life everything is in super hyperdrive and I literally am rolling on steam grasping for any life line any bit of comfort everything I see is oh take this.. Well where please tell me where cause god knows I've tried
😢
I feel broken by shame
😭😭
I have ADHD but never let it take over me. I still have control over my body so i constantly pick only the good sides of ADHD and dump the bad side
Do you have som resources in spanish ? Your information is excellent to understand adhd. Thanks
I don’t think I was supposed to listen to this. I was already feeling like a huge burden. My wife has been doing all these things the best she can for over 20 years and now I feel like she just can’t deal with me anymore, in spite of trying my best to overcome all my faults.
What medications have shown efficacy in CDS?
What about ppl with the inward ADD the non hyper one. That’s what I have. My mind is adhd squierrel, but I’m not full of energy like ppl with ADHD, in fact I’m super sensitive to stimulants.
I think it's really important to couch the socializing opportunities at coops for homeschooled kids with the fact that anyone with Autism will NOT learn how to socialize themselves! This is a major, integral deficit with ASD and ADHD is that they don't get the clues or does not wait to consider the clues!Homeschooling can give opportunity for the parent to teach them one on one, in a quiet, safe environment how to behave in certain situations and coops may be a time they can practice what they learned.
🎯 **Perfectionism Overview** 🎯 1️⃣ Perfectionism: Good or Bad? It's aiming for super high standards but can be a pain sometimes. 2️⃣ Signs: Quick to spot flaws, harsh on mistakes, and delay stuff fearing failure. 3️⃣ Upsides: Can drive you forward, but the downside? Fear-based perfectionism brings procrastination, rigid thinking, and kills creativity. 4️⃣ Types: There's rigid (linked to self-worth) and adaptive (high standards but chill if you slip). 5️⃣ Impact: Perfectionism messes with your head, so recognizing it's crucial for your mental health. 6️⃣ Fix: Set doable goals, see tasks as manageable chunks, and start with baby steps. 7️⃣ Solution: Get to know yourself, be kind, and celebrate what makes you, you. 8️⃣ Tackle: Picture yourself winning, speak kindly to yourself, and ask for what you need. 9️⃣ Shift: Catch negative thoughts, swap them with positive ones. 🔟 Motivate: Reward yourself after tasks, stick to a plan, and know when it's perfectionism or ADHD kicking in.
I'm trying to get diagnosed, but because my grades were good before my burnout/depression, the doctor thinks I just have residual symptoms from depression. I have always struggled with motivation. I get easily interested and excited about new things, but often hyperfocus on details and then my energy runs out and I never finish anything without deadlines. I had many common symptoms of inattentive ADHD as a child, but the DIVA-5 sadly focuses on outward symptoms. I also experienced childhood trauma, so it could be that, ADHD or both. I was a reserved kid, but often got very talkative with friends, not understanding social rules about when to speak and small talk. But to every adult I was a well behaved smart kid, who just daydreamed often. I have worked on my perfectionism for a while, but I feel like it is natural to me to be detail oriented and go with the flow. I have tried many studying methods now in uni, but the best for me is just read through things, and not get stuck. As a perfectionist it is hard to not google every thought I get during studying. I have also started to just write essays without meticulous planning, because if I plan too much I get bored. This is still a journey, but next I'm trying to desensitize myself to failing!
Adult ADHD here 🙋♂️ had it since a child was put in SED special Education program etc the list goes on.. I was using THC as a medicinal use for my ADHD I have to say point blank it worked my mind moved faster than it thinks and THC slowed them both down to an equal level, remember I use small amounts of THC 1 maybe 2 puffs. but the damn thing works, at first my brain was chemically unbalanced but the THC somehow slowed the brain and regulated the brain chemicals and equalized them.. it may not be for everyone but for me it works I use to barely hold down a job because of my ADHD but now been employed in the same job for over 10 Yrs... If used right it chemically balances the brain which by itself is a HUGE impact to science study...
Nobody talks about the effect that narcissism has on the 'family' whose son refuses to leave the narcissistic female. Family relationships have been completely destroyed because of the victim's denial and refusal to get help.
Me, having anxiety because this is hitting home so much LOL I was just diagnosed with ADHD last year at age 46. So much makes sense now. My psychiatrist and I have been working on treating me for severe anxiety for so many years. I am realizing that a lot of my anxiety has come from ADHD and not understanding it. My mother has OCD so I didn't think I was a perfectionist. But I am a perfectionist when it comes to social interactions and work. I love being aware of these things now because that means I have a place to work from. And it gives me confidence knowing that I can work on something tangible
Wow I cant imagine him thinking any of this is necessary. I hope it can come to fruition
So episodic memory can be a way of self sabotage? Ruminating?
Can someone timestamp this and be a hero pls lol?
For me it was not the right move to learn how to hold back, rather to learn to accept that I can not be friends or in a relationship with people who can't deal with the way my brain works. I hate small talk and enjoy getting deep into topics and also personal things, so I don't want people around me who are overwhelmed by relevant things.
I have ADHD and CDS and I think it’s not positive at all, especially CDS. It destroyed my life. It was such a relief for me when I experienced reality
If I was a kid would I want to take adhd stimulants for CDS ? No. Perhaps for just math classes later on, Yes. Do I want to be able to take stimulants as an adult ? Yes.
I was diagnosed at 58 with ADHD. I've been on medication continuously for over 3 and it has been profoundly helpful. Even the dr noticed right away the difference in my responses. What it has provided is an opportunity to know what functional walks and talks like. It seems to have a carry-over effect that accumulates giving me even more tools to work with to deal with life issues. As for side effects, well, beyond feeling a bit overstimulated occasionally I haven't seen any issues. My blood work indicates excellent heart health (of course, shot free here). I do consume a lot of olive oil and that has been noted to be very beneficial for the heart. - oatmeal too. I am normal weight, no smoking, limited drinking so no doubt these all contributors. The bigger consequence of delayed diagnosis has been the waste of my life and many others for what is a treatable condition if our medical systems had pulled their heads out of their asses and wallets. I'm sure prescribing some new antidepressant was far more lucrative and a contributing factor in the delay of effective treatment. Of course, this comment is post you-know-what where many of us now see medical malfeasance dressed up as science. If nothing else the delay in my ADHD treatment gave me just cause to be suspicious and wary of what rolled out these last 3 years. I thank God for this as it likely has saved me much trouble and grief.
What is the wait time for this entire process?
Although there's interesting information here, I'm having a ton of trouble trusting the information presented because it is presenting statistics in extremely prejudicial ways that have been proven to be prejudicial. The gun ownership statement in particular was troubling. The US doesn't have a database of guns owned in the country, so it has no clue what percent of guns are owned per state/city/etc. So years ago the people who crunch the numbers decided to assume that gun ownership rates were roughly the same as gun suicide rates and to base all gun ownership data on that assumption. Now don't get me wrong, it might be a valid assumption, but you can't make an assumption that is the root of all of your data and then use that SAME data to prove the original assumption. It's junk math. Hopefully, it's self-evident why that is junk math. Anyway, there are tons of other reasons I have questions about the quality of research with several statistics presented here. If I know that 100% of the statistics with which I am familiar that are presented here are considered junk data for several reasons, how on earth can I trust the statistics they present here with which I am not familiar? I'm not sure if they are deliberately and knowingly using junk data to prove a point or if they are just lazy and are using commonly quoted, but disproven stats, but either way it is perfectly clear they have put in zero effort into ensuring the information they are presenting is actually accurate, and it puts everything they say into doubt for me.
Really valuable content. Thanks for publishing it!
I feel like I have done some of these actions out of being hurt with my partner, but she did those things to get me on the toxic side, and eventually cheated on me. Being an INFP with adhd, I'm a bit of a lie detector, and was right that she was cheating during the time I accused her of cheating- she was! I think it was a circle of gaslighting? She calls me a loser like me, and in return and I don't participate with her family and her family when her parent's came from Mexico. I think In certain cases, both parties are toxic or forcing themselves to be together out of the stigma, "being divorced ". Also, the term narcissist, racist, etc is so so overused now.
Are kids students? this is misrepresentation.
RESOURCES??
I was not diagnosed as a child but as a 43 yr old Wow I have never associated my nausea to my adhd I’m overly sensitive to it all I have misophonia I hate sounds I’m hyper vigilant and hyper sensitive .. I am in therapy lol .. ❤
Thank you so much this was a lot of help to me
Im NT , every time I search the relationship between adhd and toxic relationships it's always adhd as the victim, why is my ND partner addicted to gaslighting me? And then using those words against me? When I say 'no I remember this exactly happening' - he says I'm gaslighting HIM?!?! I have some of the most glaringly toxic examples of what is straight up mental abuse but everything I find talks about them being the victim, its not helping me 😭😭
I tried to explain he needs to discuss with his therapist that he cant talk through things when he's in the wrong as he blames me for everything, and you shoudl have seen the delight in his eyes and he shouted with glee ''lets talk through it then!'', it was almost demonic it was scary. its RSD and the refusal to sit with uneasy topics and accepting responsibility for things he has done. this really disturbed me though, in that moment he knew exactly what he was doing. the relationship is toxic BECAUSE of his adhd, not because he fell into one by having it!!!
My experience with being in a relationship with someone with ADHD and displaying RSD, was also 100% a gaslighter as I can now confirm after watching this. I definitely attracted him because I was an easy target to manipulate and control as I really tried to work at the relationship and help him with his ADHD. He accused me of cheating all the time and that I had a secret app on my phone (which I was never even interested in other men) as well as checking my underwear to make sure they weren't too sexy for when I would go out to see girlfriends, and often commenting on how I looked like a slut for wearing certain outfits. Sometimes ADHD goes hand in hand with gaslighting and manipulation.
I don't think I can do it. I feel so invisible in the relationship. Trust me, I have tried different angles at different situations and nothing helps.
@@Clarissa746 Thank you :) all the best to you too
Que recomienda para ayudar a un niño con hiperactividad e impulsividad.