Meredith Miller is a holistic coach, author and speaker. She helps people transmute the past into gold so they can step into their Divine purpose and make a difference in the world around them. Meredith is passionate about helping people liberate themselves and evolve so they can live as free, empowered, responsible, awakened, purposeful and actualized human beings who contribute to the liberation and evolution of others in their own unique ways.
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Just keep quiet and document things that they do and their smear campaigns and keep cameras up for your safety.
You're right about how the narcissist looks for the most important thing in your life to attack. It was kind of pathetic, but funny how my father tried to do that to me. I told him I dropped out of a college I went to, but he didn't know I graduated from another college. When I was in high school and living with him, I failed 12th grade because of his negligence as a parent. I graduated high school after going to summer school and making up a few classes and I did get GED too. He thought all I had was a GED. When we were at dinner one night around 2015 he says to me out of nowhere 'How do you like your GED?' and I said 'I did graduate college, but I dropped out of another college.' After that he got quiet. The only reason he said that was to look for an expression of hurt on my face and get narcissistic supply. He had been pulling that crap on me every time we met for dinner. I went no contact with him in 2016.
Reconozco el haber creído que en vez de estar trabajando en una labor común, normal como todas las demás labores, estaba trabajando en la Nasa. La sensación más bonita que siento en mi cuerpo es el aterrizaje, ese momento para mí fue un profundo encuentro conmigo mismo. Ahora mismo estoy canalizando el ernitañismo por el que paso, describo así esta situación porque estoy en un ambiente tóxico, literalmente hablando estoy en camino de un Éxodo de las 3D más reales que he vivido en mi vida, también me siento en una fase de desaprender, comenzando a reiniciar de verdad mi vida, a partir de empezar a vivir ahora, sin necesidad de sobrevivir. Analizo mi vida, analizo lo que viví, sentí junto a un entorno narcisista, es la misma paradoja que un hanster dando vueltas en la misma rueda, bajo el engaño de creer que avanzas, mientras la realidad indica todo lo contrario, rodar y rodar en el mismo lugar luchando para creer una realidad insostenible, ante una verdad constante y sonante, no juzgo mi pasado, me tengo a mí, a mi presente, sin preocuparme por el futuro. Llevo muchos años teniendo como prioridad el futuro, hasta concluir a día de hoy que el más certero es el presente. Cometí el error de no darme Amor a mí mismo, creerme lo que no me tenía que creer, solo me puedo pedir humildemente disculpas a mí mismo, y prometerme a mí mismo que no volverá a suceder, ni yo lo voy a permitir. Muchas gracias Meredith 🫂🙂
11:00 Mother is the first connection we have in the world or should I say "as" the world. "I am not welcomed by the world" and "I am not welcomed in the world" is different I guess, father-wound is more like the second one. Powerlessness, insecurity, insufficiency, playing low mostly what father wound does. Being and feeling not welcomed, feelings of having no roots in the world and in oneself, significantly indecisiveness to define inner stuff. They are what mother wound does. (And I guess it slightly differs for males than females. Females have hatred from those kind of mothers so they can take position somehow, not a good position but a spot to start again. For males it is all messed up. Everything is blurred, enmeshment is so heavy. Love x hate, being used x being seen, the other x me, sexuality x sincerity...)
Meredith, muchas gracias 🫂🙂
I can't find the PDF. Thank you for this content, so incredibly helpful!
girl.... this advice is not sound... it's very dangerous around psychopaths.....they will become violent....
Hi, I just had to tell u this: in this dress (?), but also ur face & hair... U LOOK LIKE SOME GREEK GODDESS 🏛😁🌹
You start looking drained and older.. they start looking younger and full of more life
Entendí muchas cosas con este video
Ya entendí, Solo me querían para sexo
Cuando empieza el final de estas relaciones supone la primera gran BENDICIÓN de muchísimas más que están por llegar.
Llega un momento que utilizan incluso a otras personas para subestimarte. A mí uno de los últimos días de la relación me dijo que su hijo de 6 años me había contestado mal durante la cena porque percibía (el niño) mi mala energía. Otra característica es que te dicen continuamente cuál es tu estado emocional, casualmente siempre es malo o bajo, aunque tú te sientas bien o mejor de lo que te manifiesta. Así hace cuestionarte y reconsiderarte tu propio criterio. Te llegan a hacer creer que ellos te conocen incluso mejor a ti misma.
Saludos alguien sabe si ella da sesiones personalizadas ?
Eres una mujer muy profesional✨️ gracias por tus consejos 👋❤ Un saludo desde Madrid 🇪🇸 🙋🏻♂️ 🇨🇴
Beware of the covert borderline.
I sure hear a lot of excuses rationalizing the flying monkey's behavior here. I'm just not buying it!
Thank you so much for sharing!
Exactly
El mío contaba su pasado familiar, en relaciones, del trabajo etc. como “víctima” pero a la vez era muy susceptible a sentirse inferior u objeto de “lástima”, había que cuidar mucho las palabras para no herir su ego. Bastante desgastante, tomando en cuenta que no aceptaba ayuda directa sin embargo continuaba con su letanía de que todo le iba mal. Se identificaba como mi “salvador”(en sus propias palabras) yo teniendo mi vida completamente en orden. Una locura lo contradictorio que es.
I'm not allowed to talk about the abuse that happened. I feel like i literally can't even discuss it on here. I get eye rolls from my mom. I'm the one who went through it, so that really bothers me.
That is more of romantic perspective, yet narcissists also attack others when it is not of a romantic situation, covert narcissists are the worst, they are everywhere.
Best advice I ever got... "listen to what they do, not what they say they do". Major alert - constant lies, lack of empathy.
Hace 4 años vivo una relación donde me sacrifico cada día por miedos. Hoy día sufrí trastornos de ansiedad y pánico hasta de sueño. El lleva desaparecido ya una semana. Y tengo miedo de que hacer para cuando aparezca. Quisiera se termine está pesadilla. Se que en pocos días aunque me fortalezca aunque trate de enfocarme en mis cosas y desear que no aparezca se que en cualquier momento lo hará y nuevamente ese loop volverá. Nose cómo salir de aquí. Necesito mucha ayuda
This was the best video I’ve seen on the topic. Loved your insightful analysis of the sinister manipulation.
I come from a difficult, dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape that and had to go great lengths to get away from him. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet, they thought I was a gift from grandma that passed away, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately, I guess they didn’t. What seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my psychological and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, their love was like a benchmark, I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am, lack of acceptance, I would hear a family member say “But he wasn’t raised that way!” “Oh it’s just gonna take time.” …and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I wouldn’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. It’s just unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some online stranger on discord invalidates me and on to went on to say “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and another person made a negative comment about me wanting a life there with my family and he said “you don’t seem to realize you want a warped and distorted view of your family” and calling me a “poster child of emotional immaturity”. …even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me saying “well they raised your brother and not you so he’s their kid and not you why do you think you deserve everything he always gotten.” and that put more salt in the wound…and my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. She would ask me “What are the advantages that you think you have of being here?” but in my mind I’m like “I didn’t come here just so I can gain some kind of material advantages or benefits I came to have a life here with my family” I told her “I don’t know” and she was like “then why did you come live with us honey?” …It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life with their families and their siblings, I believe it is the most basic thing a kid can have… but I can’t? I’m not supposed to?… I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said “how on earth can you not be allowed just the same if not more”. I just wanted a life there with my family… Why would that be a wrong or reprehensible thing?
From my own personal journey: 1) unusual bowel movements; constipation, diarrhea, farting, burping and really loud stomach noises for no medical reason just in the presence of someone who keeps unloading negative information on me. 2) foot cramps to the point of freezing on the spot while being in a place where I don't belong. 3) Neck pain out of nowhere immediately after physical contact. 4) Eyes twitching after listening to someone lying and I knew they were. 5) Left ear ringing to the point I can't hear anything when someone is telling me a long story that involves gossip about things I don't wish to know. 6) Severe jaw pain after not speaking my mind because I avoided conflict.
Son excelentes tus videos, muchísimas gracias ❤
Eso de perdonar es extremadamente dificil...
I have spoken the truth on therapi on line and o was the most heated on my town i felt like they aale or give my information they satr killing my petd on my house they star target me on the store o the hischool of son on my job and they started target me on some fb page of my home town i think that my brother do it the same with me when i stop to send it money for m y bad healing. Never take any therapy with desanciedad never
Why do you want to help someone tlyou don't know
Ding Ding Ding 🛎️ yes
*A terapia no. Habría que dejarlo solo en medio del océano, en una patera...!! 😅 *Los N. engañan, ocultan y mienten descaradamente al terapeuta. El P.N. sale reforzado, aprende a ser más demoníaco y la víctima es más perjudicada. Y el terapeuta creyendo q está haciendo la mejor labor de su vida!!En el caso de que además el terapeuta sea narcisista (hay muchos y muchas!!), se compincha con el paciente narci para re-joder a la víctima. *Cierto Mera, H.G.TUDOR tiene unos videos muy interesantes!!
*"Una de cal y otra de arena". Es lo mismo que decir que andas en una montaña 🎢 rusa: arriba y abajo! De ahí la disonancia cognitiva extrema. De locos!! *Es cierto Mera, si estás enferma son crueles y perversos. Tanto comportamental como verbalmente. *Creo q hay q escuchar la intuición y eso incluye tbn escuchar al cuerpo. Pq si prestamos atención, siempre nos habla con claridad.
Tengo 66 anos, mi vida fue un infierno al lado de mis padres, y la familia de mi madre. el unico que me dio amor fue mi abuelo materno. mi madre siempre me ha difamado, ella es feliz que yo y mis hermanas estemos distanciadas. ahora mis hermanas y hermano se han convertido en monos voladores, y estan en mi contra y a favor de mi madre. no me invitan cuando salen a comer a un restaurante en el cumpleanos de mi madre, en Enero 2024 se reunieron y festejaron el cumpleanos de mi madre sin tomarme en cuenta, ni me invitaron. cuidadito que yo les reclame, porque salgo culpable de algo, segun ellas son las hijas e hijo perfectos. pero si mi madre se enferma y esta en el hospital, una de mis hermanas me manda un mensaje avisandome. hace aproximadamente 2 anos yo corria al lado de mi madre, y le ayudaba con lo que podia, como prepararle sus alimentos y limpiarle la casa. pero he decidido mantener el contacto 0 desde hace 2 anos, porque me canse de tanto abuso, desde maltratos, acusaciones falsas, humillaciones, desprecio, y rechazo. cuidado con que me defienda porque mis hermanas, e hermano me agreden con palabras hirientes. siento que mis hermanas me atan las manos para que mi madre me siga abusando. la verdad ha sido una tortura lo que yo he vivido con esta familia, no se lo deseo a nadie y deseo de todo corazon que las personas que estan pasando la misma situacion que yo puedan salir adelante, y sean libres con la bendicion de Dios. Gracias
Gabriela Rodríguez una narcisista bisexual que ya se almorzó media colonia, a media familia y a 6 de mis compañeros de trabajo. Que asco! Yo la descubrí en poco tiempo y la fui estudiando. Su papá es irresponsable, por mas que le pones la información no abre los ojos. Y su mamá es cómplice de la narcisista. La mamá sabe cuantas berenjenas han alimentado a esa mariposa. Lo peor, mi hijo está en esa familia de trastornados. Le pregunto a Dios si mi hijo llego a este mundo para vivir el infierno o tiene un final de mi vida para quitar un narcisista del camino.
El primer ejemplo lo hizo estando con nuestros hijos unas 4 veces...
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Thank you Meredith! Not reacting while your abuser is trying to get you to incite a fight is probably the most important piece of advice for victims still stuck in their living hell, so they don't go insane. It is one of the hardest things I've ever had to endure, more than the physical abuse which has disabled me, because it was so viscous and coming from someone you thought loved you. But that person doesn't exist anymore so you are now fighting a stranger who is destroying you. Be careful and know what level of abuser you are dealing with. From Meredith's experience a Narcissist will get pissed off and may, hopefully, walk away because they aren't getting the attention they need. A Psychopath will not only get really pissed off but will most likely escalate their rage and now they know you're learning how to play their game. And they are really good at their game.This can be very dangerous with a psychopathic abuser who is usually calm and calculated because he has controlled you for so long, and may result in an impulsive act of violence so please do not push your abuser if you sense they may respond this way. If you feel strong enough to stay calm, quiet and not react, let your abuser keep talking and pay attention to what they're saying to you, they will give you hints of what they may be planning or how they manipulated you, because they are dying to tell someone how great they are. Nod your head and agree with them from time to time. Meredith is so spot on!!! My husband did the stand up from the couch, stared at me, continued the verbal abuse and studied my reactions. Study your abuser back. You have no idea who this person is anymore. Plan your escape if that is what you want. This is a life or death decision and must be done with thought and support. You will not make it without a strong and reliable support group. Your friends and family are scared for you, themselves, and just simply not knowing what happened to you, and you will realize you don't understand either. Keep your support people's contact information safe and away from his view. If you are missing a person's contact info, your abuser knows you are considering leaving and is trying to isolate you more. You are your own WARRIOR! This is your fight. Don't start reacting at this stage in the game. Keep your head on straight, there are no mistakes when you are escaping your abuser, so be ready, committed and most of all be safe.
En este momento estoy hace semanas en la cama con dolor corporal con fiebres en los labios y apenas me puedo mover, no sé como voy a salir de esta...después del último ataque familiar narcisista...como sali de allí... han utilizado a los monos voladores de mis hermanas para un ataque bestial hacia mí persona con barbaridades de información que se supone que tienen acerca de mi...justo cuando me quedan pocos meses para acabar mi carrera...una carrera que depende de mucha gestión emocional...ya con esto no me queda ninguna duda...casi acaban conmigo...espero salir de esta.🙏
My mother stole all my money 25 yrs ago .My sister blocked me 30 yrs ago .I am 69 now and starving .My narc mother is 97 and in a nursing home.I gone no contact.My sister is controlling all her money .
Some of us have bigger fish to fry than smear and the demented flying monkeys who perpetuate it. Defamation and slander are illegal. Massive, long-term damages need to be assessed and remunerated.
Yo también me arrepiento de que siemore aguante de todo por el bien de la familia y que equivocada estaba apenas amis 39 años me doy cuenta de la cruda realidad
Gracias por esto ❤
If someone is broken, it doesn't mean that its your job to fix them.
I have worked with so many covered narcissists and they always like to play the victim and pretend to be always innocent
Absolutely, totally fake, such actor's, they should win an award 😂
When U finally saw that in family it's sooo Gross 🤢🤮
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