I definitely don’t think ABA is for everyone but do believe some children flourish with it! Because the sad reality is autism or not we all need to learn how to “mask” we all have to do things we don’t feel comfortable doing or don’t want to do. Maybe even things that physically or emotionally hurt us to do. We all unfortunately have to learn and follow “society standards” to some degree because that’s just the world we live in. Of course we aren’t robots but we all have to hold things in or alter ourselves so to speak. Ever wanted to scream at someone in public, maybe even the urge to give someone the middle finger, maybe the desire to fall to the floor crying, to jump for joy in the middle of a store, etc. we all feel big things sometimes that we wish we could let out right in that moment. We all have urges that we have to hold in because it would be “inappropriate” not to. All kids are taught to mask or control themselves to some degrees in order to flow with society. However many autistic brains learn differently than neurotypical brains which is where aba therapy comes into play. To me it’s simple a way for autistic children to learn what all children have to learn but it’s built around how autistic children tend to learn. As sad as it is that we all have to do this to some degree or do things that make others happy; it’s such an important life skill to learn! We all utilize these skills at times and all autistic children deserve to learn these skills. They don’t have to use them even but to know them is so important!
@alessandranr66078 күн бұрын
How could you access ABA therapy in Australia ? I would love it for my son but it’s impossible because of a price - NDIS do not cover it all!
@suzybausch85879 күн бұрын
So much fun! 😁
@motsemos74619 күн бұрын
So proud of Jacob❤
@rainbowgirl559 күн бұрын
It's so awesome to see your family have such a great time together. It's lovely to see how excited Jacob was.
@serenast.germain34699 күн бұрын
Awe this has to be the cutest family video ever
@justjules19699 күн бұрын
Thank you Thank you Thank you for sharing. Just loved it all. ❤
@teresanew92479 күн бұрын
Jacob and Jaz loved that. So excited.
@budgetforsuccess83511 күн бұрын
I have been in ABA since 2021 and the reason I started was to advocate for these kids. As an autistic adult I want to change the therapy to be more play therapy than the current state it is. I worked with a kid that lined up his toys and they taught him to play functionally and stop lining them up. The kid stopped playing with them entirely and I never saw him as excited to play after that. I reintroduce those toys and he lined them up and stimmed so happily. I loved it and I told the BCBA’s why take away something that makes him this happy. Lining up toys doesn’t hurt anyone it is just fun. I want to start my own company teaching autistic kids that it is ok to be themselves entirely stims and all. I grew up masking and I desire to teach RBT’s and BCBA’s the detriment of it. I will never force a child to make eye contact. I barely make eye contact.
@dovileparniauske139111 күн бұрын
Poor lady, she talked too much to too many wrong people trying to project their dilusions onto her. If her son can be in clothes for a half of the day and starts acting out only in front of her, it just means he knows she will let him act out, and such behaviour gets the most of her ttention. She should have stayed with him in ABA therapy; at least her child would have a chance in life. I did not have any therapy, but I noticed that people act differently with other children compared to me. I started copying what I thought attracted positive emotions and a willingness to communicate, establish friendships, and work relations. The 'look in the eyes' was the most terrifying thing to learn, but I did it, and now, even with masking, I can function like a sufficient member of society. That is a desirable outcome for every child. What can a person bring to society with no self-control, no social skills, and no self-sufficiency? Nothing, really, except a social burden paid by the taxpayers, who have to cope with society's expectations every day...
@BigALdeek11 күн бұрын
Most of these comments are women. Upset that the children are being held responsible for their behavior. The child cries and the mother steps in to baby them. The kids won’t be small forever and when the child is 15 going towards you with aggression remember all the times you babied them and never held them accountable to avoid a meltdown to avoid little Bobby from crying. Now you have a full blown angry man coming at you and there NO services for that.
@mattersfingers12 күн бұрын
We dont have 18 month vaccinations in the uk. We never seen an 18 month regression but have you ever thought about lead poisoning. @leadsafemamma is very informative about lead. There is genetic autism but lead poisoned kids are very similar to autistic kids and there is no separate medical term. America routinely tests for lead but here in the uk they do not. Lead is everywhere . You'd be so surprised how lead there is.
@Elidanaamerica13 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for your words ❤.
@xuyi_wang16 күн бұрын
I don't have ADHD, but I have also a racecar brain.
@meryemel134517 күн бұрын
Where are there madeline eric ?
@tatev_malakian17 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, wish you and Jacob all the best things ❤ I’m starting to learn about different types of therapies and your explanation helped me a lot ❤
@daniellelegassick921417 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for this. You have made my mind up I won't be doing any of this. People need to accept my son for who he is I'm not going to change a thing 😊
@user-py2lh7zv3h17 күн бұрын
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this good news
@user-py2lh7zv3h17 күн бұрын
I get Dr Oyalo herbs supplements and it has been helpful on my child autism spectrum. All traits are gone with her speech and focus and attention is good to talk about.
@user-py2lh7zv3h17 күн бұрын
I get the herbs too and it has been helpful on my child autism spectrum. All traits are gone with her speech and focus and attention is good to talk about
@AlexDesiner19 күн бұрын
I am new to your channel you are amazing
@a.od-reszki467421 күн бұрын
I'm autistic death metal vocalist so...
@joantoombsoppong748523 күн бұрын
I definitely agree that eye contact is not very easy for autistic children but also children that have been victims survivors of abuse also have difficulty with eye contact. Also in certain cultures eye contact is a form of rudeness. Any type of therapy has to be understanding of the mental, social and cultural experiences that the child has endured or undergoing. If it is permissible to work on eye contact skills, I would say make positive attempts to work on it however if it is going against a cultural experience or if it is clearly not realistic based on the individual, therapist really need to look at other options to focus on instead of eye contact..... If people are working on communication skills and eye contact is not permissible maybe short glances face to face and jotting down notes.... Someone jotting down notes is showing accuracy effective listening which is also a big part of communication.... Looking at someone face to face doesn't always declare effective listening and communicating but actually the art of listening comes in so many other learned skills to achieve that form of communication. I do believe that experts have learned within society that there are many other ways to get objectives accomplished.
@lizebotha878326 күн бұрын
I only have attention deficiency without the hyperactivity. Wishing Jazz all the best ❤
@jkka147728 күн бұрын
I hope one day she gets an autism diagnosis (if she has it)
@melissagray560628 күн бұрын
My son has also just been diagnosed combination ADHD. He is 8. Do you recommend any resources, books or websites that I can look at to help us with ideas for things to help calm his race cars? We haven’t really been recommended any resources so have just been trying to research things ourselves.
@Shiociel29 күн бұрын
I have adhd its fine😂my father was a doctor he also had it.we might be bit different but it doesn’t mean we cant have a good life.i am a lawyer and i am happy with my life in general.
@sarahjanewhite296729 күн бұрын
We have 4/5 race cars in our family. Lotssss of racing. Thanks for sharing! I’ve been unsure if I should buy that book but I’m going to now!
@missmac676729 күн бұрын
Ooof the screams are high pitched and make your ears ring also some of the repetitive sounds but my step son is hilarious and puts a big smile on my face ❤
@missfelicity229 күн бұрын
This is the sweetest video to show how you explain to your child about their brain. I love that she doesn't see anything negative about herself and that you've given her full self-confidence and she just understands that sometimes a racecar needs to slow down. Absolutely love how you guys did this! Also, while kids laughing and being silly and running around and interrupting may not be the "perfect" content, I think I love more seeing how you handle interruptions. While your goal was to *finally* (yes, I've asked a bunch of times) announce what you did find out, your video perfectly showcased what ADHD looks like, the kinds of accommodations that can help a child, how to respond when you see your child's brain moving too fast, how to talk about disabilities with a child for themselves and for others (like Jacob and Uncle Ben), and how it's okay to live life with a child interrupting or needing a movement break. I love your long family content videos, but have you considered just posting short ones? An update from the living room that's 3 minutes long or a consideration for setting up a sensory room, etc. You'd likely get more views as they're shorter and easier to consume by those of us living the same life. You are an inspiration. Thank you for being you and showing how to do this so gracefully.
@siennaprice135129 күн бұрын
I’m 26 going on 27 in a couple months. I was born with a rare brain condition called Septo Optic Dysplasia. SOD caused me to be born totally blind, it also caused me to be on the autism spectrum. I also have complex PTSD. My brain can be going fast too, because of so many different things. I find meditation, yoga, music, my weighted blanket, and other things to help me to relax. I have so many musical instruments that help me calm down and relax. Swinging also helps me too.
@feliciab2Ай бұрын
That's great you have a (kind of) answer. My brain is also a race car, but I'm Inattentive type. ADHD can be a superpower, especially with our ability to hyper focus. I just wish we had things like special chairs and things when I was in school.
@BookloverFantasy92Ай бұрын
I get it. My youngest got assessed at the start of march, she ticks two of the three boxes for diagnosis, but they want to reassess the other section when she’s 4-5 years old.
@tyreesetjjoyner1995Ай бұрын
Your daughter is so cute. And also, I haven’t seen you for awhile. Welcome back.
@ginatan3587Ай бұрын
My daughter gets better with ABA. From non vocal, self harming, aggression, tantrums, these problem behavior decrease with the help of ABA. She started when she's 2, and graduated at the age of 7. As a mom I saw a big change in terms of communications, coping emotions and social skills. It's like going to doctors, some doctors are better than others. Just need to find the good one.
@BigALdeek11 күн бұрын
Yeah it sounds like this lady took all the programs steps as a bad thing because the boy cried or was out of his comfort zone …. It’s going to happen just seems like she’s overly protective to where she’s hampering any progress. She doesn’t want to see him shed a single tear. It’s like going to the gym and never really going hard just kinda loitering and being afraid of what the machines can do out of fear of discomfort
@budgetforsuccess83511 күн бұрын
@@BigALdeek sensory issues are not discomfort. Sometimes they are physically painful like being stabbed. There is an actual difference between autistic brains and typically developing brains in the way our senses are processed.
@BigALdeek11 күн бұрын
@@budgetforsuccess835you don’t know that your making an assumption. There’s no Tests that’ say sensory stimulation with small things can be jabbing pains ! I understand your soft and emotional but the world is tough! No one will baby you when you get out there. Yes things have to be overcome with sheer will and persistence. I’m not saying force things on day one but change is hard and it’s a long road YOU WILL Face adversity in every sense. So many try and cocoon the child in safety blanket and the kid falls apart when the parent isn’t there. You will NOT always be there remember that.
@budgetforsuccess83511 күн бұрын
@@BigALdeek Umm I am not assuming as I have sensory issues with Autism so it is a reality and yes I do function daily with the hard world and you don't know me so do not assume I am "emotional and soft" I am just explaining it is more than "discomfort". I am not a parent either so I don't know why you are acting as if I am babying a child. Yes change is hard yes learning how to deal with life is crucial I am just stating that unless you know the parent in the video assumptions about her should not be made the way you made them. I know you are trying to insult me but I am not offended and not arguing. Goodbye.
@BigALdeek10 күн бұрын
@@budgetforsuccess835I’m sorry I wasn’t trying to offend. I also have a family member who is autistic and non verbal and extremely Aggressive. So my comment is aimed more at aggression and overcoming that issue. I’ve noticed the moment a child is being helped they don’t like it and the parent jumps in and doesn’t let the healing happen. Look at cancer patients ! You think the recovery process is smooth? And painless it’s not it’s torture but it’s heals and you are reborn when completed successfully
@whitneymason406Ай бұрын
I'm happy you were able to get a diagnosis! Thanks for sharing! 💞
@aussieautismfamilyАй бұрын
Thanks Whitney! I hope you and the family are well? How’s the new school going?
@whitneymason40629 күн бұрын
@aussieautismfamily we're doing good! Zac is loving his new school and his SIBs have decreased significantly! They also talk very positively about him. Such a lovely change!
@ShowreelBurkayАй бұрын
I am so sorry that you had to go through a traumatic experience. Please don't be hard on yourself. You are a wonderful, caring mother. I am an ABA therapist. In our clinic, we do not implement the eye contact program. Our kids have free access to toys. We do not use food as a reinforcer. By the way, taking away a toy from a kid can be a punishment procedure depending on whether it is targeting the reduction of a future behavior. We are receiving training on understanding kids' assent, since some kids are non-verbal. We teach kids to say no, and we work with parents on determining goals that are relevant and helpful, with the parents' consent and the kids' assent. I think ABA therapy is a great tool for kids but needs to be implemented correctly. Therapists need to implement procedures with compassion, respect, and dignity.
@LisaPrincess93Ай бұрын
You Are a Beautiful Family 😊❤
@aussieautismfamilyАй бұрын
Thank you so much!
@normajari8767Ай бұрын
They want my daughter 40 a week as 3 half years old! Ridiculous
@crystalchili3823Ай бұрын
20 hours of therapy isn’t that much. It’s not like they do direct trial training the whole time. There are good and bad people in every field. The people over 20 years old were subjected to therapists who were doing strict ABA which is harmful, or even worse doing “old ABA” so ABA standards from 30+ years ago. For clothing you have to find the material that works for him. I speak from experience as someone who is autistic, SPD, and experience as an RN with ABA 20 years ago and today. Doing something that triggers SPD doesn’t cause pain, it causes anxiety and the heebee jeebees. And when you are distracted it’s less. Looking someone in the eye is not painful. None of it is painful.
@crystalchili3823Ай бұрын
And food should never be a reinforcer
@ameliamcquillan2791Ай бұрын
My son is nearly five we live in Ireland and he only got assessed last year he has had one OT appointment and One SLT appointment, I would love if my son had the same chances as your kid because at the end of the day there is no help here 😢 but I understand your opinion too as a mother x
@camilabaraldi-dy4ubАй бұрын
Wow, the fact that you reconoce all of this, you are so brave for sharing this for other parents who are in doubt what is correct to do. When I was a nanny of a boy with Autism the parents asked me to be his ABA therapist, and nothing ever felt so wrong.
@popsi-bz9ekАй бұрын
My brother also has autism :D
@tendria7662Ай бұрын
Hi, Jess! My 6 year old also had the same surgery as Jacob along with tubes placed in his ears and tonsils shaved down. After the surgery his snoring stopped. When my son was little we struggled with sleep, for us his bed time is 10:30pm if he goes to sleep before that he will wake up during the night. Also no naps if he does have a nap it would have to be early in the day. A later bedtime is what works for us. I get him up at 6:15am to get ready for school and he doesn’t appear to be tired.
@HOPE-GRIFFITHSАй бұрын
Well done Jacob on talking ❤
@FretubeАй бұрын
Awww. His sister "he doesnt know how to talk. Remeber mama! ". Just like my daughter lol. And when my son started requesting at the age of 6 ,she was over the moon.
@bibbedyboo3532Ай бұрын
Hey, not sure if you look at old vid comments, but a lot of jacobs journey is so similar to my son who is going through evaluation in August, the day after his birthday and also for ADHD, sleep apnea and most likely ARFID. I was wondering if you could talk more about jacob and Jazz in terms of eating? Do they have any major aversions or sensory issues around food and what things have you found that helped if so other than therapy? I find food is the hardest part of our experience, not just hard but terrifying.
@simonbenjeloul7829Ай бұрын
Bonjour J’ai mon fils qui avait tout les stéréotypes que ton fils car il a était exposé au écrans depuis sa naissance ensuite nous avons arrêter les écrans a l’âge de 2ans et demi maintenant il a 4.3 mois depuis il a beaucoup progresser il a arrêter beaucoup de stéréotypes il comprend les consignes le seul conseil que je peux donner c’est arrêter les écrans car beaucoup d’enfant autisme vitrail suite à une sûre exposition des écrans à l’arrêt après quelque mois il répond à son prénom et commence le sevrage …. Alors réveiller vous c’est jamais trop tard de la part d’un français 🇫🇷🇫🇷
@milkywayranchscАй бұрын
You made the best decision at the time based on the information you were given by the "experts" you trusted. Now you know better. You aren't to blame for the misinformation you were given.
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I definitely don’t think ABA is for everyone but do believe some children flourish with it! Because the sad reality is autism or not we all need to learn how to “mask” we all have to do things we don’t feel comfortable doing or don’t want to do. Maybe even things that physically or emotionally hurt us to do. We all unfortunately have to learn and follow “society standards” to some degree because that’s just the world we live in. Of course we aren’t robots but we all have to hold things in or alter ourselves so to speak. Ever wanted to scream at someone in public, maybe even the urge to give someone the middle finger, maybe the desire to fall to the floor crying, to jump for joy in the middle of a store, etc. we all feel big things sometimes that we wish we could let out right in that moment. We all have urges that we have to hold in because it would be “inappropriate” not to. All kids are taught to mask or control themselves to some degrees in order to flow with society. However many autistic brains learn differently than neurotypical brains which is where aba therapy comes into play. To me it’s simple a way for autistic children to learn what all children have to learn but it’s built around how autistic children tend to learn. As sad as it is that we all have to do this to some degree or do things that make others happy; it’s such an important life skill to learn! We all utilize these skills at times and all autistic children deserve to learn these skills. They don’t have to use them even but to know them is so important!
How could you access ABA therapy in Australia ? I would love it for my son but it’s impossible because of a price - NDIS do not cover it all!
So much fun! 😁
So proud of Jacob❤
It's so awesome to see your family have such a great time together. It's lovely to see how excited Jacob was.
Awe this has to be the cutest family video ever
Thank you Thank you Thank you for sharing. Just loved it all. ❤
Jacob and Jaz loved that. So excited.
I have been in ABA since 2021 and the reason I started was to advocate for these kids. As an autistic adult I want to change the therapy to be more play therapy than the current state it is. I worked with a kid that lined up his toys and they taught him to play functionally and stop lining them up. The kid stopped playing with them entirely and I never saw him as excited to play after that. I reintroduce those toys and he lined them up and stimmed so happily. I loved it and I told the BCBA’s why take away something that makes him this happy. Lining up toys doesn’t hurt anyone it is just fun. I want to start my own company teaching autistic kids that it is ok to be themselves entirely stims and all. I grew up masking and I desire to teach RBT’s and BCBA’s the detriment of it. I will never force a child to make eye contact. I barely make eye contact.
Poor lady, she talked too much to too many wrong people trying to project their dilusions onto her. If her son can be in clothes for a half of the day and starts acting out only in front of her, it just means he knows she will let him act out, and such behaviour gets the most of her ttention. She should have stayed with him in ABA therapy; at least her child would have a chance in life. I did not have any therapy, but I noticed that people act differently with other children compared to me. I started copying what I thought attracted positive emotions and a willingness to communicate, establish friendships, and work relations. The 'look in the eyes' was the most terrifying thing to learn, but I did it, and now, even with masking, I can function like a sufficient member of society. That is a desirable outcome for every child. What can a person bring to society with no self-control, no social skills, and no self-sufficiency? Nothing, really, except a social burden paid by the taxpayers, who have to cope with society's expectations every day...
Most of these comments are women. Upset that the children are being held responsible for their behavior. The child cries and the mother steps in to baby them. The kids won’t be small forever and when the child is 15 going towards you with aggression remember all the times you babied them and never held them accountable to avoid a meltdown to avoid little Bobby from crying. Now you have a full blown angry man coming at you and there NO services for that.
We dont have 18 month vaccinations in the uk. We never seen an 18 month regression but have you ever thought about lead poisoning. @leadsafemamma is very informative about lead. There is genetic autism but lead poisoned kids are very similar to autistic kids and there is no separate medical term. America routinely tests for lead but here in the uk they do not. Lead is everywhere . You'd be so surprised how lead there is.
Thank you so much for your words ❤.
I don't have ADHD, but I have also a racecar brain.
Where are there madeline eric ?
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, wish you and Jacob all the best things ❤ I’m starting to learn about different types of therapies and your explanation helped me a lot ❤
Thank you so much for this. You have made my mind up I won't be doing any of this. People need to accept my son for who he is I'm not going to change a thing 😊
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this good news
I get Dr Oyalo herbs supplements and it has been helpful on my child autism spectrum. All traits are gone with her speech and focus and attention is good to talk about.
I get the herbs too and it has been helpful on my child autism spectrum. All traits are gone with her speech and focus and attention is good to talk about
I am new to your channel you are amazing
I'm autistic death metal vocalist so...
I definitely agree that eye contact is not very easy for autistic children but also children that have been victims survivors of abuse also have difficulty with eye contact. Also in certain cultures eye contact is a form of rudeness. Any type of therapy has to be understanding of the mental, social and cultural experiences that the child has endured or undergoing. If it is permissible to work on eye contact skills, I would say make positive attempts to work on it however if it is going against a cultural experience or if it is clearly not realistic based on the individual, therapist really need to look at other options to focus on instead of eye contact..... If people are working on communication skills and eye contact is not permissible maybe short glances face to face and jotting down notes.... Someone jotting down notes is showing accuracy effective listening which is also a big part of communication.... Looking at someone face to face doesn't always declare effective listening and communicating but actually the art of listening comes in so many other learned skills to achieve that form of communication. I do believe that experts have learned within society that there are many other ways to get objectives accomplished.
I only have attention deficiency without the hyperactivity. Wishing Jazz all the best ❤
I hope one day she gets an autism diagnosis (if she has it)
My son has also just been diagnosed combination ADHD. He is 8. Do you recommend any resources, books or websites that I can look at to help us with ideas for things to help calm his race cars? We haven’t really been recommended any resources so have just been trying to research things ourselves.
I have adhd its fine😂my father was a doctor he also had it.we might be bit different but it doesn’t mean we cant have a good life.i am a lawyer and i am happy with my life in general.
We have 4/5 race cars in our family. Lotssss of racing. Thanks for sharing! I’ve been unsure if I should buy that book but I’m going to now!
Ooof the screams are high pitched and make your ears ring also some of the repetitive sounds but my step son is hilarious and puts a big smile on my face ❤
This is the sweetest video to show how you explain to your child about their brain. I love that she doesn't see anything negative about herself and that you've given her full self-confidence and she just understands that sometimes a racecar needs to slow down. Absolutely love how you guys did this! Also, while kids laughing and being silly and running around and interrupting may not be the "perfect" content, I think I love more seeing how you handle interruptions. While your goal was to *finally* (yes, I've asked a bunch of times) announce what you did find out, your video perfectly showcased what ADHD looks like, the kinds of accommodations that can help a child, how to respond when you see your child's brain moving too fast, how to talk about disabilities with a child for themselves and for others (like Jacob and Uncle Ben), and how it's okay to live life with a child interrupting or needing a movement break. I love your long family content videos, but have you considered just posting short ones? An update from the living room that's 3 minutes long or a consideration for setting up a sensory room, etc. You'd likely get more views as they're shorter and easier to consume by those of us living the same life. You are an inspiration. Thank you for being you and showing how to do this so gracefully.
I’m 26 going on 27 in a couple months. I was born with a rare brain condition called Septo Optic Dysplasia. SOD caused me to be born totally blind, it also caused me to be on the autism spectrum. I also have complex PTSD. My brain can be going fast too, because of so many different things. I find meditation, yoga, music, my weighted blanket, and other things to help me to relax. I have so many musical instruments that help me calm down and relax. Swinging also helps me too.
That's great you have a (kind of) answer. My brain is also a race car, but I'm Inattentive type. ADHD can be a superpower, especially with our ability to hyper focus. I just wish we had things like special chairs and things when I was in school.
I get it. My youngest got assessed at the start of march, she ticks two of the three boxes for diagnosis, but they want to reassess the other section when she’s 4-5 years old.
Your daughter is so cute. And also, I haven’t seen you for awhile. Welcome back.
My daughter gets better with ABA. From non vocal, self harming, aggression, tantrums, these problem behavior decrease with the help of ABA. She started when she's 2, and graduated at the age of 7. As a mom I saw a big change in terms of communications, coping emotions and social skills. It's like going to doctors, some doctors are better than others. Just need to find the good one.
Yeah it sounds like this lady took all the programs steps as a bad thing because the boy cried or was out of his comfort zone …. It’s going to happen just seems like she’s overly protective to where she’s hampering any progress. She doesn’t want to see him shed a single tear. It’s like going to the gym and never really going hard just kinda loitering and being afraid of what the machines can do out of fear of discomfort
@@BigALdeek sensory issues are not discomfort. Sometimes they are physically painful like being stabbed. There is an actual difference between autistic brains and typically developing brains in the way our senses are processed.
@@budgetforsuccess835you don’t know that your making an assumption. There’s no Tests that’ say sensory stimulation with small things can be jabbing pains ! I understand your soft and emotional but the world is tough! No one will baby you when you get out there. Yes things have to be overcome with sheer will and persistence. I’m not saying force things on day one but change is hard and it’s a long road YOU WILL Face adversity in every sense. So many try and cocoon the child in safety blanket and the kid falls apart when the parent isn’t there. You will NOT always be there remember that.
@@BigALdeek Umm I am not assuming as I have sensory issues with Autism so it is a reality and yes I do function daily with the hard world and you don't know me so do not assume I am "emotional and soft" I am just explaining it is more than "discomfort". I am not a parent either so I don't know why you are acting as if I am babying a child. Yes change is hard yes learning how to deal with life is crucial I am just stating that unless you know the parent in the video assumptions about her should not be made the way you made them. I know you are trying to insult me but I am not offended and not arguing. Goodbye.
@@budgetforsuccess835I’m sorry I wasn’t trying to offend. I also have a family member who is autistic and non verbal and extremely Aggressive. So my comment is aimed more at aggression and overcoming that issue. I’ve noticed the moment a child is being helped they don’t like it and the parent jumps in and doesn’t let the healing happen. Look at cancer patients ! You think the recovery process is smooth? And painless it’s not it’s torture but it’s heals and you are reborn when completed successfully
I'm happy you were able to get a diagnosis! Thanks for sharing! 💞
Thanks Whitney! I hope you and the family are well? How’s the new school going?
@aussieautismfamily we're doing good! Zac is loving his new school and his SIBs have decreased significantly! They also talk very positively about him. Such a lovely change!
I am so sorry that you had to go through a traumatic experience. Please don't be hard on yourself. You are a wonderful, caring mother. I am an ABA therapist. In our clinic, we do not implement the eye contact program. Our kids have free access to toys. We do not use food as a reinforcer. By the way, taking away a toy from a kid can be a punishment procedure depending on whether it is targeting the reduction of a future behavior. We are receiving training on understanding kids' assent, since some kids are non-verbal. We teach kids to say no, and we work with parents on determining goals that are relevant and helpful, with the parents' consent and the kids' assent. I think ABA therapy is a great tool for kids but needs to be implemented correctly. Therapists need to implement procedures with compassion, respect, and dignity.
You Are a Beautiful Family 😊❤
Thank you so much!
They want my daughter 40 a week as 3 half years old! Ridiculous
20 hours of therapy isn’t that much. It’s not like they do direct trial training the whole time. There are good and bad people in every field. The people over 20 years old were subjected to therapists who were doing strict ABA which is harmful, or even worse doing “old ABA” so ABA standards from 30+ years ago. For clothing you have to find the material that works for him. I speak from experience as someone who is autistic, SPD, and experience as an RN with ABA 20 years ago and today. Doing something that triggers SPD doesn’t cause pain, it causes anxiety and the heebee jeebees. And when you are distracted it’s less. Looking someone in the eye is not painful. None of it is painful.
And food should never be a reinforcer
My son is nearly five we live in Ireland and he only got assessed last year he has had one OT appointment and One SLT appointment, I would love if my son had the same chances as your kid because at the end of the day there is no help here 😢 but I understand your opinion too as a mother x
Wow, the fact that you reconoce all of this, you are so brave for sharing this for other parents who are in doubt what is correct to do. When I was a nanny of a boy with Autism the parents asked me to be his ABA therapist, and nothing ever felt so wrong.
My brother also has autism :D
Hi, Jess! My 6 year old also had the same surgery as Jacob along with tubes placed in his ears and tonsils shaved down. After the surgery his snoring stopped. When my son was little we struggled with sleep, for us his bed time is 10:30pm if he goes to sleep before that he will wake up during the night. Also no naps if he does have a nap it would have to be early in the day. A later bedtime is what works for us. I get him up at 6:15am to get ready for school and he doesn’t appear to be tired.
Well done Jacob on talking ❤
Awww. His sister "he doesnt know how to talk. Remeber mama! ". Just like my daughter lol. And when my son started requesting at the age of 6 ,she was over the moon.
Hey, not sure if you look at old vid comments, but a lot of jacobs journey is so similar to my son who is going through evaluation in August, the day after his birthday and also for ADHD, sleep apnea and most likely ARFID. I was wondering if you could talk more about jacob and Jazz in terms of eating? Do they have any major aversions or sensory issues around food and what things have you found that helped if so other than therapy? I find food is the hardest part of our experience, not just hard but terrifying.
Bonjour J’ai mon fils qui avait tout les stéréotypes que ton fils car il a était exposé au écrans depuis sa naissance ensuite nous avons arrêter les écrans a l’âge de 2ans et demi maintenant il a 4.3 mois depuis il a beaucoup progresser il a arrêter beaucoup de stéréotypes il comprend les consignes le seul conseil que je peux donner c’est arrêter les écrans car beaucoup d’enfant autisme vitrail suite à une sûre exposition des écrans à l’arrêt après quelque mois il répond à son prénom et commence le sevrage …. Alors réveiller vous c’est jamais trop tard de la part d’un français 🇫🇷🇫🇷
You made the best decision at the time based on the information you were given by the "experts" you trusted. Now you know better. You aren't to blame for the misinformation you were given.