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  @MelodicDinosaur5 күн бұрын

  Heya :). I'm a trainee counsellor with DID. It's such a normal thing to happen to the mind under circumstances where you have disorganised attachment and trauma that has no way of being processed at the time. I think a lot of it is treated as freaky or mystical - people, including professionals, dissociate from DID - it's a diagnosis that names an elephant in the room. So in a sense, I think it's up to clinicians to work on 'integrating' with the knowledge that unthinkable abuse happens that doesn't seem to make sense - because society covers up a lot and we all turn a blind eye sometimes - and also the brilliant and often unseen defences the mind has for surviving, just as much as it's the clients' task to slowly and gently get to understand and accept the reality of our lives. There are so few people who will sit with us as we are, in our full humanness. Just doing that is a real gift.

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  @YuryDmytrunets99 күн бұрын

  Thanks. Interesting discussion

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  @mdbruhn9 күн бұрын

  Really enjoyed this podcast. Very down to earth explanation of how people who have become fragmented by dissassociation in childhood can heal as adults. I think the honeycomb metaphor is very helpful too. Beautifully and gently explained, bravo.

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  @rjaber948911 күн бұрын

  thank you for this! i have just started tehrapy for the first time at 32 years old and have very little reference to what is actually happening, what we are doing, how complex it actually is!! it is totally a matrux. well said. thank you for these insights they are very helpful and i feel like im not alone and as confused

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  @bobcooke523012 күн бұрын

  hi everyone any suggestions for topics you wish us to discuss

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  @MrsSoulRaspberryMate18 күн бұрын

  Girl (33) who fell in love together with their (group)therapist (37) last year! Now, 1Y later we would have gotten married probably if we would't have been found out. Find it very unethical that I am not allowed to be in a relationship with whom I am in love with. Find it so sad for him that hé not only lost the love of his life, but also lost a part of his professional opportunities such a lading a group. Simply because we knew we loved each other, came as a surprise halfway through, no physical contact or speaking to each other for more than neccesary. I have always felt completely safe with him, and I am harsh on men that are nasty in any way. I was able to make him feel safe too❤️ Well, if anyone's curious, please hit me up because I'd love to proces this, since it feels terribly unjust as I am independent and feel as his equal.

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  @bobcooke523023 күн бұрын

  thank you for your kind words

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  @Jonathan-hn8bg23 күн бұрын

  Thanks for this chat Bob and Jackie - it’s inspirational and clarifying.

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  @BreeeYTАй бұрын

  Can y’all do an episode on body dysmorphic disorder? Thanks!

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  @bobcooke5230Ай бұрын

  will do

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  @BreeeYTАй бұрын

  @@bobcooke5230 ooo thank you!

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  @BreeeYTАй бұрын

  This was the most accurate video of HPD I’ve seen

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  @LailahiipekАй бұрын

  My therapist (M50) just hit on me (F30) . I'm so shaken because he was the only one I opened up in years. Now I regret that, I don't think that I can have therapy again. I'm feeling abused and manipulated. He's very well aware that I'm not able to set boundaries. I'm feeling betrayed. Did it happen because I have BPD and looked helpless to him? My friend is blaming me for not setting boundaries with him before. I bought a little pot of flowers for his birthday, also to thank him for delaying my payments (which I didn't ask for, he wanted to continue when I lost my job). it's so stupid that I got traumatized by my therapist 😢

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  @springwood133118 күн бұрын

  Sorry to hear that, he's out of order and shouldn't have done that. It's not your fault- buying a gift is not an excuse for him to hit on you! Hope you get the help you need x

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  @Jakob19thmmmАй бұрын

  Hi Bob and Jackie, I enjoyed this podcast, thank you! I am wondering why the video has a hashtag of BPD. Can you possibly give an idea? I can theorize but would love your professional insight. Thanks again.

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  @bobcooke5230Ай бұрын

  i am glad you enjoyed the podcast i will ask jaqui about hashtag question for you

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  @Jakob19thmmmАй бұрын

  @bobcooke5230 thank you 🙏

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  @user-ds7od9kk6sАй бұрын

  Hello My name is Ahmad. I'm a graphic designer and digital marketer. I found some issues while researching your KZread channel and videos, due to which you are not getting the desired video views and subscribers I'll show you via a screenshot if you want

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  @bobcooke5230Ай бұрын

  thank you glad you find it useful

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  @Jonathan-hn8bgАй бұрын

  Thanks for this helpful conversation Bob & Jackie.

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  @nathanrichardson8402Ай бұрын

  Where can I buy the book? Amazon does not have any for sale?

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  @bobcooke5230Ай бұрын

  thank you i am glad you enjoyed the podcast

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  @omarthearab81Ай бұрын

  What an insightful podcast. it took me back to my own inner critic from my care givers

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  @jonathanpdbuckley3680Ай бұрын

  Makes me feel a bit emotional. Such a lovely conversation and everything so simply explained. I feel that that the great contribution that Eric Berne gave to the world and one which given his theory is so important ... was that model which everyone can understand which then means that we can communicate with each other on adult basis. Thanks

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  @ylana4444Ай бұрын

  Thank you! For including same sex transference! Everything is heteronormative by default. Ugh!

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  @omarthearab812 ай бұрын

  I got compassion fatigue last year and became cynical towards myself. my own abilities at Uni and work. As someone with BPD. I can be very demanding sometimes and I'm aware that therapists need to know their limitations when working with individuals with personality disorders. I appreciate your honesty on this subject. 💜

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  @iWaveKatie2 ай бұрын

  I'm a therapist in California (but born in UK) and I am sitting here preparing for a session with a passive-aggressive client in a few minutes. I googled my way to this episode and really enjoyed it. Thank you!

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  @The_Mindful_Mototorcyclist2 ай бұрын

  Does anyone have the slides from Mick's presentation that they could share?

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  @talibaron57152 ай бұрын

  Great episode. Will you consider during the same kind of episode this time what 5 things you thought about clents. Many thanks

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  @omarthearab812 ай бұрын

  What an essential video on 5 things to help the trainee psychotherapist

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  @Jonathan-hn8bg2 ай бұрын

  Thanks Bib and Jackie. Best episode so for ;)

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  @lordfarquaad78962 ай бұрын

  Okay, I’m gonna name the elephant in the room; if I went to see either of these two guys for therapy, I can safely say, from a deep knowing, that I will not experience any sexual feelings towards either of them… 😂

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  @1thebem2 ай бұрын

  Is it ok to ask your councellor to go to supervision? Is it ok for your councellor to then go to supervision and then immediately terminate all contact?

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  @1thebem2 ай бұрын

  I am interested in how Bob would handle the situation where the client (me) was trying to receive help but also trying to look after the therapist. It doesn’t seem to work out well for me but how can you be your authentic self within the therapy room if that is what comes out naturally. If I’m acting like a (possibly sexually confused) child but have the intelligence and observational skills to know that is making them uncomfortable, what can I do? If i tell them they run away and if i don’t how can i be helped?

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  @StephanieP-lj1ui3 ай бұрын

  I really enjoy this podcast and have listened to every episode, often several times over. Many many times, almost every episode, I have wished that Bob would be allowed to keep talking for longer than he's been allowed to talk. It always seems like he has more to say and I enjoy hearing everything he has to say. So do let him ramble on for longer...

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  @TokyoShemp3 ай бұрын

  Is this scripted (I can't tell yet either way), and if so, how is that helpful to anyone including yourselves?

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  @TokyoShemp3 ай бұрын

  Nothing personal, but I think you're all mostly condemned because you allowed the psychiatry pill thingie to get out of control without any pushback. Makes it a tad difficult to believe you are any type of true physician of the self.

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  @susan78183 ай бұрын

  I love this episode, very educational. As a TA trainee I found this very helpful as an overview of the therapy journey. Thank you ❤

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  @kazmkazmc78943 ай бұрын

  Thank you. CAn you do episodes about working with disabled clients and clients from other cultures? I've been seeing some clients such as those.

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  @ronellejonat86293 ай бұрын

  Thanks for your talk! I'm looking for a TA therapist and looking on the Counselling Directory but cannot seem to find a clear signpost to a TA therapist. Can you help please?

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  @omarthearab813 ай бұрын

  Brilliant from the dynamo duo xx

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  @kazmkazmc78943 ай бұрын

  I've got a question about that. I believe according to my experience as a therapist and from the limited amount of literature i read regarding to narcissistic people, they have a strong internal Critical Parent ego inside them and obviously no usage of Nurturing Parent. We are targeting Child Ego, but is it possible to work on the deficiency in Parent Ego; in due time of course? Also, one more, usually in close relationships they might long for someone to take on the nurturing parent role, is it OK for the terapist to take on the nurturing parent for a while until the trust is formed? Sorry for the long questions. Thank you.

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  @AmethystWoman3 ай бұрын

  In her recent documentary "Joan Baez: I am a noise," she came out as having DID and talked about her alters, abuse, depression and anxiety struggles, difficulty forming one on one relationships etc for quite some time at the end.

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  @MelodicDinosaur5 күн бұрын

  So much respect for Joan Baez for that

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  @TheMickeyBloo3 ай бұрын

  I'm a couple of months in to therapy for past trauma. The timing of the therapy, my openness to the process and the relationship with my therapist just seem so in sync. The biggest revelation for me being introduced to TA by my therapist and the learnings of it from you guys. Thank you both for the part you're playing in my journey.

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  @winalatorfan3 ай бұрын

  Her Mr. Cooke, any chance of you coming to Turkey? Thank you.

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  @phamhailam13 ай бұрын

  Thank you for your video and presentation! However, your picture obscured the slide. If possible, I hope to see the last lines of the first slide about seven modes. Best regards!

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  @maniacbody20663 ай бұрын

  Cheers!

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  @isanderfreiman21103 ай бұрын

  Thank you for this podcast! Any chance you want to share the name of the author/s of "Sequences in Psychotherapy"? The internet doesn't seem to know about this gem of a book!

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  @donatellaseveri76043 ай бұрын

  Love how you are both so genuine 💕enjoy your retreats guys.

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  @donatellaseveri76043 ай бұрын

  Really enjoyed this Thankyou.

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  @susanmann52864 ай бұрын

  Please, please don't ask the client what they think about it! Former therapist/current client here.

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  @gbryce65314 ай бұрын

  Is there a full video of this demonstration please?

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  @winalatorfan4 ай бұрын

  I love Scottish people! 😃🥰 I love your energy. Thank you.

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  @user-sn4oq3ln9k4 ай бұрын

  Is "Withholding half a video" the third passive behaviour?

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  @ravenclaw304 ай бұрын

  Speaking as a client, I could be in a child or parent ego state at the start of a session, depending on how I felt before the session or what might have happened before on that day. There are no guarantees that the client enters the therapy room in their adult ego state...