These video clips summarize what I've learned about 7 key topics as a veteran family system and trauma-recovery therapist. My experience is that average people can live a more satisfying life once they're aware of these topics and how to reduce inherited psychological wounds. A core awareness is to learn Who is REALLY running your life - your true Self, or "someone else"?
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These videos are summaries. To opitimize your learning, study the free online lessons in my nonprofit Web site at sfhelp.org.:
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I keep coming back to these videos in my times of need. Thank you to whoever is keeping this channel active. So so so grateful for Dr Gerlach. 🙏
Thank you for your video. It has helped me gain some peace and understanding.
Not sure what's less tolerable, the whistle or authoritarian opinions.
Only social and cultural selection can solve this if people cannot stop it themselves.
Spiritual nonsense, preying on people who need actual help.
I think the whole history and perspective of lying has changed with the arrival of Donald Trump on the American social scene. We have all now witnessed his chronic, incessant, habitual lying at a level most of us could never have imagined.
The person who calls me paranoid is pretty anxious leaning towards,paranoia himself so I just brush it off. Mostly I trust others and listen to my gut. Most people in my life aren't out to get me. I'm ignored 90percent of the time which can be way more hurtful to my mental health.
No second link.
Where are the other links?
I loved this channel are you still around my man?
$40 hotdogs, hamburgers at amusement park Americans have been turned against each other. McDonald $20-$30 Bucks Social media has brainwashed and distorted manipulated reality 😒🎭🃏😒👁️👁️Sexuality emotions and feelings have been Weaponized Gender War and identity crisis gender Tons of children are being neglected or abused not enough staff. 100% Americans have no hope deep down inside believe this Are lost with no leadership 2024Epidemic of mental illness Narcissism is the normal the young people are Depression and mental health crisis 💥 🗽💥🗣️👁️🛸Wish we could rewind time back to the good old days Ton of this people 2024 Massive mad
Jesus can heal all our wounds. If the Son sets you free, you shall be free indeed. (John 8:36).
Jesus is the only way to the Father. If you try to approach Him without Jesus, you will be turned away empty . God is awesomely holy we need a Mediator, Jesus Christ the Righteous One.
Dad is still this way, never taking blame, but shifts it to me. I am not in contact with him for my well-being; I win!
Showing compassion to such people is literally asking to be abused.
The "HuSECA theory" (The Human Superorganism's Evolutionary Chief Administrator): "Female hardwired hypergamy" servs as a cardinal instrument to ensure the greater good of human evolution (thus hardwiring females to propergate with top quality males), i.e. first line of direct evolutionary regulation. Furthermore, attempting the elimination of perceived low quality males from the evolutionary pool, thus boosting the evolutionary momentum, HuSECA has HARDWIRED PERCEIVED "LOW QUALITY" MALES WITH A PROPENSITY FOR SELF DESTRUCTION (suicide) i.e second line of indirect evolutionary regulation. HuSECA uses a sexual starvation strategy, to agrivate the initiation of the potentially deadly male self destruction sequense. (Merely an extract from the HuSECA theory, by Lukas Lukas Lukason).
Thank you so very much for sharing.❤
Your "s" sound makes a whistling sound, FYI
Oftentimes it's dysfunctional family but this isn't seen or properly diagnosed, and so consequently the child is shamed because child, being in dysfunctional environment, doesn't function right and has "problems." Therefore, "problems" don't get resolved and continues into adulthood until finally later in life, find solutions such as this.
I think I had this video on watch later for several years. Yeah...
I understand but they tear us up
People are going to lie from time to time..... but narcissist are crazzzzzy liars
These people lie to God they dont care!
One approach is to build curiosity without giving the (tentative) answer. String them along. If they want it, they'll chase you down themselves.
Interesting that the Louise Hay "list" identifies arthritis as "criticism." People with arthritis will never ask for a solution. Not a real one. Painkillers are doled out furiously to such people, just to avoid any suggestions, because suggestions are criticisms to them. Instead, validate whatever painkiller they are taking. Move on. Arthritis is a value system, a way of life.
What a kind, wonderful, and selfless individual who dedicated his life to helping others. Pete helped me through some dark days with these videos. His lessons and positive influence lives on. RIP <3
Such an incredible gift. Thank you.
some of you say things about liars that many kids do for awhike trying hard to see what you can do to get a friend but fact is i gave kids things i promised or did the things i oromised .. but one day or maybe a few times i was telling someone oh wow i have that ir i can get that but it was hard to fnd it in my stuff so took three four days looking b the time i found it they werent around a few weeks so ... i just put it aside then a month goes by im standing there talking to a kid and someone else from far away says you lier loud .., then all the kids were ordered to chase me and beat me uo .. so i said to my monm the event of i had the item but he doesnt seek it anymore and i showed her the wounds and she knew i always had tge item i bought it many years ago so yea the truth .. to this day its screamed by some family members or others shes a liar ? but fact is can🎉 change others opinions .. and fact is my mom caught these people telling the lies to get me in trouble people dont like do gooders i have sometimes not devolged truths that get others in trouble because i wasnt asked and i dont like to be a tattle tale so for this i am a liar ... just fyi life is ridiculous dont get caught up in this nonsense
Pathological are those who lie with every sentence. It’s an innate behavior that pervades those who deliberately practice deception. I survived childhood neglect at the hands of a family full of narcissist. I didn’t grow up to abuse or lie. Narcissist make a choice. Toxic people make a choice. I didn’t like being mistreated so I made sure I didn’t do it to anyone else. That’s what human being should do.
Still watch you videos. Rip Dr Gerlach
BPD or GWC. a difference without distinction.
Seems to be confrontational communication techniques. 🤔 Most assuredly ineffective for mentally unstable individuals. And possibly destructive techniques. 🤔💔
A fregar video sir. Sorry english isn't muy native lenguage. Are you sitll working and alive?. I find your aproach very interesting, I don't find more elabotated vocabulary to describe It . Thanks for such a gift and effort dear Mr. Gerlach.
So basically what he’s saying just sounds super scientific with fancy words but it’s not.😊
I know I was traumatized
I want my next addiction to be to be cleaning and workout 😂
Wonderful work thank you 🙏
شكرا على المجهودات المبذولة سيدي الكريم .....سمير من الجزائر
Also called relational aggression. Thank you, dear departed Sir.
Yes. Emotional Aggression. Also called Covert (hidden) aggression. Thank you. May your memory live on through these videos.
I have: OCD, ADHD, BPD
My mother in denial and unable to look at her own trauma effects said i have "false memories'. So invalidating.
You are still helping people, thank you for your effort and dedication to your work
A normal reaction to horrific life threatening treatment by others. The mistreatment is abnormal not the innocent and vulnerable one who is now mistreated by labeling them and further blame and shame that innocent one as if they were abnormal and no compassion or help is offered. Therapy is useless waste of time and energy and money, to be targeted and further harmed instead of assistance to stop the abuse , more trauma from others who do not care.
God bless you sir. Thank u
Oh Pete ....you were are so wonderful, insightful or clear! I am happy to have known you a little bit or be able to email you when you were still alive!! Your tone of voice or melody also oozes deep compassion or comprehension of the topic ! I bow to you and forever hold you dear to me !! ....or i always come back to any of your videos ...as they explain every detail !! Such clarity! Thank you Pete ....
Why do we seek? Is there any reason to seek a better future if we're fully comfortable and content with the way our body feels now? When thoughts slow down, you may notice that there is discomfort in the body, which may show up in a myriad of ways: pain, anxiety, anger, or any other sensation or emotion. This is part of the reason that we get addicted to thought- because it’s an immediately available way to avoid or try to fix the way our bodies feel. We won't be able to rest in presence for very long if we keep ignoring or avoiding discomfort. Rather, we'll continue to follow thoughts about past and future. We'll keep trying to escape. So, how do we bring direct attention to the energies of our body? The first step is to acknowledge that you are feeling something. We tend to acknowledge emotions and sensations first through the mind... We might think, "I’m angry," or "I’m afraid of what might happen," or we may simply notice that something is bothering us... But we can't feel emotions or sensations through thinking. These thoughts are narratives or labels for how we feel. They are not the actual energies themselves. For example, if you have the thought "I have a stomachache," that thought is a label for something that is actually happening in your body, apart from the thought. In order to actually feel or experience the stomachache directly, you would have to bring attention down into the stomach area and feel it without thoughts on it. The same is true for all emotions and sensations. Once you acknowledge that you feel something or have been triggered by someone or some event, bring attention very gently to the body where you feel the actual emotion or sensation. With your attention there, feel into the sensation or emotion, and see if you can notice the peripheral space around it at the same time. Let the emotion or sensation just hang there in that open space, without trying to change, neutralize, or get rid of it. It is common to want to change, neutralize, or get rid of bodily energies. Just notice any tendency to want to do these things. This is resistance at work, and trying to stop that resistance from happening is simply adding more resistance. Bear in mind that we give power to words, pictures, and bodily energies by turning awareness away from them. And we diminish their power by turning toward them and remaining aware of them until they fade naturally. That one simple understanding, if turned into a daily practice, is highly transformative.
Why do we seek? Is there any reason to seek a better future if we're fully comfortable and content with the way our body feels now? When thoughts slow down, you may notice that there is discomfort in the body, which may show up in a myriad of ways: pain, anxiety, anger, or any other sensation or emotion. This is part of the reason that we get addicted to thought- because it’s an immediately available way to avoid or try to fix the way our bodies feel. We won't be able to rest in presence for very long if we keep ignoring or avoiding discomfort. Rather, we'll continue to follow thoughts about past and future. We'll keep trying to escape. So, how do we bring direct attention to the energies of our body? The first step is to acknowledge that you are feeling something. We tend to acknowledge emotions and sensations first through the mind... We might think, "I’m angry," or "I’m afraid of what might happen," or we may simply notice that something is bothering us... But we can't feel emotions or sensations through thinking. These thoughts are narratives or labels for how we feel. They are not the actual energies themselves. For example, if you have the thought "I have a stomachache," that thought is a label for something that is actually happening in your body, apart from the thought. In order to actually feel or experience the stomachache directly, you would have to bring attention down into the stomach area and feel it without thoughts on it. The same is true for all emotions and sensations. Once you acknowledge that you feel something or have been triggered by someone or some event, bring attention very gently to the body where you feel the actual emotion or sensation. With your attention there, feel into the sensation or emotion, and see if you can notice the peripheral space around it at the same time. Let the emotion or sensation just hang there in that open space, without trying to change, neutralize, or get rid of it. It is common to want to change, neutralize, or get rid of bodily energies. Just notice any tendency to want to do these things. This is resistance at work, and trying to stop that resistance from happening is simply adding more resistance. Bear in mind that we give power to words, pictures, and bodily energies by turning awareness away from them. And we diminish their power by turning toward them and remaining aware of them until they fade naturally. That one simple understanding, if turned into a daily practice, is highly transformative.
This is nonsense. The world is a mess and beyond hope and we are all going to die soon anyway.