Throughout Amy's life, she has struggled with low self-esteem, confidence, and feelings of not being good enough, and less than. She was stuck in a codependency personality where other people's actions towards her would give her, through her eyes, her self-worth. She put herself in terrible situations and relationships in the process. She at one point was diagnosed with severe depression and was put on antidepressants. In her 30's she started to turn things around. It was the beginning of her healing journey. Part of her healing was working on her mindset, beliefs, self-acceptance, and looking deep into her survival personality (which parts served her and which parts no longer served her). She found her answers from within, accepted all of the good & bad, realizing that even if she didn't fit in, she belonged. Continuing her journey of self-healing and a wish to support others in their journey to heal, she has completed the Life Coaching Certification at the Psychospiritual Institute.
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Thank you for great video!
Sadly I’m still living in these conditions I’m 15
Wow just wow this explains everything I have been through with my husband for the past 20 yrs!! IM NOT CRAZY 😢 Thank you for explaining it so well!!!
❤Your words are very comforting and 😢at the same time. Very good description of my experience 😢 Thank you ❤
We should be able to pick our family or let a family pick me. I had parents but they sure didn't parent. I'm 43 and they still don't parent their alive but havent spoke to them in almost 5 years. And sadly they aren't even grandparents. I wish a real family would adopt me holiday's are reallly rough and sad.
God theres so many victims out here
😢😢😢 I'm a short man (5'3) and have let my body shame me! And also other things about me. I have given up on myself, sad,depressed, ashamed, doing drugs, drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes daily, 😢it sucks to have become a complete nobody!!!
You said it !! Thanks for speaking up!! Love from 🇮🇳🇮🇳
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I have a toxic mother who has belittled me none stop. I hate her guts. She sides with a bully/teacher that my story was predatory because it had curse words. Even though a therapist certified at 15. She tells me that I’m going to be hated at my new sixth form. My mother couldn’t disgust me even more. I don’t care about family values. I would rather be a lone wolf than waste time with trash like that.
But , I don't know why we deal with loneliness, low self estme and feeling invisible later in life and pick Narciccists for frenamies to attack us more. lol .....This explains why ............I didn't know why I kept drawing pictures of a home ..........over and over for 25 years. This video was " Scary " ..spot on like watching a home movie from 1964.
Thank you for the thoughts, yes the noseyness can get to a point where it becomes very irritable , but they need to understand when it goes too far 👍
I live with my mom sister and uncle and grandparentd, my uncle always controls me and controls how i look and appear and act.
Ding Ding Ding. We have a winner: Passive/Covert - manipulation (check), guilt tripping (check), playing the victim (check) invalidating emotions (check), they are always right and child is always wrong (check) lack empathy (check).
And it would, in my opinion, proabably explains a lot why narcs blab on so much insisting publicly in their delusion, particularly narcs who are extroverted because to my understanding normal non NPD individuals as introverts who do have higher percentage of grey matter in the brain are slower to respond verbally, to formulate a response?
My dad love this by comparing kids " he is his mama boy"
I just started watching your videos. They are exactly what I was looking for. I wish you would make more videos like this.
How do I handle the situation if my mother keeps accusing me of always supporting my father, no matter what I say, if an idea is similar to what he suggests she always gets really bitter and says I never support her.... I don't know what I should do.
My parents wants to know everything…always calling and even threatening not to give me certain things,like a license and I realise that I don’t have the confidence that I use to have, I can’t make a decision on my own,in my family there is no room for mistakes
I get this constantly from my mother. She knows I'm struggling and have taken a different road that will eventually lead to success but she constantly puts me down and compares me to people who took the safer option.
My father all my childhood haunted me for mistakes. I could not sit in a way he did not like, and he always presented his thoughts in a very controlling manner manipulating reality. I was forced to believe everything my parents said. Fast forward today my mom has become someone i cant talk to either because she starts to play a victim card. Im 21 and i grew up with constant anxiety which has changed my lifestyle. It did something to me. Im scared of little things going wrong and someone instantly invalidating everything. It hurts
My abroad warking Father is like this😢😢... Treat me like I have no soul or i am just a slave/robot who just have to live on only his words I have to face it where i was already suffering from mental health problems like Burnout Since 6 months.. Even he took away half of my Comport jone🫤 I would have unalive myself already if i wasn’t a Muslim,i think🎉
He also still has this sneer post 13 years of our divorce when he sees me and our kids are around , plus give me the silent treatment on communication I have to send him - he’s a total child .
My ex narc husband knew very well I was scared of shouting due to previous domestic abuse . So in me asking him to help with housework , he would scream at me to stop me asking ; our neighbours heard him even though a detached house . He now uses his moods to scare our kids into submission, all walking on eggshells . He also loves to put people down emotionally , and fat shame people . He’s a disgusting specimen of a man .
Thank you Amy!!
This is my alcoholic daughter's behavior. My son is supporting her & her four kids. I moved in two months ago after caring for my parents who went into assisted living. She had a rage after my 10 yr old disrespected me, so I took her phone & it was on...her cussing & telling my gc lies that I'm crazy. Nothing but lies.
Love your video ❤
Years ago I got a call from my father telling me our Christmas dinner was being moved up to the 23rd of December due my sisters visiting their husband and fiance's family in Milwaukee. I asked what time do you want Renee to be there.....he clears his throat and say I cannot bring my girlfriend because we were not engaged or married. Even though we never went to that dinner. We broke up in February. I don't blame Renee one bit
Thank you for this video! For a long time, I felt some feelings of belonging and that someone understands me. I recognized myself in so many things. I'm 23 years old and I've never really had a single close person to whom I would have dared to open my feelings and tell who I really am and what I feel. It feels so good to come home and close the door and be alone. It has led me to choose a spiritual path. I didn't know about the term "Lone Wolf". I have always considered the wolf my favorite animal ☺️. I can't say what the idea behind my post was, but the things you brought up really hit home for me and made me feel heard.
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Wow you nailed it. It rings true and describes me in a nutshell.
This resonates.
Some of my family members throw a tantrum when they don't get attention.
How about when they get mad at you because you’re trying to stay calm while they’re having a tantrum. They say you’re crazy because you’re not elevated like they are. It’s wild.
I was studying in college for due dates my over bearing mother tries to force me to visit people who she thinks they are gods and forbid me to do well in life because Indians are designed to be lazy and failures and when i study on my assignments she throws a tantrum and sings mukkity pukity pookity And reason why i fail because of her and her Indian society of discouraging people who believe in hate
Excelent explanation of my character, i come from a divorced family and narcisist older brothers.
I already gave up for getting my mother's love. It's burdening for me. I'd rather not to get love from her. That's okay. She can't love me.
The Exorcist. The movie. 1972. I guarantee you, people who are possessed by The Devil are Narcissists. I believe they are one and the same.
And, Why did I Not Know About This Until I Actually Saw It? I heard the word "Rage" but that diminishes the SERIOUSNESS AND SEVERITY OF THIS! There is No Way to describe how disordered these people are.
You Will Never Unsee and Unhear it! You are Lucky if all you get is RAGE. What I got was LEGAL INSANITY. THEY WANT YOU TO SUFFER AND FEEL GUILTY FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR, BECAUSE IT IS "YOUR FAULT."
its hard not to laugh at these immature adult children when even though the hatred in their eyes is scary at the same time.... dont let them steal your peace
demonically possessed....
This is DEEP! Thank you!
I’m 40 with a curfew. I live at home because I’m not married. That’s our culture
I am South Asian I totally understand the culture is the same. But you should ignore the culture and move out if you live in America. Immigrant cultures love to control and oppress women
Escape while you can, even if it’s getting your own place and leave those narcissistic egotistical freaks
Sadly, unfortunately, parents doesn't always do their job properly
It explains why I don't have need for connection,but it's good cractar I love with myself the more I study a human the more I enjoy being lone wolf
thank you for this😢
Then.., You wonder why these people dates toxic people when they grow up, cause they don't know what love is all about, they think that love is being controlled . How can we love ourselves if we are subjected to such toxic family dynamics & environment is damaging to us. So , do yourself a huge favour, & Get out of that toxic environment & stay out, for the sake of your own sanity & wellbeing.
Parents Who behave like that ends up like behaving like bullies. Parents Who behave like that, who needs enemies!?
Parents Who let's your sibling (s) have a social life with friends, but not you, expecially if you have special needs. Your homes are NOT homes They're prisons, & your family members are NOT family members , they're jailors. Get yourselves out of there ASAP. You don't belong there, you need a life too. So go & get it, & have a happy full fulling life, Safety, & happiness, with loving supportive people. Some parents doesn't do their job properly or not at all.