She tried to pull one over on you so its her fault. If she tried to openly talk to you first, then you 2 could have come to an agreement
@lelajones6591Ай бұрын
NTA i get it i work long shifts in the medical field you need to decompress after work and she needs to ket you have it wether she understands it or not it is a need when your job is physically and emotionally draining...
@larissagomes451Ай бұрын
Congrats, you just ruined your relationship with your daughter over a bullshit reason 😂😂😂
@amydavies8746Ай бұрын
Maybe Mil should have been nicer and maybe if she had been, she would have been more than welcome to stay at op home.
@user-ld6br5sn2h2 ай бұрын
NTA, your husband is a whiny controlling B, you already had that discussion about getting it. You just followed through with it, I don't think he realized you were serious, and now he just feels salty about it.
@nancyriggs81702 ай бұрын
17yrs later, and all it took was your dad to see dressed up to realize what he has been missing? Wow, dads a bit slow, huh.. You didnt do or say anything wrong; you should never have to play the house mouse for your divorced parents..
@Emmanuel-ws3qo2 ай бұрын
ass choice in women
@lillianbartlesby67502 ай бұрын
I really would like to know wtf he expected.
@erickaennis27382 ай бұрын
What does the wife do again? This guy has a full time job dealing with death and suffering all day. Then he has to come home, cook, clean, help with homework and watch the kids while she what? Shes a Sahm. Dinner should be ready when he gets home. Kid's homework should be started by the time he gets home. Oh and he's got to make breakfast for the kids and take them to school. And I say this as a woman. What the hell does she do all day? The man just needs 30 minutes of silent meditation after work. I mean damn. He can do bad all by himself. She seems lazy, entitled, and toxic AF.
@GrimmyRu132 ай бұрын
YTA. She can just continue her education in a SUNY right after. You’re a fool
@rexterboy52322 ай бұрын
Now everyone in this story is a shitty person she laughed at a dead baby and the cousin said she was being harassed
@smexy652 ай бұрын
No not the ahole
@storyteller55572 ай бұрын
I dont think so investing in a childs higher education is a very serious investment, the op made a serious plan for all his kids and communicated it from the start. I don't understand why people are always rooting for consequence less decision making. If you have been given an option and dont accept the terms associated with it you simply cant have it. Just as shes free to choose what she does in life the dad is also free to pick and choose what aspects he feels comfortable investing in. Its very entitled to expect your parents to roll over once you are an adult. Hes already fulfilled his responsibility to raise you and as an added bonus wanted to pay for regular University. Its fine if you dont want that but holding it against him is not justified in my books. You cant always get your cake and eat it too. The way op communicated might be harsh but just on a standing point of view, he didn't do anything wrong.
@grey-spark2 ай бұрын
I know the dad's a jerk but man did the daughter blow it. I'd kill to have a dad pay for my college.
@Skylar_candova2 ай бұрын
You're both TA. You refused to accept that she wanted to go to a different college of her choice and she was sneaky in turn.
@Magicnun2 ай бұрын
Nta, a bit of jerk sure, but it seemed like he it made to clear the college funds were not for a community college.
@jamesbouchard36613 ай бұрын
Yup YTA
@Badangel622923 ай бұрын
YTA. She picked the school she wanted to go to and reconciled with the fact that you wouldn’t support financially. Her solution to you not paying is financial aid which you still would not help her secure. Regardless, you can’t force your kids to go to the school you want and it would have cost you nothing to fill out the forms she needed.
@killerfrost72993 ай бұрын
Nta she knew the whole time and kept playing around she proabbaly just wanted any spare money left over
@idminister2 ай бұрын
No he is TA, not because of not providing money. Which she did not ask for. But for refusing to provide the paperwork so she could receive financial aid, the paperwork that proves he wont be financially supporting her education and that her application for financial aid is not a scam from a well off family to game the system.
@ragon392 ай бұрын
What… it’s college money set aside for her… so it should be for her to spend on college in anyway she sees fit. Also, depending on the state, you can start your degree with community college then transfer those credits over to a state college. This gives you the degree from a state college at a lesser cost. So not only is he an AH. He’s a moron as well.
@skylarcummings55543 ай бұрын
No it was a failure to communicate. You're not wrong for not wanting to spend that much money. But at the same time he made them a specifically for you so it's a little gray. And then he didn't bother to give you a price despite knowing that you wanted to purchase them from him. If you both sat down and talked about what she would like out of the pottery cuz you didn't have to make you like a bunch of balls and plates he could have just made you a vase or something. But he chose to make a personalized set of bowls and plates. And I don't like a vase or been a lot less than a full set
@dantesantini61683 ай бұрын
This is why people should know its okay to say no and challenge parents about *certain* things
@littlegrrmaid3 ай бұрын
Nta
@mistermessenger51803 ай бұрын
No, they're at your house. It's fucking clothes. Yes you may be a minor, but you still have as much of a right as anyone else to where whatever clothes you like. And it's a crop top, it's not like the outfit was something that would be sold at an adult store.
@JohnathenTerreros3 ай бұрын
Hell nah
@razemander3 ай бұрын
Sounds like a femboy in the making, you go kid
@BLACKBOXWARRIOR.3 ай бұрын
NTA. Wear whatever the hell you want, Wasn't like it was an actual formal event or anything so he can wear what he wants in his own house.
@tristonWhite-mv9yd3 ай бұрын
Damn imagine if the genders were reversed i know yall wouldn't be criticizing
@iamsomeOwOne3 ай бұрын
No if you're asked to change clothes because its inappropriate then maybe don't have those people over :/ kinda pervy way to think NTA
@cullenbunnell78233 ай бұрын
Socially, no. Personally, yes. If random people have an issue with it then thats their problem, but if yoy go to someone elses house and refuse then yes
@estherbenitez39893 ай бұрын
It’s his own house and they have visitors. Also how would you change in someone else’s house if you don’t have other clothes?
@bluelemonade4153 ай бұрын
in terms of social etiquette, yes. Though I’d be fine with it so personally nah
@nunyuh1113 ай бұрын
I love pottery. My family is big into it also. Thats a boat load of money and I would never. I think social media hyping everything up has made a lot of what would be considered cheap no longer cheap. Nta.
@snowfall16163 ай бұрын
Of course you should have changed the clothes or at least added a sweatshirt above the crop top.
@notthatguy.9373 ай бұрын
Why? He showed up in a crop top. Are his shoulders and belly so unbelievably sexy it would be distracting?
@snowfall16163 ай бұрын
@@notthatguy.937 no not for that reason but because most people still feel uncomfortable about men's wearing crop top or makeup. It's not wrong to wear it but still more than compliments he is going to receive a negative response from others.
@notthatguy.9373 ай бұрын
@@snowfall1616 Yeah and that's their personal issue. People also felt uncomfortable having to share a water fountain with "colored people".
@HawwaYousaf-xw3yn3 ай бұрын
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@kawaiiBakaChin3 ай бұрын
nta
@jacquelinewright8683 ай бұрын
Sexism 🎉
@MistressOP3 ай бұрын
YTA - this guy is an idiot. If it's a legit community college the highest sucess rate for completely college is community transfers after compling the reg courses at community. she is actually SAVING YOU MONEY STUPID. also he should let her pocket 1/2 of the savings. free and clear.
@andielinke85233 ай бұрын
a wife is not a cleaning lady stop being cheap and higher One Mr deep pockets Big shot
@user-zo1qk5jg7z3 ай бұрын
I agree like he has no right to say that since he works she has to do everything around the house because taking care of a house can be just as terrible as working and it’s not like she’s asking him to do everything just a couple things here and there
@niXtalker-ns3 ай бұрын
NTA. If they both agreed to let her do the housework and let him bring the money then she can't just stop doing it. No one is saying she can't write a book, but if she doesn't make money yet then she can't just ignore her work, unless they both agree.
@autumnmarie16843 ай бұрын
Bro hand made pottery plates and bowls are fucking expensive!! If my friend made me 6 plates and 6 bowls for only 450 I would be happy!
@daydreamerjim66033 ай бұрын
It's definitely a steal but also if OP can't afford it he shouldn't be forced to buy it 🤣
@gwendalynnwatkins12963 ай бұрын
Yeah, but OP also didn't ask for 6 bowls and plates
@ladylily3 ай бұрын
@@gwendalynnwatkins1296 He asked for a set. It's a specific number, so yes, they discussed how many. He was aware of what he would be getting.
@willzhao58893 ай бұрын
Lmfaoo the AI sounds like its about to cry in the beginning 😭💀
@andrewmcminn21513 ай бұрын
No it’s basically like letting a friend live with you for a while and your gf has no say in the matter
@andrewmcminn21513 ай бұрын
Yes
@khtdreamer5233 ай бұрын
why?
@evelynlovesjuno98803 ай бұрын
It was a joke The parents asked him to change he should listen to them Also, they had people over
@Paper_Jam2003 ай бұрын
No
@thekingkoopabowser3 ай бұрын
@@evelynlovesjuno9880 why should he listen? It's not even inappropriate
@notthatguy.9373 ай бұрын
@@evelynlovesjuno9880sooo? He didn't show up and bondage, his sexist parents just didn't like that he was wearing feminine clothing. He's his own person and can do what he wants. What does it matter that they had people over?
@andrewmcminn21513 ай бұрын
You can’t look “hot” in girls clothes if your a boy and if you wear girls clothes your gay
@Bigbaymonstermare3 ай бұрын
He’s the asshole. Regardless of the reason, she’s in school and trying to learn to better herself. She has supported him by keeping the home and doing everything for years. My husband works full time. I do not work. But I have a chronic pain condition that lands me in bed most of the time, and I have to admit he does the bulk of the chores. But weeks I feel good, I go to the grocery store, I FILL our primary and secondary full freezer with batch meals. I cook and cook. I take on organising projects and do the deep clean of the bathroom and chores he doesn’t get around. I help in other ways, I take the recycling out and sort it and do as much as I can when I can. A marriage is team work and sometimes you have to pick up the slack for whatever reason.
@UBMadaraKN3 ай бұрын
I'm ngl this is not normal unless yall old ash and been together. A relationship is something that is equal, your two people, not one person going to work giving up all your free time to then come up and give up the rest of it so your partner can lounge around all day 😂
@CursedSFMS3 ай бұрын
The ai voice sounds more ai today
@CloutmasterPhluphyy3 ай бұрын
Pick a struggle lady 😭 mil actively made sure op wasn't welcome to the family, but when op leaves, she's still mad 💀 that's crazy
@masonpallanes72583 ай бұрын
Not the asshole.
@user-tf2io3nz9l3 ай бұрын
100% TA, if it were her son she wouldn't do that shit
@margaretcastkeberry26493 ай бұрын
Your NTA they are
@GlerpidyGlarson3 ай бұрын
It's true that it is just a hobby but the second they do make money and they make stupid money you're going to be the bitch in the relationship at that point
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She tried to pull one over on you so its her fault. If she tried to openly talk to you first, then you 2 could have come to an agreement
NTA i get it i work long shifts in the medical field you need to decompress after work and she needs to ket you have it wether she understands it or not it is a need when your job is physically and emotionally draining...
Congrats, you just ruined your relationship with your daughter over a bullshit reason 😂😂😂
Maybe Mil should have been nicer and maybe if she had been, she would have been more than welcome to stay at op home.
NTA, your husband is a whiny controlling B, you already had that discussion about getting it. You just followed through with it, I don't think he realized you were serious, and now he just feels salty about it.
17yrs later, and all it took was your dad to see dressed up to realize what he has been missing? Wow, dads a bit slow, huh.. You didnt do or say anything wrong; you should never have to play the house mouse for your divorced parents..
ass choice in women
I really would like to know wtf he expected.
What does the wife do again? This guy has a full time job dealing with death and suffering all day. Then he has to come home, cook, clean, help with homework and watch the kids while she what? Shes a Sahm. Dinner should be ready when he gets home. Kid's homework should be started by the time he gets home. Oh and he's got to make breakfast for the kids and take them to school. And I say this as a woman. What the hell does she do all day? The man just needs 30 minutes of silent meditation after work. I mean damn. He can do bad all by himself. She seems lazy, entitled, and toxic AF.
YTA. She can just continue her education in a SUNY right after. You’re a fool
Now everyone in this story is a shitty person she laughed at a dead baby and the cousin said she was being harassed
No not the ahole
I dont think so investing in a childs higher education is a very serious investment, the op made a serious plan for all his kids and communicated it from the start. I don't understand why people are always rooting for consequence less decision making. If you have been given an option and dont accept the terms associated with it you simply cant have it. Just as shes free to choose what she does in life the dad is also free to pick and choose what aspects he feels comfortable investing in. Its very entitled to expect your parents to roll over once you are an adult. Hes already fulfilled his responsibility to raise you and as an added bonus wanted to pay for regular University. Its fine if you dont want that but holding it against him is not justified in my books. You cant always get your cake and eat it too. The way op communicated might be harsh but just on a standing point of view, he didn't do anything wrong.
I know the dad's a jerk but man did the daughter blow it. I'd kill to have a dad pay for my college.
You're both TA. You refused to accept that she wanted to go to a different college of her choice and she was sneaky in turn.
Nta, a bit of jerk sure, but it seemed like he it made to clear the college funds were not for a community college.
Yup YTA
YTA. She picked the school she wanted to go to and reconciled with the fact that you wouldn’t support financially. Her solution to you not paying is financial aid which you still would not help her secure. Regardless, you can’t force your kids to go to the school you want and it would have cost you nothing to fill out the forms she needed.
Nta she knew the whole time and kept playing around she proabbaly just wanted any spare money left over
No he is TA, not because of not providing money. Which she did not ask for. But for refusing to provide the paperwork so she could receive financial aid, the paperwork that proves he wont be financially supporting her education and that her application for financial aid is not a scam from a well off family to game the system.
What… it’s college money set aside for her… so it should be for her to spend on college in anyway she sees fit. Also, depending on the state, you can start your degree with community college then transfer those credits over to a state college. This gives you the degree from a state college at a lesser cost. So not only is he an AH. He’s a moron as well.
No it was a failure to communicate. You're not wrong for not wanting to spend that much money. But at the same time he made them a specifically for you so it's a little gray. And then he didn't bother to give you a price despite knowing that you wanted to purchase them from him. If you both sat down and talked about what she would like out of the pottery cuz you didn't have to make you like a bunch of balls and plates he could have just made you a vase or something. But he chose to make a personalized set of bowls and plates. And I don't like a vase or been a lot less than a full set
This is why people should know its okay to say no and challenge parents about *certain* things
Nta
No, they're at your house. It's fucking clothes. Yes you may be a minor, but you still have as much of a right as anyone else to where whatever clothes you like. And it's a crop top, it's not like the outfit was something that would be sold at an adult store.
Hell nah
Sounds like a femboy in the making, you go kid
NTA. Wear whatever the hell you want, Wasn't like it was an actual formal event or anything so he can wear what he wants in his own house.
Damn imagine if the genders were reversed i know yall wouldn't be criticizing
No if you're asked to change clothes because its inappropriate then maybe don't have those people over :/ kinda pervy way to think NTA
Socially, no. Personally, yes. If random people have an issue with it then thats their problem, but if yoy go to someone elses house and refuse then yes
It’s his own house and they have visitors. Also how would you change in someone else’s house if you don’t have other clothes?
in terms of social etiquette, yes. Though I’d be fine with it so personally nah
I love pottery. My family is big into it also. Thats a boat load of money and I would never. I think social media hyping everything up has made a lot of what would be considered cheap no longer cheap. Nta.
Of course you should have changed the clothes or at least added a sweatshirt above the crop top.
Why? He showed up in a crop top. Are his shoulders and belly so unbelievably sexy it would be distracting?
@@notthatguy.937 no not for that reason but because most people still feel uncomfortable about men's wearing crop top or makeup. It's not wrong to wear it but still more than compliments he is going to receive a negative response from others.
@@snowfall1616 Yeah and that's their personal issue. People also felt uncomfortable having to share a water fountain with "colored people".
💀💀
nta
Sexism 🎉
YTA - this guy is an idiot. If it's a legit community college the highest sucess rate for completely college is community transfers after compling the reg courses at community. she is actually SAVING YOU MONEY STUPID. also he should let her pocket 1/2 of the savings. free and clear.
a wife is not a cleaning lady stop being cheap and higher One Mr deep pockets Big shot
I agree like he has no right to say that since he works she has to do everything around the house because taking care of a house can be just as terrible as working and it’s not like she’s asking him to do everything just a couple things here and there
NTA. If they both agreed to let her do the housework and let him bring the money then she can't just stop doing it. No one is saying she can't write a book, but if she doesn't make money yet then she can't just ignore her work, unless they both agree.
Bro hand made pottery plates and bowls are fucking expensive!! If my friend made me 6 plates and 6 bowls for only 450 I would be happy!
It's definitely a steal but also if OP can't afford it he shouldn't be forced to buy it 🤣
Yeah, but OP also didn't ask for 6 bowls and plates
@@gwendalynnwatkins1296 He asked for a set. It's a specific number, so yes, they discussed how many. He was aware of what he would be getting.
Lmfaoo the AI sounds like its about to cry in the beginning 😭💀
No it’s basically like letting a friend live with you for a while and your gf has no say in the matter
Yes
why?
It was a joke The parents asked him to change he should listen to them Also, they had people over
No
@@evelynlovesjuno9880 why should he listen? It's not even inappropriate
@@evelynlovesjuno9880sooo? He didn't show up and bondage, his sexist parents just didn't like that he was wearing feminine clothing. He's his own person and can do what he wants. What does it matter that they had people over?
You can’t look “hot” in girls clothes if your a boy and if you wear girls clothes your gay
He’s the asshole. Regardless of the reason, she’s in school and trying to learn to better herself. She has supported him by keeping the home and doing everything for years. My husband works full time. I do not work. But I have a chronic pain condition that lands me in bed most of the time, and I have to admit he does the bulk of the chores. But weeks I feel good, I go to the grocery store, I FILL our primary and secondary full freezer with batch meals. I cook and cook. I take on organising projects and do the deep clean of the bathroom and chores he doesn’t get around. I help in other ways, I take the recycling out and sort it and do as much as I can when I can. A marriage is team work and sometimes you have to pick up the slack for whatever reason.
I'm ngl this is not normal unless yall old ash and been together. A relationship is something that is equal, your two people, not one person going to work giving up all your free time to then come up and give up the rest of it so your partner can lounge around all day 😂
The ai voice sounds more ai today
Pick a struggle lady 😭 mil actively made sure op wasn't welcome to the family, but when op leaves, she's still mad 💀 that's crazy
Not the asshole.
100% TA, if it were her son she wouldn't do that shit
Your NTA they are
It's true that it is just a hobby but the second they do make money and they make stupid money you're going to be the bitch in the relationship at that point