It's Miss Rini
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Wonderful video❤
Thank you 🤗
Seriously? This changed your life? Helpful, yes. People all over the world make preparations at the end of life. The Swedish decided to call it “death cleaning”, so very in your face. So Swedish. Tired of this phrase being used for everything from shampoo to how to crack an egg. But it works, I clicked here to comment on the clickbait.
Yes, it really did.😊Thanks for watching.🙏
Too many antiwhites in it, otherwise it would have been good. Why all the antiwhitism?😞
I don't know what that is, but thanks for watching.🙏
❤immensely cute😅
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This is helpful in so many ways for all ages. Thank you for posting this on KZread.
You're very welcome!😊
Yes, it’s a huge practical and emotional process!!😮 We had 3 processes like that with in one and a half years! My grand parents died, my husbands father died, and my parents moved from our childhood home. It was a way too big job, every time!
And I think you only realise when you have to deal with it, right? Thanks for watching.🙏😊
Lots of rational well voiced replies - beautifully voiced succinctly by the diverse Miss Rini. Did I expect anything else - absolutely not. Thank you for bringing comprehension to our world.
Thanks Penny! I'm so glad you enjoyed it.😊Thank you for watching.🙏
You are so cute and sweet! 🥰 This was very informative. My son was diagnosed on the spectrum when he was 16 (about 8 years ago)- it took years to finally get that clear diagnosis since he also had a seizure condition that he thankfully "grew out of" when he hit puberty. It was actually a relief when we learned he was mildly autistic. By that time, after he went through puberty he was like a completely different kid! Before he was very agitated, he did horribly all throughout his school years, communication was really tough. But in the last couple years of high school, it was almost like a switch flipped, he was learning, he found topics of interest that intrigued him, teachers were stopping me in the halls and telling me he's a totally different student now! and WOW can he tell you a thing or two about any time point in history on just about any country in the world! LOL! His older brother (who is very close and protective of him) coined a phrase that he is "autistically smart" - not meant to make fun of him but just to keep things light. It works. My son is doing well in life. It's been hard for me to let him stretch his wings, because I've always had to be the protector, but he has a job, got his drivers license last year, bought his own car and he will be starting a new job in construction this summer. It's been quite a journey so far! I'm VERY proud of him! 💖 It's really nice to hear you talk about your experiences too! Thank you for this video!
What a wonderful story! I'm so happy to hear about your son. Thank you for sharing and thanks for watching!🙏
I love your magnetic personality and the love and kindness with which you tackled the subject of... well... essentially burdening the kids with the trash accumulated. Really really worthwhile video!
Wow, thank you!🙏😊
Great video on the topic of Swedish Death Cleaning. Thank you. I was also glad to see the book "Goodbye, Things" in your book recommendations. I've been on a minimizing journey for about five years now, and have read many books on the subject, but that book in particular is my favorite and the one I found most inspiring. Take care.
You're welcome. Best of luck on your journey and thanks for watching 🙏
I try to declutter ongoing, have said, this is my gift to my son when I'm gone. It's not fair to them, they have families, working, etc.
It's an expression of love isn't it?❤️ Thanks for watching 🙏
Been doing this & giving things that I love to people that I thought would enjoy them as much as me instead of leaving them in a will.
Love this! Then you actually get to see them enjoy it 😊
Thank you, Miss Rini. This video was very helpful and motivating for me. Thank you for sharing.
My pleasure 😊
Thank you for the insight. At 53 I have 2 m3 of all belongings, not considering the bed, fridge and washing machine. Quite extreme.
Just asking, is there something here about this focus meaning you are not really living your life though? That you have one foot in the grave? Just wondering
Hi! No that's not my thinking here. I don't think that considering your inevitable demise is morbid, it's just practicality. I love my life and appreciate every day I have, I don't focus on death but I know there will be an end eventually and I don't think it's inappropriate to prepare for it early. Everyone has a different perspective on death though, so it's just one woman's point of view 😁😊. Thanks for watching!🙏
@@ItsMissRini thank you for replying 😎
I've had occasion where two beloved people have passed and although I suggested their doing just what Miss Rini talks about they did not. Sorry to say that I did not have the time, strength nor emotional fortitude to go through each and every thing they possessed. Must was given away that may have meant something to relatives but I had no clue; much was thrown away that may have been valuable but again I did not know. My take away from such experiences was to never, ever let my partner or kids have to go through that. I am not quite where this video is, but I am doing much to downsize and feel the freedom of a more simple life and the knowledge that relatives will not be burdened like I was.
Thank you for sharing! Good luck on your downsizing journey xx
I think what you said about easing the burden on your loved ones is a measure of your love for those who will personally have to deal with your decline and death. Thank you for expressing the reality with gentle honesty.
Yes, I agree: it is an expression of love. Thank you for watching!
Yummy, you need some Greek yoghurt with it
Oooh! That sounds delicious 😋
Looks like he rules the roost!
He does. We are his servants.💕
Sweetie
Great presentation on this subject. Thank you.
You're welcome! Thanks for watching 😘
We need to do this, our small house is stuffed with mostly unnecessary things. My partner won't let go of anything, though. He even goes through the bin when my back's turned and "rescues" most of what I've thrown. Ugh.
Oh I know this feeling! It can be so difficult when you're partner is not on board.
My parents downsized and gave various items to my daughter. My mum was delighted to visit her for a meal and sit at her old table covered with her old tablecloth.
That's so lovely!💕
How do you get time off like that?
I own a business that allows some flexibility 😊
I just found your channel and this is the best video I’ve seen on decluttering and Swedish death cleaning. Some of us get the impression that we don’t have much time left and we want to ease the burden on our loved ones. 😊
Thank you Miss Rini - I'm 62, small house, Autistic too, the kids left home years ago - and I had started to 'declutter' our home about 6 months ago. Hubby is just now getting on board with it and is going through all the accumulated stuff in his workshop. It's so good to get a sort of 'validation' for going through this process.
Would it be wrong to buy the book for my mother in law? She’s such a hoarder literally picking up junk other people put outside for collections. She’s 84 and I can’t understand what she thinks she’s saving it all for.
Prova prima a parlarne con lei, noterai subito l'interesse. Mia suocera stessa età non capirebbe mai, mia mamma poco più giovane pensa di fare tutto giusto e continua ad accumulare. Tempo e parole perse al vento. La pulizia la faccio io per i miei figli.
I've heard of Swedish death cleaning, probably about 10 years ago when this book came out. But I've never had the urge to do that kind of cleaning. My parents died in 2021 and I'm still sorting through their stuff. I think I have a very different mentality from the Swedes. I can't usually find unnecessary things in the house. All things are necessary for me. So I don't understand how you can throw away 90 per cent of things. But 10% of the old worn out stuff I want to throw away during the regular spring cleaning.
I started this about 8 months ago. A little here, a little there, to not be overwhelmed. What a joy it is to know I’m decluttering, making more “clean space” for our family to live in. Most importantly, not leaving all these “decisions of what to do with that item and that item” for our children, if something should happen to my husband and I.
Despite never having heard of Swedish death cleaning my mother has lived this way for the last 40 years. Yes it can make life simpler, but you need to be careful not to fall in the traps- you said it became a compulsion once you got to a certain stage, this is how it is with my mother-she is 86 years old but has nothing in her flat much over 2 years old. When I give her something or make her a garment, even if it is very useful it is a good bet by the time I go back to see her it has landed up in the charity shop. She finished up with many of my possessions when I went to university because she emigrated while I was away. When she came back from abroad she sent my stuff to the charity shop, because throwing things away or giving them away makes her feel good- not because they weren't useful or because I didn't want them back, she had already done this with most of her own possessions, so to get the buzz my stuff had to go. Often it is the act of getting rid of thigs that feels good-not the state they leave behind-so caution is indicated, because that is no more psychologically healthy than the clutter.
There is something else going on. If your mother threw out all of your stuff without warning you that is not a compulsion - it’s actually a form of theft. Why are you spending time making your mother clothing when you know that she doesn’t want it? You’re an adult, you can be reasonable. I don’t know, but this doesn’t sound like compulsive Swedish death cleaning, it just sounds like you and your mom aren’t behaving reasonably. Finally, there is nothing wrong with having nothing under 2 years old in your home, no matter your age. You sound judgmental, even though it’s possible that your mother has some sort of mental health issue. Instead of trying to get your mother some professional help, here you are complaining about her.
Super video, but being a highly sensitive person, please can we not have the background music. I know it is very faint, but it just being there is so unnecessary, and it makes it hard for me - and others I would think - to concentrate on what you are saying. Thank you for all the tips, and for the video though. xxx
Great ideas. Thanks so much!
You're most welcome! Thanks for watching🙏
I have been on a similar journey in California and concur with all the benefits you mention❤it’s a very freeing process and I keep finding things to declutter.
Thank you for this video. Very helpful❤️
I’ve been declutterring in stages for around 10 years. Each time, I get better at letting go of things. I do still bring some things into our house that I do enjoy, but I try to be selective. It is so much easier to clean and keep things organized. It may sound like a lot of time that I have been at it, but I can’t bring myself to be an extreme minimalist., but I keep working towards that. I have come a long ways from my original “I might better keep this just in case I need it some day”. I am pretty much in the maintenance stage now. Literally pretty much every week I try to gather one or two items I can live without and put them in the trash can or a donate box. When it is sufficiently full, it goes out the door to the thrift store. I will be 72 Sunday (May 19), but I’m still a work in progress.
Your video was great. Thank you. Several people in my family show autistic traits of various kinds and I have been watching KZread vidros on tne subject to gain a better understanding. Orion Kelly's channel called That Autistic Guy is a good one too.
Thanks for your lovely video! I’m 53 and self diagnosed. It’s really nice to see someone close to my age sharing about autism.
The reality is we leave everything behind when we die
Beautifully said! I have spent countless hours, weeks and weeks, dealing with my mother’s possessions. It was incredible and very hard. I’m motivated not to do this to my family. It’s a great gift. By contrast, my mother in law had her home ready and all important documents were prepared and took the stress and guess work out of her estate and made the grieving process easier. That’s how I want to go.
Agree with you about language. I’m also an autistic person ❤
I'm interested in what you say here, Ive started doing flylady regime for my cleaning. A lot is decluttering. My daughter is autistic and I was explaining to her that I think it would be good for her. I feel less overwhelmed, calmer, free, enjoy my surroundings. I'm not autistic and I said I was sure she would benefit from less stuff. I do 15 minutes of decluttering a day focusing on one room a week, then rotate around
It really does help with feeling calmer. I find I'm more relaxed in my home. Good luck on your journey and thanks for watching 🙏
I was watching videos on organizing and I was actually browsing Amazon for containers and organizers etc, when it dawned on me that I was reshuffling the stuff that I hadn't worn or even remembered that I had. Once I started declutterring, I was left with a mountain of organizers, plastic totes, containers etc. I've got so much room in my house it's amazing!
Me too! I had so many empty plastic storage containers. It's amazing how you spend time and money on organising when you could just reduce the stuff you're organising.🤷♀️ Thanks so much for watching.🙏
WOW! I have been aware of this type of thinking, but I have not adopted it into my life. I am at this point now!! Thank you for your encouragement and inspiration. 😊
You are so welcome!
What a beautiful looking woman you are, gloriously clear skin and I love the colour of your hair! Listening to you I already started looking round my lounge mentally and thinking right that can go and that…! Thank you for such wise and sensible words, bless you 🥰
Oh thank you very much!🙏 What a lovely thing to say.😊 I'm so glad this resonated with you. Good luck on your journey and thanks for watching!😘
I should probably Swedish death clean my Swedish death metal. Everyone needs "left hand path", but does everyone really need "clandestine"?
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Fent shui is 27 items to be gifted, donated or sold in 7 days. 27 pieces of paper is a start. Put them in piles and give the kids one week to decide if they want it. If not, it’s donated or gifted.
Just make sure you don’t gift the items to the kids who didn’t want them.
I have some things my mom had saved. They are now valuable or just treasure to me or other family members now 40 years later. But I need to do this now and sell the things I can and put it into paying off credit cards.
Did you say Autistic or Artistic?I'm American so sometimes Australian accents are more difficult to understand.I'm beginning this process now that my nest is empty.Its very difficult but I'm sick of all the excess things I have accumulated.
I'm Autistic😊. Being an empty-nester is a great time to start this. Best of luck on your journey and thanks for watching!🙏
Very inspiring talk and I liked the video. New subscriber here
Thanks and welcome🙏
🌈💗💗🌈 Your video helped me. My problem is I’m stuck because of a cancer journey. My energy levels are low but I’m trying to continually throw out the “stuff” that has crept into my life by stealth. I too have a hang up of low income, a childhood message from the Great Depression of never wasting anything ....so disposing of “good” “valuable” stuff is soo hard for me...like a $200 pair of shoes that hurt when I wear them but are perfect for my lifestyle...My father’s voice is still in my 74 y.old ear...”hard times will come again”. Don’t be wasteful.. I have so many emotional hooks to my stuff. I volunteered at an op shop and the only way I could cope was to buy an object I desired, 💙 it, use it for a week, then donate it back! It worked. I too gift experiences not stuff to my loved ones. But I do keep a keepsake from a departed friend...I love having that object as a trigger to have their friendship, love and personality, and memories flash into my mind. I am collating a book of favourite recipes so that, when I’ve died, family can recreate a happy memory through food. I’ve started a meeting of my friends to bring an old photo and write a one page story about the people and memory captured in that moment in time, so in 2 generations time, when we are no longer here, someone can look at it and know the significance. I also have a book club where we bring along a book, an article or you tuber that we have watched and share why it reasonated with the person. Books can be shared or not. No pressure. A cuppa and friendship is the gift you take away. Thank you.for your lovely video.