Transam Journey

Transam Journey

FtM: 2024 🎉

FtM: 2024 🎉

FtM: love therapy!

FtM: love therapy!

FtM: Then and Now

FtM: Then and Now

FtM: out of comfort zone!

FtM: out of comfort zone!

FtM: Happy 2023!

FtM: Happy 2023!

FtM finding a PCP

FtM finding a PCP

FtM trans youth suicide

FtM trans youth suicide

FtM: Where do I fit?!

FtM: Where do I fit?!

FtM: Gender and Sex

FtM: Gender and Sex

ftm: making changes

ftm: making changes

FtM: Transition appreciation

FtM: Transition appreciation

FtM: TopLess Swim

FtM: TopLess Swim

FtM: coming out…again

FtM: coming out…again

FtM: Hair & Dysphoria

FtM: Hair & Dysphoria

FtM: 6 years on T!!!

FtM: 6 years on T!!!

FtM: Anxiety and help

FtM: Anxiety and help

FtM: Hello 2020!

FtM: Hello 2020!

FtM: Depression and anxiety

FtM: Depression and anxiety

FtM: Transition Sucks part 2

FtM: Transition Sucks part 2

FtM: Transition sucks part 1

FtM: Transition sucks part 1

FtM: 5 YEARS ON T!!

FtM: 5 YEARS ON T!!

FtM:  checking in!

FtM: checking in!

Back on T and perspective

Back on T and perspective

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  • @KDespati
    @KDespatiАй бұрын

    long time no see) Happy anniversary, Christian! As to the core topic - I can totally relate.

  • @toujoursici1675
    @toujoursici1675Ай бұрын

    Happy Anniversary!🎉

  • @CyarSkirata
    @CyarSkirataАй бұрын

    This just popped up on my recommended after another video, and I just want to say you look amazing. I'm transitioning MtF and I've pretty much got the voice down, but I really hope I eventually look as feminine as you look and sound masculine.

  • @lemongrab1559
    @lemongrab15592 ай бұрын

    Real. It’s abt the lived experience

  • @trueblueman55
    @trueblueman553 ай бұрын

    I transitioned 2 yrs ago and had top surgery 1 year ago. I will be having "medical tattooing" in my scar lines, which will fade them into the surrounding skin coloring. If you want more info, let me know. Overall, man, you look great. Congrats on 9 years!

  • @lisamarhefky4956
    @lisamarhefky49566 ай бұрын

    Happy New Year nice too see you..

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47286 ай бұрын

    Happy new year! Thank you!!

  • @claralefton1619
    @claralefton16196 ай бұрын

    HNY~!

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47286 ай бұрын

    You too!🎉

  • @heldavanwinkle5050
    @heldavanwinkle50506 ай бұрын

    i think you are making lots of females who are very unhappy with themselves happier about themselves all the best for 2024

  • @sherrwagn1234
    @sherrwagn12347 ай бұрын

    you can be a transman and a lesbian!! there are a lot of he/him lesbians

  • @Kamren384
    @Kamren3849 ай бұрын

    I think im a trans man but decided to stay a lesbian cause i just need a binder and strap on. I do hear stories of how some trans regret surgery. To me as long as i find a woman who accepts me is all i need.

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47289 ай бұрын

    Of course finding acceptance in a partner is important. Accepting yourself and being comfortable with you is most important. I’ve only had top surgery. No regrets! No need for any other surgeries for me. I love being me and who I am. Just a lot of changes along the way. It’s a true journey ❤

  • @martalorenc8893
    @martalorenc8893 Жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @claralefton1619
    @claralefton1619 Жыл бұрын

    Do you feel "post-transition?"

  • @vladthe3impaler
    @vladthe3impaler Жыл бұрын

    Do you have Instagram?

  • @charliesays7686
    @charliesays7686 Жыл бұрын

    It's always great to see your face Christian, and to hear your thoughts. As always, love, light and solidarity for the New Year and beyond. Thanks for sharing with us.

  • @charliesays7686
    @charliesays7686 Жыл бұрын

    P.s you're looking great :)

  • @black.gallow
    @black.gallow Жыл бұрын

    Happy new year to you too! Hope your plans all work out

  • @rouowward6917
    @rouowward6917 Жыл бұрын

    Just got my health insurance and am looking to get a new PCP. The only guy I want is Dr. Powers (Powers Family Medicine)out in Michigan but I would have to drive 4hrs, coming from Chicago. I feel ya pain.

  • @TheSLOfox
    @TheSLOfox Жыл бұрын

    I can relate so much. Good video.

  • @TheSLOfox
    @TheSLOfox Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the update dude! Nice to see you!

  • @rahatjianjihade2555
    @rahatjianjihade2555 Жыл бұрын

    Job chai

  • @calygreen
    @calygreen Жыл бұрын

    Ok, I just went back to your Apr 4, 2021, OMG Christian!! You've come so far I'm so happy for you! You fit in where ever you want to to, introduce yourself. Remember you were young once to and there was likely some 41 year old nurse thinking the same things you are, HA!! I would be honored if someone with salt and pepper hair came into to take care of my kids, I mean seriously, that to me shows experience. Experience is exactly what I want not some 25 year old that's not sure about their life choices.

  • @black.gallow
    @black.gallow2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, take care

  • @Kaizen800
    @Kaizen8002 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing. Hang in there.

  • @BowlMasterAsh
    @BowlMasterAsh2 жыл бұрын

    I thought, “woah, 8 years, long time, man!” And then you said you started T in 2014 which is the same year *I* started T, hahaha. *My* 8 years is this year!!!

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47282 жыл бұрын

    That’s awesome!

  • @dakotachristopher5532
    @dakotachristopher55322 жыл бұрын

    congratulations

  • @AdynSt
    @AdynSt2 жыл бұрын

    Proud of you. I'm scared to start T as I haven't even came out to my extremely homophobic family but I will do it anyway because I want to start living as me :)

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47282 жыл бұрын

    Well it all takes time and good for you for being brave enough to take that first step! You got this

  • @kathyb1011
    @kathyb10112 жыл бұрын

    You were beautiful

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47282 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @oliwiapierowicz5846
    @oliwiapierowicz58462 жыл бұрын

    thanks for sharing your perspective. I have similar feelings, mostly i can sometimes feel a kind of ,,guilt" that i can't support other lesbians by showing the bravery, and you know, just existing.

  • @sophie20015
    @sophie200152 жыл бұрын

    From this vantage point you sure do look just like a man and I never would have thought for a moment that you were not a man had I seen you in passing. Yes, I know, of course that was the whole point of testosterone and surgery for those who take that road, and why its called "passing". Others do not "pass" but just demand we see them as the opposite sex when we do not, and I do not play pronouns. Obviously, I do not know you personally, but would say "he" if I used a pronoun when referring to you. However. if you were my sister and we grew up together, or my son and I raised you, I don't believe I would be able to consider you male, regardless of what you did to your female body. Sorry for the time you lost with your family, cancer sucks.

  • @EarlCornbread
    @EarlCornbread2 жыл бұрын

    Hey friend. If you're ever in New Mexico let me know! I am an artist and have studios at a space that's super cool and the owner is a beautiful person and queer and is making a space in our building for traveling nurses! Her wife is a nurse. She is always trying to support the queer community and you check two boxes. lol If I were a parent, I would want someone your age! I'm 58 so I get it but there are bonuses to aging! I understand aging and becoming a bit invisible in another way.

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47282 жыл бұрын

    That’s awesome! Thanks for reaching out and showing your support. Much appreciated!

  • @charliesays7686
    @charliesays76862 жыл бұрын

    Always great to hear your experiences Christian. Thanks for sharing so honestly with us. Love from London, UK

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47282 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Charlie. My pleasure. It’s all quite the never ending journey that’s for sure! Much love your way too brother.

  • @spacekidfamily
    @spacekidfamily2 жыл бұрын

    I can feel so much love you have for your family! My journey with gender has been so difficult because I have been living with my family and I realized very recently from talking to my therapist that I really care about what my parents think and I haven't been able to prioritize my feelings, almost my whole life. I'm 27 now, I guess it is not too late. But so much ways to bridge my communication with them. Hard things aside, I feel so much euphoria from short haircuts. I got a side part for the first time and I look so good and handsome. But I hate my hair when it gets close to 4 weeks and I realize I have hair dysphoria too! Thank you for sharing :)

  • @spacekidfamily
    @spacekidfamily2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing !!!!

  • @kodak5300
    @kodak53002 жыл бұрын

    I am sorry to hear that. My Mom passed away in 2002 she was 57 and I was close to her.

  • @claralefton1619
    @claralefton16192 жыл бұрын

    Best wishes for your family thanks for sharing

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47282 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @KDespati
    @KDespati2 жыл бұрын

    Gosh, "When Your Daddy Was A Little Girl" should be a book one day, it just sits right there, isn't it? Think about it.

  • @sentientbeingslove
    @sentientbeingslove2 жыл бұрын

    This was such a fascinating perspective! Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and feelings and putting yourself out there for our benefit 💕👍👍👍 Also I just stumbled upon this randomly, but the name Transam is so freakin clever and cute 😁 Have a beautiful day, sir 💜✌️

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47282 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! And I appreciate the feedback. Have a great one yourself 😁

  • @anitaanderson5323
    @anitaanderson53233 жыл бұрын

    I love your “dad bod” and was so proud of you!!

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47283 жыл бұрын

    🤣🤣you’re stuck with me!!❤️❤️

  • @anitaanderson5323
    @anitaanderson53233 жыл бұрын

    Not stuck when you want to be!!!

  • @anitaanderson5323
    @anitaanderson53233 жыл бұрын

    You are an amazing man, son, father and husband and we love you!!

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47283 жыл бұрын

    Honey! You’re so sweet to me ❤️

  • @anitaanderson5323
    @anitaanderson53233 жыл бұрын

    @@transamjourney4728 I just love you!!!!

  • @claralefton1619
    @claralefton16193 жыл бұрын

    Love this!

  • @marlonblazejowski3315
    @marlonblazejowski33153 жыл бұрын

    You’re right on! Transition videos a few years ago: we were just so happy to have no more chesticles. We didn’t care about scars. But over time and experience, life is always more subtle and now we worry about outing ourselves at the beach. We still can’t relax. Good for you to find that place, and so good to hear you talking about your foster kids as you did. Life is complex and you are pioneering in this space. I think you’re getting the balance spot on, even though it’s often at your own expense. Today was liberating for all your family.

  • @notofworld2513
    @notofworld25133 жыл бұрын

    I’m 37 and now realizing I’m struggling with my identity. To me I’m butch lesbian but I might be trans but not sure. I have male mannerism and talk guyish and wear all men’s cloths and want my hair shorter ect. I’m so lost

  • @LoneWulf278
    @LoneWulf2783 жыл бұрын

    Do you ever get upset when people call you a woman?

  • @notofworld2513
    @notofworld25133 жыл бұрын

    @@LoneWulf278 sometimes

  • @LoneWulf278
    @LoneWulf2783 жыл бұрын

    @@notofworld2513 Then you probably are a trans man if your mind is male.

  • @delphinesmith3744
    @delphinesmith37443 жыл бұрын

    Do you ever experience gender euphoria/dysphoria depending on what pronouns someone uses to refer to you? How about when people use more masculine/more feminine names to refer you to? (My 2nd question is worded weirdly, when i say considered more masculine and example could be bro/brother and something that can be considered more feminine is sis/sister)

  • @AftrskewlXprmnt
    @AftrskewlXprmnt3 жыл бұрын

    It depends whether socially you feel belonging to manhood or womanhood or neither or a mix. Personally in my own experience of being a butch lesbian, I feel nonbinary because I don’t feel like a man or a woman, even if i like to be more masculine on the outside, I do not feel belonging to either group. Just a vague wibbly wobbly thread of a connection to womanhood. Not every butch lesbian conceptualises their gender like this but this is how I feel. I relate to Leslie Feinberg’s writing a lot and this helped me realise there are butch lesbians like me and helped me settle into my identity. I think just keep watching and reading things about people’s experiences and see what resonates with you and what doesn’t, what feels good and what doesn’t. Wishing you the best of luck on your journey!

  • @pearlpearl3806
    @pearlpearl38063 жыл бұрын

    I related to this so much 😶 esp the “I should’ve stuck around and pushed the boundaries of the relationships instead of leaving” part. I’m kind of a runner too (as a default defense mechanism) and it’s had some not great consequences in a lot of areas in my life (family friends even at work). I think sticking around forces you to try to figure out communicating even if it’s very hard and potentially hurtful, and that you grow from it

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47283 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely! Absolutely

  • @Shevelle250
    @Shevelle2503 жыл бұрын

    You must understand that just like your parents and so many other intelligent people on this earth, who have complete and total faith in the creator of all things and the power to breathe breath into your lungs every second and to take it away with a swipe of his mighty hand is extremely more important then to participate in a demonic abominable sinful deliberate act of behavior against God! God is not nor has he ever been religious! People are religious! God is Holy and righteous and has the power to send every rotten soul that goes against his words to the pits of Hell were their father dwells(Satan) So people such as yourself can live your happy lives of lies and delusion,and worldly ways of selfish self-centered - self entitled choices of endless sin. Allow your parents who have true love for the Lord worship him in peace.

  • @oliverpenna2532
    @oliverpenna25323 жыл бұрын

    thank you for sharing this

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47283 жыл бұрын

    My pleasure. Thanks for watching 🙂

  • @hunterking4045
    @hunterking40453 жыл бұрын

    Most Christians think we're possessed by Satan. It's really stupid thinking and I've lost my Christian friends as well.

  • @marmaladeatkins
    @marmaladeatkins3 жыл бұрын

    I relate a lot to this. My mum died of cancer and even up to the end refused to talk about anything substantial. And the extended family, although some have been supportive, none are ‘there’ for us, and I feel very excluded from things by being different, despite whatever attempts I made to keep people together or keep in touch.

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47283 жыл бұрын

    I’m sorry you had to go through that with your mum. I know it’s not all on us to try to keep families together despite us trying. It just sucks that family can’t be more supportive. Life is too short!

  • @beatrizkarwai6763
    @beatrizkarwai67633 жыл бұрын

    i'm a lesbian trans woman, and i sometimes i experience the attitude of cis lesbians not being very welcome to me, or having this kind of fear/confusion around someone like me. as part of the 't', i accept you as a dude, and as part of my community. i have many friends who are trans men, and we've always had a very respectful relationship. i remember once i was with a group of trans guys and we went to a bar and drank beer all the night, and no one felt uncomfortable, they know i'm not into guys, so there wasn't any sexual game, it was just us hanging out and having fun. i wish i could have similar experiences with cis lesbian women as well, it's so cool to just relax with nice people and talk about life.

  • @PepsiMagt
    @PepsiMagt3 жыл бұрын

    Most lesbians are women who are attracted to the female sex. They are not just attracted to women.

  • @beatrizkarwai6763
    @beatrizkarwai67633 жыл бұрын

    @@PepsiMagt i don't disagree with you, everyone has their preference. i think i'm more attracted to what you call the 'female sex', both primary and secondary sex characteristics. i'm also fine dating people with secondary sex characteristics of the female sex, and primary sex characteristics of the male sex. but i think i'm just more likely to date a cis woman. i honestly don't care what people think, i just want to find someone who will love me, and make me feel safe. i don't know if you are the kind of person who wants to dismiss my gender identity and life experiences, so i'm not sure whether it's a good think to talk to you or not. i'm not in a particularly light mood right now. anyway, just live your life and find someone to love, i think that's what everyone is searching, in the end. there's no need to fight.

  • @beatrizkarwai6763
    @beatrizkarwai67633 жыл бұрын

    @ok ok i had experiences in the past with men, i just don't feel comfortable being touched by a man. their skin texture, and smell, they make me feel uncomfortable. they are stronger than me, i feel vulnerable, but not in a way that is arousing, but in a more fear mode, i guess. easier for me to feel at ease with a woman. in the same way that there are straight men who like trans women, there are also lesbians. i'm also post-op, so genitals are not a problem. i think my body doesn't cause any sort of discomfort for a cis lesbian woman, probably the opposite.

  • @beatrizkarwai6763
    @beatrizkarwai67633 жыл бұрын

    @ok ok i think it's more of an involuntary response, not bigotry. maybe i'm just not attracted to men, that's all. i know it's unusual to be a trans lesbian, but that's who i am. i can't change my sexual orientation, and feel attracted to men instead of women, there is no switch in the brain that can do that. in the same way, i can't expect other people to have the same switch. lesbians feel attracted to me because my body and atitude look typically female, i don't have to force them. just like lots of straight men, and gay women, are attracted by blaire white, it's the same kind of situation.

  • @ShaggySinclair
    @ShaggySinclair3 жыл бұрын

    Man. Hair is such an overlooked trigger for dysphoria, great video!

  • @is8592
    @is85923 жыл бұрын

    Hi my friend! How is your scar now? Any update?

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47283 жыл бұрын

    Heyyyy! Thanks for checking in. I am due for a formal update and I will get on that ASAP!! Look for the video😁

  • @danielgouge4639
    @danielgouge46393 жыл бұрын

    I feel more comfortable having facial hair as well. To shave makes me feel like I'm trying to hide who I am or something.

  • @metaphonictweeter1992
    @metaphonictweeter19923 жыл бұрын

    Please educate me if I’m wrong- but how can ya be a lesbian if you was born a man? Like sure you hadn’t socially mentally medically or surgically transitioned but you have always been your true authentic self and that is a man xx I don’t mean any hate just you’re valid- who you are and what you have felt is valid and if you have identified as a lesbian then I am not ever gonna say you’re not XX I just am wondering how you’d describe it as? Like socially etc you was seen as a lesbian or did you truly identify as a lesbian? Sending my love and rooting for you ☺️☺️☺️

  • @metaphonictweeter1992
    @metaphonictweeter19923 жыл бұрын

    My tense may sound off but like I meant in the past cuz you’re not a lesbian now! You’re a man that likes women and that’s defo not gay ☺️☺️😂❤️😎

  • @transamjourney4728
    @transamjourney47283 жыл бұрын

    I was born female, lived as a woman, socialized as such and liked women so yes at the time I identified as a lesbian. I agree I never really felt like any of it fit but what I miss is the community. I was never my authentic self until I transitioned. Not sure if that helps any.

  • @metaphonictweeter1992
    @metaphonictweeter19923 жыл бұрын

    @@transamjourney4728 that helps a lot- sorry if i sounded invasive- far from the truth- community is such a strong part of identity because it shapes who you are in what you belong as and it makes total sense on why you feel like that etc xx

  • @augustviolin
    @augustviolin3 жыл бұрын

    @@metaphonictweeter1992 that was a really interesting question and an intriguing answer