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  @Beeannie20109 күн бұрын

  What about being raped as a young girl, how did the purity message handle that. Please some time deal with this concept. Because the “purity message” really metaphorically rapes you all over again with the whole “damaged goods” concept.

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  @ivadedeva7005Ай бұрын

  My story!

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  @KyleSmithistheguyАй бұрын

  Great video! I am now 4 months in no sugar additives. Ended having mental breakdown and panic attacks. Did a lot of research, and I decided to cut out added sugars and few other ingredients like dextrose and maltodextrin and food colorings, no sweeteners or processed sugar in general! I get my sugar from fruits! Holy lord!! My mind and and stress control is getting way better! But always have better days, and some down days! But now since my diet change, when I do have bad anxiety I don’t get stuck in the doom loop of negative intrusive thoughts! I just pray for gods full armor and get through the day! Stay strong people and remember some days are better then other days! Just go with the flow and focus on positive vibes! Jesus loves you! Love you guys!

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  @MultiOliver87Ай бұрын

  Sooo much value for those of us who are recovering people pleasers. Thanks so much for the conversation.

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  @ttm1865Ай бұрын

  This music is distracting

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  @sandypike24312 ай бұрын

  It takes time to understand and heal from spiritual abuse, this was a game changer moment in this video. Abusive leadership often cause you to leave feeling misunderstood and condemned, and it takes time to renew yourself in relationship with God and ready again to rejoin and find your place in a church. Take your time to find a church where each person's relationship with God is more important than 'church' as an institution. Thank you for a good discussion.

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  @cecilharper9453 ай бұрын

  "promosm" 💞

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  @user-wb2yv7ll9d3 ай бұрын

  I have heard this man helped many people. Much love ❤

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  @TheLapedratolson3 ай бұрын

  What were your most favorite things about the IW tournament? I would love to go next year.

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  @BrittneyMoses3 ай бұрын

  I think we enjoyed being able to get up close and see all the matches on the side courts, also just the vibe is fun! Kinda like an amusement park feel, lots of people and food and music. =)

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  @TheLapedratolson3 ай бұрын

  @@BrittneyMoses Amazing! Thank you for the quick response! ☺️ Have you been to any Slams? I’ve heard IW is essentially the 5th Slam.

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  @tracydenton69553 ай бұрын

  Beautiful ❤️

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  @Prudence17334 ай бұрын

  Thank you!!

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  @ashton-leejohnson47584 ай бұрын

  Indian wells is a great tournament/ event. Thanks for sharing your experience

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  @BrittneyMoses3 ай бұрын

  Thanks for watching!

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  @BennettYancey4 ай бұрын

  I gotta make one more comment. What y’all mentioned about basically getting away from performative aspects of faith described another part of the changes I’ve went through in faith in the 2020s. I grew up trying to prove to everyone that I was the most Christian Christian ever. More and more I believe that is a portion of why I’ve struggled with perfectionism over the years. Now in 2024, I couldn’t care less trying to prove to others my faith. I’m not saying that everyone should do this, but this is one of the reasons why I cuss more these days (not calling folk names, but you know what I mean). It’s a way of freedom for me. It reminds me that I don’t have to prove my faith based on human standard that the average person doesn’t even follow. Again, I’m not saying people who don’t cuss should start cussing now, but for me personally, it helps me get away from performative faith. That’s the ish I’m done with!

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  @BennettYancey4 ай бұрын

  I’m commenting before you all really get started. I’ve tried avoiding this reality, but I do believe that in the 2020s, I’ve relooked at certain components of my faith (Christian btw). I maintain belief in the fundamentals of the Christian faith in terms of God, who Jesus is, etc. What I am not sure about is how much of what we’ve been taught is based on actual truth vs people’s own biases. For example, I know many are deconstructing because of the purity movement. Many were taught one thing but come to find out it had a different agenda. Also, I think when you go through life changes, it also makes you reconsider everything including faith ESPECIALLY when you’ve had negative experiences. Lastly, I feel like many have had their faith challenged because of the political environment we’ve been in since the mid 2010s. Our eyes are way more open now, and this is also why I believe the days of folk just believing what the religious leaders say are ending. Once you see it you can’t unsee it. #IYKYK

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  @Maxandshe4 ай бұрын

  I can never not be born again, so God has me as His own, but how can I be part of abusive institutions!!!

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  @Maxandshe4 ай бұрын

  I so love the Lord and want to be part of a church, but am afraid of the wolves I constantly encounter when I go there. I'm not sure how to respond to wolves!?! Leave??? I'm running out of options. There are either false teachers, wolvish people and leaders, or there is alot of heavy shepherding calling us to come UNDER their authority. Church has become a scary place.

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  @lonefaolan604213 күн бұрын

  I am afraid to go to church as well.

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  @Bublee11115 ай бұрын

  Thanks Brittney. You have NO idea how this podcast has brought me healing. My wounds are raw. But this gives me clarity.

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  @tmking74835 ай бұрын

  Cash cow

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  @BennettYancey5 ай бұрын

  Thank you Ranela for sharing this! You expressed so much that I think will help so many! I can relate to that mid to late 20s thing that happens to many of us. It was in my late 20s where I had to think about if the path I was on was conducive for my life at that point. A decision I made in 2019 at age 32 was rooted in this moment I had around 2015ish (I’m in my late 20s at this point). It’s been a rollercoaster in terms of becoming who I want to be because for some odd reason, my life was about trying to portray myself as something to please others. I feel so much freedom now because as a Christian, I’m living my life to please God and not worry about what others think. Lastly, I want to say that I’ve learned since 2019 that sometimes the hardest/gut-wrenching decisions are the best ones for our lives. Like you said, sometimes rock bottom can be good as it gives you a chance to start over. I really appreciate what you and Brittney are doing. Stay encouraged!

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  @shenova6 ай бұрын

  Amen!

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  @BennettYancey6 ай бұрын

  I wanted to add a couple more things to what I said earlier I’m a musician that’s played in church since I was a teenager. I remember being willing to be at the church all the time regardless of what I had to do within my own life. I am still a church musician, but I have DEFINITELY reached the point in which I’m willing to say “no I can’t make it” because of something I need to do within my own life. One thing that has helped with this is marriage for me. Because I’m married, I refuse to be out all the time while neglecting my family in the process. Lastly, as I believe Ranela was talking about, one thing that helped me with people pleasing is realizing that I am free to be the person I am meant to be. As an adult, I am allowed to operate in my uniqueness with no permission needed from others. Again, this was an amazing podcast! I really appreciate the work you all are doing!

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  @BennettYancey6 ай бұрын

  I appreciate you all contributing to a topic that seems hot on social media right now. I think a lot of us are having realizations that people pleasing ain’t it. So many people struggle with people pleasing, and I think the older we get, the more we realize that allowing other humans to keep us mentally locked in their expectations is bullish. This is why I think our generation is different because we’re more aware of how toxic people pleasing is. This is a process that I think we’ll go through for life because we’re human. Thanks again for this conversation!

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  @BrittneyMoses6 ай бұрын

  Thanks for taking the time to listen and share your thoughts Bennett! I agree with you that as you get older something clicks that you can’t keep living this way to sustain your mental and emotional health and sense of self. It can take a or of deconstructing and reconstructing a new way of being. But it is possible and it’s worth it! 🫶🏽

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  @BennettYancey6 ай бұрын

  So many good topics in this discussion I’ve definitely changed a lot since the 2020s began, and I’m more comfortable now with these changes. It’s helped me to be more authentic. I have no shame in being my truly authentic self. Thanks again for this discussion!

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  @BennettYancey6 ай бұрын

  Commenting as the intro starts. This topic is a part of my vision for this year. I’m so ready to live from my truest/authentic self. I’ve been faking the funk for years. I’m tired of doing that. Thanks for this episode!

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  @dynastymaitland60836 ай бұрын

  Biggest Takeaway: What is the work that I need to do to grow in the areas I admire about this person? This is the biggest takeaway I have. I’m 27. There is a girl at my job who is in the same role I am and is doing a way better job than me. I find it so intimidating and embarrassing. I think I’m letting the feeling of embarrassment slow me down in the progress I could be making. I’m not picking up the material as fast because I’m so focused on how bad I look compared to her and all the guys at my job like her better. I struggle with having courage to do new tasks because almost always a Task that I don’t know how to do she already knows. At the end of the day the person I should really be comparing myself to is our manager. Thank you for making this video. Happy new year!

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  @mauridemerjian87756 ай бұрын

  Britney, I'm so sorry I never realized you posted this. Sharing this week.

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  @lavadamorrison45696 ай бұрын

  Years ago I suffered spiritual abuse. I learned a lot by that experience. I still attend church, not that church but I now know the difference between abusive, controlling leadership and true Biblical leadership. My heart and my soul is set on God's word and I have confidence that the Holy Spirit will continue to lead me into truth. I recognize those red flags early on now and respond accordingly. I will not tolerate those abusive behaviors any longer.

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  @ivanasimic20727 ай бұрын

  I would love to be student of dr Langberg here in Croatia europe, we need it desparetly

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  @sophroniel7 ай бұрын

  you can't read the bottom ones because of the youtube text and subscribe button...

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  @Yazy127 ай бұрын

  This is so true, I literally ask my friends if I’m good enough all the time 🥲(I say it in a different way though lol)

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  @sumchilll7 ай бұрын

  In my case, i just can't express my discomfort. Rather than confronting, i end up choosing to stay silent. I find it so hard to express my anger, help:(

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  @tiredofthebull76697 ай бұрын

  Okay so how do I stop? Lol

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  @tay.swiftie.137 ай бұрын

  wait why is this so accurate-

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  @Trans-named-Onyx7 ай бұрын

  This is actually me, damn 😀

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  @stxrsxul7 ай бұрын

  This is so me holy mother-

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  @Saint.questions7 ай бұрын

  I did not need this today 😅😅

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  @Temeskem7 ай бұрын

  I fucked up

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  @grannygear10018 ай бұрын

  Have you read the new book, Under Authority, by Kimalee Finelli? It’s about a young girl being raised in an authoritarian Baptist church and the effects it had on her family and finding forgiveness and liberty. You will laugh and cry with them!

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  @BrittneyMoses7 ай бұрын

  Wow no I haven’t but this sounds like a good read. Thank you for sharing!

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  @percubit108 ай бұрын

  Most do that. Most pastors do that.

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  @Virulent_R4wrs8 ай бұрын

  Thats me 😭 i constantly feel dizzy like im going to faint and im terrified of it , a big fear of mine is death and im always paranoid about my heart rate / body .Can you give ways to deal with it ?

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  @saltshaker87778 ай бұрын

  Thank you.

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  @richellepeace445710 ай бұрын

  My Christian mother took me to a movie when I was 9 that showed me the rapture and my suffering in he'll so I would fall in line and obey her better and that was one of the smaller ones. Accidentally married a narc and didn't escape before I died internally. The church was there to support him. Guess setting leg traps for your wife is acceptable, just lie. I no longer care about helping anyone. If they are chained in a basement, it must be so they can learn a lesson.

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  @adrianfischer703610 ай бұрын

  ✌️ Promo`SM

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  @entrophicorsey2357 Жыл бұрын

  Im hip... Know this all too well😢

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  @MissJ74 Жыл бұрын

  😍❤️💕❤️😍

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  @Astro___why Жыл бұрын

  ...

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  @evasccl7846 Жыл бұрын

  Where to start? We need discernment in handling the problem NOT the person. Those who disrespect they tend to attack the person, instead of the behaviour... that applies to the culprit and its victim... THAT is the common ground to kill the bad behaviour together and not one another 😂 Dont ever get tired of being the bigger person, your time will come to rule peace over the world ❤

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  @Lesah_ Жыл бұрын

  Narcissist weaponize this stupid beat a bigger person prospective. They will taunt the h*** out of you while you're sitting there. Being the bigger person because dear bad behavior is normalized and you will be overreacting if you defend yourself get TF out of here. I'm cussing people out and walking away.

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  @polarbeartrainer8252 Жыл бұрын

  Always stand for yourself no matter what other people think about it.And yes sometimes you need to get down to some peoples level(that being an exception as you don't kick a jackass back and become one).

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  @wisdomseeker0142 Жыл бұрын

  Yeppppp. I actually have to change jobs because of this because I’m running out of kindness. My Situation perfectly described. It’s unfortunate