Nell Tyler [Warning: Honesty Ahead]
Nell Tyler [Warning: Honesty Ahead]
Hello! My name is Nell, and I have things to say! I want to talk to you about the daily struggles, frustrations and lessons to be learned from living with chronic illness, disability and mental health issues. If you are living with these issues, I hope I can encourage you, and that you will feel represented and will hear your thoughts and feelings being spoken about. And if you don't live with these things, I hope you will be challenged to look at life through different eyes, and maybe find yourself growing in compassion and understanding for the family members, friends and strangers who are living with these struggles everyday.
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I've been feeling like that alot lately, I'm 36 and I've missed soany milestones. I felt like my family never allowed me to have a life.
i found my girl
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Hello Nell ✨💖✨ I am so sorry you are being treated this way by people who have the nerve to call themselves "protectors of the people." I live in the States, and I remember that there were literally advertisements on television for Lyme disease treatments and how to keep yourself safe from tick-borne ailments. It's mind-boggling that an entire country that claims to be first-world can just suddenly decide that these things don't exist, even though the evidence is everywhere. Grum is lovely, and so are you ❤ and I hope that you are able to get help asap
I went to second hand store and bought a fox stuffed animal and I absolutely adore it...I am 19 and I have all my favorite stuffed toys and they all sleep with me and I love them ❤
do not worry what other people think as long as you are happy that is all that matters and i think you are a wonderful person and i do what make me happy and you should do the same
fellow NB here. I'm definitely using some of the points you brought up to help explain what being nonbinary for me is like. I really don't like being referred to as a woman but out in public talking to people who I don't know well. I don't correct them most times I would not feel safe to do so anyway. I'm definitely relate to being a shape with a face even tho currently not happy with my feminine body. Heck the amount of times I have looked at someone trying to figure out if I like the way they look or if I'm envious of their appearance is funny. I'm not really interested in anything sexual I just think some people look neat or I like their personality that's as far as it goes with me.
Hello Nell, there is no judgment from me. Your identity gender and sexual make you, you and you are a wonderful, talented, intelligent and witty person. How you identify is your business. Who you are or are not attracted too, again is your business. It's brave, so brave to lay out for the world to see and to say who you are... in my eyes, for what my opinions worth, is inspiring and something to be celebrated. Nell is still Nell, nothing for me has changed. The only thing that is different, is now I know how you identify, when I didn't know before. Other than that, I see you in exactly the same way, you're Nell a cool, talented, intelligent person... Period.
I think I'm a woman who doesn't really know their identity. I feel I look masculine because I have big eyebrows, and I don't wear makeup. I wear both female and male clothing (mainly male shirts with leggings), and baggy clothes make me feel nice, but I'm unsure why. I also feel like I'm asexual - I'm sex-repulsed most of the time, but maybe that's because I haven't met the right person yet or have fallen in love. Maybe I'm also non-binary. For the longest time, I kept calling myself androgynous because I didn't know there was a word for it. Thank you, Nell. This video has really helped me think about my own identity. You're a lovely person. I still like you. :)
I love you no matter who you are. You are very beautiful lovely person. ( I hope beautiful lovely person too.) ❤ I am happy who I am I like the people to see me as a good person.
I turn 25 this week and have a bear collection with an frog and a duck. Also a cat since my real cat passed away. Teddy bears are my support animals. Thank you for coming out about this so freely, it takes courage and I think this is great, because it normalizes this in society to come out about this. Because it is so healthy and lovely!
Thank you for sharing this message! It gives me a lot to ponder and unpack.
As a British male, we Brits like teddies. Think Mr. Bean, Superted, Paddington Bear. I would never let anyone know about my teddy collection. They are my pets as I care for them and pretend they are alive. I carry a teddy with me in my hand at home and even when I have a shower. I put prop them facing me on the bench top. However, I don't carry my phone with me even when I go out for hours. I always leave my phone at home. And, I see people cradling their pet dog in public, even while driving their car. But these attachments are seen as okay. I understand people have attachments like with their phone and pet dogs. I have attachments to my pet teddies. But they will never be seen with me in public. Not even in my car. I like Ralf Lauren menswear, but would never buy the Polo Bear range. I don't like to show my teddies to anyone as it will make me look immature and emasculated. If I have a lady friend at home, I wait atleast 3 months before I tell her about them as women tend to mark men down for everything. I think, as a male, (women can get away with feeling weak, vulnerable or insecure as they will always be protected in society), it is important to be masculine. My pet teddies is a private thing and I wouldn't want anything to happen to them. So they stay at home. I thought of getting a real dog, but I am a clean person and don't want to deal with their poor hygiene and untidiness. Also, I don't like seeing their privates and other end. But, I like watching dog videos and seeing them in public. But, I prefer my teddies because they are pure: no sex desires, peaceful, tolerant, humble and always meditating! They wouldn't hurt even an ant.
I do wish society would change, and see that having teddies as companions, even as things we can't leave the house without, is no more strange (and honestly, far less harmful!) than being stuck to our mobile phones. And that there's nothing weak or vulnerable about them. I'd love for you to look up the Teddy Bear Wikipedia page, under 'Cultural Impact' - a team of RAF soldiers took a teddy bear up in their plane with them during WW2 as a mascot! If it wasn't unmanly for WW2 soldiers to want to take a teddy, I can't see how it's unmanly for anyone else! I am slowly trying to change my little corner of the world, in everything I say, whenever I talk about having teddies, if someone says they're not for adults or men, I shoot that down quick smart. Times are changing, however painfully slowly. I do have hope that it will be a safer world for teddy lovers in the future. And in the meantime, I wish you and your fuzzy friends a very happy life, and I hope your human friends are as kind and understanding as the fuzzy ones are xx
@@warninghonestyahead I never knew of the Teddy Bear Wikipedia page (cultural impact). Will read it. I tried explaining to people that teddies give me the same feelings/interactions as a living animal. And the noble qualities they personify/symbolise. But people disagreed. I once had a girlfriend and we used to play together with the teddies at home. That was nice. We sometimes even took a couple of teddies out to an eatery and we would play table-soccer with a napkin rolled into a ball and use the salt/sugar shakers as goal posts. People used to watch us playing with the teddies! I will always love teddies and explore the teddy isle.
How dare you say this about livinia nixon. She has done nothing.
I haven't said anything about Livinia Nixon - this video isn't about her, it's about a social media influencer who was sentenced to prison. Livinia Nixon has not committed any crimes and has not been accused of any crimes, and nowhere in my video have I said anything that would make anything think I was referring to a television presenter.
I too have a stuffed animal that really comforts me, and I see that very often people are contradictory to this, I'm Italian and I'm 17 I also have autism and I must say that there is a lot of rigidity in this country, very often if I carry it, it's inside a backpack, also because people look at you too badly afterwards here, there have been some calm and open people about the thing but they are really rare here, I very often feel even in my family there is this rigidity, for example mine father says that sooner or later he hopes that I will be able to overcome it, to be strong, and it is really oppressive to think that in order to be mature in my father's eyes I have to get rid of my teddy bear, and it also makes me sad that I always have to hide it when I am out , because otherwise there is too much shame in this, I think it is a beautiful thing, and I can enjoy my life better with this care for myself of appreciating my plush friend, so I hope that I will always and forever be able to don't listen to this rigidity and be free to express this side of me, and of my love towards this teddy bear. So I'm really reassured to know that I'm not the only one with this love for stuffed animals, I really feel better so thank you very much for sharing this experience!💗💙
I’m a 52 male with autism spectrum, kleinfleters syndrome, severe depression, anxiety and PTSD. I love my stuffies so much !! I have around 200. Some have more meaning and several are closer to me that I can’t live without. They are my best friends. I sleep with them everyday and one watches tv with me everyday as well. I have max and Duke from secret life of pets but smaller than my hands. I keep both in my side pocket on my cargo pants every where I go. If I’m at the coffee shop I put them on the table looking at me. My closest stuffies are a doggie named Jellybean and Oggie. A rabbit name Sniffles, a bear name doggie bear, an otter name snuggles and a penguin name Icy.
I call my stuff animals Stuffiemals. I made that word up around 20 years ago.
No you are not in the shadow beautiful landscape
I love this and i miss you. I wish we could talk. We both could've spoken about everything and actually worked things out as adults . I ak here whenever youre ready. Im ready to listen and be responsible for my actions . I love you always.
I'm 35 and I l've got a huge toy collection - stuffed animals, dolls, action figures, even little cars.And I love all of them. I share so many good memories with them. My awful mother keeps teasing and insulting me for that, but I don't care. My beloved toys are the only friends I had throughout my entire life. They'd never beat me, scream at me, hurt my feelings, make me cry by treating me like a worthless piece of garbage. Unlike humans.
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I think they will say the same with wheelie walkers too and with the battery you said about the iPads and iPhones and smart phones they got that same battery in them too they tell the people got they board their planes because of the battery. To me if let the people with those phones and iPad aloud to go on the plane and that lady can’t with that type of battery. YES she should be able to on the to plane because of same battery that is in the phones ipad and smart phones.
I'm in my mid 30ies and I brought my teddybear to my bonemarrow biopsy. I was so afraid, I was literally out of my mind...so he helped me not to lose it even more. The nurse and surgeon didn't even question the teddybear at all...they told me that most people bring stuffed animals or good luck charms with them. 🤷🏻♀️ The staff was so kind, like the nurse was holding my hand through the procedure because I was in so much pain. 🥺
I take plushies with me almost everywhere I can.
I just became aware of my own neurodivergence, over the pandemic, and I love my Emotional support stuffed animals. They are amazing.
Thank you for this upload, I have been dealing with this my whole life. I immediately subscribed to your channel after watching your video. Wish you all the best :)
I've had little Susie with me for nearly 13 years. I have no intention of getting rid of her just because I'm all of the sudden an adult :)
Thank you for this video. I just found it and I am sixteen and still really like having my stuffed animals with me, but I fee embarrassed about it. It’s reassuring to know that there are adults who still really love their stuffed animals and that I don’t have to grow out of it because I don’t want to. Thank you.
I'm in my 50ies and absolutely LOVE AND NEED my plushies and even have favourite tattooed :)
I bought both my daughters little beggers stuff dog when they were born they are married my oldest daughter was devastated when her rescue dog ripped a bit of it my other daughter still keeps it in the top of her bed thair in thair late 30ths
Oh, I remember when my puppy bit the nose off Sharon, the teddy I've had since I was born - it was awful! I'd been able to trust my other dog with my stuffies, but not my cheeky little girl! I think it's so sweet that you got both girls matching stuffies xx
More plushie vlogs plz!
When I went through tough times I always needed My Tails Plush Doll so I can understand what you and others go through and it's Okay 😇🦊💛
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Good Advice about the case!! Lost one aid in a cup of coffee and one eaten by the dog!!
Oh no!
A H/aid user for 40 years. Wear them every day all day. Your brain learns to process this artificial sound and you are able to interpret it better!! It's an aid and will never restore hearing loss!!
What is ur secret to maintaining a good mood?
My secret is that I don't always have a good mood 🙃 But I do try to always find one positive thing in every day, no matter how hard the day has been. Even if the only good thing about that day is that it's over and I get to try again tomorrow! In all my troubles, I have so many things to be thankful for, so many ways God has blessed me, and I try very hard to focus on that xx
@@warninghonestyahead You answered correctly You are a real person If you don't show it, it will. People will see the spectacle of your crazy May Allah grant you long life, health and happiness
I'm in a similar situation, but my inability to predict my productive hours is due to small fiber neuropathy rather than chronic fatigue syndrome. The "Would you hire me" question upon being confronted by someone was a great tip.
A lot of us with different conditions and quirks are in the same boat. And yes, I've found that very simple question really stops people in their tracks! It's like they finally stop to realise how difficult chronic illness and complex health conditions can be to manage, not only in a workplace environment, but just with life in general.
@@warninghonestyahead 100% agree. Appreciate your thoughtful reply.
How about "I won't intentionally hurt you, and when I unintentionally hurt you, I'll be willing to take a punishment of your choice." Would that a fair thing to say?
Honestly, I don't think so. Because you come up against some people who will want to use your own mistakes against you, and might use the offer of punishment too freely. And really, I don't feel that accidental hurt should lead to punishment - instead it should lead to a conversation and an opportunity to learn. When my partner and I accidentally hurt each other - and it happens, usually because of miscommunication - we don't want to punish each other. We want to talk about it and say, "hey, it hurt when you said this. I know you didn't mean to hurt me, and maybe you don't realise how what you said might sound. This is how it came across, and this is how it made me feel - maybe you could be more careful of how you express that thought next time." Punishments rarely lead to growth, and instead leave both people feeling hurt. So instead, my ideal response would be, "I won't intentionally hurt you, and when I do unintentionally hurt you, I will be willing to listen, and learn how to avoid it in the future." And then, really, truly stick to that promise.
@@warninghonestyahead I understand when you're coming from. That's awesome that you and your partner have a method that works for you both. I have been told that I have hurt someone when I did so unintentionally; I said that I would strive to not repeat that hurt, but I mistakenly repeated the hurt; honestly, if my old partner had just made me write a 1000 word essay on why what I did was wrong and that I understand how it made them feel, I would 100% remember not to repeat the mistake.
I am 63 years old, and I love my stuffed animals. They are my friends and make my life more bearable. My husband calls them my "comfort objects".
My mum has a toilet raised toilet seat at home, she's not use for going/using other toilets. Even hand Rails are tough and can't use them to get up
It can be really hard! I have a bidet at home, to use for cleaning myself because I struggle, and no public bathroom has them, so it's hard when we have something we rely on at home, but we can't use it when we leave home.
Yup! I know exactly how this feels. Unfortunately, I can't frequent the small local businesses I love because their entrances may not be accessible or they might not have a bathroom I can use... It sucks. It really sucks.
Yes! My small town has many businesses that aren't accessible, and the few that are definitely don't have bathrooms. The larger town next door is a bit better, but the selection is still limited.
Thanks for sharing. Scheduled a dentist apt. This week and literally told the receptionist I have bad anxiety at dentist offices and will be one of the adults that shows up with a stuffed animal in hand. They were really understanding. Nice to hear there are others who really on plushies.
Thank you so much for this video. Im 34 and i always carry a stuffed animal with me. I always have. And now i startet sewing my own stuffed animals so i bond with them on a deeper level. This stigma needs to stop cause i know, as a teddy maker, how meaningful my weighted plushies are for adults. Keep spreading this Massage ❤❤❤ Thank you
That's lovely! I sew stuffies too, and I put so much love into all of them, some of them I keep, and some I plan to sell, and I definitely plan to make sure people know that they're perfect gifts for adults xx
Thank you!
Absolutely agree! This is truly disguising… . We must NOT normalize it just bc we think that female predators are ‘harmless’. pedophile is a pedophile.
Hi Nell...I just found you through tiktok. Nice to find an Australian creator, so I clicked subscribe. I agree with you about true crime. I can't handle it when the perpetrators don't get caught. I find the science about how they trace the criminal fascinating, and reassuring that science is protecting us. I also feel sadness that so many watch now out of morbid curiosity, when someone has actually lived terror and their families have been destroyed. It is so layered. There are so many layers to why people watch. Keep going with your channel. I wish you success!
Thank you so much for your support! It really is an interesting demographic of viewers, the fact that we treat tragedy as entertainment is strange, but I guess it's not anything new - we used to watch gladiators tear each other to shreds, knowing they were in pain. I appreciate documentaries now where I see that the families have been involved and clearly approve of what's being made, and it's all coming from a place of awareness and visibility, and the experience is clearly healing and therapeutic for them.
So very on point Nell!!!❤❤ thank you for your sharing! Poet and artist here with anxiety and adhd. Have been in treatment for 12 years now and it has been a turning point for me. As a highly sensitive artistic empath who takes care of others and animals I have found that asking for help is one of the most courageous things we can do🙏💖
I'm so glad you've allowed yourself to go on that journey, and I am so thankful for you and your art and your wonderful creative spirit xx It really is an act of bravery to reach out and get help, and it puts us in control, in what is often an uncontrollable world. I wish you all the best!
Thank you. Thank you so, so much for this. I’m 24, and I was diagnosed with Autism last year. Outside of that even, I’ve always been ridiculed by people and even my parents for being “childish”, but I need them. They make me happy and give me the support I need to keep myself regulated and in a good mental state, and if that’s what I need, then so be it. I’m still scared of being perceived as childish, but your video has helped me feel more comfortable. 💚
That makes me so glad, this video was really just me wanting to overcome those feelings after realising that there was no basis to the people saying I was childish or that this was an unhealthy coping mechanism, and seeing how many people it has helped and encouraged is making me so grateful I sat down with my sweet stuffies and filmed it (and thankful that they didn't get camera-shy and refuse to be filmed 😆)
This video made me tear up. Thank you so much for this, I am 31 and recently lost my dad and I am a big Barbie collector and ever since I was a kid I always had Barbie with me and now today I really take time to heal my soul and truly love myself, and still to this day if I travel or am watching movies in my bed I have a Barbie with me lol, it just brings me comfort. You are such a beautiful human and know just by this video alone you're reaching to those who are also learning to accept every single part of them. Keep shining your light and cuddle those stuffies wherever and wherever you please! Thank you thank you thank you. 💖💖💖💖
Aww, thank you! What a special comment. I still have my own Barbie collection too! My parents said I always had something in my hand, often a Barbie, I always had a little friend to give me courage. I am so glad that, by me reaching that point of self-acceptance, and knowing that there's nothing wrong with this, nothing weird, nothing creepy, nothing childish, nothing unhealthy, other people are learning to embrace it as well, and to know that if this is the thing that makes them feel safe, no one has the right to tell them that it's wrong xx
I have been using aids for 18 years The case advice is excellent. However get rechargeable aids as soon as you can afford it. They are outstanding. I can easily get 20 plus hours on a charge. And even more incentive to keep them in their case when not in use because the case charges them. I can also get 3 full charges with the case without plugging in.
That is fantastic - I definitely plan to get them when finances allow. Another commenter gave a recommendation for hearing aids that are more suitable for singers/musicians (I'm in that category) and if they overlap with rechargeable ones, I will definitely make the upgrade!
@@warninghonestyahead You may already have this but syncing my phone to the aids was miraculous.
@@barryhaley7430 Yes! I have an app on there where I can adjust their levels for different situations - marvellous!
I respectfully disagree about the rechargable ones. When I bought mine, they wanted an extra $1000 for rechargable, but I figured I could buy a lot of batteries for that, plus the fact that they keep giving me a year's worth of batteries on each visit for no charge (pun intended), so a no-brainer for me. Batteries last about a week (size 312).
@@TheDarkSnaffle I agree everything has its pluses and minuses. I buy my aids from Costco and the rechargeable were $200 more than the regular. I didn’t agonize over the price. My concern was that when traveling one must remember to bring the charger. If you forget it you can’t just drop into a drugstore and pick up a charger like you can a battery. You are stuck without until you return home So that’s the downside. On the upside, you don’t need to remember to open the battery doors to preserve battery life and you don’t run out of power in the middle of day 5 without a battery in your pocket. I typically wear my aids 18 hours a day. I have gone 21 straight hours while traveling to Asia without charging. The case is a power source that can charge at least 3 times without plugging in. I just place the aids in the charger when I go to sleep and never think about it. They always work. The charger fully charges in about an hour if you forget to charge them. The charger is also a safe place to store the aids and the battery doors on regular aids can be fragile. I find the rechargeables way more convenient PROVIDED you don’t forget the charger when traveling. Definitely worth the $200.
I'm 74 and just got my first set of hearing aids about 6 weeks ago, its April 2024 now. Thanks for the tips. So far so good with them and I probably should have got them 10 years ago. Looking forward to you other videos.
Better late than never! I hope you enjoy the experience, and that the adjustment period doesn't take too long xx