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  @hassanzorome749742 минут бұрын

  HVM are looking for submissive women not partners period.

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  @queenofclarity43 минут бұрын

  I’m not saying this isn’t true because my mother truly hated me since she conceived me, I know this because she told me. That’s what happens when you have children for the man and not for you. Well now I’m a mom and my oldest daughter hates me. My mother left me at 3 years old and never looked back and my daughter knows my story and she has made it her business to replicate it. I’ve tried to be there she judges me for how kind I am. How I will keep hurting me over and over to try to keep relationships together and she has become the nightmare that everyone told me she was becoming because I was giving her as much as I could give her. These types of videos she remains the victim and for me these videos are encouraging because I’m at a place of self awareness and holding myself accountable. I was never perfect and I worked hard with the little I had. When other children come into the picture of course the youngest child has more requirements than the older child. I’ve got to the root and everyone needs to have empathy for each other. Because of this deep rooted trauma, we should stop bringing children into this world. Everyone blames each other yet many don’t try to understand that we all have our own struggles. I just know that regardless of what type of relationship it is in my life, I’m not tolerating anymore disrespect. I’m angry as well and if I can speak to you with dignity I deserve the same and if you cannot reciprocate then I must remove myself from your life for both of our sake. I love my daughter and I had her young. Since I been pregnant with her I had an older cousin tell me “she’s going to give you hell” I didn’t understand then, but I do now. I am now alone and not attached to nearly anyone. She lies on me to the point where it can harm my other minor children I can’t allow her entitlement to cause chaos for the rest of them. I’ve apologized and I shared my story but it was then turned against me. It’s the way we treat one another. My daughter is abusive. She wanted to be the only child. I failed her. I didn’t give her what she wanted. I can go so deep. I pray that the Father has mercy on our souls. It’s interesting because when I was 6 years old I did I wasn’t having children because of my life up into that moment. I failed that propose to God and I been working hard ever since. So when we have children we are already guilty. I’m done.

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  @ScaryToRemarry44 минут бұрын

  The bars that were dropped in this episode! I’m about to do a reaction video

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  @twilderlm2559Сағат бұрын

  Very doubtful...

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  @lakeeshag1889Сағат бұрын

  First time watching. Wish I could have heard the hist more.

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  @priscillabranch9824Сағат бұрын

  I LOVE the analogy of the person who has been hit by a car. Thank you so much for sharing your work and life experience. Not only is this healing for the listener (me) but it also gives me perspective and language as a resident therapist specializing in trauma. Many blessings to y'all!

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  @luxxshari_3 сағат бұрын

  Yesssss I’m loving this new podcast!! Such a great idea and wise counsel indeed 😊 thanks ladies pleaseeee keep these coming

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  @msdeleon8868 сағат бұрын

  I say maybe read self help books. Gives you tools and helps understand behavior

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  @msdeleon8868 сағат бұрын

  Wow, the depth of damage

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  @jalato338 сағат бұрын

  It’s the entitlement

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  @Lily5926511 сағат бұрын

  TY, I don't know my biological family members nor parents nor hometown.& I raised myself & I definitely never had any mommy or daddy issues. It definitely wasn't a requirement for ME to have parents nor family members. People put too much emphasis on it & if they aren't supportive, accept you as you are, oh well, they don't need to be in your life. I never had that, but I see it all the time & other people family members try that towards ME. However, I AM successful & been Targeted 🎯 & people try to sabotage ME daily & Misdiagnosed for years & definitely NOT 🚫 miserable, suicidal, lonely, addict, don't take pain nor mental health medications & don't need to do so & I definitely never been pregnant, married, nor parent & people think that I should be in LACK & STRUGGLE for them oh hell Nah 🚫 Bahaha NOPE 🚫 Definitely NOT 🚫 NORMAL 🚫 Definitely NOT 🚫 compatible with ME. & I laugh & I ⬇️ LET THEM & THAT SH*T GO 🎶 🎶 🎶 🎶 STOP 🛑 tolerating being abused by anyone. If they aren't compatible with you oh well. Everyone isn't compatible with you. There definitely isn't just one person for anyone. ⬇️ LET THEM & THAT SH*T GO 🎶 🎶 🎶 🎶 Anyone that is jealous of anyone can kill them. I have too many friends right now in early GRAVES 🪦. Don't be the next one. If they aren't compatible with you I don't care what the title of the person is & need you to cover up for the or be a cover for them or change drastically to accommodate them. & They simply can't accept you as you are or need you to be broke, broken, miserable or lonely or deprived or die, oh well, Say oh hell Nah 🚫 Bahaha 🤪 NOPE 🚫 definitely NOT 🚫 NORMAL 🚫 TODAY Definitely NOT 🚫 compatible with ME & immediately ⬇️ LET THEM & THAT SH*T GO 🎶 🎶 🎶 🎶 REDOS, Lust, double standards, sex, control, obsession, Codependency, sharing a toxic person, changing drastically to accommodate anyone, taking on anyone else's responsibilities, abuse talking about taking care of or taking you, constantly complaining about you, competing or comparing yourself with anyone else, walking around on eggshells, having kids , being miserable, people pleasing, NOT 🚫 practicing self care daily, practicing belief where you can't be yourself & have to deny your needs, Trauma Repetition, enmeshment, taking other people projections personal, cheating, IS NOT 🚫 LOVE ⬇️ LET THEM & THAT SH*T GO 🎶🎵🎵🎶🎶 I don't practice RELIGION & don't staying in relationships that need ME to do so m, or be miserable , broke , broken, die, or change drastically to accommodate them. Oh hell Nah 🚫 Bahaha 🤣 Definitely NOT 🚫 NORMAL 🚫 Definitely NOT 🚫 compatible with ME I ⬇️ LET THEM & THAT SH*T GO 🎶 🎶 🎶 🎶 Don't be miserable for even one day. You can't get that day back ⬇️ LET THEM & THAT SH*T GO 🎶🎶🎶 Letting go is a daily process-Melody Beattie Namaste Peace Shalom

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  @Whitney.dellafosse12 сағат бұрын

  This was a tough watch, I noticed how uncomfortable the interviewer was in some moments. Very very good episode. The guest is PHENOMENAL

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  @jellybite112 сағат бұрын

  44:38

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  @Cornbreadmuffin8613 сағат бұрын

  My paternal grandmother ignores my calls, doesn't answer the door when I come over, makes up every excuse to avoid my company but will pick up the phone after 1 ring for my baby brother he even has a key to her home. I've learned to accept my grandmother for who she is and live my life. Atleast I tried.

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  @deborahrollins707113 сағат бұрын

  Yandy I love your handbag

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  @arabiamcmahan577813 сағат бұрын

  Whoo chile! Let's talk about it.

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  @lzumm13 сағат бұрын

  This is way older than 3 days

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  @jellybite114 сағат бұрын

  Just dipped from another video coz I was falling apart watching it. I'm only learning to heal at 35. I'm a single mom to a 4 year old and I feel like I'm becoming like the very woman I hate...yes, I said hate! I was journaling a couple of hours ago when i realised that she hates me! I say i hate her but i honestly believe thats my response to such cruelty

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  @writingbywinifred667714 сағат бұрын

  Yelle is the real deal. My skin has improved tremendously.

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  @sarahdaniels607814 сағат бұрын

  It’s not just African women who hate their daughters, It’s interracial!

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  @PhinaLuv15 сағат бұрын

  Dang I’m 2 mins and 18 secs in and that’s my first experience too I saw my self in Mommy Dearest at about 9 years old.

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  @asha418915 сағат бұрын

  Such a valuable conversation! I love the intentional email signature “to our success” ✨

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  @SmallBobby16 сағат бұрын

  bull$hit! I'm not listening to Iyanla or Kevin Samuels. They don't want the best for us, they want us weak so we can be taken advantage of.

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  @Isaidwhatisaid870116 сағат бұрын

  Whew ! My mom, my sister, my aunt even my dad influenced by my mom

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  @nmc230017 сағат бұрын

  Go to therapy and learn how to mourn the loss of the mother that you think you should've had and a learn to accept the one that you have. That takes WORK. Therapy isn't for you to just blame actions that you cannot control. Therapy is a tool for you to put up a mirror in your face and figure out how YOU will control your peace. It's a journey. I've lived it.

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  @OptimisticMaya17 сағат бұрын

  I love the question the host asks about navigating our own relationship with our mothers and the relationship between them and their grandchildren. In my experience, my first duty is to my child. Not to my mother. I am the kind of protector of my child, that my mother was not to me. Let’s not accept responsibility for building healthy relationships between our children and their grandmothers. That’s our mother’s responsibility, not ours. I teach my child about ‘stranger danger.’ I also teach my child about ‘family and friend danger.’ I teach my child that it doesn’t matter who the individual is - if my child doesn’t feel safe or respected around that person, they should not feel obliged to spend time with them or be close to them. Including my mother who exhibits the same toxic behaviours around my daughter as she did with me. For example, to be and look ‘perfect.’ To watch her weight (my child is only 6 yo). To dress and look ‘pretty’ in public. To go to church to be a ‘good’ person (even though my mother does not practice what she preaches despite going to church every single day) etc etc. I protect my child fiercely. Including from toxic family members. I have no tolerance for toxicity no matter who it is. My daughter does spend time with my mother but it is never unsupervised. I am always there to keep my mother in check if I need to. Be wise I will not allow my daughter to be burdened with the trauma/wound that I was made to.

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  @OptimisticMaya17 сағат бұрын

  My mother resented (and still resents) me for what my father did to her. Even things that he did to her before I was born. She resents me for building a life that she wishes she had when she was younger. Then when my ex was abusing me, she encouraged it and I was expected to tolerate it. I guess because she felt she had to in her own marriage. Thankfully I knew better and I stood up to my ex. I’m in my 40s and I have FINALLY accepted that she will never be the kind of mother I wanted. But we don’t have to pass this down to generations. I am the kind of mother to my daughter that my own mother was incapable of being to me. I don’t get on with my mother and have gone ‘no contact’ but I am grateful for the lessons I learned because I have nurtured a loving and respectful relationship with my own child and my daughter knows her worth

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  @OptimisticMaya17 сағат бұрын

  My mother resented (and still resents) me for what my father did to her. Even things that he did to her before I was born. She resents me for building a life that she wishes she had when she was younger. Then when my ex was abusing me, she encouraged it and I was expected to tolerate it. I guess because she felt she had to in her own marriage. Thankfully I knew better and I stood up to my ex. I’m in my 40s and I have FINALLY accepted that she will never be the kind of mother I wanted. But we don’t have to pass this down to generations. I am the kind of mother to my daughter that my own mother was incapable of being to me. I don’t get on with my mother and have gone ‘no contact’ but I am grateful for the lessons I learned because I have nurtured a loving and respectful relationship with my own child and my daughter knows her worth

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  @claudiaschneider574417 сағат бұрын

  This topic has nothing at all to do with your race or the color of your skin. Narc or toxic mothers do hate their daugthers very much and théy do try to destroy the daughters life completely without any doubts - and my malignant narc mom even treated some of her sons like scapegoats and doormat - it has not always to do with the gender of the child.

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  @kymob80318 сағат бұрын

  My mother would talk about the Imitation of Life movie and try to gaslight me. I only saw Mommy Dearest as an adult and it solidified the fact of her emotional abuse. Also, true about her treating my brothers differently. I'm 50 and still have physical and emotional marks from my childhood. 🙏🏾 😢

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  @user-vh5hg2fl7q18 сағат бұрын

  Wait a mofo minute. Let’s not generalize All Black mothers. I have two older daughters and I Lobe them so. I encourage and empower mines. Just like my mom does and her mom did.

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  @princesajasminenunewave390318 сағат бұрын

  If all you date is high value men ...why y'all not married. I think people gotta stop lying and ACTING like they know everything. Vulnerability is powerful. I think when women just share their TRUTH and not what they believe people want to hear , a lot of healing can take place. I'm over the guru age.

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  @nicolewoods170119 сағат бұрын

  Can we please stop using the word grooming in the same conversation of two consenting adults in a romantic relationship? Its offense to SA victims.

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  @celinejb473020 сағат бұрын

  I’m ready to file divorce after 12 years. I got nothing out of it.

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  @apostlesabrinaleedavis869221 сағат бұрын

  Amazing

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  @twilderlm255921 сағат бұрын

  My / my siblings mother was pit there ' doing her own thang ' when we were growing up. Then she had the nerve 2 have another child she didn't want w raise when were all grown. Now he has health issues / is looking 2 us 2 ' help ' take care of her. She thinks she was there when we were kids. She was not.

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  @MeS-xn2nf21 сағат бұрын

  Yandy is awesome. I love her realness because we all go through so much drama and trauma that no one truly knows except God and those you choose to tell. I don't have the type of friends I can call on, so I refer to them as associates because I've encountered so many backstabbers who smile in your face. I've always found that true colors come out when people assume you have it all, even when you really don't. But God can always make you look good.

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  @ritachip575921 сағат бұрын

  My husband has been married 3 times. 😂

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  @ritachip575922 сағат бұрын

  I met my husband at a meeting

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

  That's Interesting Conversation

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

  Beautifully Attractive Tall Stature Full Grown wOman😋😊

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

  That has To ExiSt As a Challenge for wOmen ?

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

  51/49 ratio That's what's Known !

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

  what's yOur opinion on Mix cultures ?

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

  Economically / yOu Said yOu were noT Speaking BusineSS ?

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  @hiramWilliam22 сағат бұрын

  Responsibility (cOrrect) yOu Accepted Also what yOu Did nOt Know B ?

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  @hiramWilliam23 сағат бұрын

  And He found mines (Unfortunate) for me, Sacrificed !?

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  @hiramWilliam23 сағат бұрын

  EnVouge "never going To Get it" (Remembered) That

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  @hiramWilliam23 сағат бұрын

  Will Feel The sPaCe To Forget The FaCe isweari will \ NegatiVe Energy Attitude would haVe To get worked on