It’s a very common trope now with modern women - once they get what they want and you “put a ring on it”, she checks out because she thinks she doesn’t have to bother trying anymore. If she leaves, she still gets half his stuff. Society has taught women that there’s no downside to being selfish. Her needs are the only thing that matters.
@yyysamuel32153 күн бұрын
Wheat Waffles or any blackpill KZreadr never said that looks or height are everything. He is just saying that in 2024, looks and height have become more and more important. For instance, 90% of women are only chasing the top 10% of the most attractive men because social media and dating apps have given women countless options and validation. He has also provided a lot of data to support his point. Blackpill also points out that how people, especially women, treat you is mainly based on your looks. Confidence and personality only matter if she is already attracted to you by your looks first.
@busybecomingmyself2 күн бұрын
I'd agree with everything up til the last sentence. I've become attractive to women when I was invisible before through them getting to know me socially, or through being confident in approaching them. Only in online dating and social media does looks become an absolute barrier. There's some flexibility in real life with enough women for it to be worth attempting.
@roseother83063 күн бұрын
we "live lives of quiet desperation"
@soundcasts2udios4 күн бұрын
clicked on a whim and glad I did
@giveitatry9516 күн бұрын
Is saw those short, yes it triggered me and made me think. Yes im single because theres a reason. For me its because i dont go out, self isolated myself to the point where i only talk to my family, i have no friends or social circle, due to that i dont met new people => social skills no that good/not many situations for better calibration of said skills, i fill my freetime outside of work with tasks alone at home or Yt, for human connection i use normal relationship videos for sexual i use corn
@busybecomingmyself6 күн бұрын
Good self awareness. I was in a similar place earlier in life. The question is, do you want to change it?
@serbOgisha6 күн бұрын
Do not assume that being in a relationship is always the right choice. When people enter toxis relationships there is a f**** reason for that as well.
@busybecomingmyself6 күн бұрын
Indeed. You don't want just ANY relationship.
@giveitatry9516 күн бұрын
@@busybecomingmyself In an ideal world i would want to have or lead a other life. So yes. My job and habbits keep me in a mostly overwhelmed state. So that i end up doing nothing different. That dream of something better in comparison to my actual day to day life kind of keep me in a depressed state (base line). I dont know how to get past this obstacle.
@busybecomingmyself6 күн бұрын
@@giveitatry951 by accepting the parts you can't control and changing the parts you can control, even when you don't feel like it. That also involves accepting that you won't usually feel like doing the things you know you need to do to bring about change.
@jbc365gym6 күн бұрын
word
@madelagloria7 күн бұрын
I’m superficial because I don’t expect much from people (no really deep relationship) . Choose personality over looks to discover later that this person is also trash?! No thanks. Maybe I’ll mature later like you , but so far, I still haven’t met someone who made me feel that I’m wrong to think that way .
@busybecomingmyself6 күн бұрын
How many types of people are there that aren't trash? Why can't someone be OK or pretty good? Is there no spectrum between "amazing" or "trash"? There are lots of good people in the world. But the best looking people often have the least necessity to be one of them.
@anngelovalencia48337 күн бұрын
Cody Carey Is This You❤ Sorry To Ask❤
@busybecomingmyself7 күн бұрын
No. I don't know who that is
@anngelovalencia48337 күн бұрын
@@busybecomingmyself he's a Canadian singer you have a resemblance to him💛 sorry to ask🩷 more power to you blessings😇
@DarnedYankee8 күн бұрын
I want you to know that every word was felt in the deepest fibers of my soul.
@helloDobson325910 күн бұрын
People can't have contracts they don't know about - well stated.
@samslofi615310 күн бұрын
Dude you killed it really enjoying your videos
@EE12CSVT11 күн бұрын
Yeah, it would be nice to meet someone to date for the first time in decades who wasn't a train wreck and who didn't expect to be able to control, use, or emasculate men and that she'll reciprocate, because having boundaries and expectations that she'll behave makes a guy undatable. If a guy is a complete walkover and gives her feminine energy, she'll be interested. It's funny that when they discover very early on that you have boundaries that they immediately vanish.
@busybecomingmyself10 күн бұрын
The wrong ones will. (this is most, but not all). Most of the good ones are taken but occasionally become available.
@EE12CSVT10 күн бұрын
@@busybecomingmyself This has been every woman I've met over the past 24 years, except one, briefly in 2007. I know a few businessmen such as yourself, but they're unmarried. Though they meet plenty of women, they don't date because they've found all there is to meet are manipulative users, so they gave up and spend time with their friends and relatives. It's curious that the 'good ones' who make themselves available to me are married or are in LTRs. But, I have morals. Hwyl am y tro.
@busybecomingmyself10 күн бұрын
@@EE12CSVT then they're not good ones. I didn't realise you were also Welsh. I moved a thousand miles away and the difference in quality is huge. I'm not saying that attractive and stable and relationship suitable women can't be found in Wales but you're going to have to do more looking than many other places (no place is a haven though).
@panzeralienofficial12 күн бұрын
The way i feel about is like what "the Weeknd" said in one of his songs: "I don't need a b1"tc# i am what a b1"tc# need"
@BGFitnessNY12 күн бұрын
We need to put the divorce court out of business! The only valid reasons for divorce are abandonment, abuse, neglect, dereliction of duties, and withholding sex.
@BGFitnessNY12 күн бұрын
Folks, read Taken into Custody by Dr. Stephen Baskerville and Rotating Polyandry and its Enforcers by F. Roger Devlin.
@coachtinab12513 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing, so sorry you had to go through that. I can relate, people don't understand the pain of it and how you suffer in silence, jumping through a bunch of hoops to try and make it better only for nothing to change or it gets worse. For me, if I didn't initiate, nothing would happen. I spent thousands on buying him things for his hobbies, crafts, whatever he wanted or needed. Glad you were able to get out sooner. I stayed for 20 years, because I was hoping we would have kids, now that's not possible :(
@busybecomingmyself13 күн бұрын
I'm sorry you lost so much time and opportunity. I hope life is better for you now.
@andymholt14 күн бұрын
The point on the more you understand worst case that could happen is a very good insight Chris
@rafaelnual800614 күн бұрын
Thank you for presenting a realistic view and understanding of marriage. The overwhelming majority of relationships and marriages are founded in fairy tail lalal-land feelings and chance. Completely correct in establishing a mature view not just on the other person but on oneself. Continue to keep producing these thought producing concepts. Keep going and keep striving for mastery.
@busybecomingmyself14 күн бұрын
Thanks. I appreciate the feedback.
@GenRN14 күн бұрын
If he was that successful then certainly he had heard of a pre-nuptial agreement. Men that pick their wives based on their appearance rather than on their character know what they are getting. They are getting a self-centered one-trick pony. So why are these men surprised when they later lack positive character traits? They were blinded by their hormones then clutch their pearls when the pretty snake bites them.
@busybecomingmyself14 күн бұрын
Mostly agree. Many men are indoctrinated into believing all women are angels and men are the only bad people in society. And honestly there's a blind optimism among men in love, with many "friends" thinking it's rude to say anything when their friends marry basketcases.
@ChaiTogether16 күн бұрын
I really like what you stand for! I can agree with this. ❤🎉
@stellastella441816 күн бұрын
thank you for posting, thats really interesting to listen
@Jacxdy16 күн бұрын
its about looks mostly
@mjo327517 күн бұрын
As a young man (26), I am 100 percent worthless. I don’t mean anything to anyone I’m not blood related to. My only value is attributed to my degrees, certifications, income, and listening skills.
@busybecomingmyself17 күн бұрын
Every value is subjective, including your own. Personal value should also be differentiated from economic value and SMV.
@timothysturgess598518 күн бұрын
Women find men who are already in relationships more attractive, and will sometimes try to “ steal him” for two reasons. First, it’s not because she thinks “ oh she can deal with him” its more like “he’s willing to commit, he wants to be in a relationship, and his partner seems happy, he has a job, she has a decent car, I wish I had what she has”. Second, the women who do end up trying to see if they can “steal” him, usually have an a self worth wound that they aren’t aware of, and it is expressed as high self esteem instead of low. This is because on a subconscious level, they believe that if she can get a man to leave his partner, get him to stray, get him to risk or leave his family or wife for her, then in her mind it makes her better than his wife or girlfriend. Most if not damn near all are completely unaware of this to be the case. But if examined, you will find that there was a situation in her life that left her feeling like she wasn’t wanted, she was abandoned, or rejected.
@Strider965520 күн бұрын
Friend of mine changed his luck completely on dating apps, by having a photo taken in the seat of a private plane and putting his job down as "pilot", he actually works as an aircraft mechanic at a small airstrip in the west midlands. This guy is mid 50's, not attractive or handsome, but he was matching with hundreds every month, from 18 years old to late 50's. It's not about looks, it's about fulfilling desirable stereotypes.......... The other one that works is Doctor and Firefighter, although the fireman thing isn't quite as appealing now as it was 20 years ago.
@busybecomingmyself10 күн бұрын
While I don't condone lying, status has a huge effect. I plan to do a video on it sometime.
@groatswerth207321 күн бұрын
Sounds like my first marriage. I spent 15 years in a sexless marriage. My life was centered around trying to make her happy. Nothing I did was good enough. “If you would do X, Y, Z I would be in the mood.” I would do that only to be told “If you would do A, B, C I would be in the mood.” My life was being constantly criticized and withholding of sex as a weapon. I also ignored the red flags before we got married. It took 15 years for me to break. Thankfully I met another woman who understands the importance of physical intimacy including sex. Over a decade later and we have a solid relationship of mutual respect and gratitude (and an active sex life). My relationship with my second wife is everything I had ever hoped for with a woman. I am the happiest I have ever been with her and the children she has given me.
@busybecomingmyself20 күн бұрын
I'm happy that you turned around your life. Thanks for sharing.
@andymholt21 күн бұрын
Correct Chris, there are enough women in the world for a guy not to have to steel one. Whilst there are nuances (no girl is ever single), it’s a lack of options that leads guys to do this
@willymc726221 күн бұрын
Happened to me my ex left me after seven years for a Scottish guy she met on her gaming console 😂😂 but hey same things gunna happen to him if it hasn’t already life goes on and youl meet someone you don’t have to steal
@monk4ever21 күн бұрын
Us monks don't have these petty issues. Find purpose. Delete the apps. Forget about dating. Be a great person.
@kalasatwater222421 күн бұрын
Means she can be stolen
@dahnger22 күн бұрын
Thoughts on GBD or GTFO
@busybecomingmyself22 күн бұрын
Usually only worth dealing with women who are highly interested. Energy is not well spent if you're trying to convince a girl to desire you more.
@dahnger22 күн бұрын
@@busybecomingmyself Thanks man, totally agree with you
@andrea-mj9ce11 күн бұрын
What is GBD or GTFO?
@dahnger9 күн бұрын
@@andrea-mj9ce Genuine burning desire or Get the fuck out
@tentrickspony892522 күн бұрын
How do you say with a straight face that men who want married women aren't healthy but there's nothing wrong with women who do this?😂
@busybecomingmyself22 күн бұрын
By qualifying it as I did with the surrounding sentences. Attraction doesn't mean you are going to take action to steal someone away from their partner.
@Cory-zn5mq25 күн бұрын
Alot of us was born into low self esteem dont beat yourself up for it we all human thanks for sharing your story
@busybecomingmyself24 күн бұрын
I don't think anyone is born into it. Young children are naturally open and fearless. Often in areas they should be more cautious. Some parents do their best to crush their children's spirits so they stay lower than they are.
@lguinancio26 күн бұрын
Excellent video.
@busybecomingmyself26 күн бұрын
Thank you
@analea653128 күн бұрын
People need to understand that dating is inherently discriminatory and unfair for both women and men. Just because some people have an obvious advantage it doesn’t mean the rest of us won’t find a partner. Imagine perfectly functional men are giving up because of looks how are disabled people, burn victim finding a partner? I think the real problem here is most of the time this people desire people who “ are out of their league “ and I hate saying this because there is no such a thing as leagues but they want people who would never give them a chance sometimes because of fantasy other times to prove their insecurities right and abandon. All this to say if looks is what you focus on tho put yourself out there then you are doomed. There are non attractive people who are in committed relationship because looks are not everything, they communicate well, are interesting, intelligent, charming and well behaved and that’s far more attractive on the long run
@andymholt28 күн бұрын
This is a great comment and correct on people who won’t accept their realistic options in dating. Too much social media artificially pumping perceived value. There’s nothing wrong with being realistic
@busybecomingmyself28 күн бұрын
A question for my not so younger self: Would you rather have a 9 who just about tolerates you, or a 7 who adores you, communicates with you, and apologises when she should? Superficial looks don't really matter so much in the long run. They don't need to be the most instantly attractive person you've ever seen or dated. They just have to be attractive enough, with values and character being much more important.
@sungexpression909328 күн бұрын
Disabled burn victims are a rarity, and only some of them would find partners Make dissatisfaction either dating apps largely outweighs fringe cases
@sungexpression909328 күн бұрын
@@busybecomingmyselfthe issue is the average man wouldn’t attract either the 9 or the 7
@sungexpression909328 күн бұрын
The non-attractive people aren’t winning on tinder.
@more2me100Ай бұрын
6 years in a relationship and the longest stretch has been 7 months of no intimacy. He has so many reasons in the book on why we don’t have sex. At the end of the day it’s all a sorry attempt of an excuse! I cried so much that he finally gave into having sex… that I initiated might I add. But that was a month ago. I have so much shame around this! He’ll have his friends over and they make comments/jokes around sex and I save face for him all the time. It’s so lonely to be here and being a woman in this situation is challenging as well. I feel like I can talk to no one!
@busybecomingmyself29 күн бұрын
I think talking to people who can be wise and impartial is very important. The shame freezes you into not changing anything. At the very least your husband needs to know how much this means to you. He may or may not get the help he needs. And maybe he needs something from you too. But without communication and honesty, nothing will change.
@GebetinoАй бұрын
Good one. It resonated. I feel this dynamic you described started with your parents though.
@busybecomingmyselfАй бұрын
Yes it did. I've discussed this in other videos.
@lguinancio26 күн бұрын
This type of stuff almost always starts with childhood experiences.
@hawkeyepierce7035Ай бұрын
Nope. They wanted to be strong and independent. Time for them to put on their big girl pants and make the first move. We’re the ones who have been making the first move since the dawn of time, risking rejection. Now, not only are we risking rejection, but also being labelled a creep, having the police called on us for harassment, and being shamed all over social media. Ball is now in their court.
@brycat8033Ай бұрын
Terrifying comments - sex without another person isn’t your right ! If you want sex , find someone who wants sex with you !!!
@busybecomingmyself28 күн бұрын
I didn't read all of them but I didn't see any comments suggesting it was. Who are you referring to?
@_JEBUSАй бұрын
I dont think its ever a good idea to bring up lack of intimacy to your partner as it never results in more intimacy. They see you as needy. For me its 3 strikes youre out rule. If i initiate intimacy 3 times in a row and am rejected it is clear that the person is no longer interested in having sex. When someone desires you you they will have have sex with you effortlessly. If you are not fulfilled then it is time to move on. People get complacent and then they string you along as they continue to lose respect for you. This is in any relationship. Married or not.
@busybecomingmyself28 күн бұрын
It doesn't have to sound needy. And I think there's an autistic way of applying the "3 strike rule" which would be completely inappropriate. But if you're always willing to walk away, it can be brought up as a concern for the relationship rather than something you're begging for.
@ggrohwinАй бұрын
Your experience isn't limited to Bumble. Talk to your gay friends about Grindr.
@ntolmanАй бұрын
No, I don't think I will. I quit. I'm done. To be honest I was never really someone they wanted to begin with. So why bother?
@Mrpiggy1902Ай бұрын
Women are shallow and think they all above average.
@MrAntinexusАй бұрын
Yah but what if end result is the same as in apps
@busybecomingmyself28 күн бұрын
Apps aren't much like real life anymore than videogames are.
@MrFalcon58199Ай бұрын
So starting conversations is a "burden" now. Didn't know so many women had such a difficult time when opening a conversation with just a 👋 or "hey" and expecting from a man to just take over from there lol
@sitvisjesАй бұрын
Woman are lazy people
@AugrillsАй бұрын
Starting a conversation is a burden. As a man, you know the trick is to cast a wide net. I’d send the same message to 100 girls and maybe get 20 replies back and go from there. 80% rejection is normal. Being rejected a lot is normal. The guy who gets the biscuit doesn’t care lol
@PeterZeekeАй бұрын
Rescue is the wrong word
@Frodo1000000Ай бұрын
What's correct word in your opinion
@PeterZeekeАй бұрын
@@Frodo1000000genuinely don’t know. But Rescue isn’t good for anyone. Totally agree with the act though
@busybecomingmyselfАй бұрын
I genuinely didn't know at the time either. I was talking impromptu without a script. "Providing an alternative" might have been a better way to put it.
@nightmare-datesАй бұрын
The annoying thing is women constantly complain about how men approach them online, then when they have to make the first move they are completely useless at it, the irony is pretty astounding And your right dating apps just do not work for most men, however they work for just about every woman !
@LiveWatchedАй бұрын
women ☕
@catbakkorrelАй бұрын
For sex yes but I doubt it works for them for serious relationships.
@weotalks2810Ай бұрын
MGTOW 4LIFE
@tynubernardАй бұрын
43 1.80 80 kg , go to gym , all my life I want beautiful women and stay in relationships with them , 5 years a go I realise that being with a beautiful women you will pay for her dreams not yours not even for the two of us . Girls that invest in looks do this to attack and to sell their beauty for easy life. Better to have fun with them and the run . Now i am with a normal girl and life is more easy she even pay some stuff. Even regular girls don’t want 50/50 but is more acceptable and she is greatfull. Girls are stupid in 2024 that way , the beautiful ones will die alone and the regular will be cheated, because bouth want a top man , a top man will have options. Girls don’t love you for what you are 100% they love you for what you have : money , status , life style. The more you look nice and arose her easily you get discount for her love , the more you attract with money , the more you will pay 😂. Best relationship are the one with equality, money and looks , women don’t want that , they want just the hole thing. Guys that have the hole thing , will not stay just with one .
@LadyCamilleEАй бұрын
I have been on Bumble since 2020. I felt I would avoid the unsolicited pics and unwanted messages. It has worked well for me. I have met some fantastic guys I wouldn’t have crossed paths with IRL. I also do my best to be approachable in public. Make eye contact and smile. I have yet to be approached…. I meet more guys online that lead to dates than in real world. So what’s a girl to do?
@raularango3539Ай бұрын
Well the problem is that Women cant seem to get a consensus going about what they want. Meeting in public is now a risk for men since they don't want to be creepy, and most men are invisible online. Bumbles system to me seems like a happy medium but it seems like women aren't happy with it. I'm going to guess that its because women don't generally like getting rejected after making the "first move".
@LadyCamilleEАй бұрын
@@raularango3539 that’s a pretty broad brush stroke. Women are individuals just as men are. Lesson’s leaned = growth which may appear as indecision. I have learned not to take things personally. I’m not for everyone and everyone is not for me. I will continue to be friendly despite how others respond to me. We can get bitter or we can do better.
@raularango3539Ай бұрын
@LadyCamilleE Hey, that's much appreciated. I am not a fan of the apps. My strengths are meeting people in person, so I'm hoping women start moving away from the apps.
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It’s a very common trope now with modern women - once they get what they want and you “put a ring on it”, she checks out because she thinks she doesn’t have to bother trying anymore. If she leaves, she still gets half his stuff. Society has taught women that there’s no downside to being selfish. Her needs are the only thing that matters.
Wheat Waffles or any blackpill KZreadr never said that looks or height are everything. He is just saying that in 2024, looks and height have become more and more important. For instance, 90% of women are only chasing the top 10% of the most attractive men because social media and dating apps have given women countless options and validation. He has also provided a lot of data to support his point. Blackpill also points out that how people, especially women, treat you is mainly based on your looks. Confidence and personality only matter if she is already attracted to you by your looks first.
I'd agree with everything up til the last sentence. I've become attractive to women when I was invisible before through them getting to know me socially, or through being confident in approaching them. Only in online dating and social media does looks become an absolute barrier. There's some flexibility in real life with enough women for it to be worth attempting.
we "live lives of quiet desperation"
clicked on a whim and glad I did
Is saw those short, yes it triggered me and made me think. Yes im single because theres a reason. For me its because i dont go out, self isolated myself to the point where i only talk to my family, i have no friends or social circle, due to that i dont met new people => social skills no that good/not many situations for better calibration of said skills, i fill my freetime outside of work with tasks alone at home or Yt, for human connection i use normal relationship videos for sexual i use corn
Good self awareness. I was in a similar place earlier in life. The question is, do you want to change it?
Do not assume that being in a relationship is always the right choice. When people enter toxis relationships there is a f**** reason for that as well.
Indeed. You don't want just ANY relationship.
@@busybecomingmyself In an ideal world i would want to have or lead a other life. So yes. My job and habbits keep me in a mostly overwhelmed state. So that i end up doing nothing different. That dream of something better in comparison to my actual day to day life kind of keep me in a depressed state (base line). I dont know how to get past this obstacle.
@@giveitatry951 by accepting the parts you can't control and changing the parts you can control, even when you don't feel like it. That also involves accepting that you won't usually feel like doing the things you know you need to do to bring about change.
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I’m superficial because I don’t expect much from people (no really deep relationship) . Choose personality over looks to discover later that this person is also trash?! No thanks. Maybe I’ll mature later like you , but so far, I still haven’t met someone who made me feel that I’m wrong to think that way .
How many types of people are there that aren't trash? Why can't someone be OK or pretty good? Is there no spectrum between "amazing" or "trash"? There are lots of good people in the world. But the best looking people often have the least necessity to be one of them.
Cody Carey Is This You❤ Sorry To Ask❤
No. I don't know who that is
@@busybecomingmyself he's a Canadian singer you have a resemblance to him💛 sorry to ask🩷 more power to you blessings😇
I want you to know that every word was felt in the deepest fibers of my soul.
People can't have contracts they don't know about - well stated.
Dude you killed it really enjoying your videos
Yeah, it would be nice to meet someone to date for the first time in decades who wasn't a train wreck and who didn't expect to be able to control, use, or emasculate men and that she'll reciprocate, because having boundaries and expectations that she'll behave makes a guy undatable. If a guy is a complete walkover and gives her feminine energy, she'll be interested. It's funny that when they discover very early on that you have boundaries that they immediately vanish.
The wrong ones will. (this is most, but not all). Most of the good ones are taken but occasionally become available.
@@busybecomingmyself This has been every woman I've met over the past 24 years, except one, briefly in 2007. I know a few businessmen such as yourself, but they're unmarried. Though they meet plenty of women, they don't date because they've found all there is to meet are manipulative users, so they gave up and spend time with their friends and relatives. It's curious that the 'good ones' who make themselves available to me are married or are in LTRs. But, I have morals. Hwyl am y tro.
@@EE12CSVT then they're not good ones. I didn't realise you were also Welsh. I moved a thousand miles away and the difference in quality is huge. I'm not saying that attractive and stable and relationship suitable women can't be found in Wales but you're going to have to do more looking than many other places (no place is a haven though).
The way i feel about is like what "the Weeknd" said in one of his songs: "I don't need a b1"tc# i am what a b1"tc# need"
We need to put the divorce court out of business! The only valid reasons for divorce are abandonment, abuse, neglect, dereliction of duties, and withholding sex.
Folks, read Taken into Custody by Dr. Stephen Baskerville and Rotating Polyandry and its Enforcers by F. Roger Devlin.
Thanks for sharing, so sorry you had to go through that. I can relate, people don't understand the pain of it and how you suffer in silence, jumping through a bunch of hoops to try and make it better only for nothing to change or it gets worse. For me, if I didn't initiate, nothing would happen. I spent thousands on buying him things for his hobbies, crafts, whatever he wanted or needed. Glad you were able to get out sooner. I stayed for 20 years, because I was hoping we would have kids, now that's not possible :(
I'm sorry you lost so much time and opportunity. I hope life is better for you now.
The point on the more you understand worst case that could happen is a very good insight Chris
Thank you for presenting a realistic view and understanding of marriage. The overwhelming majority of relationships and marriages are founded in fairy tail lalal-land feelings and chance. Completely correct in establishing a mature view not just on the other person but on oneself. Continue to keep producing these thought producing concepts. Keep going and keep striving for mastery.
Thanks. I appreciate the feedback.
If he was that successful then certainly he had heard of a pre-nuptial agreement. Men that pick their wives based on their appearance rather than on their character know what they are getting. They are getting a self-centered one-trick pony. So why are these men surprised when they later lack positive character traits? They were blinded by their hormones then clutch their pearls when the pretty snake bites them.
Mostly agree. Many men are indoctrinated into believing all women are angels and men are the only bad people in society. And honestly there's a blind optimism among men in love, with many "friends" thinking it's rude to say anything when their friends marry basketcases.
I really like what you stand for! I can agree with this. ❤🎉
thank you for posting, thats really interesting to listen
its about looks mostly
As a young man (26), I am 100 percent worthless. I don’t mean anything to anyone I’m not blood related to. My only value is attributed to my degrees, certifications, income, and listening skills.
Every value is subjective, including your own. Personal value should also be differentiated from economic value and SMV.
Women find men who are already in relationships more attractive, and will sometimes try to “ steal him” for two reasons. First, it’s not because she thinks “ oh she can deal with him” its more like “he’s willing to commit, he wants to be in a relationship, and his partner seems happy, he has a job, she has a decent car, I wish I had what she has”. Second, the women who do end up trying to see if they can “steal” him, usually have an a self worth wound that they aren’t aware of, and it is expressed as high self esteem instead of low. This is because on a subconscious level, they believe that if she can get a man to leave his partner, get him to stray, get him to risk or leave his family or wife for her, then in her mind it makes her better than his wife or girlfriend. Most if not damn near all are completely unaware of this to be the case. But if examined, you will find that there was a situation in her life that left her feeling like she wasn’t wanted, she was abandoned, or rejected.
Friend of mine changed his luck completely on dating apps, by having a photo taken in the seat of a private plane and putting his job down as "pilot", he actually works as an aircraft mechanic at a small airstrip in the west midlands. This guy is mid 50's, not attractive or handsome, but he was matching with hundreds every month, from 18 years old to late 50's. It's not about looks, it's about fulfilling desirable stereotypes.......... The other one that works is Doctor and Firefighter, although the fireman thing isn't quite as appealing now as it was 20 years ago.
While I don't condone lying, status has a huge effect. I plan to do a video on it sometime.
Sounds like my first marriage. I spent 15 years in a sexless marriage. My life was centered around trying to make her happy. Nothing I did was good enough. “If you would do X, Y, Z I would be in the mood.” I would do that only to be told “If you would do A, B, C I would be in the mood.” My life was being constantly criticized and withholding of sex as a weapon. I also ignored the red flags before we got married. It took 15 years for me to break. Thankfully I met another woman who understands the importance of physical intimacy including sex. Over a decade later and we have a solid relationship of mutual respect and gratitude (and an active sex life). My relationship with my second wife is everything I had ever hoped for with a woman. I am the happiest I have ever been with her and the children she has given me.
I'm happy that you turned around your life. Thanks for sharing.
Correct Chris, there are enough women in the world for a guy not to have to steel one. Whilst there are nuances (no girl is ever single), it’s a lack of options that leads guys to do this
Happened to me my ex left me after seven years for a Scottish guy she met on her gaming console 😂😂 but hey same things gunna happen to him if it hasn’t already life goes on and youl meet someone you don’t have to steal
Us monks don't have these petty issues. Find purpose. Delete the apps. Forget about dating. Be a great person.
Means she can be stolen
Thoughts on GBD or GTFO
Usually only worth dealing with women who are highly interested. Energy is not well spent if you're trying to convince a girl to desire you more.
@@busybecomingmyself Thanks man, totally agree with you
What is GBD or GTFO?
@@andrea-mj9ce Genuine burning desire or Get the fuck out
How do you say with a straight face that men who want married women aren't healthy but there's nothing wrong with women who do this?😂
By qualifying it as I did with the surrounding sentences. Attraction doesn't mean you are going to take action to steal someone away from their partner.
Alot of us was born into low self esteem dont beat yourself up for it we all human thanks for sharing your story
I don't think anyone is born into it. Young children are naturally open and fearless. Often in areas they should be more cautious. Some parents do their best to crush their children's spirits so they stay lower than they are.
Excellent video.
Thank you
People need to understand that dating is inherently discriminatory and unfair for both women and men. Just because some people have an obvious advantage it doesn’t mean the rest of us won’t find a partner. Imagine perfectly functional men are giving up because of looks how are disabled people, burn victim finding a partner? I think the real problem here is most of the time this people desire people who “ are out of their league “ and I hate saying this because there is no such a thing as leagues but they want people who would never give them a chance sometimes because of fantasy other times to prove their insecurities right and abandon. All this to say if looks is what you focus on tho put yourself out there then you are doomed. There are non attractive people who are in committed relationship because looks are not everything, they communicate well, are interesting, intelligent, charming and well behaved and that’s far more attractive on the long run
This is a great comment and correct on people who won’t accept their realistic options in dating. Too much social media artificially pumping perceived value. There’s nothing wrong with being realistic
A question for my not so younger self: Would you rather have a 9 who just about tolerates you, or a 7 who adores you, communicates with you, and apologises when she should? Superficial looks don't really matter so much in the long run. They don't need to be the most instantly attractive person you've ever seen or dated. They just have to be attractive enough, with values and character being much more important.
Disabled burn victims are a rarity, and only some of them would find partners Make dissatisfaction either dating apps largely outweighs fringe cases
@@busybecomingmyselfthe issue is the average man wouldn’t attract either the 9 or the 7
The non-attractive people aren’t winning on tinder.
6 years in a relationship and the longest stretch has been 7 months of no intimacy. He has so many reasons in the book on why we don’t have sex. At the end of the day it’s all a sorry attempt of an excuse! I cried so much that he finally gave into having sex… that I initiated might I add. But that was a month ago. I have so much shame around this! He’ll have his friends over and they make comments/jokes around sex and I save face for him all the time. It’s so lonely to be here and being a woman in this situation is challenging as well. I feel like I can talk to no one!
I think talking to people who can be wise and impartial is very important. The shame freezes you into not changing anything. At the very least your husband needs to know how much this means to you. He may or may not get the help he needs. And maybe he needs something from you too. But without communication and honesty, nothing will change.
Good one. It resonated. I feel this dynamic you described started with your parents though.
Yes it did. I've discussed this in other videos.
This type of stuff almost always starts with childhood experiences.
Nope. They wanted to be strong and independent. Time for them to put on their big girl pants and make the first move. We’re the ones who have been making the first move since the dawn of time, risking rejection. Now, not only are we risking rejection, but also being labelled a creep, having the police called on us for harassment, and being shamed all over social media. Ball is now in their court.
Terrifying comments - sex without another person isn’t your right ! If you want sex , find someone who wants sex with you !!!
I didn't read all of them but I didn't see any comments suggesting it was. Who are you referring to?
I dont think its ever a good idea to bring up lack of intimacy to your partner as it never results in more intimacy. They see you as needy. For me its 3 strikes youre out rule. If i initiate intimacy 3 times in a row and am rejected it is clear that the person is no longer interested in having sex. When someone desires you you they will have have sex with you effortlessly. If you are not fulfilled then it is time to move on. People get complacent and then they string you along as they continue to lose respect for you. This is in any relationship. Married or not.
It doesn't have to sound needy. And I think there's an autistic way of applying the "3 strike rule" which would be completely inappropriate. But if you're always willing to walk away, it can be brought up as a concern for the relationship rather than something you're begging for.
Your experience isn't limited to Bumble. Talk to your gay friends about Grindr.
No, I don't think I will. I quit. I'm done. To be honest I was never really someone they wanted to begin with. So why bother?
Women are shallow and think they all above average.
Yah but what if end result is the same as in apps
Apps aren't much like real life anymore than videogames are.
So starting conversations is a "burden" now. Didn't know so many women had such a difficult time when opening a conversation with just a 👋 or "hey" and expecting from a man to just take over from there lol
Woman are lazy people
Starting a conversation is a burden. As a man, you know the trick is to cast a wide net. I’d send the same message to 100 girls and maybe get 20 replies back and go from there. 80% rejection is normal. Being rejected a lot is normal. The guy who gets the biscuit doesn’t care lol
Rescue is the wrong word
What's correct word in your opinion
@@Frodo1000000genuinely don’t know. But Rescue isn’t good for anyone. Totally agree with the act though
I genuinely didn't know at the time either. I was talking impromptu without a script. "Providing an alternative" might have been a better way to put it.
The annoying thing is women constantly complain about how men approach them online, then when they have to make the first move they are completely useless at it, the irony is pretty astounding And your right dating apps just do not work for most men, however they work for just about every woman !
women ☕
For sex yes but I doubt it works for them for serious relationships.
MGTOW 4LIFE
43 1.80 80 kg , go to gym , all my life I want beautiful women and stay in relationships with them , 5 years a go I realise that being with a beautiful women you will pay for her dreams not yours not even for the two of us . Girls that invest in looks do this to attack and to sell their beauty for easy life. Better to have fun with them and the run . Now i am with a normal girl and life is more easy she even pay some stuff. Even regular girls don’t want 50/50 but is more acceptable and she is greatfull. Girls are stupid in 2024 that way , the beautiful ones will die alone and the regular will be cheated, because bouth want a top man , a top man will have options. Girls don’t love you for what you are 100% they love you for what you have : money , status , life style. The more you look nice and arose her easily you get discount for her love , the more you attract with money , the more you will pay 😂. Best relationship are the one with equality, money and looks , women don’t want that , they want just the hole thing. Guys that have the hole thing , will not stay just with one .
I have been on Bumble since 2020. I felt I would avoid the unsolicited pics and unwanted messages. It has worked well for me. I have met some fantastic guys I wouldn’t have crossed paths with IRL. I also do my best to be approachable in public. Make eye contact and smile. I have yet to be approached…. I meet more guys online that lead to dates than in real world. So what’s a girl to do?
Well the problem is that Women cant seem to get a consensus going about what they want. Meeting in public is now a risk for men since they don't want to be creepy, and most men are invisible online. Bumbles system to me seems like a happy medium but it seems like women aren't happy with it. I'm going to guess that its because women don't generally like getting rejected after making the "first move".
@@raularango3539 that’s a pretty broad brush stroke. Women are individuals just as men are. Lesson’s leaned = growth which may appear as indecision. I have learned not to take things personally. I’m not for everyone and everyone is not for me. I will continue to be friendly despite how others respond to me. We can get bitter or we can do better.
@LadyCamilleE Hey, that's much appreciated. I am not a fan of the apps. My strengths are meeting people in person, so I'm hoping women start moving away from the apps.