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PsychAlive

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What is a Fantasy Bond?

What is a Fantasy Bond?

How a Fantasy Bond Forms

How a Fantasy Bond Forms

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  • @PNortRyan
    @PNortRyan5 күн бұрын

    True enough yeah. I’m like that, part of me wants a girlfriend, but then I like women generally and I meet so many that I like and it makes me sad because, you can’t go out with them all. Maybe Casanova had it right, you play your cards right, you can certainly have some sort of connection with them, and not just sex.

  • @user-nk2cz7zj8m
    @user-nk2cz7zj8m5 күн бұрын

    Getting man vibes. Creeps me out when people are not straightforward about that stuff Also, second the comment that this advice is useless (maybe worse than) with narcs. If you try to act "healthy", assert boundaries, withdraw when you are not treated well, etc, the narcs will come after you (with manipulation, or maybe worse if that doesn't work anymore)

  • @AninomousUser
    @AninomousUser5 күн бұрын

    agreed

  • @theschoolofbodylanguage
    @theschoolofbodylanguage10 күн бұрын

    Excellent

  • @jazzy19001
    @jazzy1900115 күн бұрын

    A agree with the first part "There is no intention for the caregiver to know me" - but I don't agree with the second part "Therefore the world is not created inside of themselves" - that is wrong - the world is created inside themselves, but they know that it can be 1) dangerous to let others know it exists and/or 2) it goes underground until such time as it is safe to find expression for it. It doesn't mean that they are less human or don't have an inner world or a soul. All people are born with it, it is the expression of it that changes in relation to their formative experiences.

  • @Infinite_money263_label
    @Infinite_money263_label16 күн бұрын

    Wow great I heard one video that they cancel the left brain but something Wass off better to integrate both

  • @goochtube61
    @goochtube6122 күн бұрын

    I have found a lot of help with wimhoff breathing and psychedelics

  • @broadpete
    @broadpete22 күн бұрын

    I'm back here after many years, because I heard he's quite on board with the polyvagal work led by Stephen Porges. They are using different metaphors, but I think they are actually saying the same thing.

  • @aniyahlyszt3531
    @aniyahlyszt353122 күн бұрын

    Cherophobia was mentioned in this video, but not named. That's the trigger to existentialism.

  • @sharky7665
    @sharky7665Ай бұрын

    Learn something every day. Thank you.

  • @brucejohnston5845
    @brucejohnston5845Ай бұрын

    This woman is a doctor in the same sense that a trans woman is a woman: kind of, but not really.

  • @MuhammadAamir-dj9lg
    @MuhammadAamir-dj9lgАй бұрын

    Frightened and confused behaviour of the caregiver

  • @MuhammadAamir-dj9lg
    @MuhammadAamir-dj9lgАй бұрын

    Collection of terrifying experiences

  • @fickleemu4life401
    @fickleemu4life401Ай бұрын

    I have this attachment style and I had a relatively decent childhood. My mom had borderline personality disorder and my dad had mental issues as well. I definitely experienced neglect and emotional abuse. I always thought disorganized attachment developed out of extreme situations but.. I don’t really view my situation as that extreme yet I definitely have this. It’s such a challenge to live with.

  • @sultanmahmood4173
    @sultanmahmood4173Ай бұрын

    Appreciable

  • @LujzaJJ77
    @LujzaJJ77Ай бұрын

    I need session like that I have exactly same😢

  • @gordonhorse1428
    @gordonhorse1428Ай бұрын

    yikes. i'm a zombie.

  • @IAmChuck17
    @IAmChuck17Ай бұрын

    Women in the United States live by this motto.

  • @Animie222
    @Animie222Ай бұрын

    I need help here I also have critical internal monologue in which I thinks it's a different person who is controlling me and judging my every move like if I am walking I get inner voice go back to this place and walk again like this or if I am taking anything I have to do this move 3 to 4 times I get voices if I don't do this bad thing happens which I am afraid of and I do this than it don't happen it's soo frustrating can anyone help me here please

  • @Poppy-yx8js
    @Poppy-yx8jsАй бұрын

    Unforgivable a harassment group stalked me every day - burglarized my home - damaged my property- electronic intrusion on all my devices- all accounts hacked- almost 7 years of it - has impacted my brain and health- maybe permanently.

  • @DaveE99
    @DaveE99Ай бұрын

    I was also viewing this in terms of neurodivergence as a decent amount of adhd have a more disorganized style, and then you try your best to get out of and expand beyond your issues and stuff and eventually get smacked down and make some mistake that leads to abandonment in something you poured yourself into and in the process of trying to fix your self it’s like you learn so much about people and trying to understand one self and them that the whole f’ing society dosent ever with any amount of research come off in a way that it’s going to meet any of your needs and just use you and spit you out and OMFG there is that side of the internet showing how women and men work, and that while it dosent show you how to have a secure attatchment in relationships(that’s important) even though it does talk a lot of truth of patterns, though can be a bit black and white, and then you you struggle with the fact that apparently you have to play office politics and learn that and then understanding the whole bio/psycho/social/cultural model of causation and then ignoring what the news says but understanding politics from that bio/psycho/social and evolutionary why, cognitive process, behavioral implementation in the physical and social enviroment and the odds are you are at home with one of the parents trying to figure all this out all the while the entire world has been turned into a 3d chess game that no body no institution no religion no country no nothing every gave you any help in navigating and it’s like some days your fighting to fix and others your hopeless and you occilate between a sort of fighting to fix and control what you can and find out what you can and shutting down with a why even try sort of learned helplessness. And it’s like the only option is to start your own company or completely homestead because “fuck others” despite being. hyper extravert, it’s like no end to this. But some things we can make more progress on. And it sucks when there are social skills you can learn that on average make things go better, but because nothing works with everybody 100% of the time, well odds are most things that work with many, don’t work with that one person you have in front of you to practice on.

  • @markusglaubit898
    @markusglaubit898Ай бұрын

    Tanks. A fantastic Keep it simple and shorts example🫶

  • @kovacskovacs3465
    @kovacskovacs34652 ай бұрын

    This so-called expert is clueless to reality. She should have her license removed for not even knowing the basics. Men struggle far more than women in today's society. Women receive far more help in Western society, and yet many women may continue to struggle due to their own choice, incapacities, etc. And when equality is not enough, they turn to equity to get even more. To feminists, it's all about securing power and that necessarily means that they must be misandrists.

  • @nenadcubric2663
    @nenadcubric26632 ай бұрын

    Clonidine can Help, also Propranolol

  • @johnmitchell8925
    @johnmitchell89252 ай бұрын

    Not me No children

  • @user-my2ux3wf5r
    @user-my2ux3wf5r2 ай бұрын

    Nah my inner voice is really a dickhead lol no one talks to me like he does. Voice memos on your iphone... have a conversation with them. Turns out you can just confront that voice and its really frail and insecure. If you dont fight back it just keeps telling you how to think. I started recording myself talking to the voice and it talking back to me.... its crazy the things that this voice was telling me. Finding out you are your biggest hater is quite the revelation.

  • @JD-dv9kc
    @JD-dv9kc2 ай бұрын

    Could this be why I sabotaged my 25 year marriage with two affairs? I match this attachment theory

  • @Undercovershrinkhere
    @Undercovershrinkhere2 ай бұрын

    So true

  • @Acoustic-Rabbit-Hole
    @Acoustic-Rabbit-Hole2 ай бұрын

    Im a psychopath. God fried all of my neurons when he was preparing my first breakfast. // The problem is, i think he did it on purpose. I’m afraid that God….is _just like me._

  • @johnwerahiko6226
    @johnwerahiko62262 ай бұрын

    What I find really confusing is that in my journey to find emotional balance I have ahd to learn over 20 things and unpack multiple things that as a child you would never have to learn if you were in a secure attachment. Why is this?

  • @spinnettdesigns
    @spinnettdesigns2 ай бұрын

    Katsugan movements are so powerful

  • @blackmass4925
    @blackmass49253 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤ kzread.info/dash/bejne/kYeNw6iKerC8nNo.htmlsi=jUyBkVE9haChGjvh

  • @aceshigh5157
    @aceshigh51573 ай бұрын

    wow. this video is so validating. i'm in the process of analyzing the narrative identity that i completed a few months back, and also changing the most destructive narratives with a support group. i am so grateful rn.

  • @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes
    @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes3 ай бұрын

  • @JJ-rp2df
    @JJ-rp2df3 ай бұрын

    Reliving unresolved abuse, abandonment and trauma is so true especially when triggered by mirror neurons.

  • @user-wh5mr4tr8u
    @user-wh5mr4tr8u3 ай бұрын

    Omg😮

  • @DorMeles
    @DorMeles3 ай бұрын

    OMG my ex was like this when I would raise my hand

  • @EmA-sm8se
    @EmA-sm8se3 ай бұрын

    Me

  • @nobodieshome_
    @nobodieshome_3 ай бұрын

    so grateful for this man

  • @blue_moon6490
    @blue_moon64903 ай бұрын

    I was/am still terrified of my mother. I am 55 years old. I finally went no contact 5 years ago.

  • @J-wd3kh
    @J-wd3kh4 ай бұрын

    Whats he saying? Healing is starting to sound like witchcraft and snake oil at this stage...

  • @user-oy3mm1ke1g
    @user-oy3mm1ke1g4 ай бұрын

    Really rings a bell,❤ was diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic 1983 , critical inner voice ran me in into a psych ward ,,,Thanks for the incites 😊

  • @k91985
    @k919854 ай бұрын

    I can't even staand up straight am always in fight/flight. Trying to catch myself and relax but natural state is not good at all. Ruined my whole life....

  • @robertafoginthemorning6678
    @robertafoginthemorning66784 ай бұрын

    Suicide is like an evil spirit that enters people 💔

  • @flaminmongrel6955
    @flaminmongrel69554 ай бұрын

    Sounds in line with a lot of Yoga exercises.

  • @mavenbraun5701
    @mavenbraun57014 ай бұрын

    Another narcissist playbook video to gaslight others into to thinking they have a mental illness. In reality, they are mentally ill wackos. Try all natural massage therapy. It works.

  • @jessicakelley2798
    @jessicakelley27984 ай бұрын

    This can't be your cover when you were the one who pinned me in it

  • @adrianarnaboldi1677
    @adrianarnaboldi16774 ай бұрын

    WOW DR. Gill Igan BRUICH WOULD BE PROUD

  • @Lotuslaful
    @Lotuslaful4 ай бұрын

    ❤thank you ❤

  • @Jamari-Duffy
    @Jamari-Duffy4 ай бұрын

    Just from the way he talks, I sense no bullshit . He is legit. He wants to help people.