I'm a formerly popular, currently unpopular drag queen who now makes preachy videos. Video essays, Makeup, gay stuff, heavy metal, graphic design, trolling, general opinions.
I am a straight incel female. But I don't resent men or hate them. I am resigned to my place in the world. I have yet to feel any peace because of it, but I am really happy that I have never resented nor acted out negatively in any way towards anyone. My burden is my own and no one else's. And that's the way it should be. Shitty genetics and flimsy commitment to personal improvement are no one's problem but mine.
@Oru32811 сағат бұрын
In retrospect an all male community based around being attracted to eachother may have not been the best starting point for communities
@warmjets4521 сағат бұрын
my observation: gay men are way too entrenched in patriarchy and capitalism which is the source of their unhappiness. due to the privileges that come w living in a patriarchal society, it’s much tougher for them to see the power structures at play and how they fall victim to it. this doesn’t even take into account what the privilege of whiteness plays into all this. there is a STARK difference between being gay and being queer…
@deBeersbitchКүн бұрын
You look like Peter from UNHhhh but bald, not a read
@itonokogiriКүн бұрын
Architects are sooo annoying
@migueldelaperlaКүн бұрын
he is talking about a minority as if it is the majority... open your eyes at numbers!
@namlex4483Күн бұрын
Thanks for talking about this.
@scw55Күн бұрын
It's really interesting to see the contrast between gay culture in Cities vs. Not-Cities. People are so scattered in the rural lands, that to meet another non-het person is an exciting time. My experience of the lbgtqia+ community in rural places is that there's mutual support. It's easier to see that exclusion helps no one. But it also means you feel isolated until you make those connections.
@ypansoКүн бұрын
im a straight woman and this video taught me a lot of new things, ty
@newbeginning3568Күн бұрын
“When do i get to enjoy life?” … my 30 yr old self says the same 😔 i live somewhere being gay is not ok, only have internet.
@lilmilkyКүн бұрын
all those thirst traps are down low sex workers
@pdruiz2005Күн бұрын
At 15:26. His need to cling onto a religion that hates him, the stalking allegations based on the notion that he lost his last chance to hide himself so he became unhinged and desperate, the ingrate Catholic pastor who rejected him but took his money-and I bet he gave a lot from his NFL salary-this all points to immaturity. This guy is incredibly immature for someone who is 29. I bet he’s been treated with kid gloves his whole life because he’s such a cool and awesome jock and everyone loves him and wants to be with him or BE him. Then things fall apart and he just doesn’t have the coping mechanisms because his life had been so easy for so long. I sort of get it. But the immaturity-this dude really needs to get a handle on that. The only one who came out looking good in this whole thing is Colton’s brother, and he’s straight and barely had a cameo. But the little bit of air time he had-he hit the nail on the head perfectly.
@pdruiz2005Күн бұрын
At 10:00. Nah. This is not American culture. It’s called “I peaked in high school and I want to live in these past years of glory because the present sort of sucks.” If he got drafted into the NFL, this guy was clearly the cock of the walk, so to speak, in his tiny town in the middle of nowhere. It truly was his golden age.
@davitizivzivadze6396Күн бұрын
It’s really not as complex as it seems. The LGBTQ+ community often struggles with internal issues such as insecurities, a lack of emotional intelligence, and a quest for genuine, unconditional self-love. These challenges make the concept of a unified “gay community” somewhat contradictory. Within this community, various subgroups exist, each with their own set of issues and behaviors. You have the gym-focused individuals who project their insecurities onto others in pursuit of a particular masculine ideal. Then there are the artsy types who immerse themselves in art and trendy social scenes, often clinging to relationships with those they deem more attractive despite feeling undervalued. Meanwhile, some individuals adhere to a more conventional lifestyle, presenting themselves as simply out and content without notable distinction. Others are hopeless romantics who chase idealized notions of love and often end up disillusioned in open relationships or unfulfilling romantic pursuits. Intellectuals within the community might choose solitude to maintain their personal peace, while some liberal individuals, despite their well-meaning activism, may inadvertently support a system that continues to exploit marginalized groups through superficial gestures, like rainbow-themed corporate branding. There are also closeted individuals whose experiences remain unspoken, and a rare group of long-term, healthy relationships that challenge the notion of mythic impossibility. In essence, the LGBTQ+ community has been used politically and denied fundamental rights, resulting in a space rife with insecurity and internalized negativity. This situation is symptomatic of broader capitalist dynamics that thrive on exploitation and unattainable ideals. Ultimately, societal standards and ideals are fluid and ephemeral. Embrace the freedom of understanding that they are transient and largely inconsequential. Focus on what brings you joy, pursue genuine personal fulfillment, and disregard negative external judgments-they often reflect more about the critic than about you.
@pdruiz20052 күн бұрын
At 25:27. Well, yes. How else do you go through the time and physical sacrifice of attaining those muscles? Even on steroids you need to work hard to attain such a body. And you can’t motivate yourself to do all that work and sacrifice unless you have a fucked up view of your body as terribly imperfect, as needing to be cleansed and made better. This can easily segue into constant, toxic self-flagellation and eating disorders. There truly is no way to escape the self-made hells we make for ourselves. Yay!!!
@pdruiz20052 күн бұрын
At 13:17. Oh, that artist isn’t looking to sell his art with that pic. He’s looking to sell himself to the highest bidder. Honestly being a kept sugar baby makes art creation way easier, logistically. So I don’t blame this guy for just being a hustler out here in our hustling world. Lol.
@1nerdyguy2 күн бұрын
I completely agree with your video I mean your video is even an example of it, I decided to watch the video cause I thought you were attractive
@pdruiz20052 күн бұрын
At 3:59. As a NYC gay, I cackled so hard at these pictures that I almost spat out my water. Lol. Honey, I learned a long time ago these Hells Kitchen and Chelsea gays have their own problems. But they’re very good at papering over these problems with drugs and sex. Some of them are downright miserable. And the ones with endless vacation days are usually hookers, sugar babies hiding their old, wrinkly sugar daddies on social media, or very sneaky drug dealers. Cause do you think those gays go to the hood to get their drugs? Nope. They have their own dealers, usually in that ripped, hot-guy friend group. I don’t have a lifestyle even close to what they have. But I also learned long ago that my self esteem was more important than to fit in with them or their lifestyles. So I’ve kept away from them and sought out decent, nice gays. And I have-that’s my friend group. We do travel to exotic destinations, we do have fun. We have normal jobs that don’t gift us with endless vacation days. But the older I grow, the more thankful I am for this NYC gay friend group I have, which makes me feel seen and like I belong to a wonderful, dysfunctional found family. And that’s a great feeling to have. 😊
@iankennedy25922 күн бұрын
While everything you say is true it begins to just start to sound like complaining after a couple of minutes.
@alastairtheduke2 күн бұрын
The straights are moving into the gayborhood, ugh. Why do these straights come to the gay bars, ugh; Why is a straight person doing drag on drag race, ugh. For some it's identity, for me it's ghettoization.
@alastairtheduke2 күн бұрын
Your shirt matches your bath mat......bye
@alastairtheduke2 күн бұрын
The obligatory speedo shot with "friends" where everyone is muscular is such a tired stereotype.
@theouthousepoet3 күн бұрын
Unless there are more 'hot gays' then 'not hot gays', all of this is obnoxious. Go find each other. There are more of you than there are hot gays. Who cares what hot guys think. Like, the advice of "stop following hot gays" on instagram is missing the point. Just uninstall instagram altogether. Instagram confers no benefits and a lot of downsides. Go take a cooking class. Go learn another language. Go play in gay sports. Go volunteer at soup kitchen. You are not going to meet anyone interesting if you don't leave your house. You are not going to BE interesting if you don't leave your house. I had the gift of coming into my gayness just slightly before social media (Grindr came out when I was 25)... but anyone agreeing with this video would rate me a 5, and I have not lacked opportunities to meet awesome gays, have sex with gays, be in 3 long-term relationships with gays (for a total of 15 years!). I've hovered around 230 lbs my whole adult life. I am 5'10". I was bald by 25 years old. My facial hair is almost completely white and I am 39 years old (and, for that reason, get mistaken for 50 all the time). While it's not as 'easy' for me to get sex as it was in my late 20s, I still get laid once a week on average? The reason you don't have sex is because you think the world is at fault for you not having sex. Gay men, like all other creatures, want sex and companionship. Go find each other. Good luck! And vote for Kamala!
@NeoAutodroid3 күн бұрын
Regarding steroids: if I find out a guy is doing steroids it would be an automatic no for me. I don't care how attractive a guy is I'm never going to date a man who disrespects his body like that.
@NeoAutodroid3 күн бұрын
Unfortunately, in my own experience I have found that some of the most beautiful bodies with perfect photogenic faces contain within them some of the most hideous of hearts. Narcissism, shallowness, lack of personality, sociopathic tendencies. It's so bad and so ubiquitous that I have developed a subconscious avoidance of very attractive people, just assuming them to be rotten. I know I shouldn't judge people on their appearance either negatively nor positively but I feel like I have to undo trauma just to see attractive people as down to earth
@TylerBR973 күн бұрын
Kinda late to this video but everything you’re saying is so relevant. I gotta say, I’m SO happy that I live in Providence. The gay community here is amazing and everyone is so diverse looking. We have very very very few generically hot gay men like that. Most importantly, deleting all social medias helped my mental health immensely. In about a week, I was a new person.
@MedianRay3 күн бұрын
Now try doing this while being POC/black lol
@jakephineas69943 күн бұрын
Stayed clocking their tea this whole video😂
@user-pe9ml2dy1g3 күн бұрын
I got a lot of points in here. But even tho you are talking about not being fixated, at some points, you are fixated. Almost like - I haven’t achieved this “hot looking type” so I gonna suggest everyone else should not do that. And that everything about trying to be good looking is a crap. But maybe the truth is somewhere in the middle? So that means you should be in love with yourself but if you are working on yourself even physically, it’s not a bad thing. I completely agree that good looking must be pushed into more average way, but by saying oh those gays just have issues, they stupid or fall into society rules is not good.
@roum2413 күн бұрын
I clicked because of the sexy thumbnail, but leaving with great insight :)
@dontusethesamenicknameonthenet3 күн бұрын
im not a dude or gay but thanks for speaking out about this. ive never thought about smth like this tbh
@bannol13 күн бұрын
Well, privileged American gay people are just as boring as privileged American straight people; and who doesn’t love a cliche? Good looks only take a person so far. Personality and character are what clinches the deal. If you don’t have an attractive personality and your character is shit it doesn’t matter how good-looking you are. It is true that we are all attracted to eye Candy, but as with all candy, if you have too much it gives you a stomach ache. Here is another truth, good looks do fade and those who were bestowed with the gift of extraordinary looks in their youth, they generally do not age all that well. There are, however, those types, who start out seemingly ordinary, but they get better looking as they mature. They are not Ken doll handsome, but they are interesting and their hotness comes from a deeper place, not skin care products, hair styles and gym visits.
@tsirtosky14394 күн бұрын
Yeah, incels came to mind before you mentioned it. Glad you brought it up. It's silly how hyper fixated so many are on the hot gays, why can't they just love themselves and give love to other less than average looks? They turn into trolls when they could just heal their self hate, and learn to love ppl who aren't Modelesque / fake Duh. Is the logic that hard ? No. I think it's just hard for guys to reject social norms, and focus on developing other pursuits such as radical authenticity, volunteering, or loving kindness. One of the reasons I put more effort into my mind and character is that when I'm at my fittest, most guys aren't dating me for my personality. Most date me for the arm candy. I'm proud to have cultivated physical attraction away from the mainstream norm I looked for in my early 20s to more than a handful of I think even more beautiful and interesting physical types. I find that being mostly immune to mainstream desire standards is HUGELY empowering and liberating... And when you find less popular physical types more attractive you have more of a selection, and more gratitude from the people who are getting long overdue but deserving attention / adoration. And less body hatred and superficiality. One more note on your / his "aging out of the ideal" comment -- Daddy-ness is hot... and still trending, by the way. I've become much more popular now that I'm looking older than an Abercrombie model
@tsirtosky14394 күн бұрын
“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” -A de Saint Exupery Get in touch with REALITY: None of that shit matters, that fleeting stuff does not make people CONTENT or SATISFIED when the cameras are off . If you want to develop a sense of unshakable purpose, meaning, and start to re-integrate all the hurt and hidden parts into an empowering personal narrative. ReadFrankl's SEARCH FOR MEANING. Then read The Little Prince. Then do something good for others. Going from quick high to quick high does not a happy, content, innerly peaceful person make. The Little Prince said: “It’s a little lonely in the desert…”. “It is lonely when you’re among people, too,” said the snake.”
@seanyeo55144 күн бұрын
I like your Erte poster. He was my major gay influence growing up.
@Ark_bleu5 күн бұрын
This was balanced and nicely done. You’re like the gay Joe Scott we didn’t know we needed. -I really hope you can return to making content if you can.
@Ark_bleu5 күн бұрын
The strangest thing I’ve seen in the past 10 years or so is these aspects of gay culture becoming more universal among men. It’s mainly due to the rise of gym culture (when I grew up bodybuilding was super niche interest); now the line between how gay men live a straight men live has faded dramatically. Not the worst thing in the world but super trippy
@zandariko19425 күн бұрын
It is how lasers work, you need the light to go through and through the same material as be amplified :D I'm a "attractive a birth" gay from France, very toxic family, attracted by bears. I felt terrible shame when I starting dating my soon to be husband, and the judging and negative comments followed soon after. The feelings are now gone, because are the parents XD Also i made it clear to him an myself that I was attracted and that's all that mattered. My own expectations and comparison of my body also lowered as a result
@OscarMarohn235 күн бұрын
Gay community? Community is a strong word isn’t it? A catty sausage fest is not a community
@paulantoine16965 күн бұрын
That's the sad thing... as you say, so many people are so very unhappy, regardless of how buff or pretty they are... it's so silly and destructive for everyone. The short answer is that there is no single standard for "attractive"... and there is as much variety in **taste** as there is in the diversity of body shapes and every aspect of our faces etc., thankfully! There is an audience for everyone! As someone who has recently become much fitter at the late age of 60 (isn't that like 200 in "gay years"??) I can tell you the fantastic aspect of this is just how much better I feel... I am flexible, strong, and healthy compared to many my age. I am grateful for that alone. My mental health is more balanced because the exercise handles my mood better than anything, even medications.
@Miolaurent5 күн бұрын
Yes, actually. This IS how lasers work LMAO
@mjackstewart5 күн бұрын
If straight dudes have incels, do gay dudes have outcels?
@mjackstewart5 күн бұрын
It’s ironic: Dude uses gear to bag the boys, but his nards shrink and can’t exchange “unnatural caresses.”
@raydaveed5 күн бұрын
I'm very surprised that i can't relate to this. I hate "twinning" 😂. I'm attracted by people that don't look like me and most are attracted to me cause i don't look like them. That sounds like logic to me.
@neutralfog5 күн бұрын
Thank you for addressing...all that. And btw, this toxic gay culture is even more present in North America than other regions.
@BigJosé-15 күн бұрын
Insta-gays creep me the fuck out lmao
@quidproquo825 күн бұрын
The answer to your question where do they find the time to travel.... They're escorts
@Raastee6 күн бұрын
Yeah… I prefer cute, funny and clever to a shallow man.
@VivekPatel-ze6jy6 күн бұрын
Gay men who don't engage with the wider community (trans people and lesbians) are honestly a pretty clear red flag. Like your friends shouldn't all be white gay men, that means you're living in a bubble.
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I am a straight incel female. But I don't resent men or hate them. I am resigned to my place in the world. I have yet to feel any peace because of it, but I am really happy that I have never resented nor acted out negatively in any way towards anyone. My burden is my own and no one else's. And that's the way it should be. Shitty genetics and flimsy commitment to personal improvement are no one's problem but mine.
In retrospect an all male community based around being attracted to eachother may have not been the best starting point for communities
my observation: gay men are way too entrenched in patriarchy and capitalism which is the source of their unhappiness. due to the privileges that come w living in a patriarchal society, it’s much tougher for them to see the power structures at play and how they fall victim to it. this doesn’t even take into account what the privilege of whiteness plays into all this. there is a STARK difference between being gay and being queer…
You look like Peter from UNHhhh but bald, not a read
Architects are sooo annoying
he is talking about a minority as if it is the majority... open your eyes at numbers!
Thanks for talking about this.
It's really interesting to see the contrast between gay culture in Cities vs. Not-Cities. People are so scattered in the rural lands, that to meet another non-het person is an exciting time. My experience of the lbgtqia+ community in rural places is that there's mutual support. It's easier to see that exclusion helps no one. But it also means you feel isolated until you make those connections.
im a straight woman and this video taught me a lot of new things, ty
“When do i get to enjoy life?” … my 30 yr old self says the same 😔 i live somewhere being gay is not ok, only have internet.
all those thirst traps are down low sex workers
At 15:26. His need to cling onto a religion that hates him, the stalking allegations based on the notion that he lost his last chance to hide himself so he became unhinged and desperate, the ingrate Catholic pastor who rejected him but took his money-and I bet he gave a lot from his NFL salary-this all points to immaturity. This guy is incredibly immature for someone who is 29. I bet he’s been treated with kid gloves his whole life because he’s such a cool and awesome jock and everyone loves him and wants to be with him or BE him. Then things fall apart and he just doesn’t have the coping mechanisms because his life had been so easy for so long. I sort of get it. But the immaturity-this dude really needs to get a handle on that. The only one who came out looking good in this whole thing is Colton’s brother, and he’s straight and barely had a cameo. But the little bit of air time he had-he hit the nail on the head perfectly.
At 10:00. Nah. This is not American culture. It’s called “I peaked in high school and I want to live in these past years of glory because the present sort of sucks.” If he got drafted into the NFL, this guy was clearly the cock of the walk, so to speak, in his tiny town in the middle of nowhere. It truly was his golden age.
It’s really not as complex as it seems. The LGBTQ+ community often struggles with internal issues such as insecurities, a lack of emotional intelligence, and a quest for genuine, unconditional self-love. These challenges make the concept of a unified “gay community” somewhat contradictory. Within this community, various subgroups exist, each with their own set of issues and behaviors. You have the gym-focused individuals who project their insecurities onto others in pursuit of a particular masculine ideal. Then there are the artsy types who immerse themselves in art and trendy social scenes, often clinging to relationships with those they deem more attractive despite feeling undervalued. Meanwhile, some individuals adhere to a more conventional lifestyle, presenting themselves as simply out and content without notable distinction. Others are hopeless romantics who chase idealized notions of love and often end up disillusioned in open relationships or unfulfilling romantic pursuits. Intellectuals within the community might choose solitude to maintain their personal peace, while some liberal individuals, despite their well-meaning activism, may inadvertently support a system that continues to exploit marginalized groups through superficial gestures, like rainbow-themed corporate branding. There are also closeted individuals whose experiences remain unspoken, and a rare group of long-term, healthy relationships that challenge the notion of mythic impossibility. In essence, the LGBTQ+ community has been used politically and denied fundamental rights, resulting in a space rife with insecurity and internalized negativity. This situation is symptomatic of broader capitalist dynamics that thrive on exploitation and unattainable ideals. Ultimately, societal standards and ideals are fluid and ephemeral. Embrace the freedom of understanding that they are transient and largely inconsequential. Focus on what brings you joy, pursue genuine personal fulfillment, and disregard negative external judgments-they often reflect more about the critic than about you.
At 25:27. Well, yes. How else do you go through the time and physical sacrifice of attaining those muscles? Even on steroids you need to work hard to attain such a body. And you can’t motivate yourself to do all that work and sacrifice unless you have a fucked up view of your body as terribly imperfect, as needing to be cleansed and made better. This can easily segue into constant, toxic self-flagellation and eating disorders. There truly is no way to escape the self-made hells we make for ourselves. Yay!!!
At 13:17. Oh, that artist isn’t looking to sell his art with that pic. He’s looking to sell himself to the highest bidder. Honestly being a kept sugar baby makes art creation way easier, logistically. So I don’t blame this guy for just being a hustler out here in our hustling world. Lol.
I completely agree with your video I mean your video is even an example of it, I decided to watch the video cause I thought you were attractive
At 3:59. As a NYC gay, I cackled so hard at these pictures that I almost spat out my water. Lol. Honey, I learned a long time ago these Hells Kitchen and Chelsea gays have their own problems. But they’re very good at papering over these problems with drugs and sex. Some of them are downright miserable. And the ones with endless vacation days are usually hookers, sugar babies hiding their old, wrinkly sugar daddies on social media, or very sneaky drug dealers. Cause do you think those gays go to the hood to get their drugs? Nope. They have their own dealers, usually in that ripped, hot-guy friend group. I don’t have a lifestyle even close to what they have. But I also learned long ago that my self esteem was more important than to fit in with them or their lifestyles. So I’ve kept away from them and sought out decent, nice gays. And I have-that’s my friend group. We do travel to exotic destinations, we do have fun. We have normal jobs that don’t gift us with endless vacation days. But the older I grow, the more thankful I am for this NYC gay friend group I have, which makes me feel seen and like I belong to a wonderful, dysfunctional found family. And that’s a great feeling to have. 😊
While everything you say is true it begins to just start to sound like complaining after a couple of minutes.
The straights are moving into the gayborhood, ugh. Why do these straights come to the gay bars, ugh; Why is a straight person doing drag on drag race, ugh. For some it's identity, for me it's ghettoization.
Your shirt matches your bath mat......bye
The obligatory speedo shot with "friends" where everyone is muscular is such a tired stereotype.
Unless there are more 'hot gays' then 'not hot gays', all of this is obnoxious. Go find each other. There are more of you than there are hot gays. Who cares what hot guys think. Like, the advice of "stop following hot gays" on instagram is missing the point. Just uninstall instagram altogether. Instagram confers no benefits and a lot of downsides. Go take a cooking class. Go learn another language. Go play in gay sports. Go volunteer at soup kitchen. You are not going to meet anyone interesting if you don't leave your house. You are not going to BE interesting if you don't leave your house. I had the gift of coming into my gayness just slightly before social media (Grindr came out when I was 25)... but anyone agreeing with this video would rate me a 5, and I have not lacked opportunities to meet awesome gays, have sex with gays, be in 3 long-term relationships with gays (for a total of 15 years!). I've hovered around 230 lbs my whole adult life. I am 5'10". I was bald by 25 years old. My facial hair is almost completely white and I am 39 years old (and, for that reason, get mistaken for 50 all the time). While it's not as 'easy' for me to get sex as it was in my late 20s, I still get laid once a week on average? The reason you don't have sex is because you think the world is at fault for you not having sex. Gay men, like all other creatures, want sex and companionship. Go find each other. Good luck! And vote for Kamala!
Regarding steroids: if I find out a guy is doing steroids it would be an automatic no for me. I don't care how attractive a guy is I'm never going to date a man who disrespects his body like that.
Unfortunately, in my own experience I have found that some of the most beautiful bodies with perfect photogenic faces contain within them some of the most hideous of hearts. Narcissism, shallowness, lack of personality, sociopathic tendencies. It's so bad and so ubiquitous that I have developed a subconscious avoidance of very attractive people, just assuming them to be rotten. I know I shouldn't judge people on their appearance either negatively nor positively but I feel like I have to undo trauma just to see attractive people as down to earth
Kinda late to this video but everything you’re saying is so relevant. I gotta say, I’m SO happy that I live in Providence. The gay community here is amazing and everyone is so diverse looking. We have very very very few generically hot gay men like that. Most importantly, deleting all social medias helped my mental health immensely. In about a week, I was a new person.
Now try doing this while being POC/black lol
Stayed clocking their tea this whole video😂
I got a lot of points in here. But even tho you are talking about not being fixated, at some points, you are fixated. Almost like - I haven’t achieved this “hot looking type” so I gonna suggest everyone else should not do that. And that everything about trying to be good looking is a crap. But maybe the truth is somewhere in the middle? So that means you should be in love with yourself but if you are working on yourself even physically, it’s not a bad thing. I completely agree that good looking must be pushed into more average way, but by saying oh those gays just have issues, they stupid or fall into society rules is not good.
I clicked because of the sexy thumbnail, but leaving with great insight :)
im not a dude or gay but thanks for speaking out about this. ive never thought about smth like this tbh
Well, privileged American gay people are just as boring as privileged American straight people; and who doesn’t love a cliche? Good looks only take a person so far. Personality and character are what clinches the deal. If you don’t have an attractive personality and your character is shit it doesn’t matter how good-looking you are. It is true that we are all attracted to eye Candy, but as with all candy, if you have too much it gives you a stomach ache. Here is another truth, good looks do fade and those who were bestowed with the gift of extraordinary looks in their youth, they generally do not age all that well. There are, however, those types, who start out seemingly ordinary, but they get better looking as they mature. They are not Ken doll handsome, but they are interesting and their hotness comes from a deeper place, not skin care products, hair styles and gym visits.
Yeah, incels came to mind before you mentioned it. Glad you brought it up. It's silly how hyper fixated so many are on the hot gays, why can't they just love themselves and give love to other less than average looks? They turn into trolls when they could just heal their self hate, and learn to love ppl who aren't Modelesque / fake Duh. Is the logic that hard ? No. I think it's just hard for guys to reject social norms, and focus on developing other pursuits such as radical authenticity, volunteering, or loving kindness. One of the reasons I put more effort into my mind and character is that when I'm at my fittest, most guys aren't dating me for my personality. Most date me for the arm candy. I'm proud to have cultivated physical attraction away from the mainstream norm I looked for in my early 20s to more than a handful of I think even more beautiful and interesting physical types. I find that being mostly immune to mainstream desire standards is HUGELY empowering and liberating... And when you find less popular physical types more attractive you have more of a selection, and more gratitude from the people who are getting long overdue but deserving attention / adoration. And less body hatred and superficiality. One more note on your / his "aging out of the ideal" comment -- Daddy-ness is hot... and still trending, by the way. I've become much more popular now that I'm looking older than an Abercrombie model
“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” -A de Saint Exupery Get in touch with REALITY: None of that shit matters, that fleeting stuff does not make people CONTENT or SATISFIED when the cameras are off . If you want to develop a sense of unshakable purpose, meaning, and start to re-integrate all the hurt and hidden parts into an empowering personal narrative. ReadFrankl's SEARCH FOR MEANING. Then read The Little Prince. Then do something good for others. Going from quick high to quick high does not a happy, content, innerly peaceful person make. The Little Prince said: “It’s a little lonely in the desert…”. “It is lonely when you’re among people, too,” said the snake.”
I like your Erte poster. He was my major gay influence growing up.
This was balanced and nicely done. You’re like the gay Joe Scott we didn’t know we needed. -I really hope you can return to making content if you can.
The strangest thing I’ve seen in the past 10 years or so is these aspects of gay culture becoming more universal among men. It’s mainly due to the rise of gym culture (when I grew up bodybuilding was super niche interest); now the line between how gay men live a straight men live has faded dramatically. Not the worst thing in the world but super trippy
It is how lasers work, you need the light to go through and through the same material as be amplified :D I'm a "attractive a birth" gay from France, very toxic family, attracted by bears. I felt terrible shame when I starting dating my soon to be husband, and the judging and negative comments followed soon after. The feelings are now gone, because are the parents XD Also i made it clear to him an myself that I was attracted and that's all that mattered. My own expectations and comparison of my body also lowered as a result
Gay community? Community is a strong word isn’t it? A catty sausage fest is not a community
That's the sad thing... as you say, so many people are so very unhappy, regardless of how buff or pretty they are... it's so silly and destructive for everyone. The short answer is that there is no single standard for "attractive"... and there is as much variety in **taste** as there is in the diversity of body shapes and every aspect of our faces etc., thankfully! There is an audience for everyone! As someone who has recently become much fitter at the late age of 60 (isn't that like 200 in "gay years"??) I can tell you the fantastic aspect of this is just how much better I feel... I am flexible, strong, and healthy compared to many my age. I am grateful for that alone. My mental health is more balanced because the exercise handles my mood better than anything, even medications.
Yes, actually. This IS how lasers work LMAO
If straight dudes have incels, do gay dudes have outcels?
It’s ironic: Dude uses gear to bag the boys, but his nards shrink and can’t exchange “unnatural caresses.”
I'm very surprised that i can't relate to this. I hate "twinning" 😂. I'm attracted by people that don't look like me and most are attracted to me cause i don't look like them. That sounds like logic to me.
Thank you for addressing...all that. And btw, this toxic gay culture is even more present in North America than other regions.
Insta-gays creep me the fuck out lmao
The answer to your question where do they find the time to travel.... They're escorts
Yeah… I prefer cute, funny and clever to a shallow man.
Gay men who don't engage with the wider community (trans people and lesbians) are honestly a pretty clear red flag. Like your friends shouldn't all be white gay men, that means you're living in a bubble.
Great video. Watched the whole thing