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My boss is the belittler. Probably going to quit if can't transfer. Makes my already stressful job more so.
The only way to get a promotion is to get a new job. I went above and beyond, did everything this lady said, and did the job I wanted for eight months. When reviews came around, and even though I got good reviews, I got screwed and two people I trained got promoted to my level. So now I'm working to rule and doing only what I trained the others to do until I find a position that respects my ten years of experience.
Thank you so much for this, it helped a lot. I have a friend who calls and wants to vent to me for hours and i end up so drained. I came online looking for a solution on how i can set a loving boundary. And it also helped me to be mindful of it myself too. Thank you so much. Gratitude and blessings to you
Perfect timing. Changing careers after 22 yrs.
Regarding the last comment on the "belittler" archetype, while i don't disagree with your feedback, it's important to realise that this behaviour is still bullying, and in most jurisdictions, illegal. Therefore, keep written and verbal records and account keeping. You will need this to build your case to HR / court. Having objective records is the way to 100% prove this person is a bully
They leverage their own insecurities onto others as a therapy, the same with a pathological niceness that's self-destructive. Perhaps they lacked an earlier societal rite of passage into maturity, but who knows. Remain pure logic and callused of personal integrity with them to navigate and defuse their attacks before they escalate (which they easily can if you feed into them) and ultimately plan a route to get them out of your career as reasonable as possible if they are persistent and unchanging in their corrosive efforts to sabotage you and others. Essentially, isolate the emotional management to each individual (when it comes to a bully situation) as the primarily form of compassion, internally wish them well to help remain grounded, let "them" go, do not try to cater to them in irrational fear of their manipulation tactics to merely keep the peace. A tribe is only as strong as the individuals can manage themselves first as a foundation to collaborate in where they can align. Maturity is akin to self-control to be able to expand beyond it and pass down the ropes to a new generation. Bullies and pathologically nice people are both lost in this process, desperate to realize their full spectrum of self control to more realistically align with all the challenges life presents. Ironically both kinds of issues rely on an emotional manipulation context that children require, but certainly not matured adults that veer into the more logical part of the perspective.
Human resources exists for hiring, firing, and administrative functions, such as payroll. If you expect them to care about your wellbeing, you are in for a very rude awakening.
What about those that don’t greet you but the room goes silent when you walk in, they give you all the tasks they don’t want to do and so forth. Their laughter echoes in mind when I walk away. Work is such a tense and horrible place to be because of this behaviour.
Hello, Any person who has worked or is working now should never apologize for bullies and their bad behavior because they are under stress, etc. I have been working in a hospital for over 10 years now and have quietly observed who is a bully and their supporters and who isn't a bully even though they receive an overload of work and do more than their fair share and or pick up the slack and so on, etc. A bully is just a cruel and nasty and relentless evil psycho person who has to be dealt with in your way Everyone will either agree or disagree with you. Some prefer to beat the bully to teach them respect. Others prefer to let the bully know, like three strikes and they are going to wish they never met you and then others prefer to take the matter to their union and or HR department. No person is worth losing your freedom. Even though there was and is those evil people that push a good hearted kind person to the edge. We have seen the sad news. The victim kills their bully, enough waz enough. So sad because parents friends and neighbors could not see it to help in time and also the victim was spoken to either forget about and keep quiet or threatened to say nothing, and nobody has to endure or live like that. The studying or making progress and thinking about a social life and so on is derailed and delayed or put aside because of a cruel person and their evil behavior, so sad. I'm a victim of workplace bullying. I have spoken to management and they are working on it. My team has received Anti bullying classes and are grateful for it.
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Thank you for these helpful tips. Number 5 is a big one for me.
Lots of angry people offended by her message . This is an issue especially with women ,notice how short lived their friendships are . There is always one doing all the venting and the other doing all the listening . The friendship ends when the one listening realizes that the other person seems to never have a good day
How to handle trash coworkers.
I want more video of this is going to help to me out don’t want get to into it from the past
Well I work with the boss and he would make me feel really bad I work I've been there for 10 months the highest people and he takes away my hours and yet he wants me to do everything everything and always find something whether he pushes my hand whether he pushes me or whether he says a bad word and I just can't take it anymore and I work really hard I don't know what to do
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Thank you for giving specific examples from your life.
I love the consideration in how she greets herself. love taht!!
Thank you!!
My sisters new boyfriend came to our bbq,on a first meeting,he made the convo all about him ,and trauma dumped his past ,and abuse ,it was too emotional
Thank you so much for your video! I don't think there is enough awareness out there for people to know the difference between venting and talking to someone about your life to find a solution. That is literally what I took out of your video that I felt was so important to me, and to everyone out there who doesn't know the difference. Now this is what I call educating people to better mental health!💚
You are so perfect. My mom is so special, all her problems nobody ever had, so no matter how much I Google her problem, she's absolutely unique and any solution doesn't apply to her. I'm struggling to find solutions for her in an impossible context. But what are the solutions?
Incels are very much like this. If you try to talk to them to help, you'll find that they shut down every single thing you suggest that might help them - without even trying it. Plus, they'll never listen to women as to why they're not being successful in dating - but they _will_ listen to slimeballs like Andrew Tate ( 🤮 ) which obviously just exacerbates their problems. Even though their main goal in life is to get with a woman, they'll never listen to women who are telling them where they're going wrong. It's literally crazy!
My Mum told me that my Dad used to tell her all his problems in bed, as they were getting ready to sleep. Then he'd turn over and go to sleep, leaving my Mum to lie awake all night, worrying about all his problems!
My person has done this for 53 years. Needy, emotionally blackmailing. Never accepts advice even though they asked for it. Spent years trying to encourage them to seek therapy. Last week they announced that another person thinks they should try therapy and they are going to. They told me like it was a total revelation to them that it might help.
ouch. Please call them out.
Wait! Y'all venting to other people??😕 I've been yelling to the wind all these years
Since both my kitties passed away last year I will get some plants ♥️🙏 was declutering today it already feels so much better.
What about if your hours keep on getting reduced? If HR gives you dirty looks or laughs at you, every time they see you, that's a sure sign your days are numbered.
are you…dumb? venting helps alot. its not complaining, its getting it out to someone. 💀
You can’t vent to any and everybody it’s ok sometimes to do it but not all the damn time vent to a pastor and a scheduled license therapist heck when you don’t have nobody else physically to go to get in your car cry it out scream it out write it down and give it to God ❤
This chick is a narcissist I can see it in her eyes
Try being a general contractor and dealing with subs. Good luck.
Thank you for this.
Is it bullying if let's say you have a misunderstanding with someone and you don't handle it well?
Great
My girlfriend just broke up with me after I told her I couldn’t be her therapist and that it stresses me out when she frequently drops her traumatic childhood on me. I told her before hand a couple times that she should speak to someone because they can help her better than I can but then she doesn’t or just proceeds to talk about her past experiences going to therapy and how it didn’t work.
Well, for you, mental / emotional stability is a must.
A friend in the 10th grade would always stress dump and my mom has done it my entire lfie
This is dry begging
This is why people can't make it in AMERICA
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Let's pretend you have a misunderstanding with someone and you don't handle it well. Is that bullying?
@@jeffknowlton5200It is a conflict and you can ask for help to handel this person.
It has been literally my whole life. Thank you ❤
Are they 'vulnerable narcissists?'
Not like HR will help..first type of bullying comes from HR
I actually think venting to a friend or a family member once in awhile is ok and healthy but when you do it over and over to said friend or family member that's when it becomes a problem.
I can totally relate to this a about a month at work my colleague who is the same level as me however harbours ambitions of being a manager. Basically came up with a plan which actually didn't acheive what it was meant to fully. I suggested another way and she would not have it.I didn't continue to argue I let it go. Howver afterwards everyone apart from her agreed my idea would have worked better. Not at any point was it about massaging egos for me it was about whats best for us as a company and ultimately the customer.
Look!! Ignoring them and walking away doesn't work. My advice is to record them and wear a hidden cam!! If you have evidence, you can black mail them or go to legal matters. You can control people thru blackmail!! Also you must learn narcissistic techniques. Narcissists gaslight light people by indirect provoking them. When you talk About them indirectly, they will overactive and believe you are talking about them. You can than turn their insecurities upon them!! Also while recording. Psychological warfare and knowing the hows of psychological and human behavior is a way to get into their heads
Its the repetition for me, i dont want to hear it, youve said it 10 times already and the year just started. I will have to say in the most poilte way, that they need to focus on any thing positive they have in their lives. Or just start avoiding them.
Great video!! I like the thought of your vacation being a "big overhaul" like for your vehicle :) I've been taking vacations and recommending them to others for a long time :)
What would somebody who comes near you purposefully singing loudly and/or obnoxiously because they know you hate it count as? Which category I mean? Plus, this person tends to gossip, seems like they want to be the center of attention, and tends to want work done for them sooner than others. This is in a food service context.