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I think for both the person with bpd as well as the partner, it's better to not get into a relationship. There is absolutely NO excuse for toxic behavior, violence and all the other stuff that comes along with it. Nobody should be at the receiving end of that. Respect yourself, respect the one suffering from it, respect the condition. A loving, stable relationship is a utopia in this situation.
GOD, THERE IS JUST NOT MUCH CHANCE OF BEING A NORMAL GOOD EMPLOYEE, DOING YOUR JOB, BEING ABLE TO JUST BE HAPPY AND STAYING AT YOUR JOB GETTING PROMOTED OR RETIRING WITHOUT HAVING TO DEAL WITH ONE OR MORE OF THESE AS$HOLES. I JUST QUIT MY JOB OF 11 YEARS BECAUSE OF MY POS BOSS. THANKS KEITH M.
Thank you, Dr. Fox!
Thank you so much. I feel like In your videos that you're directly speaking to me. I've sent your page To a couple Friends
Couldn't stop crying while listening. I am so sorry about my childhood and the fact that I had everything moneywise but not emotionally. Since I was little I always thought to myself that I didn't want the cool stuff, I wanted my mom and to spend time with her. I am so so so sorry for a little girl, who was me. And also terrified of what I could do not intentionally to my kids because of my trauma. I think I need therapy lol
Amazing!
Thank you
i would bet that nationally 90% of psychology degrees are given to women. i was married to one. i dated a few as well. they hide in plain sight and use psych terms and concept to manipulate. everyone.
Worst coworkers to be stuck with. Very deceitful, jealous, envious, manipulative, attention seeker, over seductive, will do everything to block your progress at work. Controlling, gossiping, vulgar and delusional. Mean, passive agressive, backstabbing and will covertly do things to pick at you.
This was spot on
💯 across the board
Now it would be good to stop the visual ins and outs of the camera. No need to do the flash points -- its so distracting.
Time to drop Borderline in favor of CPTSD. See Janina Fisher.
I can recall being aware of problem behavior and underlying attitudes (moods) in other people as a child. As I got into my teen years this awareness became overwhelming and I started to shut myself off from it. I'm in my late 60s now and through CPTSD work, ACoA, and understanding my INFJ personality type I've let my "sensitivity" reawaken. I've never felt so *fully me.* Boundaries are important - and that includes remembering that my solitude is very important for me.
My whole personality is my childhood trauma , I can’t talk in public easily and stutter a lot , I have trust issues but whenever a man shows me any kind of attention I crave it and let my guard down , I attract people like my father , Low self esteem , when someone shout at me I immediately cry feeling defensive less, I always catch myself living in my imagination and living with not real characters…. I feel judged in school and unwanted , and this goes on and on
Married men beware, mama expects to be numero uno still.
I missed a many cryptic advice.from mama and paid the price still for not following her broken laws.
You're on holy ground sir😅 mamas boys dont know how to act when hearing this.
My mother loved to use guilt trips to get what she wanted. Not an admirable trait in anyone but especially not in a mother.
Look up Katherine Knight......and then RUN from any borderline you know.
Its been just over 3 weeks at my new employment (its in a different state) and every day is a struggle. I've spoken with my therapist, family, friends and partner but nobody gets what I'm actually going through. I'm crying all the time every day, i feel locked up in here. I know these are not just my new place, new office nerves as i have experienced all this before as well. I had to leave colleges as i couldn't sit for classes. But now i dont have the option to leave work and thats why, I'm stuck. Its difficult to work every day, its difficult to survive every day. Someone please help me
You haven't got it you no nothing
I have bpd because of her. And she manages to make fun of my suicide attempts. 😅
wow my ex was definitely a narcissist
Thanks💌
What the difference between HPD and NPD?
Sensitivity to criticism 🎯
I’m definitely HSP. I also notice I can smell things that aren’t here. Example: if a waffle commercial comes on TV, then I smell toasted waffles. Another time I saw some bandaids in a magazine and I could smell them. It’s not all the time and I can’t control it. It just happens
You described exactly what I've been through with my narcissistic mother
Only a Sith deals in absolutes.
What about if you had have narcissist partners who put you down..I become sensitive about them looking other women as a way to punish me. I’m attractive and I know it but this kind of ppl hurt your self steam. Of course, reflecting about why I’m ending with those ppl is about trauma bounding. I grew up in a very hostile environment where my needs where not met and I decide to be invisible to survive. I was more harsh with myself when I was more younger than now but still body shame is part of my daily life.
I like your How to Deal plan and mindset techniques. Thanks
My father have the money but guess what? My mom still the one giving us school pockets money only about 0.20 and if she has money sometimes it will be 0.50😂 so ironic because my mom cant work freely so she have little money yet she gave us all she can while my father have all the money yet he only use it to brag to other people and to look down on other less fortunate people, while his family eating rice and salt. Only if i realized this earlier ugh
Conversation are all about him and things that he wants to listen, can't be interupted but interupting everyone
I just quit a job that I loved because the manager told me he spends to much time helping me with my wellness and I ask for too much reassurance, im not fast enough, coworkers are protected where I was blamed ("it never happened here before you came"). I was verbally attacked and intimidated with a team member kicking the door to get me to leave. He wasnt my supervisor so I refused. He was mad because I was asking questions and the supervisor lashed out at me. I was triggered and reported her. They have been setting me up since day one and never gave feedback for my performance until they decided to have me sign a corrective action form for insubordination. They painted me as the villan and the supervisor as the victim., "You should have more empathy for people". They had no empathy for me. I didn't yell at anyone or kick the door when I was mad but I was blamed. I resigned because I couldn't take the emotional harassment. Manager supported an environment where I would be alienated from other team members and I believe tried to set me up to manufacture "evidence" to fire me. In other words he was "quiet firing" me. Bad leadership. I had to be the villian so they could rationalize setting me up to fail.
You just made me realize maybe why I was a waitress for 30 years and it was my favorite job at met all the needs of the energy I needed to exert and gave me love back in return
I've watched many of your (and others) BPD videos, this is the first time I've noticed a mention of being born with it instead of focusing on the lack of nurturing or other applied trauma.
I was afraid open up to my parents when I was a kid under the belief that I'd be ridiculed or I'd hear the words: "So? What do you want ME to do about it?" I knew that fighting other kids would ruin my future so when I inevitably got bullied, I'd outsmart them and manipulate them to fight each other, or if it was just 1, I'd trick them into getting in trouble. It wasn't the healthiest way to deal with things, that's for sure. I didn't realize how unhealthy it was growing up in my household either. Every kid in the neighborhood was going through it, save maybe one or two households... Six of us made it out of that town. Everyone else grew up to be drug addicts. There aren't a lot of the ones who stayed behind left. Looking back and grieving while accepting all the times I was wrong and allowing myself to feel those bottled up emotions when I wasn't wrong has helped me to heal. It's important to know the difference too. I have forgiven what happened and I won't allow such things into my life anymore.
worth listening to. clear and thought provocing. hard for me to "leave" mom as she was so unsupported. ah family and generational pain..... good now!
Had to cut mine off finally. She is a horrible person. I love her, but don not like her. So many things she did to me mentally will stay with me forever. Thanks be to God I broke the cycle.
Very good advice
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Its really exhausting
Conflict with an HSP friend (or so I thought) lets me think HSP as defined by Aron is a bad thing, as in way too vague. He was a nice guy but since discovering his HSP condition he's turned arrogant, know-it-all. He's got a FB page on HSP and I told him to at least warn people about how HSP traits can often be found in autistic and ADHD people, but he just doesn't care (talk about being hyper-empathetic...). I think he has a more serious condition, like some sort of psychotic structure, but he doesn't get it. Then there's some dangerous bullsh*t going on around HSP, the supposed super intuition, the hyper-empathy (feeling the supposed emotion of the other), it seems that this is mostly projection : Intuition is projection of the other's supposed intentions, hyper-empathy is projection of the other's supposed emotion, but they take it for granted and think they know what you feel better than you do, or attack you as they feel you have negative intentions, and they think they have a super-power. That HSP thing is not wrong per say, but way too blurry, and has to be cleared of the bullsh*t spread over internet.
Ive always wondered why my dad acted like this while i was growing up now i know his label.
As a man I find being highly sensitive a curse I have to hide particular particularly from other men so I'm not seen as a cissy. I'm sick of being empathic towards other people and always thinking of others only to be used. I've no real friends so much for that.
I disagree, it has been a lifetime curse! Depth, subtley, understanding complexity, and paradoxes are not valued in this current American Society. I have no current Psych Diagnoses, I'm just an ordinary person.
My mom told me my older brother and i are her “last chance at having grandkids” and then told me i could buy her A HOUSE after i finish school to become a heart surgeon, she said it was a joke but it obviously wasn’t. She also told me to get a rich man because I’m lazy but that I’ll also “never get a man” because I don’t let her push me around, she’s insane and I’ll never let my future kids see her and I’m sorry for everyone going through this, stay strong❤️❤️
Libraries usually have all sorts of activities to meet new people
I don't have favorite persons. I have least favorite persons.
Thanks for sharing your unique perspective!